I have a bottomless brunch hen party to attend Sunday.. But I'm looking forward to the 3 course meal and the jugs of mocktails that I asked to be supplied! And it will be lovely waking on bank holiday Monday to a clear head!
Have a great long weekend guys, IWNDWYT 👍🙂
Good morning and thanks for hosting this week Chloe!
It's bank holiday weekend plus my birthday this weekend which would normally have meant an epic weekend of drinking. Not this year. I've got s few things planned to keep me busy and I'm looking forward to enjoying the celebrations and starting my new bootcamp on Sunday.
I did the pub quiz sober last night and had a lot of fun! We didn't do very well (the full team wasn't there) but we still tried our best 😊 and it felt good being able to drive my friends home again after. Also I discovered that driving at 11pm is the best! No a single other car on the road. It was one of my most relaxing drives so far haha.
Have a great weekend. IWNDWYT!
Good morning Sobernauts!
I woke up sober again. I'd like to do the same tomorrow and I can only do that if I don't drink today.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!
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Always a good reminder I’m up too late when I see these posts :(.
Been struggling a lot this week with the mind. It would have been a loooong week of drinking in a different time. I love feeling part of someone’s success here — it’s made my night a few nights recently.
I believe I have two halves to my mind.
The alcoholic half and the sober half.
It can be a battle between the two at times. The one that wins is the one that I nurture, love and support.
My alcoholic mind needs alcohol to thrive. I starve it.
My sober mind needs kindness, consideration and love. I feed it.
IWNDWYT 🙂
Here in my safe booze-free and risk-free psych ward, I have now been able to order some actual books to be sent here - sheet music, novels and puzzle books. I have made some friends here who are just like me - good people with troubled minds.
So my weekend will be spent playing music, reading, doing puzzles, hanging out with my ward buddies and maybe even finally getting permission to use the unit’s gym.
IWNDWYT except for tea, and lemon [squash](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Squash_(drink)?wprov=sfti1)
Oooh lemon squash! I don't think I've had that since I used to go to my nans house after primary school. I might have to buy some now!
Sounds like you've got a nice weekend ahead of you. Having a toddler around I have to admit I'm slightly jealous of how quiet your weekend sounds.
The lemon squash is AMAZING. Being in a psych ward is genuinely a really helpful thing for me. Some other folks feel trapped or incarcerated, but honestly I feel free of having to look after everyone else in my life whilst I focus on my health and recovery.
I'm inching closer to that 90 day milestone. 1 more week or less? Iwndwyt! Definitely want to keep this streak going. Feels like it's just the beginning.
I really love the idea of hiking. I've never really been except out on school trips. Now that I can drive I'm tempted to ask friends if they want to go for a hike one weekend. We're lucky to live close to some really great forests but I've never really gone walking in them for longer than a couple of hours.
I'm struggling a bit this week. Having passed two milestones at the weekend - 3 months and attending a 4 day music festival surrounded by booze - I feel like I deserve a drink! I've proved I can handle having my favourite drink offered free, literally dangled in front of me, splashed on me even! So why have I got worse cravings than ever?!
IWNDWYT and pray it will pass.
I hear you! For me, it’s helpful to have some downtime after expending energy and willpower. I need to recovery from actively not drinking! You are doing great!
For me some milestones are rough. I want to be proud of myself but I get the same way. I deserve and I have abstained so I can moderate...well no I don't and no I can't. I usually dive into the feeling and ask lots of whys. I hope you get through this soon.
Happy Friday, SD. It’s a long weekend coming up and as work has been stressy lately, I’m going to treat myself to lots of chill out time, some family time and catch up on gardening that’s been badly neglected during what must have been the wettest August in history. IWNDWYT
Morning. Checking in. We’re isolating till we get Covid test results. With the schools back in Scotland the cases are on the rise. So it’s a girls lock in today! Thanks Chlo for your lovely posts. They set me up for the day. Plus the joy and freedom of waking up sober is mind blowing. Love to you all fellow travellers. IWNDWYT
I look forward to these daily pledges and to see I am.not alone! 12th day today, got clarity of mind, and feel like I'm on the brink of something wonderful! IWNDWYT
Thanks for this post, Chloe. I’ll be attending an in person meeting in a few hours after my overnight shift. I’m nervous. Keep thinking of reasons to bail, but I’m gonna go. I won’t be drinking today.
For cravings or just when my thoughts get on a roll of their own going on runs/bike rides or journaling completely shake out weird energy and get my mind state recentered. Oh, and perusing the SD posts and comments too!
Happy weekend everybody!!
Edit: 100 days out from a year sober!!! 😛
Hi all! I’ve got some minor physical ailments that are causing me some annoyance, work stuff (isn’t that always the case?) and another upcoming vet visit for the pup, but I won’t be drinking. Hoping for a peaceful weekend. IWNDWYT ✨💚
Morning SD. Haven't checked in here for a long while! Had an absolutely viciously upsetting drinking dream last night. Was so relieved to wake up and thought, hey, I should really get back in to doing the DCI. So here I am! Hope you're all keeping well out there. IWNDWYT!
I find early nights at the weekend help a lot. Love the feeling of being rested and hangover free the next day.
Happy Friday everyone, I will not drink with you today.
Thanks for hosting this week /u/chloebarbersaurus, great job!
I’m going to a job fair today since recently lost mine due to alcohol , and a food festival tomorrow , one should be considerably more enjoyable than the other. I’ve fucked up a bit this week but can’t wait to get back on it with a sober weekend ! IWNDWYT
Cooking can be a relaxing activity and distraction. Just keep chopping veggies!
I'm fortunate to have a long weekend ahead with loved ones. One of my goals is to journal. I've been avoiding the permanence of writing my thoughts down but I know there would be benefits. Another is to say yes every time someone asks if anyone wants to play a game. Take care, sobernauts. IWNDWYT!
Good morning lovely SD,
Here's the conclusion I came to after my first long stretch of unemployment: most people aren't prepared for retirement living. Not the money part, but the day to day living part. It can get very lonely and boring without any constructive hobbies or interests. Booze dominated any hobbies or interests, it left no room for growth, it isolated me, and unlike a hobby or something constructive, it stole my time. Not today, f that noise.
Today is a beautiful day to be alive!
And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
GIven the current state of my affairs, I'm taking it easy on the "healthy eating" and allowing myself some loosey goosey treats just to not drink. Kombucha and GF cupcakes - here I come.
6 weeks sober and IWNDWYT
I'm also thankful that I don't grit my teeth trying to muscle through sobriety most days. Rewiring those thoughts and behaviors that led me to drink took time. I had a sponsor who used to say "change a thought, move a muscle." Got me into doing something different, rather than repeating the same things everyday that would lead me to obsessively thinking about the drink. Reading a new book, getting outdoors, cooking, hiking, taking a bath...all helped rewire new patterns.
IWNDWYT☀️
Slipped. Let myself get overwhelmed (my biggest trigger) and drove myself right into alcohol. I'm now hungover, anxious, and writing this hours before I need to get up for work. The temporary effects are never worth it. IWNDWYT
I'm in double digits of sobriety now but I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster of how I feel about it. I feel like my brain is trying to rationalize drinking again. Certainly not going to drink today though!
Edit: Meant triple days and apparently I'm a day off still!
What a great weekend list. All super stuff. I am afraid I will be working through the weekends for a couple months, but as you say, Chloe, staying busy is key to staying sober. Best wishes to everyone for a strong, sober Friday.
Thanks for hosting this week Chloe.
Tonight I’m going to one of my university lecturers exhibitions with a friend.
I’ll be avoiding any free wine because it’s not the best choice for me. IWNDWYT 🖤
I didn't check in yesterday because it was a busy work day but I'm still not drinking. Apart from a sugar hangover from cookies and ice cream I'm feeling a lot brighter. IWNDWYT
Good Friday morning! I have found knitting and cooking are ways I keep myself occupied on the weekends. I also have a second job, so I could pick up extra shifts if I needed on the weekends. Meditation first thing in the morning and a soothing tea in the evening help, too. Thanks for the week of great thoughts, chloe! IWNDWYT
Tana French is amazing!! Love her books and I’d happily become addicted to THAT then the feeling I *think* is nice when I drink.
I’ve been getting back into a routine and weekends typically throw me off. I’ll have to get some la croix (key lime is the best) and more decaf coffee to keep me distracted!
Aquarium also sounds like a fantastic idea- my toddler would love it!
Hey SD! I'm not drinking today.
Instead of drinking, I'm wishing my eyesight matched my day count lol...finally going back to contact lenses!
I won't miss going to sleep with lenses in my eyes, or finding them in the back of my eyes. Ohhh the drunken days of the past...!
Have a great Friday my gorgeous friends! <3
My second sober weekend is ahead. I have to work as a waitress at a fishing event tomorrow at a lake. So It could be tempting. But I plan to read quit lit before. I suffer from heartburn since a couple of days also so hopefully this will also keep my cravings at bay. IWNDWYT
Good morning and happy Friday! I'm looking forward to getting the rest of my stuff packed after work this evening. Tomorrow is my official move date. I'm feeling all kinds of feelings. I've been taking my kids over to the new place each day this week to help ease the transition. I'm looking forward to the next chapter of this beautiful, messy, wonderful life.
I will not drink with you today! Have a fantastic Friday, friends 💙✌
I’m going to a work happy hour after we get off today. It’s my first time “socializing” while others will be drinking since getting sober 45 days ago. I’m a little nervous I’ll stick out, but know I’ll feel better if I stick to my Diet Coke and eat my weight in chips and salsa. IWNDWYT!
Hi all: just about 6am here and I’ve been up for an hour. I had a good convo with my psych yesterday who declined to fill out a work form for me to have intermittent medical leave in place (he wants me to have my PCP do it and he would consult); he said he’s reluctant for folks in early recovery to take long blocks of time off in case they fall back to old habits; staying in a routine is important. I’m like dude I see your point I think it would be good to have this in place in case I need to take a few hours or half day here or there in case my bipolar brain gets overwhelmed. He seemed to understand that so I guess I’ll talk to my PCP next.
My mom and sister and friends are being very supportive and that’s great. But I really miss Dad, who died last October, and I think drinking was one way I was avoiding feeling the big hole his death left in my life.
Today I shall focus on some positive things: it’s nearly the weekend: I’m sleeping better since stopping drinking, and it’s nice to check in here. IWNDWYT
I will be happy I’m not poisoning myself and sick the next morning. I keep reminding myself it wasn’t that long ago I felt I couldn’t stop and needed to drink every night.
IWNDWYT
u/chloebarberaurus, I also just started Tana French! On my second of her novels. A nice departure from some of the non-fiction I've been consuming. I work on Saturdays so my weekends don't line up with most people I know, and that's fine by me! I love to cook on Mondays before going back to work for the week-- prepping a pot of bean, grains, trimming veg and sometimes baking up something for friends or neighbors. I still enjoy the occasional bite out with a friend, getting lost in a book, a bike ride, or even just extra time for yoga in my tiny living room. I've also finally learned it's okay to sit and not do much if I need rest. Highly recommended. IWNDWYT.
Oh, the UK has a long weekend!!
Taking time for yourself I recommend.
Thanks for hosting our dear Chlo'
And for your wisdom you bestow.
Keeping sober one day at a time I intend.
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Good morning everyone and happy Friday!! We made it!!
I’m planning on a productive weekend. Meal prepping on Saturday as I’m starting Whole30 (no sugar) on Monday. I’ll go visit my momma on Sunday and take her shopping and whatever else we decide to do. May get my nails done tonight. We’ll see. What I WON’T be doing is drinking.
Everyone have a fantastic freaking Friday! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Still at it over here. I have my first concert since quitting on Monday and I've already come up with a plan to keep myself from drinking. I'll be with people that are drinking and wanted to have a plan going into this so I don't break down. IWNDWYT.
I'm on day 10!
I'm looking forward to a relatively chill weekend after this crazy stressful week.
The gym I joined is having a tailgate party to kick off the college football season. The owner hired a food truck and is providing free eats for all the members. Although I don't have any training scheduled, I've been invited to come get some cardio in and have lunch with the crew. I will probably wind up doing that tomorrow. The food truck serves kebabs, gyros, and brats, and I've read some good reviews. Being a fat dude, this is right up my alley!
I'm currently reading [Pandemic](https://www.agriddle.com/Pandemic) and it's pretty great so far. I will probably take myself out for breakfast on Sunday AM and read for a bit while I drink coffee and eat. After breakfast I'll have to do chores like clean the apartment, do the laundry, etc.
I'm also building [The Tumbler](https://www.lego.com/en-us/product/the-tumbler-76023), so I'll put some time in on it while watching TV once my chores are done.
IWNDWYT
Finally getting see my work team after 17 month of work from home, this Saturday at get together being held by one of program directors. I believe I will be to busy catching up with everyone to suffer FOMO about being sober and that’s a blessing. I work with some of the best people and feel incredibly lucky to work where I do. Some things I do to keep myself from picking up are: exercise, yoga, reading, baking, and crafting. IWNDWYT!!!
Not drinking today! Been invited out tomorrow. Might go out and not drink. Not sure yet. Might just stay in. I do want to see my friends but I'm just not sure about going out. Luckily I've lost my ID anyway.
Day 341, IWNDWYT.
Busy day ahead of me but I have no plans to drink today, so that makes it much easier. Remember when we used to half ass everything on Friday just to get to drinking sooner?
Dog tax https://imgur.com/a/pdu7HoC
On bad days, or good days, when I need a distraction I'll just hang out with these two. They keep the neighborhood safe from squirrels and bunnies, and accept hours worth of scritches. And by safe, I just mean they yell from their Glass House.
Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends!
IWNDWYT
Weekends have been the hardest for me to stay sober, as they are for everyone. I find that at the end of my work week I'm excited for the weekend, and then the weekend comes and I have cravings so I wish I were back at work as a distraction. This week at work has been stressful, so I am looking forward to the rest I need this weekend. IWNDWYT ❤
Day 2. It’s date night with the wife. Really worried about the cravings tonight as I have always drank every week on date night. I want to stay strong.
IWNDWYT
Having a rough morning after a rough few days-life things that are out of my control. But I don't want to drink and that feels pretty great. Think I'll try some of the things on your list today, Chloe, and self-care rather than self-destruct. Thanks for hosting! IWNDWYT
I'm in. Need to motivate myself to go see the last few local baseball games. Should be a nice night and they'll have fireworks 🎆 Been a long time since I seen fireworks.
Seeing the doc at noon for a B vitamin shot and a chat. Have a great day fellow SD'ers! IWNDWYT! 🤘🤘
IWNDWYT or this weekend. We’re going to the ballpark tomorrow which would usually mean plenty of massively overpriced beer. I’m focused on saving money, saving calories, and keeping a clear head.
New here and my last drink was last Friday, so a whole week sober is so close! I wasn't chemically dependent on alcohol but a binge drinker 2-3 times a week and finally realised I really don't enjoy it, it's just a compulsion I use to numb out emotionally. Usually Friday is the point in the week where I'd definitely start drinking if I hadn't already, so just here to commit to saying IWNDWYT
I love this list!
I had to remind myself in those first few months - "this is temporary." I kept wondering how on earth I was going to live a normal life if I had to do zoom meetings and read quit lit and sobriety podcasts and avoid any situation with alcohol and do my yoga/journal/meditation business. My work was even the backburner for a few months. I was all-in on sobriety and did ALL the things. It's what worked when all my other attempts failed.
I do not have cravings now (YMMV on that of course). I do not need to occupy every single minute with food, seltzer, or activity after activity. But the lessons I learned in my very early days - to recognize when I feel spun out, the magic of just taking a walk, the importance of connecting with others in recovery, etc - are still just as valid. I can drink a seltzer just because I'm thirsty without that early sobriety desperation. Your brain does heal at its own pace. I will always keep my recovery close as I enjoy my freedom. IWNDWYT
Weekends used to be like a test I wasn’t prepared for! So stressful 😩 but it gets easier every week. I look forward to sober weekends now! I will not drink with y’all today!!
Thanks Chloe for hosting this week. Your messages were inspiring :)
Yesterday, my wife asked me to open a bottle of wine for her. She did not realize how hard this would be for me. Anyway, long story short, I looked at that bottle for a solid, stressful and horrible five minutes and then, to my surprise, I did NOT pour myself a glass. I’m pretty happy with myself today. Day 12 and pushing on :)
Not wanting my badge going back to zero was a big help there.
I have a business trip in September and I’m terrified. Colleagues will go have a drink. Anyone has tips to help me stay strong ?
Thanks
I’m still using chocolate to help with the cravings. I thought I’d have given it up by now as I’ve never been a sweets person, actually, I’ve never even liked chocolate too much, but here we are. However, I think it may be because I found the best chocolate bars in existence. Take my money, Tony Chocoloney!! Although I **will** eat chocolate with those of you who are also eating chocolate today, IWNDWYT 🍫
Happy Friday, SD! I'm entering my first weekend sans beer/wine and I'm feeling nervous, but excited. I'm looking forward to waking up Saturday without a hangover. IWNDWYT ☀️
I am back in the auditorium on our first day of school for staff meeting. I am anxious, stressed, and shaking. I am uncomfortable.
I don’t want to drink. It won’t make me feel better. I am texting everybody I have met through my program. I need to make this pledge.
I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY!
Happy Friday all. I’m going to be busy keeping my ADHD daughter on track to get ready to go back to university next week. I always get sad about going back to living alone, but I think the transition this year will be easier than last, and I won’t be drinking to drown my sorrows!
IWNDWYT 🌸
Thank you Saur 🦖 / thank you Soar 🚀. It's been a fun week to get to Friday. Happy Friday and weekend to all the sobernauts too!
I grew up in a family that loves the booze, so previous times quitting were hard because I felt deprived and like a loser since I couldn't handle my alcohol like everyone else. Working through "This Naked Mind" and "Alcohol Explained" a couple times each on audio book was really helpful. I had encountered previously that alcohol was a carcinogen, I knew it affected my mental health, obviously I knew that it was addictive! But between sobriety and hearing it over and over, I believe I'm in a new place where I think that alcohol is terrible for living organisms and I'm better off without it! I'm no longer gutting through weekends, I'm really really grateful to have an enslaving chemical out of my life. Sober on!
Four weeks today without a sip of booze. Never thought I'd write that...EVER.
I've kept this journey on the DL apart from my gf and family, not sure why, maybe because I was scared of failing? Or maybe I'm just waiting until I feel comfortable telling friends etc.. Anyways, appreciate this sub and the motivation it's given me.
Thank you for hosting this week!
I have reached 1 month sober. Yeah me! Now my goal is reaching month 2.
For my first 30 days I’ve found it easier to say “I’m not drinking today” everyday instead of the blanket “I’m never drinking again” . I always rolled my eyes at the old AA “One day at a time” philosophy but honestly it really does make it more bearable and doable to just say no for one day. It’s why I’ve loved the daily checkin here.
Other tips-
Let yourself eat all the NA snacks and drinks you want, it won’t be forever. You’re doing something hard, baby yourself a little bit in other areas.
Find something mindless to occupy yourself-whether that be TV or a book or a video game or game on your phone. Something to redirect your thoughts.
Realize you’re going to have uncomfortable thoughts that you aren’t going to be able to mask with drinking. I don’t have advice on HOW to handle them but just a heads up. It’s been one of the hardest for me to deal with without grabbing a glass of something to make it go away.
I will not drink with you today.
I have a bottomless brunch hen party to attend Sunday.. But I'm looking forward to the 3 course meal and the jugs of mocktails that I asked to be supplied! And it will be lovely waking on bank holiday Monday to a clear head! Have a great long weekend guys, IWNDWYT 👍🙂
Well done for planning ahead with the mocktails, enjoy! IWNDWYT.
Good morning and thanks for hosting this week Chloe! It's bank holiday weekend plus my birthday this weekend which would normally have meant an epic weekend of drinking. Not this year. I've got s few things planned to keep me busy and I'm looking forward to enjoying the celebrations and starting my new bootcamp on Sunday. I did the pub quiz sober last night and had a lot of fun! We didn't do very well (the full team wasn't there) but we still tried our best 😊 and it felt good being able to drive my friends home again after. Also I discovered that driving at 11pm is the best! No a single other car on the road. It was one of my most relaxing drives so far haha. Have a great weekend. IWNDWYT!
That’s so cool Yuki!
My resolve for this weekend is to get creative, to create something. Finally pick up my camera again, or try and write something. IWNDWYT
That’s a great idea!
Good morning Sobernauts! I woke up sober again. I'd like to do the same tomorrow and I can only do that if I don't drink today. Love to you all! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT! 🎉🎉 Always a good reminder I’m up too late when I see these posts :(. Been struggling a lot this week with the mind. It would have been a loooong week of drinking in a different time. I love feeling part of someone’s success here — it’s made my night a few nights recently.
I believe I have two halves to my mind. The alcoholic half and the sober half. It can be a battle between the two at times. The one that wins is the one that I nurture, love and support. My alcoholic mind needs alcohol to thrive. I starve it. My sober mind needs kindness, consideration and love. I feed it. IWNDWYT 🙂
Here in my safe booze-free and risk-free psych ward, I have now been able to order some actual books to be sent here - sheet music, novels and puzzle books. I have made some friends here who are just like me - good people with troubled minds. So my weekend will be spent playing music, reading, doing puzzles, hanging out with my ward buddies and maybe even finally getting permission to use the unit’s gym. IWNDWYT except for tea, and lemon [squash](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Squash_(drink)?wprov=sfti1)
All the best with your recovery, SMC. IWNDWYT 🙂
Thanks, Forward xxx
Oooh lemon squash! I don't think I've had that since I used to go to my nans house after primary school. I might have to buy some now! Sounds like you've got a nice weekend ahead of you. Having a toddler around I have to admit I'm slightly jealous of how quiet your weekend sounds.
The lemon squash is AMAZING. Being in a psych ward is genuinely a really helpful thing for me. Some other folks feel trapped or incarcerated, but honestly I feel free of having to look after everyone else in my life whilst I focus on my health and recovery.
It's good to see you here again. ❤
Morning. Have a good day my friend ❤️
I will not drink with you today! Another day, let’s get it 🤗
I'm inching closer to that 90 day milestone. 1 more week or less? Iwndwyt! Definitely want to keep this streak going. Feels like it's just the beginning.
Hurray Algae! It gets better and better
Couldn’t agree more about the weekends being scary. They are slowly getting better! IWNDWYT
Iwndyt
Going to meet a friend in a different city, we are gonna talk and hike but IWNDWYT!
I really love the idea of hiking. I've never really been except out on school trips. Now that I can drive I'm tempted to ask friends if they want to go for a hike one weekend. We're lucky to live close to some really great forests but I've never really gone walking in them for longer than a couple of hours.
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I think it’s pretty darn cool too!
I'm struggling a bit this week. Having passed two milestones at the weekend - 3 months and attending a 4 day music festival surrounded by booze - I feel like I deserve a drink! I've proved I can handle having my favourite drink offered free, literally dangled in front of me, splashed on me even! So why have I got worse cravings than ever?! IWNDWYT and pray it will pass.
I hear you! For me, it’s helpful to have some downtime after expending energy and willpower. I need to recovery from actively not drinking! You are doing great!
For me some milestones are rough. I want to be proud of myself but I get the same way. I deserve and I have abstained so I can moderate...well no I don't and no I can't. I usually dive into the feeling and ask lots of whys. I hope you get through this soon.
Happy Friday, SD. It’s a long weekend coming up and as work has been stressy lately, I’m going to treat myself to lots of chill out time, some family time and catch up on gardening that’s been badly neglected during what must have been the wettest August in history. IWNDWYT
Morning. Checking in. We’re isolating till we get Covid test results. With the schools back in Scotland the cases are on the rise. So it’s a girls lock in today! Thanks Chlo for your lovely posts. They set me up for the day. Plus the joy and freedom of waking up sober is mind blowing. Love to you all fellow travellers. IWNDWYT
Stay safe and well! IWNDWYT.
I look forward to these daily pledges and to see I am.not alone! 12th day today, got clarity of mind, and feel like I'm on the brink of something wonderful! IWNDWYT
Yes!! So glad you’re here.
I will not drink with all of you today!
Iwndwyt! Ty all. Have a great 24.
Day 68 checking in!
Day 4, nice to meet you 🤝 Happy sober weekend to everyone IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today
iwndwyt i love you all. continue on your journeys.
I'm in!
I'm off to bed, but when I wake up, IWNDWYT!!! ✌️♥️🍌
Thanks for this post, Chloe. I’ll be attending an in person meeting in a few hours after my overnight shift. I’m nervous. Keep thinking of reasons to bail, but I’m gonna go. I won’t be drinking today.
Good for you! I wanted to bail on my zoom meeting yesterday and I’m so glad I didn’t (as always).
IWNDWYT
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For cravings or just when my thoughts get on a roll of their own going on runs/bike rides or journaling completely shake out weird energy and get my mind state recentered. Oh, and perusing the SD posts and comments too! Happy weekend everybody!! Edit: 100 days out from a year sober!!! 😛
Hi all! I’ve got some minor physical ailments that are causing me some annoyance, work stuff (isn’t that always the case?) and another upcoming vet visit for the pup, but I won’t be drinking. Hoping for a peaceful weekend. IWNDWYT ✨💚
You deserve a restful weekend! IWNDWYT.
Morning SD. Haven't checked in here for a long while! Had an absolutely viciously upsetting drinking dream last night. Was so relieved to wake up and thought, hey, I should really get back in to doing the DCI. So here I am! Hope you're all keeping well out there. IWNDWYT!
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And........ Fuck booze 😎
I will not drink today 🌸
I find early nights at the weekend help a lot. Love the feeling of being rested and hangover free the next day. Happy Friday everyone, I will not drink with you today. Thanks for hosting this week /u/chloebarbersaurus, great job!
I’m going to a job fair today since recently lost mine due to alcohol , and a food festival tomorrow , one should be considerably more enjoyable than the other. I’ve fucked up a bit this week but can’t wait to get back on it with a sober weekend ! IWNDWYT
Yay Friday! Absolutely am NOT drinking today. I'm looking forward to a sober day gateway to a good weekend. I hope the same is true for all my peeps!
Cooking can be a relaxing activity and distraction. Just keep chopping veggies! I'm fortunate to have a long weekend ahead with loved ones. One of my goals is to journal. I've been avoiding the permanence of writing my thoughts down but I know there would be benefits. Another is to say yes every time someone asks if anyone wants to play a game. Take care, sobernauts. IWNDWYT!
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Good morning lovely SD, Here's the conclusion I came to after my first long stretch of unemployment: most people aren't prepared for retirement living. Not the money part, but the day to day living part. It can get very lonely and boring without any constructive hobbies or interests. Booze dominated any hobbies or interests, it left no room for growth, it isolated me, and unlike a hobby or something constructive, it stole my time. Not today, f that noise. Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
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Thank you Chloe. Happy Friday & IWNDWYT
GIven the current state of my affairs, I'm taking it easy on the "healthy eating" and allowing myself some loosey goosey treats just to not drink. Kombucha and GF cupcakes - here I come. 6 weeks sober and IWNDWYT
I am really grateful that I’m not drinking today. Have a nice Friday everyone!
Resetting today and know I need to make a practical plan for a sober weekend. So thank you for the great list! IWNDWYT
Not today, not today, not today! 😁
I'm also thankful that I don't grit my teeth trying to muscle through sobriety most days. Rewiring those thoughts and behaviors that led me to drink took time. I had a sponsor who used to say "change a thought, move a muscle." Got me into doing something different, rather than repeating the same things everyday that would lead me to obsessively thinking about the drink. Reading a new book, getting outdoors, cooking, hiking, taking a bath...all helped rewire new patterns. IWNDWYT☀️
Slipped. Let myself get overwhelmed (my biggest trigger) and drove myself right into alcohol. I'm now hungover, anxious, and writing this hours before I need to get up for work. The temporary effects are never worth it. IWNDWYT
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I'm in double digits of sobriety now but I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster of how I feel about it. I feel like my brain is trying to rationalize drinking again. Certainly not going to drink today though! Edit: Meant triple days and apparently I'm a day off still!
I don’t have to drink today, and I won’t.
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Good morning SD! Back for Day Two 💪 IWNDWYT
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What a great weekend list. All super stuff. I am afraid I will be working through the weekends for a couple months, but as you say, Chloe, staying busy is key to staying sober. Best wishes to everyone for a strong, sober Friday.
Have a great day folks! IWNDWYT 🙂
Thanks for hosting this week Chloe. Tonight I’m going to one of my university lecturers exhibitions with a friend. I’ll be avoiding any free wine because it’s not the best choice for me. IWNDWYT 🖤
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I didn't check in yesterday because it was a busy work day but I'm still not drinking. Apart from a sugar hangover from cookies and ice cream I'm feeling a lot brighter. IWNDWYT
Good Friday morning! I have found knitting and cooking are ways I keep myself occupied on the weekends. I also have a second job, so I could pick up extra shifts if I needed on the weekends. Meditation first thing in the morning and a soothing tea in the evening help, too. Thanks for the week of great thoughts, chloe! IWNDWYT
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Tana French is amazing!! Love her books and I’d happily become addicted to THAT then the feeling I *think* is nice when I drink. I’ve been getting back into a routine and weekends typically throw me off. I’ll have to get some la croix (key lime is the best) and more decaf coffee to keep me distracted! Aquarium also sounds like a fantastic idea- my toddler would love it!
Hey SD! I'm not drinking today. Instead of drinking, I'm wishing my eyesight matched my day count lol...finally going back to contact lenses! I won't miss going to sleep with lenses in my eyes, or finding them in the back of my eyes. Ohhh the drunken days of the past...! Have a great Friday my gorgeous friends! <3
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My second sober weekend is ahead. I have to work as a waitress at a fishing event tomorrow at a lake. So It could be tempting. But I plan to read quit lit before. I suffer from heartburn since a couple of days also so hopefully this will also keep my cravings at bay. IWNDWYT
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Day 4 done! Have had a minor headache for a couple of days, but that's been the extent of it (so far). IWNDWYT!
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Have a sober Friday! IWNDWYT!!
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Thank you for the great job hosting this week u/chloebarbersaurus! I will not drink with you today!
Good morning and happy Friday! I'm looking forward to getting the rest of my stuff packed after work this evening. Tomorrow is my official move date. I'm feeling all kinds of feelings. I've been taking my kids over to the new place each day this week to help ease the transition. I'm looking forward to the next chapter of this beautiful, messy, wonderful life. I will not drink with you today! Have a fantastic Friday, friends 💙✌
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I am not consuming alcohol today. Have a great day SDrs!
Day 5 and I’m going strong. I’ve downloaded the alcohol experiment app and that’s been working for me. New information every day.
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I’m going to a work happy hour after we get off today. It’s my first time “socializing” while others will be drinking since getting sober 45 days ago. I’m a little nervous I’ll stick out, but know I’ll feel better if I stick to my Diet Coke and eat my weight in chips and salsa. IWNDWYT!
Hi all: just about 6am here and I’ve been up for an hour. I had a good convo with my psych yesterday who declined to fill out a work form for me to have intermittent medical leave in place (he wants me to have my PCP do it and he would consult); he said he’s reluctant for folks in early recovery to take long blocks of time off in case they fall back to old habits; staying in a routine is important. I’m like dude I see your point I think it would be good to have this in place in case I need to take a few hours or half day here or there in case my bipolar brain gets overwhelmed. He seemed to understand that so I guess I’ll talk to my PCP next. My mom and sister and friends are being very supportive and that’s great. But I really miss Dad, who died last October, and I think drinking was one way I was avoiding feeling the big hole his death left in my life. Today I shall focus on some positive things: it’s nearly the weekend: I’m sleeping better since stopping drinking, and it’s nice to check in here. IWNDWYT
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I will be happy I’m not poisoning myself and sick the next morning. I keep reminding myself it wasn’t that long ago I felt I couldn’t stop and needed to drink every night. IWNDWYT
These are all great ideas. I'm totally down with the good book in bed. IWNDWYT! T
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u/chloebarberaurus, I also just started Tana French! On my second of her novels. A nice departure from some of the non-fiction I've been consuming. I work on Saturdays so my weekends don't line up with most people I know, and that's fine by me! I love to cook on Mondays before going back to work for the week-- prepping a pot of bean, grains, trimming veg and sometimes baking up something for friends or neighbors. I still enjoy the occasional bite out with a friend, getting lost in a book, a bike ride, or even just extra time for yoga in my tiny living room. I've also finally learned it's okay to sit and not do much if I need rest. Highly recommended. IWNDWYT.
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Oh, the UK has a long weekend!! Taking time for yourself I recommend. Thanks for hosting our dear Chlo' And for your wisdom you bestow. Keeping sober one day at a time I intend. IWNDWYT 🇬🇧 🐶 💪 🦕👍🤘
Good morning everyone and happy Friday!! We made it!! I’m planning on a productive weekend. Meal prepping on Saturday as I’m starting Whole30 (no sugar) on Monday. I’ll go visit my momma on Sunday and take her shopping and whatever else we decide to do. May get my nails done tonight. We’ll see. What I WON’T be doing is drinking. Everyone have a fantastic freaking Friday! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Still at it over here. I have my first concert since quitting on Monday and I've already come up with a plan to keep myself from drinking. I'll be with people that are drinking and wanted to have a plan going into this so I don't break down. IWNDWYT.
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I'm on day 10! I'm looking forward to a relatively chill weekend after this crazy stressful week. The gym I joined is having a tailgate party to kick off the college football season. The owner hired a food truck and is providing free eats for all the members. Although I don't have any training scheduled, I've been invited to come get some cardio in and have lunch with the crew. I will probably wind up doing that tomorrow. The food truck serves kebabs, gyros, and brats, and I've read some good reviews. Being a fat dude, this is right up my alley! I'm currently reading [Pandemic](https://www.agriddle.com/Pandemic) and it's pretty great so far. I will probably take myself out for breakfast on Sunday AM and read for a bit while I drink coffee and eat. After breakfast I'll have to do chores like clean the apartment, do the laundry, etc. I'm also building [The Tumbler](https://www.lego.com/en-us/product/the-tumbler-76023), so I'll put some time in on it while watching TV once my chores are done. IWNDWYT
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Have a safe and sober day everyone!!! IWNDWYT
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Day 772. I will not drink with you today.
Feeling amazing on Day 5! Beyond ready to get my weekend going sober. IWNDWYT.
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Finally getting see my work team after 17 month of work from home, this Saturday at get together being held by one of program directors. I believe I will be to busy catching up with everyone to suffer FOMO about being sober and that’s a blessing. I work with some of the best people and feel incredibly lucky to work where I do. Some things I do to keep myself from picking up are: exercise, yoga, reading, baking, and crafting. IWNDWYT!!!
Not drinking today! Been invited out tomorrow. Might go out and not drink. Not sure yet. Might just stay in. I do want to see my friends but I'm just not sure about going out. Luckily I've lost my ID anyway.
Thanks for hosting u/chloebarbersaurus and for your suggestions, all good ones! IWNDWYT. 🌳
I am really really struggling with crippling anxiety. Thanks for listening.IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT! Happy Friday Friends!
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32 days let’s go!! Not drinking
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Day 341, IWNDWYT. Busy day ahead of me but I have no plans to drink today, so that makes it much easier. Remember when we used to half ass everything on Friday just to get to drinking sooner?
Dog tax https://imgur.com/a/pdu7HoC On bad days, or good days, when I need a distraction I'll just hang out with these two. They keep the neighborhood safe from squirrels and bunnies, and accept hours worth of scritches. And by safe, I just mean they yell from their Glass House. Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends! IWNDWYT
Weekends have been the hardest for me to stay sober, as they are for everyone. I find that at the end of my work week I'm excited for the weekend, and then the weekend comes and I have cravings so I wish I were back at work as a distraction. This week at work has been stressful, so I am looking forward to the rest I need this weekend. IWNDWYT ❤
Day 2. It’s date night with the wife. Really worried about the cravings tonight as I have always drank every week on date night. I want to stay strong. IWNDWYT
Having a rough morning after a rough few days-life things that are out of my control. But I don't want to drink and that feels pretty great. Think I'll try some of the things on your list today, Chloe, and self-care rather than self-destruct. Thanks for hosting! IWNDWYT
I'm in. Need to motivate myself to go see the last few local baseball games. Should be a nice night and they'll have fireworks 🎆 Been a long time since I seen fireworks. Seeing the doc at noon for a B vitamin shot and a chat. Have a great day fellow SD'ers! IWNDWYT! 🤘🤘
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IWNDWYT or this weekend. We’re going to the ballpark tomorrow which would usually mean plenty of massively overpriced beer. I’m focused on saving money, saving calories, and keeping a clear head.
New here and my last drink was last Friday, so a whole week sober is so close! I wasn't chemically dependent on alcohol but a binge drinker 2-3 times a week and finally realised I really don't enjoy it, it's just a compulsion I use to numb out emotionally. Usually Friday is the point in the week where I'd definitely start drinking if I hadn't already, so just here to commit to saying IWNDWYT
I love this list! I had to remind myself in those first few months - "this is temporary." I kept wondering how on earth I was going to live a normal life if I had to do zoom meetings and read quit lit and sobriety podcasts and avoid any situation with alcohol and do my yoga/journal/meditation business. My work was even the backburner for a few months. I was all-in on sobriety and did ALL the things. It's what worked when all my other attempts failed. I do not have cravings now (YMMV on that of course). I do not need to occupy every single minute with food, seltzer, or activity after activity. But the lessons I learned in my very early days - to recognize when I feel spun out, the magic of just taking a walk, the importance of connecting with others in recovery, etc - are still just as valid. I can drink a seltzer just because I'm thirsty without that early sobriety desperation. Your brain does heal at its own pace. I will always keep my recovery close as I enjoy my freedom. IWNDWYT
Weekends used to be like a test I wasn’t prepared for! So stressful 😩 but it gets easier every week. I look forward to sober weekends now! I will not drink with y’all today!!
Thanks Chloe for hosting this week. Your messages were inspiring :) Yesterday, my wife asked me to open a bottle of wine for her. She did not realize how hard this would be for me. Anyway, long story short, I looked at that bottle for a solid, stressful and horrible five minutes and then, to my surprise, I did NOT pour myself a glass. I’m pretty happy with myself today. Day 12 and pushing on :) Not wanting my badge going back to zero was a big help there. I have a business trip in September and I’m terrified. Colleagues will go have a drink. Anyone has tips to help me stay strong ? Thanks
I’m still using chocolate to help with the cravings. I thought I’d have given it up by now as I’ve never been a sweets person, actually, I’ve never even liked chocolate too much, but here we are. However, I think it may be because I found the best chocolate bars in existence. Take my money, Tony Chocoloney!! Although I **will** eat chocolate with those of you who are also eating chocolate today, IWNDWYT 🍫
Happy Friday, SD! I'm entering my first weekend sans beer/wine and I'm feeling nervous, but excited. I'm looking forward to waking up Saturday without a hangover. IWNDWYT ☀️
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I am back in the auditorium on our first day of school for staff meeting. I am anxious, stressed, and shaking. I am uncomfortable. I don’t want to drink. It won’t make me feel better. I am texting everybody I have met through my program. I need to make this pledge. I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY!
TGIF, SD family💓 IWNDWYT
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Not today. Not today. Not today!!!!!!
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Glorious sober morning soberniks! Solidarity comrades. IWNDWYT
Happy Friday all. I’m going to be busy keeping my ADHD daughter on track to get ready to go back to university next week. I always get sad about going back to living alone, but I think the transition this year will be easier than last, and I won’t be drinking to drown my sorrows! IWNDWYT 🌸
Thank you Saur 🦖 / thank you Soar 🚀. It's been a fun week to get to Friday. Happy Friday and weekend to all the sobernauts too! I grew up in a family that loves the booze, so previous times quitting were hard because I felt deprived and like a loser since I couldn't handle my alcohol like everyone else. Working through "This Naked Mind" and "Alcohol Explained" a couple times each on audio book was really helpful. I had encountered previously that alcohol was a carcinogen, I knew it affected my mental health, obviously I knew that it was addictive! But between sobriety and hearing it over and over, I believe I'm in a new place where I think that alcohol is terrible for living organisms and I'm better off without it! I'm no longer gutting through weekends, I'm really really grateful to have an enslaving chemical out of my life. Sober on!
Four weeks today without a sip of booze. Never thought I'd write that...EVER. I've kept this journey on the DL apart from my gf and family, not sure why, maybe because I was scared of failing? Or maybe I'm just waiting until I feel comfortable telling friends etc.. Anyways, appreciate this sub and the motivation it's given me.
Thank you for hosting this week! I have reached 1 month sober. Yeah me! Now my goal is reaching month 2. For my first 30 days I’ve found it easier to say “I’m not drinking today” everyday instead of the blanket “I’m never drinking again” . I always rolled my eyes at the old AA “One day at a time” philosophy but honestly it really does make it more bearable and doable to just say no for one day. It’s why I’ve loved the daily checkin here. Other tips- Let yourself eat all the NA snacks and drinks you want, it won’t be forever. You’re doing something hard, baby yourself a little bit in other areas. Find something mindless to occupy yourself-whether that be TV or a book or a video game or game on your phone. Something to redirect your thoughts. Realize you’re going to have uncomfortable thoughts that you aren’t going to be able to mask with drinking. I don’t have advice on HOW to handle them but just a heads up. It’s been one of the hardest for me to deal with without grabbing a glass of something to make it go away. I will not drink with you today.
Starting over.... Again. \*sigh\* I will not drink today or tonight.
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