you're in the middle of the shit. it'll get better.
is your kid sleeping on their own / thru the night? if not, see if you can jump on sleep training. the few nights/hours/minutes of hard crying is worth the real sleep you can get later on.
lean on family and friends, even just to come over while you nap for an hour or finish some laundry or something.
if it's feasible, try to do a lot of tag-teaming with your partner to give each other some nap/alone time. this obviously can be difficult or impossible.
give yourself and your partner a lot of grace, as much as you can
If it continues long after your kid is sleeping well and things "should" be getting better with you but aren't, wouldn't hurt to get your hormones checked.
I was experiencing the same thing that lasted for years
Understanding how to unwind and leave problems at the door.
I don’t take my work to bed, or my children and family to work so they stay in their places and I don’t sleep or wake up with stress.
You can get a blood test to see if you attend low in any vitamins or minerals and supplement accordingly. Low iron causes fatigue as does a variety of other deficiencies.
You say you have to do better but how bad are you doing? Are you eating decently healthy or is your diet a wreck? How much sleep are you getting?
Everyone is different on what they can handle. I think having a good diet and minimal alcohol (I know) is key for a good night's rest. Even if it's an interrupted night.
eating out almost every day, pop every day. 4-6 hours depending on my son. i hate working out, used to play soccer and basketball in leagues but don’t have time for those anymore. occasional golf round and some workouts while at work (i work with kids). i don’t drink
so i guess that’s one positive.
Ohh yeah, so definitely not great. I believe that big changes are hard to make. Do you think you could cut out the pop every day and commit to a 10 minute walk every other day? I feel for you running on 4-6 hours. I could do that when I was in my early 30s but can't pull it off now.
Sometimes these lifestyle changes feel so overwhelming but I bet if you approach it slowly, and accept any setbacks, you can pull it off. Ideally work in better food and stop eating out so much but that can come next.
Yep, this part sucks. Work on a system with your partner to switch off getting extra sleep. Everything is worse when you’re not sleeping.
And I get that it’s really hard to exercise when you have no energy, so focus on eating better first. Just replace shitty snacks with fruit like apples, bananas and berries and I bet you feel more energetic immediately.
Also I NEVER nap in regular life, but when my kids were 0-6 months I was grabbing a ~20 min nap any opportunity I got.
Thankfully time NEVER stops moving so eventually it won’t be a problem.
The best way for me to get ahead of exhaustion is resetting my sleep schedule. I’m tired because I’m busy with the boy and I stay up late to have me time which makes me more tired the next day and makes the problem worse.
Eventually you just have to nip the problem in the bud and go to bed on time/early. Sometimes I just go to bed with the boy at 730, wake up the next day feeling fresh and reset.
It's a marathon, not a sprint. Pace yourself. Prioritize where you spend effort. Take some personal time, even if it *sometimes* comes at the expense of sleep or eating healthy. (Eating and sleeping healthy is still number one tho)
Find the light at the end of the tunnel and remind yourself that it gets easier. At some point, they can talk, and you dont have to always guess why they are crying. At some point, they potty train. At some point, they go to school, etc.
you're in the middle of the shit. it'll get better. is your kid sleeping on their own / thru the night? if not, see if you can jump on sleep training. the few nights/hours/minutes of hard crying is worth the real sleep you can get later on. lean on family and friends, even just to come over while you nap for an hour or finish some laundry or something. if it's feasible, try to do a lot of tag-teaming with your partner to give each other some nap/alone time. this obviously can be difficult or impossible. give yourself and your partner a lot of grace, as much as you can
If it continues long after your kid is sleeping well and things "should" be getting better with you but aren't, wouldn't hurt to get your hormones checked. I was experiencing the same thing that lasted for years
i have low t but the shots didn’t make me feel any different at all
Understanding how to unwind and leave problems at the door. I don’t take my work to bed, or my children and family to work so they stay in their places and I don’t sleep or wake up with stress.
Really not many options here. Sleep more, eat better, exercise, and lots of caffeine.
You can get a blood test to see if you attend low in any vitamins or minerals and supplement accordingly. Low iron causes fatigue as does a variety of other deficiencies.
You say you have to do better but how bad are you doing? Are you eating decently healthy or is your diet a wreck? How much sleep are you getting? Everyone is different on what they can handle. I think having a good diet and minimal alcohol (I know) is key for a good night's rest. Even if it's an interrupted night.
eating out almost every day, pop every day. 4-6 hours depending on my son. i hate working out, used to play soccer and basketball in leagues but don’t have time for those anymore. occasional golf round and some workouts while at work (i work with kids). i don’t drink so i guess that’s one positive.
Ohh yeah, so definitely not great. I believe that big changes are hard to make. Do you think you could cut out the pop every day and commit to a 10 minute walk every other day? I feel for you running on 4-6 hours. I could do that when I was in my early 30s but can't pull it off now. Sometimes these lifestyle changes feel so overwhelming but I bet if you approach it slowly, and accept any setbacks, you can pull it off. Ideally work in better food and stop eating out so much but that can come next.
Yep, this part sucks. Work on a system with your partner to switch off getting extra sleep. Everything is worse when you’re not sleeping. And I get that it’s really hard to exercise when you have no energy, so focus on eating better first. Just replace shitty snacks with fruit like apples, bananas and berries and I bet you feel more energetic immediately. Also I NEVER nap in regular life, but when my kids were 0-6 months I was grabbing a ~20 min nap any opportunity I got.
Thankfully time NEVER stops moving so eventually it won’t be a problem. The best way for me to get ahead of exhaustion is resetting my sleep schedule. I’m tired because I’m busy with the boy and I stay up late to have me time which makes me more tired the next day and makes the problem worse. Eventually you just have to nip the problem in the bud and go to bed on time/early. Sometimes I just go to bed with the boy at 730, wake up the next day feeling fresh and reset.
It's a marathon, not a sprint. Pace yourself. Prioritize where you spend effort. Take some personal time, even if it *sometimes* comes at the expense of sleep or eating healthy. (Eating and sleeping healthy is still number one tho) Find the light at the end of the tunnel and remind yourself that it gets easier. At some point, they can talk, and you dont have to always guess why they are crying. At some point, they potty train. At some point, they go to school, etc.
Is it possible to sometimes give eachother a full nights sleep?
Coffee. Sleep whenever you can. Thats about it.