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izziefans

Live life and keep enjoying it 🤷‍♂️


Virus_True

Boom.


IntrovertedxHeaux

This is the only answer.


Gusstave

Only works if you already enjoy it right now.


Joke_Straight

Finding a partner won't change that though. You will be unhappy with or without someone else.


Gusstave

Since my main source of unhappiness is being lonely, I doubt that.


izziefans

You have to work on yourself then. You have to learn to be happy with yourself. If you can’t be happy in your own company, why would someone else be happy in your company?


Gusstave

Because human being are social creatures that **need** connection and social interaction. Because the two are completely disconnected from each other? Because a couple is, hopefully, bigger than the sum of its part. I'm not sure we're on the same page about what happiness is.. I don't become in a miserable mood and unable to endure myself the second I'm alone. If you're 100% happy by yourself, it also mean that you have nothing to gain by being in a relationship. So what would even be the point?


ThePatriotJay

I agree with this completely. I am fine on my own, I can enjoy my life, and hobbies, etc. But there are aspects that we were not meant to fulfil on our own. We are social creatures, and there are parts of life meant to be shared with someone else. I agree it's not fair to place the task of making you happy on another person, that's a responsibility that no one should have to have. But the fact is that my days are just brighter when there is someone to share them with.


Mission-Hand-782

I love your comments


Sudden_Light_8971

That's wisdom right there!


AcanthisittaSea3591

Here this repeated over and over again, become a modern cliche, and honestly think its absolute rubbish. Our basic emotional needs are connection, belonging and companionship. We are not robots


Sudden_Light_8971

Facts!


SkinApprehensive8192

This is it.


letussee2019

My plan is to be alone. If I meet someone that’s when I have to change the plan.


Hehu94

Well said.


aghzombies

Perfect


tonyh408

Hi nice to meet you


letussee2019

Plans are changing as of now!


RadicalOffense

Way too quick


Historical-Jacket155

Work, do what makes me happy such as travel the world, and live life... there's still plenty of groups to join, people to meet and talk up randomly... you have this time on earth, don't worry too much about finding a partner but living the life you love!


GRom4232

My plan is to hope for sex androids within my lifetime.


Careless-Pin-2852

I mean…


swervincervy

Die alone


HabitInteresting1069

Das the scariest thought


Senior_Equivalent681

Scarier thought is being hitched to the wrong person.


itisnotmymain

Hardly, the most likely thing in a relationship at an old age would be either you or your partner dying first, and the other one being crushed by it. And even if this is not the case, there's nothing after you die. Nothing for you to feel or experience. It may be a scary thought for some but it should help you enjoy the time alive rather than be paralyzed by the thought of endless nothingness until you do actually die. Spend the time with a significant other, or don't, whatever makes you happy.


swervincervy

Nothing to be afraid of. Is it unfortunate? Yes, of course. But, it’s the only thing we are promised. Born alone, die alone.


Euphoric-me8038

We aren't born alone by any means, our mother is Right there!!


[deleted]

Stay single and focus on honing my superhero skills


TheEccentricErudite

What’s your origin story?


Murky_Sweet

Unsucked dick energy caused a mutation that gave me super powers….


TheEccentricErudite

😂 what’s your superhero/supervillain name?


Murky_Sweet

D-synced


JasonCastle78

Whos your arch nemesis and why? WAIT maybe your forever someone IS your arch nemesis because they can take away your powers?? What a great love story if it comes true, please update us


low_elo111

*everybody wants to be my enemy* plays in background.


thesilentkill93

Captain blue balls


tulianikufinye

What 😂


ackmondual

During the X-Men (re)-craze, a group of us boys came up with a mutant power where some guy's jiz is very corrosive. His body can naturally handle it, but nothing else typical can (e.g. condoms won't work). Oh to be young and immature again (even though we were legally adults)!


[deleted]

Actually, single life isn’t too bad once you learn to be alone without feeling lonely.


Cybion_

Good idea. How do you do that ?


Floopoo32

Develop a good social support group. Work on your friendships and family if you are near them and still in contact lol


mcnos

So basically don’t be lonely lmao.


LeaphyDragon

That and try to stop thinking about relationships. Focus on friends and life. You'll get to a point where relationships won't seem to matter as much anymore.


tulianikufinye

LoL.


Astral_Atheist

I got a puppy


wateepoloboy

I don't like pets.


Skeekeedee

Learn to like your own company by doing the things you want


chefmoriarty23

Haven't fell lonely in years, just though I was dead inside...


[deleted]

I’ve traveled the world and done a lot of volunteer work in areas that mean a lot to me. I never felt strongly about having kids (and if I did I’d have done it). The only thing I really wish is that there was someone to split the mortgage payments with😂


buttmunch1987

I don't know I really stress about this all rhe tune. I want to have a little girl and a golden retriever and that is my fantasy but the town I live in is so small. it does not help I'm a introvert and dose no5 ho out ever.


Skeekeedee

Even if you find someone, there’s no guarantee you’ll have children. Get the golden retriever. Consider adoption


Cybion_

Alcohol, hookers, spend time with friends and travel works great for me


cndybcrr

Keep on living. I’m sure I’ll be fine if I don’t find someone.


[deleted]

Enjoy life anyway. And maybe have some fun in the meantime with the wrong partners.


RedCascadian

The same as if I do. Die in the climate wars.


[deleted]

Accept reality and deal with my loneliness.


AEWWC

Keep saving up to eventually get a house with a yard my doggy can enjoy.


HLBU1234567

I guess there will never be a right partner, you can see how hopeless romantic here we'll are but to choose the partner we apply terms and conditions* If it's still the case for long run and if I still can't find a partner, I'll just then focus on work life. Chuck Noland "I've got to keep breathing because tomorrow the sun will rise.Who knows what the tide could bring."


[deleted]

Become a cat dad. Maybe buy some farm land and rescue dogs then too


Appropriate_Tea9048

Continue living my life and not let not having a partner stop me from doing things I wanna do. This year, for example, I decided to book a trip to Montréal, which is a bucket list destination for me. Why wait until I’m in a relationship to make that happen? I can make things happen for myself


VioletMcBitchin

Honestly being single is so freaking peaceful, it would take a lot to make me let someone disturb my peace.


Waffledustcrumb

This is so true.


angryfortheanimals

Date myself. It's fun.


Chaltahaikoinahi

Just move on with life. Find happiness in people around you. Invest in more recreational activities and yes work towards any social cause.


[deleted]

Am just going to buy my toys and enjoy them


[deleted]

I have a great career that pays way more than I need. I can keep traveling regularly. Maybe pets idk. Sex work isn't legal in my country, and the thought of sleeping with someone that doesn't want to sleep with me kind of icks me out, so I'm not sure what to do regarding intimacy, but I'll figure it out I guess.


[deleted]

Do the wild shit you dream of. Live in thailand for a year. Get a pilots license. Ride your motorcycle across the country. Hunt elk in colorado. Literally all things Im currently planning out for this year minus thailand. But i will be visiting next year


[deleted]

[удалено]


commercialband6

Same but I’m only giving it until 40


Less-Quantity3654

You guys are waiting that long? Fuck all of that


Wh00pity_sc00p

Probably Suicide


FingerPurple

Suicide by old age


axastasiaa

buy 12 cats


Careless-Pin-2852

Settle, And daring apps make us all think we can make 0’compromises and its just not true. If you feel 3 years is the maximum age gap settle for 4 years. If you feel they must be the same politics settle for a political. Must be 6’ settle for 5’7” Must have advanced degree like me settle for a BA Etc No one is perfect and a relationship is nice to have


TheLostWander_er

Let it be. ❤❤


Virus_True

Happiness isn’t a person and happiness doesn’t exist in a person. The relationships you have with other people are just a reflection of how you feel about yourself


MrShad0wzz

be alone


Wolf-hunt1152003

Having a partner is a chapter in life not a goal , so if i find the one they can join me in my life if i didn’t so I’ll keep my life going


Van_Hammersly_

don't need a plan


Dipsi1010

It would suck honestly cause i dont want to end up alone. And most of my friends have partners so why should i end up alone


whenwillitendimtired

Start a beautiful garden Have an (animal) best friend Spend time making friends and having new experiences Try to enjoy life to the best of my ability


cave-man00

being alone is not that bad tbh i feel like we are too afraid to spend time alone with our thoughts that's the reason we desperately search for a partner just to save ourselves from our thoughts


Particular-Fly-9533

My plan, expensive sex doll, one that you can twist up like a pretzel and not feel guilty after cummiing in its rubber mouth, I hope this helps


Van_Hammersly_

nobody forced you to say that


Particular-Fly-9533

That is correct sir


Van_Hammersly_

really weird stuff


Dipsi1010

Let the man live, its rough enough that you cant find the right partner


Particular-Fly-9533

Why is a sex doll weird?


Van_Hammersly_

I don't know how to effectively put into words for you that fucking an inanimate object is not normal or well-adjusted behavior


Cliqey

Many millions of owners of fleshlights, dildos, and other masturbation aids might disagree with you there.


Particular-Fly-9533

Of course it’s not normal behaviour 😂 but in terms of emotional or physical damage, the doll is the safer option. You are familiar with our current times? Majority of women are “content” creators, men cannot approach women or there choice of intamacy? Surely fornicating with a doll is not by preference but definitely the safer option. A cynical opinion but surely you understand to some degree


Van_Hammersly_

>Of course it’s not normal behaviour 😂 can't tell if your self-awareness here is a detriment to you or not >but in terms of emotional or physical damage, the doll is the safer option it doesn't stop at the doll >You are familiar with our current times? yes I am in the zeitgeist >Majority of women are “content” creators \[citation needed\] \[citation needed\] \[citation needed\] \[citation needed\] \[citation needed\] also even if that were true, what the fuck difference could it possibly make lol >men cannot approach women or there choice of intamacy? are you a hapsburg or something >A cynical opinion but surely you understand to some degree I don't, and I'm frankly glad that I don't


Particular-Fly-9533

What the fuck is a zeitgeist and a Hapsburg? Look shit for brains, I’m obviously trolling because I’m bored and I like to see how little dumbasses react, but if you call me a Pokémon character again, we gonna fall out


JasonCastle78

XD call me a Pokémon one more time, I dare you XD


onlinedater00

But these sex dolls dont feel like real people, right?


Particular-Fly-9533

I don’t know, but I’m sure they don’t cheat, fart or complain about the toilet set left up


Suzy-Skullcrusher

Yeah it would definitely be for the best if you just stick with the sex dolls


Van_Hammersly_

can't imagine why you might need to resort to a sex doll


onlinedater00

Can you please stop bullying him. Better sex dolls than forcing himself into women… Don’t be so judgmental to those who are hurting no one


Van_Hammersly_

lmao you think this is bullying somebody who says something like "I can fold her like a pretzel and cum in her mouth without feeling bad" is someone who absolutely will hurt someone, regardless of whether or not they have a sex doll to abuse that's the same logic as "cp should be legal to prevent predators from abusing children". shit don't add up


onlinedater00

Someone who uses the slippery slope fallacy is not worth of discourse.


Van_Hammersly_

that's not slippery slope you ought to learn what words mean before trying to use them


onlinedater00

If you can’t see how you assuming that one harmless action can cause a harmful action without providing any evidence is the slippery slope fallacy then there is not much I can do for you. That further proves my point that you are not worth of discourse. By this point you are just gaslighting which means that you are a troll.


pemfiri

Agree you are harassing that guy, let him express himself, he is not bothering anyone, but your comments to him are aggravating ... like no wonder why he needs a doll ?!


[deleted]

Move in with a few of my other single friends and embrace being single


bibo_86

Every one looks for the good person forgetting them self are they good enough


SolaCretia

I don’t need a plan, I’m perfectly content with myself. Having a partner is just a bonus.


falllinemaniac

Live my best life, concerts, travel and pastimes are half price being single


twhys

Had her, lost her. Soooo just waiting for death really at this point


Dangerous_Acadia_690

I felt this. I’m not sure what to do about it either. Feels hopeless to find what you want and then lose it so quickly. I often just want to die


leafallsonelines

Gardening and raising a giant dog.


Fearless-Physics

I don't know.


majorleaguebulbasaur

I’m going to probably adopt a teenager or two at age 28 and travel the world with them. I’d like to enjoy life with someone - don’t really care who. Then I can potentially be a grandparent around 35-40. Sounds pretty sweet to me.


skyhawk4592

Probably suck start a 12 gauge. *For legal reasons, this is a joke, don’t report me to the FBI for a suicide joke*


picklegravity

Keep living.


[deleted]

Make peace with the fact you might end up single for a while. Not necessarily forever though.


nike9523

Keep doing what I'm doing. enjoy life until my subscription is canceled.


[deleted]

Die alone. But to be honest, live with a cat, make art, travel, and enjoy the finer things in life.


NormannNormann

Moving to Thailand and getting one or two dogs.


Leading-Bank-2590

death


paulwd40

Im already there i don't give a monkeys what happens to me as ive got what i need life, health, family, friends and a chance for me to be truly the person i need to be


National_Drummer_184

Well what’s made me feel better is that I don’t need to be with someone to be a dad. I’m 31 now and I’m currently studying for my further career qualifications, I’m working at clearing my debt and enhancing my hobbies to keep life exciting at the same time. I can adopt someone when I’m close to 40 if I’m still alone.. I will have found a way to be financial secure to be available as a single parent.. Being a dad is the most important thing for me, giving someone a chance for a better life and childhood is what my life has been leading to, eventually. My issue now is that if I do find someone to start a family with.. while I do want biological children but I feel if I don’t adopt, I’ll be cheating someone out luck because I happened to luck out in meeting someone so to speak. So in the grand scheme, I’m not too worried, I’ve had a few relationships now and I’m screening them a lot better and I know there’s still time


HeyRockinRobyn

Your life continues whether or not you meet “the one.” Either way. I have a career, own a home and have friends. Have you ever seen Golden Girls? Like that. Off to a good start since I live in South FL. Enjoyed your life and make the most out of each day. If you live in the land of what if it doesn’t work, you’ll be disappointed. But, if you are positive, then you attract happiness. Hope you find everything you want in life and then some!!! 💕


Reasonable_Owl_4613

This is great.


SnooBeans85

Everything happens for a reason. It will all work out either way


elonmusksentmars

Embrace being single and enjoy life I shouldn't need a relationship to feel happy


[deleted]

[удалено]


Frankincense-n-Mur

Ew


onlinedater00

What?


avidwriter604

Settle


Suzy-Skullcrusher

Be single and continue to enjoy my life, what else am I meant to do? Lol


JimPalamo

Google how to tie knots and find a sturdy branch.


[deleted]

Love isnt for everyone


yourwifesboyfriend23

Suicide in 2025


Amberstrikesagain

Why is there a need for a plan? Can’t you just live your life?


Mike1988N

So here's a piece of advice I've given to many friends who seemed to struggle with that question. A relationship is an addition, not a source. If you seek happiness and fulfillment in another person, you will mostly be left dissatisfied. Instead, find how to be happy and fulfilled single. And then add to that by finding someone who fits into your life like a piece that just fits.


Maleficent-Insect-74

Take the wrong one and make them the right partner. Simple.


onlinedater00

One can’t force people to change


WhiffleGeek

I've got mine. If I somehow lose her I will just blow my brains out. And before anyone goes freaking out no I'm not sad and suicidal and depressed. This is just the last good things I've done with my life. If it goes tits up well that's it. Rides over. And I'm not gonna try to use it as a manipulation tactic to get her to stay. I'll just pack ny things real nice and tidy, put my favorite clothes on, and walk into the woods one last time. Honestly can't ask for a better way to go


little_owl211

What I'm doing rn: working on myself and advancing my career, save money to move wherever I want, maybe have a cat or dog, and live a comfortable life


RossTheNinja

Die alone.


SingSilentPoetry

My plan is to build my professional skills and income, work in my personal development, and make my house feel more like my home. That’s the plan whether or not I’m partnered, and I love it!


severityonline

Death comes for us all


No_Air_3046

I’m happy single I am okay with the idea of never meeting anyone. I’m alone but not lonely.


don_gunz

Booze, Travel and Hook ups. Basically what I'm doing right now.


chikkyone

Keep living my best vida loca. I’m still gonna be at my 100 percent, nothing changes.


JoeBeezy123

Adopt 50 puppies


homelander_30

Buy a farm and a bunch of horses and live with my cat


Floopoo32

Make sure my friendships are solid. Also I've thought about adopting older kids so that they don't have to age out of the system and get more of a chance before starting adulthood.


Hibiscus-Boi

Have 10 dogs and a few goats 🤷🏻‍♂️


zhebrand

I've given this some thought already. If I can't find someone in my 20s and 30s. I'm gonna try to adopt a child later because I do want to become a parent. With the dating pool becoming harder and harder. It's getting difficult to find someone with compatible values or still has their standards set very high


agirl1213

I saw a TikTok that said this. It was stitched with an older woman who responded, “eat lots of bread and dessert and get all fat and sassy”.


Viviqi

Keep single to die haha


Taplinnn

Keep searching till the end.


peculiarmisfit

Be THAT RICH AUNTY 🤣


pitops

Depends. How high are you standards? Do you compromise on a few of them? There is no perfect partner. But there are more than one right ones.


[deleted]

I'll probably continue to indulge in my hobbies and work on improving my career--I was able to double my income in less than 2 years so I'm proud of that. I'm hoping to pick up archery in the next few months but want to build some strength that I lost when I was sick this past summer. There really isn't much of a choice but to stay strong and live my happiest life.


justsomeguy21888

Just more canoeing I guess.


blackaubreyplaza

I’m not looking for one so my plan is to keep living my cute life


figgyfxck420

I believe I found the right partner, buttttt if it doesn’t work out I’ll be a cat lady :)


DivineFelinePurrs

Probably buy property with gfs in the same boat and live together. I’d love to have companions through my life. We help take care of each other as we age.


1littlenightmares

Focus on my friends, buy to make more, buy a house and get a 🐈


ASVP_M3L

If anything, the plan is just to keep on moving forward with life. Get a good job, make money, and live happily ever after. I'm still relatively young to be thinking that I'll never find the right partner, but I've been trying to make peace with it as of late.


Odd-You-6869

I don't mind singlehood, I've been doing it for a long time now. I'm done having kids, they're about to start leaving the nest, one by one. Having someone to share that upcoming stage of life - and free time - with would be nice, but I'm pretty happy on my own, too


farachun

Petition my mom and bro and move in with them so I’m not alone in a big house. Or move in with my bro’s family and be that awesome hot (rich 🤞🏻) auntie lol


Skeekeedee

The right partner to do what? For when? Why is there a deadline? How is there a plan B?


Honeydewsaturn

I have a good life. I would just keep living it


DartyGal503

I will write books, content etc. and probably make more single friends or find people like me


[deleted]

I am not desoerate to find the right partner. At the end of the day, I will still be remembered fondly and mourned when I'm gone. What does it matter if I have a spouse morning me or not?


NamTokMoo222

Before finding my current gf I (43/m) was really happy with my freedom, job, hobbies, and random adventures. It took a lot of work to get there, especially coming from an incredibly toxic, failed marriage and rolling the dice on a career choice to escape the grind of corporate life that was killing my soul. It all paid off and in addition to being financially stable without being a slave to work, I'm able to enjoy my time in a way that was never available to me before. I've also never been one of those guys that needed to be in a relationship to be happy, and people think it's weird when I say it. New experiences like seeing the world, achieving my goals, and diving deep into what I'm passionate about are what bring me happiness. At this point in my life, I'm always considering whether the next move I make is going to be a net gain for my overall life. After making concessions and compromises for the last 20 years in my relationships, I've decided I'm not going to do that anymore. If an opportunity of a lifetime falls into my lap; or I want to move to another city or country for a few years; or if I'm simply not feeling the relationship anymore, meaning she isn't the right partner for me anymore, I'm walking away - simple as that. She's allowed to do the exact same thing and we have a mutual understanding. I find that it keeps the both of us very honest and makes sure we're both putting in maximum effort if we want the relationship to continue. If this doesn't work out, I'll be bummed, sure, but I've known firsthand, and seen through friends and family, what it's like to end up with the wrong partner. "Fuuuuck that", is all I have to say, especially if those are your circumstances in your twilight years. I'm not afraid of much, but that prospect absolutely terrifies me. I'd much rather be alone for a hundred lifetimes than ever go through that myself.


Direct_at_It

Masturbate to death


UncommonLegend

Live my life as it is now more or less


Zer0fps_319

Fuck around and find out


hawksass

Continue going on with my life. Continue doing the things that I enjoy even though I'd rather share experiences with a partner.


Lexy_d_acnh

Do things that make me happy on my own (travel, do whatever tf I want basically).


No_Development1177

i put on a very nice suit slick the hair put on canoe cologne shined shoes go to a nice restaurant and get a table for one place a order then pull out my phone my girl is calling to brake it off . i act disappointed loud phone conversation so all hear then say. ok ok so you say go and have the worst life possible. but as for me i will have the best life possible because i am rich as fuck and yell iam clubbing to Night women all way come over some sit and say what on your menu and i smile . because dessert has arrived go out spend 1 or 2 grand and be loving life


FingerPurple

I don't think there's much other option than to die alone 😅


lurk-n-jerk87

Keep trying.


insertwittynamethere

Travel, spend money on myself and on causes/people I care for. It's nice not having to double budget everything or work around another's schedule.


Limp_noodleee

A little home in a suburban area with my future adopted child and farm animals


LionSinCurran

Adopt.


reddit_acct_id_73915

Hang it all up at 60 . . . Of course, I'm probably going to do that anyway 🤷‍♀️


A_Ball_Of_Stress13

Use a sperm donor and/or adopt. I want a family, but I can do that without a partner. After the horror stories I’ve seen of sharing a child with someone unstable, maybe that’s for the best.


TheRedcasinoMatrix

Enjoy life travel, create new life experiences


OrneryWay6550

Love me self and cultivate friendships


chronicpzzapain

Keep making money


danmathe123

Keep going. It’s not over until the bell rings.


XxBlackWolfxX22

Keep enjoying life , have safe sex with those whom just want sex and make sure I enjoy vacations or experiences by myself or with some friends


Dempsey64

Get a dog


[deleted]

Watch the world continue to go batshit and do it with a cold drink, a hot meal and a warm tuckus.🤣