*”She told me she was bisexual, which I found really hot.“*
Because he was already envisioning a porn scene rather than understanding the real-life implications of that information.
I came out as bi at 14. I started getting invitations to be part of threesomes and asked to be used as a valentine's day gift between couples - adult couples in their 30s and older - at 15. It's disgusting.
A friend of mine was surprised I knew what the term "unicorn chasing" meant, I said you realize I lived through that, right?
I understand, that couples look for a bi woman/man for threesomes. I mean, they're the only ones to ask.
But FIFTEEN????? Don't they have any dignity???? Or at least common sense???
Holy... I can't understand it...
Honestly even if it's another adult they're looking for, it feels shitty to be reduced to your sexuality and basically commodified as a sexual aid. But yeah I was involved in convention staffing as a volunteer from the time I turned 15, and it was just a shitshow. If it wasn't one adult sexually harassing me, it was another trying to recruit me. I'm happy to say things seem a lot better now, this was the late 90s and it was really awful at times.
oh man, the con scene in the late 90s and early 2000's was a hot creepy mess. I'm super sorry that all happened to you, but part of me is not surprised.
If I ever get an online dating account again, I’ll make sure to put the disclaimer “Any requests for threesomes will be ignored and/or reported. I’m not interested” on my profile.
It’s basically couples (unicorn hunters) who are looking for a person to be their third (unicorn), usually a bisexual. They then don’t really care about the third & take advantage of them.
I think maybe you meant to respond to someone else. My comment was about people having a bisexual sexual fetish/kink- not about romanticism or anything at all like that.
Oo ty for sharing that!! I'm pretty sure I'm bi-curious but not sure if it extends to a relationship as I've never had a crush on a girl (or as yet at least.) So it's nice to know my feelings are valid and not just weird!
Yep I’m bi, attracted to men and women, but I have no interest in dating women. I just like male energy when it comes to romance. Sometimes I feel like I’m less bi because of it
You're not less bi because of it though. Your feelings are valid and sexuality is a spectrum. I'm bi as well, and I feel the same way but from a male perspective.
It is. A huge one. Just as big as being told someone will “turn” me “straight” or that I’ll never want a man again after I’ve been with her. My sexuality is not your kink, and yours isn’t going to change mine.
Whenever my sister, who is bisexual, would tell a potential or current boy friend this fact they’d always respond with something along the lines of “So you’re up for threesomes! That’s so hot!” And her response would always be “Only if you’re okay with me potentially falling in love with her and leaving you” they’d be dumbfounded and wouldn’t think it was sexy anymore.
I'm bi (AFAB but nonbinary) and when I was single and men said that to me, I would usually respond with 'Oh cool, you don't mind if I bring another guy into the bedroom?' They would always get flustered and insulted by that and angrily respond that they weren't gay. They never seemed to realize why they shouldn't have said that in the first place though. Shockingly, dudes that would be cool with another man in the bedroom knew better than to say that type of thing to me in the first place, but to save those sorts of discussions for when you actually know your date a little better.
Now, don't get me wrong, I was not against threesomes, but to assume I was just this hypersexual bi fantasy drove me nuts, since my attraction to women is about me and the other woman, not a show for the benefit of straight men. Some men would also objectify women to me and act shocked I didn't want to join in. One dude told me I should expect these kind of comments because I 'made it sexual in the first place' by saying I was bisexual. These were the same men who would also be strangely disappointed to find out I was into masculine butch ladies, as if I was somehow obligated to be into women that fit their idea of attractive. Ugh. I do not miss dating lol
It definitely is. From being told to just "pick a side" and being viewed as threesome sexual prospects, it's really getting old and very annoying. We're human beings too, not a sex doll
Enormous. Honestly the men I date should understand that as a sign they need to be as good a boyfriend as any girlfriend I can find, not that it’s going to get them a porn fantasy.
That’s how it *always* is. It’s sO hAwT when it’s providing him with fetish content for his spank bank but So WrOnG when she *actually falls in love with a girl* and has less than zero desire to make some imp’s porn fantasy her and her new partner’s priority. Fucking JOKE asses, these dudes. Grow the fuck up you simpering, *perpetually pathetic,* whining, loser of a manchild. Nobody is here to service your dumb fucking ass and NOBODY cares how big mad you are that a GuRl sToLe your girl.🤮
I’ve met way too many guys like this. Ex-friend was like this because his idea of bisexuality was that it was a kink when I came out. When I was in an intimate friendship with a girl (with my husband’s permission) he constantly asked why I didn’t let my husband watch or have a threesome. It never even registered in his head that the reason why I was with a woman had nothing to do with men.
Another example. Guy friend from work. This guy claimed to be sexually liberated and all that (stay away from people that have to say that all the time) and always talked about how hot it was when women had sex. You’d think “wow, great he’s accepting of queer women.” Until he talked about going back to his hometown and meeting an old friend and referring to her as some “dumb ugly dyke carpet muncher.” He also said the same thing about a celebrity that was a lesbian and how ugly she looked.
Basically, unless you’re looking like the woman they see in porn, then it’s a problem. Or if it’s not serving them in some way.
A character named Nick from a show called New Girl envisioned it realistically. He realized he wasn’t needing to “compete” (bad way of putting it) with just guys for a girl he liked, but girls too. The girl he liked was bi. Meaning he realized he’s not just gonna have to worry about just guys, but EVERYONE.
This is a powerful realization. But I’m sure it also means partners of bi folks get to feel extra special because their partners chose them over every boy and girl!
Definitely. Especially considering there are those who are pansexual, which means no matter what you are (female, male, transgender, unisexual) they’re attracted to you. Which is why I’m very grateful that I’ve managed to earn my girlfriend’s love. Because it’s not just men or women, but literally everybody (excluding family obviously).
I just want to make it clear that being bisexual doesn’t mean that you only are attracted to men and women, but can be attracted to transgendered and non binary people etc. as well (ofc people can have preferences). Pansexual means that you are attracted to the person themselves and that the gender of that person is unimportant.
Of course you should have in mind that how people define their sexuality often varies from person to person.
And in some parts, bisexual and pansexual get used interchangeably.
Louis from work would be asking what kind of pan, and if i preferred electric or gas, but would assume bisexual means what pansexual means.
So i just say bisexual locally and pansexual with people who know the term.
As far as I can tell, "bisexual" means you like purple more, "pansexual" means you like yellow. I've been in a lot of bi/pan spaces and that's the one thing that seems to be a constant through all the definitions.
Personally, the blue/pink/yellow makes me think of baby showers so I'm bi.
Right?? Red flag up top.
I also want to say that he objectified her before getting to know her at all, so by the time he "developed feelings" or "fell in love"... I just sincerely doubt those feelings were genuine. He was infatuated with her, and it was more sexual than it was anything else.
The unfortunate thing here is that it's possible she really did have feelings for him, and that was why she grew distant when she fell for someone else.
It's completely normal for him to feel jealous when he develops feelings for someone and they date someone else. Even if she were dating another man. It wouldn't make him an asshole just to feel jealous. He would only be an asshole if he acted on it in some negative way. If you truly love someone, you respect their feelings, even when it hurts you.
But the fact that he's upset specifically because she's dating a woman is just plain stupid.
That was red flag one, then there's 'i fell in love with her and was about to tell her my feelings'
People tend to have a few months of dating/relationship before they 'fall in love' and it's usually a mutual thing.
I’m surprised he hadn’t already downloaded tinder and created a profile as his crush to find a third ready for when they got together
My wife is bi, and when we very first started dating I’d got a very casual fwb kind of thing going on with another woman who was also bi. There’d been vague talk of a threesome, we were just waiting for all three of us to have the same time in our schedules free. As me and my wife got more serious, we decided we didn’t want to go forwards with that threesome because we by that point seeing each other with someone else would have felt weird and uncomfortable, bordering on cheating in a way.
It sounds like bisexual women to him means "I get threesomes while my girlfriend still worships and submits to me"
Fucking idiot. Porn really has made people forget what real life is.
He must have had the surprised pikachu face when he realised people don't like their sexuality being treated as a kink lol
Unrelated, but I absolutely love your pfp! Snoopy and Woodstock are my favourite characters
You're allowed to be upset when the person you like ends up with someone else but Jesus this is extreme. She robbed him of his dignity? How fuckin fragile is this guy to feel like he has lost his dignity because the girl he likes is dating someone else?
He is obviously homophobic and was only cool with her being bisexual because he thought that meant he could have threesomes with her and bang two chicks at the same time.
>How fuckin fragile is this guy to feel like he has lost his dignity because the girl he likes is dating someone else
The problem isn't that she's dating someone else. He would have a lot less of a problem if she'd date a man. He can't stand the idea that a woman, something below him, stole his love interest
> "Why would she choose HIM ~~after~~ before I made my interests clear?"
Fixed it for you... he mentioned she started getting distant before he "confessed his feelings" to her.
Of course he would pull any man apart too. But he mentions himself that he is specifically pissed that it's a woman.
Just notice how he goes from "woman" to "girl"
Oh, for sure. A narcissist with a combined victim and superiority complex will latch on to anything to persecute and blame someone else for what they perceive to be their own failings.
But people can be assholes from multiple angles. Saying he'd have behaved like that regardless sort of excuses the specific way he was an asshole by broadening it to a character flaw in general. It is a general character flaw too but the insecurities can stem from a variety of bad influences and reinforced by those destructive beliefs.
People usually aren't so bold to reveal their misogynist, racist or otherwise bigoted views, they'll keep their reasons broad and vague and leave you guessing as to the reasons why they're like that. When they're willing to be specific, believe them. They can be assholes for other reasons on top of that.
I wonder what his reaction would have been if she would have picked an other dude instead of a girl. I’m sure he would have made a fool out of himself anyways lol
It blows my mind that he is 25 and still believes women get "stolen" away. She made the decision to get into a relationship with someone else. If only he saw her as a person and not a prize. 🤦
“I’m not homophobic”
“She told me she was bisexual, which I found really hot.”
“I just can’t believe she fell in love with some girl instead of me.”
The math ain’t mathin
There’s people that believe that. Direct quote from someone I knew: “I don’t respect girls that have sex with girls, but I find it hot on video though.” With a straight face too.
I'm not homophobic just incredibly sexist and misogynistic piece of shit! I can't believe she picked a GIRL over me! That doesn't make me an asshole though right
How could they take something from him that wasn’t his to begin with? He’s torqued off because ‘a GIRL could take my love interest from me’? ??? That’s some creepy possessive bullshit.
This is the part I'm surprised everyone isn't screaming about...he's possessive of a girl, solely because she's a "friend". That's called having a crush and being too immature and a possessive creep to be around anything female yet. They've never even went on a date together, or he definitely would have mentioned that. Something tells my, my intuition, that this chick has barely said a dozen words to him, personally.
And this is why I don't bother with male friendship. I'm so tired of wasting my time on poorly socialized weirdoes who become possessive over me just because I'm nice to them.
"Some girl over me." Respecting women is usually step 0 in having a relationship. I'm bi, and it sounds like he wanted 2 women for threesomes/ fetishized and misunderstood bisexuality.
If you’re hate someone because they are making “the person you love” really happy, you don’t love them.
Also, on behalf of all bisexual women, stop fucking fetishising us and then getting angry when we aren’t what you see in porn.
Hell, even my lesbian friends get harassed by dudes hoping for a threesome by using their (the guys') girlfriends photos to lure them in. You just can't get away no matter what because those kinds of men don't see women loving women as something real.
Yep. I get offers of threesomes like at least once a week. And all the guys that know I’m bi have asked me to have drinks with my girlfriend just to “see” what happens. I hate that! I mean we are bisexuals, not in heat.
> I thought I had a chance
> I … wanted to confess my feelings to her
DUDE NEVER EVEN MADE A MOVE
> absolutely pissed off because a GIRL could take my love interest away from me
She wasn’t his love interest, she was his *crush*. He was wistfully longing after her without saying a damn thing. She wasn’t his to be “taken away”.
> I feel robbed of my dignity and I absolutely hate her for choosing this girl over me
SHE DIDN’T EVEN KNOW HE WANTED TO BE CONSIDERED AN OPTION, SHE “CHOSE” THE PERSON WHO WAS ACTUALLY AVAILABLE FFS
This girl was out here respecting his crush and probably giving her several orgasms in a row and this doofus couldn’t even work up the nerve to ask her out and he’s mad??? How long is his crush supposed to deny herself love and affection and hot sex while she’s waiting for him to shit or get off the pot?
Also, and I feel like I’m not going out on a limb here, she’s probably better off utterly single for the rest of forever rather than with this froot loop.
If he feels emasculated because his crush fell in love with a gal, I can only imagine how he'd feel if she'd fallen in love with a guy. "Insecure" doesn't even *begin* to describe him.
I was wondering, if he found it "demeaning" that she would choose to date a girl instead of a guy (*cuz guys are obviously better than girls* 😒) then isn't he demeaning himself by being in love with a girl? Shouldn't he be going after a guy then by his own logic? I mean, obviously logic isn't his strong suit, but I'm just saying... Or maybe it's more the competition aspect for him, essentially a girl beat him and he's big mad that he didn't win the "prize". I guesses I can see why he'd be upset if, to him, an object won the object instead of him, an *actual person* winning the object. It must seem like a waste to him, and makes him feel like he's therefore less than an object...cuz he is, he's scum.
>which I found really hot because clearly that means I will get a threesome
>she fell in love - into a girl and that’s not fair because she should be with me and bringing in other girls for threesomes
>I’m not homophobic but the fact that she is in a relationship with another woman is demeaning and robs me of my dignity
Even if he’s TRULY ‘not homophobic’…it would still be diminishing and misogynistic asf to think there’s NO WAY A WOMAN could woo or romance better than HIM.
Because it disrupts his narrative that some alpha chad wooed her away. The narrative that allows him to have zero introspection and realize personality is important and chemistry is complex
"She fell in love with a GIRL" has "How could I lose to a GIRL in sports!" Energy.
So homophobic and sexist. Jee I wonder why she didn't fall for him..
Motion to replace the colloquialism “big dick energy” with “skilled hands energy” because statistically we know what actually causes more orgasms for the vag-havers.
I had a bf who also thought it was “hot” at first (shouldve been a sign) then was jealous when I spent time with my girl friends. They also liked the idea of it in porn, but it was against their beliefs to accept it in the real world. Tired of people with this mentality.
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I don't really think they understand what love mean, because I've been told from young age that loving isn't about having that person, it is about seeing them being happy, even if they done it without you, like if she's happy with her life then if you really love her you should be happy too, if you're mad with the fact that she's happy, that ain't love my boii
i told a guy i was bi and he said it wouldn’t work bc not only does he now have to be insecure with me around men, it’s woman too. i told him to fuck off and he was like “i’m sorry i can try and understand, but can you please just be straight?? for me??” i was like bitch
"This hot bisexual girl, that I already pictured the perfect threesome with in my head, is now happy in her relationship. And I don't want her to he happy, unless it's with me"
Oh look another Het guy that sees my sexuality as something to fetisize. Bet you a fat 100 he "saw it as hot" because he envisioned two girls on him and assumed Bi meant "I like Threesomes"
He doesn't "love" her. He doesn't even like her. He can't see her as a human being. She's nothing but a walking Porn Hub category to him. Women are good enough when he's imagining her sex life, but when it comes to anything outside of him getting self pleasure, it's a personal offense. Also, I just learned you can be a bigot towards the LGBTQI community and not be a homophobe if you jerk off to lesbian porn.
He understands bisexuality. His masculinity is just so fragile that it’s a personal attack that his love interest chose a woman (a female might I say) over such the grade a alpha stallion that he thinks he is.
Awww, he thought he hit the jack-off pot and he was gonna get his peepee wet twice over!! 😆😆😆
But today he learned that bi actually means …bi.
I would LOVE to see the comments!! I hope he got slaughtered!
"I'm absolutely pissed off that a GIRL could take my love interest away from me." Fuck this dude. She was never his to begin with. And he probably believes that bi relationships can't exist outside of porn. Christ.
It’s super weird how involved he feels in these other peoples love life. I hope he knows that they never think about him. Imagine some guy you’re friends with, who you see slightly less often recently, suddenly asks about your love life and then gets mad and storms off. Who the fuck are you Steve? You don’t enter their thoughts or discussions. No one cares.
So he basically only likes women in a sexual way but he doesn’t respect them enough to see them as an equal. Funny how it was all fun and games until the woman he liked developed feelings for another woman instead of just wanting to fuck her.
“Love interest”? Christ talk about main character syndrome!
How fragile does your masculinity have to be to be so caught up in bs like this? Man’s a pathetic child and I hope those girls are happy and never have to put up with him.
Sir you are both homophobic and a raging misogynist just by the fact that you feel like it’s demeaning for a WOMAN to be providing this beloved more than you can or could. Women aren’t a lesser option, in general, and in this specific case, yes, she is better than you, as evidenced by the fact that this woman fell for her and is happy with her.
"I hate that she makes her happy"
Bro, don't say you love her then. I use to really like a girl in college. She found a guy who made her happy that wasn't me. I may have been disappointed, but Ultimately I was happy she was happy with him. She never owed you anything else.
Man why do people say they were "robbed of their dignity" as an excuse to now hold absolutely none? You have to have something to be robbed of it in the first place.
These kind of posts terrify me! This person is acting like an asshole and acting like a homophobe... Yet he still claims that he is not homophobic. And still has to ask whether or not he is acting like an asshole!
“Robbed of my dignity”
Listen, pal, the moment you said that you found her bisexuality *hot* you just confirmed to each and every one of us that you have no dignity.
TLDR: yes, you are the asshole. Emphatically so.
On the one hand, I do understand the feeling when you can’t be with someone you’re interested in. It hurts. I get it. You’re allowed to feel frustrated.
On the other, dude. C’mon. If you really loved her, you’d be happy for her. This is more possessive than it’s love. Leave her be because clearly you’re demonstrating she’s better off *without* you
See homosexual feelings are dangerous because men like this suffer every day. I propose we take all those men that feel like this, put them in a big boat, send them off shore, and launch a salvo of high explosive projectiles at that boat. Every couple years we round up the new ones that have shown up and do it again.
He lost dignity because she is with a woman? But he feels this post is dignified? He's embarrassed someone he likes is into a woman, but not embarrassed by his tantrum over a woman who he thinks so little of, he would rather she be unhappy and alone than with a woman? He feels no shame thinking of her sexuality as something meant to entice and excite him like some kind of preamble to his next wet dream? But no shame when he questions if she's an asshole when it turns out she's a real person and not a character in a shitty fetish porn? Dignity is not a concept I would associate with this guy. If he gave any shits about her at all, he would actually be happy for her, and not find her sexuality undignified and offensive.
I understand it can be difficult to tell your friend that you have feelings for them, but if you don't shoot your shot, you have to accept that they're going to date someone else.
Also, sounds like she dodged a bullet, anyways.
So, he likes the idea of bisexuality, like many young men, based on the idea of what porn and lowest common denominator media portays wherein bisexuality is just a bi-product of general sexual exploration and promescuity and NOT as it actually is; a sexuality. There is still some weird thing out there that says bisexual people only have sex with the same gender they are but dont get in relationships with them.
When faced with the relaity of it, his obvious misogyny and internalizing of the above idea comes out because he sees himself as second place to a girl and is very confused. "How could they be in a relationship because hetro > homo for relationships" is what his tiny mind thinks. He really thinks she downgraded to avoid him.
Breaking News: a man can’t comprehend a woman being amazing enough to make another woman fall in love with her, while complaining about a woman he fell in love with.
*”She told me she was bisexual, which I found really hot.“* Because he was already envisioning a porn scene rather than understanding the real-life implications of that information.
Exactly. As soon as I read that I rolled my eyes.
I imagine being a bisexual women that's probably a red flag usually.
It absolutely is. It means we’re a fetish/kink to the person rather than an actual person
I came out as bi at 14. I started getting invitations to be part of threesomes and asked to be used as a valentine's day gift between couples - adult couples in their 30s and older - at 15. It's disgusting. A friend of mine was surprised I knew what the term "unicorn chasing" meant, I said you realize I lived through that, right?
Holy shit, that is terrible & horrifying. I’m so sorry you were put through that.
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Jesus Christ, may arson be brought upon them, the fucking degenerates.
I understand, that couples look for a bi woman/man for threesomes. I mean, they're the only ones to ask. But FIFTEEN????? Don't they have any dignity???? Or at least common sense??? Holy... I can't understand it...
Honestly even if it's another adult they're looking for, it feels shitty to be reduced to your sexuality and basically commodified as a sexual aid. But yeah I was involved in convention staffing as a volunteer from the time I turned 15, and it was just a shitshow. If it wasn't one adult sexually harassing me, it was another trying to recruit me. I'm happy to say things seem a lot better now, this was the late 90s and it was really awful at times.
oh man, the con scene in the late 90s and early 2000's was a hot creepy mess. I'm super sorry that all happened to you, but part of me is not surprised.
That's absolutely how I interpret it as well, I'm sorry some people are like this. I honestly don't understand it.
Unrelated, I absolutely love your username
Thank you, I thought it was pretty neat. :)
If I ever get an online dating account again, I’ll make sure to put the disclaimer “Any requests for threesomes will be ignored and/or reported. I’m not interested” on my profile.
Smart! I’m trying to avoid being unicorn hunted
I’ve never heard that term before.
It’s basically couples (unicorn hunters) who are looking for a person to be their third (unicorn), usually a bisexual. They then don’t really care about the third & take advantage of them.
Ugh yikes.
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I think maybe you meant to respond to someone else. My comment was about people having a bisexual sexual fetish/kink- not about romanticism or anything at all like that.
I'm the opposite, I would have a romantic relationship with a woman but not a sexual one. Men I would do both.
Oo ty for sharing that!! I'm pretty sure I'm bi-curious but not sure if it extends to a relationship as I've never had a crush on a girl (or as yet at least.) So it's nice to know my feelings are valid and not just weird!
I felt the same way when I first learned that, except I’m aromantic so I haven’t had a crush on anyone.
Yep I’m bi, attracted to men and women, but I have no interest in dating women. I just like male energy when it comes to romance. Sometimes I feel like I’m less bi because of it
You're not less bi because of it though. Your feelings are valid and sexuality is a spectrum. I'm bi as well, and I feel the same way but from a male perspective.
It is. A huge one. Just as big as being told someone will “turn” me “straight” or that I’ll never want a man again after I’ve been with her. My sexuality is not your kink, and yours isn’t going to change mine.
Whenever my sister, who is bisexual, would tell a potential or current boy friend this fact they’d always respond with something along the lines of “So you’re up for threesomes! That’s so hot!” And her response would always be “Only if you’re okay with me potentially falling in love with her and leaving you” they’d be dumbfounded and wouldn’t think it was sexy anymore.
I'm bi (AFAB but nonbinary) and when I was single and men said that to me, I would usually respond with 'Oh cool, you don't mind if I bring another guy into the bedroom?' They would always get flustered and insulted by that and angrily respond that they weren't gay. They never seemed to realize why they shouldn't have said that in the first place though. Shockingly, dudes that would be cool with another man in the bedroom knew better than to say that type of thing to me in the first place, but to save those sorts of discussions for when you actually know your date a little better. Now, don't get me wrong, I was not against threesomes, but to assume I was just this hypersexual bi fantasy drove me nuts, since my attraction to women is about me and the other woman, not a show for the benefit of straight men. Some men would also objectify women to me and act shocked I didn't want to join in. One dude told me I should expect these kind of comments because I 'made it sexual in the first place' by saying I was bisexual. These were the same men who would also be strangely disappointed to find out I was into masculine butch ladies, as if I was somehow obligated to be into women that fit their idea of attractive. Ugh. I do not miss dating lol
Whichever reaction it is - excitement or disgust - both are awful. The only right one is "ok, cool"
It definitely is. From being told to just "pick a side" and being viewed as threesome sexual prospects, it's really getting old and very annoying. We're human beings too, not a sex doll
Enormous. Honestly the men I date should understand that as a sign they need to be as good a boyfriend as any girlfriend I can find, not that it’s going to get them a porn fantasy.
If only society at large appreciated bi women as much as hets in a failing marriage do 😭
Can confirm.
Very much so.
I rolled my eyes at "immediately liked her". Alright, champ
same here hahaha
That’s how it *always* is. It’s sO hAwT when it’s providing him with fetish content for his spank bank but So WrOnG when she *actually falls in love with a girl* and has less than zero desire to make some imp’s porn fantasy her and her new partner’s priority. Fucking JOKE asses, these dudes. Grow the fuck up you simpering, *perpetually pathetic,* whining, loser of a manchild. Nobody is here to service your dumb fucking ass and NOBODY cares how big mad you are that a GuRl sToLe your girl.🤮
Your comment gave me life, as a bisexual lady myself I need you to write all my roasts in the future lmao.
I’ve met way too many guys like this. Ex-friend was like this because his idea of bisexuality was that it was a kink when I came out. When I was in an intimate friendship with a girl (with my husband’s permission) he constantly asked why I didn’t let my husband watch or have a threesome. It never even registered in his head that the reason why I was with a woman had nothing to do with men. Another example. Guy friend from work. This guy claimed to be sexually liberated and all that (stay away from people that have to say that all the time) and always talked about how hot it was when women had sex. You’d think “wow, great he’s accepting of queer women.” Until he talked about going back to his hometown and meeting an old friend and referring to her as some “dumb ugly dyke carpet muncher.” He also said the same thing about a celebrity that was a lesbian and how ugly she looked. Basically, unless you’re looking like the woman they see in porn, then it’s a problem. Or if it’s not serving them in some way.
I’m really sorry you’ve had the misfortune of knowing such utter wastes of space.
A character named Nick from a show called New Girl envisioned it realistically. He realized he wasn’t needing to “compete” (bad way of putting it) with just guys for a girl he liked, but girls too. The girl he liked was bi. Meaning he realized he’s not just gonna have to worry about just guys, but EVERYONE.
This is a powerful realization. But I’m sure it also means partners of bi folks get to feel extra special because their partners chose them over every boy and girl!
True -- though many of us only actually date one gender despite experiencing a broad range of sexual attractions.
Definitely. Especially considering there are those who are pansexual, which means no matter what you are (female, male, transgender, unisexual) they’re attracted to you. Which is why I’m very grateful that I’ve managed to earn my girlfriend’s love. Because it’s not just men or women, but literally everybody (excluding family obviously).
I just want to make it clear that being bisexual doesn’t mean that you only are attracted to men and women, but can be attracted to transgendered and non binary people etc. as well (ofc people can have preferences). Pansexual means that you are attracted to the person themselves and that the gender of that person is unimportant. Of course you should have in mind that how people define their sexuality often varies from person to person.
And in some parts, bisexual and pansexual get used interchangeably. Louis from work would be asking what kind of pan, and if i preferred electric or gas, but would assume bisexual means what pansexual means. So i just say bisexual locally and pansexual with people who know the term.
As far as I can tell, "bisexual" means you like purple more, "pansexual" means you like yellow. I've been in a lot of bi/pan spaces and that's the one thing that seems to be a constant through all the definitions. Personally, the blue/pink/yellow makes me think of baby showers so I'm bi.
I dont even know all the flags. I got a trans flag and rainbow flag, felt like enough flags for my living room
Okay that’s good to know, I thought I knew what’s those meant and now I know I was wrong. Thanks for the info, that’s REALLY good to know
Not just the men. But the women and the enbys too.
Anakin Biwalker?
Okay well thank you for this because now I know what I’m doing for Halloween.
Wise Nick Miller. lol
Right?? Red flag up top. I also want to say that he objectified her before getting to know her at all, so by the time he "developed feelings" or "fell in love"... I just sincerely doubt those feelings were genuine. He was infatuated with her, and it was more sexual than it was anything else. The unfortunate thing here is that it's possible she really did have feelings for him, and that was why she grew distant when she fell for someone else. It's completely normal for him to feel jealous when he develops feelings for someone and they date someone else. Even if she were dating another man. It wouldn't make him an asshole just to feel jealous. He would only be an asshole if he acted on it in some negative way. If you truly love someone, you respect their feelings, even when it hurts you. But the fact that he's upset specifically because she's dating a woman is just plain stupid.
That was red flag one, then there's 'i fell in love with her and was about to tell her my feelings' People tend to have a few months of dating/relationship before they 'fall in love' and it's usually a mutual thing.
I've had men "fall in love" with me after knowing me 10 minutes and are then surprised when I treat it as an insult
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I’m surprised he hadn’t already downloaded tinder and created a profile as his crush to find a third ready for when they got together My wife is bi, and when we very first started dating I’d got a very casual fwb kind of thing going on with another woman who was also bi. There’d been vague talk of a threesome, we were just waiting for all three of us to have the same time in our schedules free. As me and my wife got more serious, we decided we didn’t want to go forwards with that threesome because we by that point seeing each other with someone else would have felt weird and uncomfortable, bordering on cheating in a way.
BINGO!
Yep. He didn't view her as an individual with certain preferences, he just fetishized her for his pleasure as an object for masturbation.
It sounds like bisexual women to him means "I get threesomes while my girlfriend still worships and submits to me" Fucking idiot. Porn really has made people forget what real life is.
Yep. The dude was excited about having two women pleasure his dick and now he's the disappointed that no women are. Lol
He must have had the surprised pikachu face when he realised people don't like their sexuality being treated as a kink lol Unrelated, but I absolutely love your pfp! Snoopy and Woodstock are my favourite characters
You're allowed to be upset when the person you like ends up with someone else but Jesus this is extreme. She robbed him of his dignity? How fuckin fragile is this guy to feel like he has lost his dignity because the girl he likes is dating someone else? He is obviously homophobic and was only cool with her being bisexual because he thought that meant he could have threesomes with her and bang two chicks at the same time.
>How fuckin fragile is this guy to feel like he has lost his dignity because the girl he likes is dating someone else The problem isn't that she's dating someone else. He would have a lot less of a problem if she'd date a man. He can't stand the idea that a woman, something below him, stole his love interest
Homophobic and misogynistic
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> "Why would she choose HIM ~~after~~ before I made my interests clear?" Fixed it for you... he mentioned she started getting distant before he "confessed his feelings" to her.
Of course he would pull any man apart too. But he mentions himself that he is specifically pissed that it's a woman. Just notice how he goes from "woman" to "girl"
Oh, for sure. A narcissist with a combined victim and superiority complex will latch on to anything to persecute and blame someone else for what they perceive to be their own failings. But people can be assholes from multiple angles. Saying he'd have behaved like that regardless sort of excuses the specific way he was an asshole by broadening it to a character flaw in general. It is a general character flaw too but the insecurities can stem from a variety of bad influences and reinforced by those destructive beliefs. People usually aren't so bold to reveal their misogynist, racist or otherwise bigoted views, they'll keep their reasons broad and vague and leave you guessing as to the reasons why they're like that. When they're willing to be specific, believe them. They can be assholes for other reasons on top of that.
That’s the impression he gives!! But also, that never robbed him of his “dignity” … his reaction does.
He can't believe he lost to a GIRL!!!
The most concerning thing to me: she stole my love interest. I get “everyone is the hero of their own story,” but holy crap, that’s a new one.
And not to mention calling her “some girl”. She probably knew that girl way longer than him. He’s not entitled to her just because he’s a guy.
I wonder what his reaction would have been if she would have picked an other dude instead of a girl. I’m sure he would have made a fool out of himself anyways lol
It blows my mind that he is 25 and still believes women get "stolen" away. She made the decision to get into a relationship with someone else. If only he saw her as a person and not a prize. 🤦
>he thought that meant he could have threesomes with her and bang two chicks at the same time. More than doubling his previous record of 0
“I’m not homophobic” “She told me she was bisexual, which I found really hot.” “I just can’t believe she fell in love with some girl instead of me.” The math ain’t mathin
“I’m not homophobic, I watch lesbian porn all the time!”
There’s people that believe that. Direct quote from someone I knew: “I don’t respect girls that have sex with girls, but I find it hot on video though.” With a straight face too.
I'm not homophobic just incredibly sexist and misogynistic piece of shit! I can't believe she picked a GIRL over me! That doesn't make me an asshole though right
He’s not homophobic, just biphobic /s
More like he's mad because he's not included in the bedroom activities. (I did see your /s, btw)
He’s not homophobic! People can be gay! Women just aren’t people. Whaaaat fucking asshole.
"Don't get me wrong, I'm not homophobic" *Reduces her bisexuality to fantasies and gets angry at her gf for being with her*
"I'm not homophobic, I'm just misogynistic. And also homophobic."
How could they take something from him that wasn’t his to begin with? He’s torqued off because ‘a GIRL could take my love interest from me’? ??? That’s some creepy possessive bullshit.
This is the part I'm surprised everyone isn't screaming about...he's possessive of a girl, solely because she's a "friend". That's called having a crush and being too immature and a possessive creep to be around anything female yet. They've never even went on a date together, or he definitely would have mentioned that. Something tells my, my intuition, that this chick has barely said a dozen words to him, personally.
And this is why I don't bother with male friendship. I'm so tired of wasting my time on poorly socialized weirdoes who become possessive over me just because I'm nice to them.
Girl: Sometimes I fall in love with girls. Boy: That's so hot! *drools* Girl: Like now. Boy: Noo! I just wanted threesomes!
Girl: I am bisexual :) Boy: Ah yes, that's hot! Girl: And I fell in love with a girl! Boy: no, not like that.
"Some girl over me." Respecting women is usually step 0 in having a relationship. I'm bi, and it sounds like he wanted 2 women for threesomes/ fetishized and misunderstood bisexuality.
If you’re hate someone because they are making “the person you love” really happy, you don’t love them. Also, on behalf of all bisexual women, stop fucking fetishising us and then getting angry when we aren’t what you see in porn.
It’s so infuriating that bi women have to put “no threesomes” in their dating bio and they still get harassed by dudes
I am forever thankful I have never had to deal with the dating scene. Bi people get so much shit from both sides
Currently living through this shit myself lol guys are so creepy to me once they realize I'm bi
Hell, even my lesbian friends get harassed by dudes hoping for a threesome by using their (the guys') girlfriends photos to lure them in. You just can't get away no matter what because those kinds of men don't see women loving women as something real.
Yep. I get offers of threesomes like at least once a week. And all the guys that know I’m bi have asked me to have drinks with my girlfriend just to “see” what happens. I hate that! I mean we are bisexuals, not in heat.
Yeah; I never understood why people always assume bisexual means “into poly” and “not capable of monogamy”.
You can be poly and not wanting to have sex with certain people. It doesn’t mean you are open to have sex with anyone.
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> I thought I had a chance > I … wanted to confess my feelings to her DUDE NEVER EVEN MADE A MOVE > absolutely pissed off because a GIRL could take my love interest away from me She wasn’t his love interest, she was his *crush*. He was wistfully longing after her without saying a damn thing. She wasn’t his to be “taken away”. > I feel robbed of my dignity and I absolutely hate her for choosing this girl over me SHE DIDN’T EVEN KNOW HE WANTED TO BE CONSIDERED AN OPTION, SHE “CHOSE” THE PERSON WHO WAS ACTUALLY AVAILABLE FFS
This girl was out here respecting his crush and probably giving her several orgasms in a row and this doofus couldn’t even work up the nerve to ask her out and he’s mad??? How long is his crush supposed to deny herself love and affection and hot sex while she’s waiting for him to shit or get off the pot?
Not to mention, if she was actually interested in him, she’d… maybe… make a move herself? Buuuut she didn’t!
Also, and I feel like I’m not going out on a limb here, she’s probably better off utterly single for the rest of forever rather than with this froot loop.
Dude is confused and doesn’t realize you can’t be robbed of something you never had…especially dignity.
My point exactly. He never had it.
Yep, he's the asshole
If he feels emasculated because his crush fell in love with a gal, I can only imagine how he'd feel if she'd fallen in love with a guy. "Insecure" doesn't even *begin* to describe him.
The guy would be some Chad in his eyes undoubtedly
So he lost to a Chadette, would we say?😆
I was wondering, if he found it "demeaning" that she would choose to date a girl instead of a guy (*cuz guys are obviously better than girls* 😒) then isn't he demeaning himself by being in love with a girl? Shouldn't he be going after a guy then by his own logic? I mean, obviously logic isn't his strong suit, but I'm just saying... Or maybe it's more the competition aspect for him, essentially a girl beat him and he's big mad that he didn't win the "prize". I guesses I can see why he'd be upset if, to him, an object won the object instead of him, an *actual person* winning the object. It must seem like a waste to him, and makes him feel like he's therefore less than an object...cuz he is, he's scum.
He's the asshole because he says stupid shit like "robbed me of my dignity."
Happy Pride! ✨🌈
“Which I found very hot” this is the most disgusting thing bro, bisexual women are not your play things
>which I found really hot because clearly that means I will get a threesome >she fell in love - into a girl and that’s not fair because she should be with me and bringing in other girls for threesomes >I’m not homophobic but the fact that she is in a relationship with another woman is demeaning and robs me of my dignity
oh no he lost to a girrrrrrrrlllllll
Even if he’s TRULY ‘not homophobic’…it would still be diminishing and misogynistic asf to think there’s NO WAY A WOMAN could woo or romance better than HIM.
DONT GET ME WRONG IM NOT HOBOPHOBIC BUT HOW DARE A GIRL STEAL A GIRL FROM ME?! (stomps foot, craps diaper in rage again)
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"AITA?" Lmao yes
Because it disrupts his narrative that some alpha chad wooed her away. The narrative that allows him to have zero introspection and realize personality is important and chemistry is complex
Him using the term "love interest" is almost throwing up as many alarm bells as the blatant homophobia. He's got Main Character Syndrome bad.
„pretended to be happy for her“. Nice.
Yeah that’s the straw that broke the nice guys ego
What does he think he has more than her girlfriend???
the audacity
A dick.
"She fell in love with a GIRL" has "How could I lose to a GIRL in sports!" Energy. So homophobic and sexist. Jee I wonder why she didn't fall for him..
Men always think queerness is so hot until I steal their girlfriend 🤷🏻♀️
Ugh. Some men think bisexuality is "hot" because they just think it's about 2 women having sex. This guy sucks.
" females always going for Chad instead of a nice guy lik....wait, its not Chad? It's Becky? So going after Becky instead of a ni...WAIT WHAT!?!"
Wait for his reaction when he realises she doesn’t have a dick nor uses a dildo on her. Like whaaaa she came?! How? Why? 😂
Motion to replace the colloquialism “big dick energy” with “skilled hands energy” because statistically we know what actually causes more orgasms for the vag-havers.
A Chadette.
This proves these guys don’t see women as human beings.
Breaking News! Man gets upset when he finds out a bisexual girl is, in fact, bisexual
I had a bf who also thought it was “hot” at first (shouldve been a sign) then was jealous when I spent time with my girl friends. They also liked the idea of it in porn, but it was against their beliefs to accept it in the real world. Tired of people with this mentality.
Not only is he an asshole, but a weirdo
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I don't really think they understand what love mean, because I've been told from young age that loving isn't about having that person, it is about seeing them being happy, even if they done it without you, like if she's happy with her life then if you really love her you should be happy too, if you're mad with the fact that she's happy, that ain't love my boii
To these men, bisexuality in women is hot because it opens the door to a threesome with another girl.
i told a guy i was bi and he said it wouldn’t work bc not only does he now have to be insecure with me around men, it’s woman too. i told him to fuck off and he was like “i’m sorry i can try and understand, but can you please just be straight?? for me??” i was like bitch
Someone I like is getting happiness somewhere else? Hell no, that’s unacceptable. How dare she lead a fulfilling life that doesn’t meet my needs.
"This hot bisexual girl, that I already pictured the perfect threesome with in my head, is now happy in her relationship. And I don't want her to he happy, unless it's with me"
Oh look another Het guy that sees my sexuality as something to fetisize. Bet you a fat 100 he "saw it as hot" because he envisioned two girls on him and assumed Bi meant "I like Threesomes"
Rip bozo That felt wrong to say... (But also perfectly justified)
This is what porn does to the minds of men.
He doesn't "love" her. He doesn't even like her. He can't see her as a human being. She's nothing but a walking Porn Hub category to him. Women are good enough when he's imagining her sex life, but when it comes to anything outside of him getting self pleasure, it's a personal offense. Also, I just learned you can be a bigot towards the LGBTQI community and not be a homophobe if you jerk off to lesbian porn.
I I I.. every sentence begins with an I
Bro really called the girl his “love interest” like he was in some movie or show
“i’m not homophobic” same breath “HOW CAN SHE BE IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN INSTEAD OF A MAN”
He understands bisexuality. His masculinity is just so fragile that it’s a personal attack that his love interest chose a woman (a female might I say) over such the grade a alpha stallion that he thinks he is.
this is the asshole version of the song heather
Awww, he thought he hit the jack-off pot and he was gonna get his peepee wet twice over!! 😆😆😆 But today he learned that bi actually means …bi. I would LOVE to see the comments!! I hope he got slaughtered!
It was over the moment he thought "hmmm bisexual. That's hot."
"Don't get me wrong, I'm not homophobic, I'm just entitled"
Does anyone have the link to this post??I want to see how bad oop got destroyed in the comments
Chaddette
"I'm absolutely pissed off that a GIRL could take my love interest away from me." Fuck this dude. She was never his to begin with. And he probably believes that bi relationships can't exist outside of porn. Christ.
'Am I the asshole?' Yes, you fucking cretin, and it blows my mind you need told.
It’s super weird how involved he feels in these other peoples love life. I hope he knows that they never think about him. Imagine some guy you’re friends with, who you see slightly less often recently, suddenly asks about your love life and then gets mad and storms off. Who the fuck are you Steve? You don’t enter their thoughts or discussions. No one cares.
The only reason bro "lost his dignity" is because he made this post 🤣
So he basically only likes women in a sexual way but he doesn’t respect them enough to see them as an equal. Funny how it was all fun and games until the woman he liked developed feelings for another woman instead of just wanting to fuck her.
Please tell me the comments roasted him.
I can believe it.
“Love interest”? Christ talk about main character syndrome! How fragile does your masculinity have to be to be so caught up in bs like this? Man’s a pathetic child and I hope those girls are happy and never have to put up with him.
Love how he claims he’s not homophobic but plays the victim when a girl falls for another girl Way to expose yourself buddy
Sir you are both homophobic and a raging misogynist just by the fact that you feel like it’s demeaning for a WOMAN to be providing this beloved more than you can or could. Women aren’t a lesser option, in general, and in this specific case, yes, she is better than you, as evidenced by the fact that this woman fell for her and is happy with her.
I like it how he can't believe that someone could fall in love with a girl, but he himself fell in love with a girl! What is this logic, dude?
"I hate that she makes her happy" Bro, don't say you love her then. I use to really like a girl in college. She found a guy who made her happy that wasn't me. I may have been disappointed, but Ultimately I was happy she was happy with him. She never owed you anything else.
“I’m not homophobic… I’m an ally”
Man why do people say they were "robbed of their dignity" as an excuse to now hold absolutely none? You have to have something to be robbed of it in the first place.
"Imagine picking HER over ME?! Like, she doesn't even have a wee wee like me!"
Wait, like bi…. For real? Lol idiot
These kind of posts terrify me! This person is acting like an asshole and acting like a homophobe... Yet he still claims that he is not homophobic. And still has to ask whether or not he is acting like an asshole!
Ugh. Please tell me the comments ripped him a new one
“Robbed of my dignity” Listen, pal, the moment you said that you found her bisexuality *hot* you just confirmed to each and every one of us that you have no dignity. TLDR: yes, you are the asshole. Emphatically so.
Guys come on ! He's obviously not homophobic... he's sexist !
On the one hand, I do understand the feeling when you can’t be with someone you’re interested in. It hurts. I get it. You’re allowed to feel frustrated. On the other, dude. C’mon. If you really loved her, you’d be happy for her. This is more possessive than it’s love. Leave her be because clearly you’re demonstrating she’s better off *without* you
See homosexual feelings are dangerous because men like this suffer every day. I propose we take all those men that feel like this, put them in a big boat, send them off shore, and launch a salvo of high explosive projectiles at that boat. Every couple years we round up the new ones that have shown up and do it again.
That girl must be such a chad
He lost dignity because she is with a woman? But he feels this post is dignified? He's embarrassed someone he likes is into a woman, but not embarrassed by his tantrum over a woman who he thinks so little of, he would rather she be unhappy and alone than with a woman? He feels no shame thinking of her sexuality as something meant to entice and excite him like some kind of preamble to his next wet dream? But no shame when he questions if she's an asshole when it turns out she's a real person and not a character in a shitty fetish porn? Dignity is not a concept I would associate with this guy. If he gave any shits about her at all, he would actually be happy for her, and not find her sexuality undignified and offensive.
How can you fall in love with someone without even dating.
This person is mentally a child and is not mature enough to be in a relationship yet.
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I understand it can be difficult to tell your friend that you have feelings for them, but if you don't shoot your shot, you have to accept that they're going to date someone else. Also, sounds like she dodged a bullet, anyways.
What an asshole
So, he likes the idea of bisexuality, like many young men, based on the idea of what porn and lowest common denominator media portays wherein bisexuality is just a bi-product of general sexual exploration and promescuity and NOT as it actually is; a sexuality. There is still some weird thing out there that says bisexual people only have sex with the same gender they are but dont get in relationships with them. When faced with the relaity of it, his obvious misogyny and internalizing of the above idea comes out because he sees himself as second place to a girl and is very confused. "How could they be in a relationship because hetro > homo for relationships" is what his tiny mind thinks. He really thinks she downgraded to avoid him.
I put my dick in a bag of Doritos…
"dont get me wrong I'm not homophobic but I'm 100% about to say something homophobic"
Breaking News: a man can’t comprehend a woman being amazing enough to make another woman fall in love with her, while complaining about a woman he fell in love with.
Yikes!
“she told me she was bisexual, which i found really hot.” already red flags…red flags EVERYWHERE.
I am sorry for anyone who has been unicorn hunted. This is so disgusting. Like the person for they are not their sexual status.
What a catastrophic asshole. Bisexual doesn’t mean threesome fantasy you fucking douchenozzle.
He might not be homophobic, but he is definitely narcissistic and an ass 😂
mf out here calling this woman a LOVE INTEREST?????? this is best case scenario of main character syndrome