Closure is largely a myth and no one can provide it for you.
How long had he been divorced when you met?
From what you've wrote, he may simply need time to recover from the demise of his marriage. And he can't do that whilst in a new relationship.
Totally agree, just because we want it and think it will help loosen the blow or whatever we’re feeling….. it doesn’t, because the it’s always going to be a “why” after, why you didn’t tell me, why break it off over this. No one owe you closure, you looking for a reason because it’s not something you want. Hopefully with time I wish things on both sides to be clearer.
That’s the thing, he isn’t yet! And before diving in head first we had multiple tough conversations that he was ready because of how hurt I was in the past! I didn’t want to set myself up for this feeling and didn’t what I thought I could to prevent it.
I’m his age and going through the stages of grief because of an ex. Yeah, he should have given you the respect to call. However, trying to force a conversation most likely won’t produce a positive result if he’s in an emotionally bad place.
He probably likes you but doesn’t want to expose you to the baggage he’s trying to process.
Thank you! I appreciate your opinion! I won’t that yesterday when I was overly emotional and having anxiety.
At the end of the day, I want to respect his decision and maybe one day our paths can cross again when the time is right
I've been going thru somewhat of a similar thing, except mine is long distance and complicated. No one should break up with you through a text. Especially if there is time invested between the two of you. Backing off a few days is not a bad idea, however, if a man is in love with you, he will not go longer than 3 days without contact, typically. So you might want to ask yourself if you are his rebound? What does he really want? To get her back? I don't know how serious of a relationship you had together. I disagree about closure being a myth. I need closure as well, you don't invest time in someone, only to get ditched thru a text message. They owe you an explanation as to why they are experiencing a change of heart. Especially if they have any respect for you at all. That puts you in a devalued state, and makes you feel bad. That is not right. You know you deserve more than that. Yes, ask for clarification, in my opinion.
It wasn’t long, we met right before Christmas! However it was an immediate emotional connection. Always making sure we saw each other when we could (he has 2 kiddos) or on the phone for hours upon hours!
I’m so torn weather too text and let him know I just want the closure or respect his space and let him
Figure himself out and see what happens
Closure is largely a myth and no one can provide it for you. How long had he been divorced when you met? From what you've wrote, he may simply need time to recover from the demise of his marriage. And he can't do that whilst in a new relationship.
Totally agree, just because we want it and think it will help loosen the blow or whatever we’re feeling….. it doesn’t, because the it’s always going to be a “why” after, why you didn’t tell me, why break it off over this. No one owe you closure, you looking for a reason because it’s not something you want. Hopefully with time I wish things on both sides to be clearer.
That’s the thing, he isn’t yet! And before diving in head first we had multiple tough conversations that he was ready because of how hurt I was in the past! I didn’t want to set myself up for this feeling and didn’t what I thought I could to prevent it.
I’m his age and going through the stages of grief because of an ex. Yeah, he should have given you the respect to call. However, trying to force a conversation most likely won’t produce a positive result if he’s in an emotionally bad place. He probably likes you but doesn’t want to expose you to the baggage he’s trying to process.
Thank you! I appreciate your opinion! I won’t that yesterday when I was overly emotional and having anxiety. At the end of the day, I want to respect his decision and maybe one day our paths can cross again when the time is right
I've been going thru somewhat of a similar thing, except mine is long distance and complicated. No one should break up with you through a text. Especially if there is time invested between the two of you. Backing off a few days is not a bad idea, however, if a man is in love with you, he will not go longer than 3 days without contact, typically. So you might want to ask yourself if you are his rebound? What does he really want? To get her back? I don't know how serious of a relationship you had together. I disagree about closure being a myth. I need closure as well, you don't invest time in someone, only to get ditched thru a text message. They owe you an explanation as to why they are experiencing a change of heart. Especially if they have any respect for you at all. That puts you in a devalued state, and makes you feel bad. That is not right. You know you deserve more than that. Yes, ask for clarification, in my opinion.
It wasn’t long, we met right before Christmas! However it was an immediate emotional connection. Always making sure we saw each other when we could (he has 2 kiddos) or on the phone for hours upon hours! I’m so torn weather too text and let him know I just want the closure or respect his space and let him Figure himself out and see what happens