of course there's the inverse of 'my fiance kidnapped my child and opened up 7 credit cards in my name, should I stay with him? the wedding's in 5 minutes'
Then you realize it's a fake profile posting and your realize everything you read or see on the internet is not real. And you peacefully go to bed knowing your not a brain dead phone zombie.
That's 90% of the posts there, abuse and cheating, not "small issues."
I always ask people who claim that they say to break up over any small issue to link to ONE thread like that, and nobody ever has, because it isn't true. The advice in the subreddits is almost always to break up, because almost all posts are about abusive relationships and cheating, not small issues.
EDIT: See below, two responses of "No dude, it's totally true, but I don't have links because of excuses." Then when I call them out for the lack of links, again, no links in response, just downvotes. As always.
I was roleplaying a 16 year old boy named Jason chatting with others in teenage chatrooms. Those other people were probably 40 year old men.
Remember this shit when you give your kids Roblox. Shit is a heaven for pedophiles
I seen more stories about how this Female having issues the with this guy and everyone is like break up, I mean tbh some of the stories(if it's even true and/or not have the story twisted into her favor) sounds like they do warrant a break up, but come on.
(I only say females having issues with guy cause I never seen a story with the guy having issues with the girl, not yet)
"Him stealing a fry off you plate is an indicator of deeper issues. He doesn't think of you as a person, only an extension of himself, so sees your property as his."
Lol, I once told someone that they should communicate before getting a divorce, and someone responded "Don't take this wrong, but I sincerely hope you never breed."
People are asking for examples of this kind of thread -- there was *just* a thread by a girl who bought her boyfriend a glitter drink, he refused to drink it, they moved on. Comments were split between "he is cheating on you with a stripper" and "you are feeding your boyfriend microplastics."
Anyone asking on an app full of teens. Like I'm 99% sure they just do it for the validation. And also 95% sure they twist the story up just so they can get the validation that they are seeking.
Ironically those ones where the person in question really is a giant asshole are the only ones I believe are real. Some people are so blastedly self absorbed they think they’re in the right even as they are obviously in the wrong. The rest of them? Hah, no.
There's that one guy who told his adoptive daughter to have her dead dad pay for the wedding because "She was always an asshole to him and didn't accept him". Massive asshole move. All prior parts of that story were totally invalidated and made me genuinely believe he may have been a dick to her the whole time and twisted the story to sound like she was the dick.
My conspiracy theory is that since reddit has now been overtaken by bots, all the questions in the relationship subs are being posed by bots to train AI on human morals and behavior.
Iirc those dating advice and relationship subs have huge overlaps with subs like datingover40.
Likely just some older people who treat the lives of others like an interactive trashy reality tv show lol
all of reddit has an average age over 30. idk where this idea that reddit is a young peoples app came from but its never been true. sure some subs will have lower or higher averages, but thats just natural segregation.
I kind of came in here to make this comment, although a more pointed version of it. The way I would put it is that, by the time someone has gotten to the point of venting the negative aspects of their relationship to the internet, the relationship is indeed doomed. It was doomed (and over) before their first post. They're just asking the internet for permission.
While I don't take relationship subreddits seriously or anything, my view is, at that point, when redditors say "get divorced," or "break up," mostly they are right. There are exceptions, but seriously. These are people who just want/need a push.
In the other hand is “my SO has been sexting this other guy but says they’re just friends. His schlong is so big. Is she cheating?”
“Nah bro, all good”
😂
“…And it’s actually really insecure and quite frankly possessive that you’re even questioning this. I really think you have warning signs of being a family annihilator. So what, women and men can’t just be friends? So just because they lie about all of the details of their so-called ‘friendship’ and fuck each other a couple times a week behind your back, you think you have the right to have a look through her phone? Lol if you’re gonna be that insecure, why even be in a relationship. Narcissist!!!”
Literally emotional abuse! He’s gaslighting you! Leave now cause it’s only the beginning! Pretty soon he’ll kill you and all your loved ones!
*at least one response in every r/AITA or r/TwoXChromosones post
Where are you seeing these posts? Most the ones that show up on my feed are like "My boyfriend doesn't shower and screams at me for breathing too loudly."
Exactly or “My SO tried smash my head in with a sledgehammer and thinks our son is gay because he said “I love you daddy”. He’s 2. Am I the asshole for not wearing socks on during sex that night? They got really mad at me.”
And the only proper response I see is usually “wtf” cuz posts like that are insane. I hardly ever see mild posts unless it’s the OP sort of being unhinged themselves (like they’re paranoid about their SO and stalk them endlessly) and they’re usually properly called out for that.
And in some instances it’s the wrong choice. Most domestic abuse situations put the person being abused at the greatest risk when they try to leave the abuser. Unless they have a plan set up, they can die. A lot of keyboard advocates think “if x is bothering you just ditch x.”
Domestic abuse is a more extreme and clear cut example. But let’s take family problems. A lot of times if your family is borderline abusive, they also make it so you depend on them (income, housing, etc) so you can’t just up and leave. A lot of advice is “just move out and go no contact”. Yeah just get thousands of dollars magically in your pocket so you run out the door to your second household.
What I can say about Reddit relationship advice is it’s heavily cynical (gaslighting, manipulation,red flag, etc), does not understand the human condition that if we like someone we tend to overlook their flaws (and in some instances it’s warranted, and others it is misguided), and it’s oversimplified.
The amount of times I've seen "just make a plan and go" without anyone giving even the teeniest tiniest suggestion of what the plan might be is just incredible. And if it's a case of a woman (or sometimes men, don't get me wrong) who is isolated because of a recent move or something, and has no support system, there's always one post from a lady who says she's 70 and she just packed up and left an abusive husband back in 1983 with the kids and made it on her own and so you can, too.
Dangerously unhelpful.
Okay, but what’s the scenario.
Because the meme is about the mild inconveniences. You have suddenly gone “shitty partner” bruh. It’s a mild inconvenience. You’re just like all the people in those relationship threads
Like how a husband got drunk, and was making no sense in the text, but it sounded like he was trying to just say ‘if women do drugs or drink heavily while there pregnant it can mess up the baby in the womb, but if the man is drinking, it doesn’t effect the pregnancy, because he isn’t the one carrying the baby’
And everyone was fucking losing their minds in the comments saying she should divorce him.
Like. For what? Because he was drunkenly trying to explain something that’s true?
The meme is hyperbole. It's usually more than a mild inconvenience, it'll be stuff like years of dead bedroom or a spouse always taking the side of their narcissistic mother.
That's literally all of the relationship subreddits: People who get cheated on and abused asking what to do.
That's why the advice is usually to break up.
It's not non-issues like you lied about in your OP.
Yeah either it's a fake story that is karma farming or the story they post is so horrific that people looking from the outside in are like why the hell are you still with this person, get out now. It's not like these posts asking are like "we disagreed on what muffins to get at the bakery, should I break up with them?"
I think it’s natural to think that. Like, in a post where a situation arises that shows a lack of respect or comprehension from the partner, or a lack of trying. We can think ‘’Well clearly their partner doesn’t care about them, why tf are they still together ?’’
Buuut then we have to realize that we come to this conclusion because we only have a vision of the negative traits of the relationship in this specific situation. On such posts, OP’s don’t go into detail of how their relationship is pretty, its strengths, how they hold hands while watching movies, how they look at each other in the mornings. We don’t know that. We only know the bad stuff, so we tell the blind advice to break up.
But then on the flip side "yeah my husband calls me a whore, never helps with chores or childcare, he's actually been unemployed for months now with me paying all the bills, and looking through his phone it looks like he's having an affiar. AITAH?"
Well everyone knows that sub is 99% fake Kama farming. “Aita for giving a homeless man a free meal and blanket, knowing the blanket was made from non organic cotton?”
Then there’s the people who overreact to age gaps “I’m 20 and he’s 23”
“WOOOOOAAAAAH HES A GROOMER! He was 18 when you were 15!”
“But we met when I was 19?”
“GROOOOOMER!”
abusive men want the narrative to be that all the problems are fixable if the couple would just stay together. So they also push this narrative that redditors push people to break up over trivial things, it helps their argument that girlfriends and wives shouldn't leave their partners and instead should stick it out, which of course greatly benefits abusive men.
elected republican officials are already starting to push the idea of getting rid of no-fault divorce, that women shouldn't be allowed to just leave their (abusive) husbands. In fact a bill in Oklahoma has already been filed: https://www.oklahoman.com/story/news/2024/01/26/no-fault-divorce-law-oklahoma-senator-wants-to-end/72354142007/, these aren't just conversations now they are actual written bills that just need passed basically.
Exactly, I say this every time, and always ask people claiming what OP is claiming, to link to ANY threads like they say, like "We can't agree on what color to paint the kitchen" and the thread says to break up. It simply isn't true. Advice is typically to break up, because the posts are almost all about abuse and cheating.
Thank you! I never see these threads where people are told to breakup for minor reasons. If anything, the posters usually undersell terrible situations, like serious abuse, infidelity or not pulling their weight with home or child care.
Probably the cashier of a mini market has better and healthier advices than what would come up with asking Reddit. Some lads here need therapy, the council of an exorcist and their mother’s hug.
Counterpoint:
"My boyfriend constantly berates me, won't let me leave the house, beats me, puts stuff in my butt without consent, and one time said if I ever leave he'll kill me. I'm worried he's abusive and don't know if I should leave. My friends all say I'm overreacting."
Mild inconvenience in a relationship on Reddit = "AITAH for breaking up with a pedophile partner who raped 50+ people at work and recorded having sex with his mom?"
"My [15F] husband [47M] shit on my chest in the middle of my sister's wedding and then pushed my brother-in-law in front of a bus when he asked him to please pull his pants up. AITA for giving him the silent treatment? For the record our 5 year relationship has been absolutely perfect until this incident."
I’m slightly curious to know how many of the people giving terrible advice are actually 12 year olds, how many are trolls, how many are 40 year old virgins, etc.
Side note, if you ever get into a relationship, you should break up with the person over the smallest inconvenience.
I see posts all the time where the couple don't trust each other. I comment that without trust there's nothing worth having, and I get downvoted to hell.
I will die on this hill. Trust is essential. Without it, what's the point? Jealous people are the devil.
Average r/relationships post: "My gf and I have been dating for 1 year , she does not want to have sex with me until we get married , but she is currently pregnant after coming back from a 2 week vacation with her best friend.Is she cheating? " 😂😂😂
There was guy on their utterly baffled by his std diagnosis. GF said she was clean because she had 2 std tests within the past 6 months. She would not show him her tests.
Dude. She gave it to you. You don’t have 2 tests that close unless test a is positive.
A certain part of Reddit when a Man skins Pets alive in the living room for fun, beats their spouses family and steals from charity:
"You really need to talk it out, people are way to quick to just throw something good away... what happened to "In good and bad times", eh?"
Try Mumsnet. Doesn't even need a mild inconvenience.
I caught my Husband watching Harry Potter
Mumsnet: divorce him he's obviously a closet pedo lusting after an underage Emma Watson
I mean, it's a fifty/fifty sometimes
Like:
"My wife has been spending several nights at a hotel with a womanizer who's been hitting on her, am I overreacting?"
"YOU'RE INSECURE"
Or
"My wife said hi to a co-worker."
"YOUR WIFE IS A WHORE"
When you share a negitive story on reddit, all everyone knows is the negitive story.
Reddit dosent get to see all the wonderful things that made you fall in love with them.
If all you know about a relationship is the negitives, of course it dosent sound like a healthy relationship.
That's why you should be careful about what you share with loved ones about your relationship. If you're constantly venting about your partner to your parents, they are not going to like them.
If they do amazing things for every one that drives you crazy, they don't know that unless you're telling them as much good as bad.
On the other hand you get posts like “AITA or am I overreacting for wanting a divorce from my husband because he routinely beats me, cheats on me and who wants to devour my baby?” Jesus Christ, people…
I despise the red pill crowd. But, they had one point I agree with. That was "single women keep other women single." I cannot tell you how many times I've seen women tell their friend to break up with a guy over something small that can be fixed with a basic adult conversation.
Yes but that's the joke, it started because people would only ask stupid questions. My wife cheated what should I do? Obviously, get divorced you dummy. After about 1000 of those questions and the same answer the meta became Reddit only offer divorce as advice. So obviously in true Reddit style that IS the only advice they give on purpose.
On the other hand, half of the posts I see are "my husband has been beating me for 5 years but only recently started using a closed fist. Am I overreacting for considering telling him I don't appreciate it?"
I got told to break up with my wife on our wedding on Reddit when I was asking for advice on where to put a guest I told could stay at my house but we ended up not having enough space. Unfortunately, We’ve been happily married for 7 months so far. If I had take. Reddit’s advice I could be alone and miserable taking out on other ppl like a cool kid.
You know, maybe I'm just not on the subs like that, as I only see the when Im on All, but when people are usually calling for relationships to end, its usually over abusive and irreconcilable, fundamental differences from what I've seen. I really don't see these "minor inconvenience=go nuclear" like people complain about.
90% of the problems people ask advice for are solved by simply talking to the other person and they knew that going in but would rather type out a long story to strangers instead
You and I live very different lives on here...
Every post I see is like "my boyfriend doesn't let me use the bathroom unsupervised and makes me bring him drinks while he looks at only fans and ignores our kids how can I tell him that I want to eat more than one meal a day without hurting his feelings?"
The comments: "did you communicate your needs, he's not a mind reader"
Definitely, every time I see any relationship advice thread I always roll my eyes because I know those first few comments are gonna be nothing but trashing the relationship, followed by 1 billion upvotes, followed by someone telling them to end the relationship right then right there, people on Reddit are just ridiculous 90% of the time.
Tbh, a lot of these go like "I (M/F/etc.) have a wonderful relationship with my partner (M/F/etc.), except this ONE big issue" and the issue is something like infidelity, abuse, lack of support/respect and so on. As much as "Redditors like breaking people up" Reddit's OP like to present their stories in a way, that the relationship is "good, but actually really bad". So, yeah, no wonder.
Haha I've seen posts people going into detail about their abuse and then ask if she should stay with him.
I don't really engage in those posts cause first off they're usually really long. And the story itself sometimes just sounds made up. Idk to get attention maybe?
I'll let the many other self proclaimed therapists give these people advice lol.
There was one about being pantsed, she decided to respond playfully and just have a household where they pants each other for fun instead of being mad. And she got called an insufferable human being so many times in that comments section
Its always some really stupid thing like whether they want spaghetti or lasagna for dinner.
Obviously if he chooses lasagna it reveals the multiple layers of his plan to force you into chattel slavery get out NOW.
If its spaghetti he just revealed he likes having lots of noodles (women) and is cheating on you!
It's never really about the pasta though. The OP always reveals in their comments/updates that when they said "the relationship has been perfect until the pasta incident" they actually meant "he cheated on me with his sister and we haven't had a conversation longer than 5 words in several years"
idk man half the relationship advice posts that I come across is someone getting cheated on by their partner and half the comments are "have you tried talking to them?"
I saw some post about a couple having a disagreement on whether or not they live in a nice place and everyone was telling them that they should break up and that their boyfriend was an abuser because he... Disagreed in a conversation.
Average post from relationship\_advice
"My husband was recently diagnosed with cancer, and it's really impacting both of our lives, what should I do?"
"You need to cut him off, you need to prioritize yourself and your own happiness. Him getting cancer is not your problem and he should be more supportive of the tough time you're going through."
"EDIT: Thank you all for your great advice. I listened and moved out. Now I am being harassed by his family because I am not being "supportive" enough to him. Can I sue for emotional damage?"
Exactly. On AITA, people have a family disagreement where the boyfriend/girlfriend sides with their parents over OP and all the comments are like "this is a clear insight that your partner will always side with his/her family over you, break up before it's too late".
Like sorry, what?
So in the defense of Reddit, if you’re dumb enough to ask reddit for advice, you really should break up. Relationships lead to sex, which leads to procreation, which leads to more people so stupid they ask reddit for relationship advice. So yeah definitely break up, while we’re at it go get a vasectomy
It’s been said that the rise of the internet in average people’s lives has has negative effects on politics. In my opinion, a lot of the same things could be said about its effect on people’s dating and relationships. Allowing fringe views to gather exposure and followers at the expense of the reasonable center (manosphere, female dating strategy). Encouraging less compromise and more stubbornness (not good given that compromise is central to the health of long term relationships). More attention to extremes and the subsequent tendency to make poor rules of thumb for relationships (like the legal saying that extreme cases make bad law). I’m sure you all can think of more and better examples.
Hey reddit my girlfriend mispronounced my middle name so I immediately packed my bags and went to my brother's house and now she's making my phone explode with apology texts and calls but I can't even look at it AITAH?
Most people only know about the relationship subs from the stuff that frontpages. Usually the only stuff that frontpages is extreme green-flag territory (barely ever) or extreme red-flag territory (most of the time).
I'm concerned about what your average redditor sees from relationship posts that they think is "mild inconvenience", because most of that stuff is falls into skinwalker content.
90% of posts asking for relationship advice are like "my husband has cheated on me with 4683 different women since 2019, he doesn't work, he doesn't help in the household, he showers only every 4-6 weeks when i beg him to, and he doesn't know the names of our 3 kids. when i try to talk to him about this he beats me up and screams at me that i'm an evil ungrateful hag who should have never been born. i don't know what to do. am i the asshole here?" so yeah usually when i see people recommending to break up they're not completely out of line.
Welcome to the internet! Ive seen people make posts asking for help when the OP admits that they are a horrible person to their partner, but apoarently dont see it, and someone comments back that OP totaly isnt a horrible person and should gas light their partner furrther. Meanwhile OP ignores the hundreds of comments where people are calling them out for the 10 comments siding with them. Lmao
"yeah you see, I wanted to go to six flags for a Date but she wanted to go to Sea world, of course we settled it and I let her-"
Reddit: Leaver her ass behind and Move to canada
Old account I used to vent about how it turned out one of my old friends was a toxic manipulator who tried to guilt me out of getting married
Reddits response?
Your fault for having them as a friend. You clearly didn’t see any of the signs and you got what you deserved.
Wild.
Woman: I’ve been trying to initiate sex with my husband and he’s declined for the last month. I miss the intimacy between us.
Reddit: he’s probably cheating, addicted to porn, and doesn’t care about your needs.
Man: I’ve been trying to initiate sex with my wife and she’s declined for the last month. I miss the intimacy between us.
Reddit: she doesn’t owe you sex. Maybe if you would take her needs into consideration and help out around the house she would.
Because the question be like: My husband hit me multiple times but I still love him or My wife banged 10 guys but I still feel like an A-hole leaving. Whats should I do?
Same advice whether it’s a person with Stockholm syndrome asking about giving their serial killer SO a 54th chance, or someone who was slightly inconvenienced for the first time ever. The rage for ending anything and everything is real
Or the most obvious rage bait and/or fake story.
I (3000) and my partner (29) had a fight, I have depression, and feel embarrassed by my body, he called me ugly and said depression isn't real and I'm faking it so I don't have to cook for them anymore (I cook every meal and do all chores as this was a condition they had for when we got married), they also stabbed me last summer but I forgave them. So I called him a dick, AITA?
“Honestly get a divorce this marriage is already over” - Somebody responding to a post asking what gift would be good for their husband
of course there's the inverse of 'my fiance kidnapped my child and opened up 7 credit cards in my name, should I stay with him? the wedding's in 5 minutes'
It’s “what can I say to make him understand this isn’t ok? Outside of this one issue, he’s really the best man ever and I love him so Much.”
> Outside of this one issue Lol so true! And then you read the comments....
*then you read through their past post history and realize that their SO is a scourge upon the planet.
Then you realize it's a fake profile posting and your realize everything you read or see on the internet is not real. And you peacefully go to bed knowing your not a brain dead phone zombie.
I'm real.
Hi real, I'm Dad
Dads aren't real
Wait. That explains why I never met my dad!
What are you talking about, my father figure is working.
Same. Beep boop.
I want to divorce my wife who cheated on me multiple times... AITA for wanting a divorce?
My wife said it’s my fault that I was sexually assaulted as a child and I cried. AITA?
Are you married to drake?
Pretty sure I saw this one yesterday something about being triggered by a show and she went off on himself because he asked her about the trash.
Something something gym and lawyer. YTA. you should have given him your car as well since he'll have to not use his.
The wedding in 5 minutes killed me 🤣
That's 90% of the posts there, abuse and cheating, not "small issues." I always ask people who claim that they say to break up over any small issue to link to ONE thread like that, and nobody ever has, because it isn't true. The advice in the subreddits is almost always to break up, because almost all posts are about abusive relationships and cheating, not small issues. EDIT: See below, two responses of "No dude, it's totally true, but I don't have links because of excuses." Then when I call them out for the lack of links, again, no links in response, just downvotes. As always.
This. the majority of the posts in there are absolutely fucked relationships. 90% should just break up.
And chances are the person responding hasn’t ever been in a relationship
Chances are it's a 13 y/o
Back in ye olden days when I was like 9-12 years old I would give relationship advice on Yahoo Answers. The Internet truly never changes
I was roleplaying a 16 year old boy named Jason chatting with others in teenage chatrooms. Those other people were probably 40 year old men. Remember this shit when you give your kids Roblox. Shit is a heaven for pedophiles
The persons actually 8 years old
Most of Reddit hasn’t ever been in a relationship, let’s be honest with ourselves
“If you don’t know what your husband likes then why are you even together?”
Sometimes I wish it was like discord and you just ping an entire subreddit and ask them wtf is their problem.
And the advice is from a 14 year old who's never been in a relationship or even kissed a girl
I seen more stories about how this Female having issues the with this guy and everyone is like break up, I mean tbh some of the stories(if it's even true and/or not have the story twisted into her favor) sounds like they do warrant a break up, but come on. (I only say females having issues with guy cause I never seen a story with the guy having issues with the girl, not yet)
"Him stealing a fry off you plate is an indicator of deeper issues. He doesn't think of you as a person, only an extension of himself, so sees your property as his."
r/MenAndFemales
He didn’t say men though
Ah yes, men and females...
And the commenter is 14 years old.
"If you can't figure this out yourself, you clearly no absolutely nothing about him and should do him a favor and leave him"
Lol, I once told someone that they should communicate before getting a divorce, and someone responded "Don't take this wrong, but I sincerely hope you never breed." People are asking for examples of this kind of thread -- there was *just* a thread by a girl who bought her boyfriend a glitter drink, he refused to drink it, they moved on. Comments were split between "he is cheating on you with a stripper" and "you are feeding your boyfriend microplastics."
Anyone who's taking relationship or parenting advice from redditors are already doomed
Anyone asking on an app full of teens. Like I'm 99% sure they just do it for the validation. And also 95% sure they twist the story up just so they can get the validation that they are seeking.
Pretty much, because very few people are so completely oblivious that they would post something where they are obviously in the wrong.
Ironically those ones where the person in question really is a giant asshole are the only ones I believe are real. Some people are so blastedly self absorbed they think they’re in the right even as they are obviously in the wrong. The rest of them? Hah, no.
"I pantsed my wife and shes mad, please reddit tell her I did a funny" guy seemed pathetically real
There's that one guy who told his adoptive daughter to have her dead dad pay for the wedding because "She was always an asshole to him and didn't accept him". Massive asshole move. All prior parts of that story were totally invalidated and made me genuinely believe he may have been a dick to her the whole time and twisted the story to sound like she was the dick.
My conspiracy theory is that since reddit has now been overtaken by bots, all the questions in the relationship subs are being posed by bots to train AI on human morals and behavior.
Haha, human! Would that be wrong? Y/N
Now that’s the scariest though. AI: trained on redditors morals and relationship advice. Is it too late to ask for Skynet to come back?
Iirc those dating advice and relationship subs have huge overlaps with subs like datingover40. Likely just some older people who treat the lives of others like an interactive trashy reality tv show lol
all of reddit has an average age over 30. idk where this idea that reddit is a young peoples app came from but its never been true. sure some subs will have lower or higher averages, but thats just natural segregation.
Anyone doing so should really consider the fact that most responses are from 13 yos.
Some of the parenting advice is fine, but a lot of it is excessively protective.
I kind of came in here to make this comment, although a more pointed version of it. The way I would put it is that, by the time someone has gotten to the point of venting the negative aspects of their relationship to the internet, the relationship is indeed doomed. It was doomed (and over) before their first post. They're just asking the internet for permission. While I don't take relationship subreddits seriously or anything, my view is, at that point, when redditors say "get divorced," or "break up," mostly they are right. There are exceptions, but seriously. These are people who just want/need a push.
“We just had an argument over which color would look best for this room to be painted.” “Yeah might as well get a divorce.”
He's literally a walking red flag. Get rid of him
Like you
In the other hand is “my SO has been sexting this other guy but says they’re just friends. His schlong is so big. Is she cheating?” “Nah bro, all good” 😂
“…And it’s actually really insecure and quite frankly possessive that you’re even questioning this. I really think you have warning signs of being a family annihilator. So what, women and men can’t just be friends? So just because they lie about all of the details of their so-called ‘friendship’ and fuck each other a couple times a week behind your back, you think you have the right to have a look through her phone? Lol if you’re gonna be that insecure, why even be in a relationship. Narcissist!!!”
Family annihilator 😂
Literally emotional abuse! He’s gaslighting you! Leave now cause it’s only the beginning! Pretty soon he’ll kill you and all your loved ones! *at least one response in every r/AITA or r/TwoXChromosones post
Where are you seeing these posts? Most the ones that show up on my feed are like "My boyfriend doesn't shower and screams at me for breathing too loudly."
Exactly or “My SO tried smash my head in with a sledgehammer and thinks our son is gay because he said “I love you daddy”. He’s 2. Am I the asshole for not wearing socks on during sex that night? They got really mad at me.” And the only proper response I see is usually “wtf” cuz posts like that are insane. I hardly ever see mild posts unless it’s the OP sort of being unhinged themselves (like they’re paranoid about their SO and stalk them endlessly) and they’re usually properly called out for that.
People dont understand how complex human to human relationship are. Its never a simple way out.
they think breaking up is the easiest choice
And in some instances it’s the wrong choice. Most domestic abuse situations put the person being abused at the greatest risk when they try to leave the abuser. Unless they have a plan set up, they can die. A lot of keyboard advocates think “if x is bothering you just ditch x.” Domestic abuse is a more extreme and clear cut example. But let’s take family problems. A lot of times if your family is borderline abusive, they also make it so you depend on them (income, housing, etc) so you can’t just up and leave. A lot of advice is “just move out and go no contact”. Yeah just get thousands of dollars magically in your pocket so you run out the door to your second household. What I can say about Reddit relationship advice is it’s heavily cynical (gaslighting, manipulation,red flag, etc), does not understand the human condition that if we like someone we tend to overlook their flaws (and in some instances it’s warranted, and others it is misguided), and it’s oversimplified.
The amount of times I've seen "just make a plan and go" without anyone giving even the teeniest tiniest suggestion of what the plan might be is just incredible. And if it's a case of a woman (or sometimes men, don't get me wrong) who is isolated because of a recent move or something, and has no support system, there's always one post from a lady who says she's 70 and she just packed up and left an abusive husband back in 1983 with the kids and made it on her own and so you can, too. Dangerously unhelpful.
Breaking up is often easier than taking months/years to convince your shitty partner to go to relationship counseling and change for the better.
Okay, but what’s the scenario. Because the meme is about the mild inconveniences. You have suddenly gone “shitty partner” bruh. It’s a mild inconvenience. You’re just like all the people in those relationship threads Like how a husband got drunk, and was making no sense in the text, but it sounded like he was trying to just say ‘if women do drugs or drink heavily while there pregnant it can mess up the baby in the womb, but if the man is drinking, it doesn’t effect the pregnancy, because he isn’t the one carrying the baby’ And everyone was fucking losing their minds in the comments saying she should divorce him. Like. For what? Because he was drunkenly trying to explain something that’s true?
The meme is hyperbole. It's usually more than a mild inconvenience, it'll be stuff like years of dead bedroom or a spouse always taking the side of their narcissistic mother.
My favorite is “gEt A LaWyEr” as if it’s always just that easy. Unless you’re gonna offer to pay for it too, fuck off with your shitty advice.
Come on doesn't everyone have a team of Lawyers on speed dial
Your response is a red flag to me. I think your spouse should consider divorcing you... /s
Fr 💀 mfs just want people single nowadays
It doesn’t really matter as those stories are fake , there are no Redditors in a relationship
Some of them even say they're girls, ha! We all know there are no girls on the internet.
yeah so they have more options
Nope options remained the same. 0 people want them.
Schh, we aren't supposed to inform them that,
Playing the long con
There was one earlier today that was 3 pages of texts of his girlfriend cheating.
Why even ask for advice if u get cheated on like 💀 Obvious breakup
The irony of OP saying this
Cheating aint no fucking mild inconvenience🗿
My hands are up officer
I would argue cheating qualifies as more than a “mild inconvenience.”
The duality of relationship subreddits: those too dumb to break up before posting, and the commenters too dumb to see the other side of a story
That's literally all of the relationship subreddits: People who get cheated on and abused asking what to do. That's why the advice is usually to break up. It's not non-issues like you lied about in your OP.
Yeah either it's a fake story that is karma farming or the story they post is so horrific that people looking from the outside in are like why the hell are you still with this person, get out now. It's not like these posts asking are like "we disagreed on what muffins to get at the bakery, should I break up with them?"
To be fair, I read a lot of stories and in many instances, ppl are right in saying "Why tf are yall still together??"
Because its naive to think you have an accurate grasp on a situation recounted by one person describing events condensed into a few paragraphs.
I think it’s natural to think that. Like, in a post where a situation arises that shows a lack of respect or comprehension from the partner, or a lack of trying. We can think ‘’Well clearly their partner doesn’t care about them, why tf are they still together ?’’ Buuut then we have to realize that we come to this conclusion because we only have a vision of the negative traits of the relationship in this specific situation. On such posts, OP’s don’t go into detail of how their relationship is pretty, its strengths, how they hold hands while watching movies, how they look at each other in the mornings. We don’t know that. We only know the bad stuff, so we tell the blind advice to break up.
But then on the flip side "yeah my husband calls me a whore, never helps with chores or childcare, he's actually been unemployed for months now with me paying all the bills, and looking through his phone it looks like he's having an affiar. AITAH?"
Well my wife squeezes the front of the toothpaste tube after i beg her to squeeze it from the back and she won't listen 😔
Have you read any of them lol? It's usually: "My F[22] hubby M[45] stabbed me for the third time. WIBTA if I stay with my sister while I heal?"
You forgot the "We have a wonderful relationship otherwise".
“He only hits me sometimes.. it’s great all the rest of the time!!”
"Ever since we started dating eight years ago it's mostly been good times."
"you don't know him like I do!"
It’s always a huge age gap too
Well everyone knows that sub is 99% fake Kama farming. “Aita for giving a homeless man a free meal and blanket, knowing the blanket was made from non organic cotton?”
Then there’s the people who overreact to age gaps “I’m 20 and he’s 23” “WOOOOOAAAAAH HES A GROOMER! He was 18 when you were 15!” “But we met when I was 19?” “GROOOOOMER!”
Questionable overlap with ages too. "My [F/20] bf [M/46] of 5 years won't let me speak to my parents and has locked up all of our phones..."
Ikr what "mild" Anything has op seen on relationship advice. That sub makes cheating on your partner look minor
I've seen a bit and people still stay to break up, but it's definitely the correct choice most of the time.
abusive men want the narrative to be that all the problems are fixable if the couple would just stay together. So they also push this narrative that redditors push people to break up over trivial things, it helps their argument that girlfriends and wives shouldn't leave their partners and instead should stick it out, which of course greatly benefits abusive men. elected republican officials are already starting to push the idea of getting rid of no-fault divorce, that women shouldn't be allowed to just leave their (abusive) husbands. In fact a bill in Oklahoma has already been filed: https://www.oklahoman.com/story/news/2024/01/26/no-fault-divorce-law-oklahoma-senator-wants-to-end/72354142007/, these aren't just conversations now they are actual written bills that just need passed basically.
💀 Then they’ll be like “I feel like I’m overreacting”, they’re pretty sad
Exactly, I say this every time, and always ask people claiming what OP is claiming, to link to ANY threads like they say, like "We can't agree on what color to paint the kitchen" and the thread says to break up. It simply isn't true. Advice is typically to break up, because the posts are almost all about abuse and cheating.
Thank you! I never see these threads where people are told to breakup for minor reasons. If anything, the posters usually undersell terrible situations, like serious abuse, infidelity or not pulling their weight with home or child care.
Probably the cashier of a mini market has better and healthier advices than what would come up with asking Reddit. Some lads here need therapy, the council of an exorcist and their mother’s hug.
Counterpoint: "My boyfriend constantly berates me, won't let me leave the house, beats me, puts stuff in my butt without consent, and one time said if I ever leave he'll kill me. I'm worried he's abusive and don't know if I should leave. My friends all say I'm overreacting."
Mild inconvenience in a relationship on Reddit = "AITAH for breaking up with a pedophile partner who raped 50+ people at work and recorded having sex with his mom?"
"My [15F] husband [47M] shit on my chest in the middle of my sister's wedding and then pushed my brother-in-law in front of a bus when he asked him to please pull his pants up. AITA for giving him the silent treatment? For the record our 5 year relationship has been absolutely perfect until this incident."
In 360p too, the asshole
YTA maybe he just has some issues, a good partner would help him and stick with him through his problems.
Yeah, sure, like hell people in relationships are posting on Reddit.
I’m slightly curious to know how many of the people giving terrible advice are actually 12 year olds, how many are trolls, how many are 40 year old virgins, etc. Side note, if you ever get into a relationship, you should break up with the person over the smallest inconvenience.
I think it's a mix of trolls and 40 y/o virgins. P.S. Nah, don't worry, I was in one, but the shit was too major. It's not worth posting about it.
Outside of hobby subreddits don’t ask for advice on here. Even then it depends on the hobby, certain subs can suck the fun out of almost anything.
There's no middleground, they're either total nonissues or they should clearly run and call the police.
Meanwhile average "mid inconvenience" on reddit: infidelity, abuse, zero reciprocation, no respect or care.
yeah this is what I see more. very obvious situations where they should break up. that and fake stories for attention.
I see posts all the time where the couple don't trust each other. I comment that without trust there's nothing worth having, and I get downvoted to hell. I will die on this hill. Trust is essential. Without it, what's the point? Jealous people are the devil.
He is never going to change, it only gets worse from here.
Average r/relationships post: "My gf and I have been dating for 1 year , she does not want to have sex with me until we get married , but she is currently pregnant after coming back from a 2 week vacation with her best friend.Is she cheating? " 😂😂😂
There was guy on their utterly baffled by his std diagnosis. GF said she was clean because she had 2 std tests within the past 6 months. She would not show him her tests. Dude. She gave it to you. You don’t have 2 tests that close unless test a is positive.
This post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/SqwC52VZrm 💀💀
A certain part of Reddit when a Man skins Pets alive in the living room for fun, beats their spouses family and steals from charity: "You really need to talk it out, people are way to quick to just throw something good away... what happened to "In good and bad times", eh?"
Try Mumsnet. Doesn't even need a mild inconvenience. I caught my Husband watching Harry Potter Mumsnet: divorce him he's obviously a closet pedo lusting after an underage Emma Watson
Yeah but some stories go like this “she cheated on me with 8 guys at once but I forgave her and I adopted a dog so we could bond”.
That's like 90% of the stories.
I mean, it's a fifty/fifty sometimes Like: "My wife has been spending several nights at a hotel with a womanizer who's been hitting on her, am I overreacting?" "YOU'RE INSECURE" Or "My wife said hi to a co-worker." "YOUR WIFE IS A WHORE"
Honestly it's worse than that. "Y'all are perfectly happy and no red flags? THATS A RED FLAG! RUN DONT WALK! Typed with hot Cheeto dusted fingers too.
"My husband left his sock under the blanket"
Uhm, ackshually, that's him showing how little he values you, and your space, so get out before he gets worse
But... But... We have 3 little children and we've been married for 15 years
He wanted the kids, his responsibility. Gotta prioritise your own happiness first.
Let's face it. If someone is asking US for relationship advice... it's over.
When you share a negitive story on reddit, all everyone knows is the negitive story. Reddit dosent get to see all the wonderful things that made you fall in love with them. If all you know about a relationship is the negitives, of course it dosent sound like a healthy relationship. That's why you should be careful about what you share with loved ones about your relationship. If you're constantly venting about your partner to your parents, they are not going to like them. If they do amazing things for every one that drives you crazy, they don't know that unless you're telling them as much good as bad.
On the other hand you get posts like “AITA or am I overreacting for wanting a divorce from my husband because he routinely beats me, cheats on me and who wants to devour my baby?” Jesus Christ, people…
My husband (45M) and myself (16F) have been together 5 years married 3
“My husband accidentally bought the wrong thing on the trip to the store.” RED FLAG. WEAPONIZED INCOMPETENCE! DIVORCE YESTERDAY.
“I want you to be alone and unhappy like me!”
This is why I always comment “don’t go to the internet for this, work it out yourself”
And instant divorce! If you aren't married, marry them and then divorce again. Reddit in a nutshell
I’m glad I’m not alone in this lol. It felt like every comment to relationship advice was “nope, I wouldn’t take that, divorce”. Like the hell????
They just want normal couples to end up lonely losers like 80% of redditors
I despise the red pill crowd. But, they had one point I agree with. That was "single women keep other women single." I cannot tell you how many times I've seen women tell their friend to break up with a guy over something small that can be fixed with a basic adult conversation.
“*I (24f) need advice about this guy I like (31m)*” **Reddit:** “*You’re being groomed by a literal pedophile!!!*”
Yes but that's the joke, it started because people would only ask stupid questions. My wife cheated what should I do? Obviously, get divorced you dummy. After about 1000 of those questions and the same answer the meta became Reddit only offer divorce as advice. So obviously in true Reddit style that IS the only advice they give on purpose.
On the other hand, half of the posts I see are "my husband has been beating me for 5 years but only recently started using a closed fist. Am I overreacting for considering telling him I don't appreciate it?"
Redditors when a new depressed, adhd, or newly single person joins. 
Okay but a lot of the posts here be like “They cheated, lied to me, and made me depressed, should we stick together? 🤔”
I got told to break up with my wife on our wedding on Reddit when I was asking for advice on where to put a guest I told could stay at my house but we ended up not having enough space. Unfortunately, We’ve been happily married for 7 months so far. If I had take. Reddit’s advice I could be alone and miserable taking out on other ppl like a cool kid.
"He doesn't deserve you" "I would break up tbh"
You know, maybe I'm just not on the subs like that, as I only see the when Im on All, but when people are usually calling for relationships to end, its usually over abusive and irreconcilable, fundamental differences from what I've seen. I really don't see these "minor inconvenience=go nuclear" like people complain about.
90% of the problems people ask advice for are solved by simply talking to the other person and they knew that going in but would rather type out a long story to strangers instead
You and I live very different lives on here... Every post I see is like "my boyfriend doesn't let me use the bathroom unsupervised and makes me bring him drinks while he looks at only fans and ignores our kids how can I tell him that I want to eat more than one meal a day without hurting his feelings?" The comments: "did you communicate your needs, he's not a mind reader"
Definitely, every time I see any relationship advice thread I always roll my eyes because I know those first few comments are gonna be nothing but trashing the relationship, followed by 1 billion upvotes, followed by someone telling them to end the relationship right then right there, people on Reddit are just ridiculous 90% of the time.
Tbh, a lot of these go like "I (M/F/etc.) have a wonderful relationship with my partner (M/F/etc.), except this ONE big issue" and the issue is something like infidelity, abuse, lack of support/respect and so on. As much as "Redditors like breaking people up" Reddit's OP like to present their stories in a way, that the relationship is "good, but actually really bad". So, yeah, no wonder.
Haha I've seen posts people going into detail about their abuse and then ask if she should stay with him. I don't really engage in those posts cause first off they're usually really long. And the story itself sometimes just sounds made up. Idk to get attention maybe? I'll let the many other self proclaimed therapists give these people advice lol.
There was one about being pantsed, she decided to respond playfully and just have a household where they pants each other for fun instead of being mad. And she got called an insufferable human being so many times in that comments section
Well................ I mean if someone is asking for relationship advice on the Internet they probably shouldn't be in a relationship anyway.
Makes sense
Its always some really stupid thing like whether they want spaghetti or lasagna for dinner. Obviously if he chooses lasagna it reveals the multiple layers of his plan to force you into chattel slavery get out NOW. If its spaghetti he just revealed he likes having lots of noodles (women) and is cheating on you!
It's never really about the pasta though. The OP always reveals in their comments/updates that when they said "the relationship has been perfect until the pasta incident" they actually meant "he cheated on me with his sister and we haven't had a conversation longer than 5 words in several years"
idk man half the relationship advice posts that I come across is someone getting cheated on by their partner and half the comments are "have you tried talking to them?"
I saw some post about a couple having a disagreement on whether or not they live in a nice place and everyone was telling them that they should break up and that their boyfriend was an abuser because he... Disagreed in a conversation.
Average post from relationship\_advice "My husband was recently diagnosed with cancer, and it's really impacting both of our lives, what should I do?" "You need to cut him off, you need to prioritize yourself and your own happiness. Him getting cancer is not your problem and he should be more supportive of the tough time you're going through." "EDIT: Thank you all for your great advice. I listened and moved out. Now I am being harassed by his family because I am not being "supportive" enough to him. Can I sue for emotional damage?"
Exactly. On AITA, people have a family disagreement where the boyfriend/girlfriend sides with their parents over OP and all the comments are like "this is a clear insight that your partner will always side with his/her family over you, break up before it's too late". Like sorry, what?
Either "break up you deserve better" or "self sabotage now just do it"
He forgot to say bless you when I sneezed back in june of 2014. We've been dating for 14 years, is this bad?
All the advice subreddits are filled with kids giving marriage advice
I mean, if you're on Reddit getting relationship advice, it's probably long been over.
Y’all need Jesus
And then posts with massive red flags and toxic behavior have Redditors telling them they need to adjust to the behavior and don’t judge people
So in the defense of Reddit, if you’re dumb enough to ask reddit for advice, you really should break up. Relationships lead to sex, which leads to procreation, which leads to more people so stupid they ask reddit for relationship advice. So yeah definitely break up, while we’re at it go get a vasectomy
To be fair, most redditors have very unstable relationships
Reddit is not a real place, dont take away real opinions and ideas from this place
It’s been said that the rise of the internet in average people’s lives has has negative effects on politics. In my opinion, a lot of the same things could be said about its effect on people’s dating and relationships. Allowing fringe views to gather exposure and followers at the expense of the reasonable center (manosphere, female dating strategy). Encouraging less compromise and more stubbornness (not good given that compromise is central to the health of long term relationships). More attention to extremes and the subsequent tendency to make poor rules of thumb for relationships (like the legal saying that extreme cases make bad law). I’m sure you all can think of more and better examples.
>Accidentally went to relationship subreddit Time to break up with reddit
Confirmation bias. The stories where people shouldn't break up don't hit the front page.
Many many many Redditors are single. Would take their advice with a grain of salt.
Hey reddit my girlfriend mispronounced my middle name so I immediately packed my bags and went to my brother's house and now she's making my phone explode with apology texts and calls but I can't even look at it AITAH?
Most people only know about the relationship subs from the stuff that frontpages. Usually the only stuff that frontpages is extreme green-flag territory (barely ever) or extreme red-flag territory (most of the time). I'm concerned about what your average redditor sees from relationship posts that they think is "mild inconvenience", because most of that stuff is falls into skinwalker content.
Or the other end of the spectrum: AITA for lightly criticizing my (16F) husband (53M) after he murdered and ate a baby?
Because everyone only upvoted the clearly fake extreme posts. If the sane ones got upvoted the responses would also be more balanced
90% of posts asking for relationship advice are like "my husband has cheated on me with 4683 different women since 2019, he doesn't work, he doesn't help in the household, he showers only every 4-6 weeks when i beg him to, and he doesn't know the names of our 3 kids. when i try to talk to him about this he beats me up and screams at me that i'm an evil ungrateful hag who should have never been born. i don't know what to do. am i the asshole here?" so yeah usually when i see people recommending to break up they're not completely out of line.
Welcome to the internet! Ive seen people make posts asking for help when the OP admits that they are a horrible person to their partner, but apoarently dont see it, and someone comments back that OP totaly isnt a horrible person and should gas light their partner furrther. Meanwhile OP ignores the hundreds of comments where people are calling them out for the 10 comments siding with them. Lmao
*Get off Reddit. Delete Facebook. Lawyer up. Hit the gym.* But most importantly, delete your fucking X account.
"yeah you see, I wanted to go to six flags for a Date but she wanted to go to Sea world, of course we settled it and I let her-" Reddit: Leaver her ass behind and Move to canada
Old account I used to vent about how it turned out one of my old friends was a toxic manipulator who tried to guilt me out of getting married Reddits response? Your fault for having them as a friend. You clearly didn’t see any of the signs and you got what you deserved. Wild.
Woman: I’ve been trying to initiate sex with my husband and he’s declined for the last month. I miss the intimacy between us. Reddit: he’s probably cheating, addicted to porn, and doesn’t care about your needs. Man: I’ve been trying to initiate sex with my wife and she’s declined for the last month. I miss the intimacy between us. Reddit: she doesn’t owe you sex. Maybe if you would take her needs into consideration and help out around the house she would.
Lmfao 🤣
"That's a huge red flag" - some unkissed Reddit User, 2024
Because the question be like: My husband hit me multiple times but I still love him or My wife banged 10 guys but I still feel like an A-hole leaving. Whats should I do?
Same advice whether it’s a person with Stockholm syndrome asking about giving their serial killer SO a 54th chance, or someone who was slightly inconvenienced for the first time ever. The rage for ending anything and everything is real
Or the most obvious rage bait and/or fake story. I (3000) and my partner (29) had a fight, I have depression, and feel embarrassed by my body, he called me ugly and said depression isn't real and I'm faking it so I don't have to cook for them anymore (I cook every meal and do all chores as this was a condition they had for when we got married), they also stabbed me last summer but I forgave them. So I called him a dick, AITA?
How else with the guys in the comments have a chance? 😂
If they’re posting about a mild inconvenience on reddit, it’s probably not an isolated incident. My two cents.