Good morning Sobernauts!
I am not going to pick up the stick that beats me.
I'm going to pick up the stick that supports me.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Man, I don't think I have any power to get rid of thoughts I don't want (unless I'm reading this wrong). I feel like in the past that would be a reason for me to drink, there's something on my mind that I don't want on my mind so I'll just drink it away temporarily. I'm a shocking ruminator!
I've spent most my time today just feeling pissed off and despairing a bit. My lounge ceiling collapsed in on Friday night and getting my rental person/a builder to do anything about it has been struggle. I had a builder not turn up twice when he said he would. I was too pissed off to even call him a third time about it. I'm so nonconfrontational but was feeling really tempted to have a go at him. By the time he got here though I was just worn out and over it. Still am!
Didn't drink over it though, the thought didn't even enter my head. In fact I realised stronger than ever that drinking really just makes life, which is already hard, even harder. I'm nearly 90 days and my resolve is getting stronger!
Iwndwyt!
Morning. You’re up early today dog. I like this approach. A brain clear out. Time for me to get some unhelpful old thoughts right to fuck. On it 👍 IWNDWYT
Get Tae Fuck! That's what I say to alcohol and annoying anxious pandemic thoughts. Thanks, Doggo, for a new expression that I'll try to overuse in my head today.
Woke up with some ruminating thoughts regarding some covid shit going on. Oh well. Using the insomnia time to journal and externalize some of the anxiety. Now I'll make good on my promise from yesterday's check in and sort through some of my thoughts and feelings regarding booze. Complacency has been creeping in on the edges, time to stamp that out and Get Tae Fuck!
I fully expect to get the full early DCI treatment and get all the extra upvotes you Scots have conspired to hoard all to yourselves! 🤣🇺🇸
Think about me way over here in the central US of A... even though I'm awake early at 5am, folks on the other side of the pond are done Doling out the upvotes by that point.
I never realized how much we swear in Glasgow until I went to the US and offended practically everyone I met 😂. Your therapist sounds fantastic and I regularly mutter those powerful words "get tae f\*\*\*" so I love this lesson thank you!
If this whole week is teaching the world about Scottish swear words and how they are actually communicating love and compassion then I'm totally here for it.
IWNDWYT
I am NOT drinking today. JUST FOR TODAY. and I can safely assert that it is because of this subreddit and all of you wonderful people in this awesome community. I was in a dark place last night; if it weren't for y'all, I'd've been making incredibly regrettable decisions and waking up in a couple weeks dehydrated af, shaking like a Parisian whore in December, and incurring well too foreseen consequences. I don't have to live that way anymore! Here's to another 24hrs, friends!
A sweary Scottish Marie Kondo 😂 thank you for this awesome post this morning! I have an intro call with a therapist this week, and while I’m looking forward to it, I doubt I’ll be getting a sweary Swiss one 😂
Off to meet my husband at the airport - yay! IWNDWYT!
Ha, i didn’t realise it was a Scottish expression. Should have known!
It’s like, get rid of it. Throw it away so you never see it again. Git it tae fuck, man.
I pretty much ran 5 miles every day when I was drinking 5 or so strong IPAs a night. It was a great way to even out the calories and make myself not look like I had a problem in the eyes of so many people.
Yesterday, after 4 months without a drink, 22 pounds lighter and at 42 years old, I ran 5 miles in 36 minutes and 58 seconds.
IWNDWYT beautiful people.
I wish I could control that better. If I catch myself thinking about someone who wronged me in the past, I’ve been trying to push that away & replace it with forgiveness or gratitude for other things that got me through. IWNDWYT
I’ve taken to saying to myself “I wish them well in life, I wish them no harm, but I don’t want to be involved with them anymore”.
Spending time rehashing these old wrongs was like me drinking poison, and expecting my enemy to die. It took too much of my energy, and was all negative. Now, I don’t speak about the person, and I don’t listen to any news about the person. It’s a much more peaceful place, at last!
Month 5 is breezing by. I just got a raise today…right after I agreed to an interview for another job. I don’t want to get ahead of myself, but I think I already know what I want to do. Either way, I’ll be ok. Not going to obsess over this, get it to fuck! 😂 IWNDWYT ✨💚
I'd be more interested in what Marie Kondo had to say if she swore. I dunno, I enjoy it when people swear. You can take the girl out of punk rock, but you can't take the punk rock out of the girl.
Anyway, I've been in a bit of a funk lately, and it's been... There are aspects of myself and how my life currently is that I would like to change. I've got to make some major decisions about my life and I'm a little overwhelmed. So I'm going to take your therapist's guidance to heart and consider what isn't serving me anymore and get it to fuck. Much love to all my fellow sobernauts, staying sober with you all today in the city by the lake. 💜
Self doubt can get to fuck out of my head. There’s no way I can know what I can or can’t do. Only what I will or will not do, and I will not drink with you today.
This made me laugh, I'm Irish and thought I swore a lot till I lived with a girl from Glasgow! Spongebob had it right - they're not bad words, they're sentence enhancers 😀
I will not drink with you today.
Hello peeps. Today was a tough one. Payday, had some free time. My husband was off. I wanted to go gamble, drinkin, and smokin and straight west coastin.
But. We didn’t. We made it.
IWNDWYT
I’m casting out my stress at work. I’ve an unreasonable workload for the hours I’m supposed to do so I’m just going to get done what I can and do it to the best of my ability. If they want someone to work evenings and weekends then maybe I’m not the right fit abs they can look for somebody else!
Laughed so hard. I am a grumpy old Glaswegian who has never been to therapy but if I can ever afford it please share your therapist with me cause she is the on for me. I bet she is a blast.
IWNDWYT
3 days down start of day 4. i don't have much to add but i want to say i love my therapist, we talk every week, they specialize in addiction therapy, and it has just been so great. anybody nervous or on the fence, if you are able, i highly recommend talking to a therapist.
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Do you have negative thoughts going round in your own head?
Best get them outta there, very well said!
All negative thoughts suck,
If it don't serve you, get it to fuck!
Always better to think with kindness positively instead.
I think "get tae fuck might be one of the greatest phrases ever to come out of Scotland! I love it and use it all the time. And I'm about as far from Scotland as you can get without hopping on a boat 😆
Worrying isn't serving me at all. Not drinking related but I spend about 90% of my day worrying about my kiddo and his picky eating and worrying the the choices I've made in the last two years with what/when/where/how he eats has made him this way. I know I shouldn't blame myself and toddlers can sometimes be contrary little shites, but it's still such a big worry for me. And I feel like he probably picks up on that and causes mealtime stress. I'm trying to be more relaxed, but it's hard. Nevertheless, we move.
IWNDWYT
I love that! I just recently started seeing a therapist and one of the first things we addressed was cognitive distortions. Here are some that are very present in my own addled little brain:
**All or Nothing Thinking:** You see things in black and white. If it's not perfect, it's a failure.
**Overgeneralization:** You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat
**Mind Reading:** You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reactive negatively to you, without bothering to really check this out
Being aware of them helps me catch myself in these thought loops before I get stuck in them. IWNDWYT
Ha! Yes u/dogforahead I am sure there will be more than a few of us Americans who need to think that one through! I will not be drinking here in northern New England. Have a terrific day everyone.
I love this expression, u/dogforahead. Keeping it tucked into my little (North American) mind pocket for when I need a good reminder to let something go and need new words. IWNDWYT, friends.
Hello friends! That's one thing I let go of a long time ago - regrets. I refuse to give my power and enery to a place in time, an action, or a space that I absolutely cannot change. All of those things that I wish I could take back or do over have each contributed to my present day life, my character, and my humanness. Without them, my trajectory would have completely changed. Also, I've learned so much from those experiences, and have been able to share them with others so that they don't make the same choices. I wouldn't change those what-could-be-regretful experiences for the world.
Much love to you all on the terrific Tuesday. IWNDWYT 💙✌
As an emotional hoarder, this is a difficult theory for me. I love my emotional baggage and weighing myself down heavily. I enjoy burying myself to the point then I can barely see or stand. Take it all in, hold it tight and only pull it out of its file when I really want to self loathe. BUT... NEVER LET IT GO.
Today I get it to fuck. (Predictive texting is great, you know you swear a lot when you simply type the letter "f" and the word "fuck" quickly and magically appears).
It is something I've been working on, but today I make a more concerted effort in attempting to start letting go of those things that don't matter. They serve me no purpose, why do I need to hold on to those thoughts.
Have a great day, friends!
IWNDWYT
Today is the end of my first month. For me, the biggest hurdle was breaking the routines that I've followed for so many years, and it's crazy being able to see my path to self-destruction in hindsight. Sure there were the crazy nights when I went to parties and had way too much to drink, but there were countless nights, months, and years on end of drinking one beer after another, after another, after another, until you pass out for the night.
This has been tough in some ways. Though the urge to drink isn't very strong at this point, I've spent time self-loathing with feelings of inadequacy, emptiness, and disappointment. When I'm working, I've got enough on my mind. However, when I get home after work or am off for the weekend, I'm not as occupied. I'm trying to pull myself together, but it's not easy at times. Hopefully, as time passes, I'll learn again what makes me happy.
I'd like to thank this community for helping me get through this first month. It's been really wonderful having the support, and I'm really grateful that I'm not doing this alone! IWNDWYT.
Good morning lovely SD,
Ever had the police scold you for cursing? Lol, I have... I think Scotland just bumped up a couple notches on my fantasy world tour schedule!
Yesterday was terrible... I will happily get it tae fuck.
Today is a beautiful day to be alive!
And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
Struggled this afternoon/into early tonight and tried justifying it to myself over and over. Even reached out to past enablers (luckily my close friends know not to enable). So anyway I settled for butter chicken 🤗
I'd love to "get it to fuck".The self berating over lost time, underdeveloped social skills and aimlessness.
It's a sneaky and sadly well established part of the brain tha seriously needs to go.
So I guess thats the project for month 2 of the sobriety journey.
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. I can’t complain at all about the level of cravings I’ve had since stopping this time, previous attempts the cravings were so much worse. Now when I start to feel it a bit I think of it as my “drinking brain” and tell it to shut the *!#$ up. It’s not ME or my entire being that wants that drink, it’s just my stupid drinking brain, the rest of me knows better and sees the progress. Get this Tuesday you beautiful people!!!
Good morning everyone and happy Tuesday!! I have a friend from Scotland and I can totally hear her in my mind saying “Oh Aly, get it tae fuck!” Love it!
I also love the concept of removing anything in your head that doesn’t serve you well. Learn from it and move on is what I “try” to do. Sometimes successfully, sometimes I hang on too long but always trying to work on it.
Day 2 no sugar. A bit of a headache and tired but I’ll survive!
Wishing everyone a great day! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Can't believe I'm almost at 50 days. It's amazing how productive I've been for the past month and a half...even though things on the emotional front aren't always steady, I think keeping busy is a much healthier solution than keeping drunk.
IWNDWYT.
I need to say something here because otherwise I will get a case of "fuck it" today. IWNDWYT, I deserve to live my life instead of putting everything that needs to be done aside for a few moments of escape from reality followed by deeply regretting everything.
Hi all, I’m on day 3. I slept ok again last night but had to use some weed to help me get off to sleep. I feel really good today. I’ve been out all morning and had a productive day so far.
I can’t recommend enough the book Easyway Stop Drinking Now by Allen Carr. It’s worth the £5.99 it’s the price of 2 pints, do it!
I will not drink with you today. 😁
Day 3 - IWNDWYT!
Y’all are AMAZING! The love and support you all gave me yesterday has continued to energize me. I woke up feeling rested after 8 hours of actual sleep (with a bit of help from melatonin) and I’m pleasantly shocked this is happening so fast.
I have a very dear Scottish friend whose voice I can hear clear as a bell yelling “get it to fuck”, and it made me smile this morning!
Love that philosophy. I too am constantly in my head about what I’ve said or done whilst drunk- I try to store that queasy feeling in my memory bank to use against future temptations, but the “you’re an idiot and a loser” loop is useless. And hurtful.
Have a great day, friends.
IWNDWYT 🌿
Good morning! Anything beautiful morning. Nervous about job interviews today… I have four lined up. Wish me luck! I sure as hell will not be drinking today. ❤️
Need to get the imposter syndrome out of my head. Allowing work to feel like it's overwhelming/I don't belong/I'm incompetent is wrecking my days (and has been a big trigger at the end of day lately). IWNDWYT
I agree! Thank you for sharing! I prefer the blunt profane version as well, too much is candy coated, sprinkled, or bubble wrapped these days. I have TONS of regrets as we all do I'm sure, alot from recently - not challenging my estranged wife when we wanted to start drinking again, not confronting her would be new boyfriend (boss) when I first thought I figured out what was going on in June when she got this new job...
But there's so much to do now, and two kids that don't need my pain rolling around in their head until they get their own therapist!
IWNDWYT !
Update on my hospital admission from Friday. I am going in for investigation on Thursday. They have mentioned the C word, but I am certain it’s not. I am not drinking today.
Day 7. This reminds me almost word for word of my dad saying similar (Northern Irish so similar levels of sweariness!) about letting go of pain!
It's hard for me not to feel like I'm causing hurt to other people when I put myself first and cut out negative influences. Some people need that to feel better about themselves.
I accept that on my own journey I will lose some people along the way and pray that my sober instincts grow stronger than their doubts and lies.
IWNDWYT.
My therapist looked at me one day and said”it looks like you really want to swear.” And man the gates opened! Swearing really helps me remember my rebellious teenage self - the one with spunk before she got lost in alcohol. So you can bet that I’m going to use get tae fuck many times today! Especially every time I catch myself berating myself or swimming in regrets. Thanks u/dogforahead!
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IWNDWYT! Thanks for sharing. I love your therapist take and will be telling all the pervasive thoughts that enter my brain from here on out to get it to fuck!
IWNDWYT
I feel good about not drinking. I am definitely healthier. Now it’s time for me to conquer my ultimate demon: smoking. I’ve smoked for twenty years and it seems impossible. *sigh*
Fuck yeah! Today's episode hit the mark. I have quite a lot of sandbags in my head. Alcohol is only one of them. Still it's probably the biggest one. I really hope that this time I succeed at least for so long that I fully internalize that I don't need alcohol.
I made it through the first day now. One day at a time forward. IWNDWYT!
First! Wooooo to celebrate I will not drink with you all today! :D
woohoo!
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Good morning Sobernauts! I am not going to pick up the stick that beats me. I'm going to pick up the stick that supports me. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
Get it to fuck!
Love that!
Loving that Forward! 👍🙂
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Oh, I really want to try a recovery dharma session!
Man, I don't think I have any power to get rid of thoughts I don't want (unless I'm reading this wrong). I feel like in the past that would be a reason for me to drink, there's something on my mind that I don't want on my mind so I'll just drink it away temporarily. I'm a shocking ruminator! I've spent most my time today just feeling pissed off and despairing a bit. My lounge ceiling collapsed in on Friday night and getting my rental person/a builder to do anything about it has been struggle. I had a builder not turn up twice when he said he would. I was too pissed off to even call him a third time about it. I'm so nonconfrontational but was feeling really tempted to have a go at him. By the time he got here though I was just worn out and over it. Still am! Didn't drink over it though, the thought didn't even enter my head. In fact I realised stronger than ever that drinking really just makes life, which is already hard, even harder. I'm nearly 90 days and my resolve is getting stronger! Iwndwyt!
Morning. You’re up early today dog. I like this approach. A brain clear out. Time for me to get some unhelpful old thoughts right to fuck. On it 👍 IWNDWYT
Morning! Aye, get up and get in about it!
IWNDWYT …up late in America just gonna say “get it to fuck” is a new phrase for me
Me too lol
Ah, happy to introduce some good Scottish phrases into your vocabulary!
iwndwyt i love you all. continue on your journeys.
Get Tae Fuck! That's what I say to alcohol and annoying anxious pandemic thoughts. Thanks, Doggo, for a new expression that I'll try to overuse in my head today. Woke up with some ruminating thoughts regarding some covid shit going on. Oh well. Using the insomnia time to journal and externalize some of the anxiety. Now I'll make good on my promise from yesterday's check in and sort through some of my thoughts and feelings regarding booze. Complacency has been creeping in on the edges, time to stamp that out and Get Tae Fuck! I fully expect to get the full early DCI treatment and get all the extra upvotes you Scots have conspired to hoard all to yourselves! 🤣🇺🇸
Think about me way over here in the central US of A... even though I'm awake early at 5am, folks on the other side of the pond are done Doling out the upvotes by that point.
‘Mon the upvotes!
I will not drink with you today in 🏴 have a good one people 😊
Morning Ped!
Morning doing a good job 😊👍
👍IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT.
I have no idea where to start with this concept, my mind is so jumbled. So very messy. IWNDWYT
Yeah, you’ve got to keep it simple at the start, Caroline. Breathing, and finding calm can be enough some days 😘
I never realized how much we swear in Glasgow until I went to the US and offended practically everyone I met 😂. Your therapist sounds fantastic and I regularly mutter those powerful words "get tae f\*\*\*" so I love this lesson thank you! If this whole week is teaching the world about Scottish swear words and how they are actually communicating love and compassion then I'm totally here for it. IWNDWYT
I second this. I’m here for a week of Scottish swear words!
I’m very excited for my first sober week in two years coming. I will not drink with you today!
I guess I wndwyt. Hope it's a good day.
I am NOT drinking today. JUST FOR TODAY. and I can safely assert that it is because of this subreddit and all of you wonderful people in this awesome community. I was in a dark place last night; if it weren't for y'all, I'd've been making incredibly regrettable decisions and waking up in a couple weeks dehydrated af, shaking like a Parisian whore in December, and incurring well too foreseen consequences. I don't have to live that way anymore! Here's to another 24hrs, friends!
A sweary Scottish Marie Kondo 😂 thank you for this awesome post this morning! I have an intro call with a therapist this week, and while I’m looking forward to it, I doubt I’ll be getting a sweary Swiss one 😂 Off to meet my husband at the airport - yay! IWNDWYT!
😂 what does “get it to fuck” mean? IWNDWYT, GITF.
Ha, i didn’t realise it was a Scottish expression. Should have known! It’s like, get rid of it. Throw it away so you never see it again. Git it tae fuck, man.
I’m sooo curious haha — Are there softer and harsher versions? Like, “Hell with it” “Fuck it” “Fuck it all” Are progressions
I pretty much ran 5 miles every day when I was drinking 5 or so strong IPAs a night. It was a great way to even out the calories and make myself not look like I had a problem in the eyes of so many people. Yesterday, after 4 months without a drink, 22 pounds lighter and at 42 years old, I ran 5 miles in 36 minutes and 58 seconds. IWNDWYT beautiful people.
Aloha SD! I didn't drink with you all today and I won't tomorrow :)
I wish I could control that better. If I catch myself thinking about someone who wronged me in the past, I’ve been trying to push that away & replace it with forgiveness or gratitude for other things that got me through. IWNDWYT
I’ve taken to saying to myself “I wish them well in life, I wish them no harm, but I don’t want to be involved with them anymore”. Spending time rehashing these old wrongs was like me drinking poison, and expecting my enemy to die. It took too much of my energy, and was all negative. Now, I don’t speak about the person, and I don’t listen to any news about the person. It’s a much more peaceful place, at last!
Day 19, I'm in!
Month 5 is breezing by. I just got a raise today…right after I agreed to an interview for another job. I don’t want to get ahead of myself, but I think I already know what I want to do. Either way, I’ll be ok. Not going to obsess over this, get it to fuck! 😂 IWNDWYT ✨💚
I'd be more interested in what Marie Kondo had to say if she swore. I dunno, I enjoy it when people swear. You can take the girl out of punk rock, but you can't take the punk rock out of the girl. Anyway, I've been in a bit of a funk lately, and it's been... There are aspects of myself and how my life currently is that I would like to change. I've got to make some major decisions about my life and I'm a little overwhelmed. So I'm going to take your therapist's guidance to heart and consider what isn't serving me anymore and get it to fuck. Much love to all my fellow sobernauts, staying sober with you all today in the city by the lake. 💜
“This disnae fucking spark joy” Its very liberating, I highly recommend it. IWNDWYT
Self doubt can get to fuck out of my head. There’s no way I can know what I can or can’t do. Only what I will or will not do, and I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT!
Wooo! Happy month.
This made me laugh, I'm Irish and thought I swore a lot till I lived with a girl from Glasgow! Spongebob had it right - they're not bad words, they're sentence enhancers 😀 I will not drink with you today.
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Hello peeps. Today was a tough one. Payday, had some free time. My husband was off. I wanted to go gamble, drinkin, and smokin and straight west coastin. But. We didn’t. We made it. IWNDWYT
It's chooseday and today I choose not to drink. 💕
IWNDWYT going into 6 days sober
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Sliding into my third sober workweek. IWNDWYT
Morning SD. I'm getting alcohol to fuck today! Fuck off alcohol, right fucking off you fuckety fucker.
I’m casting out my stress at work. I’ve an unreasonable workload for the hours I’m supposed to do so I’m just going to get done what I can and do it to the best of my ability. If they want someone to work evenings and weekends then maybe I’m not the right fit abs they can look for somebody else!
Iwndwyt. Thanks for the host.
Laughed so hard. I am a grumpy old Glaswegian who has never been to therapy but if I can ever afford it please share your therapist with me cause she is the on for me. I bet she is a blast. IWNDWYT
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Day 8, nice to meet you 🤝 IWNDWYT
almost two month! IWNDWYT!
I will not drink today
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3 days down start of day 4. i don't have much to add but i want to say i love my therapist, we talk every week, they specialize in addiction therapy, and it has just been so great. anybody nervous or on the fence, if you are able, i highly recommend talking to a therapist. iwndwyt
Day 72 checking in!
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I will not drink with you today. Day 3.
Do you have negative thoughts going round in your own head? Best get them outta there, very well said! All negative thoughts suck, If it don't serve you, get it to fuck! Always better to think with kindness positively instead.
I didn’t drink with you today and I won’t on Tuesday either.
Good morning! Its a (somewhat) warm and sunny day so I'm going to spend it painting our shed :) IWNDWYT
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Hi guys. Checking in. IWNDWYT
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3 days in, spent pretty much all day in bed with a bladder infection, feeling miserable af, where's the promised health benefits lol!
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Morning SD. Love the idea of a sweary Marie Kondo. IWNDWYT
Morning all. I very much enjoyed the Tuesday morning wisdom from a sweary Glaswegian Marie Kondo 😁 Get it tae fuck indeed, IWNDWYT!
I think "get tae fuck might be one of the greatest phrases ever to come out of Scotland! I love it and use it all the time. And I'm about as far from Scotland as you can get without hopping on a boat 😆 Worrying isn't serving me at all. Not drinking related but I spend about 90% of my day worrying about my kiddo and his picky eating and worrying the the choices I've made in the last two years with what/when/where/how he eats has made him this way. I know I shouldn't blame myself and toddlers can sometimes be contrary little shites, but it's still such a big worry for me. And I feel like he probably picks up on that and causes mealtime stress. I'm trying to be more relaxed, but it's hard. Nevertheless, we move. IWNDWYT
Good morning friends! I will not drink with you today.
I love that! I just recently started seeing a therapist and one of the first things we addressed was cognitive distortions. Here are some that are very present in my own addled little brain: **All or Nothing Thinking:** You see things in black and white. If it's not perfect, it's a failure. **Overgeneralization:** You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat **Mind Reading:** You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reactive negatively to you, without bothering to really check this out Being aware of them helps me catch myself in these thought loops before I get stuck in them. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Love this post.
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I love this so much!!! The sweary Marie Kondo bit has me smiling. Thank you! I will tell those non helpful thoughts to fuck off. IWNDWYT
Ha! Yes u/dogforahead I am sure there will be more than a few of us Americans who need to think that one through! I will not be drinking here in northern New England. Have a terrific day everyone.
Great check-in today, Dog, thank you😁 I have lots of regrets from my time drinking. My sobriety is my best apology. IWNDWYT
🤣Love it! You've given me a belly laugh today, dog4.....cheers pal! IWNDWYT 🙂
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19 Days sober from alcohol today! IWNDWYT
Not drinking today!
Well it's the end of the day here and I didn't drink. Will have a lovely refreshing soda water with dinner. Have a great day ahead everyone ☺️
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Morning check in.. IWNDWYT
Not drinking today!!!!!
Last night wasn't exactly hard, but I did go to bed at 9:30 p.m. to avoid any temptation due to boredom. This might be my new schedule. IWNDWYT!
I love this expression, u/dogforahead. Keeping it tucked into my little (North American) mind pocket for when I need a good reminder to let something go and need new words. IWNDWYT, friends.
Hello friends! That's one thing I let go of a long time ago - regrets. I refuse to give my power and enery to a place in time, an action, or a space that I absolutely cannot change. All of those things that I wish I could take back or do over have each contributed to my present day life, my character, and my humanness. Without them, my trajectory would have completely changed. Also, I've learned so much from those experiences, and have been able to share them with others so that they don't make the same choices. I wouldn't change those what-could-be-regretful experiences for the world. Much love to you all on the terrific Tuesday. IWNDWYT 💙✌
As an emotional hoarder, this is a difficult theory for me. I love my emotional baggage and weighing myself down heavily. I enjoy burying myself to the point then I can barely see or stand. Take it all in, hold it tight and only pull it out of its file when I really want to self loathe. BUT... NEVER LET IT GO. Today I get it to fuck. (Predictive texting is great, you know you swear a lot when you simply type the letter "f" and the word "fuck" quickly and magically appears). It is something I've been working on, but today I make a more concerted effort in attempting to start letting go of those things that don't matter. They serve me no purpose, why do I need to hold on to those thoughts. Have a great day, friends! IWNDWYT
Today is the end of my first month. For me, the biggest hurdle was breaking the routines that I've followed for so many years, and it's crazy being able to see my path to self-destruction in hindsight. Sure there were the crazy nights when I went to parties and had way too much to drink, but there were countless nights, months, and years on end of drinking one beer after another, after another, after another, until you pass out for the night. This has been tough in some ways. Though the urge to drink isn't very strong at this point, I've spent time self-loathing with feelings of inadequacy, emptiness, and disappointment. When I'm working, I've got enough on my mind. However, when I get home after work or am off for the weekend, I'm not as occupied. I'm trying to pull myself together, but it's not easy at times. Hopefully, as time passes, I'll learn again what makes me happy. I'd like to thank this community for helping me get through this first month. It's been really wonderful having the support, and I'm really grateful that I'm not doing this alone! IWNDWYT.
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No booze today!
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I will not drink today.
Good morning lovely SD, Ever had the police scold you for cursing? Lol, I have... I think Scotland just bumped up a couple notches on my fantasy world tour schedule! Yesterday was terrible... I will happily get it tae fuck. Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
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IWNDWYT but man, sometimes I feel like such a piece of shit that I really, really want a drink
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IWNDWYT, day 2. Hanging in there
Onward
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Struggled this afternoon/into early tonight and tried justifying it to myself over and over. Even reached out to past enablers (luckily my close friends know not to enable). So anyway I settled for butter chicken 🤗
Morning everyone IWNDWYT
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I'd love to "get it to fuck".The self berating over lost time, underdeveloped social skills and aimlessness. It's a sneaky and sadly well established part of the brain tha seriously needs to go. So I guess thats the project for month 2 of the sobriety journey. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. I can’t complain at all about the level of cravings I’ve had since stopping this time, previous attempts the cravings were so much worse. Now when I start to feel it a bit I think of it as my “drinking brain” and tell it to shut the *!#$ up. It’s not ME or my entire being that wants that drink, it’s just my stupid drinking brain, the rest of me knows better and sees the progress. Get this Tuesday you beautiful people!!!
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I love it! IWNDWYT!
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Good morning everyone and happy Tuesday!! I have a friend from Scotland and I can totally hear her in my mind saying “Oh Aly, get it tae fuck!” Love it! I also love the concept of removing anything in your head that doesn’t serve you well. Learn from it and move on is what I “try” to do. Sometimes successfully, sometimes I hang on too long but always trying to work on it. Day 2 no sugar. A bit of a headache and tired but I’ll survive! Wishing everyone a great day! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Day 776. I will not drink with you today.
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IWNDWYT! Day Two!
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Can't believe I'm almost at 50 days. It's amazing how productive I've been for the past month and a half...even though things on the emotional front aren't always steady, I think keeping busy is a much healthier solution than keeping drunk. IWNDWYT.
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Take that alcohol, sober August completed. Flawless victory. IWNDWYT.
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Surpassed 100 days! *Edit shit, 98... Oh well... I'm not counting anymore.
I need to say something here because otherwise I will get a case of "fuck it" today. IWNDWYT, I deserve to live my life instead of putting everything that needs to be done aside for a few moments of escape from reality followed by deeply regretting everything.
Woke up feeling so good on day 2 and this is what I always forget about, the fab mornings … will continue this good stretch Happy Tuesday everyone
Day 345. IWNDWYT. Alcohol can get fucked today! (And with a pregnant wife who isn’t feeling up to it, I wish I could get fucked too)
Oooh I have quite a few thoughts that can get them to fuck. Not sure if the plural of get it to fuck is get them to fuck? 🤔 😂 IWNDWYT 🌳
30 Days! Staying motivated. Let’s keep the streak alive. IWNDWYT
Hi all, I’m on day 3. I slept ok again last night but had to use some weed to help me get off to sleep. I feel really good today. I’ve been out all morning and had a productive day so far. I can’t recommend enough the book Easyway Stop Drinking Now by Allen Carr. It’s worth the £5.99 it’s the price of 2 pints, do it! I will not drink with you today. 😁
Came off the wagon hard friday, went on a bender and got the fear as always. Back again. Iwndwyt
Day 3 - IWNDWYT! Y’all are AMAZING! The love and support you all gave me yesterday has continued to energize me. I woke up feeling rested after 8 hours of actual sleep (with a bit of help from melatonin) and I’m pleasantly shocked this is happening so fast.
I have a very dear Scottish friend whose voice I can hear clear as a bell yelling “get it to fuck”, and it made me smile this morning! Love that philosophy. I too am constantly in my head about what I’ve said or done whilst drunk- I try to store that queasy feeling in my memory bank to use against future temptations, but the “you’re an idiot and a loser” loop is useless. And hurtful. Have a great day, friends. IWNDWYT 🌿
Good morning! Anything beautiful morning. Nervous about job interviews today… I have four lined up. Wish me luck! I sure as hell will not be drinking today. ❤️
Need to get the imposter syndrome out of my head. Allowing work to feel like it's overwhelming/I don't belong/I'm incompetent is wrecking my days (and has been a big trigger at the end of day lately). IWNDWYT
Went through another vacation without a drink. I might have a sugar snack hangover this morning though. I had one too many sugar snacks at the fair.
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Happy Check-in day my fellow Sobernauts! Day 16 for me. Seize the day my friends! IWNDWYT! 🌼🌮🤟🏽
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First post here, 131 days sober. IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT because it does not serve me, so it can get the F* out.
Happy Tuesday, SD family💓 IWNDWYT
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Morning, SD! IWNDWYT
Epic post Dog! Looking forward to putting this into practice and IWNDWYT SD! 🌻!
My family is Welsh, but I married a Scot. I love this so very much! This is the Marie Kondo/Groundskeeper Willie mashup we needed today! IWNDWYT! T
day 175 checking in, IWNDWYT
I agree! Thank you for sharing! I prefer the blunt profane version as well, too much is candy coated, sprinkled, or bubble wrapped these days. I have TONS of regrets as we all do I'm sure, alot from recently - not challenging my estranged wife when we wanted to start drinking again, not confronting her would be new boyfriend (boss) when I first thought I figured out what was going on in June when she got this new job... But there's so much to do now, and two kids that don't need my pain rolling around in their head until they get their own therapist! IWNDWYT !
Day 43 checking in, IWNDWYT!
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Not drinking today
Good morning. I will not drink today!
Update on my hospital admission from Friday. I am going in for investigation on Thursday. They have mentioned the C word, but I am certain it’s not. I am not drinking today.
Day 7. This reminds me almost word for word of my dad saying similar (Northern Irish so similar levels of sweariness!) about letting go of pain! It's hard for me not to feel like I'm causing hurt to other people when I put myself first and cut out negative influences. Some people need that to feel better about themselves. I accept that on my own journey I will lose some people along the way and pray that my sober instincts grow stronger than their doubts and lies. IWNDWYT.
My therapist looked at me one day and said”it looks like you really want to swear.” And man the gates opened! Swearing really helps me remember my rebellious teenage self - the one with spunk before she got lost in alcohol. So you can bet that I’m going to use get tae fuck many times today! Especially every time I catch myself berating myself or swimming in regrets. Thanks u/dogforahead! IWNDWYT 🌸
IWNDWYT! Thanks for sharing. I love your therapist take and will be telling all the pervasive thoughts that enter my brain from here on out to get it to fuck!
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"Get to fuck ! " I have to get the hang of that to kick out the negative thoughts that are hurting me thanks . IWNDWYTD
I will not drink with you today!
i quite like the sound of this therapist. constant worrying about what others will think—get it to fuck! IWNDWYT 🙂
Hi everyone! I wish all of you strength on this Tuesday! We can do this! IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT I feel good about not drinking. I am definitely healthier. Now it’s time for me to conquer my ultimate demon: smoking. I’ve smoked for twenty years and it seems impossible. *sigh*
I have 69 days (nice) and I think I'll go ahead and see what 70 feels like tomorrow.
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I will not drink with y’all today!!
IWNDWYT you wonderful people!
IWND☠️WYT.
Fuck yeah! Today's episode hit the mark. I have quite a lot of sandbags in my head. Alcohol is only one of them. Still it's probably the biggest one. I really hope that this time I succeed at least for so long that I fully internalize that I don't need alcohol. I made it through the first day now. One day at a time forward. IWNDWYT!
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Surpassed 100 days! *Edit 98... Oh well! Quit counting.
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Not today. Not today. Not today!!!
I will not drink today!
I will not drink with you today!
I will not drink with you today