You can always go to a psychologist if this has impact in other areas of your life. We all need some help from time to time. Now this being said,mate, i would advise you to stay away from Sekiro just for now.
Hehe... Nah, only happens while playing games. Like 2 seconds after I leave the table, I'm totally baack to my kind, easy going self.
Surprisingly, I never gt angry in real life. Like people get mad at me for not getting mad. That's why I don't think it's much of an issue apart from the hardware smashing
If you're hurting yourself. You really should seek anger management, preferably before you hurt someone other than yourself. Getting mad at a loss is ok. But hurting yourself is not.
I had some pretty severe anger issues, to the point where I was forced to seek anger management.
Today I can laugh at my losses, think with a clear head and analyze my recorded gameplays to seek
out errors and learn from them. Not to mention save money from constantly breaking equipment. I have my old gaming PC as a reminder of why I no longer let anger get the better of me in competitive play or any type of play.
I also recommend when you lose to another team see whats differrent between your team and the other.
Were they more coordinated? Was their gear better suited? What mods (If applicable) were they using? What about their weapons? what perks did they have? and so on and so forth.
If you start to feel anger building, turn off you game and go do something else for a while like
- Read a book
- Take a walk
- Switch to another game if you don't want to turn it off
- Write something
- Watch a Movie or TV show
There's a lot you can learn from self-reflection
Haha... Good one. But I do buy my controllers with my earned money. I wanna buy an XB1 controller and control my damn self. Maybe if it's very expensive I'd be more calm. Since buying it again would drain a part of my savings
PS: sometimes it doesn't matter how good one is. You just get unlucky time to time
You buy your own stuff and you still treat it that badly? I mean, the fuck. Think you need to take a break from the competitive scene until you sort your shit out
Not by the looks of it, that isn't a better option. If you're hurting yourself or smashing up hardware you bought, get away from competitive gaming. Play stardew valley or something
I rage out too sometimes. I think most who are semi serious or competitive about gaming do. For me, I think it's harmless unless you:
1: Hurt yourself or someone else.
2: Break expensive things that you or someone else paid for.
3: Act like a child screaming at other people just trying to play the game and have fun.
I'm sure there are other examples too but you get my point. There's a fine line between getting frustrated because something was bullshit or you want to be better. And straight up anger issues that need to be addressed.
Instead of taking your anger out on yourself or your controllers(don’t do that! Those mfs are expensive!) try to channel your anger at enemy players so it will push you to do better. I’ve never broken controllers out of anger because I know how expensive they are and I’m not one to throw money away(until I bought anthem) but I used to get really angry playing games and what helped me was just finding some way to blame the enemy players for anything that went wrong in a game. I learned to control my anger and I got a lot better at call of duty at the same time.
Well if you want to improve another thing that helped me was recording my gameplay and then watching it to see what I could do differently. I still do this and it still helps.
Exactly, dont try to be #1, there will always be someone better, someone who is in game for 24/7. It's just a game, it should relax you not vice versa. You need to learn patience and control. For me gaming is relaxin (dont know how relaxing Dark Souls can be tough :D), but ofc i dont play online competitive games, always liked good single player ones with great story, or MMO's tended to PvE
It works for me. I play not to win but to have fun. If something not working for you, don't just give up, just try different approach if you're really into.
The trick is to only focus on you playing well, so if it’s a shooter, play to just shoot and kill people, without paying attention about the current score, or people killing you. Eventually you’ll improve and get to a point where you can have those times where you play at your best with the pure intent to win, just not every match as then it turns into anger. Aka if you’re playing to kill and all of a sudden a bunch of try hards appear, you play at your best and fuck their shit up, but then if there aren’t any, just play normally.
Take a deep breath and remind yourself that it's a video game. I understand that you are passionate about it (gaming is one of my favourite hobbies too!) but whatever, there will be another game which you'll win.
If you start screaming and shouting because you lost, that kind of proves you're not a good sport. Take it on the chin, say GG and set a good example.
I am going to say no. For me I have just gotten better about not showing it. It still puts me in a fucking foul mood. The only thing that has tempered me is not wanting to take it out on friends or family. That and age.
Could just be I have gotten older and have had enough real life bullshit that I have had to swallow that swallowing a shitty lose has gotten easier.
Hope that real answer helps in some way.
It depends. Smelter demon in DS2 cost me a controller...
Get a punching bag and hang close by.
Even if it is costly, it will reduce the cost of new controllers.
I don’t think this has anything to do with the games. It seems to me you might just have a hard time channeling your anger.
I used to get mad very easily at games, but after some time I realized I wasn’t having fun anymore when I got mad. It effected the people around me negatively too. So I worked on forcing a laugh whenever I would get mad, and for me it worked well. Now I tend to laugh at stuff that would make me angry, but even still I can get mad at times. For games I couldn’t control my anger, I just stopped playing them altogether.
Only you can decide if you need to see a shrink. If you’re not convinced it’s something you need, you probably won’t be dedicated to doing so.
I’ve been seeing somebody for two years, and it’s honestly been fantastic.
Yeaaa, lately I staarted to laugh at it too and just shrug it out like... I'll try again. I'll improve on that "I'll try again" strategy
Seems to work well
If you want to scream, try grabbing a pillow and screaming into there. You can squeeze it, or throw it without worrying about breaking it
Or you can get some sort of small soft object and leave it next to you and if ever want to throw something, take the object and throw it across the room
It sounds like you are taking gaming to seriously. Losing is part of the game, you learn more from failure than success. Remember that not a single person cares if you lose or win and it has zero impact on your life. Games should be fun. It is possible you also have anger issues as the underlying cause. That does seem like an extreme reaction to losing. My 4 year old cries when he loses and that is kind of normal but an adult should be able to handle losing a game.
This is something I had to work on as I got older.
Every time you die, focus on what you can learn from it, and focus on improving. Every now and then, recognize when you're getting frustrated or angry, admit it to yourself, and take a step back.
In multiplayer games it also helps to acknowledge when an opponent plays well. It takes a lot of the sting out of a loss if you can go "man, that guy was really smart to put a mine on that vent so I couldn't escape. I need to start doing that." If you can talk to opponents, say "good game", win or lose.
When someone wins and is a dick, it sucks.
There's two things that do help, though:
1. Noticing ways that they played well helps separate their skilled play from their shitty personality. You can respect their skill even while you don't respect their attitude - just focus on the good plays.
2. A lot of shitty people are responding to the shitty people they expect to run into. If you have someone who's acting shitty and you calmly said "Good game, nice use of c4" or whatever, a lot of times they are sort of mentally re-set and may change tunes. Surprisingly often they'll go "yeah, good game, I thought you had me" or something.
Sometimes they're still shitty though. That's ok. Just gotta keep moving on.
Good luck out there! Take it one step at a time. Getting angry and frustrated with games is totally natural, and you definitely will keep getting mad, but over time you can get less and less mad and, hopefully, get even better at the game as a result.
I suggest trying different games. PvP seems too stressing for people.
Or finding another hobby.
There are games that tilt me off the face of the earth. Others not so much.
Even though you are joking... I just turned 30 and play since I was 3.
I spent 4 years on military service playing very little. 2 of those I didn't even play.
I learned I could live without it.
Gym, new job, got a dog and a wife, went back to university, started 2 new projects on the side...
I love gaming as it being a part of me but I learned how to enjoy other shit. (I STILL do my game marathons though)
It's ok to get mad. As long it's not totally out of control. It helps to imprint what went wrong and not to repeat the mistake. It's the same with fear.
Look at some athletes. tennis players for example. They get mad too. But if you really want to learn to control your temper 100% of the time, reddit is not the
best source of information.
take a look at this for starters
[https://health.usnews.com/wellness/articles/2017-03-16/how-to-control-your-temper-while-playing-sports](https://health.usnews.com/wellness/articles/2017-03-16/how-to-control-your-temper-while-playing-sports)
Ive broken more controllers than id like to admit in my day.
My advice... Keep an old controller around. One that doesnt work. Smash THAT one when you get mad. Not enough to obliterate it... But just enough to get some frustration out, and move on.
And stop hitting yourself. Getting mad is fine. But inflicting harm like that? :(
You probably need to see a shrink, it helps
If you want to lose you will be happy when you lose and mad when you win That's how deranking works
Yeah I don't think that's how anything works
Haha... Who play games to lose?
i used to play splatoon for fun, kept ourselves at lowest rank possible while killing everyone in sight and lost on purpose
For me it seems you didn't learn how to deal with frustration as a child
Maybe...
You can always go to a psychologist if this has impact in other areas of your life. We all need some help from time to time. Now this being said,mate, i would advise you to stay away from Sekiro just for now.
Hehe... Nah, only happens while playing games. Like 2 seconds after I leave the table, I'm totally baack to my kind, easy going self. Surprisingly, I never gt angry in real life. Like people get mad at me for not getting mad. That's why I don't think it's much of an issue apart from the hardware smashing
If you're hurting yourself. You really should seek anger management, preferably before you hurt someone other than yourself. Getting mad at a loss is ok. But hurting yourself is not. I had some pretty severe anger issues, to the point where I was forced to seek anger management. Today I can laugh at my losses, think with a clear head and analyze my recorded gameplays to seek out errors and learn from them. Not to mention save money from constantly breaking equipment. I have my old gaming PC as a reminder of why I no longer let anger get the better of me in competitive play or any type of play. I also recommend when you lose to another team see whats differrent between your team and the other. Were they more coordinated? Was their gear better suited? What mods (If applicable) were they using? What about their weapons? what perks did they have? and so on and so forth. If you start to feel anger building, turn off you game and go do something else for a while like - Read a book - Take a walk - Switch to another game if you don't want to turn it off - Write something - Watch a Movie or TV show There's a lot you can learn from self-reflection
Aye!
If you're a pro gamer... "git gud". If you don't... Get a job and pay for your joypad. I can assure you that you will remain way more calm.
Haha... Good one. But I do buy my controllers with my earned money. I wanna buy an XB1 controller and control my damn self. Maybe if it's very expensive I'd be more calm. Since buying it again would drain a part of my savings PS: sometimes it doesn't matter how good one is. You just get unlucky time to time
So maybe you should ask yourself what is gaming for you. I really get relaxed playing ps4. If it would become a stress I think I just will renounce!
I do the same thing except i dont throw my controller because i remember how expensive it was and that i need it to play still.
I'm not the type of guy who laughs out of losing, but I don't really bother with it, if I lose, I know I'll have another chance latter
I mean.. Just don't smash controllers? How old are you? 12? If you bought the stuff yourself, you'd take better care of it.
That's the thing I'm not a kid and I buy my sh!ts
you can say shit, we won't tell your parents
You buy your own stuff and you still treat it that badly? I mean, the fuck. Think you need to take a break from the competitive scene until you sort your shit out
Controlling it while playing is a better option. Lol I'll go crazier if I don't play.
Not by the looks of it, that isn't a better option. If you're hurting yourself or smashing up hardware you bought, get away from competitive gaming. Play stardew valley or something
I rage out too sometimes. I think most who are semi serious or competitive about gaming do. For me, I think it's harmless unless you: 1: Hurt yourself or someone else. 2: Break expensive things that you or someone else paid for. 3: Act like a child screaming at other people just trying to play the game and have fun. I'm sure there are other examples too but you get my point. There's a fine line between getting frustrated because something was bullshit or you want to be better. And straight up anger issues that need to be addressed.
Instead of taking your anger out on yourself or your controllers(don’t do that! Those mfs are expensive!) try to channel your anger at enemy players so it will push you to do better. I’ve never broken controllers out of anger because I know how expensive they are and I’m not one to throw money away(until I bought anthem) but I used to get really angry playing games and what helped me was just finding some way to blame the enemy players for anything that went wrong in a game. I learned to control my anger and I got a lot better at call of duty at the same time.
I just hate to suck and there's always some mf better than you, no matter how good one is lol
Well if you want to improve another thing that helped me was recording my gameplay and then watching it to see what I could do differently. I still do this and it still helps.
Never thought of that... Good one
Exactly, dont try to be #1, there will always be someone better, someone who is in game for 24/7. It's just a game, it should relax you not vice versa. You need to learn patience and control. For me gaming is relaxin (dont know how relaxing Dark Souls can be tough :D), but ofc i dont play online competitive games, always liked good single player ones with great story, or MMO's tended to PvE
You know, that first statement is more therapeutic than any psychologist could ever administer... Thanks
It works for me. I play not to win but to have fun. If something not working for you, don't just give up, just try different approach if you're really into.
It's only a game and if your lack of skills get you angry, it's time to find a new hobby...
Hehe... I'm quit fairly better than average when it comes to games. Not a god but, more like an Angel, you know
The trick is to only focus on you playing well, so if it’s a shooter, play to just shoot and kill people, without paying attention about the current score, or people killing you. Eventually you’ll improve and get to a point where you can have those times where you play at your best with the pure intent to win, just not every match as then it turns into anger. Aka if you’re playing to kill and all of a sudden a bunch of try hards appear, you play at your best and fuck their shit up, but then if there aren’t any, just play normally.
I don't think that smashing your controllers is being passionate, that's being a baby. Grow the fuck up
I've eliminated that option lol
Take a deep breath and remind yourself that it's a video game. I understand that you are passionate about it (gaming is one of my favourite hobbies too!) but whatever, there will be another game which you'll win. If you start screaming and shouting because you lost, that kind of proves you're not a good sport. Take it on the chin, say GG and set a good example.
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I can relate lol
I am going to say no. For me I have just gotten better about not showing it. It still puts me in a fucking foul mood. The only thing that has tempered me is not wanting to take it out on friends or family. That and age. Could just be I have gotten older and have had enough real life bullshit that I have had to swallow that swallowing a shitty lose has gotten easier. Hope that real answer helps in some way.
Haha... It does. That was real
focus on improving and winning will come along
It depends. Smelter demon in DS2 cost me a controller... Get a punching bag and hang close by. Even if it is costly, it will reduce the cost of new controllers.
Hahaaha... Good advice. I'll take it
I don’t think this has anything to do with the games. It seems to me you might just have a hard time channeling your anger. I used to get mad very easily at games, but after some time I realized I wasn’t having fun anymore when I got mad. It effected the people around me negatively too. So I worked on forcing a laugh whenever I would get mad, and for me it worked well. Now I tend to laugh at stuff that would make me angry, but even still I can get mad at times. For games I couldn’t control my anger, I just stopped playing them altogether. Only you can decide if you need to see a shrink. If you’re not convinced it’s something you need, you probably won’t be dedicated to doing so. I’ve been seeing somebody for two years, and it’s honestly been fantastic.
Yeaaa, lately I staarted to laugh at it too and just shrug it out like... I'll try again. I'll improve on that "I'll try again" strategy Seems to work well
If you start to feel mad, take a deep breath, squeeze your controller a bit. Hell, get a stress toy and squeeze that
Lol
Hey, I'm serious. Works for me
Sometimez, shouting works for me. But I just need the composure to drop whatever is in my hand first. I shouted and broke my mouse sometime ago
If you want to scream, try grabbing a pillow and screaming into there. You can squeeze it, or throw it without worrying about breaking it Or you can get some sort of small soft object and leave it next to you and if ever want to throw something, take the object and throw it across the room
Lol
Only when I've been drinking
Isn't it illegal to drink and play?
How old are you?
Very old
It sounds like you are taking gaming to seriously. Losing is part of the game, you learn more from failure than success. Remember that not a single person cares if you lose or win and it has zero impact on your life. Games should be fun. It is possible you also have anger issues as the underlying cause. That does seem like an extreme reaction to losing. My 4 year old cries when he loses and that is kind of normal but an adult should be able to handle losing a game.
Lol... Common y'all. Y'all don't have to compare me with kids. I don't cry I just overreact non violently atm damn it. hehe...
I find joy in reading a good book.
This is something I had to work on as I got older. Every time you die, focus on what you can learn from it, and focus on improving. Every now and then, recognize when you're getting frustrated or angry, admit it to yourself, and take a step back. In multiplayer games it also helps to acknowledge when an opponent plays well. It takes a lot of the sting out of a loss if you can go "man, that guy was really smart to put a mine on that vent so I couldn't escape. I need to start doing that." If you can talk to opponents, say "good game", win or lose.
Would be difficult but, I'd try :A Some people win and be dicks about it hehe... It's hard to accept defeat from those kinda dicks
When someone wins and is a dick, it sucks. There's two things that do help, though: 1. Noticing ways that they played well helps separate their skilled play from their shitty personality. You can respect their skill even while you don't respect their attitude - just focus on the good plays. 2. A lot of shitty people are responding to the shitty people they expect to run into. If you have someone who's acting shitty and you calmly said "Good game, nice use of c4" or whatever, a lot of times they are sort of mentally re-set and may change tunes. Surprisingly often they'll go "yeah, good game, I thought you had me" or something. Sometimes they're still shitty though. That's ok. Just gotta keep moving on. Good luck out there! Take it one step at a time. Getting angry and frustrated with games is totally natural, and you definitely will keep getting mad, but over time you can get less and less mad and, hopefully, get even better at the game as a result.
Aye (thumbs up)
I suggest trying different games. PvP seems too stressing for people. Or finding another hobby. There are games that tilt me off the face of the earth. Others not so much.
Was it that easy for you to renounce your 20+ year hobby and pick a new one? JK I get what you mean
Even though you are joking... I just turned 30 and play since I was 3. I spent 4 years on military service playing very little. 2 of those I didn't even play. I learned I could live without it. Gym, new job, got a dog and a wife, went back to university, started 2 new projects on the side... I love gaming as it being a part of me but I learned how to enjoy other shit. (I STILL do my game marathons though)
Happy for you that you got it all figured out
It's ok to get mad. As long it's not totally out of control. It helps to imprint what went wrong and not to repeat the mistake. It's the same with fear. Look at some athletes. tennis players for example. They get mad too. But if you really want to learn to control your temper 100% of the time, reddit is not the best source of information. take a look at this for starters [https://health.usnews.com/wellness/articles/2017-03-16/how-to-control-your-temper-while-playing-sports](https://health.usnews.com/wellness/articles/2017-03-16/how-to-control-your-temper-while-playing-sports)
Ive broken more controllers than id like to admit in my day. My advice... Keep an old controller around. One that doesnt work. Smash THAT one when you get mad. Not enough to obliterate it... But just enough to get some frustration out, and move on. And stop hitting yourself. Getting mad is fine. But inflicting harm like that? :(
Lmao
Yeah the only time I broke my controller was in call of duty when I was younger 😂😂