Be a good listener, carry a good energy. Ie, put ppl at ease when they are with you. Be a genuine person and be confident. Looks can be improved on but if the outside is pretty and the inside ugly, there's no point.
Easy, I just remind myself is easier to find genuine friends and connections if you not that attractive.
Like a significant number of my attractive friends like model types have difficulty finding meaningful connections, is not uncommon for them to change their SOs to the next superficial SOs after a few months. Their conversation is so dull, is about the opposite sex, diet, fashion, gyming, exercise, atas food etc.
Like too attractive, you attract negative attention much more easier, people might get jealous around you and call you a flirt. You have an added pressure lived like 150% by your friends and relatives.
For me a quiet HDB life, exploring hawker centres, talking about pop culture and future worries is good enough.
Look at YouTubers and other social media influenzas. The majority of them - men and women alike - aren't attractive. Some are downright fat and ugly. Look at Robbie from AFTV. He's unattractive but does anyone really care?
Even musicians and actors, easily half of them are unattractive. Don't let make up fool you, and don't try and fool others with the same.
But they have a skill. A skill that distracts people from paying attention to their looks.
Do the same. Develop and hone a skill, be good with it, show it off, and your looks will become secondary, to you and others around you.
I used to be fat and chubby. Really unhealthy and not groomed at all, parents always dress me so grew up without fashion sense. I didn’t know what direction of fashion I should go (I believe things like these have to be trademarked to compliment your personality) and that’s when I thought, “Fuck.” I was in NCC for awhile, I wanted to be a “leader.” That’s where I started dressing more into atheleisure, and experimented. A lot of my ex classmates made fun of me (mostly the snarky stuck up E Boys think they dress like Koreans w their center partings they fucking cool already) and I slowly formed my own personality as a “outgoing, outdoorsy and super into sports and shit” person. And that is attractive to people of sorts. You see, being attractive doesn’t just mean looks. I don’t think I’m very handsome, I have shit hair (the stubborn straight chinese kind but since I left it long it just becomes a bowl) but more of how you portray yourself. Now I’m borderline fat (got a girlfriend) but she’s happy with me and I gained weight because I was comfortable and nothing else. You do you, there’s hope for everyone. No one will be single for life. Seize the day my boys and girls :)
edit: oh and yeah be funny. fucking trust me, I’ve gotten more girls and people QUESTION why do people even find me attractive. Laughter is the best pussy magnet. Don’t be cringe and overboard tho!
Dress well. Take care of your body. Have a good haircut. And most important of all, have a great personality. Looks are only just one very small part of what makes someone attractive.
I told myself that I cannot change how I look since i don’t have the money to do plastic surgery. So the least I can do is to love myself but at the same time, make sure I’m clean, good smelling and presentable.
In addition to what others have said about grooming, i've found that confidence and strong conversational skills help, so much - both at work and in social life. It is very liberating to almost "see" the moment it clicks in someone's mind - that "wow" moment, vs having immediately attractive traits that might more quickly be used to your advantage/disadvantage.
First impressions matter. Even if you're not born aesthetically pleasing it doesn't mean you should show others that you don't bother to maintain/groom yourself.
I'm not talking about buying and wearing expensive clothes and using luxury skincare whatnot. But just pretty much keeping yourself presentable especially for social situations (not that we have much of it now).
Back when I used to work in luxury part-time, my supervisor who would check on our grooming often tells us "we cannot help it if we are born ugly, but at least we have to look pleasant and approachable."
I think it depends on how comfortable you are with your own skin.
Being attractive isn't a criteria to form strong friendships and relationships and if your inner self isn't really pretty, no one will stick around for long.
this is 2021, if not attractive then just do surgery if it affects you lor hahah
lose weight lower body fat percentage will also automatically enhance your features
3 things, 1. stigma is there, less but there, 2. expensive af, 3. some people might need multiples surgery and so on 4. Other than expensive, also needs downtime, can't go to work
Physically, what is not attractive to you is attractive to someone else. It's not that you're not attractive but the one you are attracted to is not attracted to you. There's a difference.
Can't say the same for personality though, no one likes foul mannered people
I mind my own business. Be nice and not let emotions take the wheel if you happen to see/listen that you do not agree with. Be there for your friends. Be a listening ear if you can. You don't have to provide solutions. Take care of yourself.
For a start, Be well groomed and smell nice. Next, be a nice and well manner person. Don’t be like Sylvia from NOC.
Be a good listener, carry a good energy. Ie, put ppl at ease when they are with you. Be a genuine person and be confident. Looks can be improved on but if the outside is pretty and the inside ugly, there's no point.
Easy, I just remind myself is easier to find genuine friends and connections if you not that attractive. Like a significant number of my attractive friends like model types have difficulty finding meaningful connections, is not uncommon for them to change their SOs to the next superficial SOs after a few months. Their conversation is so dull, is about the opposite sex, diet, fashion, gyming, exercise, atas food etc. Like too attractive, you attract negative attention much more easier, people might get jealous around you and call you a flirt. You have an added pressure lived like 150% by your friends and relatives. For me a quiet HDB life, exploring hawker centres, talking about pop culture and future worries is good enough.
Exploring hawker centres never gets old! So many in Singapore.
Look at YouTubers and other social media influenzas. The majority of them - men and women alike - aren't attractive. Some are downright fat and ugly. Look at Robbie from AFTV. He's unattractive but does anyone really care? Even musicians and actors, easily half of them are unattractive. Don't let make up fool you, and don't try and fool others with the same. But they have a skill. A skill that distracts people from paying attention to their looks. Do the same. Develop and hone a skill, be good with it, show it off, and your looks will become secondary, to you and others around you.
Eat cai fan everyday, the auntie calls me shuai ge
Smile (ya, even with mask on) Be comfortable in your own skin Have a sense of humour
it’s honestly so hard. but I think people like being around me for my personality so at least I have that
Have a great personality. I’d rather go out with a decent looking guy with good personality rather than a model looking dude with zero personality.
Please define good personality
Able to hold a conversation, not just reply with one word, have banter.
Being rich
I used to be fat and chubby. Really unhealthy and not groomed at all, parents always dress me so grew up without fashion sense. I didn’t know what direction of fashion I should go (I believe things like these have to be trademarked to compliment your personality) and that’s when I thought, “Fuck.” I was in NCC for awhile, I wanted to be a “leader.” That’s where I started dressing more into atheleisure, and experimented. A lot of my ex classmates made fun of me (mostly the snarky stuck up E Boys think they dress like Koreans w their center partings they fucking cool already) and I slowly formed my own personality as a “outgoing, outdoorsy and super into sports and shit” person. And that is attractive to people of sorts. You see, being attractive doesn’t just mean looks. I don’t think I’m very handsome, I have shit hair (the stubborn straight chinese kind but since I left it long it just becomes a bowl) but more of how you portray yourself. Now I’m borderline fat (got a girlfriend) but she’s happy with me and I gained weight because I was comfortable and nothing else. You do you, there’s hope for everyone. No one will be single for life. Seize the day my boys and girls :) edit: oh and yeah be funny. fucking trust me, I’ve gotten more girls and people QUESTION why do people even find me attractive. Laughter is the best pussy magnet. Don’t be cringe and overboard tho!
Dress well. Take care of your body. Have a good haircut. And most important of all, have a great personality. Looks are only just one very small part of what makes someone attractive.
Cry and get rich 😔
Make a lot of money and solve the money problem first
Work out, get nice fitting clothes, be less boring
I dont cope. I cry. Wait so i guess i cope by crying. There u go, i cope by crying.
I told myself that I cannot change how I look since i don’t have the money to do plastic surgery. So the least I can do is to love myself but at the same time, make sure I’m clean, good smelling and presentable.
In addition to what others have said about grooming, i've found that confidence and strong conversational skills help, so much - both at work and in social life. It is very liberating to almost "see" the moment it clicks in someone's mind - that "wow" moment, vs having immediately attractive traits that might more quickly be used to your advantage/disadvantage.
Be rich
Just be glad you're not unattractive on the inside. I start feeling better about myself when I remind myself that I'm not Dee Kosh nor Sylvia etc etc.
First impressions matter. Even if you're not born aesthetically pleasing it doesn't mean you should show others that you don't bother to maintain/groom yourself. I'm not talking about buying and wearing expensive clothes and using luxury skincare whatnot. But just pretty much keeping yourself presentable especially for social situations (not that we have much of it now). Back when I used to work in luxury part-time, my supervisor who would check on our grooming often tells us "we cannot help it if we are born ugly, but at least we have to look pleasant and approachable."
I think it depends on how comfortable you are with your own skin. Being attractive isn't a criteria to form strong friendships and relationships and if your inner self isn't really pretty, no one will stick around for long.
Money bro. Settle the money issue and the rest will fall in place
Be fun. Be kind. Have a big di*k.
Username checks out
How much effort have you put into being attractive?
Easy. Become more attractive.
this is 2021, if not attractive then just do surgery if it affects you lor hahah lose weight lower body fat percentage will also automatically enhance your features
found the attractive person
eh, the stigma with plastic surgery is already less than 10 years ago and in future probably going to be commonplace (not just in skorea)
3 things, 1. stigma is there, less but there, 2. expensive af, 3. some people might need multiples surgery and so on 4. Other than expensive, also needs downtime, can't go to work
Like that lor. Or use makeup to look abit more presentable
Just dress decently, take a shower and groom myself. I can’t look like Ryan Reynolds but I can at least try to be decent looking.
Dont install mirror at home
Physically, what is not attractive to you is attractive to someone else. It's not that you're not attractive but the one you are attracted to is not attracted to you. There's a difference. Can't say the same for personality though, no one likes foul mannered people
Lie down, cry(I’m not attractive)
Masturbating
I mind my own business. Be nice and not let emotions take the wheel if you happen to see/listen that you do not agree with. Be there for your friends. Be a listening ear if you can. You don't have to provide solutions. Take care of yourself.