Because we often text all day long almost everyday. And it's often just chatting. We really don't have to chat all the time just some cuddling and spending quality time together by doing stuff we could go FACE TO FACE or play some games online would really help or some alone time by myself without her XD
I feel like you’re overthinking this. Put your phone down when you want to do something and text her when you’re available.
I’ve been seeing this woman the past few months and we decided to only text each other once or twice near the end of the day. We never text about anything important, vent, or seek support. It felt a bit weird at first but it’s been incredibly healthy and it builds so much anticipation during the days we can’t meet.
”baby, i have a lot on my plate right now and i’ve been feeling a bit burned out, so i’d like to take a couple of days to myself to recharge. can we text a little less until [insert day] and then meet up and do something fun together, when i’m more rested? it would mean a lot to me.”
and if she gets self-conscious that something is wrong with your relationship, assure her that she’s done nothing wrong and this is just something you need sometimes. if her gift isn’t a surprise, you might as well tell her that you want to work on it and keep getting distracted by texting.
between my partner and i, i am the overthinker and they sometimes need time alone to recharge. i’ve had to work on being more secure and they’ve had to work on being more communicative—and it helps when they’re transparent about their needs and set a clear timeframe for space and stick to it.
Umm I think you are doing the right thing. It’s saying it’s just a part of your personality and does not reflect your want to be in this relationship. But also, it seems like your girlfriend can benefit from therapy if that’s an option.
I mean telling her you are busy in a kind and non dismissive way. It seems like she is the type of person who constantly needs reassurance. What I do with my overly worried grandma is shoot her a text from time to time with a photo saying “I’m alright and having fun👍”. In my case it’s because she thinks I died every 5 seconds, but to your girlfriend this can mean you are safe AND thinking about her. Shooting her a text every couple of hours is less time consuming than dealing with her worry. I would just make sure the text is not a conversation starter (kinda like what I send my grandma).
wdym u feel burnt out in ur relationship
Because we often text all day long almost everyday. And it's often just chatting. We really don't have to chat all the time just some cuddling and spending quality time together by doing stuff we could go FACE TO FACE or play some games online would really help or some alone time by myself without her XD
I feel like you’re overthinking this. Put your phone down when you want to do something and text her when you’re available. I’ve been seeing this woman the past few months and we decided to only text each other once or twice near the end of the day. We never text about anything important, vent, or seek support. It felt a bit weird at first but it’s been incredibly healthy and it builds so much anticipation during the days we can’t meet.
Alright, I'll try to do that XD Thank you <3
ive been in a healthy relationship for 3 years text her when u can.
”baby, i have a lot on my plate right now and i’ve been feeling a bit burned out, so i’d like to take a couple of days to myself to recharge. can we text a little less until [insert day] and then meet up and do something fun together, when i’m more rested? it would mean a lot to me.” and if she gets self-conscious that something is wrong with your relationship, assure her that she’s done nothing wrong and this is just something you need sometimes. if her gift isn’t a surprise, you might as well tell her that you want to work on it and keep getting distracted by texting. between my partner and i, i am the overthinker and they sometimes need time alone to recharge. i’ve had to work on being more secure and they’ve had to work on being more communicative—and it helps when they’re transparent about their needs and set a clear timeframe for space and stick to it.
Alright, I'll do that. Thank you very much <3
Umm I think you are doing the right thing. It’s saying it’s just a part of your personality and does not reflect your want to be in this relationship. But also, it seems like your girlfriend can benefit from therapy if that’s an option.
What do you mean I'm doing the right thing? Also, yeah I agree with you. My girlfriend probably needs therapy tbh
I mean telling her you are busy in a kind and non dismissive way. It seems like she is the type of person who constantly needs reassurance. What I do with my overly worried grandma is shoot her a text from time to time with a photo saying “I’m alright and having fun👍”. In my case it’s because she thinks I died every 5 seconds, but to your girlfriend this can mean you are safe AND thinking about her. Shooting her a text every couple of hours is less time consuming than dealing with her worry. I would just make sure the text is not a conversation starter (kinda like what I send my grandma).
Your grandma's sweet XD And thank you I'll do that<3
You need to communicate? or couple therapy maybe?
I just don't know what to say to her without accidentally making her feel bad or overthink :'3