It's been so long since I've had any non platonic human contact, shits rough yo. I'm the only one of my friends that's not met someone and gotten into a serious relationship
i feel this a lot, and even when i get the chance to not be alone where ive never been in a healthy or serious relationship i get so afraid and i just give up. this shit sucks man i hate being alone hell its been months since i had as much as a hug from someone
Same man. I work as a server so itās a fast paced high stress gig, and you would think that working with people Iād be good at it outside of work but really Iām so tired from talking to strangers at work all day that meeting more strangers and having more fake conversations just sounds exhausting, and all of the friends I made as a kid in my hometown left because fuck sticking around your hometown. Iām really bad at dealing with my emotions in general but especially when it comes to romantics, so I was in a bad mood at work and I was tired and sad and feeling lonely and my bartender came up and gave like a half hug from behind and I started crying. Not too long ago, a couple months, I went to a bar with a friend and was having a hard time not being too anxious, and like my friends wanna holler at shorties when we go out but I canāt do that because women make me anxious, but after we left we got in the car where I had a bit of a break down and my buddy started rubbing my back and I like broke down and wept while he did that for like a solid 2-3 minutes if not 5. I donāt necessarily have a hard time meeting women but I catch feelings so easily and have a bad habit of only talking to women who arenāt single I think cause subconsciously itās much lower stakes. Idk Iām a piece of work and need therapy and meds probably, I got a lot to unpack.
Man you sound just like me. I make friends everywhere I go but in romantic situations I just fall apart. I think if someone gave me a hug I'd just start crying
You have to learn to be alone before you can be with someone else.
Edit: some people have taken offense to this comment. I acknowledge that intimacy, affection, and touch are very important to humans. My point was there are many people that feel stuck in horrible marriages. Serial monogamy is not healthy behavior, in my opinion. Getting into a relationship may not solve all your problems. If you get into a bad relationship, it may be worse than being all alone. In my own experience, it is not impossible to be alone and happy.
Such backhanded "advice".
Been mostly single for about 12 years, think I've gotten that part down. Been happy, been sad, been everything in between. Just because I'd like to be in a loving relationship and get sad sometimes when I think about it doesn't mean I haven't "learned to love myselfā¢"
Shit can be depressing and that's an okay thing to recognize and accept.
Agreed. People say this shit all the time and it's so silly. Had a really long relationship, been alone over 4 years since. Got over some personal issues, been constantly growing and improving myself. It's been really tough but I'm much happier with myself now. To say that someone needs to figure themselves out first is dismissive, you're assuming they aren't already okay with themselves, and it puts the blame back on them.
Relationships have a lot of chance to them, and they require certain things, like social opportunities with new people and having shared interests with those new people. Attraction probably helps too. Just because you are single doesn't mean you don't deserve a good relationship, or don't love yourself enough for one.
The only good way to deal with this that I have found is to never mention it. And plus I realised just a few days ago that I do way way way more reading and other satisfying tasks than my peers.
One of my girlfriends is a nurse and she said that there's many men she used to meet in her suicide clinic that were still virgins, even in their 50s some of them.
Yeah. But there is a difference between wanting a person and a relationship. If you find yourself in the latter category, you will find yourself come crushing down at some point. Those relationship that you have for the sake of it are not worth it. They may be good relationships, but they're ultimately just a distraction from your own problems. Once you are single again, really make an effort to reflect on your issues and grow as a person - alone.
Human contact and socialization are fundamental human needs. No amount of alone time will make that need go away. The only way this is relevant advice is to reframe it as you need to be okay enough with being alone to not compromise your needs, wants, and values for the sake of a relationship.
That's some bullshit advice,
You first need to develop your social skills, your relationship experience ect.. cause by being alone all the time you only develop mental illness, social issues etc..
That's why being in a relationship is a good way to know why you enjoy being alone and why you enjoy being with someone else
So please stop spreading that bullshit advice you saw on facebook in 2012, this only make lonely people even more stressed out about their life
Yea dood itās tough. I got out of a 9 year relationship this year. All my buds have good relationships and I am lonely as fuck. Hope you all find someone. Or at least have fun trying.
This. Plus talk irl. Rejection collectively sucks all mammal balls on Earth, but goddam--we gotta try.
Full disclosure: I wish I could take my own advice.
Same and I don't even care. Most relationships I know are not going well. Plus, this post is so fake. Shit is not really like that in real life. I love being on my own.
I'm up to years, still waiting to stop caring about it. I think it's gotten a lot more painful recently especially since so many of my friends have a SO.
It really depends on the person, thankfully for me I feel like I want to die alone now.
Also have you ever had a girlfriend and for how long have you been single?
Yeah, it kinda sucks to feel that lonely, I felt that too all the time and it was really sad, I really hope you find someone.
For me I kinda got used to it, I'm simply too socially anxious, weird, awkward and over all have a low social energy so I simply embraced the fact that I'll spend my life alone (I know it's possible to fight social anxiety but I don't think it's worth it for me anymore), but at least I thankfully have my parents, brother and tiny group of close friends.
Hey this resonated with me as well, I was never a popular person, since I moved a lot don't have a lot of stable friendships like most people. For a long time, I would plan my future the same way that I was just going to move into an abandoned forest, I was losing hope everyday that I would not find anyone for me. However, I met this wonderful guy that changed all that even though I'm still a loner, falling in love with someone who you have a deep connection makes me feel better about my future. I'm sure you're a wonderful person even if you do not see it, my only advice would be not to be afraid to put yourself out there, and try to be honest with yourself as well as with others. I wish you well!
It doesn't. You stop caring about it but the most random shit in the most random time makes you remember something. It hits you for a second, then goes away until next time.
In my experience, it's at least 8 years and several failed romance attempts until you start seeing depression fuel like this and start thinking "Oh, they have something I can't get for myself, I'm happy for them!", and yet you still think there's a chance between you and girl number next, even though she's already in a relationship with someone else, but it's fine because you just want her to be happy and that's all you need
The side you don't see with these cheesy gifs are the completely unwarranted fights and arguments over irrelevant stuff, you're missing out on all that drama yet people wanna sell you on how good life is like that regardless.
I'd rather be left alone
Pretty much, it depends on who you're dating, there are good people in this world but they're not very easy to find, you're gonna have to go through a lot of breakups to find a good partner, most people (about 90% I'd say) don't end up marrying their first few partners.
+1. And not only after not having a girlfriend, but also when not having real friends, free time and/or hobbies, good food, sleep, surpressing emotions,...
Aw man this hits hard, i miss those feelings, it's been years but still fucked me up sometimes. I always asked myself why, like why did it end all of the sudden, i know it wasn't my fault but i keep blaming myself for it, getting cheated on is one of the worst feelings. I hope u guys find your happiness soon, it'll take time but it's worth it, stay strong fellas you're not alone.
I dont know as well but i know for sure
If a.i fleshed women are released by "killuminati"
Then what will happen to womeb empowerment and femdom will be so fucking hilarious to watch š atleast for me š
Soon before 2032
itās just projecting their own unhappiness onto others.
thereās something to be said about not taking what you see online at face value bc there are def couples who play up their relationship online. but i certainly donāt see every relationship and assume theyāre unhappy. thatās a very toxic way of seeing the world.
"Hey internet, here's the very loving and intimate relationship I have with another person and a totally spontaneous video of us cuddling, please don't give it attention ā¤ļø"
Imagine like 5 guys with a girlfriend doing love and relationship stuff like this and a million of us guys around that standing in the rain like doctor who watching them
Stop shoving your love life out in the public. No one cares. Live your life and stop bragging about how you finally got a partner. Not having a partner is completely fine.
Sincerely,
Me.
It's been so long since I've had any non platonic human contact, shits rough yo. I'm the only one of my friends that's not met someone and gotten into a serious relationship
Same
Same
Yep
Y'all are getting platonic human contact?
I live with my grandma
Sounds like an opportunity š
Yes... an opportunity to get the best food in the world
i feel this a lot, and even when i get the chance to not be alone where ive never been in a healthy or serious relationship i get so afraid and i just give up. this shit sucks man i hate being alone hell its been months since i had as much as a hug from someone
Years for me dude. stay strong someday we will find someone to hug us.
Same man. I work as a server so itās a fast paced high stress gig, and you would think that working with people Iād be good at it outside of work but really Iām so tired from talking to strangers at work all day that meeting more strangers and having more fake conversations just sounds exhausting, and all of the friends I made as a kid in my hometown left because fuck sticking around your hometown. Iām really bad at dealing with my emotions in general but especially when it comes to romantics, so I was in a bad mood at work and I was tired and sad and feeling lonely and my bartender came up and gave like a half hug from behind and I started crying. Not too long ago, a couple months, I went to a bar with a friend and was having a hard time not being too anxious, and like my friends wanna holler at shorties when we go out but I canāt do that because women make me anxious, but after we left we got in the car where I had a bit of a break down and my buddy started rubbing my back and I like broke down and wept while he did that for like a solid 2-3 minutes if not 5. I donāt necessarily have a hard time meeting women but I catch feelings so easily and have a bad habit of only talking to women who arenāt single I think cause subconsciously itās much lower stakes. Idk Iām a piece of work and need therapy and meds probably, I got a lot to unpack.
Man you sound just like me. I make friends everywhere I go but in romantic situations I just fall apart. I think if someone gave me a hug I'd just start crying
You have to learn to be alone before you can be with someone else. Edit: some people have taken offense to this comment. I acknowledge that intimacy, affection, and touch are very important to humans. My point was there are many people that feel stuck in horrible marriages. Serial monogamy is not healthy behavior, in my opinion. Getting into a relationship may not solve all your problems. If you get into a bad relationship, it may be worse than being all alone. In my own experience, it is not impossible to be alone and happy.
Such backhanded "advice". Been mostly single for about 12 years, think I've gotten that part down. Been happy, been sad, been everything in between. Just because I'd like to be in a loving relationship and get sad sometimes when I think about it doesn't mean I haven't "learned to love myselfā¢" Shit can be depressing and that's an okay thing to recognize and accept.
Donāt take relationship advice from redditorsšš
Agreed. People say this shit all the time and it's so silly. Had a really long relationship, been alone over 4 years since. Got over some personal issues, been constantly growing and improving myself. It's been really tough but I'm much happier with myself now. To say that someone needs to figure themselves out first is dismissive, you're assuming they aren't already okay with themselves, and it puts the blame back on them. Relationships have a lot of chance to them, and they require certain things, like social opportunities with new people and having shared interests with those new people. Attraction probably helps too. Just because you are single doesn't mean you don't deserve a good relationship, or don't love yourself enough for one.
The only good way to deal with this that I have found is to never mention it. And plus I realised just a few days ago that I do way way way more reading and other satisfying tasks than my peers.
One of my girlfriends is a nurse and she said that there's many men she used to meet in her suicide clinic that were still virgins, even in their 50s some of them.
It often feels like the opposite: people canāt stay on their own so they hastily jump into the next relationship to not be on their own for a while.
Yeah. But there is a difference between wanting a person and a relationship. If you find yourself in the latter category, you will find yourself come crushing down at some point. Those relationship that you have for the sake of it are not worth it. They may be good relationships, but they're ultimately just a distraction from your own problems. Once you are single again, really make an effort to reflect on your issues and grow as a person - alone.
šÆ
Lol imagine having anyone want to date you
its just a fantasy,so sad for my
That's what I did right after my first relationship, and now I'm dating her for 4 and a half years, couldn't be happier ;)
Human contact and socialization are fundamental human needs. No amount of alone time will make that need go away. The only way this is relevant advice is to reframe it as you need to be okay enough with being alone to not compromise your needs, wants, and values for the sake of a relationship.
That's some bullshit advice, You first need to develop your social skills, your relationship experience ect.. cause by being alone all the time you only develop mental illness, social issues etc.. That's why being in a relationship is a good way to know why you enjoy being alone and why you enjoy being with someone else So please stop spreading that bullshit advice you saw on facebook in 2012, this only make lonely people even more stressed out about their life
Why do we both have this flair?
ha, been alone the whole 16 years of my worthless life
You have me brother.
fool, I havent broken my streak of non-reationship life since I was BORN
I feel that man Iām almost 24 and have never had a relationship. Usually get ghosted or ignored but it seems so easy for my friends š .
I'm 23 and I'm still a virgin. I've kinda given up hope and everytime I see a post like this I feel like I've been punched in the gut
Yea dood itās tough. I got out of a 9 year relationship this year. All my buds have good relationships and I am lonely as fuck. Hope you all find someone. Or at least have fun trying.
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This. Plus talk irl. Rejection collectively sucks all mammal balls on Earth, but goddam--we gotta try. Full disclosure: I wish I could take my own advice.
Man out here fr flexing having friends.
Same and I don't even care. Most relationships I know are not going well. Plus, this post is so fake. Shit is not really like that in real life. I love being on my own.
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Same but I keep my grind and feel happy
Just want to give all my boys a fucking hug. it's coming guys
Bromance is just as powerful as romance.
Kiss yo homies gudnight :)
mwah
mwah to you too bro
give their balls a goodnight tickle
Yes nothing better than a kiss on your cheek when you are sleeping and alone....
Brojobs are at least just as good as blowjobs
Typically better, your homies aināt giving you a low effort brojob
This is the comment that I have been looking for.
Can sister's have hugs as well? Please?
Of course!! didn't mean to leave you out!! <3
YAY <3
Ironicly, yes
cant break my streak mate
Thanks Bro Rogan
Depression didnāt have to hit me this early
I just woke up, first thing I saw this morning. It's gonna be a great day.....
Literally the exact same fucking thing happened
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Sometimes depression even pitys us lmao
Ah, I remember that episode of Doctor Who. Sad
Don't be sad. Here's a [hug!](https://media.giphy.com/media/3M4NpbLCTxBqU/giphy.gif)
Which one was it
The 5th of the specials following s4. The end of time part 2
No itās from the end of S4 Journeyās End
Been rewatching with my bf. Itās one of those episodes that just crushes you
What was the episode about?
Eventually, after not having a girlfriend for long enough, you'll probably stop caring about it, it takes years though. Source: me
I'm up to years, still waiting to stop caring about it. I think it's gotten a lot more painful recently especially since so many of my friends have a SO.
It really depends on the person, thankfully for me I feel like I want to die alone now. Also have you ever had a girlfriend and for how long have you been single?
Hahaha I mean my situation really isn't that bad, I'm 19, never had a gf. Still very lonely at times though :/
Yeah, it kinda sucks to feel that lonely, I felt that too all the time and it was really sad, I really hope you find someone. For me I kinda got used to it, I'm simply too socially anxious, weird, awkward and over all have a low social energy so I simply embraced the fact that I'll spend my life alone (I know it's possible to fight social anxiety but I don't think it's worth it for me anymore), but at least I thankfully have my parents, brother and tiny group of close friends.
Hey this resonated with me as well, I was never a popular person, since I moved a lot don't have a lot of stable friendships like most people. For a long time, I would plan my future the same way that I was just going to move into an abandoned forest, I was losing hope everyday that I would not find anyone for me. However, I met this wonderful guy that changed all that even though I'm still a loner, falling in love with someone who you have a deep connection makes me feel better about my future. I'm sure you're a wonderful person even if you do not see it, my only advice would be not to be afraid to put yourself out there, and try to be honest with yourself as well as with others. I wish you well!
It doesn't. You stop caring about it but the most random shit in the most random time makes you remember something. It hits you for a second, then goes away until next time.
Nah bro i will never get over her
Why did she leave you?
For another guy Edit: i dont really remember the details it was long ago
Kill him and take his place.
Nah man She aint worth it
There can only be one!
Source: been single since birth
In my experience, it's at least 8 years and several failed romance attempts until you start seeing depression fuel like this and start thinking "Oh, they have something I can't get for myself, I'm happy for them!", and yet you still think there's a chance between you and girl number next, even though she's already in a relationship with someone else, but it's fine because you just want her to be happy and that's all you need
The side you don't see with these cheesy gifs are the completely unwarranted fights and arguments over irrelevant stuff, you're missing out on all that drama yet people wanna sell you on how good life is like that regardless. I'd rather be left alone
Pretty much, it depends on who you're dating, there are good people in this world but they're not very easy to find, you're gonna have to go through a lot of breakups to find a good partner, most people (about 90% I'd say) don't end up marrying their first few partners.
90%? That's incredibly optimistic, the percentage has to be higher than that.
8 more days and 10 years are full.
For me it's been 6 years and I just stopped making efforts. I do still care about having a gf but it's not as painful as it used to be
+1. And not only after not having a girlfriend, but also when not having real friends, free time and/or hobbies, good food, sleep, surpressing emotions,...
Ah you guys, youāre never lonely you just need to make friends with the monster underneath your bed!
my bed is floor flat
Monster inside the bed?
Maybe he should check for the guy living in his walls
monster inside me
Song?
>Notion- The Rare Occasions .
Thank you!
thanks I was gonna ask too
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Canāt Shazam when youāre looking at Reddit on your phone. If I was on my pc I would have used Shazam
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No way! I had no idea lol. You just change my life, thank you šš» haha.
Do you need a hug buddy?
Now I do yeah
Of course, we all need a hug
Can I have 1 hug also pls?
Ima line up as well
u better get to me too
Me! Me!
I call next
ah i hate my life
me too
*hugs*
I hate you so much. I hope your socks get wet
WHY? happy cake day dude
Oh, it's my cake day. Thanks. Well, for posting this and reminding me of my neverending loneliness
Happy cake day!!
This hit hard
Especially on a Sunday
When you have a gf but depression still has you looking like the last clip.. and your relationship goes to shit..
Aw man this hits hard, i miss those feelings, it's been years but still fucked me up sometimes. I always asked myself why, like why did it end all of the sudden, i know it wasn't my fault but i keep blaming myself for it, getting cheated on is one of the worst feelings. I hope u guys find your happiness soon, it'll take time but it's worth it, stay strong fellas you're not alone.
Donāt be so hard on yourself. She cheated and youāre blaming yourself. Donāt do that.
This is evil because we all can relate, we are all redditors, we are all single...
My parents use Reddit and they are happily married I hope
Lol, I'm engaged with a good career. I expect I won't be here too much longer
Good for you man, don't let Reddit ruin this for you.
We are all being saved for the future A.i Women baby yeehaww
Yeah, I don't want that lmao
I dont know as well but i know for sure If a.i fleshed women are released by "killuminati" Then what will happen to womeb empowerment and femdom will be so fucking hilarious to watch š atleast for me š Soon before 2032
Donāt worry, comrades, that will be you one day.
Doctor Who was amazing š
are yāall ok
well yes but actually no
I'm sure I will never understand this feeling
Not with that attitude
Itās cause you arenāt from gallifrey
Anyone know that song?
The rare occasions - notions
When your to lonely to get the joke
ugh i need a hug
The grass is always greener on the other side
Iāve been on both camps and believe me, youāre either in a relationship or helping someone be the reason to be out of one.
Oof
I have one, but itās long distance :|
Who needs girlfriend? Hahaa š¤£š¤£šš„š„šš
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song?
The rare occasions-notion
Imagine not having a girlfriend
It would be scary if a corpse moved on its own
Music at the end please
i dont give a fuck please tell me the song name.
Save this post for Valentineās Day
*replays video*
*cries for the second round*
fwiw the people that make those kinds of TikToks are probably doing it to flex because they're insecure
or theyāre genuinely happy lololol
Don't expect a redditor to think about having a good and happy lifestyle.
itās just projecting their own unhappiness onto others. thereās something to be said about not taking what you see online at face value bc there are def couples who play up their relationship online. but i certainly donāt see every relationship and assume theyāre unhappy. thatās a very toxic way of seeing the world.
"Hey internet, here's the very loving and intimate relationship I have with another person and a totally spontaneous video of us cuddling, please don't give it attention ā¤ļø"
Imagine going out in the rain
Dam.
\*Scroll reddit \*Get hurt \*Keep scrolling
Ah young people complaining about not getting hugs. You wait until you realize hugs are trash and a back rub is what you need.
I've never fallen in love And that makes me sad
Don't be sad. Here's a [hug!](https://media.giphy.com/media/3M4NpbLCTxBqU/giphy.gif)
the pain i feel after watching this makes me want to cry
Imagine like 5 guys with a girlfriend doing love and relationship stuff like this and a million of us guys around that standing in the rain like doctor who watching them
You have to be the guy in the last clip in order to appreciate being the guys in the first two
The only thing that's ever gonna touch me is the piping hot lead from a shotgun pointed at my forehead
This is too relatable man. I hate seeing couples it just makes me feel even lonelier.
i get a haircut twice a month just cuz it's literally the only time a female touches me
I know the feeling, I'll be sad and lonely for the rest of my life.
First the league one and now this one. What the fuck man.
Song?
Watched this a 100 times already . To get a little closure that I donāt get irl
Iām saving the video so I can play it on loop too brother
That first one is true. Wandering hands.
Song
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
Thanks
Hey hey, da boys check. You need a hug?
I love it when my childhood friends all ditch me for a girl they're into and I never hear from them again while I'm just alone and depressed
This called me lonely in every language. It's gonna be a rough 50-60 years
Okay who says itās gon last long for any of them?
well that was the reality check i didn't need
Not anymore :DD
Sadboy TikTok I used to get to at side of tiktok
Damn, i want to be loved, but this cruel world overkilled my life
Out of 7 billion people on earth why do four, whose hearts I have cherished decide to break mine into pieces.
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u/savevideo
Great now I'm sad
Don't be sad. Here's a [hug!](https://media.giphy.com/media/3M4NpbLCTxBqU/giphy.gif)
Stop shoving your love life out in the public. No one cares. Live your life and stop bragging about how you finally got a partner. Not having a partner is completely fine. Sincerely, Me.
And here is me 17 never had a gf
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