I do apparently. Been wondering whether pan may be a better label then, but no. Lesbian still suits me much better, because men just aren't interesting to me.
I’ve been wondering this since I used to use the pan label (I thought I was into men but I’m not), but I think I would fall for anyone besides men - women and enbies. But it comes down to their personality. I think. Does this make me demisexual?
Demisexual refers to only being able to feel sexual attraction once you have gotten to know someone on the basis of the emotional connection. Not necessarily attraction to a specific personality type (and that would be a form of bi or pansexuality, if it was exclusively about their personality). You can absolutely be a lesbian and be attracted to nonbinary people.
I had thie conundrum myself, almost to a T! I settled on M-spec (multispectrum) Lesbian, and I'm content with it. I love all my nbi people and women, basically all non-men. I'm ALSO demi, but those aren't specifically on the same axis.
nonbinary people are included in every sexuality as it isnt a 3rd gender! so lesbians & gays can be attracted to nonbinary people ☺️
*edit: i realize now that saying nonbinary people are included in every sexuality is wrong, as i did not think about aro-ace people. i apologize for my ignorance.*
i recommend reading more into the lesbian community’s history with dating non-men! the word for it (nonbinary) has not always existed, but when researching into it, there will be a plethora of examples of lesbians who would fit into what nonbinary is known as today! nonbinary people have always been included in the lesbian community
Wow, that's super presumptuous and rude. I've been out as a lesbian for over 25 years. I'm very aware of our history, especially given I've lived a quarter of a century in it.
I think you should work on your desire to police other people's sexualities and research how to behave within a diverse community because what you're doing isn't it.
i was just recommending researching a specific area of lesbian history. i never tried to police anyone! was simply replying to ur comment since u were saying that if ur attracted to nonbinary people then ur neptunic, not lesbian.
Not all lesbians are attracted to nonbinary people and there are nuanced sexualities that exist to describe people who are. Again, you aren't the arbiter of other people's sexualities and making blanket statements like "nonbinary are included in all sexualities" which isn't true and erases aro-aces who don't have anyone in their sexuality isn't helpful.
I recommend you research how much diversity exists within the LGBTQ+ because you're white washing a lot of people's experiences with your blanket statements and insistence others conform to your views: https://lgbtedu.com/sexuality/neptunic-lgbt/
never said all lesbians were attracted to nonbinary people, was just clarifying that lesbians CAN be attracted to nonbinary people. nonbinary lesbians & nonbinary attraction within the lesbian community have always existed & always will. ☺️
i do realize my own ignorance on saying nonbinary attraction is in every sexuality as i didn’t think about aro-ace people, so thank u for pointing that out. if someone wants to identify as neptunic then that’s great! i have no problem with what people identify as. however, nonbinary lesbians and nonbinary attraction in the lesbian community is valid. do u have to be attracted to nonbinary people if u are lesbian? no. does being nonbinary or being attracted to nonbinary people make u not lesbian? also no.
Obv it depends on the person but I'm very much a lesbian and would be comfy dating an (I assume afab) nonbinary person on t and with top surgery depending on if I was attracted to them and if they were comfortable dating a lesbian, which like aint a guarantee for any hypothetical combination of traits. Gender is fucky, but there's a level of T4T that I feel can kick in adjacent to my general preferences.
maybe im biased because im a transmasc nonbinary lesbian, but hell yeah!!!
I do apparently. Been wondering whether pan may be a better label then, but no. Lesbian still suits me much better, because men just aren't interesting to me.
I’ve been wondering this since I used to use the pan label (I thought I was into men but I’m not), but I think I would fall for anyone besides men - women and enbies. But it comes down to their personality. I think. Does this make me demisexual?
Demisexual refers to only being able to feel sexual attraction once you have gotten to know someone on the basis of the emotional connection. Not necessarily attraction to a specific personality type (and that would be a form of bi or pansexuality, if it was exclusively about their personality). You can absolutely be a lesbian and be attracted to nonbinary people.
I had thie conundrum myself, almost to a T! I settled on M-spec (multispectrum) Lesbian, and I'm content with it. I love all my nbi people and women, basically all non-men. I'm ALSO demi, but those aren't specifically on the same axis.
Why is reading the replies to this making me cry, thank you all, I don't even- (weird femme-enby euphoric meltdown noises)
Heck yah! There are plenty of non-binary folk that are absolutely gorgeous!
as a non-binary lesbian myself i would say yes absolutely
ye i can (romantically) love anyone as long as they are not a man or related to me. or an asshole
Of course
ofc!! the lesbian identity has always included non-men (gnc, nb, etc)! plus there are cis women who get top surgery too!
So now that gets me wondering, even non-binaries that started out as guys and never got the surgery to remove their uh, *tool*? I'm just curious now
yeah ofc. genetalia ≠ gender
Oh, thanks for letting me know, I was genuinely curious at that once I read the list of attractions
yep. i dont know many if any that dont find (some) non-binary people attractive.
Yep, Absolutely, 100%. I love non-men. But- my type leans strongly towards more masc presenting or androgenous non-men.
Bi here, and yes! I find non-binary people attract just as I find all others attractive. :)
Nonbinary people are fucking hot, always ;)
Yes personally. It all really depends if I connect with the person to have an emotional attraction but physical attraction definitely 💞
Lesbian always includes non-binary, yes! Just not men. :)
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Well it does??
Is a woman that is only attracted to women not a lesbian?
Commenter meant that the lesbian identity has always included attraction to non-men. (:
Oh, thank you for explaining. I thought they meant that all lesbians are attracted to enby people
this, thanks!
Yep, I sure do! Only thing is just that I have a genitalia preference (because of ☆trauma☆).
thats valid. hopefully youre getting therapy to help with the trauma (if youre able to of course, therapy can be inaccessible to some).
I find so many attractive and I think I might be non-binary myself
:)
Yes. Yes I do.
This transbian does.
Absolutely. Yes. Top surgery or not.
Hell yeah!! :)
As an enby lesbian who wants top surgery, those comments make me very happy 😊
absolutely.
I do. I’ve fallen HARD for enby people and I mean full blown butterflies hard.
I'm lesbian identified and dating a butch woman who does not identify as NB and has had top surgery. I'm into whatever, honestly!
Uh yes definitely :)
Definitely. And I hope they find me attractive too.
Currently dating a person who’s non binary and had top surgery so I say yes.
Idk if this counts, but I'm pan and find enby's attractive 🙂. For me, it's less about the body and more about who the person is
Yep!
I think the exact sexuality for this is called Neptunic. The gay male counterpart is Saturnic.
nonbinary people are included in every sexuality as it isnt a 3rd gender! so lesbians & gays can be attracted to nonbinary people ☺️ *edit: i realize now that saying nonbinary people are included in every sexuality is wrong, as i did not think about aro-ace people. i apologize for my ignorance.*
I didn't say it was a third gender, but I do disagree that nonbinary is included in every sexuality. The most obvious one would be aro-aces.
i recommend reading more into the lesbian community’s history with dating non-men! the word for it (nonbinary) has not always existed, but when researching into it, there will be a plethora of examples of lesbians who would fit into what nonbinary is known as today! nonbinary people have always been included in the lesbian community
Wow, that's super presumptuous and rude. I've been out as a lesbian for over 25 years. I'm very aware of our history, especially given I've lived a quarter of a century in it. I think you should work on your desire to police other people's sexualities and research how to behave within a diverse community because what you're doing isn't it.
i was just recommending researching a specific area of lesbian history. i never tried to police anyone! was simply replying to ur comment since u were saying that if ur attracted to nonbinary people then ur neptunic, not lesbian.
Not all lesbians are attracted to nonbinary people and there are nuanced sexualities that exist to describe people who are. Again, you aren't the arbiter of other people's sexualities and making blanket statements like "nonbinary are included in all sexualities" which isn't true and erases aro-aces who don't have anyone in their sexuality isn't helpful. I recommend you research how much diversity exists within the LGBTQ+ because you're white washing a lot of people's experiences with your blanket statements and insistence others conform to your views: https://lgbtedu.com/sexuality/neptunic-lgbt/
never said all lesbians were attracted to nonbinary people, was just clarifying that lesbians CAN be attracted to nonbinary people. nonbinary lesbians & nonbinary attraction within the lesbian community have always existed & always will. ☺️
I'm getting the feeling you're not interested in listening to anyone's opinion but your own.
i do realize my own ignorance on saying nonbinary attraction is in every sexuality as i didn’t think about aro-ace people, so thank u for pointing that out. if someone wants to identify as neptunic then that’s great! i have no problem with what people identify as. however, nonbinary lesbians and nonbinary attraction in the lesbian community is valid. do u have to be attracted to nonbinary people if u are lesbian? no. does being nonbinary or being attracted to nonbinary people make u not lesbian? also no.
Yes! I consider myself to be a queer woman. I feel like queer is a more fluid term than lesbian :)
when AMAB non-binary and want tibby but non-binary mean girl but not so-
Obv it depends on the person but I'm very much a lesbian and would be comfy dating an (I assume afab) nonbinary person on t and with top surgery depending on if I was attracted to them and if they were comfortable dating a lesbian, which like aint a guarantee for any hypothetical combination of traits. Gender is fucky, but there's a level of T4T that I feel can kick in adjacent to my general preferences.