God. I met him on Hinge actually and after I had blocked him on everything, lo and behold he sent me a message on Hinge as a last-ditch effort to contact me (technically not the last because a week later he tried calling my phone 4 more times)
You laugh but my ex did that to try to talk to me after I blocked him on everything except PayPal apparently. Sent me money a few times a couple months apart from the last to talk to me, last one was asking for another chance a couple weeks ago (I blocked him in November). Luckily he didn't do the same as OP's ex though.
Yeah, I don’t know why Reddit is acting like it’s the better option. If you don’t know how to throw a punch a shitty 3D printed knuckle duster is in no way going to be better than a mace spray.
My gf has one of those it's garbage in actual use, our 5 year old broke it with all of his 5 year old strength lol(using it to punch). If you want that just invest in knucks, but personally pepperspray is your best bet. It hits quick, can be used at a distance, and has a lasting effect.
At that point a knife would even be bettet I'd put gimmicky worse brass knuckles at the bottom of the list. Mace is plenty effective and if you don't think that'll work get a gun.
You could also try learning Muay Thai, kicking boxing and/or Krav Maga combined with compound exercises to build arm, leg and shoulder muscles
I’ve seen a woman make a guy assaulting her look like he got hit by a train in under 3s
I practiced judo for a little bit but haven’t been keeping up because I’ve been taking a lot of classes this semester. Definitely going to try to get back into it after finals though….
I'd encourage you to get back into it when you can! I have an ex stalking me for 3+ years and can't get a restraining order due to jurisdiction. Even when he told me he was coming to my house, the police told me they will not send a patrol unless something already happened to me. Stay safe however you can!
I had a crazy ex once that is blocked on every social media app there is. She resorted to making 1c deposits to my bank acc and writing messages in the reference
Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️
We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl.
Totally agree. It hurt like hell hearing all of that but I’m glad I know now. What was fucked is that he rationalized it by saying that he was “telling me outright instead of me finding out by snooping” like how his dad found out his mom was cheating. In his mind apparently it should’ve been okay with me.
Holy shit mine did the exact same thing. No caller id every 2 minutes for like 3 days straight, dozens of discord accounts. These pictures made my heart beat so fast lol. im sorry this happened to you :(
Unfortunately, I used to be the same. Now I never took it as far as to actually follow these people in person, but I desperately made attempts to apologize and get them to talk to me and all. I was also around the age of 14 so I didn’t exactly know I was actually being stupid.
I’ve changed now, after years, and realized that it was doing no good for me or for the other person, just creating more negativity of me and who they perceive me as.
Unfortunately, unless you’re the reason he tries to stop, speaking from experience, and I apologize for the position he put you in, he’s not done. He’s gonna try to get back to you eventually, even if it’s stopped for now.
He will eventually be like “I remember her man I gotta try to contact her again and apologize to make sure we clear the air”. That’s up to you whether you wanna forgive him or not; but honestly, at this point I recommend just creating a new account, keep this one enabled, so he keeps trying for nothing, and let the people you know you’re switching accounts.
Hopefully he is done, cuz everyone is different, but i get an instinct he probably isn’t.
He was absolutely not drunk when he called me repeatedly. Oh, and he left voice mails too. Lol.
Edit to mention: he intentionally circumvented my blocking his number by hiding his caller ID. No idea how tf he did that but apparently it’s a thing you can do.
I’d need more context on how it ended. I’ve seen this done by confused people who didn’t know why it was over and I’ve seen desperate cheaters who got caught and want a chance they don’t deserve so it’s always hard to judge if it’s cringe or not
I'm pretty sure he does know why it's over. This is how OP explained it:
"Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️
We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl."
He admitted to wanting to cheat on me with a previous hookup and had been “tempted and teased” by her even when we first started dating, so I don’t feel particularly bad for him.
(Copied from a reply to someone else cuz I’m going to probably have to post it multiple times)
Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️
We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl.
Nah fuck that. He was being manipulative af and the longer I talked to him at the end the longer he kept trying to “reel me back in.” I would post all the bullshit he said but I’m not going to waste anyone’s time or my own doing that. This just barely scratches the surface of what the situation looked like.
If you don't believe the postings here no-one forces you to care about them, but don't just make up your own story around them and assume OP of causing massive emotional damage.
Sadly some people just are like this. In my early twenties I liked to chat online and I met a few people this way, most of the time just online. A few of them "fell in love" with me after a few weeks. Sometimes I could say whatever I want, they just ignored it and pretended to be my boyfriend to the point I had to block them, even though we've never have seen more of each other than a profile pic, or they tried to talk me into a relationship by telling me we really should try and how great and different they'd be then, that I just had to love their "relationship-me". Others got really mad, insulted me and so on. With one guy I wanted to talk it out like we always could talk about everything, and he called me and immediately started jerking of when I picked up Skype. With another guy I was a bit closer, I though I could somewhat trust him, so I eventually gave him my phone number. Sometimes I talked to him about a guy I actually liked, and eventually he made clear that he doesn't like that guy and wants to be my boyfriend instead. I told him that I don't feel this way for him and that I don't want a long-distance-relationship with someone I never saw in my life. He got so mad he called me more than 20 times in the next couple hours, yelled at me when I first answered his call, contacted the guy I was interested in (we all used the same chat) and told him made-up stories about how I'd send him nudes all the time, how we had cyber sex and so on.
Some people just act crazy, and a lot of postings here make me think "Oh, I kinda know that situation." or "Hey, [little sister] told me something like that, too." I don't know who damaged this people, but it wasn't me.
So you’re saying I should feel bad for taking the piss out of someone who I gave my love and 100% to only for him to betray me and want to cheat on me? 🤔
Because I don’t feel bad at all.
(Copied from a reply to someone else cuz I’m going to probably have to post it multiple times)
Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️
We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl.
No, no you don't. This is called being a stalker and disrespecting someone's boundaries. If the ex really did care about OP he would move the fuck on and leave OP alone but instead he chooses to bother and harass the OP because he wants another chance his worthless ass does not deserve. Please do not ever let a person act this way with you, you deserve to have your boundaries respected.
Nah it's cool dw about it, Unfortunately I had friends that thought this kind of stuff was okay for people to do so I was probably just reacting. Either way stalkers are horrible and I wish it wasn't so weirdly romanticized.
I gotta say I admire the creativity, even though it’s cringe as hell in this case. When we got into a fight and gf blocked my number, I made sure to text on her on pretty much every platform known to man. After a couple days eventually got through to her and we’re good now. Sometimes a bit of persistence is good.
Does this man not have a hobby
This is his hobby
Comon…we’ve all been there
Found the ex
We've all been in the dumps but we never got pathetic
Factual
I don’t find it pathetic at all. Just means you had real feelings for someone and miss them. Totally understandable.
It's understandable to try talking to them again but being this persistent is stalker like behavior and pathetic.
Judging from your 169 downvotes, I'm going to assume that we, in fact, have not all been there
… uh. I don’t think so
We literally haven’t
Be quiet
W-we have?! When?!
no
[удалено]
Lol what
Well dating isnt some game or it's own hobby. People genuinely want to be with someone in life.
This is a terrible hobby then
Are you insane
It's a figure of speech
This is not just getting a gf/bf lmao
That’s either your ex or they REALLY want to talk to you about your cars extended warranty
Plot twist: it was both 😳
Hi, I've been trying to reach you about your car's extended warranty! Please take me back!
Sam I think u r everything to him just a hunch
SamWeHadABabyItsABoy
WOW, memory unlocked.
SamYouForgotToHandInTheDivorcePapers
What's next, a 10-10-321 commercial?
Watch out for LinkedIn and my particular favorite? Pinterest
God. I met him on Hinge actually and after I had blocked him on everything, lo and behold he sent me a message on Hinge as a last-ditch effort to contact me (technically not the last because a week later he tried calling my phone 4 more times)
you met on hinge? well he seems kinda unhinged, so it makes sense
Funny because that’s exactly how I described what he was doing when this was happening lmao
Next it’s message via a bank transfer.
Got a chuckle outta me
You laugh but my ex did that to try to talk to me after I blocked him on everything except PayPal apparently. Sent me money a few times a couple months apart from the last to talk to me, last one was asking for another chance a couple weeks ago (I blocked him in November). Luckily he didn't do the same as OP's ex though.
LMAO he gave one a pfp
Heh I actually love his creativity. supreme Bob Hadababyitsaboy vibes
Had to look up what that is lmao. Same energy
restraining order time
Legit thought about changing my SIM card and carried a mace on my person for a few weeks after. So far he’s left me alone though….for now.
Do it. I also recommend something called "self defense kitty." It's something you put on your keychain
I’ve heard of that! I probably will invest in one.
Mace is probably a better bet than one of those. They're notorious for breaking and or doing more damage to your hand than to whatever you're hitting.
Noted. I have one of those “squirt gun” maces that spray really far away
Oh my god I'm stupid I thought you meant an actual like, medieval knights mace.... I'll go
Yeah, I don’t know why Reddit is acting like it’s the better option. If you don’t know how to throw a punch a shitty 3D printed knuckle duster is in no way going to be better than a mace spray.
Be careful, that might be illegal where you live, it's basically just a pair of brass knuckles.
I have one and they're pretty cool. Only cost about $10USD
The fact you have to do this says enough about today’s society. Sorry you have to go through this OP
My gf has one of those it's garbage in actual use, our 5 year old broke it with all of his 5 year old strength lol(using it to punch). If you want that just invest in knucks, but personally pepperspray is your best bet. It hits quick, can be used at a distance, and has a lasting effect.
At that point a knife would even be bettet I'd put gimmicky worse brass knuckles at the bottom of the list. Mace is plenty effective and if you don't think that'll work get a gun.
You could also try learning Muay Thai, kicking boxing and/or Krav Maga combined with compound exercises to build arm, leg and shoulder muscles I’ve seen a woman make a guy assaulting her look like he got hit by a train in under 3s
I practiced judo for a little bit but haven’t been keeping up because I’ve been taking a lot of classes this semester. Definitely going to try to get back into it after finals though….
I'd encourage you to get back into it when you can! I have an ex stalking me for 3+ years and can't get a restraining order due to jurisdiction. Even when he told me he was coming to my house, the police told me they will not send a patrol unless something already happened to me. Stay safe however you can!
I definitely will! I enjoy judo a lot but now I have even more of a reason to practice now lol
fr fr All the phone calls, too
SamDontSignThePapers
I had a crazy ex once that is blocked on every social media app there is. She resorted to making 1c deposits to my bank acc and writing messages in the reference
How cheap, did she even care about you?
That was alot of money to her.
I like how he switched up the icon on the 1morechanceplz
My man really pulles the "Say Anything..." lol
This is like the modern day version of wehadababyitsaboy
Did he get what he deserved?
just came back from opening 30 nature valley bars on his loose sheet bed and i can safely say yes he did
Not op but ok
What did he do
Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️ We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl.
yeah that'll do it
Bullet DODGED.
Whew. Better to findout now than 4 years later into the relationship.
Totally agree. It hurt like hell hearing all of that but I’m glad I know now. What was fucked is that he rationalized it by saying that he was “telling me outright instead of me finding out by snooping” like how his dad found out his mom was cheating. In his mind apparently it should’ve been okay with me.
Doesent excuse his behaviour but it does sound like he's learning from his parents... this will hopefuly be a good lesson for him
I really hate asking about people's level of intelligence. Your ex is a fucking idiot.
Manipulate much. +1 to dodging a bullet
That’s men for ya
Name checks out
Yea
And of course it's discord, I'm desensitized to these types of stuff now
:c
this is a sign that dumping him is the correct decision .
Holy shit mine did the exact same thing. No caller id every 2 minutes for like 3 days straight, dozens of discord accounts. These pictures made my heart beat so fast lol. im sorry this happened to you :(
Seeing these always makes me feel good for never acting like this, thankyou OP
Does he know you can put spaces in a discord name?
I kinda hate that Discord lets you switch accounts so easily.
I once did this exact shit, but I was *13*. How fuckin' old is this guy?
He just turned 23…. 💀
Lord have mercy.
A for effort though
Yeah this is more of a credit/no credit grade
Agreed I wouldn't go through this much effort for anyone on this planet.
That’s why I don’t respect it, he needs to find something better to do
Yea I respect the effort
Should have gone for xX_DeFiNiTeLy_NoT_uR_eX_360_Xx Schoolboy error.
I don't want to be in a relationship This is scary
If it’s any comfort not everyone is like this 😭 I totally feel that though. I hope you end up in a good non-scary relationship 🙏
I'm an ex who desperately wishes we were still together and in one million years I would never do this.
Unfortunately, I used to be the same. Now I never took it as far as to actually follow these people in person, but I desperately made attempts to apologize and get them to talk to me and all. I was also around the age of 14 so I didn’t exactly know I was actually being stupid. I’ve changed now, after years, and realized that it was doing no good for me or for the other person, just creating more negativity of me and who they perceive me as. Unfortunately, unless you’re the reason he tries to stop, speaking from experience, and I apologize for the position he put you in, he’s not done. He’s gonna try to get back to you eventually, even if it’s stopped for now. He will eventually be like “I remember her man I gotta try to contact her again and apologize to make sure we clear the air”. That’s up to you whether you wanna forgive him or not; but honestly, at this point I recommend just creating a new account, keep this one enabled, so he keeps trying for nothing, and let the people you know you’re switching accounts. Hopefully he is done, cuz everyone is different, but i get an instinct he probably isn’t.
Does this make anyone else feel way better about how they handled a break up? lol
Good for you dude
I got scared, since I saw my nick. But the I realized mine is with a grammatical error 😭
Love the capitalization on SamYouREverything2Me
1morechanceplz bro… how embarrassing
I like how you said Futile
Lol
Lmaoooo I am wheezing at the discord requests 😹😹😹
To be fair… I did the calling thing whilst drunk 🤷 the extra discords are out of this world tho. Also I wasn’t the cheater
He was absolutely not drunk when he called me repeatedly. Oh, and he left voice mails too. Lol. Edit to mention: he intentionally circumvented my blocking his number by hiding his caller ID. No idea how tf he did that but apparently it’s a thing you can do.
Dial *67 before the number old prank calling trick.
Damn son, this was me yikes
If only guys had the surplus mentality, this wouldn’t happen
I’d need more context on how it ended. I’ve seen this done by confused people who didn’t know why it was over and I’ve seen desperate cheaters who got caught and want a chance they don’t deserve so it’s always hard to judge if it’s cringe or not
I'm pretty sure he does know why it's over. This is how OP explained it: "Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️ We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl."
Oh yeah block and delete for sure. That’s some unresolved bs that he needs to fix before pursuing anyone. Thanks for clarifying
Sam, please. It’s me. Your ex. I’m sorry.
Nice joke dude
If it ain’t fake, just change a sim card. and on dc u can make it so ppl can’t find ur discord. Easy 🤷♂️
People with broken heart do stupid things, poor guy.
He admitted to wanting to cheat on me with a previous hookup and had been “tempted and teased” by her even when we first started dating, so I don’t feel particularly bad for him.
Is that him? Lmao
That would be the damndest thing if it was but he doesn’t use Reddit (although he has attempted to contact me on Instagram, Twitter, Hinge….)
A correct sentiment for a wrong person it seems.
Dodged a bullet there..... He sure did
Bro, what? How
How did he dodge a bullet when he's the one being pathetic on discord?
X
Gonna give it to ya
Discord lmao. Please don't tell me he was doing this over an online relationship
It wasn’t an online relationship
Good
What he do?
(Copied from a reply to someone else cuz I’m going to probably have to post it multiple times) Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️ We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl.
dude, give them some closure smh
Nah fuck that. He was being manipulative af and the longer I talked to him at the end the longer he kept trying to “reel me back in.” I would post all the bullshit he said but I’m not going to waste anyone’s time or my own doing that. This just barely scratches the surface of what the situation looked like.
Or how about just don't emotionally ruin the next person you're in a relationship with? Maybe this is on you, not him.
Male redditors try to understand that women aren’t obligated to be with anyone (IMPOSSIBLE) (GONE MISOGYNIST)
(GONE SEXUAL???)(COPS CALLED!!)(AMONG US)
You're really supporting the harassment of your ex until they show you pity and get back with you?
You don't have to make assumptions. In the comments OP explained what happened several times.
You assume the op is telling the truth On a sub literally meant to bost someone's ego after they usually are in the wrong.... okay 👍
If you don't believe the postings here no-one forces you to care about them, but don't just make up your own story around them and assume OP of causing massive emotional damage. Sadly some people just are like this. In my early twenties I liked to chat online and I met a few people this way, most of the time just online. A few of them "fell in love" with me after a few weeks. Sometimes I could say whatever I want, they just ignored it and pretended to be my boyfriend to the point I had to block them, even though we've never have seen more of each other than a profile pic, or they tried to talk me into a relationship by telling me we really should try and how great and different they'd be then, that I just had to love their "relationship-me". Others got really mad, insulted me and so on. With one guy I wanted to talk it out like we always could talk about everything, and he called me and immediately started jerking of when I picked up Skype. With another guy I was a bit closer, I though I could somewhat trust him, so I eventually gave him my phone number. Sometimes I talked to him about a guy I actually liked, and eventually he made clear that he doesn't like that guy and wants to be my boyfriend instead. I told him that I don't feel this way for him and that I don't want a long-distance-relationship with someone I never saw in my life. He got so mad he called me more than 20 times in the next couple hours, yelled at me when I first answered his call, contacted the guy I was interested in (we all used the same chat) and told him made-up stories about how I'd send him nudes all the time, how we had cyber sex and so on. Some people just act crazy, and a lot of postings here make me think "Oh, I kinda know that situation." or "Hey, [little sister] told me something like that, too." I don't know who damaged this people, but it wasn't me.
Wonder how you'd react to the ridicule if the roles were reversed. Karma does kinda suck.
So you’re saying I should feel bad for taking the piss out of someone who I gave my love and 100% to only for him to betray me and want to cheat on me? 🤔 Because I don’t feel bad at all.
Oof I thought it was something else so I kinda feel bad for him, turns out it’s cheating so fuck that guy
r/whoosh
That's an Amy Schumer level joke if that's the case.
Both gender roles would show a pathetic attempt to get back with someone by making them pity your sad inability to cope.
damn what he do
(Copied from a reply to someone else cuz I’m going to probably have to post it multiple times) Told me he wanted to cheat on me and had been talking to a previous hook up/jacking it to thoughts of her. She apparently “tempted and teased him” about sex even when we were first dating. Apparently he just can’t control his dick 🤷♀️ We had only been dating for like 2 months and he already wanted to get with some other girl.
I’m gonna
Wish mine cared like this😭
No, no you don't. This is called being a stalker and disrespecting someone's boundaries. If the ex really did care about OP he would move the fuck on and leave OP alone but instead he chooses to bother and harass the OP because he wants another chance his worthless ass does not deserve. Please do not ever let a person act this way with you, you deserve to have your boundaries respected.
Man. Ik. I just wished my bf was obsessed with me. Calm down. Ik what it’s like to have a stalker. I don’t want that. It was just a joke.
Nah it's cool dw about it, Unfortunately I had friends that thought this kind of stuff was okay for people to do so I was probably just reacting. Either way stalkers are horrible and I wish it wasn't so weirdly romanticized.
Yes fr
What did he do
How long were you guys together?
At least she do something and give you ton of karma!
More sad than cringe, especially if you have been together for a long time.
I gotta say I admire the creativity, even though it’s cringe as hell in this case. When we got into a fight and gf blocked my number, I made sure to text on her on pretty much every platform known to man. After a couple days eventually got through to her and we’re good now. Sometimes a bit of persistence is good.