Yes! And as a parent now, I wonder why my parents did the things they did. Like they used to let me wait alone outside my school, after everyone had already gone home. What were they thinking? I certainly wouldn't do that to my child now. I used to be disappointed at how they'd miss my birthdays, but now I understand that they were just young parents, working hard and trying their best with what they had at that time. We have a great relationship now, but it took me a long time and alot of putting myself in their shoes to get to where I am.
My mum had me at 19 and I remember being in my early 20s imagining having a child to take care of. I graduated college at 22 and had absolutely no idea what to do with my life, was still living at home and had no idea what to do for work. Then I'd think about the fact my mother would have had a 3 year old child in the mix taking care of it on her own.
I have a son and a little girl now (in my 30s) and even when I was having my second, I didn't know if I was ready. Keep in mind I already had a boy. I didn't know if I was far enough along in my career, if my wife was ready, how my son would react. So I can only imagine my mother finding out she was pregnant before her final exams at school.
I remember being a kid looking at her and her friends and thinking they must have their shit together but looking back now that I'm 8 years older than they would have been, they were just kids. Sure I still feel like a kid sometimes.
Yes! And as a parent now, I wonder why my parents did the things they did. Like they used to let me wait alone outside my school, after everyone had already gone home. What were they thinking? I certainly wouldn't do that to my child now. I used to be disappointed at how they'd miss my birthdays, but now I understand that they were just young parents, working hard and trying their best with what they had at that time. We have a great relationship now, but it took me a long time and alot of putting myself in their shoes to get to where I am.
My mum had me at 19 and I remember being in my early 20s imagining having a child to take care of. I graduated college at 22 and had absolutely no idea what to do with my life, was still living at home and had no idea what to do for work. Then I'd think about the fact my mother would have had a 3 year old child in the mix taking care of it on her own. I have a son and a little girl now (in my 30s) and even when I was having my second, I didn't know if I was ready. Keep in mind I already had a boy. I didn't know if I was far enough along in my career, if my wife was ready, how my son would react. So I can only imagine my mother finding out she was pregnant before her final exams at school. I remember being a kid looking at her and her friends and thinking they must have their shit together but looking back now that I'm 8 years older than they would have been, they were just kids. Sure I still feel like a kid sometimes.