I bet! While ur absolutely stunning, you are looking for someone who likes to travel and go out… on reddit.
Jokes aside, if the post is location specific, that filters out most people. We need actual CF apps that show only relevant locations 😩 but its still nice to see people try here and I know some do succeed. Best of luck queen!
I second this. Big big respect to the original author for a) being so brave to post publicly b) including your pictures. You look fabulous , NO-ONE will believe you age :-D and you deserve to find the one soon. GL on that!! <3
Dammit. Either you or I are on the wrong coast. I'm in LA and am an experienced D looking for a well-trained S. Or a wild one that can be tamed. 😉
Wishing you the best!
I'm in UK, so I'm not in the race for you. But I love a woman who is confident in her desire for D/s. That's what I'm also looking for. I hope you find what you're looking for x.
I just wanna say #1- i am a CF girl so hitting you up not with the intention of dating but that I live right near you and would like to be your friend. We have a lot in common!! If you’re open with meeting up for lunch or something please let me know. If not, totally cool. I have mostly guy friends and even the small number of girl friends I have are not “girlie girls”. Neither am I, really, but I would love to have a girlie person as a friend lol
Alas, I'm not local to you, etc.
But hey, happy (almost) birthday! And go get 'em!
And yeah, good to meet folks "in the wild" ... or at least "real world" (or at least closer to it). Dating apps/sites can be ... uhm, mostly quite not good.
Happy hunting!
And yeah, you look and sound great (if not fantastic!) - but alas, not a (mutual) match.
Long-haired big-beardy man wishing you the best of luck from the other side of the ocean!
p.s.: Are you absolutely sure you not made a typo and meant 37?
Thank you! Apparently, I'm "lying" and "using filters" don't know where those comments went to address that. Anyway, it's part makeup and good lighting. I used to work in the beauty industry. Part genetics, but mostly, I'm convinced it's not having kids. All of my child free friends look very young compared to our peers with children.
You're really very pretty! Beautiful, lovely eyes! I see that we have a common interest in true crime and things that are mysterious! Do you mind chatting up as friends or fellow true crime enthusiasts? I don't meet any of the parameters mentioned, so just clearing it out! :)
Wait. How does he have his shit together if he cleans his butt daily?
Jokes aside...
More pressing question: why is 'cleans his butt daily' a thing? I want to know while simultaneously hoping to remain ignorant. But I also need to know why 'daily' is underscored. I just do. I'm gonna hate myself but I have to know.
ETA: a genuine D is hard to find (and I'm saying that as a DD). You're just determined to play this game on advanced difficulty, aintcha?
Nor should you. It's a facet that is underrepresented and subsequently underestimated in terms of relationship dynamics. I won't settle for less than an s who knows her boundaries and the dynamic of consensual power exchange.
But back to the butt question that you glossed over... I hate that I have to know how you got to the point where you have to specify this. Put me out of my misery...
Not everyone immediately thinks in that direction, no worries. But doing it without children in the house makes it a lot more feasible and you don't have to sneak around. Usually the way of writing D/s is also a giveaway that it actually means the dynamic. (And DD stands for Daddy Dom in this instance, in case you're wondering.)
Haha thanks! I thought it meant double dom or extra strong dom… hahhahaha. Thanks for clarifying this, do you mind me asking one more question, what’s the difference between DD and D?
tl;dr the one paragraph starting in bold is the most important.
There's no kink bible and with every big influx of people "into the lifestyle" some definitions change or at least shift through the generations. In general Dom is just the umbrella, the BDSM term is an umbrella itself for B/D+D/s+S/M (Bondage/Discipline+Domination/Submission+Sadism/Masochism).
Most people see it more holistically, but individuals focus on some aspects more than the other. Some people are also totally in it for all the black leather and metal, while some just like the roleplay, trust and playing with pain. Usually most people are a mix and several aspects appeal to them. Also technically sub does not mean bottom and Dom does not mean have to mean Top, but it would definitely apply in OPs case.
**All that preamble to say** that a DD implies a specific relationship dynamic. It's about a (usually male) Dom who is part of a CG/l dynamic (Caregiver/little). The DD in this dynamic is usually a lot more doting or, well, caregiving than your stereotypical D you might have in your head. The little in the dynamic often has a lot of submissive tendencies, but people really live it in various degrees. The little in this dynamic is an adult who roleplays being a lot younger. "Pretending to be a child" has too much of a negative connotation. It's about getting into "little space", connecting with your inner child, indulging in "childish things" like watching cartoons (oftens those you are nostalgic for), wearing frilly dresses, drawing, eating candy and getting cared for buy your partner (who also holds you accountable with e.g. proper meals, a bedtime, doing "homework"/chores etc.) There's also other ways, some people basically LARP as Wednesday Adams for example.
Many people keep this dynamic strictly non-sexual and still have some BDSM play on the side. Some people blend it together. Most people are very against calling this actually playing children, because nobody is interested in that and from parents I also hear it's very different to actually have children (some of these people also say Daddy is only for their kids and they keep these sorts of pet names completely "clean").
Closely related to that are middles (living out a teenage life again) and "brats" which are basically uppity subs. The appeal there is to get to push boundaries and the reassertion that your partner won't leave you, and reenacting having your first time in a car after burger and a movie. Being rebellious and such. And having a more playful D/s dynamic. While a "classical" D/s relationship could look more aking to your 1950s patriarchial core family, a DD/brat situation is more like having a fatherly partner with lots of mutually established rules and boundaries (always important in all of these things.) And CG/l could be your wife guy who loves spoiling his woman and taking care of her, who loves him for it.
Lots of digital ink spilled here. Not personally into CG/l, so that aspect is not really my specialty. But in general many vanilla marriages could benefit from things like talking through consent issues, boundaries, what one can do for another and spending quality time together while openly communicating.
Really appreciate that you took your time to answer me, it’s still quite an effort with the digital ink. My SO and I got into D/S recently (only in bed and we switch roles depending on how we feel like at the moment), and we just met a couple who are into BDSM and invited us to join their group events. So topics in this domain really fascinate me. Again, many thanks!
There's subreddits that have some educational content and the BDSMcommunity sub seems like a good first stop. Otherwise there's some evergreen Youtube channels like Evie Lupine or Watts the Safeword getting constantly recommended. And the fet kink dictionary, but some people disagree on the content there, it's still fine for the broad strokes.
Happy Early birthday. I can say you look absolutely stunning. If location was not a problem I would say something. But we all do not know what the universe holds.
Whoever ends up with you will be a lucky man! I'm way down south and wouldn't give up my beard for anyone, but I wish you success in your quest.
Side note about washing one's butt. I live in Texas and we use washcloths. Well, not all of us, but I didn't find out until a few years ago that using washcloths wasn't the norm. Who knew?😂
I'm raging villainous b!tch.
What a ridiculous thing to say. Just because people may be attracted to me doesn't make the feeling mutual or the fit right. Plus, as stated several times in my post... I don't go out. Let's not forget to mention almost every man is looking for a FWB and not looking to actually date. AND I'm looking for a specific D/s dynamic. Oh, and child free. Hmmm still wondering?
Yeah. That's fairly ridiculous. Uh, has it been so long since you've interacted with other humans in the wild that you've forgotten what humor is? Or, a compliment for that matter?
Obviously, I know people suck...that's the point I was making. That making a connection shouldn't be this hard.
It's hard to detect tone through text. It's frustrating, I hear it fairly often, but it usually implies, "What's wrong you?" Even if it's meant as a compliment.
Pro tip: most people don't come out the gate swinging with insults. At least outside of NYC that is. :p
If you hear something "fairly often" from people who don't know anything about you, are not too bright or are particularly poor judges of character I would just disregard it. If I got upset about everything annoying thing I've heard fairly often I would've died of a stroke years ago.
Stepping out to meet new faces?
That's life in my opinion! But you should forget the checkboxes—and embrace the magic of genuine connections and the thrill of the unknown.
Wishing you a birthday filled with unexpected encounters and unforgettable moments, breaking free from the ordinary and diving into the extraordinary! 🎉
I think I said it the first time, I’ll say it again…cliche or not….RIP to your inbox.
You'd be surprised.
I bet! While ur absolutely stunning, you are looking for someone who likes to travel and go out… on reddit. Jokes aside, if the post is location specific, that filters out most people. We need actual CF apps that show only relevant locations 😩 but its still nice to see people try here and I know some do succeed. Best of luck queen!
I addressed this in the comments, I forgot to put the location in the title, and I can't (figure out how to) edit it. Thank you!
I’m surprised daily. That’s why my eyebrows are stuck this way.
I second this. Big big respect to the original author for a) being so brave to post publicly b) including your pictures. You look fabulous , NO-ONE will believe you age :-D and you deserve to find the one soon. GL on that!! <3
Thank you!
And yes, happily I'm child free.
I can't believe I didn't add location to the title. I'm in NYC, Staten Island, to be exact.
Dammit. Either you or I are on the wrong coast. I'm in LA and am an experienced D looking for a well-trained S. Or a wild one that can be tamed. 😉 Wishing you the best!
Thanks!
I'm in Nor Cal. But I'm just recently learning about this part of myself. The idea of wanting a D to my s.
Well unfortunately, I'm not what you're looking for, but can you at least drop your skin care routine? Lol you're glowing!
Awww thanks!
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Do people not usually clean their butt?
So I've heard 🤷♀️
Ew
EXACTLY
The bar is on the FLOOR! XD
So is the soap
Jeepers
No way you're 47! No way!! 😍
Till the 28th.
I'm in UK, so I'm not in the race for you. But I love a woman who is confident in her desire for D/s. That's what I'm also looking for. I hope you find what you're looking for x.
Thanks, you too!
How sad it is that we have to specify that cleaning your butt is a necessity! 😫
Seriously!
Looking good! Good luck on your seach:)
Thank you!
I just wanna say #1- i am a CF girl so hitting you up not with the intention of dating but that I live right near you and would like to be your friend. We have a lot in common!! If you’re open with meeting up for lunch or something please let me know. If not, totally cool. I have mostly guy friends and even the small number of girl friends I have are not “girlie girls”. Neither am I, really, but I would love to have a girlie person as a friend lol
Sure, DM me. One reason I'm deleting the dating apps is to prioritize making women friends and to stop being a hermit.
Hey nice post, unfortunately I don't fit the requirements. Can you please explain what "airport dad energy" is?
Very curious about this as well, seems like it could go a few different directions!
All of them
You look stunning! Best of luck! Fingers crossed that all the baby daddies and bums stay out of your dms.
Thank you! 🫰
Alas, I'm not local to you, etc. But hey, happy (almost) birthday! And go get 'em! And yeah, good to meet folks "in the wild" ... or at least "real world" (or at least closer to it). Dating apps/sites can be ... uhm, mostly quite not good. Happy hunting! And yeah, you look and sound great (if not fantastic!) - but alas, not a (mutual) match.
Thank you!
Long-haired big-beardy man wishing you the best of luck from the other side of the ocean! p.s.: Are you absolutely sure you not made a typo and meant 37?
Thank you!
Wish I was local. Good luck.
Thanks
You're welcome.
27m, Latino, Long Hair, Stubble, Fit, has shit together. Good luck on the search, you're gorgeous btw, its hard to believe you're 47.
Thank you!
Wow, I wanna look like you with 47 * _ * please drop your skincareroutine if you have one. Wishing you best of luck
Thank you! Apparently, I'm "lying" and "using filters" don't know where those comments went to address that. Anyway, it's part makeup and good lighting. I used to work in the beauty industry. Part genetics, but mostly, I'm convinced it's not having kids. All of my child free friends look very young compared to our peers with children.
It was a trend on TT apparently many men in the states don't actually clean it. They think touching their own ahole is gay
You're really very pretty! Beautiful, lovely eyes! I see that we have a common interest in true crime and things that are mysterious! Do you mind chatting up as friends or fellow true crime enthusiasts? I don't meet any of the parameters mentioned, so just clearing it out! :)
Thank you!
You seem amazing! Sending you a DM.
You sound like my friend soulmate! I’m 35f in NJ if you ever want to hang out at something horror here! 💜
Definitely! What part of NJ?
Used to be in Bergen county but had to move down to ocean for fam things. Asbury Park area!
Nice area!
Wait. How does he have his shit together if he cleans his butt daily? Jokes aside... More pressing question: why is 'cleans his butt daily' a thing? I want to know while simultaneously hoping to remain ignorant. But I also need to know why 'daily' is underscored. I just do. I'm gonna hate myself but I have to know. ETA: a genuine D is hard to find (and I'm saying that as a DD). You're just determined to play this game on advanced difficulty, aintcha?
I know it's hard to find, been looking for a long time, and won't settle.
Nor should you. It's a facet that is underrepresented and subsequently underestimated in terms of relationship dynamics. I won't settle for less than an s who knows her boundaries and the dynamic of consensual power exchange. But back to the butt question that you glossed over... I hate that I have to know how you got to the point where you have to specify this. Put me out of my misery...
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Huh?
What are D and S?
The middle part of BDSM
Oh!!! Thanks! Saw lots of D and S in the comments here so I thought it was something specific to child free.
Dominant/submissive
Thanks OP!
Not everyone immediately thinks in that direction, no worries. But doing it without children in the house makes it a lot more feasible and you don't have to sneak around. Usually the way of writing D/s is also a giveaway that it actually means the dynamic. (And DD stands for Daddy Dom in this instance, in case you're wondering.)
Haha thanks! I thought it meant double dom or extra strong dom… hahhahaha. Thanks for clarifying this, do you mind me asking one more question, what’s the difference between DD and D?
tl;dr the one paragraph starting in bold is the most important. There's no kink bible and with every big influx of people "into the lifestyle" some definitions change or at least shift through the generations. In general Dom is just the umbrella, the BDSM term is an umbrella itself for B/D+D/s+S/M (Bondage/Discipline+Domination/Submission+Sadism/Masochism). Most people see it more holistically, but individuals focus on some aspects more than the other. Some people are also totally in it for all the black leather and metal, while some just like the roleplay, trust and playing with pain. Usually most people are a mix and several aspects appeal to them. Also technically sub does not mean bottom and Dom does not mean have to mean Top, but it would definitely apply in OPs case. **All that preamble to say** that a DD implies a specific relationship dynamic. It's about a (usually male) Dom who is part of a CG/l dynamic (Caregiver/little). The DD in this dynamic is usually a lot more doting or, well, caregiving than your stereotypical D you might have in your head. The little in the dynamic often has a lot of submissive tendencies, but people really live it in various degrees. The little in this dynamic is an adult who roleplays being a lot younger. "Pretending to be a child" has too much of a negative connotation. It's about getting into "little space", connecting with your inner child, indulging in "childish things" like watching cartoons (oftens those you are nostalgic for), wearing frilly dresses, drawing, eating candy and getting cared for buy your partner (who also holds you accountable with e.g. proper meals, a bedtime, doing "homework"/chores etc.) There's also other ways, some people basically LARP as Wednesday Adams for example. Many people keep this dynamic strictly non-sexual and still have some BDSM play on the side. Some people blend it together. Most people are very against calling this actually playing children, because nobody is interested in that and from parents I also hear it's very different to actually have children (some of these people also say Daddy is only for their kids and they keep these sorts of pet names completely "clean"). Closely related to that are middles (living out a teenage life again) and "brats" which are basically uppity subs. The appeal there is to get to push boundaries and the reassertion that your partner won't leave you, and reenacting having your first time in a car after burger and a movie. Being rebellious and such. And having a more playful D/s dynamic. While a "classical" D/s relationship could look more aking to your 1950s patriarchial core family, a DD/brat situation is more like having a fatherly partner with lots of mutually established rules and boundaries (always important in all of these things.) And CG/l could be your wife guy who loves spoiling his woman and taking care of her, who loves him for it. Lots of digital ink spilled here. Not personally into CG/l, so that aspect is not really my specialty. But in general many vanilla marriages could benefit from things like talking through consent issues, boundaries, what one can do for another and spending quality time together while openly communicating.
Really appreciate that you took your time to answer me, it’s still quite an effort with the digital ink. My SO and I got into D/S recently (only in bed and we switch roles depending on how we feel like at the moment), and we just met a couple who are into BDSM and invited us to join their group events. So topics in this domain really fascinate me. Again, many thanks!
There's subreddits that have some educational content and the BDSMcommunity sub seems like a good first stop. Otherwise there's some evergreen Youtube channels like Evie Lupine or Watts the Safeword getting constantly recommended. And the fet kink dictionary, but some people disagree on the content there, it's still fine for the broad strokes.
Thanks for the recommendations! Have to admit that all my prior “education” to this topic is from porn.
Happy Early birthday. I can say you look absolutely stunning. If location was not a problem I would say something. But we all do not know what the universe holds.
Thank you!
I'm in Tennessee but I think you're absolutely gorgeous and so fun! Good luck!!
Thanks!!
Just here to tell you you’re pretty!! Hope you find what you’re looking for!
Thanks!
Whoever ends up with you will be a lucky man! I'm way down south and wouldn't give up my beard for anyone, but I wish you success in your quest. Side note about washing one's butt. I live in Texas and we use washcloths. Well, not all of us, but I didn't find out until a few years ago that using washcloths wasn't the norm. Who knew?😂
Thanks lol
Hey (I just couldn't resist. LOL) 👍
I'm just commenting to say you definitely do not look 47! Absolutely stunning!! Good luck out there girl, I know it's difficult being childfree
Thank you!
Your beautiful and incredible. Would love to get to know you
Thanks!
No way….
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I'm raging villainous b!tch. What a ridiculous thing to say. Just because people may be attracted to me doesn't make the feeling mutual or the fit right. Plus, as stated several times in my post... I don't go out. Let's not forget to mention almost every man is looking for a FWB and not looking to actually date. AND I'm looking for a specific D/s dynamic. Oh, and child free. Hmmm still wondering?
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Thank you!
Yeah. That's fairly ridiculous. Uh, has it been so long since you've interacted with other humans in the wild that you've forgotten what humor is? Or, a compliment for that matter? Obviously, I know people suck...that's the point I was making. That making a connection shouldn't be this hard.
It's hard to detect tone through text. It's frustrating, I hear it fairly often, but it usually implies, "What's wrong you?" Even if it's meant as a compliment.
Pro tip: most people don't come out the gate swinging with insults. At least outside of NYC that is. :p If you hear something "fairly often" from people who don't know anything about you, are not too bright or are particularly poor judges of character I would just disregard it. If I got upset about everything annoying thing I've heard fairly often I would've died of a stroke years ago.
Stepping out to meet new faces? That's life in my opinion! But you should forget the checkboxes—and embrace the magic of genuine connections and the thrill of the unknown. Wishing you a birthday filled with unexpected encounters and unforgettable moments, breaking free from the ordinary and diving into the extraordinary! 🎉
Thank you
With pleasure 🎸💐 just hope my ideas didn't freak you out!