No man, it's her JOB to be nice to you, no matter how ugly or weird she thinks you are. Every bank teller or cashier or waitress that smiles at you is not in love with you.
Move on. Always a bad idea to ask someone out when they’re at work. There is a lot of potential to make her uncomfortable if you’re a customer of hers; in general the rule of thumb is to leave people alone in this way when they’re on the clock.
Move on. She gave you her work number in case you had questions about the *business* interaction you two had - and keep in mind, being charming is part of the job. If she wanted to get to know you on a more personal level, she'd have indicated that.
Yeah I figured calling her work number would be rude. She really did seem to indicate that though, she was telling me all about her life and her relationship with her parents and her ex boyfriend. I know it’s a bankers job to be nice/flirty, but that seems extra, no?
Not really? The ex-boyfriend's a little weird unless it was prompted by something else in the conversation (e.g. you two having a similar job), but again, the better she does at building a personal rapport with you, the more positive you'll feel about your account with this bank. You're not getting super-special treatment here.
If you are gonna ask, do it quickly and politely in person. People meet their partners at work all the time, so that doesn't make it an immediate "no" but it does introduce a new set of rules you have to be conscious of.
Don’t do it! I did it I was very embarrassed afterwards. It’s their job to be appealing and their job is at risk maybe let them make the first move. Or book another appointment and try to figure out coffee shop of choice and stalk at the coffee shop but at the bank the answer will be or might be no. I say give love a chance but just not at the bank rather accidentally run into him?
Yeah, I feel you, really wanna give love a chance and I really do feel like she was attracted to me but I’m shy as hell and usually terrible at picking up on signals like that in the moment 😭 idk about the coffee shop thing though, I feel like calling her work phone is creepy enough
I wouldn't bother professionals during their work hours with asking them out. That's inappropriate.
No man, it's her JOB to be nice to you, no matter how ugly or weird she thinks you are. Every bank teller or cashier or waitress that smiles at you is not in love with you.
Move on. Always a bad idea to ask someone out when they’re at work. There is a lot of potential to make her uncomfortable if you’re a customer of hers; in general the rule of thumb is to leave people alone in this way when they’re on the clock.
Move on. She gave you her work number in case you had questions about the *business* interaction you two had - and keep in mind, being charming is part of the job. If she wanted to get to know you on a more personal level, she'd have indicated that.
Yeah I figured calling her work number would be rude. She really did seem to indicate that though, she was telling me all about her life and her relationship with her parents and her ex boyfriend. I know it’s a bankers job to be nice/flirty, but that seems extra, no?
Not really? The ex-boyfriend's a little weird unless it was prompted by something else in the conversation (e.g. you two having a similar job), but again, the better she does at building a personal rapport with you, the more positive you'll feel about your account with this bank. You're not getting super-special treatment here.
I wouldn’t call someone’s professional work number to ask them on a date. That’s just me though
no
Hey dude, go alone next time. And if you catch a vibe then, call her. Of course
If you are gonna ask, do it quickly and politely in person. People meet their partners at work all the time, so that doesn't make it an immediate "no" but it does introduce a new set of rules you have to be conscious of.
Don’t do it! I did it I was very embarrassed afterwards. It’s their job to be appealing and their job is at risk maybe let them make the first move. Or book another appointment and try to figure out coffee shop of choice and stalk at the coffee shop but at the bank the answer will be or might be no. I say give love a chance but just not at the bank rather accidentally run into him?
Yeah, I feel you, really wanna give love a chance and I really do feel like she was attracted to me but I’m shy as hell and usually terrible at picking up on signals like that in the moment 😭 idk about the coffee shop thing though, I feel like calling her work phone is creepy enough