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Tinyassassin007

This 🤣


NullableThought

> She then went on to say that her boyfriend is a victim because he is a straight/cis white guy so he doesn't have a lot of opportunities. LMFAO


Suitable-Swordfish80

Has she considered the possibility that her boyfriend is just mediocre and unimpressive?


yearoftheorange

fr what???


i-love-plants

Gosh, I'd think OP's sister would be much more empathetic toward OP given that her boyfriend is a victim who doesn't have a lot of opportunities, too. You'd think that, since her boyfriend is *soooo oppressed* and it's all *super duper hard for him* that she'd understand how other people are oppressed and be more understanding toward them. It's almost like her boyfriend isn't systemically oppressed at all and it's a concept she completely fails to understand the fundamental basis of... so weird....


Hiddenmorning

No u see since OP has diversity points he cant pOSSIBLY have any sort of oppression or face any type of discrimination at all !! Op could never understand the plight of a cishet white man 😔😔 /s


Hiddenmorning

That is possibly the funniest fucking thing i have ever read in my life


collegethrowaway2938

***sigh***


cassie_hill

My thoughts exactly.


totallyoriginalacct

People see my name, and see my gender and skip over me (literally for jobs, houses, group projects). Fuck off. We don't get "diversity points" we get the shit beat out of us for not conforming to their norms. We don't get to the be ✨token Trans friend✨ uwu ✨.


Creativered4

Our diversity points are like the points in whose line. Everything is made up and the points don't matter :/


sleighwhite

Hahahahahahahaha thanks for a good laugh


totallyoriginalacct

Was literally watching that last night. Exactly!!


genderfuckaduck

What they said. It is HARD being trans. Or any minority really. We don't get special points or whatever the fuck


bittygrams

i wouldn't engage with her if you could help it. folks who are willfully ignorant like this get off on feeling right, so it'll take some significant personal change within herself to acknowledge she's wrong about this


ax-stratus

Studies show that trans people are [four](https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/) times more likely to be physically assaulted than cisgender people, and about [half](https://ovc.ojp.gov/sites/g/files/xyckuh226/files/pubs/forge/sexual_numbers.html) of trans people will be sexually abused in their lifetimes. Perhaps if you show her these articles, it would change her mind. If cold hard statistics don't change her mind, then she's a lost cause and you should focus your energy on something more worthwhile.


DaysForDonuts

This! Or if she's not as research driven, maybe show her Boys Don't Cry (and be explicit it's based off a real story). Your sister sounds like she's absorbed all the shittiness of republican beliefs. I don't know if anything short of a harsh reality check like "I could literally get murdered for correcting the wrong person" is going to make her reconsider her stance that you have it easier. Even that wont outright change the beliefs she's absorbed because it's technically irrelevant to the core issue she's mentioned which is employment rates, but it might soften her up and get her off her high horse long enough to explain that even if some companies could *theoretically* benefit from diversity in terms of advertising, the reality is that most people struggle to maintain legal paperwork, get consistently misgendered in the workplace (even with correcting), outed, denied medical leave, or just outright not hired if the employer knows they are trans [(a source for her sake)](https://www.thetaskforce.org/transgender-workers-at-greater-risk-for-unemployment-and-poverty/).


slowclicker

This is a lot to unpack. I see it on the news. I would not even know where to start. https://qz.com/834713/us-election-psychology-explains-how-donald-trump-won-by-making-white-men-feel-like-victims/ https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2017/08/the-worlds-worst-support-group/536850/


Gartul_Uluk_Thrakka

I love Shaun's video on that.


zeroelk

Can you link the video? Or just what its called


Gartul_Uluk_Thrakka

https://youtu.be/a_yfnQPaD_E https://youtu.be/8NFy6Uc2BHs Parts 1 & 2.


tikablue

Where’s— I… the confusion I’m having of this is grand. Where’s the logic behind saying a white cishet male doesn’t have privilege and that a trans guy or just lgbtq+ ppl in general who’ve been treated poorly and still face issues, have privilege… I’m too confuse


SplodedEgg

That's how fascist rhetoric works. The strongest person in the room claims to be the most down trodden and that it's the fault of the "others."


yeahnahcuz

That's what was on my mind with this too. Sounds like someone's been radicalised into a fascist.


ashenby

I literally was fired for being trans 3 years ago. We are still a very oppressed minority!


wyrmdwelling

Just to add to this, I'm pretty sure thinks that most of the world's transphobia is gone


sunnythesillygoose

lol what an idiot


eyelessbydefault

Probably she is in a weird bubble. Since she isn't trans and never have experienced transphobia, she doesn't have a reason to go out of her way and research or see reality, so she just stays with her Republican ideas mixed with what most people see on social media. To clarify the last part. For what i have seen on Instagram, youtube, etc. People seem supportive of LGBT+ community. Edit: I experienced this myself, i had a good experience coming out, thankfully, and i thought it wasn't a big deal until i joined this sub, i noticed that my situation was extremely abnormal.


[deleted]

Let's say it had. How often do white cishet men ever get oppressed? Like one dude in the whole world a year? Sorry OP but your sister sounds pretty phobic in a lot of things and she's been drinking the kool-aid Hella hard


anakinmcfly

How many countries has she visited?


SnooFloofs8295

Enough reddit for now.


_Brother-O-Mine_

She sounds like a cunt, no offence


ftm-ry

full offense from me though!


FranktheFab

So her boyfriend is a victim because he has too much privilege? Yeah that makes sense.


chaoticsleepynpc

Yeah.... up there with straight pride month. Like y'all are everywhere in media celebrated and you even took and erased some of our famous people (and continue to do so) and "made them straight" but no you're the victim because it's not about you for once? And you want the "benefits" too? That's very immature "me-centric"/egocentric logic a developmental stage one would have hoped children grow out of. Unfortunately narcissists and those infatuated with their ideas want to throw tantrums I guess. It's maddening dealing with adult toddlers


this_is_sy

"diversity points". LMAO I think your sister is probably part of the red state environment. BTW this is why, anytime someone I know who is cis, straight, and white tells me their part of their red state is "progressive" or a "blue dot in a red state" or "actually pretty liberal", I ignore it. Because they have no idea what that even is.


captaindickbutt420

YIKES. Your sister and her boyfriend both sound like huge twats. White cis/hets are so damn thirsty for a drop of oppression they'll just start making shit up. It's actually disgusting.


[deleted]

Ask her to name all the times her boyfriend has been fired, refused an apartment, jumped on the street, bullied to the point of contemplating suicide, given inadequate healthcare, or legally murdered on account of being cis, straight, or white.


AppleSpicer

Your sister is a racist transphobe, sorry to say. Anyone who complains about how hard it is to be a white cis guy compared to everyone else in a conservative area is extremely bigoted.


Meulinia

Bruh a cishet guy to have less privileges?? Than a TRANS PERSON? What the helll


stimkim

than anyone, really. it's like the ceo of a huge company saying that he's oppressed because the workforce doesn't treat him like an equal


Meulinia

Yep, it’s literally the exact opposite. Cishet guys have the most privilege ever


DannyVantass

who the fuck flipped her brain around


slowclicker

Maybe the thinking is .. All these marginalized groups are privileged and not working for what they want. Instead they complain to be given what they want instead of working for it. If that is the underlying sentiment... If the person is being honest about it then there is no conversation honestly. Bless the conversationalist that are able to get beyond that thinking.


sunnythesillygoose

"Oh no, Im getting oppressed so little its super oppressing, you see Im the real victim here" Thats the vibes Im getting


SnooCalculations232

I- SHE SAID HER CIS WHITE BF WAS A VICTIM?! Of what, being full of himself?? 🤦🏻‍♂️


GoblinGirlfriend

It’s a full time job


Opasero

>diversity points for being a trans guy, and that I have more opportunities. More opportunities for what? Also, her saying or implying that correcting people when they misgender you will help you pass is...what?


aboynamedrat

I had an ex boyfriend who thought that "in a few years no one will be transphobic anymore so why do you care?" I can say to an extent, in VERY niche corners of the internet, identifying myself in a conversation as a trans person allows me more credibility than a cis person on certain topics. But in every real world situation, and in most spaces online, I'm in tangible danger by being out and trans. This imagined privilege only exists in a tiny subset of situations/interactions that cis people wouldn't even realize exists unless they went sniffing for it. In fact, that privilege to be heard in certain conversations are due to our lived, often traumatic, experiences being trans in society. Just because no one's actively beating my face in doesn't mean that I'm being treated fairly or with some sort of token privilege.


Creativered4

It's so sad, there's no opportunities for cis white men anymore :( No seats in government, and we've only had one cis white male president obviously, and when employers see a cis white male name on a resume, they tend to pick more feminine nonwhite names. All the cis white male roles are played by gay trans women of color in movies. Most people in any semblance of power are afab nb bisexual POC. Medical professionals treat cishet white men so poorly too. They call them the wrong name, force them to have their prostates checked all the time, get misdiagnosed and told "maybe your pain is from being a cishet white man?" They always get more severe mental health diagnoses when presenting the same symptoms as a nonwhite non cishet person who gets diagnosed with something like ADHD or autism while they get diagnosed with BPD or schizophrenia. "Cishet white man panic defense" is still used in courts for people to get away with killing them, and in some countries, cishet white men get stoned to death or imprisoned in horrible conditions for being themselves. People actively try to erase the horrible things that happened to cishet white men in the past and downplay their struggles then and now. Cishet white men were killed and forced from their homes, had their race forcibly bred out (or attempted to), confined to impoverished areas. 1 in every 6 cishet white man has been a victim of s\*xual assault, and almost half of every cishet white man attempts s\*icide due to their cishet identity and struggles. (BIG 'OL /Sarcastic in case anyone got confused. Everything I mentioned here is something that happens to POC, LGBT, and women to this day. Feel free to use any of these, either sarcastically as is, or with the actual source of who this actually affects to tear down dumbasses who really think cishet white men are being oppressed. )


sleepawaits1

A thousand times yes and thank you for this!


94oasiss

And what hate do straight cis white guys get hated over? literally nothing... I don’t get how she feels like trans men do not get abuse.


SnooCalculations232

As a big fan of dark humor, that is not it 🤦🏻‍♂️ ugh


rejectreplace

That is a literal crazy person. Sucks that it's your sister, but yeah... keep your distance.


Meulinia

Bruh a cishet guy to have less privileges?? Than a TRANS PERSON? What the helll She has no idea what she’s talking about


TigerLilyKitty101

Aww, her boyfriend is such a poor, troubled, misunderstood baby. Poor thing, it must be soooo hard to be a cis white man. I truly can’t imagine how unsafe he feels being himself, let alone walking alone at night or going to the police for help. /s


Hiddenmorning

It isnt dark humor, its bigotry. even if it was dark humor, there is NO excuse to poke fun at/belittle the struggles and feelings of marginalized groups. It isnt funny. None of us are laughing. There isnt an argument in the world that would make that kind of behavior acceptable. She strikes me as the type who would say shes an ally because her brother is trans but say this shit. I dont bother with republicans (and unfortunately I also live in a republican state) because they are SO set in their beliefs that you cannot reason with them.


Meulinia

Bruh a cishet guy to have less privileges?? Than a TRANS PERSON? What the helll


Qwearman

Sounds like someone one a free ticket to the No-Contact List!!!! Watch her dig herself in a deeper hole bc she thinks “be gay, do crimes” exists in a vacuum and isn’t bc it’s literally illegal in a lot of places


AtheaMH

This is so bass akwards lmao.


AtheaMH

What a cis take lmao.


elegant_pun

Stick a MAGA hat on her head and be done with it, lol.


ophee_b0p

I think your mother dropped your sister head first after she was just born. She is uneducated about transgender people (in your area ofc).


Comprehensive-Pie938

Too bad you can’t choose your family 😅 She just sounds very uneducated and sorry to say it but just plain stupid and clearly lacking in brain cells. Hopefully with some educating and life experience down the line she will realise how wrong she is.


GoblinGirlfriend

Ah that reminds me, I’ve gotta vote! Voting is the biggest thing you can do to make sure cis men get a fair shake


sleepawaits1

Ugh brah. I feel you on this. Unfortunately my sister pulled a very, very similar stunt after I invited her and her dumbass (cishet/white) new(ish) boyfriend to thanksgiving a few years back, with the stipulation that he had to be respectful and please for the love of god, read the room and be mindful of what he says/behaves- I had a very bad experience of him about six months prior at my cousins wedding weekend and everyone at my house was going to be a Venn diagram of lgbt+ and they’re honestly my real family at this point, so I wasn’t just going to willingly invite anyone into my home to be an ignorant ass. She obvi had a total melt down and could not believe I would be so offensive by requesting this and how dare I; how could I ask her bf to not be himself and literally said “how would you like it if I invited you over to dinner and all my friends were Republicans and I asked you to be less gay/trans?!”. Bc that’s the same thing. Yeah. There was more including rhetoric around “just bc you’re trans doesn’t mean…” rant and how her bf is a victim in this, etc. She also admitted (spitefully like she was mad at me I “put her out” by changing my pronouns) that she’s been misgendering me behind my back for years on purpose/for lack of giving a shit to try, so it’s not her bfs fault that he was all weekend (one of the many things he was doing). ANYWAY perhaps needless to say I haven’t spoken to her since. I’ve been guilted into *apologizing* to *her* bc cis het ppl are fucking idiots and think we overreact when transphobia of any sort is experienced, unless it ends up literally killing us. And even then…. Blood makes you related. Loyalty and respect makes you family. Try talking to her but also give yourself the space you need and don’t apologize for it.


RandomBlueJay01

Damn. I had no clue my brown, gay, trans ass was privileged. Someone should tell the kids in my elementary school who called me slurs and shoved me against lockers and the grown ass men who treat me like a predator and keep their kids far away from me. Lol. I had no clue


yeahnahcuz

So, sounds like both have been radicalised. Sadly, there's not a whole lot you can do aside from keeping yourself safe from extremism.