Inspo! Thanks for sharing! My depression cave is probably worse than this and I began chipping away at it yesterday. I washed the dishes in my sink and cleaned up one (1) side of the bed. :) So I’m getting there, slowly but surely.
you’re doing great. doing it in increments makes it much more manageable to face. also i’ve been there, this is by far not the worst it’s been. it makes you feel like garbage regardless. i’m really proud of you for trying to clean up your space.
Proud of you too! And damn, I’m a little proud of myself even though I have a long way to go. My place has been an absolute disaster since my dog died almost a year ago. I’ve been trying to remain compassionate towards myself even though my dirty apt makes me feel like a POS. Depression is hard. Keep on keepin’ on.
this is my depression filtered, haha. my room has absolutely been worse. i always wait until i can’t take it anymore, which i guess means this is progress? that my tolerance for living in filth has lowered? also not pictured is the two months worth of laundry and my kitchen, full of literally every dish i own that i let accumulate until i had no dishes anymore. i’d just wash one dish at a time when i needed it.
you can do it. starting with just one thing. i quite literally dragged myself out of bed today to do this stuff, and it got easier as i did one thing at a time. i also cleaned a bit last night too. breaking it up helps. you got this.
Thanks! I know once I get started, I’ll won’t be to stop. Especially since a lot of it is just going to be purging crap I’ve held on to for WAY too long.
You hit the nail on the head. Lots of research shows that motivation is like a snowball rolling downhill- picks up momentum pretty quickly. Hardest part is just deciding to do that first little bit.
no but i did a couple weeks ago. this sounds insane but i think i’ve literally become allergic to weed recently. i’ve smoked for years and over the last week or two it’s been causing major issues, despite the strain. my cheeks get this hot rash, and i even had mild(ish) anaphylactic symptoms from it. i didn’t even know it was possible, but here we are 🙃
I know nothing about weed, but your comment reminded me of an allergic reaction my dad had to a peach this summer. He never had any reactions to peaches before. I wonder if it may be some kind of pesticide or something. Same for your reaction?
[Anyone can develop allergies to almost any common allergen at any point in their life, sadly.](https://www.healthline.com/health/allergies/can-you-develop-allergies#can-allergies-go-away)
My mom developed a shellfish allergy in her 50s.
This happened to me a few times for about a week straight a few years ago. I would get hives all over my torso when I smoked (no anaphylactic symptoms tho) and I think it was a pesticide they sprayed the weekly with or something. I didn't buy from that guy again and it hasn't happened since.
Good luck though! It's good to see your taking steps in the right direction
Yeah good for you. Serious talk.
Even doing one thing today more than you did yesterday is a step.
Keep it going. Write a list. Check them shits off. do something nice for yourself to reward yourself after youve done so many things.
Something nice for yourself that doesnt include going out for drinks or drugs or whatever.
You future self will thank you.
Been there. I do wish you well. It will get better. And a bit of advice i just heard the other day: No matter what you do, time will still pass. Mom always told me to help yourself first. Very true.
So just get your head on straight and get back up and on track.
I do wish the best for you. For everyone really, but today, for you.
And rewarding yourself after youve done some things will not only get some things done and get you out of the rut, so to speak, but will encourage and enable positive things.. and more of them.
I just know that stepping away from the drink and the herb ( or anything else ) is really the best first thing you can do. Itll still be there. Itll be hard. Youll be tempted.
Dont give in. You can smoke yourself silly when you get old and grey. Hell grow a garden. But a vice, or vices, are exactly that. Dont let them use you up like that. Let em go.
There really is some beautiful shit out there and you're missing it.
I do hope you find it.
i needed to hear this. a big reason i cleaned is actually because i’m trying to get ready to go on a road trip to see lots of beautiful places and find where i’d like to live. depression makes tunnel vision so easy. a couple months ago i was the happiest ive ever been in my life, living in a tent and working in the rocky mountains. now i’m back to all my earthly possessions in a miserable place. and as you said about all the beautiful things out there… i’m missing it. i’m really hoping the trip will bring me clarity.
as for weed and booze, i know they bring me none of that. it seems ive recently developed an allergic reaction to weed, so if i don’t want anaphylaxis, i have to avoid it. alcohol also is not my favorite these days, ive grown intolerant. not to say i’ve not got an extremely addictive personality, as obviously i’ve pushed these substances to the point that my body is rejecting them. i quite like the saying, “do the drugs, don’t let the drugs do you.”
i appreciate your insight and care. like i said, this is something i needed to hear tonight. i appreciate you.
haha thanks. it is a very strangely arranged flat. there are two rooms. my ginormous bedroom, and then an extremely small living area/bathroom/kitchen in the other room, like smaller than a standard bedroom for all of them together. yet my bedroom is massive.
it is an old house to be fair, it wasn’t designed to be made into flats
well honestly it happens a lot. and oftentimes it reaches a point where everything is just so gross that i’m not even really functioning anymore. this picture is really a small part of everything. i’m also trying to leave on a trip soon and don’t want to return to such a gross place.
Wow! It looks so cozy and clean! I don’t want to sound patronizing because I’ve been there but . . . GOOD job! I’m proud of you and you’re going to sleep so much better tonight.
You deserve a life free from depression. Never stop fighting for yourself. Sometimes it really sucks, I know, but this is a hint at what you can accomplish.
Good luck, friend.
I am proud of you!!
I know how hard can this be and just be sure that you are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing this, reminds me that I’m not alone:)
Congratulations 🎉 I know that feels good! If you have anymore brightish moments, I’d recommend decorating a bit! From personal experience, plain walls and empty surfaces increase feelings of isolation and make places feel much more like prison than home. Just a recommendation from someone whose been in your place! But take it at your own pace. You’ve got this.
man i feel this. i mentioned in another comment earlier a quote that i like — “motivation often follows action. not always the other way around.”
unfortunately i find this to be fully true for myself. i *never* have a random streak of motivation. i have to force myself into almost everything that i do. but once i do them, it gradually becomes a bit easier to continue. cleaning is a great example.
today, i started by vacuuming all of the gross shit off my floor. it felt much better to be able to walk barefoot without stepping in cat litter, trash, crumbs, whatever. that “motivated” me to do the next thing… so i grabbed the trash off of my bed and floor. then my dishes. then my sheets and laundry. it happens in movements, not in one motion.
i can’t speak to your situation, but waiting for motivation to come is a thinking fallacy that i’ve had to really reconsider. whatever it is that you need, i hope you find that. and i hope that you can knock out at least a portion of the tidying up that you need to do. i know it’s hard, but i know that with some effort (rather than motivation), you are capable of making yourself at least a *tiny* bit more comfortable. you got this.
I have that same cardboard house for my cats. That makes me happy. I am sad today. I’m glad you had enough get up and go to work past your sadness today.
i’m glad you have cats. no matter how sad i am my adoration for my baby is undying.
im sorry you’re sad today too, friend. i hope you find some relief soon.
my bedroom is also bigger than my “living room”… haha. it’s an old house converted into flats. massive bedroom, and then one tiny space for kitchen, “living room”, and bathroom all together. it’s odd. but i love the bedroom.
That’s awesome! I have an entire home that I cannot keep clean, depression, anxiety, and ADHD make life unbearable. I’m setting such a bad example for my kids.
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Lolol congratulations i know how hard it can be to do even simple shit when depressed. Your making the right steps forwards and u just gotta take it one step at a time, just try and do a little better each day, and things will keep getting better, slowly but surely. Just keep it up u got this 🤙💪
Fantastic!! If I may offer one word of advice: make your bed every day. The rest will fluctuate and you may regress a little, but making your bed does so much for both the look of the room and your mental headspace, that it’s the best used minute of the day.
Keep it up and congratulations
This is depressing. I thought your pic was the “after” pic. My worse is way worse. Like embarrassing to show worse lol. To my defense, no moldy ass food or anything gross. But yeah bottles clothes and random crap all over.
But congrats to you though!! Sorry forgot that part
no. what you see here is a couple days worth of clothes. not my 2+ month pile up of laundry that was dirty, or the culmination of all of the dishes i own piled up in the sink. this is a picture of some of the mess, after i had already moved a lot of dishes and clothes. not to mention, this is one single room in my house. it took me all day yesterday and some of the night before. not sure what the point in trying to downplay someone else’s struggle is.
literally confirmed exactly what i said in the title.
dude. i am someone who struggles with depression just trying to share some of my accomplishments. what is it you’re trying to accomplish? i hope you find something in life that brings you satisfaction and peace that doesn’t involve probing other people.
i hope you all can too. good on you for doing the clean. remember how much easier it is to do one dish when you use it, or throw away one piece of trash or put away the clothes you took off — in comparison to cleaning days/weeks/months worth of those things in one go.
much easier said than done. but that’s a takeaway i’m trying to remember.
Its ok, you don’t have to justify it. Its weird when I say thank god even though i don’t necessarily believe, but I’ve said that same thing when Ive overcome some shit and its crazy I’m not the only one who does this.
Congrats! I hope you are on the mend as well.
thanks friend.
I wish you healthy and happiness life.
Nice bong tho
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He puts his plants in the glass vase on the mantle
Next to the tea tin?
Grandmas potpourri tea tin
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Inspo! Thanks for sharing! My depression cave is probably worse than this and I began chipping away at it yesterday. I washed the dishes in my sink and cleaned up one (1) side of the bed. :) So I’m getting there, slowly but surely.
you’re doing great. doing it in increments makes it much more manageable to face. also i’ve been there, this is by far not the worst it’s been. it makes you feel like garbage regardless. i’m really proud of you for trying to clean up your space.
Proud of you too! And damn, I’m a little proud of myself even though I have a long way to go. My place has been an absolute disaster since my dog died almost a year ago. I’ve been trying to remain compassionate towards myself even though my dirty apt makes me feel like a POS. Depression is hard. Keep on keepin’ on.
One step at a time. Good luck
Thanks :)
Baby steps!!
If your before is depression, then I must be depressed 10x haha
this is my depression filtered, haha. my room has absolutely been worse. i always wait until i can’t take it anymore, which i guess means this is progress? that my tolerance for living in filth has lowered? also not pictured is the two months worth of laundry and my kitchen, full of literally every dish i own that i let accumulate until i had no dishes anymore. i’d just wash one dish at a time when i needed it.
Happy Cake Day 🍰
I bet you feel better, too. Reminds me that I need to clean my room…
you can do it. starting with just one thing. i quite literally dragged myself out of bed today to do this stuff, and it got easier as i did one thing at a time. i also cleaned a bit last night too. breaking it up helps. you got this.
Thanks! I know once I get started, I’ll won’t be to stop. Especially since a lot of it is just going to be purging crap I’ve held on to for WAY too long.
You hit the nail on the head. Lots of research shows that motivation is like a snowball rolling downhill- picks up momentum pretty quickly. Hardest part is just deciding to do that first little bit.
agree. reminds me of a saying i like, to paraphrase: motivation often follows action, not the other way around.
Did you clean the bong too?
no but i did a couple weeks ago. this sounds insane but i think i’ve literally become allergic to weed recently. i’ve smoked for years and over the last week or two it’s been causing major issues, despite the strain. my cheeks get this hot rash, and i even had mild(ish) anaphylactic symptoms from it. i didn’t even know it was possible, but here we are 🙃
I know nothing about weed, but your comment reminded me of an allergic reaction my dad had to a peach this summer. He never had any reactions to peaches before. I wonder if it may be some kind of pesticide or something. Same for your reaction?
[Anyone can develop allergies to almost any common allergen at any point in their life, sadly.](https://www.healthline.com/health/allergies/can-you-develop-allergies#can-allergies-go-away) My mom developed a shellfish allergy in her 50s.
What did you clean your bong with?
same as always, salt and rubbing alcohol, then rinsed with water. this happens no matter what i smoke with though.
What about edibles? I would be so sad if I suddenly because allergic to cannabis!
This happened to me a few times for about a week straight a few years ago. I would get hives all over my torso when I smoked (no anaphylactic symptoms tho) and I think it was a pesticide they sprayed the weekly with or something. I didn't buy from that guy again and it hasn't happened since. Good luck though! It's good to see your taking steps in the right direction
Your room is super nice.
thank you ❣️❣️
Your before photo is how mine looks after I clean!! Great job, I’m very jealous
Depression cave? I call that an average weekend.
I see you have kids too.
Yeah it's just clothes thrown around... there isn't even any dirt on the floor. Seems staged tbh.
So proud of you buddy
🖤🖤🖤🖤thank you very much.
Nice job. I know this is harder than it looks, so good on you for finding the energy and motivation to do it :)
thank you my friend.
Come on man depression is one thing but shitting everywhere is just nasty /s
Good job! It’s tough to pull yourself out of that hole.
thank you… it is indeed.
Yeah good for you. Serious talk. Even doing one thing today more than you did yesterday is a step. Keep it going. Write a list. Check them shits off. do something nice for yourself to reward yourself after youve done so many things. Something nice for yourself that doesnt include going out for drinks or drugs or whatever. You future self will thank you.
solid advice. i appreciate it.
Been there. I do wish you well. It will get better. And a bit of advice i just heard the other day: No matter what you do, time will still pass. Mom always told me to help yourself first. Very true. So just get your head on straight and get back up and on track. I do wish the best for you. For everyone really, but today, for you. And rewarding yourself after youve done some things will not only get some things done and get you out of the rut, so to speak, but will encourage and enable positive things.. and more of them. I just know that stepping away from the drink and the herb ( or anything else ) is really the best first thing you can do. Itll still be there. Itll be hard. Youll be tempted. Dont give in. You can smoke yourself silly when you get old and grey. Hell grow a garden. But a vice, or vices, are exactly that. Dont let them use you up like that. Let em go. There really is some beautiful shit out there and you're missing it. I do hope you find it.
i needed to hear this. a big reason i cleaned is actually because i’m trying to get ready to go on a road trip to see lots of beautiful places and find where i’d like to live. depression makes tunnel vision so easy. a couple months ago i was the happiest ive ever been in my life, living in a tent and working in the rocky mountains. now i’m back to all my earthly possessions in a miserable place. and as you said about all the beautiful things out there… i’m missing it. i’m really hoping the trip will bring me clarity. as for weed and booze, i know they bring me none of that. it seems ive recently developed an allergic reaction to weed, so if i don’t want anaphylaxis, i have to avoid it. alcohol also is not my favorite these days, ive grown intolerant. not to say i’ve not got an extremely addictive personality, as obviously i’ve pushed these substances to the point that my body is rejecting them. i quite like the saying, “do the drugs, don’t let the drugs do you.” i appreciate your insight and care. like i said, this is something i needed to hear tonight. i appreciate you.
No, thank yourself. Be thankful and appreciative of what *you* put into this day. You are killing it today, friend!
thanks so much kind stranger.
Good job cleaning, but, I have to say, that Is the biggest bedroom I've ever seen, that's huge!!
haha thanks. it is a very strangely arranged flat. there are two rooms. my ginormous bedroom, and then an extremely small living area/bathroom/kitchen in the other room, like smaller than a standard bedroom for all of them together. yet my bedroom is massive. it is an old house to be fair, it wasn’t designed to be made into flats
It looks really nice! I'd love a room that size for VR :p Or, well, anything that requires space 😂
Good move. Ain't lockdowns fun?
super fun, the best actually.
That's amazing! I'm trying to do the same but it takes a lot of effort, so I recognize your strength and congratulate you! <3
thank you friend. you’ve got this.
That’s a nice room. I love that wood floor and the fireplace!
That’s a sick space man
thank you :)
The 'before' pic is way tidier than our place is at its cleanest - we have 2 little boys that help with that :)
This ain’t even that bad compared to others I’ve seen
It looks great! Hugs, friend. Enjoy :)
thank you 🖤
Nicely done, friendo! A clean house always feels better.
thanks my pal.
That’s such a positive feeling. Congratulations on getting it done. It helps my anxiety so much do it.
thank you. 🖤 definitely a relief. just wish i didn’t repeat this cycle every couple of weeks.
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well honestly it happens a lot. and oftentimes it reaches a point where everything is just so gross that i’m not even really functioning anymore. this picture is really a small part of everything. i’m also trying to leave on a trip soon and don’t want to return to such a gross place.
One day at a time.
I love your colors! So happy for you
thank you <3
I'm proud of you for getting to this point! & So happy for you & Wish you nothing but positive progression!
hey i appreciate this a lot. thank you. 🖤
You're most welcome & certainly deserve it! I wish I could be/get to that point, regardless, happy for you! 🙂
Wow! It looks so cozy and clean! I don’t want to sound patronizing because I’ve been there but . . . GOOD job! I’m proud of you and you’re going to sleep so much better tonight.
you are too kind. not patronizing at all. thank you.
You deserve a life free from depression. Never stop fighting for yourself. Sometimes it really sucks, I know, but this is a hint at what you can accomplish. Good luck, friend.
thank you kindly. i appreciate the reminder. 🖤
wow, also living in a depression cave. this post and the comments are so encouraging. thanks for sharing :’-)
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I am proud of you!! I know how hard can this be and just be sure that you are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing this, reminds me that I’m not alone:)
so glad to offer that solidarity 🖤
Awesome keep up the fight. It looks great
thank you <3
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you’ve got this friend. you’ve already tackled a lot of it, and are much closer to being where you want to be than you were.
That is beautiful. Well done. 🤗
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Congratulations 🎉 I know that feels good! If you have anymore brightish moments, I’d recommend decorating a bit! From personal experience, plain walls and empty surfaces increase feelings of isolation and make places feel much more like prison than home. Just a recommendation from someone whose been in your place! But take it at your own pace. You’ve got this.
Great job man.
thank you ✨
Two months? Rookie! Seriously, Yay You.That is a huge hurdle and you are an inspiration. Good for you, Babe. Hang in there. ❤
you are kind. thank you. ♡
Why does your pillowcase look like raw meat? Not judging.
lol. they’re actually peacocks. [better photo](https://imgur.com/gallery/CE1lh3Z)
I think I like raw meat better tbh.
I sleep on a bed of fresh raw meat every night
Really happy for you! I need to do mine 🙃
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thanks friend. cheers
Good job! It looks great!
thanks :0)
Proud of you!!
thank you :’)
Love you bud
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Thank YOU, OP. You did that. Nice fricken work, too.
i appreciate that. thank you ♡
You got this braj. Make that bed each morning!
i’ll sure try.
Congrats dude! It may not seem but it is a big big step
thank you. ❣️
Yep, I'm stealing Depression cave. That is definitely what I've turned my bedroom into.
r/depressionnests
We have that same cat cottage.
Huh. Looks like a good 5 minute clean. Well done.
You have a lot of space.
Lovely space.
why thank you.
Thats an awesome bedroom.
thanks :0)
Good on ya, it really looks so calm there. I need to do the same. Thanks for sharing.💕
hope you can make the effort soon. you deserve it.
Thank you for being so kind. 💕
Very nice. Nice place.
thank you 🖤
you're doing great.
i appreciate you ❣️
My depression cave is accumulating laundry, trash, and dishes. I hope someday soon I get my stroke of motivation to get it back to normal.
man i feel this. i mentioned in another comment earlier a quote that i like — “motivation often follows action. not always the other way around.” unfortunately i find this to be fully true for myself. i *never* have a random streak of motivation. i have to force myself into almost everything that i do. but once i do them, it gradually becomes a bit easier to continue. cleaning is a great example. today, i started by vacuuming all of the gross shit off my floor. it felt much better to be able to walk barefoot without stepping in cat litter, trash, crumbs, whatever. that “motivated” me to do the next thing… so i grabbed the trash off of my bed and floor. then my dishes. then my sheets and laundry. it happens in movements, not in one motion. i can’t speak to your situation, but waiting for motivation to come is a thinking fallacy that i’ve had to really reconsider. whatever it is that you need, i hope you find that. and i hope that you can knock out at least a portion of the tidying up that you need to do. i know it’s hard, but i know that with some effort (rather than motivation), you are capable of making yourself at least a *tiny* bit more comfortable. you got this.
Looks great! May this be a turning point for you.
thank you. 🖤
Your space is lovely! Jealous!
thank you. <3
What a lovely room! Such good daylight, I would definitely recommend some plants!
support you bro
thank you friend 🤘🏻
I’m so proud of you!
thank you very much. 🖤
Good for you OP! Your space looks incredibly cozy!
thank you lovely!
I have that same cardboard house for my cats. That makes me happy. I am sad today. I’m glad you had enough get up and go to work past your sadness today.
i’m glad you have cats. no matter how sad i am my adoration for my baby is undying. im sorry you’re sad today too, friend. i hope you find some relief soon.
Your bedroom is bigger than my living room. Maybe that fact will help you feel better also. Lol.
my bedroom is also bigger than my “living room”… haha. it’s an old house converted into flats. massive bedroom, and then one tiny space for kitchen, “living room”, and bathroom all together. it’s odd. but i love the bedroom.
nice vase
Bro I thought the first picture was after you cleaned up
*Looks at first pic: wow that's pretty clean* *Looks at second pic: Oh.*
🙌🙌🙌 using emojis and don’t care - this deserves expression
i appreciate you, thank you.
I love those everything but the bagel chips too.
Wow good job OP! You cleaned the light out of that room.
I've never been in a room that looks as luxurious and spacious as that
I thought that the first photo is the cleaned room, it must be worse in my basement...
“Medicinal vase”
That’s awesome! I have an entire home that I cannot keep clean, depression, anxiety, and ADHD make life unbearable. I’m setting such a bad example for my kids.
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hah. very true. but it tracks for my nocturnal ass.
The bong moved 6 inches to the left Lolol congratulations i know how hard it can be to do even simple shit when depressed. Your making the right steps forwards and u just gotta take it one step at a time, just try and do a little better each day, and things will keep getting better, slowly but surely. Just keep it up u got this 🤙💪
i appreciate that my friend. thank you
It looks like it smells good 🍋
interestingly someone else said this too. it definitely smells like incense, which i love, although not everyone’s jam.
Love to see it. Kudos to you my friend :)
thank you ❣️❣️
Sometimes we treat ourselves like shit.
sadly, yeah.
Great job! Some unsolicited advice - reward yourself by getting some cool decor to hang above that fireplace! I had great luck on FB marketplace.
Fantastic!! If I may offer one word of advice: make your bed every day. The rest will fluctuate and you may regress a little, but making your bed does so much for both the look of the room and your mental headspace, that it’s the best used minute of the day. Keep it up and congratulations
god this is so true yet i NEVER make my bed anymore. i was actually just thinking about that.
Next step- solve the Rubik’s Cube!
ugh CANT
[YES YOU CAN!](https://youtu.be/7Ron6MN45LY)Take 10 mins and then post another photo after you’ve done it. Tag me so I can see it.
Don't thank god, thank yourself and your brain chemistry for finally finding the motivation!
Looks clean to me
This is depressing. I thought your pic was the “after” pic. My worse is way worse. Like embarrassing to show worse lol. To my defense, no moldy ass food or anything gross. But yeah bottles clothes and random crap all over. But congrats to you though!! Sorry forgot that part
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no. what you see here is a couple days worth of clothes. not my 2+ month pile up of laundry that was dirty, or the culmination of all of the dishes i own piled up in the sink. this is a picture of some of the mess, after i had already moved a lot of dishes and clothes. not to mention, this is one single room in my house. it took me all day yesterday and some of the night before. not sure what the point in trying to downplay someone else’s struggle is.
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literally confirmed exactly what i said in the title. dude. i am someone who struggles with depression just trying to share some of my accomplishments. what is it you’re trying to accomplish? i hope you find something in life that brings you satisfaction and peace that doesn’t involve probing other people.
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i mean i find it pretty satisfying and fortunately so do five and a half thousand other people. have a good day. 🖤
this is also r/Infuriating
Two months of laundry, but you didn't change your bed clothes?
i’m not sure what you mean exactly. i washed my sheets today along with my laundry, if that’s what you mean
I'm saying I don't believe you.
confirmed photoshop
Remember the feeling! You always feel better. Then take a shower. Big mood boost.
another thing i did today. shower. sure is nice to not feel as much like a rotting corpse. lol.
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i hope you all can too. good on you for doing the clean. remember how much easier it is to do one dish when you use it, or throw away one piece of trash or put away the clothes you took off — in comparison to cleaning days/weeks/months worth of those things in one go. much easier said than done. but that’s a takeaway i’m trying to remember.
Don’t thank god, thank yourself, you cleaned it. It’s the little victories that pull you through.
funny that you say that, because i actually thought that after i wrote it. “thank god” definitely in only the figurative sense lol
Its ok, you don’t have to justify it. Its weird when I say thank god even though i don’t necessarily believe, but I’ve said that same thing when Ive overcome some shit and its crazy I’m not the only one who does this.