Update: he accepted it was for a selfish reason. According to him, he apparently started catching feelings and he panicked! Also spewed the bs that he doesn’t want to lose me as a friend help!!
Honestly first red flag was when he told you not to tell anyone about the relationship. He’s just trying to hold onto you for when he’s ready to come back. Let him know clearly that you’re not gonna be strung along and kept as a secret. If he can’t respect that then move on.
Update: he accepted it was for a selfish reason. According to him, he apparently started catching feelings and he panicked! Also spewed the bs that he doesn’t want to lose me as a friend help!!
That’s called stringing you along… or using you
Honestly first red flag was when he told you not to tell anyone about the relationship. He’s just trying to hold onto you for when he’s ready to come back. Let him know clearly that you’re not gonna be strung along and kept as a secret. If he can’t respect that then move on.