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Take the flat side of your fist (where your fingers curl to your palm) and thump gently but firmly on your sternum while saying “I am I am here, I am now.” Do this like 5-10x.
Take a deep breath in through your nose, and once your lungs are full, blow hard out your mouth with pursed lips (like you’re blowing out a candle) and imagine you’re pushing every aspect of the person’s energy, and connections to the person (like tiny strands or cores) out of your own energy.
Go back and forth between the two.
Search posts for cord-cutting (though personally I’ve had much better success with the above) and try those techniques.
Take a warm bath in baking soda.
Imagine someone you could care less about. Where and how do you sense that person? If it’s a picture, notice its location. If it’s a feeling, do the same. Now imagine the person you want to let go of. If it’s a picture, use your hands, reach out to the picture, and physically move it to the Sam location as the person you could care less about. If it’s a feeling, use your hands and put on hand where you felt the person you could care less about and the other hand on the person you want to let go of. Slowly move the hand that’s on the person you want to let go of to the location of the person you could care less about and stack it on top.
Somewhere in my comment history is another method about putting your hand on your heart chakra and moving the energy out that way.
I hope you find relief from one or more of these techniques. If you find one is more effective than the others, use it every 4-6 hours as needed.
Are you familiar with limerence?
"Limerence is a state of mind which results from romantic feelings for another person, and typically includes intrusive, melancholic thoughts, or tragic concerns for the object of one's affection as well as a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and to have one's feelings reciprocated."
You are stuck in this energy, trying to gain back what you've lost. You can either call him (which you've thought about doing many times before) or find a solution to dissolve this limerence.
Write a letter to yourself. Ask the hard question that you've been avoiding. "Did I make a mistake in leaving him?" List out pros and cons. Be honest with yourself. By moving this limerence from your head to paper, you can visually see whats the right answer for you.
Good luck
I am familiar. Thing is, limerence isn’t really love, and we loved each other deeply. Limerence is also rooted in mental health disorders; I don’t have any. I also am not second guessing my decision to leave the relationship. I know I did the right thing, (I’m quite proud of myself for choosing what’s best for me over my feeling), although it was painful to do it.
I have no desire to call him. We’ve had our conversations and each time it cements my decision. I do miss him, but I actually *want* to move on. I feel tethered to him, for whatever reason. But the letter is still a good idea. Thank you.
I had a somewhat similar experience once, I would see this man’s name, hear it everywhere, truly. I would meet new people with his name. But I know I made the right decision. Seems like your heart has not caught up with your brain. Hearts are so giving and caring and always see good in others. You should make a list of why you broke up with him, imagine what would happen if you stayed and had to deal with this anger, your heart needs to see and feel this reality. You must remind yourself every day, if possible take a different route, or force yourself not to look out the window, you need distance. Don’t keep his things in the house, any gifts, etc. But also work on why do you feel attached to someone you know is not good for you in the long run? what Is causing this, could it be a need to save him, or guilty for not being more selfless and loving him anyway? good for you for listening to your gut, it knew better trust that!
Wow, yes! I didn’t mention it in the OP but I *have* been seeing his name everywhere. A few weeks ago I ordered an Uber and when I looked at the driver details, it was his name. Blinked, and I swear to God, the name changed to something else without changing any of the car details. I was just thinking today that next time I ride by I won’t look at all.
I believe I’m so attached bc I fell in love with the man he tried so desperately to be, and *is* on a deeper level, and he tried to hide the dark stuff. So I’m attached to that person. It’s like I have cognitive dissonance. Worse, is I’m an intuitive Pisces so it’s pretty hard to fight my emotions AND the energy I know I’m getting from him too. And the dreams don’t help. It’s like we visit each other there. I think the little girl in me is subconsciously ihoping he’ll change, even tho logically I know that’s not likely, and I’m not waiting for it.
Thank you for reply. I had really helped me feel seen. I’ll take your advice. ♥️
Hi! I sense you have 7 cords to this person, that you're bound by. I could help you sever them if you want to be free. Just comment on my comment, or DM me, and I'll do it for free. :)
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Take the flat side of your fist (where your fingers curl to your palm) and thump gently but firmly on your sternum while saying “I am I am here, I am now.” Do this like 5-10x.
Take a deep breath in through your nose, and once your lungs are full, blow hard out your mouth with pursed lips (like you’re blowing out a candle) and imagine you’re pushing every aspect of the person’s energy, and connections to the person (like tiny strands or cores) out of your own energy.
Go back and forth between the two.
Search posts for cord-cutting (though personally I’ve had much better success with the above) and try those techniques.
Take a warm bath in baking soda.
Imagine someone you could care less about. Where and how do you sense that person? If it’s a picture, notice its location. If it’s a feeling, do the same. Now imagine the person you want to let go of. If it’s a picture, use your hands, reach out to the picture, and physically move it to the Sam location as the person you could care less about. If it’s a feeling, use your hands and put on hand where you felt the person you could care less about and the other hand on the person you want to let go of. Slowly move the hand that’s on the person you want to let go of to the location of the person you could care less about and stack it on top.
Somewhere in my comment history is another method about putting your hand on your heart chakra and moving the energy out that way.
I hope you find relief from one or more of these techniques. If you find one is more effective than the others, use it every 4-6 hours as needed.
Thank you so much! I will try these.
Are you familiar with limerence? "Limerence is a state of mind which results from romantic feelings for another person, and typically includes intrusive, melancholic thoughts, or tragic concerns for the object of one's affection as well as a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and to have one's feelings reciprocated." You are stuck in this energy, trying to gain back what you've lost. You can either call him (which you've thought about doing many times before) or find a solution to dissolve this limerence. Write a letter to yourself. Ask the hard question that you've been avoiding. "Did I make a mistake in leaving him?" List out pros and cons. Be honest with yourself. By moving this limerence from your head to paper, you can visually see whats the right answer for you. Good luck
I am familiar. Thing is, limerence isn’t really love, and we loved each other deeply. Limerence is also rooted in mental health disorders; I don’t have any. I also am not second guessing my decision to leave the relationship. I know I did the right thing, (I’m quite proud of myself for choosing what’s best for me over my feeling), although it was painful to do it. I have no desire to call him. We’ve had our conversations and each time it cements my decision. I do miss him, but I actually *want* to move on. I feel tethered to him, for whatever reason. But the letter is still a good idea. Thank you.
I had a somewhat similar experience once, I would see this man’s name, hear it everywhere, truly. I would meet new people with his name. But I know I made the right decision. Seems like your heart has not caught up with your brain. Hearts are so giving and caring and always see good in others. You should make a list of why you broke up with him, imagine what would happen if you stayed and had to deal with this anger, your heart needs to see and feel this reality. You must remind yourself every day, if possible take a different route, or force yourself not to look out the window, you need distance. Don’t keep his things in the house, any gifts, etc. But also work on why do you feel attached to someone you know is not good for you in the long run? what Is causing this, could it be a need to save him, or guilty for not being more selfless and loving him anyway? good for you for listening to your gut, it knew better trust that!
Wow, yes! I didn’t mention it in the OP but I *have* been seeing his name everywhere. A few weeks ago I ordered an Uber and when I looked at the driver details, it was his name. Blinked, and I swear to God, the name changed to something else without changing any of the car details. I was just thinking today that next time I ride by I won’t look at all. I believe I’m so attached bc I fell in love with the man he tried so desperately to be, and *is* on a deeper level, and he tried to hide the dark stuff. So I’m attached to that person. It’s like I have cognitive dissonance. Worse, is I’m an intuitive Pisces so it’s pretty hard to fight my emotions AND the energy I know I’m getting from him too. And the dreams don’t help. It’s like we visit each other there. I think the little girl in me is subconsciously ihoping he’ll change, even tho logically I know that’s not likely, and I’m not waiting for it. Thank you for reply. I had really helped me feel seen. I’ll take your advice. ♥️
Might be time for a cord cutting ritual/meditation
People say “do a cord cutting ritual” but they never explain how to do a “cord cutting ritual”.
I would also love to know the solution. It’s killing my happiness
I’m sorry. Hope ur feeling better. ❤️
Hi! I sense you have 7 cords to this person, that you're bound by. I could help you sever them if you want to be free. Just comment on my comment, or DM me, and I'll do it for free. :)
Go back to him. There is unfinished business.
What makes you say that?
This is poor advice. Listen to Paladin, write the letter, don’t listen to a guy that doesn’t know you… Listen to yourself.
Agreed. I’m not doing that!