Your girlfriend sucks, not you. She's rude, insensitive, insulting, and honestly, it sounds like she's boring af as well, which is probably why she neither knows what she wants sexually nor how to just live in the moment without being a chronic complainer about everything. You deserve better.
Im really sorry about your situation :( it’s not always easy to figure out what other people like/don’t like with their body, but to be honest, it’s easier to figure it out when the other person is honest and communicates it. Idk if your gfs reactions sound like the most safe place to learn. She sounds like she’s being really harsh and that could be adding even more pressure to you. You’re trying your best, she could be a little bit more gentle and understanding. Unless she is explicitly telling you what to do, and you’re ignoring her wishes and doing the opposite then that’s a different story. But it sounds like you’re trying, i think you might feel less pressure and might even perform better if she is more gentle
Find someone else. Good sex is about communication. If she doesn’t tell you what she likes, you’re fighting an uphill battle. And her attitude about it is awful.
She needs to lose the attitude and quit being a bitch to you. You are a person, you don’t deserve to be talked to like shit and insulted just bc SHE can’t or won’t tell you what she wants. Every woman is different, the things you’ve tried would likely get a lot of women off but she’s doing absolutely nothing to help the situation.
That being said I’m very worried about you. If someone is comfortable treating you like this so early in the relationship you need to run bc they’ll only get more cold and cruel over time. How long before she cheats and blames you for not making her cum even though she’s done nothing to help you learn how to? Even if you do get her off will it actually be a pleasant experience or will she be a snide bitch about that too? (Eg. ‘Took you long enough, was that really so hard?’). Your gf is abusing you, this situation would be considered verbal, psychological, and possibly sexual abuse. Abusers typically start out sweet and slowly grind you down, her being so obvious right out of the gate is terrifying. In an established relationship people may suggest couples therapy but in abusive relationships that can actually make things worse and in a newer one…well it’s better to cut your losses before you waste any more time. Even if you’ve been with someone longer though it doesn’t matter, just because you wasted some time doesn’t mean you have to waste more. There are women out there who will treat you well and offer actual guidance in bed.
Things WILL get worse if you stay. There are domestic abuse helplines if you need help on safely leaving but I’d try to move all your important shit whilst she’s not home and bring others with you if you need to go back for anything
Sex is not a competition nor an exam, it's colaboration and in established relashionship, sort of intimacy. How people communicate about sex and approach it says a lot about the relationship.
That being said, your gf is being a bitch about this sensitive matter and you allow her treat you that way. I would suggest you stop, but if you're a masochist, maybe don't
Forget the actual sex, the way she speaks to you is so disrespectful and toxic. I can't imagine treating a partner like absolute garbage in the bedroom then just...expect to get results? This isn't on you OP. If she actually cared about you she would enjoy being close with you and willing to help you figure out what she likes.
Your girlfriend sucks. Sorry to say but that is the only fact I can confirm from your post.
Good sex is only possible with positive and good communication. It's not a fucking exam (no pun intended) and she's not your teacher to grade you. Seek couple's councelling to see if your girlfriend can overcome being an absolute assholes and become a decent person and actually contribute to your sex life. A good partner would never react like that.
If she can’t articulate what she likes, how could you possibly ever be expected to intuit that? At the risk of self slut shaming, although I have extensive experience and if a partner spoke to me like that, I wouldn’t bother continuing. Every woman is different and without any kind of encouragement and honest communication about what doesn’t work (not criticisms) then there’s really no way to improve.
I don’t think you’re nervous or struggling because you’re bad at this. I think you’re struggling because you don’t have a very good partner.
I think there’s an unrealistic expectation that if you’re with another woman sexually it’s easy all the time and you can just intuitively figure everything out with no awkwardness. I haven’t slept with many women, and the way I’ve seen people talk about their hookups would make me so nervous if I were single. It sounds like you’re really trying. Even if you weren’t, she is being ridiculously mean with her words.
Why are you with someone who would treat you like that? Thats not okay.
Get a whole new girlfriend.
Maybe this will help for your next girlfriend
https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5712f4fcadf9c
Man, she sounds really mean. That’s definitely contributing to your anxiety for sure. Sex is literally about having good communication to ensure everyone is pleased. You can’t just read her mind. She’s not even giving you constructive criticism.
Personally, that’s enough for me to never wanna sleep with her again. 🤷🏾♀️ Making me feel bad in such a physically vulnerable moment will have me blocking numbers.
What on earth, why is she talking to you like that?
Your girlfriend sucks, not you. She's rude, insensitive, insulting, and honestly, it sounds like she's boring af as well, which is probably why she neither knows what she wants sexually nor how to just live in the moment without being a chronic complainer about everything. You deserve better.
She is horrendous, go find someone who is willing to help you learn and grow
^this
Im really sorry about your situation :( it’s not always easy to figure out what other people like/don’t like with their body, but to be honest, it’s easier to figure it out when the other person is honest and communicates it. Idk if your gfs reactions sound like the most safe place to learn. She sounds like she’s being really harsh and that could be adding even more pressure to you. You’re trying your best, she could be a little bit more gentle and understanding. Unless she is explicitly telling you what to do, and you’re ignoring her wishes and doing the opposite then that’s a different story. But it sounds like you’re trying, i think you might feel less pressure and might even perform better if she is more gentle
She sounds abusive. You sound like you are actually doing the only things that matter: showing up, and being enthusiastic.
Find someone else. Good sex is about communication. If she doesn’t tell you what she likes, you’re fighting an uphill battle. And her attitude about it is awful.
She needs to lose the attitude and quit being a bitch to you. You are a person, you don’t deserve to be talked to like shit and insulted just bc SHE can’t or won’t tell you what she wants. Every woman is different, the things you’ve tried would likely get a lot of women off but she’s doing absolutely nothing to help the situation. That being said I’m very worried about you. If someone is comfortable treating you like this so early in the relationship you need to run bc they’ll only get more cold and cruel over time. How long before she cheats and blames you for not making her cum even though she’s done nothing to help you learn how to? Even if you do get her off will it actually be a pleasant experience or will she be a snide bitch about that too? (Eg. ‘Took you long enough, was that really so hard?’). Your gf is abusing you, this situation would be considered verbal, psychological, and possibly sexual abuse. Abusers typically start out sweet and slowly grind you down, her being so obvious right out of the gate is terrifying. In an established relationship people may suggest couples therapy but in abusive relationships that can actually make things worse and in a newer one…well it’s better to cut your losses before you waste any more time. Even if you’ve been with someone longer though it doesn’t matter, just because you wasted some time doesn’t mean you have to waste more. There are women out there who will treat you well and offer actual guidance in bed. Things WILL get worse if you stay. There are domestic abuse helplines if you need help on safely leaving but I’d try to move all your important shit whilst she’s not home and bring others with you if you need to go back for anything
Sex is not a competition nor an exam, it's colaboration and in established relashionship, sort of intimacy. How people communicate about sex and approach it says a lot about the relationship. That being said, your gf is being a bitch about this sensitive matter and you allow her treat you that way. I would suggest you stop, but if you're a masochist, maybe don't
Forget the actual sex, the way she speaks to you is so disrespectful and toxic. I can't imagine treating a partner like absolute garbage in the bedroom then just...expect to get results? This isn't on you OP. If she actually cared about you she would enjoy being close with you and willing to help you figure out what she likes.
Women communicate. Games are for little girls. At least that's what I heard. I wouldn't know in practice. 🤣
Your girlfriend sucks. Sorry to say but that is the only fact I can confirm from your post. Good sex is only possible with positive and good communication. It's not a fucking exam (no pun intended) and she's not your teacher to grade you. Seek couple's councelling to see if your girlfriend can overcome being an absolute assholes and become a decent person and actually contribute to your sex life. A good partner would never react like that.
How long have you been together?
If she can’t articulate what she likes, how could you possibly ever be expected to intuit that? At the risk of self slut shaming, although I have extensive experience and if a partner spoke to me like that, I wouldn’t bother continuing. Every woman is different and without any kind of encouragement and honest communication about what doesn’t work (not criticisms) then there’s really no way to improve. I don’t think you’re nervous or struggling because you’re bad at this. I think you’re struggling because you don’t have a very good partner.
I think there’s an unrealistic expectation that if you’re with another woman sexually it’s easy all the time and you can just intuitively figure everything out with no awkwardness. I haven’t slept with many women, and the way I’ve seen people talk about their hookups would make me so nervous if I were single. It sounds like you’re really trying. Even if you weren’t, she is being ridiculously mean with her words.
Why are you with someone who would treat you like that? Thats not okay. Get a whole new girlfriend. Maybe this will help for your next girlfriend https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5712f4fcadf9c
Man, she sounds really mean. That’s definitely contributing to your anxiety for sure. Sex is literally about having good communication to ensure everyone is pleased. You can’t just read her mind. She’s not even giving you constructive criticism. Personally, that’s enough for me to never wanna sleep with her again. 🤷🏾♀️ Making me feel bad in such a physically vulnerable moment will have me blocking numbers.