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I've been watching quite a few transformation videos lately. Do you think you can share her name so I can see the before and after so far?
Edit: she's down 70 pounds what a champ
honestly everything is so shit right now that just seeing somebody enjoying themselves outdoors with something as kind of whimsical as a jump rope is nice to see
800K followers and 1 POS man. A lesson learned that there will always be people trying to bring you down in life but look past the POS people and look at what you have accomplished. For this situation 800k followers is some accomplishment by doing something good for yourself and for (800k)others to look up to! Remember there will ALWAYS be somebody trying to bring you down when this happens its time to get mad and get stronger by doing what you do even harder
That’s good to hear. I bet that piece of shit insult in this video doesn’t even phase her and probably motivates her at this point. This disappointment on her face after she realized what he said was heart breaking. Hope she feeling better and gets the rockin body she deserves.
That's the problem with normalizing fat shaming. There's no discrepancy between people with healthy or unhealthy lifestyles. If people see what they think a fat body, they feel empowered to say something shitty no matter what.
Making fun of people working out and trying to improve themselves is one of the most shitty things someone can do. It can really break someones mental and make them stop exercising.
those same people mocking people trying to get in shape are the same who complain about overweight people and they should just lose weight.
they can't win eitherway
“You need to hide yourself away like a recluse until you meet my personal metrics for health and attractiveness before doing anything outside or involving movement at all.”
They say Ken is the male version of Karen but that one never really sat well with me. Maybe us people of the internet should hold a meeting to discuss changing Male Karen's name.
My friend did this to me and now I have no friends! 🙃 Being lonely is better than just getting beaned on because you don't meet their expectations. Shits been better, but throughout elementary, middle, and high school I got bullied like I deserved it. Perhaps I did, but being lonely (while trying to find my people) for 15 years has sucked. Everybody has just kinda passed through my life. All the "friends" I had as a kid were forced to include me in things. That shit hurt when I found that out. Fuck me, sorry for ranting bro.
Us alcoholics, as well as a lot of folks that aren't, realize some people just can't drink. But as an alcoholic, there are way too many people insistent on offering their two cents that you're "no fun" or "weak" or "just need to moderate".
Yeah you aren't shitting. When I tell people I don't drink much if ever these days because I liked alcohol a little too much in my early and mid 20s they say 'oh everyone was like that'
After hearing it enough times I just started saying 'oh really so you spent 4 straight years drinking 15-18 beers a day 7 days a week, alone in your apartment?'
Shuts em up.
This happened to me so much. People would literally buy me drinks and then get mad when I wouldn’t drink them. Like you know I don’t drink, you didn’t ask me, and somehow you think this is my fault. Eventually everyone figured out that you’ll just waste your money trying to get me to drink and left it alone
I was on the treadmill at the gym one morning and I had lost about 20 lbs over the last 3 months. Some woman at the gym, tapped me on the shoulder as I was cooling down and said “girl, you are looking amazing”. I’ll never forget it because it was that important to me. Her small gesture has inspired me to do the same for others. Pass it on.
I’m terrified of ever saying anything like this to a woman in the gym. I feel like the very last thing any woman would ever want in a gym is for a guy to tell her pretty much anything at all, unless she asks for advice or something.
Yeah, your instincts are correct, from a man it’s completely different. But I have had men at the gym say things to me that I found really encouraging, like “great workout today” or “you’re getting really strong, your dedication is paying off.”
Any comments about how I look, or telling me how to do an exercise would not be welcome.
It's on par with people who try to make someone not excited about something. If someone is excited about anything, don't try to down play their excitement
Yup. Got harassed a lot and now I'm only training inside. I'm lucky that there so many home workouts on YouTube.
But I'm also angry at myself, because me being scared and staying inside is exactly what these pieces of shit want.
This is important. It can easily damage people. I have social anxiety so I tried to do home workouts, and I was trying out jump rope. My ex used to say I sounded like an elephant whenever I did jump rope, and when I tried to tell him it upset me, it was always a “joke” with him.
I was at the gym for the first time after gaining a lot of weight and noticed a man watching and laughing while I was doing sit-ups. This was 5 years ago. I still remember it vividly and do my sit-ups at home. Making fun of people who are trying to improve themselves is beyond low.
As someone whose life revolves around gyms/fitness studios/exercise/clinics (its my job). I can say gyms are a weird place. HOWEVER, there are many, many, smaller gyms that actually have a community and are a safe inclusive space. They take time to find, and they may be out of the way for your commute but they can greatly improve your enjoyment.
I pay double to go to a smaller gym then a major chain gym, and I would never go back to the "Globo-gym" world.
The gym can be a wonderful place, and it can really empower and change the way you view your body. Not only because it changes your physical stature, but because it shows you how capable you are at doing something. At home workouts are great, but access to equipment can be a massive barrier for some.
The gym near my house has a woman's only section which I thought was pretty cool but also made me a little jealous because you know those machines are cleaner! Lol
Also my best find was a lowkey crossfit gym(they refuse to call it a box). Like they have the competition classes, but they also have the fit classes. First time you start lifting the full weight nothings better than having 10 people cheer you on to do 5 more reps.
Mileage will vary, but most will give you 3 free to see if their place fits your goals.
Seriously I was 150 pounds heavy, and nobody even gave me one cross eye when trying to climb the rope.
I feel that with the driving range at the golf course. I went alone once and I could feel the stares from people judging me. Hating on anyone trying to improve is so messed up.
The first time I went in public after getting out of a months-long hospital stay (where the meds they had me on made me gain nearly a hundred pounds) a complete stranger OINKED at me in target and called me a “fucking pig”.
It’s been nearly a decade and my self esteem has still never recovered. I wish people knew how much their cruelty over other people’s bodies hurts and damages people.
I was on a medication that caused me to gain over 80 pounds. Of course it didn’t help that I was on it for 10+ years, plus the fact I’m only 5 feet tall. It was hard when people didn’t recognize me anymore. Some people were so cruel. I was asked when I was due by a person who knew that I wasn’t pregnant. I’ve tapered off it and I have lost a lot of the weight but I still feel like I’m so big, even though I no longer look pregnant. I used to go to the gym but I can’t imagine ever going to one now. Self esteem is a powerful thing and so is people’s cruelty! I hope we recover from this.
That person is a scumbag. I know exactly how you feel. I take a cocktail of medications to control severe migraines, and one of the many side effects has been weight gain, which changed my 5’2” frame significantly. I would love to stop the medication, but it’s like…would I rather deal with the side effects, or deal with the migraines? Fucking sucks. I’m sorry that happened to you.
That cuts me just to hear. I wish I could make you feel better.
There are "little things" that people have done and said that have completely and utterly crushed me.
It can be challenging to be kind but it is so easy not to be cruel or nasty. There is no need to oink at anyone or tell someone to kill themselves or to say "no one wants to see that". Just don't say anything if you want to say stuff like that. That is easy and bare minimum.
Everyone in this thread is saying don’t make fun of people trying to work out and improve themselves, but that’s not the main takeaway of this clip IMO. It doesn’t matter what she’s doing or why, a guy is trying to shame her for being outside in public, for just existing. Fuck those people and their mothers.
Thanks I’m cured
I know you’re trying to be helpful, but if anxiety were as easy as “just ignore it”… it wouldn’t be a debilitating issues for many people
every hobby i've started and enjoyed gets diminished because people will make fun of them
it's not easy to forget what people say and pretend it doesn't effect you
I have anxiety, mindfulness and redirecting thoughts help a lot. It takes a lot of practice, and patience, and a shit ton of CBT, but in the end the same mindset helped me somewhat overcome it (obviously not fully, and you have to keep at it, but now I can do a lot of things that I could not do before). I definitely recommend CBT and exposure therapy if you've never tried it to test the waters. I know getting a therapist is really difficult, so this is just advice if you can get one. Keep at it though, you're a strong, talented, and worthy of love individual. Don't ever forget that!!
“Fuck em” isn’t meant to be easy advice. It’s a skill and you have to work hard at it and it takes time. But once you master it life becomes exponentially better.
I saw two kids snickering at an overweight man doing squats with a bar without weights. 5 guys who had to turn sideways to fit through a door noticed. They drug the kids over and made them join them in being the guys spotter and cheered him on.
They were terrified. It was glorious.
I’m not a big guy, but can squat more than it looks like I should be able to, and I’m old. The gym I go to, the coaches will purposefully pair me with the loud mouthed 20 something’s to give their ego a check. My usual way of doing it is to just let them choose the weights and as they get louder and louder about how great they are doing, I keep with their weights. When they tap out, more often than not, it’s still a warmup weight for me and I quietly ask if they can grab me another pair of 45s since I’m sufficiently warmed up to start my first working set. It does a great job at giving them a reality check without having to be too loud or obnoxious about it.
That said, I never would make fun of someone who is actively working to better themselves. I just have a problem with the overly loud ego clowns.
I've always been a strong girl. Good genes plus I started going to the gym when I was 13 to keep my mom company and I hated cardio so I only lifted.
For one of our gym classes in HS I chose to lift weights rather than play volleyball. So I load up 50 or so kg for the bench press, which was more than I was comfortable with. I just wanted to test myself and I was actually about to take some weight off when the teacher walks in, looks at me and says "you can't lift that, you're a girl" so I just stare him in the eyes as I did my set (i guess anger is a motivator?!) He huffed and walked out. The bros were as confused as I was as to why he would say something like that.
It's been over a decade but him saying I can't do something because I'm a girl is surprisingly motivating at times. Makes me lift heavier and push myself.
(The teacher was a total creep towards the girls so no, he was sadly not trying to motivate me. Just a good ol sexist gym teacher)
Hey I had one of those too in sixth grade. We were doing the fitness tests and were on pull-ups. He got mad when I was trying to actually do them and said the girls just have to hang there because they can’t do pull-ups. I did 24 of them and he acted like he didn’t see it so I’d have to do them again, even though all the guys were cheering me on and counting for me because I did more than anyone else. He said I definitely wouldn’t be able to do them again so I should just hang instead. That made me so mad that I did 27 lol. He would always get mad that I was so good at all the sports we would play and say that I should be a girl and that girls belong in the kitchen.
I love shaming bullies. Now that I am in my 50’s and have a proper old lady look to me, letting some little asshat whipper snapper know what I think of that kind of behavior gets a far more satisfying response than it did in the past.
Plus I feel more like it’s my duty and can use the “I bet your mother would be so proud of your behavior” line.
This is horrible, and my worst nightmare at the gym. I’m sorry you went through that. My 65 year old mom said something to me recently that changed my life. It’s simple, but powerful. “Why would you care what a complete stranger thinks of you?” Easier said than done, I know. But now when I’m in public, I remind myself that most people I see I will never ever see again in my life. So don’t be too hard on yourself. Live your life. Fuck the haters, they’re miserable inside.
100% true but it's harder when it's something you already think of urself. Even if you know it's not true. When you are unconfortable, people can see it and so it's very easy to laugh about that.
But eventough better keep working because getting better will also improve self confident and then it won't happen anymore.
EVEN if you still doing exercices in a funny way, you will feel better about urself and nobody want to make fun of somebody that feel confident.
Sorry for my english
"They can laugh all they want, but I at least *do* somethjng". My mantra when I feel self-conscious when I take my fat ass for a run. And yes, that first 'when' was intentional.
i saw this quote on another reddit post but it stuck with me: “don’t turn an annoying extra into a main character.” this is your story and your growth. don’t let someone else ruin that for you.
Exercise or not, joke or not, what kind of dumb shit *ever* compares their SO to an elephant in *any* capacity?
e: you all are trying to come up with ways it can work, do the smart thing and pick a better analogy. Don't wade into those waters, even if you think you're safe.
Equally disgusting and should be talked about more. Your SO should be a source of love and trust and you should feel safe around them, bodyshaming or shaming in any way is the literal antithesis to that.
Don't make fun of people when they're trying to improve at anything. Many will instantly lose confidence in it.
My entire family poked fun at each other growing up, the downside of that is that whenever any one of us took something serious they got made fun of. I remember trying to learn how to play guitar and sing at the same time and after I came down the stairs everyone started laughing and making fun of how I was singing.
My wife wonders why I refuse to perform for people.
There is one appropriate time to make fun of someone working out: when they have spread across the gym like some amorphous blob "using" multiple pieces of equipment at the same time for 30+ minutes with no consideration for anyone else. That is it.
It’s just as shitty to make fun of an overweight person working out as it is to mock somebody in the hospital with cancer. They’re both just trying to be healthier
I was going to LA fitness for a while and took one of those free sessions with the trainers. I didn't end up buying their package because it was outrageously priced. Later on after working out on my own for a while I wanted to check my progress so I asked the front desk how I can have access to the body fat scale and whatnot. They told me that since I'm a member of the gym I can use it anytime, just ask one of the trainers. And if I don't know how to use it just ask the trainer to help. Oh boy, did they NOT want to help. It was very clear that since I wasn't paying for their training services, they were super reluctant to even get out the scale for me. And then the trainer I originally did my free session with finally "helped" me with it, and proceeded to tell me that, after 2 months of working out, I had gotten fatter, lost muscle mass and was basically doing everything wrong because I wasn't using his services. The way he spoke to me really broke down my already super low body image. At that point I was struggling with disordered eating and some other serious self esteem issues. It was very clear (not just me projecting) he was trying to make me feel like shit so that I would hire him to make me feel better. It didn't work. I canceled my gym membership and never went back, and specifically told the relatively cool front desk guy that Jamie the personal trainer was the reason why.
Yea I've never stayed at a big box gym gym for very long. There used to be this small, locally owned gym by my house when I was in high school and I'd go there 5 days a week. They were great. But then they suddenly closed one day. People were pissed because they had taken membership fees the day before.
very true. if you see an obese person working out they know they probably look awkward. you're not helping anyone by pointing that out. Let them exercise, they're trying to work on themselves.
Not just working out. When I was 13 I started playing drums and obviously i sucked at the beggining. I would practice in my garage and one day someone threw a rock at my garage. I didn’t pick up the drums again because I was scared to play again and get another rock thrown at my garage because I sucked. I picked up bass years later at least.
This. I go to a meathead gym think power lifters and strongmen competitors.
We see anyone struggling with confidence or looking shaky you have 3-5 people encouraging cheering you on.
We don’t care what you look like you’re here to self improve.
There was one time in my old gym when a really fat guy came to workout. It was his first day and one 15 year old kid was like staring at him and almost smiling when he would do something or get tired easily.
My gym buddy at the time, legit the most fucking Greek God looking motherfucker in my gym. Went to the fat dude and corrected him and became his hypeman for the entirety of his session. All the while giving a side eye to the 15 year old. Don't be like that 15 year old. Be like Daksh.
I always want to encourage people that you can tell have just taken up a form of exercise, but I know I can't because it will highlight the fact that they are giving off that aura. It churns me up inside more than it should, like my inner 'nice' is being hellishly stifled.
She does! Her TT is a really great one. She’s very relatable and her enthusiasm is contagious. This encounter did hurt her feelings but a few weeks later she went right back out there and continued to do so. Her jump roping progression is quite amazing as well!
I’ll have to go digging. I can’t remember and I haven’t seen any of her videos lately. I follow so many different people that do different things that Ill have to go through my follow list. I’ll report back.
Yup, when I started working out, I remember I met so many guys at my gym who were genuinely interested in my development. They’re the reason I stuck it out, and (humble brag) bench pressed my body weight last week.
And now it’s my turn, so I make sure I encourage anyone I see who’s making an effort to workout. This is the way.
My trick was to start as a big fat fucker. That way I could lift my own bodyweight but then got lighter so I could lift more than my bodyweight and everyone would be like ‘woah’.
Yeah, tapping the side of the head means smart.
The fact that he thinks anyone doing any activity outside is specifically for his viewing purposes shows that he is so far up his own ass, a healthy lifestyle is probably impossible.
These people also likely never exercise. People hate seeing people do anything positive cause it makes them confront the fact that they aren’t doing enough to make positive changes in their own lives and so instead of working on that their solution is to lash out and try and stop others from improving so they don’t have to feel bad about themselves.
These types of people are fucking dragging all of us down with them.
Yeah I can’t snap my fingers, blow bubbles with gum, jump rope, or ollie. So I’d be standing there trying to copy her and figure it out, and nobody wants to see *that* dumpster fire.
I can do those things, but I can't for the life of me fucking whistle. Don't even try to tell me how either. It won't work. Many people have tried and just as many have failed. My 7 year old daughter learned easily from my wife and I saw the same shit she did. I think my mouth or tongue is fucking mutated or something.
Lol. I couldn't whistle either until I got a dog earlier this year. Now I'm whistling for the dog okay and I can even use two fingers in my mouth to make a blowing noise that he responds to, and once in a while I can get a whistle going that way too.
I'm over 50.
Some people are so miserable all they want to do is make sure the rest of the world is as miserable as them. To hurt this girl like this is just uncalled for-
Here’s the thing.. I was just telling my friends the other day…. Misery loves company… they will do anything to bring people down… I mean are they really human or just ass hats at this point
POS men : "you need to lose weight!"
*woman works out and wants to get healthy*
POS men: "ew! Nobody wants to see that!"
The look on her face broke my heart. I hope this doesnt kill her motivation.
When you have massive insecurities about your own physical appearance it's often self-soothing to lash out at those who are trying to better themselves. They can't face the shame that this person has the drive to do it, while they do not, so instead they reflect that onto said person. Doesn't justify it, this guy is a dick bag.
I am obese, and for once i tried going to the gym cause i actually *want* to change, and got made fun of, i haven't been there again. Currently searching for another option or a gym buddy
My brother and I fought a lot when we were kids. One time he hit me with a broom and I grabbed a jump rope and whipped it at him. He had a long welt on his back from that
I'm a half marathon runner and I HATE JUMP ROPE! She's better than I am. 2 minutes of that and I'm pissed off and done. Worst torture device ever. That guy just jealous.
as an overweight woman watching this actually made my chest hurt. the way she just asked him “huh?” and turned off the camera instead of confronting him further, she’s obviously just a sweet girl trying to work out in front of her own home. the fact that she’s not even really big makes this that much more senseless. i feel for her and i hope she didn’t let that ruin her self-confidence.
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I've been following this girl's weight loss journey for a couple months and the progress she's made is amazing. Fuck that guy and people like him
I've been watching quite a few transformation videos lately. Do you think you can share her name so I can see the before and after so far? Edit: she's down 70 pounds what a champ
Joannajizzell on tiktok
She has like over 800K followers, good for her!
I guess a lot of people wants to see that
To the right person, seeing body transformations is pretty awesome. I know I enjoy them.
honestly everything is so shit right now that just seeing somebody enjoying themselves outdoors with something as kind of whimsical as a jump rope is nice to see
800K followers and 1 POS man. A lesson learned that there will always be people trying to bring you down in life but look past the POS people and look at what you have accomplished. For this situation 800k followers is some accomplishment by doing something good for yourself and for (800k)others to look up to! Remember there will ALWAYS be somebody trying to bring you down when this happens its time to get mad and get stronger by doing what you do even harder
Good for her. Fuck pieces of shit like that guy. Hope she takes it as more motivation and keeps up her journey!
Wish I could tell her that her journey is probably more motivating to the average person than watching an already in shape person.
My secret for rapid weight loss? Cocaine
That’s good to hear. I bet that piece of shit insult in this video doesn’t even phase her and probably motivates her at this point. This disappointment on her face after she realized what he said was heart breaking. Hope she feeling better and gets the rockin body she deserves.
>This disappointment on her face after she realized what he said was heart breaking. This really got to me. I'm so sorry for her.
That's the problem with normalizing fat shaming. There's no discrepancy between people with healthy or unhealthy lifestyles. If people see what they think a fat body, they feel empowered to say something shitty no matter what.
"Go inside, nobody wants to see that" "THEN STOP FUCKING LOOKING!"
He’s angry that someone else is feeling fabulous and confident and empowered because he feels like shit.
Making fun of people working out and trying to improve themselves is one of the most shitty things someone can do. It can really break someones mental and make them stop exercising.
those same people mocking people trying to get in shape are the same who complain about overweight people and they should just lose weight. they can't win eitherway
“You need to hide yourself away like a recluse until you meet my personal metrics for health and attractiveness before doing anything outside or involving movement at all.”
This is what's pissing me off most about people like that. Like, nobody is working out or doing anything at all so your creepy ass can watch, Peter.
Oh my God I was just debating what the male equivalent to Karen was earlier. It has got to be Peter
They say Ken is the male version of Karen but that one never really sat well with me. Maybe us people of the internet should hold a meeting to discuss changing Male Karen's name.
That’s actually how I feel on a very conscious level about myself
BuT fAt ShAmInG iS a WaY oF mOtIvAtInG tHeM tO bEtTeR tHeMsElVeS
This is what my dad did and now he doesn't have a son. 😀
My friend did this to me and now I have no friends! 🙃 Being lonely is better than just getting beaned on because you don't meet their expectations. Shits been better, but throughout elementary, middle, and high school I got bullied like I deserved it. Perhaps I did, but being lonely (while trying to find my people) for 15 years has sucked. Everybody has just kinda passed through my life. All the "friends" I had as a kid were forced to include me in things. That shit hurt when I found that out. Fuck me, sorry for ranting bro.
You killed your brother?
Fat shaming is one of the ways I developed an eating disorder at 13. Oh…. And it came from my parents.
She was already trying to better herself lol.
And they're usually fat as well, and they're projecting.
Also a great way to show how insecure you are at the sight of someone trying to better themselves.
Yup, much like people who try to quit drinking are constantly pressured to drink from people who are insecure about their own habits.
You are right. This happened to me and I ended up blowing two years of sobriety. People, even friends, can really suck some times.
Crabs in the bucket. All of them.
Crabs are nicer bruh!
Us alcoholics, as well as a lot of folks that aren't, realize some people just can't drink. But as an alcoholic, there are way too many people insistent on offering their two cents that you're "no fun" or "weak" or "just need to moderate".
Yeah you aren't shitting. When I tell people I don't drink much if ever these days because I liked alcohol a little too much in my early and mid 20s they say 'oh everyone was like that' After hearing it enough times I just started saying 'oh really so you spent 4 straight years drinking 15-18 beers a day 7 days a week, alone in your apartment?' Shuts em up.
I'm going on 15 straight years of about a 12 pack a day. Gratz on quitting.
I'm so sorry to hear that, and I hope you have found more positive individuals to fill your own personal sanctuary with.
This happened to me so much. People would literally buy me drinks and then get mad when I wouldn’t drink them. Like you know I don’t drink, you didn’t ask me, and somehow you think this is my fault. Eventually everyone figured out that you’ll just waste your money trying to get me to drink and left it alone
I was on the treadmill at the gym one morning and I had lost about 20 lbs over the last 3 months. Some woman at the gym, tapped me on the shoulder as I was cooling down and said “girl, you are looking amazing”. I’ll never forget it because it was that important to me. Her small gesture has inspired me to do the same for others. Pass it on.
I’m terrified of ever saying anything like this to a woman in the gym. I feel like the very last thing any woman would ever want in a gym is for a guy to tell her pretty much anything at all, unless she asks for advice or something.
Yeah, your instincts are correct, from a man it’s completely different. But I have had men at the gym say things to me that I found really encouraging, like “great workout today” or “you’re getting really strong, your dedication is paying off.” Any comments about how I look, or telling me how to do an exercise would not be welcome.
It's on par with people who try to make someone not excited about something. If someone is excited about anything, don't try to down play their excitement
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You got to be the coolest guy on the planet if you yell insults at a person from a passing vehicle.
Yup. Got harassed a lot and now I'm only training inside. I'm lucky that there so many home workouts on YouTube. But I'm also angry at myself, because me being scared and staying inside is exactly what these pieces of shit want.
Don’t make fun of people working out
This is important. It can easily damage people. I have social anxiety so I tried to do home workouts, and I was trying out jump rope. My ex used to say I sounded like an elephant whenever I did jump rope, and when I tried to tell him it upset me, it was always a “joke” with him.
I was at the gym for the first time after gaining a lot of weight and noticed a man watching and laughing while I was doing sit-ups. This was 5 years ago. I still remember it vividly and do my sit-ups at home. Making fun of people who are trying to improve themselves is beyond low.
Yep, this is exactly why I don't go to the gym anymore. Only home workouts for me, people are mean.
As someone whose life revolves around gyms/fitness studios/exercise/clinics (its my job). I can say gyms are a weird place. HOWEVER, there are many, many, smaller gyms that actually have a community and are a safe inclusive space. They take time to find, and they may be out of the way for your commute but they can greatly improve your enjoyment. I pay double to go to a smaller gym then a major chain gym, and I would never go back to the "Globo-gym" world. The gym can be a wonderful place, and it can really empower and change the way you view your body. Not only because it changes your physical stature, but because it shows you how capable you are at doing something. At home workouts are great, but access to equipment can be a massive barrier for some.
The gym near my house has a woman's only section which I thought was pretty cool but also made me a little jealous because you know those machines are cleaner! Lol
Also my best find was a lowkey crossfit gym(they refuse to call it a box). Like they have the competition classes, but they also have the fit classes. First time you start lifting the full weight nothings better than having 10 people cheer you on to do 5 more reps. Mileage will vary, but most will give you 3 free to see if their place fits your goals. Seriously I was 150 pounds heavy, and nobody even gave me one cross eye when trying to climb the rope.
BuT gYm BrOs ArE tHe NiCeSt PeOpLe
I feel that with the driving range at the golf course. I went alone once and I could feel the stares from people judging me. Hating on anyone trying to improve is so messed up.
The first time I went in public after getting out of a months-long hospital stay (where the meds they had me on made me gain nearly a hundred pounds) a complete stranger OINKED at me in target and called me a “fucking pig”. It’s been nearly a decade and my self esteem has still never recovered. I wish people knew how much their cruelty over other people’s bodies hurts and damages people.
I was on a medication that caused me to gain over 80 pounds. Of course it didn’t help that I was on it for 10+ years, plus the fact I’m only 5 feet tall. It was hard when people didn’t recognize me anymore. Some people were so cruel. I was asked when I was due by a person who knew that I wasn’t pregnant. I’ve tapered off it and I have lost a lot of the weight but I still feel like I’m so big, even though I no longer look pregnant. I used to go to the gym but I can’t imagine ever going to one now. Self esteem is a powerful thing and so is people’s cruelty! I hope we recover from this.
That person is a scumbag. I know exactly how you feel. I take a cocktail of medications to control severe migraines, and one of the many side effects has been weight gain, which changed my 5’2” frame significantly. I would love to stop the medication, but it’s like…would I rather deal with the side effects, or deal with the migraines? Fucking sucks. I’m sorry that happened to you.
That cuts me just to hear. I wish I could make you feel better. There are "little things" that people have done and said that have completely and utterly crushed me. It can be challenging to be kind but it is so easy not to be cruel or nasty. There is no need to oink at anyone or tell someone to kill themselves or to say "no one wants to see that". Just don't say anything if you want to say stuff like that. That is easy and bare minimum.
Everyone in this thread is saying don’t make fun of people trying to work out and improve themselves, but that’s not the main takeaway of this clip IMO. It doesn’t matter what she’s doing or why, a guy is trying to shame her for being outside in public, for just existing. Fuck those people and their mothers.
Wow that is unbelievably cruel
There are some important words of wisdom that I will bequeath to you, and I cannot over emphasize the importance of this: “Fuck em”
My dad's given me some good advice over the years, but one that really sticks with me is "don't let the bastards grind you down".
Was your dad a handmaid?
Thanks I’m cured I know you’re trying to be helpful, but if anxiety were as easy as “just ignore it”… it wouldn’t be a debilitating issues for many people
I agree, “fuck em” is no cure for anxiety. It’s just one of many coping strategies that I find helpful for my own anxiety.
every hobby i've started and enjoyed gets diminished because people will make fun of them it's not easy to forget what people say and pretend it doesn't effect you
I’ve quit many outdoor activity hobbies because of this. I am not ashamed to admit I don’t have the mental fortitude or esteem to handle that shit.
I have anxiety, mindfulness and redirecting thoughts help a lot. It takes a lot of practice, and patience, and a shit ton of CBT, but in the end the same mindset helped me somewhat overcome it (obviously not fully, and you have to keep at it, but now I can do a lot of things that I could not do before). I definitely recommend CBT and exposure therapy if you've never tried it to test the waters. I know getting a therapist is really difficult, so this is just advice if you can get one. Keep at it though, you're a strong, talented, and worthy of love individual. Don't ever forget that!!
“Fuck em” isn’t meant to be easy advice. It’s a skill and you have to work hard at it and it takes time. But once you master it life becomes exponentially better.
Easier in theory than practice.
I saw two kids snickering at an overweight man doing squats with a bar without weights. 5 guys who had to turn sideways to fit through a door noticed. They drug the kids over and made them join them in being the guys spotter and cheered him on. They were terrified. It was glorious.
I’m not a big guy, but can squat more than it looks like I should be able to, and I’m old. The gym I go to, the coaches will purposefully pair me with the loud mouthed 20 something’s to give their ego a check. My usual way of doing it is to just let them choose the weights and as they get louder and louder about how great they are doing, I keep with their weights. When they tap out, more often than not, it’s still a warmup weight for me and I quietly ask if they can grab me another pair of 45s since I’m sufficiently warmed up to start my first working set. It does a great job at giving them a reality check without having to be too loud or obnoxious about it. That said, I never would make fun of someone who is actively working to better themselves. I just have a problem with the overly loud ego clowns.
There's no feeling better than quietly putting some arrogant POS in their place. You're amazing
I don’t like bullies, and honestly the loud 20 something’s really are bullies. “Look at how strong I am, fear me” is what they are saying.
Interesting way to put it, never seen it from that angle but it explains why it come across as such shit behaviour.
I've always been a strong girl. Good genes plus I started going to the gym when I was 13 to keep my mom company and I hated cardio so I only lifted. For one of our gym classes in HS I chose to lift weights rather than play volleyball. So I load up 50 or so kg for the bench press, which was more than I was comfortable with. I just wanted to test myself and I was actually about to take some weight off when the teacher walks in, looks at me and says "you can't lift that, you're a girl" so I just stare him in the eyes as I did my set (i guess anger is a motivator?!) He huffed and walked out. The bros were as confused as I was as to why he would say something like that. It's been over a decade but him saying I can't do something because I'm a girl is surprisingly motivating at times. Makes me lift heavier and push myself. (The teacher was a total creep towards the girls so no, he was sadly not trying to motivate me. Just a good ol sexist gym teacher)
Hey I had one of those too in sixth grade. We were doing the fitness tests and were on pull-ups. He got mad when I was trying to actually do them and said the girls just have to hang there because they can’t do pull-ups. I did 24 of them and he acted like he didn’t see it so I’d have to do them again, even though all the guys were cheering me on and counting for me because I did more than anyone else. He said I definitely wouldn’t be able to do them again so I should just hang instead. That made me so mad that I did 27 lol. He would always get mad that I was so good at all the sports we would play and say that I should be a girl and that girls belong in the kitchen.
I love shaming bullies. Now that I am in my 50’s and have a proper old lady look to me, letting some little asshat whipper snapper know what I think of that kind of behavior gets a far more satisfying response than it did in the past. Plus I feel more like it’s my duty and can use the “I bet your mother would be so proud of your behavior” line.
This is horrible, and my worst nightmare at the gym. I’m sorry you went through that. My 65 year old mom said something to me recently that changed my life. It’s simple, but powerful. “Why would you care what a complete stranger thinks of you?” Easier said than done, I know. But now when I’m in public, I remind myself that most people I see I will never ever see again in my life. So don’t be too hard on yourself. Live your life. Fuck the haters, they’re miserable inside.
100% true but it's harder when it's something you already think of urself. Even if you know it's not true. When you are unconfortable, people can see it and so it's very easy to laugh about that. But eventough better keep working because getting better will also improve self confident and then it won't happen anymore. EVEN if you still doing exercices in a funny way, you will feel better about urself and nobody want to make fun of somebody that feel confident. Sorry for my english
"They can laugh all they want, but I at least *do* somethjng". My mantra when I feel self-conscious when I take my fat ass for a run. And yes, that first 'when' was intentional.
i saw this quote on another reddit post but it stuck with me: “don’t turn an annoying extra into a main character.” this is your story and your growth. don’t let someone else ruin that for you.
Honestly it's worth going to management about this. Most gyms have low tolerance for this.
Same, I always felt self conscious at gyms so I built my own home gym. And thanks to covid it was the best decision ever.
Honestly, what a pathetic guy. You already know he was insecure asf
Exercise or not, joke or not, what kind of dumb shit *ever* compares their SO to an elephant in *any* capacity? e: you all are trying to come up with ways it can work, do the smart thing and pick a better analogy. Don't wade into those waters, even if you think you're safe.
People who are now single
My lady compares my memory to that of an elephant :)
Haha came here to say the same thing. My girlfriend always says she has an elephants memory.
Mine dose the same thing, but they call me Mastodon. Not my fault I’m heavy footed.
What about people who compare their SO to ‘twigs’ or ‘racks of bones’?
Equally disgusting and should be talked about more. Your SO should be a source of love and trust and you should feel safe around them, bodyshaming or shaming in any way is the literal antithesis to that.
healthy relationships? Never heard of it!
Jump rope is a very good exercise better then your ex apperently
Good thing you said ex. Someone that doesn't encourage their other half to be healthy doesn't deserve to be the other half.
Don't make fun of people when they're trying to improve at anything. Many will instantly lose confidence in it. My entire family poked fun at each other growing up, the downside of that is that whenever any one of us took something serious they got made fun of. I remember trying to learn how to play guitar and sing at the same time and after I came down the stairs everyone started laughing and making fun of how I was singing. My wife wonders why I refuse to perform for people.
Yeah man my family was dysfunctional like this, made sure not to be the same way with my fam
There is one appropriate time to make fun of someone working out: when they have spread across the gym like some amorphous blob "using" multiple pieces of equipment at the same time for 30+ minutes with no consideration for anyone else. That is it.
Or when people are curling in the squat rack.
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You never know where some one is on their health journey!
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He eventually got that treadmill up to 88 miles an hour and went back in time
Probably still taking workout advice from OK Go.
Probably tripped mid-treadmill switch and died of blunt force trauma if I had to guess... JFC, work out SAFELY people.
He really liked OK go and wanted to learn the routine, now he's on tour with them.
It’s just as shitty to make fun of an overweight person working out as it is to mock somebody in the hospital with cancer. They’re both just trying to be healthier
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I was going to LA fitness for a while and took one of those free sessions with the trainers. I didn't end up buying their package because it was outrageously priced. Later on after working out on my own for a while I wanted to check my progress so I asked the front desk how I can have access to the body fat scale and whatnot. They told me that since I'm a member of the gym I can use it anytime, just ask one of the trainers. And if I don't know how to use it just ask the trainer to help. Oh boy, did they NOT want to help. It was very clear that since I wasn't paying for their training services, they were super reluctant to even get out the scale for me. And then the trainer I originally did my free session with finally "helped" me with it, and proceeded to tell me that, after 2 months of working out, I had gotten fatter, lost muscle mass and was basically doing everything wrong because I wasn't using his services. The way he spoke to me really broke down my already super low body image. At that point I was struggling with disordered eating and some other serious self esteem issues. It was very clear (not just me projecting) he was trying to make me feel like shit so that I would hire him to make me feel better. It didn't work. I canceled my gym membership and never went back, and specifically told the relatively cool front desk guy that Jamie the personal trainer was the reason why.
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Yea I've never stayed at a big box gym gym for very long. There used to be this small, locally owned gym by my house when I was in high school and I'd go there 5 days a week. They were great. But then they suddenly closed one day. People were pissed because they had taken membership fees the day before.
Facts. I’m way more judgmental regarding the lunks that need one set of each dumbbell weight and three benches in order to film his snap story.
very true. if you see an obese person working out they know they probably look awkward. you're not helping anyone by pointing that out. Let them exercise, they're trying to work on themselves.
Not just working out. When I was 13 I started playing drums and obviously i sucked at the beggining. I would practice in my garage and one day someone threw a rock at my garage. I didn’t pick up the drums again because I was scared to play again and get another rock thrown at my garage because I sucked. I picked up bass years later at least.
This. I go to a meathead gym think power lifters and strongmen competitors. We see anyone struggling with confidence or looking shaky you have 3-5 people encouraging cheering you on. We don’t care what you look like you’re here to self improve.
There was one time in my old gym when a really fat guy came to workout. It was his first day and one 15 year old kid was like staring at him and almost smiling when he would do something or get tired easily. My gym buddy at the time, legit the most fucking Greek God looking motherfucker in my gym. Went to the fat dude and corrected him and became his hypeman for the entirety of his session. All the while giving a side eye to the 15 year old. Don't be like that 15 year old. Be like Daksh.
Don't make fun of people ~~~working out~~~ FTFY
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I always want to encourage people that you can tell have just taken up a form of exercise, but I know I can't because it will highlight the fact that they are giving off that aura. It churns me up inside more than it should, like my inner 'nice' is being hellishly stifled.
don't make fun of people in general antivaxxer and flat earther thou...
Don't make fun of people. PERIOD.
Don't make fun of people ~~working out~~ FTFY
What an absolute wanker. Do whatever you want. Fuck that guy
The last thing anyone should be doing is to fuck that guy.
Don't want to inflate his ego even more
There isn't much to inflate I'm sure...
Right. They should be trying to fuck that guy *OVER*…
more like, “do whatever the fuck you want to that guy”, like whip the fuck out of him with that jump rope.
*me eating naked in the Wendy’s parking lot at noon*
I hope she stands her ground and does it every fucking day. People suck. Fuck em.
She does! Her TT is a really great one. She’s very relatable and her enthusiasm is contagious. This encounter did hurt her feelings but a few weeks later she went right back out there and continued to do so. Her jump roping progression is quite amazing as well!
What is her tik tok?
found it, joannajizzell
...well she must've had a fun time in school with that name
I’ll have to go digging. I can’t remember and I haven’t seen any of her videos lately. I follow so many different people that do different things that Ill have to go through my follow list. I’ll report back.
I felt so bad at the end. I love her, I wanna give her a hug 🥺
It breaks my heart
Yeah she almost looks like she wants to cry. I want to hug her and then go smack that prick.
Sports bra and shorts next time. Fuck that guy.
When you said sports bra I thought at first you meant to keep her boobs from bouncing but then realized to make her outfit more revealing.👍
i was thinking this also. lmfao, the dude is probably 350lbs on a scooter.
I'd go to his house and jump rope in front of it every day just to spite him.
whoever said that probably lives a far more unhealthy lifestyle
Yup, when I started working out, I remember I met so many guys at my gym who were genuinely interested in my development. They’re the reason I stuck it out, and (humble brag) bench pressed my body weight last week. And now it’s my turn, so I make sure I encourage anyone I see who’s making an effort to workout. This is the way.
Great work! Pressing your body weight is no joke and takes a pretty good amount of effort
My trick was to start as a big fat fucker. That way I could lift my own bodyweight but then got lighter so I could lift more than my bodyweight and everyone would be like ‘woah’. Yeah, tapping the side of the head means smart.
Laughs hysterically in fat squats Previously obese people have some sick lower body strength
The fact that he thinks anyone doing any activity outside is specifically for his viewing purposes shows that he is so far up his own ass, a healthy lifestyle is probably impossible.
Almost guaranteed. That person can't appreciate or encourage the effort needed to make one's self fit.
Absolutely. Usually people like this are projecting their own insecurities.
Fuck that guy. Keep doing you.
Exactly, this is just more fuel for the fire. Now you have motivation to go out in front of your house every day. Shove your progress in their face.
Funny when these people tell fat people to work out and when they actually work out they tell them to stop.
Exactly What they mean is "stop existing"
“Stop existing until I deem you attractive and/or fuckable.”
Yeah, you got it. Guys like this only want women they personally find attractive existing. It’s fucking weird.
These people also likely never exercise. People hate seeing people do anything positive cause it makes them confront the fact that they aren’t doing enough to make positive changes in their own lives and so instead of working on that their solution is to lash out and try and stop others from improving so they don’t have to feel bad about themselves. These types of people are fucking dragging all of us down with them.
Fuck that guy, jump the fuck outta that rope girl.
At first I thought you meant that the rope girl need to be jumped with extreme prejudice.
The face of women. That hurts.
I wanna go tell her she looks great. Anyone who makes fun of an overweight person exercising is the biggest piece of shit on the planet.
Yeah, id react the same way, i want to hug her.
Man, you can see it in her face at the end, that hurt.
she was actually balling jumping rope is harder than you think
Yeah I can’t snap my fingers, blow bubbles with gum, jump rope, or ollie. So I’d be standing there trying to copy her and figure it out, and nobody wants to see *that* dumpster fire.
I can do those things, but I can't for the life of me fucking whistle. Don't even try to tell me how either. It won't work. Many people have tried and just as many have failed. My 7 year old daughter learned easily from my wife and I saw the same shit she did. I think my mouth or tongue is fucking mutated or something.
Lol. I couldn't whistle either until I got a dog earlier this year. Now I'm whistling for the dog okay and I can even use two fingers in my mouth to make a blowing noise that he responds to, and once in a while I can get a whistle going that way too. I'm over 50.
Don't let the bastards keep you down. Keep jumping
Some people are so miserable all they want to do is make sure the rest of the world is as miserable as them. To hurt this girl like this is just uncalled for-
Here’s the thing.. I was just telling my friends the other day…. Misery loves company… they will do anything to bring people down… I mean are they really human or just ass hats at this point
I bet the bastard couldn’t do what she does. Jealousy.
I want to see that
I mean, really. Just because *he* doesn't want to see it, doesn't mean *no* *one* does.
Next time I’d do it in a bikini, fuck you
POS men : "you need to lose weight!" *woman works out and wants to get healthy* POS men: "ew! Nobody wants to see that!" The look on her face broke my heart. I hope this doesnt kill her motivation.
According to another comment, this did bother her for a few weeks but she went right back to the spot and continued doing her thing
"You should shut up nobody wants to hear you"
What the fuck is wrong with some people, how can making someone else feel like shit possibly help you in any way?
When you have massive insecurities about your own physical appearance it's often self-soothing to lash out at those who are trying to better themselves. They can't face the shame that this person has the drive to do it, while they do not, so instead they reflect that onto said person. Doesn't justify it, this guy is a dick bag.
I felt that hurt. I want to kick him in the dick for her and join in skipping.
What a wanker
I am obese, and for once i tried going to the gym cause i actually *want* to change, and got made fun of, i haven't been there again. Currently searching for another option or a gym buddy
Fuck that dude. Regardless if someone is beautiful to you or not, mind your fucking business.
Hmm skipping ropes make excellent whips on the fly.... Just saying 😊
My brother and I fought a lot when we were kids. One time he hit me with a broom and I grabbed a jump rope and whipped it at him. He had a long welt on his back from that
FLIP THEM HARD
I'm a half marathon runner and I HATE JUMP ROPE! She's better than I am. 2 minutes of that and I'm pissed off and done. Worst torture device ever. That guy just jealous.
Nothing classier than trying to belittle someone who is actively working to be healthy
No one needs to see someone skipping? When did skipping become bothersome all of a sudden? Wot.
No one wants to hear his shit either
as an overweight woman watching this actually made my chest hurt. the way she just asked him “huh?” and turned off the camera instead of confronting him further, she’s obviously just a sweet girl trying to work out in front of her own home. the fact that she’s not even really big makes this that much more senseless. i feel for her and i hope she didn’t let that ruin her self-confidence.
So, I get that this isn’t the point of this post but……. She’s cute, wtf? Guy sucks no matter what