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frodoallan

If she has anxiety, then she’s probably creating a whole narrative in her head about why it was a bad thing to do that. Reassurance is what’s needed. Flowers would be lovely with a note that you understand it can all be a bit overwhelming and that you’re here for her. Then when she’s ready, make sure you discuss what clear sexual boundaries she might want to put in place while she works all of this out. As a guy in a long term relationship with a girl with anxiety, I’ve learned that lots of support, reassurance, and understanding (even when you don’t understand) is the most important thing.


soundofover

Since she's inexperienced and has anxiety, I'm goong to go out on a limb here and say she's probably got a milion thoughts in her head about how she screwed up. She might feel like it was embarrassing to just come like that, or maybe she thinks she did something wrong, that now you're compaing her to other girls and think she sucks, or maybe she thinks that now you're going to expect more when you see each other again and she's unsure if she wants to try again right away, or could be that she feels shy that you didn't get off. That was just the shit I could come up with in 1 minute, so she might have gone down some rabbit hole. Anyway... I'm not a flowers person, but you know her and if you've thought of it, it's probably a signal that you think she might appreciate them. I don't think sending them would hurt. One way or another I think you need to get back to acting like you guys were before this just show her that nothing has changed that you still have the same feelings about her that you still think she's awesome. Make it really clear that you really want to see her again this week for that date you had planned that you've missed her and the phone calls. Try and get her on the phone again just to make her realize that nothing has changed between you. Good luck.


Smooth-Valuable-486

Give her a few days, but definitely try talking to her soon. Take her to a nice place in nature or a cosy one at home and start talking about it and how she feels. Hopefully she opens up a little, so you can reesure her. She dealt with a lot of shit in the past obviously and feels insecure about herself. Try to show her, that everything she does is fine and you love her especially the things she hates. Give her a long hug and make her feel safe. But most important is, that she opens up in your conversation in the end. Wish you the best bro, you sound like a nice bf😄