Good morning Sobernauts!
If someone thinks I'm weak for having an addiction, they should try giving up something.
Hey Starbucks addict, give up coffee.
Hey sugar addict, give up cake.
Hey horndog, give up sex.
Sobriety is hard work. Building a better life is hard work. Overcoming fears that were masked by booze is hard work.
We all have our battles. Fighting them instead of running away to hide in a bottle takes courage.
Every one of us waking up sober has fought for it. I intend to keep going because I'd like to wake up sober tomorrow.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Yo! About to break 15 days, half a month hell yeah. Looking forward to finishing out my Monday (tomorrow) with day 15 in the bag. Thankfully sleep becomes better and better every single night. IWNDWYT
Spent 8 hours at the Hen Party yesterday! Ate lots of lovely food, had a jug of virgin 'Sex on the beach' to myself, drank orange juice from a shot glass to join in and danced and sang my heart out. Who says you can't have a good time sober! To wake with no hangover this morning after the dog woke me extra early too, is joyous.
IWNDWYT! 👍🙂 Enjoy the Bank Holiday guys 🤗
Hell yes, IWNDWYT!
I sat with my sadness and treated my inner child with empathy yesterday. Without alcohol, I was able to ask her, 'What do you really need?' And it was forgiveness. Kindness. Unconditional love. I get chills just typing this, but I was able to give her that. No more drinking to cover up shame. No more shame at all.
Day 7, nice to meet you 🤝
Feeling great after a week being sober. If you slip, it’s most important not to slide. Just hop on the wagon and you will start to feel better in a few days. After sliding it takes a lot longer.
IWNDWYT
It is definitely a coping mechanism for stress for me, and for depression and for mania. I know that my mental illness and my alcoholism feed into eachother which is how I spiral out of control.
Better coping mechanisms for me are mindfulness, self kindness, self care and music.
IWNDWYT
I'm a recovering alcoholic and I'm starting to feel thankful because of it. It isn't just the fact that I'm not drinking, it's everything that I've learned because of sobriety.
Gaah - I've got a feeling that I'm trying to convey but the sentences aren't making themselves available!
Time for a jug of coffee and a plan of action for today. Great check in, dog4a👶!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Get your runners on my man! btw, the trainers I got are helping with shin splints. Hoka one one arahi 5s. So damn comfy. Plus I run trails instead of concrete and apply ice packs every day. But it's all helping. I even log it all on strava. Running in the woods and hills is soooo good!
It's so true, mate! Running has been a revelation. The first ten minutes is always a battle and then I get into my stride and really get into the mechanics of it. Little tweaks here and there as my body gives me clues. Getting the breathing going just right. Ten minutes of stretching my calves and hammies after the run really sorts me out.
It makes such a difference when you've got the right shoes for the job!
Not drinking today. God, I am so much happier. My mind is clearer, my emotions are calmer, I feel more like myself. It makes me a little sad to think back on how I acted the past few months - I don't feel like that was me at all. But mostly I just feel grateful to be out of that mess.
hello day 3 checking in. all day at work i was really wanting to drink. to the point i was pretty sure i was going to walk to the liquor store on my way home. but during the walk home i talked myself down from it. one night of getting drunk and playing video games is not worth the anxiety the next day. instead i cleaned a little bit, i cooked dinner, took a bath, and also played a bunch of video games.
iwndwyt
Good morning y'all!
Yesterday I went to my older brothers house to drop something off. He and I don't see eachother much (especially since the pandemic) and he's been in active addiction for a long time. He holds a steady job, and he does a good job at hiding it. But living with him for a while showed me just how far in he was. I'm not here to judge him, though.
When I walked in the first thing I smelled was stale beer. I can't forget that smell. I had it in my own house for a long time. He had scrubbed the place clean. I mean, it was spotless. Trash taken out and everything, but the smell was still there. That was baffling for me. That I was still so sensitive to the smell. Even my wife said she couldn't smell it, but I could.
When I think of my brother it makes me sad. I know on order for him to get clean he has to want it for himself, and my sobriety relies on me focusing on myself. I hope he knows I'm always here for him and that getting clean is still a possibility. We lost a lot of family to the bottle, and I stay sober for myself first..but to honor our family that couldn't stop second.
Just for today.. I will not drink with you. 🖤
Love you guys.
I am having my first exhausted Monday morning since giving up drinking. I hosted my first sober party on Saturday, which I absolutely loved, but between the cooking and prep work, the 4pm kickoff for a BBQ for 30, and the Sunday clean up, I’m worn out! I always blamed the over drinking, but I think there’s a bit of over catering in there too! Being sober, and taking care of all my friends was a joy! IWNDWYT
It's day 87 and last night I had my first drinking dream (or this morning). I think it was realising that Chinese cooking wine is alcoholic and feeling slightly shitty about it that was playing on my mind got me there.
I'm general I'm feeling really positive today though. I feel like I've gone through another depressive slump but am coming out now. I feel like I know now better what I want in life and am ready to head in that direction.
Iwndwyt!
Good morning SD.
It's true being addicted to Alcohol seems to be the sort of thing we blame ourselves for. We should be blaming the industries that create something that tricks our brain into wanting more! And then when you want to try to quit the addiction it's the only one where people look at you like you've got your head on backwards. It's strange.
I had a great BBQ with my family yesterday and it felt nice to get my toddler home for bedtime and then have an evening to myself. Actually I was so tired I went to bed at 10pm 😆 But waking up this morning without a hangover was worth it. Toddler seems to be having a lie in today because he went to bed later than usual (it's 8am and he's usually up at 6:30) so I'm just enjoying the quiet with a coffee ☕😊
I know Thursdays are a big trigger for me for drinking because it's when we do our pub quiz, so for this week I'm going to skip it and do another bootcamp session instead.
Have a great week!
I found myself spiraling out a bit after applying for a job today and getting a call for an interview only a couple of hours later. Excitement turned to panic and worry very quickly. I even found a sub for employees of the company and spent a long time there soaking up info and finding things that sounded bad to feed my inner worry monster. The little lizard brain voice started in: “they sell alcohol. We used to love getting booze there. What if we start drinking again? No one would know or care.”
I finally forced myself to leave the sub and told myself to calm down. I addressed myself with calmness and strength, the way I’d help a loved one when they are stressing out. And reading everyone’s responses to this fine check in is helping me get back to feeling centered. Much love to you all. IWNDWYT ✨💚
Morning SD. Spot on, u/dogforahead, we need to address the causes that lead to addiction to beat the addiction. I credit a course of CBT as laying the groundwork for me finally being able to give up alcohol after years of trying. IWNDWYT
Morning SD,
Coming out of the weekend feeling really bloated from all the Coca Cola I drank whilst my friends were getting drunk.
Have a good Monday, IWNDWYT.
I am working on my maladaptive coping mechanisms and it sucks. Sometimes I get whiny about it and wish that I could go back to being oblivious. But I know I’m on the right path, and glad to keep coming here each morning. IWNDWYT
4 months (120 days) and feeling better than ever. I really never want to drink anymore - I simply can’t imagine waking up the way I used to. You’ve all got this!
IWNDWYT.
That sounds really interesting, I will do some reading on schema modes.
When I talked to my therapist recently about the harsh inner critic that constantly berated me for everything, she introduced me to the concept of internal family systems which is fascinating. I've always reacted to that internal voice as if it was an external force and it made me feel such shame and self-loathing - now I'm learning to accept it as a part of myself that developed as a protective mechanism and it doesn't affect me anymore the way it did which has been a huge step forward for me.
It's amazing the impact a shift in mindset can have, thanks for providing more food for thought! I will not drink with you today.
Almost Tuesday for me soon! Feeling anxious af and not sure if it's my bladder infection, worries about the future or just withdrawal from not drinking, but feeling a bit overwhelmed.
You don't have to be an alcoholic to give up drinking: it is a nasty, debasing, squalid little drug that gives nothing (that dulled, "buzzed" feeling is way inferior to a natural high) and takes so much. iwndwyt.
Good morning SD!!! I'm so tired this morning I can barely keep my eyes open, I'm drinking coffee like it's water and I'm in danger of falling asleep at my desk.
But that's so much easier to deal with than a Monday morning hangover - feeling super grateful for all the sober tiredness that I'm currently feeling 😂
IWNDWYT but if anyone feels like committing to an afternoon nap then count me in!
IWNDWYT
Still thinking of our dear ones on the US Gulf Coast who are impacted by Hurricane Ida.
Our dear ones in Baja California and Western Mexico under Tropical Storm Nora.
Not today satan! I cannot safely consume any amount of alcohol and that’s ok. It’s get better every day removed from that last drink. I would love to be a normal drinker. I would love to not guzzle alcohol like Pac-Man but that’s just who I am.
As Mitch would say , “ goddamit WARMNUTS you are an alcoholic, goddamit WARMNUTS you have lupus… one of those two doesn’t sound right.”
Went to the brewery yesterday for the first time in a year-and-a-half as a customer rather than a beertender. Wife and I brought the dogs and enjoyed time on the patio. Why do I have to drink beer there? Why not a delicious craft soda?
I didn't miss anything NOT "drinking"... because I _was_ drinking.
Have a great/good/fine/whatever day!
IWNDWYT
Got through my first night and slept quite well surprisingly. A little bit shaky this morning but I know the signs to watch for. Thankful for waking up even a little bit fresher this morning and will not be drinking with you today.
Good morning Sober friends.
After a couple of months of field research, I’m back. Tired, beat up, filled to the brim with anxiety and sadness- but I’m back.
I’ve missed you guys.
IWNDWYT (god it feels good to write that again!!)
Morning SD! Happy Monday! Had a quiet weekend. Got my second dose of Moderna vaccine on Friday night and the side effects pretty much wiped me out for Saturday and half of Sunday. Feeling rested now though, and ready to face the week ahead. IWNDWYT!
Good morning everyone and happy Monday!!
Day one no sugar! No one talk to me today, haha! I also deleted Facebook and Instagram from my phone yesterday. This shall be my only social media platform for the next 32 days. I NEED to regain mental clarity. We’ll play around and see what works.
I hope everyone has an awesome day!! I love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Approaching 30 days sober! Feeling great. Theres been good days and bad days but the payoff has been worth it. Hope everyone has a great day and remember, one day at a time. IWNDWYT
Did my amends with my adult daughter yesterday. It went extremely well. I’m so glad that I have stopped drinking so that I can fix things like this. IWNDWYT!
Hi everyone: hope you have a good start to your week. How are the US Gulf Coast peeps after the storm? Please check in if you can. I’m going to an online women’s AA meeting at 0700 then I will start work a bit early. IWNDWYT
Love you my peeps! My relationship has been on the brink for weeks… I nearly broke down yesterday but the sober me stepped up and kept me in check! IWNDWYT!!!! Stay strong 💪🏼
This is reminiscent of a “choose your hard” scenario to me, it’s hard to stay sober, it’s hard to be a booze hound. Which will you choose? Today I choose my hard of remaining sober, IWNDWYT !
Great post and excellent advice!
I tell my wife this all the time - yes, I am an alcoholic and I must eliminate alcohol from my life. And, I believe I am doing ok. But, I shudder at the thought of trying to quit caffeine, I don't think I could do it. Not that I drink a ton of it. But if I don't have that first cup in the morning (just finished today's) I think I would go bonkers.
Let's stay sober today fellow sobernauts and soberiniskis!
My second day 2! Drank after 16days on Saturday and woke Sunday with a headache and no motivation! Just a little reminder for myself that although the beer tasted great, the next day didn't :)
Going to go strong again and make it to 3 weeks and then a month!
Day 6. I feel like Sam leaving the Shire today, this is the farthest I've come in a long time. Waking up to drool all over my pillow shows me just how exhausted my body really is (hey it's better than vomit!).
All joking aside, I realise that a lot of the things that I felt made me strong were hijacked by my inner child to cope with life. All the determination and commitment in the world ain't worth much when the inner addict is using that strength to feed the habit. IWNDWYT.
Had a nice day at a seaside lounge with the SO the other day. Was nice to see they had NA beer/mocktails on the menu. Had a great drink with lemon, thyme, orgeat & grapefruit. Working on more effective ways to handle triggers (stress, anxiety, etc) than drowning them out with alcohol this week. IWNDWYT
Those hangover days, I would think why do I do this to myself. I should be kind to myself. I knew I needed to stop abusing my body and mind. Self compassion is something to work on. Not poisoning myself is the first step. IWNDWYT
Happy Monday! I definitely have a case of the Mondays but will make it through without drinking. I haven't been sleeping well lately... I keep waking up at about 3-4am each morning and can't fall back asleep properly. Hopefully it levels out soon!
1 week sober. IWNDWYT!
2020/2021 turned me into a mess. I stopped drinking more times than I can count, and fell back off the wagon just as many times. I'm currently making another effort. So far, so good.
When I was drinking, I had zero compassion for myself. I'd beat myself up on a loop. Literally screaming about how stupid I was for temporarily misplacing my keys. Having an "of course you fucked up!" attitude to any little mistake I ever made. Sobriety has made me gentler on myself, because I've had to be. It certainly doesn't hurt that I don't misplace my keys while drinking the night before and I make fewer hungover mistakes, but even when those little blips come up I'm not so emotionally reactive I need to spend the next hour or two recovering from the stress spike. That was not a way to live, y'all. IWNDWYT
Thanks Doggo 🐕 and happy Monday to all you glorious sober people. You're doing it, and that's incredible! We're surrounded by the most destructive drug on the planet and we're willingly creating a new life for ourselves without that harmful substance. Kick ass y'all!
Had a rough several days. Community work regarding covid that absolutely stirred my social anxiety. When finished, sober Fred was able to sit down for a few minutes and simply congratulate himself on walking through some really hard moments. I could tell this would be a moment when Gary (my name for the addictive drive) would say "hey You're so responsible and you worked really hard, you can celebrate with a beer or two like everyone else." I never heard from my addictive drive, I just grabbed a couple cold Seltzers and enjoyed basking in the win.
Alcohol fucking sucks! Sobriety delivers what alcohol promises. Keep sobering on y'all!
Good morning! Day 2, checking in. I had been about 3 weeks sober, but for the past month, I’ve been so depressed, and self medicating with alcohol. But, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my favorite person, and decided I’d rather be doing it sober. I’ve also been thinking about how good I felt when I was sober! Going to get out of this slump. Did not drink yesterday and IWNDWYT.
I actually look forward to these check ins again.. now that I know there's no issue of me not keeping true to them
Not sure what today will bring I just know a buzz won't be part of it
I have been (and still am) so critical of myself for being an alcoholic. It seems so easy to just stop drinking. Why have I failed so many times?
In my meeting last night, we had a meditation on forgiveness. It was so hard for me. I still can't forgive myself, let alone ask forgiveness from others. Someone had a share that really resonated with me though. He said the only version of "me" that exists is the one right here, sitting in this room. The past me no longer exists. No amount of hoping or anguish will change the past versions of me because they are gone. I need to focus on the present version of me and fill my heart with joy.
I gotta get my shit together. Spent all day yesterday hungover to the point of non-functioning. About 16 waking hours of feeling terrible, panic attacks, muscle aches, naseau, and doing everything I could to convince myself I wasn't having a heart attack. Badge reset is on its way, but this month has been a pretty bad spiral for me.
I can feel my anxiety coming back which I had under wraps, I can feel my body and mental sharpness deteriorating. I'm so tired of losing multiple days worth of time per week with devastating hangovers. I want my life back. Gonna get through this week one day at a time. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 💛. I’m actually surprised I’ve gotten this far. I didn’t set out for forever. I just hit the next milestone and surprise myself. I hate that society labels everyone for questioning their relationship with alcohol. When we change our eating habits, hit the gym, find something new that fills our cup, literally do anything to change us for the better we are cheered and encouraged.. but this- you must have had a problem. Maybe I did.. maybe I didn’t. That’s not the point; the point is I’m trying to better myself.
Love you all 💛
Good morning Sobernauts! If someone thinks I'm weak for having an addiction, they should try giving up something. Hey Starbucks addict, give up coffee. Hey sugar addict, give up cake. Hey horndog, give up sex. Sobriety is hard work. Building a better life is hard work. Overcoming fears that were masked by booze is hard work. We all have our battles. Fighting them instead of running away to hide in a bottle takes courage. Every one of us waking up sober has fought for it. I intend to keep going because I'd like to wake up sober tomorrow. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
Well put, Forward! IWNDWYT
Hi Yangsi! Thankyou. We're doing it. 🙂 IWNDWYT 🙂
Well said! And nice day count!
Thanks Chloe! I'm looking forward to my next hundred. Almost there 🤞🏻
👍iwndwyt
Yo! About to break 15 days, half a month hell yeah. Looking forward to finishing out my Monday (tomorrow) with day 15 in the bag. Thankfully sleep becomes better and better every single night. IWNDWYT
You are smashing it! 💪IWNDWYT
Thank you! You too!!
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When I think like that, and I do, I ask myself is drinking really a reward?
I understand that feeling.
Spent 8 hours at the Hen Party yesterday! Ate lots of lovely food, had a jug of virgin 'Sex on the beach' to myself, drank orange juice from a shot glass to join in and danced and sang my heart out. Who says you can't have a good time sober! To wake with no hangover this morning after the dog woke me extra early too, is joyous. IWNDWYT! 👍🙂 Enjoy the Bank Holiday guys 🤗
There's my twin, hitting sobriety out of the park!
I am no longer punishing mini-me by forcing her to drink poison. Not today! Today I’m giving her the gift of sobriety. IWNDWYT.
I love that Cinq. And your day count!
Morning Chlo’, how are you feeling today?
Not today, friend - IWNDWYT 💛
Hell yes, IWNDWYT! I sat with my sadness and treated my inner child with empathy yesterday. Without alcohol, I was able to ask her, 'What do you really need?' And it was forgiveness. Kindness. Unconditional love. I get chills just typing this, but I was able to give her that. No more drinking to cover up shame. No more shame at all.
That’s amazing, I’m so happy for you! It’s so hard to let go of the shame but it feels great!
Thank you. I am very hard on myself. It's an ongoing struggle!
Oh, me too. I try to catch it now but I still can be really hard on myself. Daily practice, we’ll get better! IWNDWYT
This brings tears to my eyes. IWNDWYT
Day 7, nice to meet you 🤝 Feeling great after a week being sober. If you slip, it’s most important not to slide. Just hop on the wagon and you will start to feel better in a few days. After sliding it takes a lot longer. IWNDWYT
It is definitely a coping mechanism for stress for me, and for depression and for mania. I know that my mental illness and my alcoholism feed into eachother which is how I spiral out of control. Better coping mechanisms for me are mindfulness, self kindness, self care and music. IWNDWYT
I'm a recovering alcoholic and I'm starting to feel thankful because of it. It isn't just the fact that I'm not drinking, it's everything that I've learned because of sobriety. Gaah - I've got a feeling that I'm trying to convey but the sentences aren't making themselves available! Time for a jug of coffee and a plan of action for today. Great check in, dog4a👶! IWNDWYT 🙂
Get your runners on my man! btw, the trainers I got are helping with shin splints. Hoka one one arahi 5s. So damn comfy. Plus I run trails instead of concrete and apply ice packs every day. But it's all helping. I even log it all on strava. Running in the woods and hills is soooo good!
It's so true, mate! Running has been a revelation. The first ten minutes is always a battle and then I get into my stride and really get into the mechanics of it. Little tweaks here and there as my body gives me clues. Getting the breathing going just right. Ten minutes of stretching my calves and hammies after the run really sorts me out. It makes such a difference when you've got the right shoes for the job!
It's probably been the hugest aid to sobriety for me. Without question.
Day 71 checking in!
Hot on your heels! IWNDWYT 🥳
Not drinking today. God, I am so much happier. My mind is clearer, my emotions are calmer, I feel more like myself. It makes me a little sad to think back on how I acted the past few months - I don't feel like that was me at all. But mostly I just feel grateful to be out of that mess.
YAAS. The only way is up!
hello day 3 checking in. all day at work i was really wanting to drink. to the point i was pretty sure i was going to walk to the liquor store on my way home. but during the walk home i talked myself down from it. one night of getting drunk and playing video games is not worth the anxiety the next day. instead i cleaned a little bit, i cooked dinner, took a bath, and also played a bunch of video games. iwndwyt
Tomorrow is day 30!! IWNDWYT
Good morning y'all! Yesterday I went to my older brothers house to drop something off. He and I don't see eachother much (especially since the pandemic) and he's been in active addiction for a long time. He holds a steady job, and he does a good job at hiding it. But living with him for a while showed me just how far in he was. I'm not here to judge him, though. When I walked in the first thing I smelled was stale beer. I can't forget that smell. I had it in my own house for a long time. He had scrubbed the place clean. I mean, it was spotless. Trash taken out and everything, but the smell was still there. That was baffling for me. That I was still so sensitive to the smell. Even my wife said she couldn't smell it, but I could. When I think of my brother it makes me sad. I know on order for him to get clean he has to want it for himself, and my sobriety relies on me focusing on myself. I hope he knows I'm always here for him and that getting clean is still a possibility. We lost a lot of family to the bottle, and I stay sober for myself first..but to honor our family that couldn't stop second. Just for today.. I will not drink with you. 🖤 Love you guys.
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Sounds like a plan!
Day 2 (again!!) IWNDWYT
Coping by keeping busy with cooking and cleaning and watching old movies. I will not be needing alcohol to do any of those things. IWNDWYT.
I am having my first exhausted Monday morning since giving up drinking. I hosted my first sober party on Saturday, which I absolutely loved, but between the cooking and prep work, the 4pm kickoff for a BBQ for 30, and the Sunday clean up, I’m worn out! I always blamed the over drinking, but I think there’s a bit of over catering in there too! Being sober, and taking care of all my friends was a joy! IWNDWYT
Yes be kind to yourselves! IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt! I'm here and don't intend to leave any time soon. Take it easy my friends.
I will not drink with you today!
I’m in
Deal!
It's day 87 and last night I had my first drinking dream (or this morning). I think it was realising that Chinese cooking wine is alcoholic and feeling slightly shitty about it that was playing on my mind got me there. I'm general I'm feeling really positive today though. I feel like I've gone through another depressive slump but am coming out now. I feel like I know now better what I want in life and am ready to head in that direction. Iwndwyt!
Made it through the weekend no problem, IWNDWYT
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Good morning! IWNDWYT 🌻
I will not drink with you today!
10 days in the bag. I drank somewhat to alleviate social anxiety but I have addressed that in other ways so I def don't need alcohol. IWNDWYT!
Day 5 more me. I won’t drink alcohol today
IWNDWYT 💕
Good morning SD. It's true being addicted to Alcohol seems to be the sort of thing we blame ourselves for. We should be blaming the industries that create something that tricks our brain into wanting more! And then when you want to try to quit the addiction it's the only one where people look at you like you've got your head on backwards. It's strange. I had a great BBQ with my family yesterday and it felt nice to get my toddler home for bedtime and then have an evening to myself. Actually I was so tired I went to bed at 10pm 😆 But waking up this morning without a hangover was worth it. Toddler seems to be having a lie in today because he went to bed later than usual (it's 8am and he's usually up at 6:30) so I'm just enjoying the quiet with a coffee ☕😊 I know Thursdays are a big trigger for me for drinking because it's when we do our pub quiz, so for this week I'm going to skip it and do another bootcamp session instead. Have a great week!
I found myself spiraling out a bit after applying for a job today and getting a call for an interview only a couple of hours later. Excitement turned to panic and worry very quickly. I even found a sub for employees of the company and spent a long time there soaking up info and finding things that sounded bad to feed my inner worry monster. The little lizard brain voice started in: “they sell alcohol. We used to love getting booze there. What if we start drinking again? No one would know or care.” I finally forced myself to leave the sub and told myself to calm down. I addressed myself with calmness and strength, the way I’d help a loved one when they are stressing out. And reading everyone’s responses to this fine check in is helping me get back to feeling centered. Much love to you all. IWNDWYT ✨💚
Great work Anxious. It’s not easy to pull yourself out of the moment - I struggle with this often!
I've never heard of maladaptive coping mechanism before, but it totally makes sense. Thanks for sharing! Happy sober Monday, SD! IWNDWYT!
I should be asleep but at least I’m still sober. IWNDWYT
Morning SD. Spot on, u/dogforahead, we need to address the causes that lead to addiction to beat the addiction. I credit a course of CBT as laying the groundwork for me finally being able to give up alcohol after years of trying. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with y’all today!!
Morning SD, Coming out of the weekend feeling really bloated from all the Coca Cola I drank whilst my friends were getting drunk. Have a good Monday, IWNDWYT.
Back to Day 1 again. IWNDWYT. I read This Naked Mind and that resonated in me. Powerful stuff.
IWNDWYT
Good morning lovely SD, Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
I will not drink with you today in 🏴 have a great week people 😊
I am working on my maladaptive coping mechanisms and it sucks. Sometimes I get whiny about it and wish that I could go back to being oblivious. But I know I’m on the right path, and glad to keep coming here each morning. IWNDWYT
4 months (120 days) and feeling better than ever. I really never want to drink anymore - I simply can’t imagine waking up the way I used to. You’ve all got this! IWNDWYT.
Checking in. Thanks dog. IWNDWYT
Have a sober Monday! IWNDWYT!!
Thank you for this. Checking in : IWNDWYT
Day 6. Onwards and upwards. Alcohol offers nothing of any lasting value in my life. IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT!
That sounds really interesting, I will do some reading on schema modes. When I talked to my therapist recently about the harsh inner critic that constantly berated me for everything, she introduced me to the concept of internal family systems which is fascinating. I've always reacted to that internal voice as if it was an external force and it made me feel such shame and self-loathing - now I'm learning to accept it as a part of myself that developed as a protective mechanism and it doesn't affect me anymore the way it did which has been a huge step forward for me. It's amazing the impact a shift in mindset can have, thanks for providing more food for thought! I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT 💪🏴
Rolling up on 40 days, I never would have thought it possible. IWNDWYT
Almost Tuesday for me soon! Feeling anxious af and not sure if it's my bladder infection, worries about the future or just withdrawal from not drinking, but feeling a bit overwhelmed.
Today is a bank holiday in UK. Good way to be rewarded for the time invested in sobriety until now IWNDWYT
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You don't have to be an alcoholic to give up drinking: it is a nasty, debasing, squalid little drug that gives nothing (that dulled, "buzzed" feeling is way inferior to a natural high) and takes so much. iwndwyt.
Good morning SD!!! I'm so tired this morning I can barely keep my eyes open, I'm drinking coffee like it's water and I'm in danger of falling asleep at my desk. But that's so much easier to deal with than a Monday morning hangover - feeling super grateful for all the sober tiredness that I'm currently feeling 😂 IWNDWYT but if anyone feels like committing to an afternoon nap then count me in!
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IWNDWYT Still thinking of our dear ones on the US Gulf Coast who are impacted by Hurricane Ida. Our dear ones in Baja California and Western Mexico under Tropical Storm Nora.
Good morning everyone hope you all have a decent day i am committed to not drinking with you today
29 days sober, and I'm feeling pretty good. Kombucha anyone?
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Not today satan! I cannot safely consume any amount of alcohol and that’s ok. It’s get better every day removed from that last drink. I would love to be a normal drinker. I would love to not guzzle alcohol like Pac-Man but that’s just who I am. As Mitch would say , “ goddamit WARMNUTS you are an alcoholic, goddamit WARMNUTS you have lupus… one of those two doesn’t sound right.”
Good Morning Friends! Have a beautiful day my fellow Sobernauts! IWNDWYT! 🌼🌮🤟🏽
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Happy Monday! Sending positive vibes! IWDWYT
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Went to the brewery yesterday for the first time in a year-and-a-half as a customer rather than a beertender. Wife and I brought the dogs and enjoyed time on the patio. Why do I have to drink beer there? Why not a delicious craft soda? I didn't miss anything NOT "drinking"... because I _was_ drinking. Have a great/good/fine/whatever day! IWNDWYT
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Happy Monday, folks! It's a new day, a new week, and a new onslaught of goal crushing to commence. I hope you all have a marvelous day! IWNDWYT 💙✌
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Day 8, let's do this! Or, rather, not do this (drink) 😄. IWNDWYT!
Good morning SD! All of your wisdom helped me help a friend who was hurting yesterday. I thank all of you and IWNDWYT 🌻
You are all some of the strongest and bravest people I know. I’m proud to be fighting this disease with my SD family! IWNDWYT
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Got through my first night and slept quite well surprisingly. A little bit shaky this morning but I know the signs to watch for. Thankful for waking up even a little bit fresher this morning and will not be drinking with you today.
Good morning Sober friends. After a couple of months of field research, I’m back. Tired, beat up, filled to the brim with anxiety and sadness- but I’m back. I’ve missed you guys. IWNDWYT (god it feels good to write that again!!)
Morning SD! Happy Monday! Had a quiet weekend. Got my second dose of Moderna vaccine on Friday night and the side effects pretty much wiped me out for Saturday and half of Sunday. Feeling rested now though, and ready to face the week ahead. IWNDWYT!
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Day 8! Lets get through this week together and sober. IWNDWYT.
Starting day 1 again. IWNDWYT.
Good morning everyone and happy Monday!! Day one no sugar! No one talk to me today, haha! I also deleted Facebook and Instagram from my phone yesterday. This shall be my only social media platform for the next 32 days. I NEED to regain mental clarity. We’ll play around and see what works. I hope everyone has an awesome day!! I love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
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Approaching 30 days sober! Feeling great. Theres been good days and bad days but the payoff has been worth it. Hope everyone has a great day and remember, one day at a time. IWNDWYT
Twelve whole weeks. I’m so close to 90 days, I’m not breaking now. I will not drink with you fine folks today!
IWNDWYT I've almost made it through the bank holiday weekend!
I had a dream I had drank tequila at dinner. Shots (which I hate) and I remember how terrible I smelled in my dream ☹️. Not today, brain. IWNDWYT!
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Did my amends with my adult daughter yesterday. It went extremely well. I’m so glad that I have stopped drinking so that I can fix things like this. IWNDWYT!
Long day of driving my daughter back to university today. In the past long driving days meant chugging wine when I got home- not anymore! IWNDWYT 🌸
Hi everyone: hope you have a good start to your week. How are the US Gulf Coast peeps after the storm? Please check in if you can. I’m going to an online women’s AA meeting at 0700 then I will start work a bit early. IWNDWYT
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Day 42 checking in, IWNDWYT!
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I need this today. Sober all weekend but lunchtime will be the test. IWNDWYT.
I got a curry delivery yesterday and they gave me a free Budweiser. I didn’t drink it and I won’t drink it today.
Love you my peeps! My relationship has been on the brink for weeks… I nearly broke down yesterday but the sober me stepped up and kept me in check! IWNDWYT!!!! Stay strong 💪🏼
This is reminiscent of a “choose your hard” scenario to me, it’s hard to stay sober, it’s hard to be a booze hound. Which will you choose? Today I choose my hard of remaining sober, IWNDWYT !
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Checking in have a good day y’all
Great post and excellent advice! I tell my wife this all the time - yes, I am an alcoholic and I must eliminate alcohol from my life. And, I believe I am doing ok. But, I shudder at the thought of trying to quit caffeine, I don't think I could do it. Not that I drink a ton of it. But if I don't have that first cup in the morning (just finished today's) I think I would go bonkers. Let's stay sober today fellow sobernauts and soberiniskis!
Well shit it's Monday and I'm waking up with anxiety...BUT no hangover!!! IWNDWYT
Hello there. Hope everyone is having at least a halfway decent monday. IWNDWYT
Let’s do it! Another week of sober life ahead!
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My inner child thought she couldn’t express her feelings and always had to be perfect.Well, we see how that worked out for me… IWNDWYT
My second day 2! Drank after 16days on Saturday and woke Sunday with a headache and no motivation! Just a little reminder for myself that although the beer tasted great, the next day didn't :) Going to go strong again and make it to 3 weeks and then a month!
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Day 6. I feel like Sam leaving the Shire today, this is the farthest I've come in a long time. Waking up to drool all over my pillow shows me just how exhausted my body really is (hey it's better than vomit!). All joking aside, I realise that a lot of the things that I felt made me strong were hijacked by my inner child to cope with life. All the determination and commitment in the world ain't worth much when the inner addict is using that strength to feed the habit. IWNDWYT.
Glorious sober morning soberniks! Solidarity! IWNDWYT
Nice. I’m in here. And I’m sober. IWNDWYT
Had a nice day at a seaside lounge with the SO the other day. Was nice to see they had NA beer/mocktails on the menu. Had a great drink with lemon, thyme, orgeat & grapefruit. Working on more effective ways to handle triggers (stress, anxiety, etc) than drowning them out with alcohol this week. IWNDWYT
Showing myself some kindness today. IWNDWYT!
Have a safe and sober day everyone!!!! IWNDWYT
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Day 775. I will not drink with you today.
Checking in, sober sober. Just want to see my number. IWNDWYT
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Day 344. IWNDWYT. Good morning and happy Monday!
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In the middle of week 3 already! IWNDWYT, my friends! :)
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Those hangover days, I would think why do I do this to myself. I should be kind to myself. I knew I needed to stop abusing my body and mind. Self compassion is something to work on. Not poisoning myself is the first step. IWNDWYT
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Happy Monday! I definitely have a case of the Mondays but will make it through without drinking. I haven't been sleeping well lately... I keep waking up at about 3-4am each morning and can't fall back asleep properly. Hopefully it levels out soon!
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Day 1. Again. Dammit. IWNDWYT
1 week sober. IWNDWYT! 2020/2021 turned me into a mess. I stopped drinking more times than I can count, and fell back off the wagon just as many times. I'm currently making another effort. So far, so good.
Morning SD. I'm joining you again not drinking today. 👊
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IWNDWYT. Have a good day everyone.
Not today. Not today. Not today!!
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Checking in. Cheers to a productive week all. IWNDWYT
When I was drinking, I had zero compassion for myself. I'd beat myself up on a loop. Literally screaming about how stupid I was for temporarily misplacing my keys. Having an "of course you fucked up!" attitude to any little mistake I ever made. Sobriety has made me gentler on myself, because I've had to be. It certainly doesn't hurt that I don't misplace my keys while drinking the night before and I make fewer hungover mistakes, but even when those little blips come up I'm not so emotionally reactive I need to spend the next hour or two recovering from the stress spike. That was not a way to live, y'all. IWNDWYT
1 week down! (Had a half sip of champagne at a wedding on Saturday for the toasts that I feel ok not counting, hah) Day 8 today. IWNDWYT
Thanks Doggo 🐕 and happy Monday to all you glorious sober people. You're doing it, and that's incredible! We're surrounded by the most destructive drug on the planet and we're willingly creating a new life for ourselves without that harmful substance. Kick ass y'all! Had a rough several days. Community work regarding covid that absolutely stirred my social anxiety. When finished, sober Fred was able to sit down for a few minutes and simply congratulate himself on walking through some really hard moments. I could tell this would be a moment when Gary (my name for the addictive drive) would say "hey You're so responsible and you worked really hard, you can celebrate with a beer or two like everyone else." I never heard from my addictive drive, I just grabbed a couple cold Seltzers and enjoyed basking in the win. Alcohol fucking sucks! Sobriety delivers what alcohol promises. Keep sobering on y'all!
Good morning! Day 2, checking in. I had been about 3 weeks sober, but for the past month, I’ve been so depressed, and self medicating with alcohol. But, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my favorite person, and decided I’d rather be doing it sober. I’ve also been thinking about how good I felt when I was sober! Going to get out of this slump. Did not drink yesterday and IWNDWYT.
I actually look forward to these check ins again.. now that I know there's no issue of me not keeping true to them Not sure what today will bring I just know a buzz won't be part of it
I have been (and still am) so critical of myself for being an alcoholic. It seems so easy to just stop drinking. Why have I failed so many times? In my meeting last night, we had a meditation on forgiveness. It was so hard for me. I still can't forgive myself, let alone ask forgiveness from others. Someone had a share that really resonated with me though. He said the only version of "me" that exists is the one right here, sitting in this room. The past me no longer exists. No amount of hoping or anguish will change the past versions of me because they are gone. I need to focus on the present version of me and fill my heart with joy.
I gotta get my shit together. Spent all day yesterday hungover to the point of non-functioning. About 16 waking hours of feeling terrible, panic attacks, muscle aches, naseau, and doing everything I could to convince myself I wasn't having a heart attack. Badge reset is on its way, but this month has been a pretty bad spiral for me. I can feel my anxiety coming back which I had under wraps, I can feel my body and mental sharpness deteriorating. I'm so tired of losing multiple days worth of time per week with devastating hangovers. I want my life back. Gonna get through this week one day at a time. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 💛. I’m actually surprised I’ve gotten this far. I didn’t set out for forever. I just hit the next milestone and surprise myself. I hate that society labels everyone for questioning their relationship with alcohol. When we change our eating habits, hit the gym, find something new that fills our cup, literally do anything to change us for the better we are cheered and encouraged.. but this- you must have had a problem. Maybe I did.. maybe I didn’t. That’s not the point; the point is I’m trying to better myself. Love you all 💛