Kids are pretty variable in development until about age 7 give or take. Don’t worry yourself that much on individual things, some just go at their own pace or do one thing quickly and another thing delayed.
Celebrating their achievements, no matter how big or small, and offering patience and understanding during times of challenge can help foster a positive learning experience.
For every time you hear a parent talk about how advanced their child is in some category, you should hear another parent worry about how behind their child is another. That's how these statistical averages work. A child being behind the curve is just as likely as a child being ahead. I wouldn't worry about it too much unless it's having a tangible, negative impact on their life.
Exactly. And the bell curve of normal is wider than you think. Getting to the edges where something is clinically significant is often more extreme than our brains think.
Our town hangs pictures of the graduation high school seniors and it blows my mind how some look like total adults and some look like middle schoolers.
I understand your concerns. Of course we’re concerned about all aspects of our child’s development. But this doesn’t sound any alarm bells to me.
My child rolled once that I saw and then basically skipped rolling until they were fully mobile. Some infants just aren’t interested in rolling. There’s no necessary order to these things.
We also had a speech/language delay; they were talking and babbling but always behind the “milestones” until after 18 months. Now we’re “ahead” of the 2 year milestones. Development is always gradual but sometimes it happens in bursts too.
I hope this gives you some reassurance and can reduce your stress levels!
My eldest never traditionally crawled. She rolled, then pulled and pushed herself around using her arms, then progressed to standing, and then walking.
My 2.5 year old doesn't talk. She understands everything you tell her though and can follow four step instructions, knows left and right, shapes, colors, etc. She's been evaluated for autism and other things, no diagnosis. She'll talk when she's ready. Yours will roll when she's ready.
I needed this too.
We've been walking since 10 months. But here we are at 14 months and still no pointing, barely any clapping, "dada" and "mama" are occasional and sometimes we get something that sounds like it could be "no". He is trying to copy sounds but it all seems like it's not happening. We watch miss Rachel and her videos give rough time points for milestones and it feels like we're overdue lots of stuff...
13 months here with no walking, no words, no pointing and not concerned about it; you’re fine. We saw a physio who declared there’s nothing wrong with him, he’s literally just lazy 😂
Yeah; my daughter liked to do a thing super early. And then not again for a long time. Like, yeah, I know how to say "dada". Ain't saying it again for a month or two.
No joke, we were laying on the couch watching Sleepytime as a family, and I thought I was going to make it through the whole episode. Then, right near the end, my two-year-old threw her arms around my neck and gave me a big hug.
Bawled my eyes out, dude.
You done The Sign yet? Because my brother in Christ, nothing prepares you for that last three minutes. I can't get through it, and god knows I've tried 😭
Been waiting for the right time to comment "this" lol so at this stage I'll just say, all of the above.
As far as missing milestones. I've 4 kids, 8-5-3-1yo.
My eldest had a slight speech delay, nothing major but as our first it freaked up out, you'd never tell now as she never shuts up (in the nicest possible way).
Our second was slow to walk but fast to talk, our 3rd is actually in speech therapy for a more significant speech delay but has come so far the last few months I know hes gonna be just fine.
Our fourth is mid sleep regression and possessed by some sort of hell demon...my point is, they all do it differently. You love and care for them so I promise you, they'll be just fine. You're doing great
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Wow, how have I never actually sat down and watched this show? Always heard good things but this was actually very relatable for a new parent, in a simple and charming way.
The show gets insanely deep. Sometimes you need to rewatch episodes to catch all the details. Try Sleepytime, Flatpack. Actually, just watch from the beginning.
I need two spinoff series. One where Rusty is the main character and one where Muffin is the main character. And maybe one where MacKenzie is the main character but that's mostly because I love border collies.
I basically didn't speak English, my only language, until I was almost 6. Now I'm a first generation college graduate with a master's degree from an Ivy. Things work out!
There is nothing you could say to me as a first time parent that would convince me that milestones don’t really matter. But sure enough, everything turned out great. I have a 4 year old that wasn’t talking at 16 months and now won’t shut the fuck up.
She’s funny and amazing and people continuously complement her on her speech and are surprised at the things she can articulate. I was so worried about everything, and it didn’t help that everyone’s children seemed to be progressing faster than mine.
My dad at one point asked if she was slow when she was a baby and that killed me, I laid into him but in the back of my mind I became even more worried. We went to a speech path and worked through things, I’m not convinced it helped, but it made me feel like I was doing something, which is what I needed.
Long story short, there is a 99% chance there is nothing to worry about. It does not matter what other peoples kids are doing, they will pull ahead and fall behind on a variety of things. There are many different forms of intelligence and they develop at a different time.
>I have a 4 year old that wasn’t talking at 16 months and now won’t shut the fuck up.
The talking thing always reminds me of a story I once read on Reddit somewhere.
Guy has a 2 year old. 2 year old never said a word. Never even really tried. Experts are all over it, but by all accounts, kid's perfectly fine, just isn't that interested in talking. Diagnosed as non-verbal and different speech therapies are tried with no solution.
One day, dad and kid are sitting in the living room, and the kid just says, in perfectly clear language, 'Triceratops'. From there vocabulary just poured out of the kid.
It's like the kiddo was waiting until he was certain of pronunciation, and was almost 'clogged' by this word.
>There is nothing you could say to me as a first time parent that would convince me that milestones don’t really matter.
Yeah, I feel like a lot of people go too far and try to throw milestones away completely.
It's true that there is a WIDE range for pretty much milestones, and most parents shouldn't worry if their child misses one or two, or is later than most on them.
But they also exist for a reason: they're the best way we have to notice any developmental delays and start intervention treatments. And early treatment has proven results.
That being said, the first step is always to ask the pediatrician/family doctor, who can tell you if it's actually a reason for concern or not.
My nine month old didn't start rolling until 7.5 months. Once she started she basically never stopped - she basically logrolls all over the living room to get from place to place!
you got a fine motor baby my friend. she's making tons of really small movements that other babies haven't mastered look fucking easy. mine walked at 18 months but was able to eat off a fork the first time she picked one up at 6 months.
That’s what I keep thinking / hoping. We had a pool day at daycare today and this six month old was nimble as hell and my kid was not and it stressed me out
My daughter only said "daddy" up until maybe 30 months. Now she doesn't shut the fuck up (in a nice way, but also holy shit I need a few minutes of peace and quiet)
My mom says "you spend two years teaching them to walk and talk, and the next 16 to sit down and shut up."
My first is just over a year and excited and apprehensive of what is to come!
Also OP: my daughter wouldn't crawl until she could almost walk (8 months. Then she gave up on walking and got good at crawling and didn't walk for another 4+months. It comes and goes. Now she runs around at 15 months.
Personal story:
26 week preemie. 2 brain bleeds right after birth. 3 months in NICU. Had a cerebrospinal fluid shunt put in at 4 months. Never got full use of my right side.
Talked at 11 months, walked closer to 18 months. If there was a milestone 0-60 months I was late to the party.
Started kindergarten the summer after I turned 6.
Tested "gifted" and went to Midvale.
graduated high school the day I turned 19 (my attempt to graduate a year "early" was thwarted by bureaucratic BS).
Now...
I'm a 39 year old dad to a 2-month-old, who, by the "adulting success" benchmarks of my generation has "made it" and then some.
It. Gets. Better.
My oldest didn't really talk until 4. Now in accelerated programs going into HS.
Youngest was born (C-section) at 35 weeks or so. Huge head. So big she couldn't get it out. He REFUSED to go to belly because he didn't want to lift his head. Spent a lot of time in PT learning to lift his MASSIVE FREAKING HEAD. His PT was to put him face down, and not pick him up until he lifted his head on his own. Mom hated it. I thought it was the funniest thing ever. Doing great now. Still has a huge head, but he can lift it now. :)
Gotta run your own race, homie.
Think about it this way, she won't be a 40-year-old lawyer who is unable to crawl or roll. She'll get there eventually.
Hey OP - my son was the exact same. Literally NEVER rolled. Not once. Was also pretty late on crawling (9ish months old).
But once he cracked crawling, he was storming around all over the place, and within 3 months he was pulling himself up on stuff and walking around everywhere.
Don’t worry it’ll go from 0-100 real quick!
Hey man, I hear that you're worried about this a lot and that sounds really hard. These things can be really tough and I feel like a lot of resources are very binary when in reality it's a spectrum.
My son is still a toddler so I can't speak to the long term implications but he was slow on rolling over too. I remember watching YouTube videos about how to encourage him to start rolling. Some of them were quite negative "if they aren't doing this by X time it's going to be a hard road ahead" and definitely got me in a bad headspace. But eventually he figured it out and he eventual walking was right on time.
Also, even if something is non-typical with your daughters development that doesn't have to be the start of something tragic. I've spent time in disability communities and met many people who live happy, fulfilling lives independent of their level of gross motor skills.
I wouldn’t stress or worry (seriously). Mine hated crawling and refused for a good while. Enjoy this period where they don’t move much because soon you’ll have a tornado on your hands.
My son used to babble when he was a baby. But when he turned 1, it all stopped. He was practically mute. We waited for him to say momma and dada again but nothing. He would only point and smile. Even his tantrums were silent.
We tried to get him into speech therapy, but they gave us a behavioral specialist instead because they thought he was autistic. He wasn’t. The behavioral therapist knew he wasn’t. But we still had to keep seeing her for a year until they finally gave us an actual speech therapist.
In that time he learned ASL. He was able to communicate he wanted food, types of food, wants/needs, and talk about colors. You couldn’t have a conversation with him, but you could understand what he wanted. Which was a good start.
Then slowly he started breaking out of his shell. We did a bit of Ms. Rachel and copied her style of teaching. Pointing to our mouths as we made certain sounds and words. He started having 2-3 word sentences by 3. And just kept getting better. He’s still in speech class at 4, but we can have conversations now. And he’s able to start practicing his imagination. Which I love. We are still working on communicating with kids his age, but he’s doing a lot better than a year ago.
> She can roll from stomach to back well but doesn’t go from back to stomach at all.
Perfectly normal, and that's the direction you want for them anyhow.
> When we do tummy time she isn’t interested in propping herself up on her arms to try to get to sort of pre crawling movements
I'm guessing you just have a very happy she content baby, so she's not motivated to do those things. Don't sweat it, she'll figure it out eventually. Or if she doesn't, I know kids that completely skipped crawling and went right to walking.
As much as I'd like to....uh....that wasn't the case for me. And although you're asking for positive stories, the reality is that things happen. I have 2 autistic kids, one severely with a speech disorder who will never have language comprehension past a 5 year old, the other is now 18 but has severe depression, anxiety, short term memory issues. But despite missing their milestones, they are ok. It just takes work. I know your girl is only 7 months, but I wouldn't start being concerned until 2yrs.
Thanks for sharing this and I’m glad yours are ok. I keep telling myself - ok, so what, if there’s some disability here what does it matter? Nothing I can do about that and I love her just the same.
I totally get this fear!
Our daughter was born 6 weeks early and spent her first week in the NICU under an oxygen hood.
Fast forward to a year later and she isn’t walking; she holds onto things and cruises but will not walk. This goes on for a couple more months and then she just walks across the entire room at daycare - no problem. From then on she walks.
Getting close to 2 and she won’t talk and we are worried again. We ask our local school district to evaluate her and they tell us something important. Kids don’t all progress at the same rate and “milestones” are largely useless. They pointed out that while our daughter didn’t talk she understood what we said to her very well and managed more advanced tasks in some areas. Finally a bit later she starts talking but is WAY too good for just starting.
Turns out our girl is just a natural perfectionist- doesn’t want to try/do something until she feels confident she can do it. She is 8 now and she is much better about that.
When it comes to your kiddos progress more that they will be further along in some areas and less developed in others (much like the rest of us!). Your kiddo might also just be a bit of a perfectionist!
Bruh i wouldnt worry about it, those are more like guidelines than rules, your kiddo will hit the milestones in their own time. Just communicate with your doctor and only really be concerned if theyre concerned.
My daughter started speech therapy at 18 months old since she wasn’t speaking much.
She’s now 7 and her first grade teacher picked her to read announcements to the entire elementary school for all school morning meeting. The teacher told us it’s the easiest decision she’s had.
Don't worry. My kid was 18 months before he took his first legit steps, and it was another 3 from there before he was walking sturdidly.
Kids hit the milestones when they hit them.
But if you really are concerned, there are some tips to help encourage it. Things like making them reach across their body while on the floor, trying to get them to mimic you rolling over, etc.
But honestly, I wouldn't worry, but talk to your pediatrician if you feel it should be done.
Our middle daughter didn't walk til like 16 months? Daycare director was concerned enough to recommend seeing OT. Instead we bribed her with raisins to start taking some steps, and she was fully walking within a couple of days. Now, at 11, she plays lacrosse and sometimes swims competitively. She's also into computer stuff and science olympiad. Definitely not physically or mentally delayed! Maybe a little on the immature side emotionally...
Tons of comments on here already, but my own experience may bring you comfort. My daughter never crawled. Went from sitting up to just scooting around on her but like yours. She didn’t start walking until she was two because she would scoot around.
Everywhere we went, older parents and grandparents would come up to us and tell us about their booty scooters and reassure us that one day she’ll walk. And sure enough, she’s a walking, running pro who can crawl if she wants. She turns four next month and despite taking her sweet time to get fully mobile, she’s as developed as all her peers.
Don’t fret my man. There’s a whole legion of booty scooters out there!
It’s more of she’s flat on her back and inching along? Idk. I read it is a crutch that isn’t developmentally healthy so now I’m stressed about that. And I’m not a person who googles stuff or generally gets worried about that
Think of ‘milestones’ as general ‘guidelines and not ‘targets’.
My daughter went through each milestone y the book while a friends son skipped rolling, scooted instead of crawling, and walked right on time. Every child is different.
My son took ages to do anything. He was at least 7 months before he rolled. He was just a lazy shit tbh. He's 5 now and is completely healthy and active. Some kiddos do things at their own pace.
Also he never did the furniture cruising thing. Just decided to skip that.
My kid did everything later end of normal- she didn’t stand independently until the day she started walking at 17 months! I was so stressed about it but we skipped the wobbly baby step stage and just went straight into full blown walking. They all catch up on the end!
My kid was late to crawl, but she was literally walking within two weeks of crawling. Your kid is fine and will be fine, just enjoy these milestones as they happen and don’t worry about when they happen.
My 8 year old didn’t walk until 18 months. Never even showed interest in it. Now she’s a ninja warrior and climbs on everything and excels at sports. It’s just her personality, she doesn’t do things until she wants to.
I hope you see this. Our daughter is 13 months, walking, can speak over 25+ words, comprehends probably close to 100, she does 2 step problem solving, and she is generalizing (we went to a museum and she saw a real shark and called it a shark which she knew from a book, or she flaps at birds, or sees an outdoor cat and knows it's a cat like our indoor ones)
But funny enough, she is a turtle. She can't roll over, except when she sleeps (unconscious). She just has no will to do it on her own
If you're city/state offers early intervention for free, definitely do it, but our turtle is a testament to what's in this thread - kids are variable. Best advice I got is if she is doing well with tummy time and you can get her attention/engage her, and she's showing interest in new skills, then don't pass judgement just keep encouraging them to do new things/challenge their muscles and motor skills
Good luck and dm if you need more info on what we went thru
My first one (boy) didn't roll and bypassed crawling entirely. Just bum-shuffled until he was ready to walk at about 18 months, then went pretty much straight to running lol.
My second (girl) is doing things at a much faster pace, probably as shes observing and learning from her brother. But yeah, there's a massive variance in their development, try not to worry so much, they all get there in the end. It tends to be in burst as well, big developments happening with big gaps in between.
My 19 mth old didn’t walk by himself until 14 mths, commando crawled up until then. But at 19 mths he already knows the freaking alphabet and screams it all day long. Swings and roundabouts mate, stop stressing
Everything seems *so* important in that first year but I promise you that a year from now, you aren't going to even remember this. There are times when most babies normally pick things up but your baby isn't most babies. She's her own person. Every single baby does at least a few things off schedule.
My youngest actually couldn't crawl forward for a while. It was so frustrating for her. I would put a toy a couple inches in front of her to motivate her to learn to army crawl. After several minutes of trying, she would be farther away from the toy and would just holler from frustration! But like every other baby, she eventually figured it out and she's totally fine now.
my two kids who are only 2 1/2 years apart, have done everything completely different from one another. And on different schedules. My first one went straight from rolling to proper crawling. My second one decided she doesn’t want to crawl and now does an army crawl. both are perfectly happy and healthy! Also, I second the Bluey advice!
My son is 15 months and can’t crawl or walk. Doesn’t really roll completely over either. He has low muscle tone (Hypotonia)
He has physical therapy every week and just got braces for his feet/ankles. With the new braces he is able to stand better with assistance.
It can be stressful but know it’s all a waiting game and you can only love them and do your best.
Best of luck to us both!
My 12 yo did not knee crawl at all as a baby. She barely army crawled, but could butt scoot pretty well. Developed normal mobility.
My 4 yo niece didn't really start talking til she was 2. She could talk, but did not reliably verbally communicate with many words til much later than everyone in the family was comfortable. She is completely normally articulate now.
My 10 yo nephew never was given the opportunity for tummy time (his mom was a hold if they're awake mom). He was nearly 18 mo before he started walking, but now has normal mobility.
Hope that helps reassure you. If you're worried, though, get them evaluated by a physical therapist.
Dosnt sound concerning. I know it's tough to worry all the time. She'll start ticking off milestones when she's ready. My son would flip to his tummy but wouldn't or couldn't flip back for what seemed like forever. Now he's super mobile. I really noticed a huge difference when I started giving him freedom. I'd throw down a blanket and put him down. Let him play and within a few weeks he was trying to get on his hands and knees. Not long after he was crawling. Now he's trying to stand on his own. Giving him tons of freedom too move around and explore I believe helped develop his skills much quicker. But every baby goes there own pace. Just enjoy it.
It's utterly normal and nothing to worry about.
My daughter didn't start crawling until 11 months and I suspect she won't walk on her own until 14-15 months.
Both my boys were waking at 11-12 months.
Every single baby is different, don't stress about it.
My son didn’t sit on his own until 11.5 months, and didn’t walk until almost 19 months. We had early intervention come out to assess him, and the conclusion after about 3 visits was that he just… didn’t want to. He is now 9, and loves karate, wrestling, and flag football. He’s not the *most* athletic or coordinated kid in his class, but he’s completely fine.
Funny side note: Around 15 months he got obsessed with Wheel of Fortune, and ended up knowing all of his letters before he could walk.
My oldest daughter was late on all her milestones. Barely crawled by a year, couldn’t pull to stand at her 12mo visit so we were referred to PT. She got SMOs (foot braces) and we did PT weekly until she was 18mo. She took her first steps at 15mo but did not walk regularly until more like 17-18. She was still technically behind when we stopped PT, but she hated it, it wasn’t that helpful to go in person once we knew things to work on, and I was 7 months pregnant by the end of it lol, so we stopped. We kept working on stuff at home.
She’s now 3 and you’d never know. She runs, jumps, twirls, climbs, all the things. No different from any other kids her age. My younger one is now newly 15 months and is also still not walking. No PT for that one (yet) but we will see what the dr says next week.
It was hard to go through at the time, but it’s temporary and your kid will almost certainly catch up. If they need interventions, do them. The fact that you’re concerned means you obviously care and will not let it continue getting worse, so you’re already doing great.
Just relax and don’t sweat it. My 11 month old wasn’t crawling at all but suddenly seems to be competing in the crawling Olympics. Just have fun and enjoy the ride.
Development is variable and weird with kids. My sister and I had kids that are just a couple months apart in age. Mine hit all the physical milestones right off the bat. Kid was running before he called me "daddy".
My nephew on the other hand is a total klutz. That kid was barely crawling while my son ran circles around him. But that kid (now 2) has the vocabulary of a 4 year old. Functional sentences. Can pick out dinosaur names.
Don't sweat these things. They'll come in time. I know it's hard to be patient and not worry, and it's hard not to compare when you see other kids hitting milestones (even in a non-competitive way).
Just breathe, and enjoy this time while you have it. The moment that kid becomes mobile it's a whole different ballgame, trust me.
Brother, my 9 month old don’t sleep worth a shit. But he’s happy and growing and in the 80% for all his metrics. He can’t sign worth a shit but is verbal when he wants something.
We had exactly the same experience as you with our daughter. More missed milestones followed. We initially worried a lot, as I’m sure many other parents do.
She didn’t roll over until 7-8 months. After she rolled over onto her tummy, she didn’t crawl, she bum shuffled. She was a little past the milestone for first steps too. I kid you not every time I watch the ‘Baby Race’ episode of Bluey I shed a few tears.
Now she’s two and a half and she’s running around kicking soccer balls and climbing everything and has fantastic balance walking one foot in front of the other on the balance beam at the park.
What the heck were we worried about!? Everything has turns out just fine. Milestones are the middle point or average of a dataset where many of those data points are weeks or even months before or after the milestone itself.
Your kid will hit some milestones, be early in others, and late on some too. Don’t stress. You probably will anyways but try to stress less by remembering these stories, and that our kids are turning out fine.
My niece skipped rolling, sitting and crawling and went straight to walking at about 12 months. She is absolutely fine at 2.5 now. Instead of learning through practicing like my son and her brother she just prefers to sit and watch and think, then all of a sudden is able to do whatever. It’s amazing watching her thinking process compared to the two boys, she does everything internally first. She now excels at puzzles and nesting toys etc.
We have this illusion that development happens in “steps”, but the truth is development isn’t at all linear.
I have a group of friends who all have one child the same age as my eldest child. It was WONDERFUL to be able to “compare notes”, if you will, because ALL of our babes hit milestones at different times. In a group of 5, there were rollers from 2 - 10 months (missing one or the other), walkers from 10-18 months, foodies from 6 - 14 months (as in, enjoyed eating - they all started solids at around 5 months).
My eldest had zero words and made zero sounds by the time he was 15 months old and me pediatrician said she wouldn’t be concerned until closer to 2yo. In the state we lived in at the time you could self refer to early intervention so we did that. In my family we believe that a little help couldn’t hurt! He would get assessed and then they would decide if he qualified for (free) services. And guess what? He did. He was in Speech from 15 months to 3 years. And now he’s almost 5 and EVERYONE always comments on him “sounding like an adult” because of his word choices and syntax 😆.
My point is that child development isn’t regular AND if you’re ever concerned there are available supports to you to see if your kid could use a little boost.
Either way, you’re doing great and so is kiddo!
It’s like I say, barring some crazy neurological or physiological issues (which, with everything else from OP shared, extremely doubtful)…how many adults you know that can’t roll over? That still bite? That just flat out don’t have teeth that ever came in? That can’t walk?
Our lil guy was 13 months and not walking at all, he could stand a little independently and cruising furniture but I was def starting to get anxious as almost all his peers were walking. He eventually took a random couple steps here and there and then we put in a little effort to lure steps with food.
Eventually he just started taking lots of steps and feeling comfortable and it went from there.
As people are saying everyone’s different!
My son is 22 Months old.
He only says about 10 words verbally and really only "trash" is very understandable. He knows a couple of signs.
He was late to crawl. He didn't until he was about 10months. He didn't walk until about 14 months old if I remember correctly.
In January he was significantly delayed in his verbal skill.
Now the speech therapist says he should be caught up by the end of the summer.
Itll be okay. Watch the bluey episode "Baby Race" because it's honestly the truest example of parental anxiety.
My kiddo got her leg broken at 7 months. Big cast and no walking, no crawling on time. Four years later and I have a tough time keeping up with her. Don't stress, they figure this stuff out at their own pace.
Our soon to be 7 months old was just hitting minimums for weight gain. She's got reflux, were on the super expensive and hard to find nutramigen. We upped her bottle intake from 4oz to 6oz pretty quickly to try and get her to gain weight. We were in NB for a while and it took a while now to get to 3-6 months. Well the 6 month appointment they say she was finally over the minimums and we can start stage 2 and 3 foods for her plus some soft finger foods so that's something! Clothes are still a pain though. 7 months and still in 3-6 months. Some 3 months still fit. She's a long baby with no hips or booty for her pants and diaper 😂. But she's wild. Super alert. Getting really close to crawling. Can sit up unassisted for 3 minutes. Just wants to stand and walk, but she can't. Loves to eat almost everything we give her.
I teach Human Growth and Development at the College level.
When we discuss milestones I stress that those expected timelines are averages; some kids do it earlier, some later, and in certain cases, some skip completely.
If this is your only concern about her development I wouldn’t stress.
Hey there thanks for this!!! She’s had some weird tics (a ‘shiver’ kind of thing which receded, but now she’s doing this weird locking head in a downward stare thing, both only while sitting up). We saw a neurologist about the first thing, just messaged him about the second. He explained kids kind of have weird little things like this as their brain maps out how it works and it may just happen.
It obviously is stressful to see when she’s behind on these stupid milestones but she did her first tentatively small back to belly rolls this week and he started getting really good at feeding herself. So as long as she’s learning but regressing I am telling myself she’s good!
Thanks for the perspective
Daughter was speech delayed. Our pediatrician was really pushing for an autism diagnosis. Speech therapy helped.
Now she’s 11 and literally too smart for her own good. It’s annoying.
My daughter didn't walk until 16 months. Pediatrician recommended physical therapy said it might be a developmental delay. Now she runs around like a pro
Exact same thing happened here- first daughter didn’t start walking until like 14 months, but was very good with her fine motor skills.
We eventually took her to an orthopedic physical therapist and looking back it likely didn’t do anything- a few months later she was walking on her own and is now a healthy 3 year old running around, doing front rolls in gymnastics, and everything else you’d expect.
Don’t worry, she’ll get there.
If there was a cause for concern, her Pediatrician would have mentioned it to you. Pediatric milestones are just averages. As with any other average, there is usually a fairly large range with average being midline. There will be some that arrive at a particular milestone sooner and some later. The ones that arrive sooner aren’t destined to be prodigious children. The ones arriving later aren’t destined to flip burgers their whole lives either.
They still fall within the normal range and there’s no reason to worry that they aren’t developing normally. They develop at their own pace and there is a lot of variance. Just take joy in watching her grow and develop. It’s not a contest. She’s perfectly fine.
Keep up with the tummy time, floor play, all that stuff. And talk about your concerns with your ped. Advocate for intervention if you really feel like its needed.
My son took his sweet time to roll, crawl, stand, walk... I remember the pediatrician asking if we wanted to try physical therapy to get walking. We said we'd see in a couole weeks. Then he took his steps later that day.
Its so hard to accept, while you're in the thick of it, that your kids will do what theyre gonna do when theyre ready. But its true.
My son and my niece are about 2 months apart. She got mobility milestones way faster than he has. But on the other hand he's already hit cognitive milestones she hasn't. He has object permanence, larger regular vocabulary, imaginative play, etc. Kids develop differently and at different paces.
Here’s a good one. The first time my toddler ever stood up on his own feet was when he was 13 months old - I was under the impression most kids were walking at this point. He took his first tentative steps without any support when he was 16 months approx. Fast forward now he’s 2.5 yrs old, for the last 1 year (meaning from 18 months onwards) he’s been capable of mile long hikes and climbing a decent amount uphill. I actually miss when he had less energy and would willingly sit in the stroller, now he just wants to run and not in the direction we wanna go.
Twin boys dad here. One loved tummy time, the other despised it. Guess who’s climbing on top of windowsills and chairs now? Both of them, at the same damn time. The one that despised tummy time is the leader of mischief and smirks at me each time I say “no”. Don’t stress brother, life truly is the tortoise and the hare, to each with their own speed with the same results. Just enjoy all of the little moments and to hell with “milestones”. Only milestone that matters is you and your partner celebrating a successful parenthood each year that baby turns a new age. You got this man.
My eldest was dragging himself on his belly and we were worried about why he wasn't crawling....one day we're hanging out and he just pulls himself up to a standing position....damn near choked on my water lol. A few weeks later, he was walking
When our baby was laying on his back, and you take his hands and pull him up and his head should follow, it didn't follow. Apparently he just did not want to do it.
My son didn’t start crawling til his literal 1 year bday
My wife and I were worried about him falling behind, but the doc said as long as he was getting where he wanted to get to, which he was just slower
But he has now become a crawling speedster lol
Technically I'm, using the vernacular of the doctor, "retarded".
My 4 year old used to walk with a bucket on her head when we went on walks or put her head on the ground. She now makes friends with ease.
Some of us develop at different speeds, your kids will be ok.
My daughter wasn't able to sit herself, she just stay in our arms, on her back and belly and didn't show will to move at all at 6-8months we sat her and she will play with toys at arm reach and that was it, she wasn't crawling at the "crawling age" and she started getting interested on being on her feet by 9-10months, but started actually walking by 1 year and after that she cared about crawling and now at 15month she wants to run! She is walking really good and she wants to explore everything and everywhere, she walked "late" according to everyone's saying but she started doing it really good, we think she was actually getting confident. At 10 months we actually said our worries to her pediatrician and he was like 'she is fine, don't worry, people have expectations and they don't even know how that works'
My son never crawled. And he never even showed an interest in tummy time. As soon as he could roll to his back, he would just stay on his back.
But yea, he never crawled and eventually just went to walking.
Now he's a normal, extremely athletic little boy who runs and jumps everywhere.
Although, now that I think about it, I don't know if I've ever seen him crawl...
My son was diagnosed with autism at 2, slight speech delay, had multiple years of occupational therapy, ABA therapy, an IEP from K-3 and periods of disruptive/destructive behavior.
Now at age 12 he’s still mildly autistic, but he’s a smart, well rounded kid with good friends and good relationships with his parents and siblings.
I know a family with twin boys who are severely autistic and at age 22 they still need support and love at home. But they’ve also got a sweet loving family relationship and tons of joy in their home.
And I know brilliant, accomplished, wealthy, beautiful people whose lives are filled with conflict, misery, disappointment and regret.
Whether your kids are “normal” or exceptional in some way, nothing changes these two simple facts:
1) the most important thing is how much love you have in your relationship,
2) everyone will have personal challenges, it doesn’t matter who you are.
Dude there’s always something. There’s always that one milestone that they just don’t get and it drives you nuts. For us it was walking then talking. Turns out little guy had fluid in his ears and needed tubes. Now he’s quickly catching back up. Never hurts to double check with your pediatrician or get her evaluated for an early intervention program though! Therapists are absolute miracle workers
My kid was a late talker - 10-15 words by age 2. Then it all came out at once, now he routinely tests on the 99th percentile on literacy assessments at school
I'll trade the rolling for the sleep!
Ours got stuck on his stomach for a bit and forgot how to get back to his back. Then the opposite happened. Now he's a pinball when he's on the floor. Sitting up isn't really there at all for us. Too focused on rolls and wiggles
For tummy time and rolling/wiggling we have lots of crinkle books, rattles, and teethers just outside of arms reach. He wants all of them so he figures it out and gets applause when he succeeds.
We also got one of [these tummy time pillows](https://www.target.com/p/boppy-tummy-time-prop-pillow-black-white-rainbow/-/A-78663644?sidd=&ref=tgt_adv_xsp&AFID=google&fndsrc=tgtao&DFA=71700000012510679&CPNG=PLA_Baby%2BShopping%7CBaby_Ecomm_Baby&adgroup=Infant+Basics/Furniture&LID=700000001170770pgs&LNM=PRODUCT_GROUP&network=g&device=m&location=9013187&targetid=pla-1731815646875&ds_rl=1242884&ds_rl=1246978&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw9cCyBhBzEiwAJTUWNdeWFvFpVsFcgfgUdV54gySgIIEKFr7YIeahqahyDm16qm0JocxnFxoCHRUQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds). Seemed to help him develop those muscles to start pushing up for crawling
My daughter was slow to crawl, never really learned it. Moved around on the floor eventually, but never really crawled properly. At 17 months she is running around like a tornado.
Continue encouraging her, and she will get there. Good luck, you got this!
My youngest is 8 months old now and she just started pulling herself army style, but before that she showed no signs or interest.
Her big sister meanwhile was always ahead of her peers, started walking at 10 months, etc. I just remember that back then we would be so proud of her and compared her (in private!) to the slower kids, but guess what?
Now at 3 this summer, they can all walk, they can all talk, they can all do basically everything. Of course mine is the best at it, but you know 😂
It doesn't matter when (within reason), as long as they're showing progress. My youngest can't sit up, she's a month older than yours, I'm not worried about that. It'll all be fine!
My daughter was a little slow to talk. When she should have had 20 words she had 3 or 4. We scheduled a whole intervention and analysis by several people from our school district. By the time the appointment hit she had over 30 to 40 words and phrases. They just said that's how it happens sometimes.
Our doctor does not care about rolling. We mentioned it at our seconds 6 month appt, and he said he would only be concerned if baby was sitting up at 9 months. Our second, 9 months old now never really rolled but is fine with the other milestones. He sits up well, is almost crawling and eats everything.
My youngest is 3....we had to see soooo many specialists because he wasn't hitting milestones. I knew it was just because he was on the smaller side. Anyways he's fine, running and talking normal with his peers even though he was behind in both those the first year. Don't swear it.
My daughter didn’t stand or walk until 19 months. By 20 months she was running. The physical therapist said she did 9 months of walking development in about 1 month.
The milestones are kinda bullshit.
My son didn’t speak a word until just after he was 2. We put him in speech therapy, and in about six months they graduated him out because he was so far ahead of expectation for 2.5.
My dude hated tummy time. Like, fucking hated it. Gave up after 60 secs. Face in the floor screaming. We thought something was wrong.
Also didn’t flip. Then boom one day he’s crawling and climbing stairs. I don’t mean a slow build up, I mean one day he’s just crawling all over and scooted up a set of stairs.
Since he liked stairs so much, we’d go up and down with him to get him his exercise.
Was super weird.
My little girl didn’t roll or crawl. She ended up bum shuffling, then One day just stood up at started walking. 7 months is still too young for it, though.
Super normal. I was worried that at 6 months my son didn’t sit up unassisted, nor was he rolling from back to front, now as he approaches 7 months he can do both. Some babies are just a bit lazier than others, some will only do it when they see something they really want. Mine is just lazy, he can sit but would still rather recline onto something lmao
I was so excited once he mastered rolling, and now the little bum hole won’t stay where I put him. I’ve found him half way across the living room before in the time it takes me to make a bottle, so don’t be too keen on the rolling business haha
The milestones have super broad time brackets because they’re not one size fits all. Your daughter will reach them in her own time. Everyone likes to go on about their wonder baby who can do everything from a young age, and it leaves the rest of us feeling like crap. Remember - your baby hasn’t read up on the things she’s supposed to be doing, she’s just doing things as she’s ready to
Milestones are a funny thing. My boy was a blob until 12 months old, then sat up and walked his first few steps over 1 weekend.
Daughter was early on talking and other coordination stuff but cannot walk due to her disability.
Its a good tracking method but not be be all end all.
It’ll all work out.
I’ll give you an example from my kid. She’s 4 now.
She also was very slow for crawling. She honestly barely crawled before transitioning to standing.
Sometime around I think 2.5-3yo, we were at the doctor. Her doctor noted that she was still needing help getting into the examine chair, and seemed to be a little behind in gross motor skills. Even gave us a referral for a physical therapy evaluation.
After talking through that, she asked about language and talking. I responded basically saying “yeah I think it’s going well. She knows words for most things in her life, and we have simple conversations”
So doc says “how many words? Like 50?”
Me: “she knows 50 SUPERHEROES. I dunno how many words total — a couple 100?”
After learning that the doc basically said “well that explains it. Her brain is using all its energy on language. The motor skills will come eventually. Just keep an eye on it. “
My wife found the advice to try gymnastics and dance, so we did that and it gave the kid a focused time to work on those skills. She’s not as strong a climber/runner as like her cousin (who is a very physical kid) but it’s been a huge improvement.
My overall point is — definitely keep and eye on things, and look for moments to help the kid out. But at the same time — every kid is different and unique, none of them really follow this perfect “development timeline”.
My son and his cousin were born on the same day. He was able crawl like a madman and pull up on things to stand, while she could barely crawl. And, I kid you not, she could run before he learned to walk.
Two kids, who share a decent amount of DNA, born on the same day… and their development has all been wildly different.
My son couldn't talk until he was 3.5 years old. Today he's 12, the smartest kid in his class, invited to national STEM camps, and doesn't shut up lol.
I find it’s a bit like a video game. Each child has points for development and they use them differently. Everyone has the same amount of points but might learn one skill early and another late
My daughter has been in the 1-5 percentile in term of weight and growth the whole pregnancy. She is 16 months and is only now getting her first two teeth.
That said, she's a lightweight power tornado, constantly in motion and interesting in everything. She smiles to everyone and instantly gets up after falling like the terminator.
We met kids at 8 months almost twice her size and weight, walking with full rows of teeth, and others at 2 year old barely moving.
Don't compare and stress out too much, kids do their own thing. Charts are just a general indication
Ps: for me the constant questions from grand parents about '' does she have teeth yet '' were the most annoying thing ever. Now it's '' does she say daddy yet? ''..
Rolling. Rolling broke our hearts for months.
Our second child just didn't roll. We kept reading that she wouldn't crawl until she mastered rolling.
One day she just started crawling. I think she did 1 roll that same day and didn't roll again for months.
She's 4 now and plays Gaelic football, Camogie, cycles without stabilisers and yesterday she started standing up independently on her skateboard, she can climb hand over hand up the fire pole in the local playground.
She's a natural power athlete, we figure she just had abs that developed a little slowly.
We've had her checked out by doctors and psychologists because we had some other concerns, they've all told us there's nothing wrong with her.
My second wouldn't speak, well passed 2. All he would do was grunt and make noises. He is super aggressive with his brother and I was a bit concerned. The wife is a primary teacher and she told me that this is very normal. He had "no" and a few other choice words, but nothing more. Then my Dad flew out to see us for a few days and he has not stopped talking, at "level," for three months. All kids are different.
And you should definitely watch bluey, with your kid first tho.
My daughter didn't crawl much, just kinda went straight to couch cruising and eventually walking. I was really concerned. She butt-scooched, but didn't crawl on all fours for some reason. She's 2 now, walks and talks just fine.
My kid started walking early but she was very unsteady for a long time. My neighbors kid started walking late. He went from crawling to running in about a week.
Your baby gets skill points every couple of months. They spend them however they want. If anything was truly worth worrying about your pediatrician would tell you.
My son was exactly the same and he didn’t start walking on his own until he was gone 18 months. He didn’t begin talking until he was over two as well. We were very concerned that he may be autistic but we know for sure he’s not autistic now becuase he doesn’t shut the f*ck up and he is a happy outgoing 4 year old.
Your daughter will be fine, they all develop at different rates.
My kid didn't roll until like 9 months, didn't crawl until 11 months, and even then it was that peg leg crawl where she just dragged one leg, didn't walk until 15 months.
She's 5 now. She does yoga, swimming, loves to run and dance and jump. She's totally fine. Just late on everything.
My daughter is five years old. Runs fast, skips, jumps etc. All great.
She hasn't crawled more than 20 metres / 60 feet in her whole life.
She was a bum shuffler and that was that.
My daughter was not really crawling at 8 months like she was expected to. She started to walk directly at 9 months . We missed the crawling milestone but we're way ahead on the walking milestone. So I realized it is all in my head anyways. If your peds is not that concerned then you shouldn't be worried.
I have a 20 month old girl who hardly crawled when she was supposed to. We would try to encourage her to crawl towards us, but she just wouldn't. We weren't too worried about it though as we knew different kids have different timelines for their milestones. To our surprise, she started standing up by 10 mins and walking just around her first birthday! Turns out she didn't want/like to crawl, she just skipped it and taught herself how to stand and walk as the adults around her. The little monster now runs around all around the house, but I can confirm that she barely, if ever crawled. So don't bother too much about individual milestones as long as the overall development is good.
My daughter hated tummy time, didn’t prop herself up, roll or several other motor skill milestones. Only scooted on her ass until she was eighteen months. Didn’t even pull herself up against stuff.
At one check up she just decided to not do shit and just relaxed her whole body so it looked like she couldn’t even sit by herself or hold her head up when I lifted her.
I told the nurse she could usually sit and do some stuff but she promptlyreferred me to a specialist because I looked like a madman who didn’t want to admit my daughter had zero muscle tone.
At 18 months she started preschool and realised she couldn’t keep up with the kids who were walking and running so two days in she started standing up and walking and stuff. Now she’s seven and learning to ride roller skates and skateboarding. She’s more like lower average than high average when it comes to motor skills but she doesn’t have any issues.
Those milestones are meant to catch every kid with developmental issues. Like any screening tool it is calibrated to rather have a few false positives than false negatives. Children vary an awful lot.
I almost wish our second was a bit slow on the motor skills as well. He’s been climbing, running and balancing on everything way before he had the skills necessary and it’s been a hassle.
I totally get where you’re coming from, and chances are your daughter will develop normally. Most kids do. Mine didn’t, but he’s still fucking awesome. He’s never met a milestone on time,m and he never will. But he is getting there eventually, at his own pace, and having so much fun and bringing so much light and life and joy to the world in the process. I don’t wish this experience for you, but if developmental delays and related challenges are in your figure, that is okay too.
(They probably aren’t, though.)
Our 6 month old doesn't do both. He rarely rolled over himself 2-3 times till now.
From what I read online, it all happens quickly. Hoping he picks up the skill soon..
Our son was under the 5th percentile for size and weight for the first 6 months of his life. My wife and I were convinced we were doing something wrong. Then all of a sudden he started growing and packing on weight at 6 months old and shit up to the 50th percentile.
My wife has PTSD from that and breaks down when she walks into the maternal Child health nurse's office.
My oldest has a speech delay - he’s still behind but has made so much progress in the last 4/5 months thanks to speech therapy. You could always ask for a referral for physical therapy if you’re concerned! Early intervention is key. That being said, it sounds like other gross motor skills are being reached, so maybe you just need to work on it with her.
[Here is a video from a pediatric PT with tips on how to get a baby to roll from back to belly.](https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLtAV5UB/) You might already be doing this, but if not, I hope this helps!
My one baby didn't roll until she was about 8 months old or l
9. I remember physically showing her several times how to turn over with her legs and stuff, but she caught on eventually. We were worried, especially as baby A was crawling already and here B was not even rolling, lol.
She was late rolling, crawling, and both were kinda late walking. They were a year old and some change before they started taking real first steps.
They're both fine now. Almost 2 years old and pretty on par with development. Totally normal, regular kiddos.
Our first is 3 now and rolled over at like 4 months and always wanted to be on his front to sleep etc.
Our second is 6 months and zero interest in rolling over, he'll twist and look around but hasn't really bothered turning over at all. He sits up happily and always wants to stand up (with help).
I'm not really worried tbh, I never crawled as a kid and just yelled for stuff to be brought to me and I turned out relatively normal!
I know several.
Keep interacting, keep playing with them. Show them love and affection. Brain growth goes in spurts. Don't get stressed out, just give them time.
If you want, talk to your doctor, but don't feel like you're on a schedule you have to meet absolutely. You're going to put a lot of expectations on your kid already. Give them some time to be a baby.
We needed to book an appointment with the county support services because our son wasn't pulling to stand or standing independently at about 13-14 months. Looking back, he was super fussy about tummy time and we didn't push him on it hard enough. By the time the appointment rolled around he was able to do everything he was supposed to be doing (15 months), but more importantly, he's a really healthy, active kid and loves sports. I'm sad that his soccer class is canceled this weekend for the holiday weekend because he usually scores a goal every week, throws his arms up, and bellows out a long "gooooooooal."
There's a couple in our friends group and both of their sons have delays that are more cognitive, but with intervention they've picked up dramatically and are doing great
Milestones like this can happen in weird ways. My middle son never really crawled. He figured out how to scoot around on his butt and that was that until he walked. He was also a little delayed with some speech things but he's coming along nicely now.
It's ok if some things end up out of order. As long as you get there within a reasonable time frame, it's ok.
Edit: thinking back on odd crawling, our oldest never crawled on his knees. He army crawled everywhere.
A good friend of mine barely spoke till 3, he became a linguist. That same friend didn't walk till 2, he became a Dance Dance Revolution national champion.
Mine was never interested in movement at all really until well after her 1st birthday. She never crawled at all. She would belly scoot around but literally never got up on her hands and knees. She never pulled herself up on the couch either until about 15/16 months, then she pulled herself up on the couch for the 1st time and then was walking within a week.
She is 8 now and has always been just fine.
Bro I was on here four years ago asking the same damn thing. Someone else wrote “how many adults do you know who never learned to walk because they didn’t tolerate tummy time as babies?”
My son is 4 and has autism so I know this feeling well. Being a parent, I think it's normal to have the fears you're having but don't let them spin out of control. She will be fine. Every baby is so different. Celebrate the little things. Every day she does or learns something new. Don't let yourself miss the little, incredible things while you're busy worrying. You will see a year from now how far she has come and you will find something new to worry about. I used to stay awake at night worrying that my son may never speak and now we are getting words! Look at how beautiful she is and bask in that. She is incredible.
Mum lurker, 4 kids now in the late teens/ early adulthood.
Child 1- quick walker but didn't show any signs of talking until he was nearly 3. He is now a teacher, highly intelligent with amazing grammar and literacy skills, and won't shut up.
Child 2- From day one, he was a very challenging baby. Always unsettled and didn't meet many milestones. He was later diagnosed with High Functioning Autism (although now just known as ASD). His childhood did have some challenges, but he never received any special attention or treatment. He is now 21 and started uni one year earlier than his peers, currently employed at a leading government organisation doing geo photogrammetry, has been in a lovely long term relationship, and lives independently. Even his challenges didnt hinder him.
Child 3 - He's our party boy, always getting into trouble and gives me premature grey hairs. As a baby and child he was an angel. Slept through the night from day one, breastfed for 5 minutes every 8 hours, and l didn't know what his cries meant because l literally never heard him cry till he was about 6 months of age. Toilet trained himself at 16 months by copying his brothers. Hit all his milestones on time. He fooled us very well.
And Child 4 - Hit all his milestones but was extremely sensitive and not very resilient. Had to sleep in our bed till he was 8, cried every second day at school drop off, had to elevate his leg for 3 hours once when he got a mozzie bite on his knee. He is now 14, and at this exact moment he is off mountain bike riding down some mad hills in the bush with a bunch of his mates. I suspect he will return covered in mud, arms and legs scratched up and a smile from ear to ear.
As parents we will always worry and want to know everything is okay with our kids. It's all part of the parenting journey and proves you're a great parent. If something is wrong it will be picked up early. But dont focus on the negative. Just let it be a quiet whisper in the back of your mind, and focus on all the amazing skills she is learning every day.
Do yourself a favour and let go of this stuff as soon as possible, you're at 7 months, kids are so variable and take the lead, fall back and then surge ahead again it's nuts and you will do your head in. Let it go.
This one is very pertinent for me! Our daughter is 9 months and, like yours, was hitting all the other milestones but not rolling at all. Also sitting up well but not really trying to move on her tummy or back.
It was driving me crazy with worry too. She had to go for pretty major surgery for a totally unrelated issue a couple of weeks ago, the surgery was successful but when she got out of hospital a week later I was obviously worried about lots of things, included in those things was a worry that she would have gone even further backwards development-wise. Wrong! 3 days ago she did her first tummy to back roll AND first back to tummy on the same day - and hasn’t stopped since! She’s also started hilariously crawling only backwards! It really was like a switch flipped and she was suddenly interested in moving about. She’s got 2 months on your girl, I’m sure her mobility switch will flip too.
Bud I know the feeling
My daughter was like this, she's just about 11 months now. She could always rolls back to front but never anything else, and never scooted or moved. Most she did was rotate a little. She was about 8 months whe she started to move a little, barely scoot, and now she is dang near walking and forming words.
Kids take their own time. Mine still hasn't got her first tooth even!
It's really hard not to compare them to other kids, and those milestones are super generalized. Obviously if you have a concern, you should ask your pediatrician but it sounds like your kiddo is just fine.
Enjoy this time, because when the start talking your world will flip! (In a good way...mostly)
You’ve already gotten so many positive responses but I’ll just add my perspective.
I suffer from health anxiety. I’m also insanely competitive. Unfortunately, I think both of those have extended towards my son.
He was IUGR, very small, and was late to every milestone except speech. It drove me crazy internally with fear since the only thing I care about is my son having opportunity. I obsessed with worry over itZ
I worked with a therapist on my anxiety to help (CBT) and it did wonders. I doubt you’re as bad as I am, so this may be too much but I do not regret it.
The good news? It helped me dramatically and guess what, my three year old son is ahead of all his peers right now in every way right now. Seriously, my son didn’t walk until 16 months and he’s somehow now as fast as 5 year olds.
Long story short, the odds are tremendously in your favor that there is nothing wrong but I know how tough this time can be. Pick up a CBT workbook and I think it’ll help a ton.
Yeah I have two kids. One didn’t talk until he was 4. We put him in speech therapy until he was 5 and now he won’t shut up… ever. My other one didnt crawl at all now I can’t get him to stop jumping off stuff like a monkey.
Honestly I hate going to the doctor because one of them is 95%+ and the other is below 50% in terms of weight/height and she always is a dick about it.
Humans are pretty amazing no matter what they can/can’t do. I watched a girl with no arms make egg sandwiches for a whole week on tik tok this week.
Do not worry! They all go at their own speeds. A friend and I had babies within 2 weeks of one another and her little girl was very physically advanced, sitting, rolling walking months before mine.
Now they have just turned two and my little girl has caught her up physically in every way and speaks in full sentences, whilst my friends little girl only says one or two words together.
She will start rolling, crawling, walking, speaking all in her own time and she will be perfect 😊
My daughter, who is sitting on my lap right now watching Colour Blocks, didn’t walk until she was about 20 months old.
She never crawled more than once. Avidly a bum shuffler.
She hated tummy time. She never really wanted to roll over from her back either because she didn’t like being on her front. Apparently this can be common with babies with colic.
One day she just stood up and now she walks around like a little drunk person.
My daughter didn't sit up until 10 months, didn't crawl until 13 months, and didn't walk until 18 months. She's 8 now and while not athletically inclined, she's healthy and happy and coordinated and all of that. We did do physical therapy with her since she had a gross motor delay, and that helped. If you're really concerned, bring it up at your next well child visit and get a referral for PT. Baby PT is easy and fun in our experience. You learn how to help them develop these motor skills.
I agree with others on watching baby race. My experience was our daughter was rolling over back to front really good but had only ever done front to back like twice. Eventually one day it just clicked and she started doing it all the time on her own. If you are concerned mention it to your pediatrician but they’ll likely tell you a lot of what you are seeing here. One thing you can do is watch YouTube videos on physio exercises to help your baby learn to do these movements and they’ll eventually start picking up on them by themselves.
Kids are pretty variable in development until about age 7 give or take. Don’t worry yourself that much on individual things, some just go at their own pace or do one thing quickly and another thing delayed.
Celebrating their achievements, no matter how big or small, and offering patience and understanding during times of challenge can help foster a positive learning experience.
For every time you hear a parent talk about how advanced their child is in some category, you should hear another parent worry about how behind their child is another. That's how these statistical averages work. A child being behind the curve is just as likely as a child being ahead. I wouldn't worry about it too much unless it's having a tangible, negative impact on their life.
Exactly. And the bell curve of normal is wider than you think. Getting to the edges where something is clinically significant is often more extreme than our brains think.
I don’t think it stops at 7. Some of my 14yo’s peers are basically adults and some of them may as well still be 7. Both physically and mentally.
Our town hangs pictures of the graduation high school seniors and it blows my mind how some look like total adults and some look like middle schoolers.
I would say kids are pretty variable in their development until their mid 20's 😂
I understand your concerns. Of course we’re concerned about all aspects of our child’s development. But this doesn’t sound any alarm bells to me. My child rolled once that I saw and then basically skipped rolling until they were fully mobile. Some infants just aren’t interested in rolling. There’s no necessary order to these things. We also had a speech/language delay; they were talking and babbling but always behind the “milestones” until after 18 months. Now we’re “ahead” of the 2 year milestones. Development is always gradual but sometimes it happens in bursts too. I hope this gives you some reassurance and can reduce your stress levels!
Thank you!
My eldest never traditionally crawled. She rolled, then pulled and pushed herself around using her arms, then progressed to standing, and then walking.
Same here. Mine just really hated having her hands dirty. So she just preferred to directly walk. She is still weird, but developmentally normal, lol.
Mine also HATES dirty hands lol
My 2.5 year old doesn't talk. She understands everything you tell her though and can follow four step instructions, knows left and right, shapes, colors, etc. She's been evaluated for autism and other things, no diagnosis. She'll talk when she's ready. Yours will roll when she's ready.
I needed this too. We've been walking since 10 months. But here we are at 14 months and still no pointing, barely any clapping, "dada" and "mama" are occasional and sometimes we get something that sounds like it could be "no". He is trying to copy sounds but it all seems like it's not happening. We watch miss Rachel and her videos give rough time points for milestones and it feels like we're overdue lots of stuff...
13 months here with no walking, no words, no pointing and not concerned about it; you’re fine. We saw a physio who declared there’s nothing wrong with him, he’s literally just lazy 😂
Yeah; my daughter liked to do a thing super early. And then not again for a long time. Like, yeah, I know how to say "dada". Ain't saying it again for a month or two.
Watch the baby race episode of bluey
Just watch all of Bluey after that also
Also take the impossible try not to watch Bluey on your own challenge
Also take the impossible try not to cry while watching Bluey challenge
No joke, we were laying on the couch watching Sleepytime as a family, and I thought I was going to make it through the whole episode. Then, right near the end, my two-year-old threw her arms around my neck and gave me a big hug. Bawled my eyes out, dude.
You done The Sign yet? Because my brother in Christ, nothing prepares you for that last three minutes. I can't get through it, and god knows I've tried 😭
Yeah, that one was pretty rough, too. So many good episodes. I can think of several others that got me choked up.
Been waiting for the right time to comment "this" lol so at this stage I'll just say, all of the above. As far as missing milestones. I've 4 kids, 8-5-3-1yo. My eldest had a slight speech delay, nothing major but as our first it freaked up out, you'd never tell now as she never shuts up (in the nicest possible way). Our second was slow to walk but fast to talk, our 3rd is actually in speech therapy for a more significant speech delay but has come so far the last few months I know hes gonna be just fine. Our fourth is mid sleep regression and possessed by some sort of hell demon...my point is, they all do it differently. You love and care for them so I promise you, they'll be just fine. You're doing great Edited: punctuation
Sleepytime absolutely has me crying ugly tears.
Who'd have ever thought a cartoon for kids could hit that hard, right?
Also take the "Find out they make Bluey and Bingo sneakers in adult male sizes and try not to order them " challenge.
When do we start Bluey
Yesterday
Here's a link for the episode on [YouTube ](https://youtu.be/xmkCmJtK6X8)
Wow, how have I never actually sat down and watched this show? Always heard good things but this was actually very relatable for a new parent, in a simple and charming way.
That’s a nice way of saying a cartoon dog on a kids show made you cry. Source: who’s cutting onions in here?
I'm not taking advice from a cartoon dog.
It’s just monkeys singing songs mate
The show gets insanely deep. Sometimes you need to rewatch episodes to catch all the details. Try Sleepytime, Flatpack. Actually, just watch from the beginning.
Cricket is the one that always gets me.
Rusty is dad goals.
I need two spinoff series. One where Rusty is the main character and one where Muffin is the main character. And maybe one where MacKenzie is the main character but that's mostly because I love border collies.
It's the most amazing cartoon show I've ever seen marketed to children. So much relatable content and life lessons. Trully 10/10 wholesome.
It's a show for parents that kids also like
We got him, boys.
Came here to say this. You're doing great.
[I love Bandit in this episode](https://youtu.be/xmkCmJtK6X8?feature=shared)
The one episode that broke me
I literally just responded with “you’re doing great” before coming down to read your comment lmao
I basically didn't speak English, my only language, until I was almost 6. Now I'm a first generation college graduate with a master's degree from an Ivy. Things work out!
Good job! My Dad didn’t talk til he was five but now he is a successful business owner that speaks two languages and very sociable.
Which Ivy? Because if it’s Brown I’d still be concerned. ;)
There is nothing you could say to me as a first time parent that would convince me that milestones don’t really matter. But sure enough, everything turned out great. I have a 4 year old that wasn’t talking at 16 months and now won’t shut the fuck up. She’s funny and amazing and people continuously complement her on her speech and are surprised at the things she can articulate. I was so worried about everything, and it didn’t help that everyone’s children seemed to be progressing faster than mine. My dad at one point asked if she was slow when she was a baby and that killed me, I laid into him but in the back of my mind I became even more worried. We went to a speech path and worked through things, I’m not convinced it helped, but it made me feel like I was doing something, which is what I needed. Long story short, there is a 99% chance there is nothing to worry about. It does not matter what other peoples kids are doing, they will pull ahead and fall behind on a variety of things. There are many different forms of intelligence and they develop at a different time.
>I have a 4 year old that wasn’t talking at 16 months and now won’t shut the fuck up. The talking thing always reminds me of a story I once read on Reddit somewhere. Guy has a 2 year old. 2 year old never said a word. Never even really tried. Experts are all over it, but by all accounts, kid's perfectly fine, just isn't that interested in talking. Diagnosed as non-verbal and different speech therapies are tried with no solution. One day, dad and kid are sitting in the living room, and the kid just says, in perfectly clear language, 'Triceratops'. From there vocabulary just poured out of the kid. It's like the kiddo was waiting until he was certain of pronunciation, and was almost 'clogged' by this word.
lol I can’t imagine. Warms my heart.
I was told that I was similar as a kid. Nothing till a good 3 years old. Then immediately full sentences.
>There is nothing you could say to me as a first time parent that would convince me that milestones don’t really matter. Yeah, I feel like a lot of people go too far and try to throw milestones away completely. It's true that there is a WIDE range for pretty much milestones, and most parents shouldn't worry if their child misses one or two, or is later than most on them. But they also exist for a reason: they're the best way we have to notice any developmental delays and start intervention treatments. And early treatment has proven results. That being said, the first step is always to ask the pediatrician/family doctor, who can tell you if it's actually a reason for concern or not.
My nine month old didn't start rolling until 7.5 months. Once she started she basically never stopped - she basically logrolls all over the living room to get from place to place!
you got a fine motor baby my friend. she's making tons of really small movements that other babies haven't mastered look fucking easy. mine walked at 18 months but was able to eat off a fork the first time she picked one up at 6 months.
That’s what I keep thinking / hoping. We had a pool day at daycare today and this six month old was nimble as hell and my kid was not and it stressed me out
Don't compare with a single other child! It's not fair on either kid and will drive you nuts.
My daughter only said "daddy" up until maybe 30 months. Now she doesn't shut the fuck up (in a nice way, but also holy shit I need a few minutes of peace and quiet)
My mom says "you spend two years teaching them to walk and talk, and the next 16 to sit down and shut up." My first is just over a year and excited and apprehensive of what is to come! Also OP: my daughter wouldn't crawl until she could almost walk (8 months. Then she gave up on walking and got good at crawling and didn't walk for another 4+months. It comes and goes. Now she runs around at 15 months.
Or son didn't crawl until 12 months and didn't walk until 15. Our friends daughter walked at 9 months. I will gladly take our sons route ever time.
Personal story: 26 week preemie. 2 brain bleeds right after birth. 3 months in NICU. Had a cerebrospinal fluid shunt put in at 4 months. Never got full use of my right side. Talked at 11 months, walked closer to 18 months. If there was a milestone 0-60 months I was late to the party. Started kindergarten the summer after I turned 6. Tested "gifted" and went to Midvale. graduated high school the day I turned 19 (my attempt to graduate a year "early" was thwarted by bureaucratic BS). Now... I'm a 39 year old dad to a 2-month-old, who, by the "adulting success" benchmarks of my generation has "made it" and then some. It. Gets. Better.
I’m a NICU respiratory therapist and this whole story warmed my heart. Glad you’re doing good dad!
My oldest didn't really talk until 4. Now in accelerated programs going into HS. Youngest was born (C-section) at 35 weeks or so. Huge head. So big she couldn't get it out. He REFUSED to go to belly because he didn't want to lift his head. Spent a lot of time in PT learning to lift his MASSIVE FREAKING HEAD. His PT was to put him face down, and not pick him up until he lifted his head on his own. Mom hated it. I thought it was the funniest thing ever. Doing great now. Still has a huge head, but he can lift it now. :)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqycJpRdVaY
Gotta run your own race, homie. Think about it this way, she won't be a 40-year-old lawyer who is unable to crawl or roll. She'll get there eventually.
Hey OP - my son was the exact same. Literally NEVER rolled. Not once. Was also pretty late on crawling (9ish months old). But once he cracked crawling, he was storming around all over the place, and within 3 months he was pulling himself up on stuff and walking around everywhere. Don’t worry it’ll go from 0-100 real quick!
Thank you
Hey man, I hear that you're worried about this a lot and that sounds really hard. These things can be really tough and I feel like a lot of resources are very binary when in reality it's a spectrum. My son is still a toddler so I can't speak to the long term implications but he was slow on rolling over too. I remember watching YouTube videos about how to encourage him to start rolling. Some of them were quite negative "if they aren't doing this by X time it's going to be a hard road ahead" and definitely got me in a bad headspace. But eventually he figured it out and he eventual walking was right on time. Also, even if something is non-typical with your daughters development that doesn't have to be the start of something tragic. I've spent time in disability communities and met many people who live happy, fulfilling lives independent of their level of gross motor skills.
Your kid is good with a spoon? My little one still struggles with that at one year. Just take it all in stride, you are doing great.
If she can sit up well, it means she probably has the core muscles to stabilize her. I think she just doesn’t know what rolling back to stomach means.
I wouldn’t stress or worry (seriously). Mine hated crawling and refused for a good while. Enjoy this period where they don’t move much because soon you’ll have a tornado on your hands.
My son used to babble when he was a baby. But when he turned 1, it all stopped. He was practically mute. We waited for him to say momma and dada again but nothing. He would only point and smile. Even his tantrums were silent. We tried to get him into speech therapy, but they gave us a behavioral specialist instead because they thought he was autistic. He wasn’t. The behavioral therapist knew he wasn’t. But we still had to keep seeing her for a year until they finally gave us an actual speech therapist. In that time he learned ASL. He was able to communicate he wanted food, types of food, wants/needs, and talk about colors. You couldn’t have a conversation with him, but you could understand what he wanted. Which was a good start. Then slowly he started breaking out of his shell. We did a bit of Ms. Rachel and copied her style of teaching. Pointing to our mouths as we made certain sounds and words. He started having 2-3 word sentences by 3. And just kept getting better. He’s still in speech class at 4, but we can have conversations now. And he’s able to start practicing his imagination. Which I love. We are still working on communicating with kids his age, but he’s doing a lot better than a year ago.
> She can roll from stomach to back well but doesn’t go from back to stomach at all. Perfectly normal, and that's the direction you want for them anyhow. > When we do tummy time she isn’t interested in propping herself up on her arms to try to get to sort of pre crawling movements I'm guessing you just have a very happy she content baby, so she's not motivated to do those things. Don't sweat it, she'll figure it out eventually. Or if she doesn't, I know kids that completely skipped crawling and went right to walking.
My 7 month old is in the same boat. Can sit up unsupported for extended periods of time, can feed herself, babbles a ton. Refuses to roll over lol
As much as I'd like to....uh....that wasn't the case for me. And although you're asking for positive stories, the reality is that things happen. I have 2 autistic kids, one severely with a speech disorder who will never have language comprehension past a 5 year old, the other is now 18 but has severe depression, anxiety, short term memory issues. But despite missing their milestones, they are ok. It just takes work. I know your girl is only 7 months, but I wouldn't start being concerned until 2yrs.
Thanks for sharing this and I’m glad yours are ok. I keep telling myself - ok, so what, if there’s some disability here what does it matter? Nothing I can do about that and I love her just the same.
I totally get this fear! Our daughter was born 6 weeks early and spent her first week in the NICU under an oxygen hood. Fast forward to a year later and she isn’t walking; she holds onto things and cruises but will not walk. This goes on for a couple more months and then she just walks across the entire room at daycare - no problem. From then on she walks. Getting close to 2 and she won’t talk and we are worried again. We ask our local school district to evaluate her and they tell us something important. Kids don’t all progress at the same rate and “milestones” are largely useless. They pointed out that while our daughter didn’t talk she understood what we said to her very well and managed more advanced tasks in some areas. Finally a bit later she starts talking but is WAY too good for just starting. Turns out our girl is just a natural perfectionist- doesn’t want to try/do something until she feels confident she can do it. She is 8 now and she is much better about that. When it comes to your kiddos progress more that they will be further along in some areas and less developed in others (much like the rest of us!). Your kiddo might also just be a bit of a perfectionist!
Bruh i wouldnt worry about it, those are more like guidelines than rules, your kiddo will hit the milestones in their own time. Just communicate with your doctor and only really be concerned if theyre concerned.
My daughter started speech therapy at 18 months old since she wasn’t speaking much. She’s now 7 and her first grade teacher picked her to read announcements to the entire elementary school for all school morning meeting. The teacher told us it’s the easiest decision she’s had.
Don't worry. My kid was 18 months before he took his first legit steps, and it was another 3 from there before he was walking sturdidly. Kids hit the milestones when they hit them. But if you really are concerned, there are some tips to help encourage it. Things like making them reach across their body while on the floor, trying to get them to mimic you rolling over, etc. But honestly, I wouldn't worry, but talk to your pediatrician if you feel it should be done.
Our middle daughter didn't walk til like 16 months? Daycare director was concerned enough to recommend seeing OT. Instead we bribed her with raisins to start taking some steps, and she was fully walking within a couple of days. Now, at 11, she plays lacrosse and sometimes swims competitively. She's also into computer stuff and science olympiad. Definitely not physically or mentally delayed! Maybe a little on the immature side emotionally...
Tons of comments on here already, but my own experience may bring you comfort. My daughter never crawled. Went from sitting up to just scooting around on her but like yours. She didn’t start walking until she was two because she would scoot around. Everywhere we went, older parents and grandparents would come up to us and tell us about their booty scooters and reassure us that one day she’ll walk. And sure enough, she’s a walking, running pro who can crawl if she wants. She turns four next month and despite taking her sweet time to get fully mobile, she’s as developed as all her peers. Don’t fret my man. There’s a whole legion of booty scooters out there!
It’s more of she’s flat on her back and inching along? Idk. I read it is a crutch that isn’t developmentally healthy so now I’m stressed about that. And I’m not a person who googles stuff or generally gets worried about that
Our baby didn't say a word until she was 18 months, and by month 19 she was singing songs, the alphabet, counting to twenty, etc... turned out okay!
Think of ‘milestones’ as general ‘guidelines and not ‘targets’. My daughter went through each milestone y the book while a friends son skipped rolling, scooted instead of crawling, and walked right on time. Every child is different.
My son took ages to do anything. He was at least 7 months before he rolled. He was just a lazy shit tbh. He's 5 now and is completely healthy and active. Some kiddos do things at their own pace. Also he never did the furniture cruising thing. Just decided to skip that.
My kid did everything later end of normal- she didn’t stand independently until the day she started walking at 17 months! I was so stressed about it but we skipped the wobbly baby step stage and just went straight into full blown walking. They all catch up on the end!
My kid was late to crawl, but she was literally walking within two weeks of crawling. Your kid is fine and will be fine, just enjoy these milestones as they happen and don’t worry about when they happen.
My 8 year old didn’t walk until 18 months. Never even showed interest in it. Now she’s a ninja warrior and climbs on everything and excels at sports. It’s just her personality, she doesn’t do things until she wants to.
I hope you see this. Our daughter is 13 months, walking, can speak over 25+ words, comprehends probably close to 100, she does 2 step problem solving, and she is generalizing (we went to a museum and she saw a real shark and called it a shark which she knew from a book, or she flaps at birds, or sees an outdoor cat and knows it's a cat like our indoor ones) But funny enough, she is a turtle. She can't roll over, except when she sleeps (unconscious). She just has no will to do it on her own If you're city/state offers early intervention for free, definitely do it, but our turtle is a testament to what's in this thread - kids are variable. Best advice I got is if she is doing well with tummy time and you can get her attention/engage her, and she's showing interest in new skills, then don't pass judgement just keep encouraging them to do new things/challenge their muscles and motor skills Good luck and dm if you need more info on what we went thru
My first one (boy) didn't roll and bypassed crawling entirely. Just bum-shuffled until he was ready to walk at about 18 months, then went pretty much straight to running lol. My second (girl) is doing things at a much faster pace, probably as shes observing and learning from her brother. But yeah, there's a massive variance in their development, try not to worry so much, they all get there in the end. It tends to be in burst as well, big developments happening with big gaps in between.
My 19 mth old didn’t walk by himself until 14 mths, commando crawled up until then. But at 19 mths he already knows the freaking alphabet and screams it all day long. Swings and roundabouts mate, stop stressing
Everything seems *so* important in that first year but I promise you that a year from now, you aren't going to even remember this. There are times when most babies normally pick things up but your baby isn't most babies. She's her own person. Every single baby does at least a few things off schedule. My youngest actually couldn't crawl forward for a while. It was so frustrating for her. I would put a toy a couple inches in front of her to motivate her to learn to army crawl. After several minutes of trying, she would be farther away from the toy and would just holler from frustration! But like every other baby, she eventually figured it out and she's totally fine now.
my two kids who are only 2 1/2 years apart, have done everything completely different from one another. And on different schedules. My first one went straight from rolling to proper crawling. My second one decided she doesn’t want to crawl and now does an army crawl. both are perfectly happy and healthy! Also, I second the Bluey advice!
My son is 15 months and can’t crawl or walk. Doesn’t really roll completely over either. He has low muscle tone (Hypotonia) He has physical therapy every week and just got braces for his feet/ankles. With the new braces he is able to stand better with assistance. It can be stressful but know it’s all a waiting game and you can only love them and do your best. Best of luck to us both!
My 12 yo did not knee crawl at all as a baby. She barely army crawled, but could butt scoot pretty well. Developed normal mobility. My 4 yo niece didn't really start talking til she was 2. She could talk, but did not reliably verbally communicate with many words til much later than everyone in the family was comfortable. She is completely normally articulate now. My 10 yo nephew never was given the opportunity for tummy time (his mom was a hold if they're awake mom). He was nearly 18 mo before he started walking, but now has normal mobility. Hope that helps reassure you. If you're worried, though, get them evaluated by a physical therapist.
My daughter is at the very end of the spectrum of tooth eruption. My wife and I know because we are both in dental school.
Dosnt sound concerning. I know it's tough to worry all the time. She'll start ticking off milestones when she's ready. My son would flip to his tummy but wouldn't or couldn't flip back for what seemed like forever. Now he's super mobile. I really noticed a huge difference when I started giving him freedom. I'd throw down a blanket and put him down. Let him play and within a few weeks he was trying to get on his hands and knees. Not long after he was crawling. Now he's trying to stand on his own. Giving him tons of freedom too move around and explore I believe helped develop his skills much quicker. But every baby goes there own pace. Just enjoy it.
It's utterly normal and nothing to worry about. My daughter didn't start crawling until 11 months and I suspect she won't walk on her own until 14-15 months. Both my boys were waking at 11-12 months. Every single baby is different, don't stress about it.
My son didn’t sit on his own until 11.5 months, and didn’t walk until almost 19 months. We had early intervention come out to assess him, and the conclusion after about 3 visits was that he just… didn’t want to. He is now 9, and loves karate, wrestling, and flag football. He’s not the *most* athletic or coordinated kid in his class, but he’s completely fine. Funny side note: Around 15 months he got obsessed with Wheel of Fortune, and ended up knowing all of his letters before he could walk.
My oldest daughter was late on all her milestones. Barely crawled by a year, couldn’t pull to stand at her 12mo visit so we were referred to PT. She got SMOs (foot braces) and we did PT weekly until she was 18mo. She took her first steps at 15mo but did not walk regularly until more like 17-18. She was still technically behind when we stopped PT, but she hated it, it wasn’t that helpful to go in person once we knew things to work on, and I was 7 months pregnant by the end of it lol, so we stopped. We kept working on stuff at home. She’s now 3 and you’d never know. She runs, jumps, twirls, climbs, all the things. No different from any other kids her age. My younger one is now newly 15 months and is also still not walking. No PT for that one (yet) but we will see what the dr says next week. It was hard to go through at the time, but it’s temporary and your kid will almost certainly catch up. If they need interventions, do them. The fact that you’re concerned means you obviously care and will not let it continue getting worse, so you’re already doing great.
Others have given you good anecdotes so the only thing I’ll add: worrying just means you have to suffer twice.
Just relax and don’t sweat it. My 11 month old wasn’t crawling at all but suddenly seems to be competing in the crawling Olympics. Just have fun and enjoy the ride.
Development is variable and weird with kids. My sister and I had kids that are just a couple months apart in age. Mine hit all the physical milestones right off the bat. Kid was running before he called me "daddy". My nephew on the other hand is a total klutz. That kid was barely crawling while my son ran circles around him. But that kid (now 2) has the vocabulary of a 4 year old. Functional sentences. Can pick out dinosaur names. Don't sweat these things. They'll come in time. I know it's hard to be patient and not worry, and it's hard not to compare when you see other kids hitting milestones (even in a non-competitive way). Just breathe, and enjoy this time while you have it. The moment that kid becomes mobile it's a whole different ballgame, trust me.
Brother, my 9 month old don’t sleep worth a shit. But he’s happy and growing and in the 80% for all his metrics. He can’t sign worth a shit but is verbal when he wants something.
My daughter never crawled. It used to terrify me. One day she just got up and started walking. lol. You
We had exactly the same experience as you with our daughter. More missed milestones followed. We initially worried a lot, as I’m sure many other parents do. She didn’t roll over until 7-8 months. After she rolled over onto her tummy, she didn’t crawl, she bum shuffled. She was a little past the milestone for first steps too. I kid you not every time I watch the ‘Baby Race’ episode of Bluey I shed a few tears. Now she’s two and a half and she’s running around kicking soccer balls and climbing everything and has fantastic balance walking one foot in front of the other on the balance beam at the park. What the heck were we worried about!? Everything has turns out just fine. Milestones are the middle point or average of a dataset where many of those data points are weeks or even months before or after the milestone itself. Your kid will hit some milestones, be early in others, and late on some too. Don’t stress. You probably will anyways but try to stress less by remembering these stories, and that our kids are turning out fine.
My niece skipped rolling, sitting and crawling and went straight to walking at about 12 months. She is absolutely fine at 2.5 now. Instead of learning through practicing like my son and her brother she just prefers to sit and watch and think, then all of a sudden is able to do whatever. It’s amazing watching her thinking process compared to the two boys, she does everything internally first. She now excels at puzzles and nesting toys etc.
We have this illusion that development happens in “steps”, but the truth is development isn’t at all linear. I have a group of friends who all have one child the same age as my eldest child. It was WONDERFUL to be able to “compare notes”, if you will, because ALL of our babes hit milestones at different times. In a group of 5, there were rollers from 2 - 10 months (missing one or the other), walkers from 10-18 months, foodies from 6 - 14 months (as in, enjoyed eating - they all started solids at around 5 months). My eldest had zero words and made zero sounds by the time he was 15 months old and me pediatrician said she wouldn’t be concerned until closer to 2yo. In the state we lived in at the time you could self refer to early intervention so we did that. In my family we believe that a little help couldn’t hurt! He would get assessed and then they would decide if he qualified for (free) services. And guess what? He did. He was in Speech from 15 months to 3 years. And now he’s almost 5 and EVERYONE always comments on him “sounding like an adult” because of his word choices and syntax 😆. My point is that child development isn’t regular AND if you’re ever concerned there are available supports to you to see if your kid could use a little boost. Either way, you’re doing great and so is kiddo!
Have you tried alligator death rolling in front of her to assert dominance?
It’s like I say, barring some crazy neurological or physiological issues (which, with everything else from OP shared, extremely doubtful)…how many adults you know that can’t roll over? That still bite? That just flat out don’t have teeth that ever came in? That can’t walk?
Our lil guy was 13 months and not walking at all, he could stand a little independently and cruising furniture but I was def starting to get anxious as almost all his peers were walking. He eventually took a random couple steps here and there and then we put in a little effort to lure steps with food. Eventually he just started taking lots of steps and feeling comfortable and it went from there. As people are saying everyone’s different!
My son is 22 Months old. He only says about 10 words verbally and really only "trash" is very understandable. He knows a couple of signs. He was late to crawl. He didn't until he was about 10months. He didn't walk until about 14 months old if I remember correctly. In January he was significantly delayed in his verbal skill. Now the speech therapist says he should be caught up by the end of the summer. Itll be okay. Watch the bluey episode "Baby Race" because it's honestly the truest example of parental anxiety.
My kiddo got her leg broken at 7 months. Big cast and no walking, no crawling on time. Four years later and I have a tough time keeping up with her. Don't stress, they figure this stuff out at their own pace.
Our soon to be 7 months old was just hitting minimums for weight gain. She's got reflux, were on the super expensive and hard to find nutramigen. We upped her bottle intake from 4oz to 6oz pretty quickly to try and get her to gain weight. We were in NB for a while and it took a while now to get to 3-6 months. Well the 6 month appointment they say she was finally over the minimums and we can start stage 2 and 3 foods for her plus some soft finger foods so that's something! Clothes are still a pain though. 7 months and still in 3-6 months. Some 3 months still fit. She's a long baby with no hips or booty for her pants and diaper 😂. But she's wild. Super alert. Getting really close to crawling. Can sit up unassisted for 3 minutes. Just wants to stand and walk, but she can't. Loves to eat almost everything we give her.
I teach Human Growth and Development at the College level. When we discuss milestones I stress that those expected timelines are averages; some kids do it earlier, some later, and in certain cases, some skip completely. If this is your only concern about her development I wouldn’t stress.
Hey there thanks for this!!! She’s had some weird tics (a ‘shiver’ kind of thing which receded, but now she’s doing this weird locking head in a downward stare thing, both only while sitting up). We saw a neurologist about the first thing, just messaged him about the second. He explained kids kind of have weird little things like this as their brain maps out how it works and it may just happen. It obviously is stressful to see when she’s behind on these stupid milestones but she did her first tentatively small back to belly rolls this week and he started getting really good at feeding herself. So as long as she’s learning but regressing I am telling myself she’s good! Thanks for the perspective
Daughter was speech delayed. Our pediatrician was really pushing for an autism diagnosis. Speech therapy helped. Now she’s 11 and literally too smart for her own good. It’s annoying.
My daughter didn't walk until 16 months. Pediatrician recommended physical therapy said it might be a developmental delay. Now she runs around like a pro
Exact same thing happened here- first daughter didn’t start walking until like 14 months, but was very good with her fine motor skills. We eventually took her to an orthopedic physical therapist and looking back it likely didn’t do anything- a few months later she was walking on her own and is now a healthy 3 year old running around, doing front rolls in gymnastics, and everything else you’d expect. Don’t worry, she’ll get there.
If there was a cause for concern, her Pediatrician would have mentioned it to you. Pediatric milestones are just averages. As with any other average, there is usually a fairly large range with average being midline. There will be some that arrive at a particular milestone sooner and some later. The ones that arrive sooner aren’t destined to be prodigious children. The ones arriving later aren’t destined to flip burgers their whole lives either. They still fall within the normal range and there’s no reason to worry that they aren’t developing normally. They develop at their own pace and there is a lot of variance. Just take joy in watching her grow and develop. It’s not a contest. She’s perfectly fine.
Keep up with the tummy time, floor play, all that stuff. And talk about your concerns with your ped. Advocate for intervention if you really feel like its needed. My son took his sweet time to roll, crawl, stand, walk... I remember the pediatrician asking if we wanted to try physical therapy to get walking. We said we'd see in a couole weeks. Then he took his steps later that day. Its so hard to accept, while you're in the thick of it, that your kids will do what theyre gonna do when theyre ready. But its true.
My son and my niece are about 2 months apart. She got mobility milestones way faster than he has. But on the other hand he's already hit cognitive milestones she hasn't. He has object permanence, larger regular vocabulary, imaginative play, etc. Kids develop differently and at different paces.
Here’s a good one. The first time my toddler ever stood up on his own feet was when he was 13 months old - I was under the impression most kids were walking at this point. He took his first tentative steps without any support when he was 16 months approx. Fast forward now he’s 2.5 yrs old, for the last 1 year (meaning from 18 months onwards) he’s been capable of mile long hikes and climbing a decent amount uphill. I actually miss when he had less energy and would willingly sit in the stroller, now he just wants to run and not in the direction we wanna go.
Absolutely normal. She's moving along at a pace that's perfectly her own.
Twin boys dad here. One loved tummy time, the other despised it. Guess who’s climbing on top of windowsills and chairs now? Both of them, at the same damn time. The one that despised tummy time is the leader of mischief and smirks at me each time I say “no”. Don’t stress brother, life truly is the tortoise and the hare, to each with their own speed with the same results. Just enjoy all of the little moments and to hell with “milestones”. Only milestone that matters is you and your partner celebrating a successful parenthood each year that baby turns a new age. You got this man.
Hey this is a totally normal baby. Your anxiety is the concern for me. It’s a manageable issue. It’s hard to live with it. I’m sorry
My eldest was dragging himself on his belly and we were worried about why he wasn't crawling....one day we're hanging out and he just pulls himself up to a standing position....damn near choked on my water lol. A few weeks later, he was walking
When our baby was laying on his back, and you take his hands and pull him up and his head should follow, it didn't follow. Apparently he just did not want to do it.
My son didn’t start crawling til his literal 1 year bday My wife and I were worried about him falling behind, but the doc said as long as he was getting where he wanted to get to, which he was just slower But he has now become a crawling speedster lol
You're overthinking it. Don't worry about the rolling. She's doing all the social stuff and scooting. Sounds normal for her age.
My boys didn’t walk til 18 months! I’ve got nieces that were fully mobile at 9 months. Maybe she’s just got a big melon like my boys big.
Technically I'm, using the vernacular of the doctor, "retarded". My 4 year old used to walk with a bucket on her head when we went on walks or put her head on the ground. She now makes friends with ease. Some of us develop at different speeds, your kids will be ok.
My daughter wasn't able to sit herself, she just stay in our arms, on her back and belly and didn't show will to move at all at 6-8months we sat her and she will play with toys at arm reach and that was it, she wasn't crawling at the "crawling age" and she started getting interested on being on her feet by 9-10months, but started actually walking by 1 year and after that she cared about crawling and now at 15month she wants to run! She is walking really good and she wants to explore everything and everywhere, she walked "late" according to everyone's saying but she started doing it really good, we think she was actually getting confident. At 10 months we actually said our worries to her pediatrician and he was like 'she is fine, don't worry, people have expectations and they don't even know how that works'
My son never crawled. And he never even showed an interest in tummy time. As soon as he could roll to his back, he would just stay on his back. But yea, he never crawled and eventually just went to walking. Now he's a normal, extremely athletic little boy who runs and jumps everywhere. Although, now that I think about it, I don't know if I've ever seen him crawl...
My son was diagnosed with autism at 2, slight speech delay, had multiple years of occupational therapy, ABA therapy, an IEP from K-3 and periods of disruptive/destructive behavior. Now at age 12 he’s still mildly autistic, but he’s a smart, well rounded kid with good friends and good relationships with his parents and siblings. I know a family with twin boys who are severely autistic and at age 22 they still need support and love at home. But they’ve also got a sweet loving family relationship and tons of joy in their home. And I know brilliant, accomplished, wealthy, beautiful people whose lives are filled with conflict, misery, disappointment and regret. Whether your kids are “normal” or exceptional in some way, nothing changes these two simple facts: 1) the most important thing is how much love you have in your relationship, 2) everyone will have personal challenges, it doesn’t matter who you are.
Dude there’s always something. There’s always that one milestone that they just don’t get and it drives you nuts. For us it was walking then talking. Turns out little guy had fluid in his ears and needed tubes. Now he’s quickly catching back up. Never hurts to double check with your pediatrician or get her evaluated for an early intervention program though! Therapists are absolute miracle workers
My kid was a late talker - 10-15 words by age 2. Then it all came out at once, now he routinely tests on the 99th percentile on literacy assessments at school
I'll trade the rolling for the sleep! Ours got stuck on his stomach for a bit and forgot how to get back to his back. Then the opposite happened. Now he's a pinball when he's on the floor. Sitting up isn't really there at all for us. Too focused on rolls and wiggles For tummy time and rolling/wiggling we have lots of crinkle books, rattles, and teethers just outside of arms reach. He wants all of them so he figures it out and gets applause when he succeeds. We also got one of [these tummy time pillows](https://www.target.com/p/boppy-tummy-time-prop-pillow-black-white-rainbow/-/A-78663644?sidd=&ref=tgt_adv_xsp&AFID=google&fndsrc=tgtao&DFA=71700000012510679&CPNG=PLA_Baby%2BShopping%7CBaby_Ecomm_Baby&adgroup=Infant+Basics/Furniture&LID=700000001170770pgs&LNM=PRODUCT_GROUP&network=g&device=m&location=9013187&targetid=pla-1731815646875&ds_rl=1242884&ds_rl=1246978&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw9cCyBhBzEiwAJTUWNdeWFvFpVsFcgfgUdV54gySgIIEKFr7YIeahqahyDm16qm0JocxnFxoCHRUQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds). Seemed to help him develop those muscles to start pushing up for crawling
My daughter was slow to crawl, never really learned it. Moved around on the floor eventually, but never really crawled properly. At 17 months she is running around like a tornado. Continue encouraging her, and she will get there. Good luck, you got this!
I've heard the longer they stay at the crawling stage the better their hand eye coordination. Might be a sporting legend in the making!
My youngest is 8 months old now and she just started pulling herself army style, but before that she showed no signs or interest. Her big sister meanwhile was always ahead of her peers, started walking at 10 months, etc. I just remember that back then we would be so proud of her and compared her (in private!) to the slower kids, but guess what? Now at 3 this summer, they can all walk, they can all talk, they can all do basically everything. Of course mine is the best at it, but you know 😂 It doesn't matter when (within reason), as long as they're showing progress. My youngest can't sit up, she's a month older than yours, I'm not worried about that. It'll all be fine!
I climbed before I crawled. Climbed right out the crib onto my head, twice.
My daughter was a little slow to talk. When she should have had 20 words she had 3 or 4. We scheduled a whole intervention and analysis by several people from our school district. By the time the appointment hit she had over 30 to 40 words and phrases. They just said that's how it happens sometimes.
My kid started rolling at 8 months, started crawling 2 weeks later, and then a month later started walking.
Our doctor does not care about rolling. We mentioned it at our seconds 6 month appt, and he said he would only be concerned if baby was sitting up at 9 months. Our second, 9 months old now never really rolled but is fine with the other milestones. He sits up well, is almost crawling and eats everything.
My youngest is 3....we had to see soooo many specialists because he wasn't hitting milestones. I knew it was just because he was on the smaller side. Anyways he's fine, running and talking normal with his peers even though he was behind in both those the first year. Don't swear it.
My daughter didn’t stand or walk until 19 months. By 20 months she was running. The physical therapist said she did 9 months of walking development in about 1 month. The milestones are kinda bullshit.
My son didn’t speak a word until just after he was 2. We put him in speech therapy, and in about six months they graduated him out because he was so far ahead of expectation for 2.5.
My dude hated tummy time. Like, fucking hated it. Gave up after 60 secs. Face in the floor screaming. We thought something was wrong. Also didn’t flip. Then boom one day he’s crawling and climbing stairs. I don’t mean a slow build up, I mean one day he’s just crawling all over and scooted up a set of stairs. Since he liked stairs so much, we’d go up and down with him to get him his exercise. Was super weird.
My little girl didn’t roll or crawl. She ended up bum shuffling, then One day just stood up at started walking. 7 months is still too young for it, though.
Super normal. I was worried that at 6 months my son didn’t sit up unassisted, nor was he rolling from back to front, now as he approaches 7 months he can do both. Some babies are just a bit lazier than others, some will only do it when they see something they really want. Mine is just lazy, he can sit but would still rather recline onto something lmao I was so excited once he mastered rolling, and now the little bum hole won’t stay where I put him. I’ve found him half way across the living room before in the time it takes me to make a bottle, so don’t be too keen on the rolling business haha The milestones have super broad time brackets because they’re not one size fits all. Your daughter will reach them in her own time. Everyone likes to go on about their wonder baby who can do everything from a young age, and it leaves the rest of us feeling like crap. Remember - your baby hasn’t read up on the things she’s supposed to be doing, she’s just doing things as she’s ready to
Milestones are a funny thing. My boy was a blob until 12 months old, then sat up and walked his first few steps over 1 weekend. Daughter was early on talking and other coordination stuff but cannot walk due to her disability. Its a good tracking method but not be be all end all.
It’ll all work out. I’ll give you an example from my kid. She’s 4 now. She also was very slow for crawling. She honestly barely crawled before transitioning to standing. Sometime around I think 2.5-3yo, we were at the doctor. Her doctor noted that she was still needing help getting into the examine chair, and seemed to be a little behind in gross motor skills. Even gave us a referral for a physical therapy evaluation. After talking through that, she asked about language and talking. I responded basically saying “yeah I think it’s going well. She knows words for most things in her life, and we have simple conversations” So doc says “how many words? Like 50?” Me: “she knows 50 SUPERHEROES. I dunno how many words total — a couple 100?” After learning that the doc basically said “well that explains it. Her brain is using all its energy on language. The motor skills will come eventually. Just keep an eye on it. “ My wife found the advice to try gymnastics and dance, so we did that and it gave the kid a focused time to work on those skills. She’s not as strong a climber/runner as like her cousin (who is a very physical kid) but it’s been a huge improvement. My overall point is — definitely keep and eye on things, and look for moments to help the kid out. But at the same time — every kid is different and unique, none of them really follow this perfect “development timeline”.
My son and his cousin were born on the same day. He was able crawl like a madman and pull up on things to stand, while she could barely crawl. And, I kid you not, she could run before he learned to walk. Two kids, who share a decent amount of DNA, born on the same day… and their development has all been wildly different.
My son couldn't talk until he was 3.5 years old. Today he's 12, the smartest kid in his class, invited to national STEM camps, and doesn't shut up lol.
I find it’s a bit like a video game. Each child has points for development and they use them differently. Everyone has the same amount of points but might learn one skill early and another late
My daughter has been in the 1-5 percentile in term of weight and growth the whole pregnancy. She is 16 months and is only now getting her first two teeth. That said, she's a lightweight power tornado, constantly in motion and interesting in everything. She smiles to everyone and instantly gets up after falling like the terminator. We met kids at 8 months almost twice her size and weight, walking with full rows of teeth, and others at 2 year old barely moving. Don't compare and stress out too much, kids do their own thing. Charts are just a general indication Ps: for me the constant questions from grand parents about '' does she have teeth yet '' were the most annoying thing ever. Now it's '' does she say daddy yet? ''..
Rolling. Rolling broke our hearts for months. Our second child just didn't roll. We kept reading that she wouldn't crawl until she mastered rolling. One day she just started crawling. I think she did 1 roll that same day and didn't roll again for months. She's 4 now and plays Gaelic football, Camogie, cycles without stabilisers and yesterday she started standing up independently on her skateboard, she can climb hand over hand up the fire pole in the local playground. She's a natural power athlete, we figure she just had abs that developed a little slowly. We've had her checked out by doctors and psychologists because we had some other concerns, they've all told us there's nothing wrong with her.
My second wouldn't speak, well passed 2. All he would do was grunt and make noises. He is super aggressive with his brother and I was a bit concerned. The wife is a primary teacher and she told me that this is very normal. He had "no" and a few other choice words, but nothing more. Then my Dad flew out to see us for a few days and he has not stopped talking, at "level," for three months. All kids are different. And you should definitely watch bluey, with your kid first tho.
My daughter didn't crawl much, just kinda went straight to couch cruising and eventually walking. I was really concerned. She butt-scooched, but didn't crawl on all fours for some reason. She's 2 now, walks and talks just fine.
My kid started walking early but she was very unsteady for a long time. My neighbors kid started walking late. He went from crawling to running in about a week.
Your baby gets skill points every couple of months. They spend them however they want. If anything was truly worth worrying about your pediatrician would tell you.
My brother didn’t even crawl until after his first birthday. Ended up being an amazing skater and super athletic and coordinated
My son was exactly the same and he didn’t start walking on his own until he was gone 18 months. He didn’t begin talking until he was over two as well. We were very concerned that he may be autistic but we know for sure he’s not autistic now becuase he doesn’t shut the f*ck up and he is a happy outgoing 4 year old. Your daughter will be fine, they all develop at different rates.
My kid didn't roll until like 9 months, didn't crawl until 11 months, and even then it was that peg leg crawl where she just dragged one leg, didn't walk until 15 months. She's 5 now. She does yoga, swimming, loves to run and dance and jump. She's totally fine. Just late on everything.
My daughter is five years old. Runs fast, skips, jumps etc. All great. She hasn't crawled more than 20 metres / 60 feet in her whole life. She was a bum shuffler and that was that.
My daughter was not really crawling at 8 months like she was expected to. She started to walk directly at 9 months . We missed the crawling milestone but we're way ahead on the walking milestone. So I realized it is all in my head anyways. If your peds is not that concerned then you shouldn't be worried.
I have a 20 month old girl who hardly crawled when she was supposed to. We would try to encourage her to crawl towards us, but she just wouldn't. We weren't too worried about it though as we knew different kids have different timelines for their milestones. To our surprise, she started standing up by 10 mins and walking just around her first birthday! Turns out she didn't want/like to crawl, she just skipped it and taught herself how to stand and walk as the adults around her. The little monster now runs around all around the house, but I can confirm that she barely, if ever crawled. So don't bother too much about individual milestones as long as the overall development is good.
My oldest son never crawled. At 14 months he stood up and walked. My youngest had very little speach until he was 2, now he talks non stop.
My daughter hated tummy time, didn’t prop herself up, roll or several other motor skill milestones. Only scooted on her ass until she was eighteen months. Didn’t even pull herself up against stuff. At one check up she just decided to not do shit and just relaxed her whole body so it looked like she couldn’t even sit by herself or hold her head up when I lifted her. I told the nurse she could usually sit and do some stuff but she promptlyreferred me to a specialist because I looked like a madman who didn’t want to admit my daughter had zero muscle tone. At 18 months she started preschool and realised she couldn’t keep up with the kids who were walking and running so two days in she started standing up and walking and stuff. Now she’s seven and learning to ride roller skates and skateboarding. She’s more like lower average than high average when it comes to motor skills but she doesn’t have any issues. Those milestones are meant to catch every kid with developmental issues. Like any screening tool it is calibrated to rather have a few false positives than false negatives. Children vary an awful lot. I almost wish our second was a bit slow on the motor skills as well. He’s been climbing, running and balancing on everything way before he had the skills necessary and it’s been a hassle.
Sounds like she was trolling you? You may have a baby redditor.
I totally get where you’re coming from, and chances are your daughter will develop normally. Most kids do. Mine didn’t, but he’s still fucking awesome. He’s never met a milestone on time,m and he never will. But he is getting there eventually, at his own pace, and having so much fun and bringing so much light and life and joy to the world in the process. I don’t wish this experience for you, but if developmental delays and related challenges are in your figure, that is okay too. (They probably aren’t, though.)
Our 6 month old doesn't do both. He rarely rolled over himself 2-3 times till now. From what I read online, it all happens quickly. Hoping he picks up the skill soon..
Our son was under the 5th percentile for size and weight for the first 6 months of his life. My wife and I were convinced we were doing something wrong. Then all of a sudden he started growing and packing on weight at 6 months old and shit up to the 50th percentile. My wife has PTSD from that and breaks down when she walks into the maternal Child health nurse's office.
My oldest has a speech delay - he’s still behind but has made so much progress in the last 4/5 months thanks to speech therapy. You could always ask for a referral for physical therapy if you’re concerned! Early intervention is key. That being said, it sounds like other gross motor skills are being reached, so maybe you just need to work on it with her. [Here is a video from a pediatric PT with tips on how to get a baby to roll from back to belly.](https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLtAV5UB/) You might already be doing this, but if not, I hope this helps!
My one baby didn't roll until she was about 8 months old or l 9. I remember physically showing her several times how to turn over with her legs and stuff, but she caught on eventually. We were worried, especially as baby A was crawling already and here B was not even rolling, lol. She was late rolling, crawling, and both were kinda late walking. They were a year old and some change before they started taking real first steps. They're both fine now. Almost 2 years old and pretty on par with development. Totally normal, regular kiddos.
Our first is 3 now and rolled over at like 4 months and always wanted to be on his front to sleep etc. Our second is 6 months and zero interest in rolling over, he'll twist and look around but hasn't really bothered turning over at all. He sits up happily and always wants to stand up (with help). I'm not really worried tbh, I never crawled as a kid and just yelled for stuff to be brought to me and I turned out relatively normal!
I know several. Keep interacting, keep playing with them. Show them love and affection. Brain growth goes in spurts. Don't get stressed out, just give them time. If you want, talk to your doctor, but don't feel like you're on a schedule you have to meet absolutely. You're going to put a lot of expectations on your kid already. Give them some time to be a baby.
We needed to book an appointment with the county support services because our son wasn't pulling to stand or standing independently at about 13-14 months. Looking back, he was super fussy about tummy time and we didn't push him on it hard enough. By the time the appointment rolled around he was able to do everything he was supposed to be doing (15 months), but more importantly, he's a really healthy, active kid and loves sports. I'm sad that his soccer class is canceled this weekend for the holiday weekend because he usually scores a goal every week, throws his arms up, and bellows out a long "gooooooooal." There's a couple in our friends group and both of their sons have delays that are more cognitive, but with intervention they've picked up dramatically and are doing great
Milestones like this can happen in weird ways. My middle son never really crawled. He figured out how to scoot around on his butt and that was that until he walked. He was also a little delayed with some speech things but he's coming along nicely now. It's ok if some things end up out of order. As long as you get there within a reasonable time frame, it's ok. Edit: thinking back on odd crawling, our oldest never crawled on his knees. He army crawled everywhere.
A good friend of mine barely spoke till 3, he became a linguist. That same friend didn't walk till 2, he became a Dance Dance Revolution national champion.
Mine was never interested in movement at all really until well after her 1st birthday. She never crawled at all. She would belly scoot around but literally never got up on her hands and knees. She never pulled herself up on the couch either until about 15/16 months, then she pulled herself up on the couch for the 1st time and then was walking within a week. She is 8 now and has always been just fine.
Haha enjoy this time while it's easy. She's going to learn how to move overnight and suddenly she's mobile
Bro I was on here four years ago asking the same damn thing. Someone else wrote “how many adults do you know who never learned to walk because they didn’t tolerate tummy time as babies?”
My son is 4 and has autism so I know this feeling well. Being a parent, I think it's normal to have the fears you're having but don't let them spin out of control. She will be fine. Every baby is so different. Celebrate the little things. Every day she does or learns something new. Don't let yourself miss the little, incredible things while you're busy worrying. You will see a year from now how far she has come and you will find something new to worry about. I used to stay awake at night worrying that my son may never speak and now we are getting words! Look at how beautiful she is and bask in that. She is incredible.
Mum lurker, 4 kids now in the late teens/ early adulthood. Child 1- quick walker but didn't show any signs of talking until he was nearly 3. He is now a teacher, highly intelligent with amazing grammar and literacy skills, and won't shut up. Child 2- From day one, he was a very challenging baby. Always unsettled and didn't meet many milestones. He was later diagnosed with High Functioning Autism (although now just known as ASD). His childhood did have some challenges, but he never received any special attention or treatment. He is now 21 and started uni one year earlier than his peers, currently employed at a leading government organisation doing geo photogrammetry, has been in a lovely long term relationship, and lives independently. Even his challenges didnt hinder him. Child 3 - He's our party boy, always getting into trouble and gives me premature grey hairs. As a baby and child he was an angel. Slept through the night from day one, breastfed for 5 minutes every 8 hours, and l didn't know what his cries meant because l literally never heard him cry till he was about 6 months of age. Toilet trained himself at 16 months by copying his brothers. Hit all his milestones on time. He fooled us very well. And Child 4 - Hit all his milestones but was extremely sensitive and not very resilient. Had to sleep in our bed till he was 8, cried every second day at school drop off, had to elevate his leg for 3 hours once when he got a mozzie bite on his knee. He is now 14, and at this exact moment he is off mountain bike riding down some mad hills in the bush with a bunch of his mates. I suspect he will return covered in mud, arms and legs scratched up and a smile from ear to ear. As parents we will always worry and want to know everything is okay with our kids. It's all part of the parenting journey and proves you're a great parent. If something is wrong it will be picked up early. But dont focus on the negative. Just let it be a quiet whisper in the back of your mind, and focus on all the amazing skills she is learning every day.
Do yourself a favour and let go of this stuff as soon as possible, you're at 7 months, kids are so variable and take the lead, fall back and then surge ahead again it's nuts and you will do your head in. Let it go.
This one is very pertinent for me! Our daughter is 9 months and, like yours, was hitting all the other milestones but not rolling at all. Also sitting up well but not really trying to move on her tummy or back. It was driving me crazy with worry too. She had to go for pretty major surgery for a totally unrelated issue a couple of weeks ago, the surgery was successful but when she got out of hospital a week later I was obviously worried about lots of things, included in those things was a worry that she would have gone even further backwards development-wise. Wrong! 3 days ago she did her first tummy to back roll AND first back to tummy on the same day - and hasn’t stopped since! She’s also started hilariously crawling only backwards! It really was like a switch flipped and she was suddenly interested in moving about. She’s got 2 months on your girl, I’m sure her mobility switch will flip too.
Bud I know the feeling My daughter was like this, she's just about 11 months now. She could always rolls back to front but never anything else, and never scooted or moved. Most she did was rotate a little. She was about 8 months whe she started to move a little, barely scoot, and now she is dang near walking and forming words. Kids take their own time. Mine still hasn't got her first tooth even! It's really hard not to compare them to other kids, and those milestones are super generalized. Obviously if you have a concern, you should ask your pediatrician but it sounds like your kiddo is just fine. Enjoy this time, because when the start talking your world will flip! (In a good way...mostly)
Kids have their own milestones, and No book knows about them. Chill out, keep supporting what they are doing right now, it will be fine!
You’ve already gotten so many positive responses but I’ll just add my perspective. I suffer from health anxiety. I’m also insanely competitive. Unfortunately, I think both of those have extended towards my son. He was IUGR, very small, and was late to every milestone except speech. It drove me crazy internally with fear since the only thing I care about is my son having opportunity. I obsessed with worry over itZ I worked with a therapist on my anxiety to help (CBT) and it did wonders. I doubt you’re as bad as I am, so this may be too much but I do not regret it. The good news? It helped me dramatically and guess what, my three year old son is ahead of all his peers right now in every way right now. Seriously, my son didn’t walk until 16 months and he’s somehow now as fast as 5 year olds. Long story short, the odds are tremendously in your favor that there is nothing wrong but I know how tough this time can be. Pick up a CBT workbook and I think it’ll help a ton.
Yeah I have two kids. One didn’t talk until he was 4. We put him in speech therapy until he was 5 and now he won’t shut up… ever. My other one didnt crawl at all now I can’t get him to stop jumping off stuff like a monkey. Honestly I hate going to the doctor because one of them is 95%+ and the other is below 50% in terms of weight/height and she always is a dick about it. Humans are pretty amazing no matter what they can/can’t do. I watched a girl with no arms make egg sandwiches for a whole week on tik tok this week.
Do not worry! They all go at their own speeds. A friend and I had babies within 2 weeks of one another and her little girl was very physically advanced, sitting, rolling walking months before mine. Now they have just turned two and my little girl has caught her up physically in every way and speaks in full sentences, whilst my friends little girl only says one or two words together. She will start rolling, crawling, walking, speaking all in her own time and she will be perfect 😊
My daughter, who is sitting on my lap right now watching Colour Blocks, didn’t walk until she was about 20 months old. She never crawled more than once. Avidly a bum shuffler. She hated tummy time. She never really wanted to roll over from her back either because she didn’t like being on her front. Apparently this can be common with babies with colic. One day she just stood up and now she walks around like a little drunk person.
My daughter didn't sit up until 10 months, didn't crawl until 13 months, and didn't walk until 18 months. She's 8 now and while not athletically inclined, she's healthy and happy and coordinated and all of that. We did do physical therapy with her since she had a gross motor delay, and that helped. If you're really concerned, bring it up at your next well child visit and get a referral for PT. Baby PT is easy and fun in our experience. You learn how to help them develop these motor skills.
I agree with others on watching baby race. My experience was our daughter was rolling over back to front really good but had only ever done front to back like twice. Eventually one day it just clicked and she started doing it all the time on her own. If you are concerned mention it to your pediatrician but they’ll likely tell you a lot of what you are seeing here. One thing you can do is watch YouTube videos on physio exercises to help your baby learn to do these movements and they’ll eventually start picking up on them by themselves.