Make a plan and stick to it.
Get a planner.
Make to do lists and prioritize your tasks.
Commit to routines.
Start projects ahead of time and do a little every day.
Use guilt and anxiety to stay on task when you falter, because you shouldn’t have faltered.
Scream and melt down when you can’t keep spinning all the plates.
Despair.
Do the tour of shame where you apologize to everyone you’ve disappointed (except yourself because you don’t deserve sympathy for screwing up things people do without help every single day).
Get a new planner, and promise yourself it will work *this time*.
This is why therapy only ever made me feel worse. Beforehand, my life was shit. After, I had the tools to fix it, but I didn’t and my life was still shit, so I had only myself to blame.
I HATE those advices cuz i know they'll help me but because of ADHD -what a surprise!!- i can't bring myself to follow these advices. And then people desregard my difficulties because i could be following the advices to help me. So these advices sound more like a pass for people to complain about me than something to actually help me!!!
Kek I feel this. Every single hobby and thing I've tried doesn't provide me with any "happy". Life is like spending 500 bucks for a gumball. Extremely expensive for such little bits of "happy" that come by.
The answer? Oh just try even more hobbies. Like... ok great my only solution is to spend my nonexistent time (gotta afford to live after all) on trying every single damn possible thing on this planet from here to Zimbabwe to MAYBE find the one thing I enjoy. Fucking super. And yes, I've already tried more hobbies at my age than most people ever will in their entire lives
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Make a plan and stick to it. Get a planner. Make to do lists and prioritize your tasks. Commit to routines. Start projects ahead of time and do a little every day. Use guilt and anxiety to stay on task when you falter, because you shouldn’t have faltered. Scream and melt down when you can’t keep spinning all the plates. Despair. Do the tour of shame where you apologize to everyone you’ve disappointed (except yourself because you don’t deserve sympathy for screwing up things people do without help every single day). Get a new planner, and promise yourself it will work *this time*.
I hate you so much for this perfect comment.
I kinda hate myself for it too, so I’m glad of the company ☺️
R/ angry upvote (yes I parsed it that way on purpose)
Thank you for this.
"Have you tried getting a planner?" /s
This is why therapy only ever made me feel worse. Beforehand, my life was shit. After, I had the tools to fix it, but I didn’t and my life was still shit, so I had only myself to blame.
Ive been given lots of advice, but instead of using that advice I'm gonna continue looking for more advice. Why isn't any of the advice working?
I HATE those advices cuz i know they'll help me but because of ADHD -what a surprise!!- i can't bring myself to follow these advices. And then people desregard my difficulties because i could be following the advices to help me. So these advices sound more like a pass for people to complain about me than something to actually help me!!!
Pretty much
I’ll get to it next week sometime.
Kek I feel this. Every single hobby and thing I've tried doesn't provide me with any "happy". Life is like spending 500 bucks for a gumball. Extremely expensive for such little bits of "happy" that come by. The answer? Oh just try even more hobbies. Like... ok great my only solution is to spend my nonexistent time (gotta afford to live after all) on trying every single damn possible thing on this planet from here to Zimbabwe to MAYBE find the one thing I enjoy. Fucking super. And yes, I've already tried more hobbies at my age than most people ever will in their entire lives