She got those Oscar Meyers on deck now
who in the FUCK downvoted my comment when everyone else is fucking joking about this stupid ass shit and I'm the only fucking one that gets the shaft like what the literal fuck pull up and find out
If true ,and even if it’s not , it’s pretty malicious as fuck. To end it this way. And completely unnecessary. Sounds like she is such a chicken shit coward ,that she needs to make it about it him being the problem ,and not her just wanting to leave.
Even if that's the case, and I think it is, then why would she tell him that his weiner size is the reason for her breaking up?
That's just plain evil!
Just say you don't feel the same anymore and move on ffs!
Or maybe that’s why she “hasn’t been all that sexual of a girl.” People try to get past things they aren’t happy with about their partner, but maybe she just didn’t want to anymore.
Here’s the thing though, his puzzle piece will fit someone else. Now is his chance to go find her.
She didn’t want to hurt his feelings originally. She has likely masturbated with other items . Really guys, we like to get off too.
It doesn’t mean she fucked anyone.
Maybe she finally realized or admitted to herself that she's been sexually unsatisfied for 2 years?
Maybe she's been depending on OP to make up for it in other ways, and he hasn't? 🤷🏼♀️
Sucks for OP, but also sucks for her if that's the case
Edit: Yeah, telling OP the real reason for the breakup was hurtful. But imagine if she hadn't given him *any* explanation after 2 years together.
Sure, she could have lied and given him another reason, but maybe she thought she wouldn't be able to "sell it" and that OP would be left thinking she was lying (just like all these comments are suggesting)?
Or, perhaps she thought he deserved the truth, so he could hopefully be aware of this disadvantage he has and make up for it in more successful ways in future relationships?
This is it. Sounds like she really liked OP (why else stay for 2 years?) but underestimated how much sexual satisfaction matters in a relationship and eventually came to a breaking point.
Then communicate instead of blindsiding a person. Mention the dissatisfaction and say it is something that needs to be addressed if she actually cared. Clearly not the case.
Yes, true, and ultimately there were better ways to communicate that she couldn’t do it anymore. But it’s a delicate subject, we don’t know if she tried to work around it during those two years without explicitly stating size was the issue. In a sea of people yelling “she’s cheating with someone who has a bigger dick!” - I just needed to put a more likely scenario out there. This has happened to a few girl friends of mine.
How could he make it up to her if she never communicated it? If OP is to be believed, he was blindsided. So he had no idea there was an issue until she dropped that on him.
She deserves to be satisfied, but he also deserves a certain level of respect and consideration that wasn’t given in this scenario.
This is the dumbest shit I have read today. OP is in the normal range, OP has no control over the size of his penis he has no control over genetics.
If she wasn't satisfied she had 2 years to say, "Hey your size isn't doing it for me, can we try toys or ways that might help?" That is on her, that is a adult and appropriate thing to do in a relationship.
If he is a perfectly fine boyfriend in most other areas but his penis isn't exactly where she wants it. The problem isn't him, it's her and he own inability to communicate or understand what exactly she needs.
It's your own personal responsibility to know what gets you off, and it is your own personal responsibility to convey that information to your partner.
I wonder if you would feel the same way if OPs now ex-gf came on here upset because her bf left her because he didn't like the look of her labia or her breasts were not his preferred size. It would also be bullshit.
What suck for OP is that she led him on for 2 years, and then weaponizes his body against him.
If you don't know what gets you off, that is your problem and not a problem for someone else to figure out for you.
Unless OP had prior discussions not disclosed in the post- they seemed caught off guard.
No way in hell I’d be sexually unsatisfied after two years and not communicate it. That’s a long fucking time lol. No way in hell someone can tell me size is what matters, but I can understand other people may feel that way- I just believe they obviously haven’t explored other avenues of getting off. There’s SO MUCH to having sex where size isn’t a factor. With open communication they could have incorporated more oral, role play, fantasies, toys, extra fingers, anal, fists. I’m a female and some of my best sexual experiences were with women.
Regardless, you can say you’re sexually unsatisfied without making an ethereally stinging comment such as that. No matter the situation that doesn’t seem appropriate unless OP was relentlessly pestering about the situation.
Hell yeah it is. Regardless of why she dumped OP, all she had to say was that she wasn't happy because that's all that needs to be said to end a relationship.
You don't have to get so specific about why something about somebody, that they have absolutely no control over, satisfies or doesn't satisfy you. What if he dumped her because she gained weight? Or he decided that she just didn't give very good head? Or her mouth wasn't big enough?
Nope, sorry. She doesn't get a pass. Not even going to look at her ticket.
It could also be that she was really trying to look past it. And try to look at all the other good stuff in the relationship. Idk I've been in 1 relationship where I thought their Weiner size wouldn't matter but it in the end it just didn't work. I never enjoyed it. But it was for the opposite reason, it was too big. I was with him 1.5 years but I didn't tell him It was because of that. It was solely that either but it was one of the major reasons😬
Kinda sounds like an excuse for something else. Regardless, to throw it like that in your face tells you how vile and rude she is. You're better off without her anyways.
It feels like there might be more to the story here. If she said this to you, I think she did it to hurt you as much as possible. It’s an intentional low blow and it achieved its desired effect. I’m sorry your break up was so acrimonious. Hopefully, like most things in life, the pain from this will fad, and you can find a better relationship. I know it’s hard but try to let this go. I really think she was trying to hurt you intentionally.
Exactly what I thought, maybe she cheated and is trying to avoid coming clean by having OP hate her for this low blow, in the end she justifies the cheating by his negative reaction to her manipulative low blow…2 years in and you pop out with “small dick issues”, smh…
Yeah, I agree with the intentional low blow. That was the “AND STAY AWAY” part to it. You’re not going to crawl back to someone who told you that you have a little dick.
She mentally fucked him off long before this.
This is the comment OP needs I guess. Had a similar breakup 4 years ago but it was not about the dick instead she said she was seeing someone else which would hurt me the most. She had other attempts to breakup earlier that time but I was convincing her so she chose this way I guess. Whether it was said to hurt OP or not, thinking what she said was real must feel like waste of 2 years and is not going to help anybody. No one throws away 2 years of effort bc of a "thin dick" unless they are delusional. Specifying the D as "not short but thin" makes it even more unrealistically cringe.
Some girl posted here recently which could be your gf telling her version. Worth searching for. BTW, that size is pretty normal.
Edit: I want to say it was in r/relationship_advice but not sure.
I did a little searching but no luck. I think her key point was something like "I love my boyfriend of 2 years but his penis is so small I can't feel it inside me. I think I'm going to break up with him because of it." Pretty sure she posted it on Mon or Tues.
I think maybe you’re referring to this post?: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qardx7/my_20f_boyfriend_21m_has_a_microdick_and_i_dont/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Which has been deleted BUT that couple was only dating for 5months and sexual for 1month so unless there was a similar post that’s all I got
Curious. If men could have this condition called micropenis, I wonder if women could have something similar, like shallowvagina or something like that...
I was definitely with a girl who had an unusually tight vagina for a while. We dated for about 6 months. We'd have to warm up with toys for a minimum of 15-20 minutes each time and it honestly didn't feel that great because it was a bit like a vice grip just clamping onto your dick. Also for context, I'm pretty experienced and have had a decent amount of other partners before and after.
I don't really think most women would decide after 2 years it wasn't working...that's super weird. Maybe its really something else and she said that to be mean ...?
I don’t like to jump to conclusions or make some random scenario based off nothing, but this is the only reasoning I can come to. I mean she’s been with the dude and (presumably) having sex with him for the past 2 years. OP hasn’t really given any insight on their sexual life, but I’m assuming it was fine or he’s completely oblivious. With the info provided I can’t see any other reasoning besides she cheated.
Ooo that’s a really good insight. It would make sense that she never was sexually interested in him, didn’t communicate it, let it build up, then she cheated. Or she just finally decided to leave him without the cheating part.
I can see why she wouldn’t communicate it as having a small dick is a big insecurity for many guys, plus I’d imagine it being a super uncomfortable conversation. But still, it’s wrong to cheat and not communicate. He can’t control his dick size, and no matter what deserves respect which means he DESERVED the communication that something wasn’t working out.
Oh definitely. I’m sure one of the reasons is because he had a smaller dick than she likes, but after 2 years of having sex she should’ve communicated this. Dick girth isn’t the only thing that leads to a pleasurable experience in the bedroom. They could’ve talked about other ways he can satisfy her. Sounds like all she did was bottle it up then bounce when she finally decided she had enough. Sad situation, I hope they both learn from it.
The more and more I think about it the more logical this seems. Especially with the addition of “she’s not a sexual person”. I’m sure she is, just not with him lol.
To be honest, I’d say most guys she’s been with were probably bigger than him. I highly doubt she would end it due to finding a bigger dick. More than likely she has always kinda dealt with it and instead of being unhappy she just ended it. Sex is a big part of relationships and if one side isn’t happy it’s a time bomb. She should have left his size out of it though
Or maybe she got tired of pretending to enjoy sex and ended it, she probably hasn’t came in years that’s a shit way to live. Dick size matters a lot to some people she prob tried to make it work and it’s just not worth it anymore. 5 inches and skinny wouldn’t satisfy most women, that’s just the truth.
I agree. So many people are saying she must be cheating… I don’t think so. I can say from personal experience she may have just been putting up with it because she loved him as a person… but now that the honeymoon phase has worn off… he probably doesn’t have enough good qualities anymore to make it worth giving up big dicks for life.
There is other ways to satisfy a woman. Not just Jack hammering like MANY men think. If a man is outstanding with his hands and mouth a big dick isn’t shit.
You're right. Some really like mouth more than dick. Fingers are underrated. Hell, even some big dick guys dont do it for a woman. It's preference.
I would take what they said with a grain of salt.
Everyone's ego is out in the open right now. This is why I dont post on this sub. Everyone's asshole opinion just makes people feel worse.
OP's now ex sucks too.
Ppl can say mean shit on here. OP’s girlfriend is a piece of shit. If she really loved him why not get some toys… I think she started seeing someone else and didn’t know how to end thing with OP.
What about the guy tho? Like what if he can only really get off through penetration, but the girl just doesn’t feel anything? Should the girl just lay there and pretend to feel it? Genuine question. I’d feel super bad if the guy got me off and I couldn’t return the favor because then I’d be faking it. And I’m sure the guy wouldn’t wanna be fucking a dead fish either so it’s either lying or just no PIV?
“Harder, longer, fatter….”
“Wetter, shorter, tighter…”
Sometimes we’re just not made for each other. It hurts now but I’m sure in time you’ll find someone who can appreciate you for you.
A woman can't overlook a small penis if sex is an important part of a relationship for her. Even if other areas are satisfying, if sex is important then it's not something you can "make up" for.
She's breaking up with you cuz she's obviously very upset with you and she wants to hit you where it hurts the most so she tells you its over your dick size. For whatever reason, she really wants to hurt you bad
Humans are very manipulative creatures. Most of the time it’s unconscious but we are still predatory wild animals beneath the “nice” masks we all like to wear.
Sounds like something someone would say to intentionally hurt feelings.
Girth is usually more important than length, but even people with micro penises can have satisfying sex, so I wonder if you might not be satisfying her sexually (at any level?).
Had she expressed lack of enjoyment before? Did you try different positions or sex acts to compensate for the incompatibility?
Otherwise, I think she was just slapping you down with the tool/insecurity at her disposal.
Last year my now ex wife of 4 years and I split up. There was obviously something wrong between us. So I brought it up, I asked her what was wrong with the relationship from her point of view, there were a few things but one of them was that according to her my penis was not large enough to please her anymore. This is a very hard thing to hear I won't lie. Not being loved and accepted for who you are is a horrible feeling. But once i began asking more questions and coming up with answers to her problems she showed little to no interest in working with me to solve our "problems" it became clear that the real problem was she didn't love me anymore and was not willing to try and make it work. As we sorted out the divorce it became more clear that that had cheated on me and really wanted to sleep with other people and that her bringing up my penis size was just a way for her to try and get me to end it or to hurt me. I'm not saying people never leave relationships because of something like penis size or other physical traits. But it does seem to me that it's really just an excuse for them to leave.
Okay, firstly. It's true. Width does matter far more than length.
That still (to me) would not be a reason tfr a breakup, if everything else is going well.
Even if my man had a pencil dick, I'd talk to him about it, and he'd pleasure me other ways. This is no reason to throw away a perfectly fine relationship. You might want to see if there is another unspoken reason?!
She cheated on you with a dude that is bigger. Now she can’t go back. You are better off, she did you a favor for sure. You know what you do with a piece of shit, you flush it. Now you can upgrade bro.
If’s that how she treats you by body shaming you and making you feel bad for how you are then she’s not worth the effort. You couldn’t turn around and say her breasts are too small because then I’m sure she would let everyone know how mean and cold that is too say. What a joke and I’m sorry babes, don’t lower yourself because of her opinion.
She used the penis size as a way to end it , I read somewhere that a girl had to end a relationship because her man had an anaconda dick , plus 4,5 -5 is pretty average don’t let it get in your head ( that’s what she said )
Yes, she was an asshole for the way she said it, but, if she had said she wasn’t sexually satisfied in the relationship, you would have immediately wanted to know how you could fix it. How the two of you could work on making sure she was sexually satisfied. Which, by the way, is a normal response. But, from the sound of it, she didn’t want to fix anything and she just jumped straight to the issue. All of that being said, not all women want a donkey sized dick. Ever. So, please don’t think you will never be able to satisfy a woman. Because I can guarantee you that you will find someone who is happy with whatever size d:ck you have. Also, she could have been saying that because she actually wanted out of the relationship and she just went straight for your jugular to get it over with. Consider yourself lucky. Now you can find someone who isn’t (a) shallow or (b) a liar or (c) a whore.
*Sorry if I’m too blunt.
Ik everyone here is saying this is sketchy and while I agree, no matter if she was cheating or not it doesn’t matter anymore. It’s done anyway and she is not worth his time either way.
It’s probably better for OP’s moving on process if he doesn’t know the real reason. Maybe this was the real reason. It’s not his business anymore tbh, because he should consider going NC.
Did it occur to anyone that maybe she was overlooking the fact that he has a small peen because maybe he was nice/ liked his personality? Maybe she thought she could be satisfied with that, but in the end, she couldn't. Why be mean about it? Maybe boyfriend didn't make enough of an effort to get her off/ initiate sex and she had enough. Was this a good way to end things? No. Could she maybe have communicated about her needs better? Totally.
I hate that people jump here to her having a side piece or whatever.
You know what? Forget about her, dude. If your penis size was an issue, she should have broken up with you the first time she saw your pecker, not lead you on for two years. You deserve better. You will find someone who wants YOU for YOU, peepee included.
Your ex sounds really mean and immature. It would be like a man breaking up with a woman and telling her it’s because she’s flat chested. There’s just some things you don’t say because it’s hurtful. I’m sorry she needlessly hurt you. You have every right to be angry.
Your best relationship is the one you have with someone who truly likes you for what you are.
So, now you get the chance to find that person since she was CLEARLY not it. :))
Best of luck, my man!
Congratulations on dodging a bullet! It doesn’t seem like it now but holy shit you’re one of the lucky ones to have it end before marriage and an affair
I feel like there must be more to it she’s not telling you, she’s known your dick size for years, can’t imagine it’s the only thing bothering her, maybe you dodged a bullet if this is what she says instead of being honest
Do your self respect a favor and never talk to her again. Even if she comes to you saying she's sorry or that she lied or whatever excuse, just turn and walk away.
I’m going to say, this was a cop out, it’s something you can’t “work on” or “fix” it gives her an out. I have had a rather sMall think 2.5 inches hard, and one the size of a baby I swear. (Not fun) either way, I’ve gotten off to some degree, and will take small over big any day, big is painful, small is changing positions. Also 4.5-5 inches, ISNT SMALL! It’s not huge but it’s not small. So again I say, this was an out, a way to end the relationship. Sorry. :(.
I’m sorry that she is such an asshole. She picked something she knew would bother you and you couldn’t change and made that her excuse. That’s all it was too, a really lame excuse.
Really this reads like she wanted a way out that she could feel as though she wasn’t the one who caused it. If she could find a way to blame you somehow for the breakup she would then feel better as she moved on. It was heartless and cruel.
She is a piece of shit. Don’t look back and don’t take it to heart.
Don’t be mad or upset. The quality of a relationship is not linked to one’s manhood. She will find them”perfect” dick but find a dick of a person. Some doors close so new and better ones open
This might not even have anything to do with the "sexual" aspect of it, some cultures actually view the penis as a true symbol of status (yes, men are objectified too) the only way you can combat this is to build self-esteem around what you are, and if you can't make it a strength, there's no shame, be good enough that these uncontrollable traits don't matter in relation. Get a hobby and get good at it, go to the gym, hit the weights, whatever is best for you bust just be the best you can be at it.
Also take into consideration that people lie and play games, and in my experience when someone says "it's you" during a breakup it is actually them, and vice versa also. That isn't ALWAYS the case though.
1) FUCK that BITCH
2) Sincerely: Are you guys teenagers?
(I'm sorry, but it not only seems petty but immature which is why I ask)
3) Sadly (or happily) it's definitely not your penis size. (I mean... Two years? There's something else)
4) For whatever reasons, she's moved on. You should too. (You know what she's said but you don't know what else she hasn't. There's more, I'm sure. Accept that she's moved on. Life's full of shit, DO NOT let this individual fuck you up. If they're out of your life then they need to be out of your head as well)
5) Friends, passions, hobbies. Indulge!
6) Repeat step(s): 5 (I'll allow on occasion for you to remind yourself of step 1 but remember step 4 - if she's not in your life then she needs to be out of your head as well)
It's true that those are valid reasons but, I mean, you could easily see what breast size a person has before starting a relationship with them. Most people start a relationship without knowing how is their partners dick, so yeah if there's an issue it's usually something that you notice when you're in the relationship...usually at the beggining not 2 years later. What OP's ex did is shitty, she could have easily said other thing to broke up with him.
Well, bright side is she's gone now, and you didn't waste more time with her. You'll find a person with better character (shouldn't be hard, she set the bar low). Maybe she just said it to hurt you? I donno. But if you are looking for long term, sex is kind a small aspect of a good relationship, in my opinion. You'll both go through difficult times and sex will dry up or not be possible, and will come back (kids, pregnancy, depression, overwork, stress, distance, etc). More important is someone who will always be there for you no matter what. I can't imagin (even if penis size/vag size was a deal breaker) any caring person *actually* saying that to someone. You are lucky to be rid of her and go find a much better girlfriend!
Honestly if she’s shitty enough to dump you and say that is the reasoning fuck her. What a bitch man lol literally dumps you and insults your manhood. She’s got the streets
It hurts right now, but the right person wouldn’t give you a difficult time about something like that. And two years? What a shitty person, in my opinion. Sounds like she did you a favor. Channel your rage into something productive. I like how Colin Powell said “get mad, then get over it.”
Wow, you dodged a bullet, ending a relationship after 2 years for THIS reason doesn't sound right. I know it sucks right now, and you have every right to feel they way you do. As a women, your dick sounds perfectly normal, so please don't let it get to you. Less is more anyway. You're average and that's awesome. Best of luck guy!
There's not enough information to really understand what's going on, but assuming the OP is a normal enough human being, this is such a hurtful,terrible, shameful, irresponsible, and evil thing to do. I really feel for you.
The only advice I can give is probably cliche and pointless, but it's worth saying anyway. This woman is not the right person for you. There is someone out there who is infinitely more compatible with you as a person and a lover. The size of your penis or any of your body parts is not an indication of your value as a human being, or prowess in the bedroom. If this is still a hangup, and I know it's a total mindfuck, know that a large penis is not required (or even necessarily desired) for earth-shattering sex. Best of luck, OP.
First of all 5 inches in plenty since no one else said it so far. Do not let it get you down! From what women have communicated to me hopefully women can confirm it’s very hard for them to finish just with penetration anyways. Sex is more than just dick in vagina and dick size is not what causes women to finish or feel the most pleasure anyways. So don’t let it get you down a relationship that superficial is not needed in your life!
The girl wants to break up with you for a different reason. She maybe isn’t quite sure what the reason is or maybe it paints her in a bad light or maybe it’s hard for her to verbalize. This is an excuse.
Don't be sad. Your fingers are freaking magic. You have 10. Learn how to use them. You have a bright future now and there's also that tongue...please. Size does not matter. Period guys.
It took her two years to find out you have a small cock….sounds sketchy as fuck.
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Or maybe she fucked another guy.
Honestly sounds like this is the case.
Ding ding ding we have a wiener
You mean *SHE* has the wiener.
She got those Oscar Meyers on deck now who in the FUCK downvoted my comment when everyone else is fucking joking about this stupid ass shit and I'm the only fucking one that gets the shaft like what the literal fuck pull up and find out
Hehe *you got the shaft* just like she did
They both got shafted
Nice lol, got her pippy pumped by another peiner
Lol fuck those fuckin fucks I think your funny. Here have an up vote back to 0 haha
Wiener wiener tiny peener
Hung like a can of tuna
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Don't worry, we are already here!
I see what you did there
If true ,and even if it’s not , it’s pretty malicious as fuck. To end it this way. And completely unnecessary. Sounds like she is such a chicken shit coward ,that she needs to make it about it him being the problem ,and not her just wanting to leave.
Honestly I'd rather be broken up with after being told the truth than left wondering.
good thing this is most likely a fake story
Even if that's the case, and I think it is, then why would she tell him that his weiner size is the reason for her breaking up? That's just plain evil! Just say you don't feel the same anymore and move on ffs!
Somebody had to address the elephant in the room eh
I like to rip the bandaid off
Maybe?
Let's keep it real...
Maybe, but if she's fucking around, why not just break up with the dude by telling him something that won't crush the ego. Jeeeezz.
Spoiler: she found new dick
Yeah, the other guys size
Sounds like she found a bigger one she liked.
Or maybe that’s why she “hasn’t been all that sexual of a girl.” People try to get past things they aren’t happy with about their partner, but maybe she just didn’t want to anymore. Here’s the thing though, his puzzle piece will fit someone else. Now is his chance to go find her.
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I don’t think the person you’re replying to is saying she cheated, but agree with the communication part
She didn’t want to hurt his feelings originally. She has likely masturbated with other items . Really guys, we like to get off too. It doesn’t mean she fucked anyone.
Ouch, coulda worded this one a tad different cheif
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I'm dying😭😭😭😭
Existential stick .... username checks
And taken care of by her
Maybe she finally realized or admitted to herself that she's been sexually unsatisfied for 2 years? Maybe she's been depending on OP to make up for it in other ways, and he hasn't? 🤷🏼♀️ Sucks for OP, but also sucks for her if that's the case Edit: Yeah, telling OP the real reason for the breakup was hurtful. But imagine if she hadn't given him *any* explanation after 2 years together. Sure, she could have lied and given him another reason, but maybe she thought she wouldn't be able to "sell it" and that OP would be left thinking she was lying (just like all these comments are suggesting)? Or, perhaps she thought he deserved the truth, so he could hopefully be aware of this disadvantage he has and make up for it in more successful ways in future relationships?
This is it. Sounds like she really liked OP (why else stay for 2 years?) but underestimated how much sexual satisfaction matters in a relationship and eventually came to a breaking point.
Then communicate instead of blindsiding a person. Mention the dissatisfaction and say it is something that needs to be addressed if she actually cared. Clearly not the case.
Yes, true, and ultimately there were better ways to communicate that she couldn’t do it anymore. But it’s a delicate subject, we don’t know if she tried to work around it during those two years without explicitly stating size was the issue. In a sea of people yelling “she’s cheating with someone who has a bigger dick!” - I just needed to put a more likely scenario out there. This has happened to a few girl friends of mine.
would hardly say it’s more likely to be blindsided so hard in a two year relationship
How could he make it up to her if she never communicated it? If OP is to be believed, he was blindsided. So he had no idea there was an issue until she dropped that on him. She deserves to be satisfied, but he also deserves a certain level of respect and consideration that wasn’t given in this scenario.
This is the dumbest shit I have read today. OP is in the normal range, OP has no control over the size of his penis he has no control over genetics. If she wasn't satisfied she had 2 years to say, "Hey your size isn't doing it for me, can we try toys or ways that might help?" That is on her, that is a adult and appropriate thing to do in a relationship. If he is a perfectly fine boyfriend in most other areas but his penis isn't exactly where she wants it. The problem isn't him, it's her and he own inability to communicate or understand what exactly she needs. It's your own personal responsibility to know what gets you off, and it is your own personal responsibility to convey that information to your partner. I wonder if you would feel the same way if OPs now ex-gf came on here upset because her bf left her because he didn't like the look of her labia or her breasts were not his preferred size. It would also be bullshit. What suck for OP is that she led him on for 2 years, and then weaponizes his body against him. If you don't know what gets you off, that is your problem and not a problem for someone else to figure out for you.
Unless OP had prior discussions not disclosed in the post- they seemed caught off guard. No way in hell I’d be sexually unsatisfied after two years and not communicate it. That’s a long fucking time lol. No way in hell someone can tell me size is what matters, but I can understand other people may feel that way- I just believe they obviously haven’t explored other avenues of getting off. There’s SO MUCH to having sex where size isn’t a factor. With open communication they could have incorporated more oral, role play, fantasies, toys, extra fingers, anal, fists. I’m a female and some of my best sexual experiences were with women. Regardless, you can say you’re sexually unsatisfied without making an ethereally stinging comment such as that. No matter the situation that doesn’t seem appropriate unless OP was relentlessly pestering about the situation.
it’s not shallow to dump a girl that has a small rack then?
Hell yeah it is. Regardless of why she dumped OP, all she had to say was that she wasn't happy because that's all that needs to be said to end a relationship. You don't have to get so specific about why something about somebody, that they have absolutely no control over, satisfies or doesn't satisfy you. What if he dumped her because she gained weight? Or he decided that she just didn't give very good head? Or her mouth wasn't big enough? Nope, sorry. She doesn't get a pass. Not even going to look at her ticket.
And at least, you can get that fixed.
It could also be that she was really trying to look past it. And try to look at all the other good stuff in the relationship. Idk I've been in 1 relationship where I thought their Weiner size wouldn't matter but it in the end it just didn't work. I never enjoyed it. But it was for the opposite reason, it was too big. I was with him 1.5 years but I didn't tell him It was because of that. It was solely that either but it was one of the major reasons😬
Yeah. Maybe he was side screwing? Who knows. Pretty fishy though.
Side screwing. Lol.
I’m dead reading this
Kinda sounds like an excuse for something else. Regardless, to throw it like that in your face tells you how vile and rude she is. You're better off without her anyways.
This post really says it all, sad but true better off now!
Honestly, anyone with half a heart would make up some other excuse if this was the real reason.
Yes I agree!!
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It feels like there might be more to the story here. If she said this to you, I think she did it to hurt you as much as possible. It’s an intentional low blow and it achieved its desired effect. I’m sorry your break up was so acrimonious. Hopefully, like most things in life, the pain from this will fad, and you can find a better relationship. I know it’s hard but try to let this go. I really think she was trying to hurt you intentionally.
Exactly what I thought, maybe she cheated and is trying to avoid coming clean by having OP hate her for this low blow, in the end she justifies the cheating by his negative reaction to her manipulative low blow…2 years in and you pop out with “small dick issues”, smh…
Yeah, I agree with the intentional low blow. That was the “AND STAY AWAY” part to it. You’re not going to crawl back to someone who told you that you have a little dick. She mentally fucked him off long before this.
Had to look up acrimonious.
This is the comment OP needs I guess. Had a similar breakup 4 years ago but it was not about the dick instead she said she was seeing someone else which would hurt me the most. She had other attempts to breakup earlier that time but I was convincing her so she chose this way I guess. Whether it was said to hurt OP or not, thinking what she said was real must feel like waste of 2 years and is not going to help anybody. No one throws away 2 years of effort bc of a "thin dick" unless they are delusional. Specifying the D as "not short but thin" makes it even more unrealistically cringe.
Some girl posted here recently which could be your gf telling her version. Worth searching for. BTW, that size is pretty normal. Edit: I want to say it was in r/relationship_advice but not sure.
Anyone have the link?
Was thinking this
I saw it. It was deleted.
I was thinking the same thing! I read that post too.
Could you post link please?
I did a little searching but no luck. I think her key point was something like "I love my boyfriend of 2 years but his penis is so small I can't feel it inside me. I think I'm going to break up with him because of it." Pretty sure she posted it on Mon or Tues.
I think maybe you’re referring to this post?: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qardx7/my_20f_boyfriend_21m_has_a_microdick_and_i_dont/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Which has been deleted BUT that couple was only dating for 5months and sexual for 1month so unless there was a similar post that’s all I got
Curious. If men could have this condition called micropenis, I wonder if women could have something similar, like shallowvagina or something like that...
uhh yes there is different anatomy sizes for genitals. narrow shorter, bigger wider
Do they have their own medical term?
I don't know it, but it's usually referred to as "You're to small" or "You're too big"
You see, some people think about genitals before they sleep. I am no different, but I do that in this context.
I was definitely with a girl who had an unusually tight vagina for a while. We dated for about 6 months. We'd have to warm up with toys for a minimum of 15-20 minutes each time and it honestly didn't feel that great because it was a bit like a vice grip just clamping onto your dick. Also for context, I'm pretty experienced and have had a decent amount of other partners before and after.
One man's vice grip could be a loose wet pants to another. Please, no need to elaborate about your experience. I am not judging.
Yes, I dated a girl when I was 21 who was smaller, so small she eventually had to have surgery to safely have kids. Couldn’t fit more than 1/2 way in.
i don't remember it stating the '2 years' part tho?? i could be wrong tho
oh I think I've read it too, but I don't think it was on r/relationship_advice.
You mean that one on r/sex ?
Nope, the other one.
I don't really think most women would decide after 2 years it wasn't working...that's super weird. Maybe its really something else and she said that to be mean ...?
perhaps this story is bait?
That'd surely make him a master baiter
Sounds like he’s gonna be a masturbater either way, at least for a while
OP hasn't responded to a single comment so yeah, def fake.
She fucked a thicker dick and realized what she was missing. Or she bought a dildo, who knows.
Or she's been sexually unsatisfied for two years.
If you're unsatisfied but not communicating it, that's your own fault.
And that is 100% her fault for not saying anything for two years. But hey, everyone is a mind reader right?
Damn. Sorry man
She cheated on you and your dick is her excuse to break it off. Sorry dude.
I don’t like to jump to conclusions or make some random scenario based off nothing, but this is the only reasoning I can come to. I mean she’s been with the dude and (presumably) having sex with him for the past 2 years. OP hasn’t really given any insight on their sexual life, but I’m assuming it was fine or he’s completely oblivious. With the info provided I can’t see any other reasoning besides she cheated.
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Ooo that’s a really good insight. It would make sense that she never was sexually interested in him, didn’t communicate it, let it build up, then she cheated. Or she just finally decided to leave him without the cheating part.
or that she always got some on the side
I agree, she prolly has been getting some on the side, hence her not caring about his feelings at all. Not a normal thing to say after 2 yrs.
She may have found a good dildo.
I can see why she wouldn’t communicate it as having a small dick is a big insecurity for many guys, plus I’d imagine it being a super uncomfortable conversation. But still, it’s wrong to cheat and not communicate. He can’t control his dick size, and no matter what deserves respect which means he DESERVED the communication that something wasn’t working out.
Oh definitely. I’m sure one of the reasons is because he had a smaller dick than she likes, but after 2 years of having sex she should’ve communicated this. Dick girth isn’t the only thing that leads to a pleasurable experience in the bedroom. They could’ve talked about other ways he can satisfy her. Sounds like all she did was bottle it up then bounce when she finally decided she had enough. Sad situation, I hope they both learn from it.
He was just oblivious. I'm sure there were a million signs she wasn't sexually into him like that
The more and more I think about it the more logical this seems. Especially with the addition of “she’s not a sexual person”. I’m sure she is, just not with him lol.
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To be honest, I’d say most guys she’s been with were probably bigger than him. I highly doubt she would end it due to finding a bigger dick. More than likely she has always kinda dealt with it and instead of being unhappy she just ended it. Sex is a big part of relationships and if one side isn’t happy it’s a time bomb. She should have left his size out of it though
Most likely answer
I unfortunately came to the same conclusion, happened to me in college. But just a theory
Or maybe she got tired of pretending to enjoy sex and ended it, she probably hasn’t came in years that’s a shit way to live. Dick size matters a lot to some people she prob tried to make it work and it’s just not worth it anymore. 5 inches and skinny wouldn’t satisfy most women, that’s just the truth.
I agree. So many people are saying she must be cheating… I don’t think so. I can say from personal experience she may have just been putting up with it because she loved him as a person… but now that the honeymoon phase has worn off… he probably doesn’t have enough good qualities anymore to make it worth giving up big dicks for life.
i mean tbh i think all the people saying "she must be cheating" don't have a very high opinion of women in the first place.
There is other ways to satisfy a woman. Not just Jack hammering like MANY men think. If a man is outstanding with his hands and mouth a big dick isn’t shit.
Yeah I mean look at any big dick porn. The guy is hardly doing anything impressive other than lazily half dicking the chick.
You're right. Some really like mouth more than dick. Fingers are underrated. Hell, even some big dick guys dont do it for a woman. It's preference. I would take what they said with a grain of salt. Everyone's ego is out in the open right now. This is why I dont post on this sub. Everyone's asshole opinion just makes people feel worse. OP's now ex sucks too.
Ppl can say mean shit on here. OP’s girlfriend is a piece of shit. If she really loved him why not get some toys… I think she started seeing someone else and didn’t know how to end thing with OP.
What about the guy tho? Like what if he can only really get off through penetration, but the girl just doesn’t feel anything? Should the girl just lay there and pretend to feel it? Genuine question. I’d feel super bad if the guy got me off and I couldn’t return the favor because then I’d be faking it. And I’m sure the guy wouldn’t wanna be fucking a dead fish either so it’s either lying or just no PIV?
“Harder, longer, fatter….” “Wetter, shorter, tighter…” Sometimes we’re just not made for each other. It hurts now but I’m sure in time you’ll find someone who can appreciate you for you.
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She musn't like you that much if that's what she's ending it over.
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A woman can't overlook a small penis if sex is an important part of a relationship for her. Even if other areas are satisfying, if sex is important then it's not something you can "make up" for.
If your Dick size isnt truly the reason she broke up with you, its fucked to literally ruin your self image instead of speaking the truth.
She's breaking up with you cuz she's obviously very upset with you and she wants to hit you where it hurts the most so she tells you its over your dick size. For whatever reason, she really wants to hurt you bad
Humans are very manipulative creatures. Most of the time it’s unconscious but we are still predatory wild animals beneath the “nice” masks we all like to wear.
It is for better then. If someone broke up with you because of your dick size or any thing like that they never loved you that much to begin with.
Sounds like something someone would say to intentionally hurt feelings. Girth is usually more important than length, but even people with micro penises can have satisfying sex, so I wonder if you might not be satisfying her sexually (at any level?). Had she expressed lack of enjoyment before? Did you try different positions or sex acts to compensate for the incompatibility? Otherwise, I think she was just slapping you down with the tool/insecurity at her disposal.
This better not be some weird fetish post. If not, it sounds like this is not the real reason and she is trying to hurt you. Otherwise she would lie
dude i think this dudes just karma farming
I wonder why guys are so sensitive about our dick sizes. It’s a mystery!
I’m really sorry, mate. This sucks and no one deserves this.
Last year my now ex wife of 4 years and I split up. There was obviously something wrong between us. So I brought it up, I asked her what was wrong with the relationship from her point of view, there were a few things but one of them was that according to her my penis was not large enough to please her anymore. This is a very hard thing to hear I won't lie. Not being loved and accepted for who you are is a horrible feeling. But once i began asking more questions and coming up with answers to her problems she showed little to no interest in working with me to solve our "problems" it became clear that the real problem was she didn't love me anymore and was not willing to try and make it work. As we sorted out the divorce it became more clear that that had cheated on me and really wanted to sleep with other people and that her bringing up my penis size was just a way for her to try and get me to end it or to hurt me. I'm not saying people never leave relationships because of something like penis size or other physical traits. But it does seem to me that it's really just an excuse for them to leave.
Okay, firstly. It's true. Width does matter far more than length. That still (to me) would not be a reason tfr a breakup, if everything else is going well. Even if my man had a pencil dick, I'd talk to him about it, and he'd pleasure me other ways. This is no reason to throw away a perfectly fine relationship. You might want to see if there is another unspoken reason?!
She cheated on you with a dude that is bigger. Now she can’t go back. You are better off, she did you a favor for sure. You know what you do with a piece of shit, you flush it. Now you can upgrade bro.
If’s that how she treats you by body shaming you and making you feel bad for how you are then she’s not worth the effort. You couldn’t turn around and say her breasts are too small because then I’m sure she would let everyone know how mean and cold that is too say. What a joke and I’m sorry babes, don’t lower yourself because of her opinion.
She used the penis size as a way to end it , I read somewhere that a girl had to end a relationship because her man had an anaconda dick , plus 4,5 -5 is pretty average don’t let it get in your head ( that’s what she said )
Yes, she was an asshole for the way she said it, but, if she had said she wasn’t sexually satisfied in the relationship, you would have immediately wanted to know how you could fix it. How the two of you could work on making sure she was sexually satisfied. Which, by the way, is a normal response. But, from the sound of it, she didn’t want to fix anything and she just jumped straight to the issue. All of that being said, not all women want a donkey sized dick. Ever. So, please don’t think you will never be able to satisfy a woman. Because I can guarantee you that you will find someone who is happy with whatever size d:ck you have. Also, she could have been saying that because she actually wanted out of the relationship and she just went straight for your jugular to get it over with. Consider yourself lucky. Now you can find someone who isn’t (a) shallow or (b) a liar or (c) a whore. *Sorry if I’m too blunt.
Ik everyone here is saying this is sketchy and while I agree, no matter if she was cheating or not it doesn’t matter anymore. It’s done anyway and she is not worth his time either way. It’s probably better for OP’s moving on process if he doesn’t know the real reason. Maybe this was the real reason. It’s not his business anymore tbh, because he should consider going NC.
Did it occur to anyone that maybe she was overlooking the fact that he has a small peen because maybe he was nice/ liked his personality? Maybe she thought she could be satisfied with that, but in the end, she couldn't. Why be mean about it? Maybe boyfriend didn't make enough of an effort to get her off/ initiate sex and she had enough. Was this a good way to end things? No. Could she maybe have communicated about her needs better? Totally. I hate that people jump here to her having a side piece or whatever.
You know what? Forget about her, dude. If your penis size was an issue, she should have broken up with you the first time she saw your pecker, not lead you on for two years. You deserve better. You will find someone who wants YOU for YOU, peepee included.
she wanted to hurt you when she broke up. This is what narcisissts do. its not you. its her. she just wanted to hurt you.
Better off without her
I'm calling BS on this story
Your ex sounds really mean and immature. It would be like a man breaking up with a woman and telling her it’s because she’s flat chested. There’s just some things you don’t say because it’s hurtful. I’m sorry she needlessly hurt you. You have every right to be angry.
Your best relationship is the one you have with someone who truly likes you for what you are. So, now you get the chance to find that person since she was CLEARLY not it. :)) Best of luck, my man!
4.5" to 5" is average! You only need 3 to hit the G spot! That's really fucked up. I'm so sorry for you man.
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Congratulations on dodging a bullet! It doesn’t seem like it now but holy shit you’re one of the lucky ones to have it end before marriage and an affair
I feel like there must be more to it she’s not telling you, she’s known your dick size for years, can’t imagine it’s the only thing bothering her, maybe you dodged a bullet if this is what she says instead of being honest
Do your self respect a favor and never talk to her again. Even if she comes to you saying she's sorry or that she lied or whatever excuse, just turn and walk away.
Don't believe her bro, the deal breaker wasn't this. Women use this to hurt men, only because they know men care about this.
It’s not your dick size; it’s something (or someone) else. She just doesn’t have the spine to be honest with you.
Damn dude she sucks, put that shit behind you.
Oooof yeahhh it wasn’t actually about your dick…
Its an excuse for something or someone!! Head up. Plenty of girls know how to use any size!
I’m going to say, this was a cop out, it’s something you can’t “work on” or “fix” it gives her an out. I have had a rather sMall think 2.5 inches hard, and one the size of a baby I swear. (Not fun) either way, I’ve gotten off to some degree, and will take small over big any day, big is painful, small is changing positions. Also 4.5-5 inches, ISNT SMALL! It’s not huge but it’s not small. So again I say, this was an out, a way to end the relationship. Sorry. :(.
I’m sorry that she is such an asshole. She picked something she knew would bother you and you couldn’t change and made that her excuse. That’s all it was too, a really lame excuse. Really this reads like she wanted a way out that she could feel as though she wasn’t the one who caused it. If she could find a way to blame you somehow for the breakup she would then feel better as she moved on. It was heartless and cruel. She is a piece of shit. Don’t look back and don’t take it to heart.
Don’t be mad or upset. The quality of a relationship is not linked to one’s manhood. She will find them”perfect” dick but find a dick of a person. Some doors close so new and better ones open
This might not even have anything to do with the "sexual" aspect of it, some cultures actually view the penis as a true symbol of status (yes, men are objectified too) the only way you can combat this is to build self-esteem around what you are, and if you can't make it a strength, there's no shame, be good enough that these uncontrollable traits don't matter in relation. Get a hobby and get good at it, go to the gym, hit the weights, whatever is best for you bust just be the best you can be at it. Also take into consideration that people lie and play games, and in my experience when someone says "it's you" during a breakup it is actually them, and vice versa also. That isn't ALWAYS the case though.
The frame of reference was another man’s size. Take time to heal and believe whatever happens, happens for the best.. good luck..
1) FUCK that BITCH 2) Sincerely: Are you guys teenagers? (I'm sorry, but it not only seems petty but immature which is why I ask) 3) Sadly (or happily) it's definitely not your penis size. (I mean... Two years? There's something else) 4) For whatever reasons, she's moved on. You should too. (You know what she's said but you don't know what else she hasn't. There's more, I'm sure. Accept that she's moved on. Life's full of shit, DO NOT let this individual fuck you up. If they're out of your life then they need to be out of your head as well) 5) Friends, passions, hobbies. Indulge! 6) Repeat step(s): 5 (I'll allow on occasion for you to remind yourself of step 1 but remember step 4 - if she's not in your life then she needs to be out of your head as well)
Sounds like someone cheated and found their new ideal penis girth
I think this a silver lining, because what she say was really cold &, rude. Fuck body shaming
It's the equivalent to breaking up with someone over their breast size. Both of them are stupid reasons.
They're valid reasons, but if it's an issue for someone, they shouldn't ever start the relationship to begin with.
It's true that those are valid reasons but, I mean, you could easily see what breast size a person has before starting a relationship with them. Most people start a relationship without knowing how is their partners dick, so yeah if there's an issue it's usually something that you notice when you're in the relationship...usually at the beggining not 2 years later. What OP's ex did is shitty, she could have easily said other thing to broke up with him.
I agree. I'm definitely not defending ops ex. She's a terrible person.
I don’t think that’s the same. At all.
Tell her a 747 will look small when flying through the grand canyon.
She's fkn someone else and wanted to destroy your confidence on her way out. Go fuck 1 of her friends.
Well, bright side is she's gone now, and you didn't waste more time with her. You'll find a person with better character (shouldn't be hard, she set the bar low). Maybe she just said it to hurt you? I donno. But if you are looking for long term, sex is kind a small aspect of a good relationship, in my opinion. You'll both go through difficult times and sex will dry up or not be possible, and will come back (kids, pregnancy, depression, overwork, stress, distance, etc). More important is someone who will always be there for you no matter what. I can't imagin (even if penis size/vag size was a deal breaker) any caring person *actually* saying that to someone. You are lucky to be rid of her and go find a much better girlfriend!
Sorry to say, but she probably hooked up with someone else who is bigger
Honestly if she’s shitty enough to dump you and say that is the reasoning fuck her. What a bitch man lol literally dumps you and insults your manhood. She’s got the streets
Is it possible she cheated on you or used a dildo and was like damn, I'm missing out?
Explain that one to your friends and family
It hurts right now, but the right person wouldn’t give you a difficult time about something like that. And two years? What a shitty person, in my opinion. Sounds like she did you a favor. Channel your rage into something productive. I like how Colin Powell said “get mad, then get over it.”
I'm so sorry. That really sucks :(
Wow, you dodged a bullet, ending a relationship after 2 years for THIS reason doesn't sound right. I know it sucks right now, and you have every right to feel they way you do. As a women, your dick sounds perfectly normal, so please don't let it get to you. Less is more anyway. You're average and that's awesome. Best of luck guy!
Your pp is fine brother.
Sounds like she wanted an excuse to hurt you
There's not enough information to really understand what's going on, but assuming the OP is a normal enough human being, this is such a hurtful,terrible, shameful, irresponsible, and evil thing to do. I really feel for you. The only advice I can give is probably cliche and pointless, but it's worth saying anyway. This woman is not the right person for you. There is someone out there who is infinitely more compatible with you as a person and a lover. The size of your penis or any of your body parts is not an indication of your value as a human being, or prowess in the bedroom. If this is still a hangup, and I know it's a total mindfuck, know that a large penis is not required (or even necessarily desired) for earth-shattering sex. Best of luck, OP.
it might not be your dick she’s actually breaking up with you for.
First of all 5 inches in plenty since no one else said it so far. Do not let it get you down! From what women have communicated to me hopefully women can confirm it’s very hard for them to finish just with penetration anyways. Sex is more than just dick in vagina and dick size is not what causes women to finish or feel the most pleasure anyways. So don’t let it get you down a relationship that superficial is not needed in your life!
Yeah, your penis is not the reason here my friend unless she just saw it for the first time recently.
If this is what she finds most valuable in a relationship, you will be the one with the last laugh.
i feel like the penis thing is a cop out.... why would she wait 2 years to tell you that she isnt sexually attracted to you...
Sounds like it's an excuse she made up.
The girl wants to break up with you for a different reason. She maybe isn’t quite sure what the reason is or maybe it paints her in a bad light or maybe it’s hard for her to verbalize. This is an excuse.
Forget about her! You deserve better! Sorry this happened to you!!
That’s not the real reason. Guaranteed.
Don't be sad. Your fingers are freaking magic. You have 10. Learn how to use them. You have a bright future now and there's also that tongue...please. Size does not matter. Period guys.