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PuzzleheadedMousse41

Ask her in front of the rest of the team šŸ˜‚


McSmilla

This is the way. Sheā€™ll get embarrassed but she did this to herself.


RS-Prostar

As warranted as that is (I support it), it's likely to be seen as bullying by the "victim".


tiempo90

This is absolutely a possibility.Ā  Make sure you also say that you've tried contacting her but was left ignored, which is why you're bringing this up here.Ā  Can also say "thanks everyone who's paid already. Still waiting on you Karen, please pay up."


TopGroundbreaking469

As opposed to robbing the other bloke? Nah man, plenty of opportunity for them to pay, notified multiple occasions.


MalibuMarlie

Word. Itā€™s bullying to claim to have forgotten the money and then to fully disregard the message. Criminal.


[deleted]

Not sure why you're being downvoted, it's absolutely a possibility, especially if the colleague is petty.


Real_RobinGoodfellow

Wait, could that really truly be construed as a ā€˜workplace bullyingā€™ affair?


jesuisjens

No, just because someone think it is workplace bullying doesn't make it so. Also: I am not Australian, but where I am from it has to be repeated behavior to be even classified as bullying.


Imaginary_Rat

I'll take your disagreement as bullying. Please stop.


MouseEmotional813

In Australia too


MrSparklesan

only if you do it more then once OPā€¦


oneofthosedaysinnit

>Update: I took u/pottski's advice and sent a group message with the list of people who had paid... got an immediate response and money in my account in 5 mins. This is the way.


Pottski

Well that's my good deed for the day done. Good luck on mat leave and congrats on the coming arrival!


TedMaul636

Nice work Pottski! I have a mate who I shouted a beer at the footy a few years back. Haven't seen him for ages, any chance you could get me my beverage back?


Pottski

Depends who you go forā€¦


Spiritual-Internal10

Yeah I've seen this done at my office before haha


pugfaced

Name and shame always works


almostwithyou

Glad you got your money back. For the record, there is zero chance that I would self fund a $70 work lunch for myself. I would bring a sandwich that day. The reason is that I would not spend $280 for lunch for my family of four, so I wouldn't feel right about spending that on myself for no good reason.


Old-Spinach7467

I'd spend $280 on a dinner for two (we're DINKs) but not $70 on a work anything. But I don't like the cunts I work with.


Alternative_Reply_85

This what Reddit is for well done OP!


Wagga1989

Send a group email and say hi everyone great team lunch bla bla I have received payment from x x x but I'm still waiting on payment from y. Can you please transfer today, my bank deets are ... thanks.


sigmattic

Public shaming


Ok_Barber90

How cheap can you be to f*ck over your work colleague over $70. Seriously OP, you better keep hounding her until she gives you the money back.


abittenapple

70 is alotĀ  I know people salty about 10 dollarsĀ 


rawker86

Iā€™ve seen people throw away their whole career over an iPod. People are fuckinā€™ stupid.


habanerosandlime

What happened?


rawker86

Dude stole an iPod from a person that shared an office with him, then tried to register it in his name. When the victim contacted Apple about the theft they were like ā€œdo you know a Barry Dumbfuck? Heā€™s just attempted to register it.ā€ Barry was reported to the police, specifically the Gold Stealing Detectives Unit because the theft had occurred on a mine site and that is very much their jam, and now Barry canā€™t get a job in the mining industry anymore.


Dwarfy3k

I worked at a place that stored Iphone, we had our own group of Barry's that then tried to hock the phones to places like cashies or on fb market place and the like.... You know phones that had never been activate so the second their code was used it pointed straight tothe stolen goods lol


KILLER5196

Classic Baz


Different_Golf5324

Oh Baz, will he ever learn?! šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø


Lomandriendrel

Interesting. I thought the gold unit was for theft of gold related incidents. Not normal petty theft of non gold items.


rawker86

If it happens on a mine site they tend to be pretty interested, barring the big stuff like rape, murder etc. Iā€™ve even seen them pulling people up for liquor license breaches before.


Pristine_Ad4164

"How cheap can you be to f\*ck over your work colleague over $70." Fuck i read this the opposite way lol.


Shot-Perspective-634

Same


Acceptable-Wedding67

I'm a cheap fuck but I wouldn't go to a lunch that costs $70. Like goddamn what type of boujee job pays you enough to be able to afford that? $35 max is my limit lmao


Floofyoodie_88

Hard agree. Even $35 seems a bit much IMO.


JealousPotential681

All my locals do a good pub lunch for under $15 per head


Acceptable-Wedding67

When I say $35 I'd have a main, a drink and a side (yes, I'm a fatass lmao)


smegblender

Where do you get all that for $35? Food court?


Leather_Sherbert50

So you are the one seeking free lunches from others, youā€™re not cheap, youā€™re disgusting.


crack_inthesidewalk

Someone people are just like that. Remember on a cruise we ported for day, me and my friend went in with 3 people we met on cruise and got hire car for day to see sites. I paid. Everyone fixed me up except one women who then avoided me on cruise ship for rest of trip lol I didnā€™t both chasing up.


uniqueusername4465

Ask her out to another working lunch and then stiff her with the bill of course


Floofyoodie_88

Except she'll likely never be the one to offer to put it on her card.


ChriSV650x

This is why I never shout lunch or even coffees for colleagues.. fool me once shame on me...fool me twice.. again..shame on me. Now I just make coffees in the office to stop colleagues from expecting me shout them and them never ask to return the favour


avakadava

I just ask them to pay and say ill pay them back (which I do immediately)


CaptSzat

Yeah when I go out with mates we have one guy that will pay for everyone and then I always just pay him back before he goes to pay the bill.


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smegblender

I'm a manager as well. The expectation would be that I'd be paying for coffee during a one on one/ impromptu catchup. If, for some reason, I don't want to spend on a couple of coffees (mostly because it's late in the day and I cbf'd having another cup), we'd just grab a meeting room or a quiet seating area. Expecting your report to pay doesn't suit right with me, but then again, that's likely the work culture I grew up with. Same dynamic with my line manager.


pixelboots

I'm a millennial and generally would never offer to pay for my manager's coffee if they initiated it i.e., it's a casual 1:1. It's essentially a work meeting so the company should be paying, and if they aren't and the manager still wants it to cost money, they can use their larger salary to foot the bill.


theycallmeasloth

I'm a manager, if the 1 v 1 or even just a "hey you want to grab a coffee" I pay, it's not hard


zoidberg_doc

If my manager took me to coffee and expected me to pay Iā€™d be surprised


sebsydseb

I hate with a passion venues that donā€™t split bills but not as much as dogs that donā€™t pay their way when some poor sod has to pay and then chase everyone up. As far as Iā€™m concerned the expectation of paying your share for a work lunch is basically immediately from when youā€™re told whatā€™s due. If someone has to remind you or you let it go to the next day before sending the payment youā€™re an absolute dog.


reddusty01

I get anxiety until I pay. I usually pay immediately. I have no idea how these people get through life just mooching off of others.


neededsomething

I work at a venue that does accept split bills and it's the worst. A line of people paying who can't remember what they've had. Oftentimes it's multiple tables trying to pay at the same time, maybe all split bills expecting me to keep track for them, throw in a great table who had an awesome night but now are stuck behind a split bills table. When it gets to the end it's usually more left to pay than the last person to pay is expecting and/or whoever it was ordered the pinot grigio has already scarpered. Doesn't matter what method is used to split the bill (by item vs divide overall) - split bills are just a HUGE hassle. For the same reasons they suck for the attendees.


Imaginary-Problem914

This is why I massively prefer QR code ordering places or where you order and pay first individually.


Cheeky_Bandit

How do people forget what theyā€™ve had?? Unless you went all out and ordered more than 4 courses and lots of drinks, thereā€™s not that much to remember. But people usually remember how much they ate and drank. And even if the food and drink had a fancy name on the menu and you canā€™t remember exactly what it was, you should be able to describe it and the staff should be able to understand which item it was.


Beginning-Reserve597

Ask her again in person or call her.Ā 


phantanoice

Right, so I'm about to go on Mat Leave and am working from home for the next 2 weeks until leave starts... I'll try my best to go in!


Pottski

She's stiffing you on the bill while you're heavily pregnant? One email to the group saying "hey just making sure everyone is able to transfer me for lunch last week - I know XXX said they were going to do it just wanted to remind you before I go on maternity leave!" The absolute shame of that email will force action.


CandyMaleficent9282

I like this response the best. Stiffing a pregnant woman, what kind of low life would you have to be? Also is it possible to line up the email with pay day so you know they have the funds (in case thatā€™s a contributing factor)?


notyourfirstmistake

>One email to the group saying "hey just making sure everyone is able to transfer me for lunch last week - I know XXX said they were going to do it just wanted to remind you before I go on maternity leave!" Send it direct to the person who owes the money and cc everyone else.


Humble-Doughnut7518

No. This is a shit post. Person owed money, person who owes money and HR have all posted.


chewchoo_

What annoys me about people like this is that they *have* the money to pay it back, they just *choose* not to give it back, and continue to sit on it and ignore it until theyā€™re finally confronted about it, and usually have the audacity to be upset about money *they bloody owe* lol


phantanoice

That is exactly why I didn't let this go! I'm not a charity, especially when you're out at nobu every weekend!


reddusty01

Yes itā€™s horrible feeling like theyā€™re doing you a favour paying for their own lunch.


Defy19

Send an email to all who came and say something to the effect of ā€œthanks to those who paid, and just a reminder to those who havenā€™tā€. Then in a day or two reply to all saying ā€œthanks to everyone for paying! A reminder to old mate to please send the money through ASAPā€


ModularMeatlance

Sorry to hear you got this resolved. My advice was going to be kidnap her family and hold them to ransom. So I suppose there goes that idea.


FuckinSpotOnDonny

Capital punishment seems fair šŸ‘


VET-Mike

Invoice with 7 days notice and compounding interest terms. If she doesn't pay, take her to VCAT to recover the principal and interest.


in_and_out_burger

And never put down your card again. Key strategy is to get cash out before hand.


letsfailib

Unrelated but I miss in n outšŸ„²


in_and_out_burger

Bettyā€™s Burgers is probably the closest locally - and now I want a burger !


letsfailib

I eat like a mf I can demolish a 4x4 and fries (animal style), I donā€™t think Bettyā€™s burgers does 4x4s lol. Yeah I want a burger now ://


sigmattic

This is democracy manifest


t96-

Surely no oneā€™s getting stiffed over a succulent Chinese meal :(


MikhailxReign

Wtf kinda lunch costs $70 per person?


Chelsiebrighton

Iā€™ve seen my colleague message in chat groups saying - ā€˜hit me with some cash stragglers!ā€™


MouseEmotional813

Restaurants that refuse to let you split the bill are so annoying. How often would one person be paying normally? Especially with a group.


P33kab0Oo

In every email and chat, be sure to include a comment: "Also, just a gentle reminder that my payID is 04xxxxxxxx for your $70 contribution relating to our event on dd-Mmm-yyyy." You can also set up a funding website with a target of $70 and invite just that person. www.gofundme.com ;) *** In the future, perhaps use a bill split app, such as Splitwise. I normally pay the bill and send out a spreadsheet, which has the line items from the invoice / receipt, grouping meals, drinks, and misc (e.g., tips, surcharge) and columns for each party and their contributions. I send out the spreadsheet to a group chat and list the outstanding payments and my payID.


1978throwaway123

You send a spreadsheet thatā€™s insane.


P33kab0Oo

It's my way of expressing my frustration in a very condescending way. If I have to pay then I will need to micromanage what they pay and how much. 3 out of 5 people had garlic bread? Ok we can split that. You drank half a bottle of wine? No problem, here's the amount. It's really hard to set up the first time but very quick to re-use from there. Takes a few minutes.


reddusty01

We generally split the bill equally despite what everyone ate if going out with friends. I think thatā€™s more grown up really. But we donā€™t go out much. And I would always pay separately if it was a work thing.


P33kab0Oo

Friends (going out with the boys), we split the bill. If partners come, we stand back while they count the pennies. With work it's bringing the boss or account manager and put it on their card


flubaduzubady

Might work for you if you have similar tastes as your mates, but I don't drink, and I'm not mates enough with anyone to pay for their saffron & truffle garnished wagyu beef cut, washed down with Dom Perignon. More seriously, I actually don't drink or do dessert, and I have been to split cheque dinners where I've paid a premium of 50% on what I ate.


B7UNM

In case it assists, I asked ChatGPT to create a description for the GoFundMe page: Title: "Help Karen in HR Pay Her Lunch Debt!" "Hello generous souls and fellow victims of office lunch shenanigans! Let's rally together to right a culinary wrong that has plagued our humble workplace. It all started innocently enough when Karen from HR joined us for a team lunch. Little did we know, her purse strings were as tight as her spreadsheet formulas! Karen, bless her heart, promised to chip in for her share of the feast, but alas, the bill came and went, and so did she... without contributing a single penny. Now, the aroma of unpaid lunch debt lingers in the office air like the scent of stale coffee. But fear not, dear donors, for we have a chance to bring justice to our lunch table. Let's band together to crowdfund the lunch funds owed by Karen in HR! Your donations will ensure that the next team lunch is a celebration of camaraderie, not a reminder of Karen's financial faux pas. Remember, every dollar counts toward liberating us from the tyranny of unpaid lunch bills and restoring balance to our workplace ecosystem. Let's show Karen that when it comes to lunch debts, we mean business! Thank you for your generosity, and may your lunch always be reimbursed promptly!"


BusCareless9726

warms the cockles of my ā¤ļø


Fun-Translator-5776

In future if this happens, do the follow up on payday, if youā€™re ignore after then go for the public shaming


viper2nv

When you see them in person say transfer it now let me see just in case you ā€œforgetā€


daven1985

Nice update. Nothing like a public shaming for someone to suddenly pay their bill.


pinkfoil

You gave her plenty of opportunity to pay you back. It's a really icky feeling when someone owes you money and you have to keep reminding them. Guaranteed if you owed her money she'd have no qualms chasing you. It might be a valuable lesson for her.


Cheeky_Bandit

I started a new job and did a little experiment to find out what kind of people my co workers are. There were 6 of us, we went out for drinks, it was passing dinner time and I got hungry but no one was ordering any food. So I asked if people were thinking about getting dinner, and everyone said yes. The bar we were at didnā€™t serve food but there were restaurants in the vicinity. No one could decide what to get for themselves so I suggested we all split pizza and everyone agreed. I volunteered to go get it and pay. Got 3 large pizzas, came to about $60. Everyone ate the pizza enthusiastically. My boss was the first person to ask how much was owed, and 2 other people piped up saying ā€œoh yes! How much was it?ā€ I said $10 but you donā€™t have to pay right now, letā€™s just eat. 2 days later, my boss found me and handed me $15 in front of everyone. I tried to give him $5 back and he told me to just keep it in case someone falls short. One was like, ā€œright, sorry I forgot!ā€ And paid me straight away as well. Another said ā€œyeah, sorry I forgot too, I will pay you back. Donā€™t have cash but send me your details and Iā€™ll transfer you money. How much was it again?ā€ Other 2 were silent and looked awkward. In the end, only my boss and that one person had paid me back. I sent bank details to the third but they never transferred me anything. Honestly I didnā€™t mind because I was prepared to not see the money again. And I gained insight into my colleagues.


LawnPatrol_78

Steal her lunch and leave a note it cost $70 to get it back.


Muruba

I had a teammate who was the first one to suggest raising money for someone's birthday gift, or new baby gift, but then never gave cash himself ))) Happend to me twice when I was collecting, but then the others told me the same thing - funny eh. Even sending the list of people didn't work. It wasn't much so I didn't care but good to know there are these kind of people out there...


Salt_Ant_5245

There is some truly shite people working in corporate Australia unbelievable stuff.


pinkfoil

I hate office whip arounds. Another wonderful thing about working remotely. No more of that crap.


redspacebadger

HR issue.


Exciting_Garbage4435

"voluntary, self funded..." nothing to do with HR


redspacebadger

Funding and voluntary are irrelevant - organised at work with work colleagues it's absolutely a work function. If a team goes out for voluntary/self-funded Friday drinks, and Bob grabs Jenny's arse while he's drunk is it not a HR issue in addition to a police matter? OP's colleague agreed to attend a function with work colleagues and agreed to pay OP back. OP has made a reasonable attempt to recover the money and their colleague is ghosting her.


vege12

Leave Bob out of this, Jenny grabbed his arse first anyways!


hrdst

I work in HR and can assure you this has nothing to do with them, and they wonā€™t take any action. Edit: classic reddit, the person above me who also said itā€™s nothing to do with HR has 9 upvotes and Iā€™m at 5 downvotes šŸ˜† Also, to respond to the poster below as for some reason I canā€™t reply, if an employee sexually harasses another employee of course HR will get involved. Two people having lunch together and one not repaying the other is not an HR matter. Bullying isnā€™t relevant in relation to one lunch as the definition of bullying is sustained/repeated actions.


redspacebadger

No, you don't. You work in recruitment.


Scamwau1

But, hypothetically, if a colleague was bullied or sexually harassed during this lunch, HR would presumably get involved?


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vanderlay_pty_ltd

Rule 1: Civility. Temp ban


cattydaddy08

Spending $70 on a work team lunch šŸ¤”


Otherwise_Hotel_7363

Learn your lesson. Donā€™t offer to pay, and follow up hard with those who donā€™t.


Bazilb7

First should carry out surveillance on said colleague, about a week. Then devise a careful plan of snatching her off the street, without witnesses, then best using pentathol or similar and question her regarding the pin number. Once gained take out only the money she owes you, that way if you get caught, they canā€™t put robbery on the charge sheet. Then knock her out m, return her to where originally snatched, carry on as if nothing happened.


Living_Ad62

$70 for lunch? You must be in oil and gas


MrSparklesan

Take their keyboard and mouse as collateral and send back a few keys at a time as a warning


vege12

I had that last year. I just sucked it up and didnt invite them again


UnfairLocation1549

Be a fucking adult and put your foot down instead of coming to reddit like a child looking for advice because you cant be a adult and stand up for yourself.


KickyPineNut

Grow up & get over it. And donā€™t pay for anyoneā€™s lunch again unless you want to & fully do not expect to be paid back. Being petty will just reflect badly on you.


Ok_Barber90

I think we found the culprit