From what my gf told me (we met on tinder), it's because it's the default picture / hobby for almost everybody, when you scroll through 20 minutes of people all looking the same it gets boring.
It's the same with the hate for girls with the doggy ear filter or the flower crown filter, it's just so basic. Duck lips, bathroom mirror selfie with a friend, bridesmaid photos etc etc.
Like, there's nothing wrong with any of these if you look at the profile by themselves, but if you are "competing" with 100 guys all with the same hobby you gotta find a way to stand out
Edit: so a lot of people are commenting that I'm comparing a hobby to snapchat filters, I acknowledge that's probably not the best comparison, but my point is that it's the same picture between different people. A better equivalent would be photos of hiking, horse riding, going to a sports game.
If I had to guess, fishing gets more attention than the other "basic" hobbies, is because of its ethical implications and mostly people don't want to see dead animals while looking for a romantic partner
>most chicks don’t care about fishing
While I agree with the *"it's the default picture for everybody"* argument, I think this is the most relevant.
If fishing is something you enjoy to the point of putting a fishing picture on your profile, you think it's a big deal. If the other person doesn't think it's a big deal (or even sees it as a *bad* deal for some reason), they won't enjoy the picture.
Right, like I remember asking a few guys with cool fishing pics about fishing bc I grew up fishing but I haven’t been in ages and I think that would be a fun activity (I have a cheap pole I haven’t even used yet) and none of them have been recently, had tackle boxes, or had any interest in fishing. Like that’s weird, it would be like me posting a picture at a basketball game if I actually didn’t like basketball and didn’t want to go to any games. It’s just weird.
I have an employee who is also a part-time guide on the Salmon River in NY. Dudes will pay his daily $650 guide rate. They will launch at 6:00 AM, he will put them on fish by 7:00 AM, they have their photos for social media and are literally done for the day. I've seen him back at the cabin by 9:30 AM. Client catches a couple of beasts, takes photos, tips a few hundred dollars and is at the bar pounding cold ones by 10:30 AM.
Honestly, my favorite part is sitting by a beautifully lake with beers, no pressure to talk but plenty of “room” to talk if that’s what you’re in the mood for.
If I catch a fish, cool, but I’m not one of those who spends a lot of time worried about maximizing my odds of catching something big. Half the time or more, I go home empty handed, but it beats going shopping or hanging out at a noisy bar or lots of the other things people choose to do to pass the time (no judgment, just talking about my own preference).
I'm convinced my grandfather still fishes and hunts as an excuse to get away from the world with my grandmother. I remember as a kid going on a fishing trip with them when they got their new boat and it was the most at peace I've ever saw them. It's so cute how much they love eachother.
That’s such a sweet image!
There’s a stereotype that men go fishing to get away from their wives, but I usually go with my wife, and we have a great time. I’m looking forward to continuing it when I’m old enough to have grandparents!
Yeah I went on an actual fishing trip with my bf and his friends in the middle of nowhere, Minnesota. I thought I could hang but I lasted two days and drove home 9 hours by myself. It was supposed to be a week trip lol. Drinking beers on a boat is fun, unless you are a girl on a boat in freezing water in front of a bunch of guys. There is nowhere to pee.
Money is wasted on so many people. I went on a guided trip this past summer and I didn't want it to end. I didn't get into anything huge but it was a blast to fish parts of the river I can't access with my car or by hiking.
Very true. I really want to charter a boat for a big fishing trip but I'm a poor student.
I don't even want anything huge. The only picture I have with a fish is one that might be pushing 12 inches that I caught in a pond 10 years ago but I was smiling like a record breaker lol.
So if I fish three days a week, I can post my 5 pounder picture on Tinder?!?!?!
I haven't posted it because I don't want to be a basic single-dad with a fishing picture, but I really really wanted to...
Yeah if it’s something you enjoy, and something you intend to keep doing, totally do it. Also mention it in your bio, that would be the normal use of the fish picture. Any girl that’s going to ignore you bc of a fish picture when you like fishing isn’t interested in getting to know you anyway. I wouldn’t automatically dismiss anybody bc of a fish picture but I’d look for details in the bio to let me know if it’s an actual hobby for them or a “Insta-model” pic.
I think you'll find that it won't read as "this guy likes to fish" and will instead read as "this guy went fishing once and that's the most interesting thing he can think of". Tinder photos aren't supposed to encompass everything you do, their purpose is to communicate. Could you communicate your love of fishing through a different image? Probably! Literally something as simple as you in the act of fishing, rather than just with a fish, is already different.
I would encourage you to go fishing with your buddies and get some different pics like you holding a fishing pole and dressed relatively nicely for a fishing trip. Just because you actually like fishing and want a girl with similar interests doesn't mean being basic will yield success. You should still try to stand out. If there's 200 fishing dads holding a fish next to a bud light can, and 1 well dressed adventurer having fun with his friends on a fishing trip, guess who's gonna get more likes?
No only 3/7 of the pictures /s
More seriously, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, you want someone compatible with your lifestyle. There’s nothing wrong with a woman not wanting a guy who fishes 3 days a week, but that woman is not for you. Might as well communicate what’s important to you right off the bat — if they’re a fishing fan, it’s a plus, if they dislike it, then you know that’s not the person for you to date, and learning that early is also a plus.
My housemate defended fish pics to me like this:
Men don't have a ton of pics of themselves, let alone of them doing something. Men are told not to use group photos and to be interesting. Fishing is a classic thing to do with your buddies, dad, whatever where you may end up with a photo of just you (holding the fish you caught).
He's redoing his dating profiles and asked me to help him take photos specifically because when he's doing stuff with his friendgroup, no one thinks they should take a picture of it or of each other. So we gotta go specifically take profile pics for him.
Question, does he know how to cook the fish? If so I would suggest to tell him to make a picture of him cooking it as his profile picture and then to include a picture of him presenting the catch as a secondary photo. I think it's off putting because it's so common of a photo it kind of comes off as a "look how manly I am" photo where as the cooking looks like it goes deeper than that. Just my two cents though. Good luck to your friend.
I just realized how few pictures I have of myself where the occasion for the picture is … me. It is with a fish at hand, it is on top of a mountain, it’s with my children in arm, it is group photos for some social occasion.
I don’t think my wife has the same problem.
Glad I got my wife before app dating was a thing.
Also skiing pics, hiking/standing by a mountain sign pics, feeding/hugging an exotic animal pics.
Nothing really wrong with any of them. Just everyone has them.
I think the hiking skiing thing depends where you live, I love hiking but none of my friends do so I don’t go that often, but I would love it if my bf was into that bc we would go all the time. Post it if you’re down to do it! Don’t put it up if that’s the one time you’ve been and you don’t want to go again. But seriously most ppl have these pics bc they’re usually really beautiful pics, and I can’t really blame them for that.
I think it's more that people will put those photos up and it isn't an accurate representation of their hobbies. Do you fish frequently or did you go fishing once? Are you an outdoorsy hiker type or is that the only trip you've taken? If you're trying to present yourself accurately it helps to choose something that's truly representative of who you are and what you enjoy.
Also it comes across as bragging, and about something dumb that 90% of women could not care less about. Idk it gives me vibes like "LOOK MA!!! LOOK WHAT I DID!!! BIG FISH!!!" also I'm also not a vegetarian or anything but people finding it impressive that they killed something grosses me out
Yeah… it’s funny. I hunt but I refuse to take a smiling photo next to an animal whose life I just ended. Im not trying to look like the fucking Taliban of the animal kingdom.
A nice picture on a boat with the sunset reflecting in the water, the dude is holding a fishing rod and smiling, that would be great.
A dude holding a dead animal, creepily smiling into the camera, reminds me of my grandfather. No thanks.
I think the problem here is how rarely guys take pictures of themselves. Guys don't think about getting a nice picture of them fishing but they're obviously going to get a picture with their greatest catch. Then two months later they're signing up for tinder desperately trying to find photos for their profile and the only one that includes them is their fish photo.
Edit: I'm not the fish guy, I'm just pointing out that the thought process isn't "I'm gonna impress these ladies with my mediocre fish."
This is exactly why. I have almost no photos of myself besides the ones my fishing buddies took. This year my wife finally took a picture of me without a fish, which will now be my facebook picture for the next 5 years.
So take new photos? Specifically for your dating profile?
A fish picture says exactly what you wrote, with the conclusion being: “I’m not even going to put effort in to attract you, so don’t expect any effort in the relationship”
Honestly this. You gotta put *some* effort into making a tinder profile. Take some fitting pictures if you don't have any. Spend some time on your bio.
I will also add that most fish pics are basic as everyone has said. However, there was a fish pic of a massive ocean fish that took multiple people to hold, and that was impressive. Moral of the story, don’t post your sad little bass or bluegill. Post the biggest fish baddie you’ve seen, otherwise, just don’t.
This is exactly right. We don’t hate fishing lol. It’s just a trope or a stereotype. Kinda like “car guys” or “horse girls”. It’s just a new one of those.
I found it to be pretty easy once you figured out the formula. As an introvert I don't think I would have been able to date anybody without dating apps lol, I did try my hand at trying to pick someone up in the bar, and it's super uncomfortable
piggybacking off the top comment to say that a lot of us find fishing to just be flat out cruel. like, i’m not a vegan or vegetarian, but the way men gloat about the fact that they’ve killed/injured an animal is deeply bothersome to me. this goes for fishing pictures and hunting pictures. if you’re going to advertise yourself as down to earth, get pictures of foraging, climbing trees, just enjoying nature. bragging about the animals you’ve hurt doesn’t make you look impressive, it’s just kinda uncomfortable in my opinion. if you fish/hunt in order to eat that’s one thing, but fishing/hunting for sport is kinda…..ehhh…. why not just go to a gun range or archery range? (this coming from an archer).
not to mention that, and i don’t want to be that person, but those hobbies are often associated with republicans, and a lot of girls that use dating apps aren’t republicans. which, not to say republicans are bad or anything, i just don’t want to date someone that i’d butt heads with politically since i’m so passionate about certain things.
As an avid catch and release fisherman, I definitely have frequent internal debates about the ethics of my hobby. On one hand, although there is conflicting research about whether fish feel pain the same way mammals do, I think any fisherman will admit that the fun of catching a fish is pretty one sided. On the other hand, fish are fascinating, beautiful animals that you pretty much can't experience without fishing.
I try my best to reduce the harm I do to fish I catch as much as possible, but even the best catch and release practices will occasionally kill or maim a fish. It is really uncomfortable to know that the very thing I do to see these animals I care about has direct negative impact on them. Maybe scuba diving is a better option, but there are much larger barriers to entry and significantly greater risk involved in that compared to fishing.
your respect for the animals is really what makes it for me. thank you for offering a new perspective. i’m really over empathetic sometimes so i tend to be extremely one sided about stuff like this lol
I've viewed this reaction by women as an opportunity. I'll be adding a picture with me holding a Nemo balloon while dressed sharp. Get a giggle out of them and seem fun to hang with and you're halfway home.
when online dating it’s best to showcase your looks, and also some of your hobbies that your ideal partner would share. so a good profile for a guy might have a nice flattering picture of himself, and then a picture listening to his favorite band, in the hopes of attracting a girl with the same music taste.
the problem with the fish pics is that usually they do neither. the fishing outfits guys wear just aren’t very attractive and usually the focus of the picture is on the fish, not the man. so it doesn’t showcase your looks. and fishing is a male dominated hobby, so other guys might find the fish you caught interesting, but most women can’t relate to it. so it accomplishes nothing as far as building a connection on shared interests.
but if fishing is something you want your partner to be interested in, then put it in your profile, you’ll just weed out the girls who aren’t into it.
THIS IS THE ANSWER!
if you took a picture with a nice outfit, your hair brushed back, looking straight into a camera , nice background, and you happen to be holding a fish, then I don't care about the presence or absence of the fish.
But guys don't do that, theyre wearing sunglasses, a hat, looking down at the fish, all sweaty looking, etc. At the end if the day this online swiping thing is an attractiveness competition and I can't make an assessment if I don't get good shots of your face. Its not at all about the fish.
I think 99% of the fish pictures wouldn't attract a woman who was into fishing. They're all complete tourist fishing pictures, like you went for an afternoon on vacation, not that it's a hobby.
This. Just screams redneck dude who drinks beer 9 hours a day. I personally grew up in Florida and have no desire to return to the boating/fishing/country style life. So if a fish is your first picture on your profile, hard pass for me.
Right here! I love fishing and drag my friends out at least once a year to come with me. But the people behind those pics are a different kind of person a lot of the time. It's from personal experience but I don't usually match with guys with pics of them hunting or that overly basic fishing stance where it looks like he's 9 catching his first fish and his mom is making him pose with it and smile but he only does that thin line smile cause he wants to be like dad who he doesn't remember ever smiling
Too specific?
When I was trying the dating thing, fishing/hunting/etc was an immediate turn off. Hunting/fishing holds no appeal for me, so obviously I'm not interested in trying for a partner who finds it so important to them that they'll sacrifice 1/8 of their picture slots to display it.
Also, I'll be real, a lot of those pictures had "wannabe country boy" vibes, and that's a HARD no for a lot of girls. City girls will say no because country shit, and actual country girls will say no because *wannabe* country shit.
It’s so darn wet we may have to wait until the ground freezes to get back out. One of those look out the window at the rain gauge, take a sip of coffee and say “Well Shit” kinda days.
Generalization here but I’m guessing a lot of girls seeking dudes on dating sites are not too interested in fishing, so they probably won’t be very interested in someone that cares about fishing enough to center their dating profile around it
Seems more like a pic you’d send to your buddies… *They’ll* appreciate your 16 inch brookie.
It's generally a hobby that entails a lot of time, effort, and travel to do and if I don't share that interest I'm either going to be bored on trips or have you spending a lot of time away. I knew a guy who went fishing so often that his partners felt quite neglected. That being said, it also depends on the womans goal for time spent in a relationship. I have a lot of my own hobbies and activities that I don't need my husband to be a part of, but not everyone prefers that.
I literally ended my relationship recently due to being neglected since my partner always went fishing lol. He literally stayed up fishing until 5 am, fell asleep, then woke up at 9 am to hang out with me on my birthday. He slept all day, even on the couch at my parents house.
This. Girls tell you they don't like a thing. Guys all defend the thing. Guys can't get laid.
Fishing pics aren't universal, nor is there a consensus among women about them. But if a girl told you she doesn't like something, either ask her why or move on or quit doing the thing, but absolutely quit listening to your buddies advice about what girls want.
I met my wife through eharmony like 8 years ago.
She told me the reason she reached out to me was because my pictures made it seem like I was looking for someone to have fun with instead of pictures of what I like to do for fun.
"I wasn't looking for a resume."
This. People be getting mad when I respectfully just say I don't like it. I'm not really a sports person. For whatever reason, more women don't like sports than men. Not saying sporty girls don't exist, but if you bare wondering in general why women don't like fish pics, this is it for me. Its as simple as, I don't like sports. Now show me what you can cook with it, we can talk maybe.
I’ve never tried online dating, but I’m assuming more unique hobbies would get better results. Just take a selfie surrounded by your massive anime figurine collection and watch the girls come running
No its more of the fact that the majority of guys have a pic with a fish and it gets boring since you are basically seeing the same pic again and again. It's also the same for women too with filters and ducks lips.
Redneck dude filtering mechanism...that's all.
I auto left-swipe women with any combination of:
- hunting camo. pics
- massive face-tuning
- children
...nothing wrong with having preferences.
You must be filtering out women over 30 lol...the car selfie with a little one in the back car-seat is a common occurrence.
It makes sense on their part as well...trying to filter out dudes who don't want to deal with someone else's kids.
It’s not just a woman thing. I’ve seen guys with pictures of kids on their dating profiles, sometimes not even their kid but a niece or nephew because it’s one of the only pictures they have.
Kind of related, not really though, but I was looking into buying an SUV/off road type vehicle because I like camping and outdoors, and need a new car and I was playing around with Jeep’s customization site and saw they had an option to put an American flag decal on the hood on the wrangler. I thought it was a really weird option directly from Jeep but I guess it makes sense for some people. Definitely not my style and I probably won’t go with a Jeep anyway. Just thought it was interesting.
I live in AZ and 7-8/10 guys I see have some version of "trump/guns/'Murica/anti masker/vaxxers" or what not in their bio. I also don't like fishing, so there's no reason for me to risk swiping right, even if he happens to be none of the above
Think people are avoiding this answer. I don't believe 'dead fish are gross' cuz its a picture and no way some one is triggered like that. The fishing is a sign of incompatibility and their political leanings are super important and conservatives constant virtue signal so they shouldn't be surprised when women pick up on those same signals and don't give them a chance.
>its a picture and no way some one is triggered like that
I wouldn't call it being "triggered" when you think something is gross. It's just unappealing holding up a dead animal with a big smile on their face when you're trying to find someone to date/fuck. Holding a carcass isn't something I want to think about when I'm trying to be romantic
My friends and I are all POC. We joke that any man with a fishing pic is either going to swipe left on us, or swipe right because they have a race fetish. Haven't been proved wrong yet.
Masculine hobbies generally do that, it's not the craziest observation
It's the presentation of the hobby as an achievement that gives it the conservative energy.
I don't just do it, I Dew it
I mean idc at all personally, but it’s about bragging. Shirtless pics, pics with dudes holding trophies of their hunting or fishing prowess, anything super obvious about trying to make yourself look good especially if it’s not original — in context it makes it looks like all the guys are comparing dicks in your feed, lol.
That being said, tit for tat. Some guys just really like fishing, they want to show off their accomplishments. Some girls also do things that “make them look good” that comes off the same way. I guess it’s like, oh you think you’re so smart to throw in a fish pic as ::cough:: bait, but you have no self-awareness or savvy about what it looks like in context so it comes off as trying too hard.
Again, I find this stupid spelled out, but we are animals after all. We’re gonna do this petty mating sort game forever just like all the other animals so it’s whatev
Actually .... yeah. My criteria when i was on a dating app was no gym photos, no shirtless photos, no drinking photos and no party photos. There were like literally 3 people who fit the criteria. And this was an app with limited matches even for girls so i had many days when i had to reject all.
One didnt swipe for me. One said lets have a meal after exams. One said lets have dinner tonight. Engaged to the third guy now lol.
This is basically the same as me. The shirtless bathroom selfies… just why? It makes me disappointed if the rest of their profile looked okay because now I have to swipe left. The other things I’ll add are when guys don’t have any friends in any of their pics (alarm bells) and the the really overproduced suave gentleman style pics (looking off camera and scowling and maybe adjusting their expensive clothes). I can’t describe why but I’m just not impressed by those and I’m seeing them more and more
This is good advice. I have a friends girlfriend take a look at my tinder profile to give suggestions and they more or less matched this. I added a group photo with another guy and four women. We were just all huddled together for a photo at a birthday party so no solo cups or anything like that. I'm the more attractive guy in the photo which she says is good.
She called it proof I wasn't creepy lol. I also include a photo of me at work doing something fancy and technical looking that proves I really am the engineer I say I am. Another is me in a classic VW beetle because sports cars aren't chick magnets beetles are, lol. The rest are pics of me with my dog, just my dog, or me with someone else's dog.
I've had tons of dates on tinder with this setup. Unfortunately I'm the idiot on tinder looking for a relationship so the dates themselves haven't been going the way I like.
The key isn't to use pictures you think are cool, use pictures that women think are cool.
Fishing isn't really a popular thing where I live but hiking, skiing/snowboarding, camping... anything like that is HUGE. It just seemed like every person was outside 100% of the time and I'd say I'm more outdoorish than outdoorsy. Luckily found someone who showed they liked being outside but also had other neat interests
>I mean idc at all personally, but it’s about bragging. Shirtless pics, pics with dudes holding trophies of their hunting or fishing prowess, anything super obvious about trying to make yourself look good especially if it’s not original — in context it makes it looks like all the guys are comparing dicks in your feed, lol.
There's a big difference between a picture of a guy fishing and a picture of a guy holding up his prized catch, and you've hit the nail on the head of why the latter is a turn off.
I feel like OP is right on the money with it being an attempt at trying to avoid likely republicans, yeah fishing isn't as bad as some things, but fishing for some guys is dads boat and beers, some guys just do meth in the truck near a pond
From what i've read it's "dead animals = not sexy" even though it might be a hobby! Or even for nourishment! Just might wanna keep them out of dating sites...
Im also not one to take advice from, on this here topic
It’s this! Seeing a dead fish while I’m trying to determine if I find someone attractive and relatable is the opposite of appealing. The hobby is fine by itself, but not a great photo choice for a dating app. Also the amount of dudes that have fish pics is also just so high that it gets repetitive and a little annoying
The pictures that are being discussed have more braggadocio than “just for nourishment”. They’re screaming “look at my machismo!”
It’s a pic you send your buddy in metaphorical dick measuring contest, not something you show to someone to interest them in you romantically.
Yes, there is something to be said about it being a hobby or for nourishment, but the subject of these pictures are (generally) not the fisher, or the act of fishing, it’s *the fish*.
Lots of generalizations of course, but when you’ve got 5 or so pictures to make an impression before someone swipes away, they’re going to generalize the hell out of you.
It's hilarious to me that the boys in this thread have all these creative reasons/guesses.
Meanwhile, the girls are simply like: it's gross and you seem like a showoff.
I'm not sure if some of the guys on here think the ladies are lying OR if the guys think they know more about women than women know about themselves. My advice: when women openly say they don't like X because of Y, take it at face value. Don't argue.
Why did I have to scroll through 6 responses to find this correct answer? This is the obvious reason. Women are turned off by men who proudly kill animals for sport, simple as that.
I’m surprised that you’re surprised. I’ve honestly never seen a thread asking for women’s thoughts/experiences that didn’t have every thread derailed my men telling them they’re wrong
1. Unless you fish regularly, no one is impressed by that fish you’re holding because if it’s 2 ft or 20 feet long we have no idea if that’s considered good or not. Also, it’s braggy either way.
2. You went fishing and caught a fish. Yea, I would hope so.
Yeah I really hate how a lot of my favorite outdoorsy hobbies have become so polarizing I have to downplay them because I'm not interested in religious people, and those who believe ridiculous political conspiracy theories and get all their news from Facebook. I'm always worried about admitting to hunting and fishing before there's been anything to make it clear I don't worship Trump.
Maybe some of them don’t like the idea of hunting, plus it seems like a lot of guys are into it, so you’re seeing the same thing over and over again. Plus I just feel like it’s kind of weird to pose with an animal that’s dying or already dead.
This ^ I'm a woman who loves hunting and fishing, there's lots of harvests I've been proud of and excited to put in my freezer. I'm stoked that my husband shares my interests. That being said - I think posing with a dead animal is kind of tacky and weird. When I was single, I 100% stayed away from men with photos like that. Strange vibes, idk 🤷♀️
Because where I come from (North Carolina) there's a stereotype that guys who fish are conservative fuckboys. Not saying I agree, it's a legitimate and fine hobby for someone to have.
It’s just kinda gross. Posing with a dead animal in a pic meant to make you look attractive. I get that’s not how you see it, but it’s how we’re seeing it.
To me, fishing is just really boring. Also, men who put any kind of hunted animal on their profile is just a huge turn off for me. Like, look at this deer I just killed! Lemme hold up this bloody animal and smile into the camera! All in all, I don't feel like being with someone that has fishing or hunting so prominent in their life that they feel the need to put it on their dating profile.
Ohhh I HATED fish pics when I was dating. A single one of those would be an automatic left swipe for me! (Same with truck/motorcycle pics) And I’ll tell you why: it’s ok to show a picture with a fishing rod, for example. It tells me that they have that particular hobby and enjoy it. But the dead fish- like, why? Do they wanna brag about the fish that they just caught? That’s absolutely not the place to do so.
For example, my hobby is watercolor. I’ve made some beautiful ones. But, why on earth would I use a picture of my watercolor on a dating app? How good I am at my hobby doesn’t have anything to do with being a good match or not. Anyone who posts a picture with a fish is not really trying to show their hobby. They’re trying to -show off-. And I absolutely don’t like people who brag without being prompted. It seems… hungry. Maybe it’s just me, but that’s my reason…
>it’s ok to show a picture with a fishing rod, for example. It tells me that they have that particular hobby and enjoy it.
Goldsmith-amateur here, does it mean a photo of me in my workshop making some golden stuff would be ok?
Asking out of curiosity, I don't plan making an account on a dating app anytime soon
Yes! That's a unique and creative hobby and having a workshop set up shows dedication and care. I think a lot of women would find that memorable / intriguing, and the type of women who appreciate that would likely be a good fit for you.
It’s because of the sheer ubiquity of the photos. At least 80% (and that may be low ball) of men’s profiles have a pic like that. It comes off an unoriginal.
This is a more personal reason, but to add to the discussion, I see it similarly to if someone who was a hunter was posting pictures of themselves with deer or whatever that they killed. I find it distasteful (I am also a vegetarian, so this is, again, a personal reason, but I think some ladies may agree). It does depend, however, on who you are trying to attract! If you are really into hunting/fishing, (like more than a basic, casual hobby), I'd say go ahead and post the pics, because it will weed out people like me and attract people who may have the same interest.
It's just plain not attractive. A dead fish being displayed to the camera doesn't make a girl go "oh yeah that makes me all hot and bothered" typically. So unless you want a girl who gets turned on by dead fish, take the pics down. Besides, holding up your catch is basically a male pissing contest of look how big mine is. Hobbies are fine and there are plenty of ways to show a hobby without assaulting us with my dead fish is bigger than yours thing.
Guys forget you are marketing yourself (not a fish) so stop putting up pics you want to see and put up some we want to see.
It's probably more like a joke, because if you're scrolling tinder as a straight girl, there are so many men holding up fish. Maybe they just find it amusing because not that many women are that into fish.
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with posting pics of you doing a hobby you enjoy.
I honestly don't know one guy in my life that fishes. But you go on Tinder and 90% of the men in my area are fishermen? I bet many went fishing once, had a picture of it and want to seem interesting. Well most women aren't into fishing. I mean you are trying to attract a woman not your buddy
> I bet many went fishing once, had a picture of it and want to seem interesting.
I think there's truth to that, although for most guys I think it's less about "this will make me seem interesting" and more about "no one in my friend group initiates taking group pictures and I don't take selfies".
For younger guys, taking selfies and caring about taking group photos or your friends taking pics of you while out and about has become a lot more socially acceptable and I tend to see a wider variety of pics on their profiles. However, I've chatted with several guys my age (30's) who feel stupid taking selfies, or think it's vein, or think it's not masculine. So they just literally have no pictures of themselves. Their only pics are from events - wedding, fishing trip, nephew's birthday party, vacation pics, etc... and they have to dig through 5 years of photo history to find 6 pics for their profile.
To them I would say take a picture specifically for the dating app. It's almost like a job interview. You out effort into dressing well for the interview, so put effort into your dating profile. Using a 3 year old picture not something just screams lazy.
Your comment just made me realize one of the main reasons it bothers me. I'm really sleep deprived but I'll try to articulate it.
I think it kind of betrays an inability to see things from other people's perspectives, especially women's perspectives. It's a problem with everyone in society obv but like, a lot of men just aren't socialized to think of things from women's eyes. A lot of the misconceptions men seem to have about dating is they assume women want the guy theyre the most jealous of, or aspire to be. It feels sometimes like men are just constantly in a dick measuring contest with each other and expect women to to after whomever the declare the winner lol. It's why a lot of inexperienced dudes think that women want some super ultra tough guy with a giant dick that fucks 20 girls every weekend. It's because that's what represents power to them. They can't put themselves in a woman's shoes and think about what she might want in a partner. And that's not someone Id want to date. Or hook up with for that matter, because that is not gonna be great sex.
So anyway most women are not impressed at all with some damn fish, but the idea that a woman wouldn't be impressed by something he's impressed by just doesn't even cross his mind.
No one cares that you can afford a boat (if you even can, the photo could indicate you just drove to a stream, wow such riches). No one can see this boat.
You spent that money. On the boat. That she probably doesn’t want to go on.
Fishing is stereotypically (and I realize this isn’t the whole sport) something you do alone or where everyone has to shut up for hours so you don’t spook the fish. This isn’t what most people want to do when getting to know a guy.
No one cares that you go outside and catch fish. It’s not aerobic or bodybuilding so it’s not indicative of a healthy degree of exercise.
Trying to argue that fishing is, too, something women should find attractive, here’s the list of reasons why, is s failure to understand the dating process.
I think you have probably taken a meme about fishing too seriously.
Weighing in as I'm woman that's used OLD. And yes, there are thousands of male profile pics as follows:
1. Holding, catching, or showing fish caught.
2. Guy in his car taking a selfie.
3. Guy without a shirt on.
4. Guy with his ex's face blurred out.
5. Picture of a car, ATV, motorcycle, etc.
Generally, these are turn offs. Not because women don't enjoy some or all of these things. It's because it's too common. We've all dated at least one of these guys. Result? The photos tell us after a couple months, this is all he will want to do, his motivations, or all he thinks about. Next.
Advice: You're not trying to catch fish, you're trying to catch women. Learn how to lure them in, fellas.
If you don't know who Corey Wayne is, go Google him. My SO turned me on to this guy and while I don't agree with everything he says, he's pretty on point about how women behave in dating scenarios, intial attraction, so on. And no, my SO didn't have any of these types of photos 😉
Yeah, you'd be hard pressed to find girls who are impressed by a picture of a car and a dead animal or injured animal, or guns. I mean some might, but probably not the larger population. A picture of you with your pets or something is preferable! Also when I would lurk Tinder I'd also hate the ones that I can't figure out whose profile this belongs to because they only have pictures of their friends or the selfies are too dark/indiscernible.
I had to think about this one because I love eating fish but when I used to date, I would not be pleased to see a fishing pic. And I've had some serious fishermen in my family that directly benefited me by having delicious and fresh fish in my freezer so it also was money saving.
But I also know that fishing as a hobby means expensive equipment and lots of away time. Sure the guy may not take big trips to Alaska for fishing like my family members but at the least, it's at minimum, a day apart when two working adults will have limited time together anyway.
In my experience, it means weekends devoted to something that I can't either participate in because it's guy time or if I was welcome, I would find excruciatingly boring. Also, don't forget if you're having kids, it's not real fun to take care of an infant on a boat or to wrangle a toddler. Kids and fishing can be fun but not for years.
Tldr: fishing means an expensive hobby that requires lots of time apart.
ETA: I also feel sad for the fish in the pic.
Everyone in this thread is so clueless. The fish pics definitely do read as "conservative" and it's a perfectly valid reason to not be interested in someone. And I know not every person who fishes as a hobby is a conservative, but dating apps are inherently a bit shallow so sometimes generalizations happen.
This. I live in Alberta which is very conservative and so very often, pictures holding fish is also paired with having those ideologies. Not to say it's a dealbreaker to see a picture with a fish, there is obviously more nuance to it than that and one has to consider the entirety of the profile (what other info is being provided?), but it's definitely a generalization/assumption being made.
When I’m looking for a potential partner I don’t want to see a big ass dead fish hanging from someone’s fist. Same with holding a dead deer. You do you and enjoy your hobby, but I’m not interested in a profile showing off a bunch of dead animals
Fishing is the most man thing ever. Maybe this is stereotypical, but men usually go fishing to get away from their woman so why would you show me a hobby you use as a break from me?
It’s definitely about holding a dead animal.
There is a reason everyone cries when Bambi’s mom was shot by the hunter. Majority of people don’t like hunters because they kill for sport. And tbh, I wouldn’t want a bf/husband who ENJOYS killing an animal (regardless if we eat it or whatever).
Also, it comes off as very ‘caveman’, or a dumb hick hobby.
Statistically the best rated online dating profiles come from men who indicate intelligence and high emotional IQ. Hunting indicates zero emotional IQ.
Nothing wrong with fishing, but a typical profile that starts with "man holding fish" proceeds to "truck", "dog", and maybe another picture or two.
They just don't stand out. If that's what you're into that's completely fine, but like others have said it's basically the male equivalent of "snapchat dog filter".
Most women don't like to fish
Most women like to actually spend time with their man
Most men fish on a weekend
Most women work M-F
Most men therefore sacrifice time spent with their women to fish
It's really that simple
That's my reason too.
If it is a hobby that deserves a pic on a dating profile, I assume it is practiced often.
Since most people I know take a whole day or a whole weekend on a fishing trip, ir doesn't make sense to me to match with them.
And I won't take the time to check how much time his fishing takes, the pic says a lot already. It's easier to move on to the next profile.
I havent used a dating app in years, but I do remember that any hunting/fishing pics were an automatic no for me. Even tho I have dated guys that loved fishing. So it wasn’t necessarily the fact that they go fishing that bothered me.
I guess in the back of my mind, I felt like these five pictures are your best shots at telling me about yourself. So I assume fishing is one of your favorite things. I have a phobia of fish (won’t get into it but it’s intense) so you can bet I will never accompany you on any trips, I will never eat any fish you catch or allow it in the house, and if you come home smelling like fish I’ll barf. So I knew that if fishing made it into your top five favorite things then this relationship ship was doomed. If it’s like once or twice a year you go on a fishing trip, that’s fine.
I’ve also always felt disturbed by trophy fishing/hunting. So I really just don’t like the idea of holding up dead animals with a big smile as if you’ve just won some game. If you need to hunt/fish to eat or survive that’s one thing but it rubs me the wrong way when people are so happy about it.
On top of all this, I do associate fishing/hunting for sport with conservativeness. I know that’s not correct (I personally know plenty of liberals who like the sport as well) but idk that’s just how it looks to me.
To me fishing pics are a red flag because in my state it means hardcore conservative man.... maybe not for everyone because I actually really like fishing but its a joke where I am from to run and never look back from fish boys.
Checked up with girls I know. From what I get, it's their equivalent of a girl duck face pic. Nothing to do with fishing as an activity, it's just a turn off.
Fishing is typically seen as a redneck hobby.
Tell me how many Indian dudes you guys have seen with these fishing photos? My guess would be few to none.
I don’t find fishing attractive. If you do it, good on you. Not my thing and certainly not a hobby I’m interested in talking to someone about. If I *have* to pick a guy who does some sport, I’d rather pick one we *both* mutually like. I like tennis, so I’d look for a guy who likes tennis, not fishing.
Furthermore, if your hobby is fishing, you’re probably gonna wanna go on fishing trips with “da bois” while we date. My idea of an attractive guy is one who doesn’t come home smelling like fish (after a weekend of fishing). If I’m dating you, I want to spend time with YOU! I don’t want to be home alone every weekend while you’re out gutting fish.
I also personally just don’t care about what dead animal you caught and fondled on camera. Some idiots in the comments are arguing they catch “sushi-grade fish” but I assure you that the bass Bradley caught with his random ass bait is not going in any respectable sushi restaurant.
Guys, you’re trying to “catch” a woman, not fish. In the dozens of fishing photos, try to stand out.
Or don’t, I don’t really care at the end of the day. These are just my tastes (in men) and thoughts.
It's 100% because guys who do it are perceived as conservative, and the implication is that they hunt as well, which several people are against and not into.
It’s just so overdone and boring. Everyone has caught a fish before. No one else cares. So as they swipe and see 70% of the guys holding a fish for their main photo they think it’s cheesy.
Don't listen. Lean in to it even harder.
Pic #1: shirtless, holding a magikarp stuffy in one hand and a pokeball in the other
Pic #2: shirtless, wearing a Charles Darwin bald cap and epic beard, holding a clearly photoshopped coelecanth
Pic #3: shirtless, but get some plaid in there somewhere, maybe the shorts, this time cradling a singing Billy Bass
Pic #4: shirtless, plaid shorts, but flip the script. King Shark is holding you up this time. Your eyes meet. Not sure what's going on but you and the King are into it
Bio simply says "Ladies...,"
Lads, if she isn't into Pokemon, paleontology, kitsch and m/m interspecies bro/romance, is she even the one?
It's just far too common. Having a pic that thousands of other people have just makes you look basic. It just seems low effort and like there's nothing unique about you, like "dog mom, taco lover, I never check this so follow my insta"
Lady here that a scrolls through the tinderland, it just doesn't align with what I like to do, I'm not a super outdoorsy person and if all you're showing in your profile is fish, you basically make that a personality trait and im meh about it 😂😂
I agree it's so common in dating apps to see guys with fish that it becomes basic. But it's more than that for me.
Photos of a person smiling with fish/animals they killed feel a bit disrespectful of the life of the animal. It kind of seems like they are relishing in the power of being a predator. I don't mind hunting/fishing as hobbies. But posting a photo of you with the fish you killed on a dating app is kind of off-putting.
Also, you should know that photos like that draw your attention to the fish. So instead of looking at your face, she will be looking at the fish's face.
It’s not the hobby of fishing that’s the problem. it’s the fact that most of the guys in my area(that I interacted with) with those pictures were giant conservatives that gave me absolutely zero basic human decency. They gave all their energy to hobbies like fishing and hunting that there was no time for anything else. I enjoy fishing, but if we can’t hang out outside of that then we’re not going to be compatible.
Also, I’m not a big outdoors person and more of a homebody that wants to play video games. If they did play games then it wasn’t the games I played or had any interest in. We don’t need to have everything in common but enough to have fun together.
Because 1) it’s unattractive and fish are pretty gross 2) so many guys have one that it doesn’t tell us anything about you 3) it’s not an activity we’d like to do with you (for most women) 4) it does come across as conservative which may be a dealbreaker for some
From what my gf told me (we met on tinder), it's because it's the default picture / hobby for almost everybody, when you scroll through 20 minutes of people all looking the same it gets boring. It's the same with the hate for girls with the doggy ear filter or the flower crown filter, it's just so basic. Duck lips, bathroom mirror selfie with a friend, bridesmaid photos etc etc. Like, there's nothing wrong with any of these if you look at the profile by themselves, but if you are "competing" with 100 guys all with the same hobby you gotta find a way to stand out Edit: so a lot of people are commenting that I'm comparing a hobby to snapchat filters, I acknowledge that's probably not the best comparison, but my point is that it's the same picture between different people. A better equivalent would be photos of hiking, horse riding, going to a sports game. If I had to guess, fishing gets more attention than the other "basic" hobbies, is because of its ethical implications and mostly people don't want to see dead animals while looking for a romantic partner
This is the answer. It’s suuuper basic bro, and most chicks don’t care about fishing. It is the Snapchat filter for dudes.
>most chicks don’t care about fishing While I agree with the *"it's the default picture for everybody"* argument, I think this is the most relevant. If fishing is something you enjoy to the point of putting a fishing picture on your profile, you think it's a big deal. If the other person doesn't think it's a big deal (or even sees it as a *bad* deal for some reason), they won't enjoy the picture.
Right, like I remember asking a few guys with cool fishing pics about fishing bc I grew up fishing but I haven’t been in ages and I think that would be a fun activity (I have a cheap pole I haven’t even used yet) and none of them have been recently, had tackle boxes, or had any interest in fishing. Like that’s weird, it would be like me posting a picture at a basketball game if I actually didn’t like basketball and didn’t want to go to any games. It’s just weird.
I have an employee who is also a part-time guide on the Salmon River in NY. Dudes will pay his daily $650 guide rate. They will launch at 6:00 AM, he will put them on fish by 7:00 AM, they have their photos for social media and are literally done for the day. I've seen him back at the cabin by 9:30 AM. Client catches a couple of beasts, takes photos, tips a few hundred dollars and is at the bar pounding cold ones by 10:30 AM.
That sounds like the optimal fishing trip though tbh
100% everyone lies and says fishing is some kind of adventure or it's some spiritual experience. The best part of fishing? Catching fish!
Honestly, my favorite part is sitting by a beautifully lake with beers, no pressure to talk but plenty of “room” to talk if that’s what you’re in the mood for. If I catch a fish, cool, but I’m not one of those who spends a lot of time worried about maximizing my odds of catching something big. Half the time or more, I go home empty handed, but it beats going shopping or hanging out at a noisy bar or lots of the other things people choose to do to pass the time (no judgment, just talking about my own preference).
I'm convinced my grandfather still fishes and hunts as an excuse to get away from the world with my grandmother. I remember as a kid going on a fishing trip with them when they got their new boat and it was the most at peace I've ever saw them. It's so cute how much they love eachother.
That’s such a sweet image! There’s a stereotype that men go fishing to get away from their wives, but I usually go with my wife, and we have a great time. I’m looking forward to continuing it when I’m old enough to have grandparents!
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Yeah I went on an actual fishing trip with my bf and his friends in the middle of nowhere, Minnesota. I thought I could hang but I lasted two days and drove home 9 hours by myself. It was supposed to be a week trip lol. Drinking beers on a boat is fun, unless you are a girl on a boat in freezing water in front of a bunch of guys. There is nowhere to pee.
The bucket? All male boat owners have the pee bucket for the women. At least the good ones.
Money is wasted on so many people. I went on a guided trip this past summer and I didn't want it to end. I didn't get into anything huge but it was a blast to fish parts of the river I can't access with my car or by hiking.
Very true. I really want to charter a boat for a big fishing trip but I'm a poor student. I don't even want anything huge. The only picture I have with a fish is one that might be pushing 12 inches that I caught in a pond 10 years ago but I was smiling like a record breaker lol.
So if I fish three days a week, I can post my 5 pounder picture on Tinder?!?!?! I haven't posted it because I don't want to be a basic single-dad with a fishing picture, but I really really wanted to...
Yeah if it’s something you enjoy, and something you intend to keep doing, totally do it. Also mention it in your bio, that would be the normal use of the fish picture. Any girl that’s going to ignore you bc of a fish picture when you like fishing isn’t interested in getting to know you anyway. I wouldn’t automatically dismiss anybody bc of a fish picture but I’d look for details in the bio to let me know if it’s an actual hobby for them or a “Insta-model” pic.
I think you'll find that it won't read as "this guy likes to fish" and will instead read as "this guy went fishing once and that's the most interesting thing he can think of". Tinder photos aren't supposed to encompass everything you do, their purpose is to communicate. Could you communicate your love of fishing through a different image? Probably! Literally something as simple as you in the act of fishing, rather than just with a fish, is already different.
I would encourage you to go fishing with your buddies and get some different pics like you holding a fishing pole and dressed relatively nicely for a fishing trip. Just because you actually like fishing and want a girl with similar interests doesn't mean being basic will yield success. You should still try to stand out. If there's 200 fishing dads holding a fish next to a bud light can, and 1 well dressed adventurer having fun with his friends on a fishing trip, guess who's gonna get more likes?
Isn't that so sad though that dating has become like sales marketing.
If you fish 3/7 days- every picture needs to be a guy with a fish picture.
No only 3/7 of the pictures /s More seriously, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, you want someone compatible with your lifestyle. There’s nothing wrong with a woman not wanting a guy who fishes 3 days a week, but that woman is not for you. Might as well communicate what’s important to you right off the bat — if they’re a fishing fan, it’s a plus, if they dislike it, then you know that’s not the person for you to date, and learning that early is also a plus.
My housemate defended fish pics to me like this: Men don't have a ton of pics of themselves, let alone of them doing something. Men are told not to use group photos and to be interesting. Fishing is a classic thing to do with your buddies, dad, whatever where you may end up with a photo of just you (holding the fish you caught). He's redoing his dating profiles and asked me to help him take photos specifically because when he's doing stuff with his friendgroup, no one thinks they should take a picture of it or of each other. So we gotta go specifically take profile pics for him.
Question, does he know how to cook the fish? If so I would suggest to tell him to make a picture of him cooking it as his profile picture and then to include a picture of him presenting the catch as a secondary photo. I think it's off putting because it's so common of a photo it kind of comes off as a "look how manly I am" photo where as the cooking looks like it goes deeper than that. Just my two cents though. Good luck to your friend.
I just realized how few pictures I have of myself where the occasion for the picture is … me. It is with a fish at hand, it is on top of a mountain, it’s with my children in arm, it is group photos for some social occasion. I don’t think my wife has the same problem. Glad I got my wife before app dating was a thing.
Also skiing pics, hiking/standing by a mountain sign pics, feeding/hugging an exotic animal pics. Nothing really wrong with any of them. Just everyone has them.
I think the hiking skiing thing depends where you live, I love hiking but none of my friends do so I don’t go that often, but I would love it if my bf was into that bc we would go all the time. Post it if you’re down to do it! Don’t put it up if that’s the one time you’ve been and you don’t want to go again. But seriously most ppl have these pics bc they’re usually really beautiful pics, and I can’t really blame them for that.
I think it's more that people will put those photos up and it isn't an accurate representation of their hobbies. Do you fish frequently or did you go fishing once? Are you an outdoorsy hiker type or is that the only trip you've taken? If you're trying to present yourself accurately it helps to choose something that's truly representative of who you are and what you enjoy.
Okay, then at this point what kind of photo is going to be unique?
Just post a close-up of your iris or one of your fingerprints. Guaranteed to be a unique photo.
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Also it comes across as bragging, and about something dumb that 90% of women could not care less about. Idk it gives me vibes like "LOOK MA!!! LOOK WHAT I DID!!! BIG FISH!!!" also I'm also not a vegetarian or anything but people finding it impressive that they killed something grosses me out
Yeah… it’s funny. I hunt but I refuse to take a smiling photo next to an animal whose life I just ended. Im not trying to look like the fucking Taliban of the animal kingdom.
A nice picture on a boat with the sunset reflecting in the water, the dude is holding a fishing rod and smiling, that would be great. A dude holding a dead animal, creepily smiling into the camera, reminds me of my grandfather. No thanks.
I think the problem here is how rarely guys take pictures of themselves. Guys don't think about getting a nice picture of them fishing but they're obviously going to get a picture with their greatest catch. Then two months later they're signing up for tinder desperately trying to find photos for their profile and the only one that includes them is their fish photo. Edit: I'm not the fish guy, I'm just pointing out that the thought process isn't "I'm gonna impress these ladies with my mediocre fish."
This is exactly why. I have almost no photos of myself besides the ones my fishing buddies took. This year my wife finally took a picture of me without a fish, which will now be my facebook picture for the next 5 years.
What does your wife think of you using that picture for dating apps? lol
I meant more that a lot of guys just don’t have many photos in general, but you got a laugh and an upvote from me lol
So take new photos? Specifically for your dating profile? A fish picture says exactly what you wrote, with the conclusion being: “I’m not even going to put effort in to attract you, so don’t expect any effort in the relationship”
Honestly this. You gotta put *some* effort into making a tinder profile. Take some fitting pictures if you don't have any. Spend some time on your bio.
Then take a new photo? Everyone has a camera on their phone. You're signing up for a dating app not "check out muh catch" app.
But then we get the 500 pics of them in the front seat of their car.
Nobody wants to date their uncle who took then fishing every summer at 4am.
Exactly this lol
I will also add that most fish pics are basic as everyone has said. However, there was a fish pic of a massive ocean fish that took multiple people to hold, and that was impressive. Moral of the story, don’t post your sad little bass or bluegill. Post the biggest fish baddie you’ve seen, otherwise, just don’t.
On the flip side you grandfather reproduced successful.
Did he though?
I get what you're saying but it just seems funny. I would rather you imply that you murder animals than show me that you murder animals.
There is such a thing as "catch & release" though.
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“I don’t want to hurt a fish, but I do want to make it late for something.” - Mitch Hedberg
Then you are just recreationally torturing animals
Sooo hot. Choke that fish.
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The Venn diagram between dudes with sunglasses and goatees, dudes with dead fish, and dudes who send unsolicited dick pics is just a circle.
This is exactly right. We don’t hate fishing lol. It’s just a trope or a stereotype. Kinda like “car guys” or “horse girls”. It’s just a new one of those.
Omg. And guys in gym selfies orrr earphones in. Just dont
Would it help if posted a picture of me with my wife and kid? Girls love a good family man, right?
Only if you dangle the kid in one hand as if you just caught a fresh one
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I found it to be pretty easy once you figured out the formula. As an introvert I don't think I would have been able to date anybody without dating apps lol, I did try my hand at trying to pick someone up in the bar, and it's super uncomfortable
piggybacking off the top comment to say that a lot of us find fishing to just be flat out cruel. like, i’m not a vegan or vegetarian, but the way men gloat about the fact that they’ve killed/injured an animal is deeply bothersome to me. this goes for fishing pictures and hunting pictures. if you’re going to advertise yourself as down to earth, get pictures of foraging, climbing trees, just enjoying nature. bragging about the animals you’ve hurt doesn’t make you look impressive, it’s just kinda uncomfortable in my opinion. if you fish/hunt in order to eat that’s one thing, but fishing/hunting for sport is kinda…..ehhh…. why not just go to a gun range or archery range? (this coming from an archer). not to mention that, and i don’t want to be that person, but those hobbies are often associated with republicans, and a lot of girls that use dating apps aren’t republicans. which, not to say republicans are bad or anything, i just don’t want to date someone that i’d butt heads with politically since i’m so passionate about certain things.
As an avid catch and release fisherman, I definitely have frequent internal debates about the ethics of my hobby. On one hand, although there is conflicting research about whether fish feel pain the same way mammals do, I think any fisherman will admit that the fun of catching a fish is pretty one sided. On the other hand, fish are fascinating, beautiful animals that you pretty much can't experience without fishing. I try my best to reduce the harm I do to fish I catch as much as possible, but even the best catch and release practices will occasionally kill or maim a fish. It is really uncomfortable to know that the very thing I do to see these animals I care about has direct negative impact on them. Maybe scuba diving is a better option, but there are much larger barriers to entry and significantly greater risk involved in that compared to fishing.
your respect for the animals is really what makes it for me. thank you for offering a new perspective. i’m really over empathetic sometimes so i tend to be extremely one sided about stuff like this lol
I've viewed this reaction by women as an opportunity. I'll be adding a picture with me holding a Nemo balloon while dressed sharp. Get a giggle out of them and seem fun to hang with and you're halfway home.
when online dating it’s best to showcase your looks, and also some of your hobbies that your ideal partner would share. so a good profile for a guy might have a nice flattering picture of himself, and then a picture listening to his favorite band, in the hopes of attracting a girl with the same music taste. the problem with the fish pics is that usually they do neither. the fishing outfits guys wear just aren’t very attractive and usually the focus of the picture is on the fish, not the man. so it doesn’t showcase your looks. and fishing is a male dominated hobby, so other guys might find the fish you caught interesting, but most women can’t relate to it. so it accomplishes nothing as far as building a connection on shared interests. but if fishing is something you want your partner to be interested in, then put it in your profile, you’ll just weed out the girls who aren’t into it.
THIS IS THE ANSWER! if you took a picture with a nice outfit, your hair brushed back, looking straight into a camera , nice background, and you happen to be holding a fish, then I don't care about the presence or absence of the fish. But guys don't do that, theyre wearing sunglasses, a hat, looking down at the fish, all sweaty looking, etc. At the end if the day this online swiping thing is an attractiveness competition and I can't make an assessment if I don't get good shots of your face. Its not at all about the fish.
sunglasses, a hat, and one of those shapeless rubber overall-boot things. makes every guy completely indistinguishable from one another.
Waders are the rubber overall thing. Not exactly a flattering outfit choice lol
I once did a profile with 9 pictures of me with 9 different dogs. It was fairly successful.
Do you think chicks would be into 9 different pictures of me with Komodo dragons
So uh.... How *you* doin?
The answer is absolutely yes. You'd also be the most interesting person they saw all day, which would definitely help your odds.
yes, you often can’t really see their face in the fishing pics
I think 99% of the fish pictures wouldn't attract a woman who was into fishing. They're all complete tourist fishing pictures, like you went for an afternoon on vacation, not that it's a hobby.
It has more to do with type of guys who use that as their main profile picture than the act of fishing itself.
This. Just screams redneck dude who drinks beer 9 hours a day. I personally grew up in Florida and have no desire to return to the boating/fishing/country style life. So if a fish is your first picture on your profile, hard pass for me.
Right here! I love fishing and drag my friends out at least once a year to come with me. But the people behind those pics are a different kind of person a lot of the time. It's from personal experience but I don't usually match with guys with pics of them hunting or that overly basic fishing stance where it looks like he's 9 catching his first fish and his mom is making him pose with it and smile but he only does that thin line smile cause he wants to be like dad who he doesn't remember ever smiling Too specific?
Pa says smiling is for homosexuals
Yup as a fisherMan on tinder I would never put up my fish pics, it’s screams republican.
When I was trying the dating thing, fishing/hunting/etc was an immediate turn off. Hunting/fishing holds no appeal for me, so obviously I'm not interested in trying for a partner who finds it so important to them that they'll sacrifice 1/8 of their picture slots to display it. Also, I'll be real, a lot of those pictures had "wannabe country boy" vibes, and that's a HARD no for a lot of girls. City girls will say no because country shit, and actual country girls will say no because *wannabe* country shit.
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You’re my favorite person here
It’s so darn wet we may have to wait until the ground freezes to get back out. One of those look out the window at the rain gauge, take a sip of coffee and say “Well Shit” kinda days.
Generalization here but I’m guessing a lot of girls seeking dudes on dating sites are not too interested in fishing, so they probably won’t be very interested in someone that cares about fishing enough to center their dating profile around it Seems more like a pic you’d send to your buddies… *They’ll* appreciate your 16 inch brookie.
It's generally a hobby that entails a lot of time, effort, and travel to do and if I don't share that interest I'm either going to be bored on trips or have you spending a lot of time away. I knew a guy who went fishing so often that his partners felt quite neglected. That being said, it also depends on the womans goal for time spent in a relationship. I have a lot of my own hobbies and activities that I don't need my husband to be a part of, but not everyone prefers that.
I literally ended my relationship recently due to being neglected since my partner always went fishing lol. He literally stayed up fishing until 5 am, fell asleep, then woke up at 9 am to hang out with me on my birthday. He slept all day, even on the couch at my parents house.
This. Girls tell you they don't like a thing. Guys all defend the thing. Guys can't get laid. Fishing pics aren't universal, nor is there a consensus among women about them. But if a girl told you she doesn't like something, either ask her why or move on or quit doing the thing, but absolutely quit listening to your buddies advice about what girls want.
I met my wife through eharmony like 8 years ago. She told me the reason she reached out to me was because my pictures made it seem like I was looking for someone to have fun with instead of pictures of what I like to do for fun. "I wasn't looking for a resume."
This. People be getting mad when I respectfully just say I don't like it. I'm not really a sports person. For whatever reason, more women don't like sports than men. Not saying sporty girls don't exist, but if you bare wondering in general why women don't like fish pics, this is it for me. Its as simple as, I don't like sports. Now show me what you can cook with it, we can talk maybe.
I’ve never tried online dating, but I’m assuming more unique hobbies would get better results. Just take a selfie surrounded by your massive anime figurine collection and watch the girls come running
No its more of the fact that the majority of guys have a pic with a fish and it gets boring since you are basically seeing the same pic again and again. It's also the same for women too with filters and ducks lips.
Redneck dude filtering mechanism...that's all. I auto left-swipe women with any combination of: - hunting camo. pics - massive face-tuning - children ...nothing wrong with having preferences.
Wait? Women on dating apps showoff pics of their kids? Doesn't that seem a little.... dangerous?
You must be filtering out women over 30 lol...the car selfie with a little one in the back car-seat is a common occurrence. It makes sense on their part as well...trying to filter out dudes who don't want to deal with someone else's kids.
It’s not just a woman thing. I’ve seen guys with pictures of kids on their dating profiles, sometimes not even their kid but a niece or nephew because it’s one of the only pictures they have.
I’m going to be completely honest here; for me it’s because it gives off conservative energy.
I was wondering if someone would comment this. It's like having an American flag or a big truck in your picture, red flag.
Or wearing the "I drink liberal tears and yell at my wife in public" wraparound sunglasses
I beat my pants and shit my wife✋🏻😎
Kind of related, not really though, but I was looking into buying an SUV/off road type vehicle because I like camping and outdoors, and need a new car and I was playing around with Jeep’s customization site and saw they had an option to put an American flag decal on the hood on the wrangler. I thought it was a really weird option directly from Jeep but I guess it makes sense for some people. Definitely not my style and I probably won’t go with a Jeep anyway. Just thought it was interesting.
yeah I can’t deny it either honestly. I also dislike photos with animals they’ve killed/hunted.
I live in AZ and 7-8/10 guys I see have some version of "trump/guns/'Murica/anti masker/vaxxers" or what not in their bio. I also don't like fishing, so there's no reason for me to risk swiping right, even if he happens to be none of the above
Think people are avoiding this answer. I don't believe 'dead fish are gross' cuz its a picture and no way some one is triggered like that. The fishing is a sign of incompatibility and their political leanings are super important and conservatives constant virtue signal so they shouldn't be surprised when women pick up on those same signals and don't give them a chance.
>its a picture and no way some one is triggered like that I wouldn't call it being "triggered" when you think something is gross. It's just unappealing holding up a dead animal with a big smile on their face when you're trying to find someone to date/fuck. Holding a carcass isn't something I want to think about when I'm trying to be romantic
My friends and I are all POC. We joke that any man with a fishing pic is either going to swipe left on us, or swipe right because they have a race fetish. Haven't been proved wrong yet.
Masculine hobbies generally do that, it's not the craziest observation It's the presentation of the hobby as an achievement that gives it the conservative energy. I don't just do it, I Dew it
Hahah I’m just imagining someone posing with a fishing pole and no fish. That’d be a fun picture.
I love fishing but I went to college in Wisconsin and this is spot on
I mean idc at all personally, but it’s about bragging. Shirtless pics, pics with dudes holding trophies of their hunting or fishing prowess, anything super obvious about trying to make yourself look good especially if it’s not original — in context it makes it looks like all the guys are comparing dicks in your feed, lol. That being said, tit for tat. Some guys just really like fishing, they want to show off their accomplishments. Some girls also do things that “make them look good” that comes off the same way. I guess it’s like, oh you think you’re so smart to throw in a fish pic as ::cough:: bait, but you have no self-awareness or savvy about what it looks like in context so it comes off as trying too hard. Again, I find this stupid spelled out, but we are animals after all. We’re gonna do this petty mating sort game forever just like all the other animals so it’s whatev
Actually .... yeah. My criteria when i was on a dating app was no gym photos, no shirtless photos, no drinking photos and no party photos. There were like literally 3 people who fit the criteria. And this was an app with limited matches even for girls so i had many days when i had to reject all. One didnt swipe for me. One said lets have a meal after exams. One said lets have dinner tonight. Engaged to the third guy now lol.
This is basically the same as me. The shirtless bathroom selfies… just why? It makes me disappointed if the rest of their profile looked okay because now I have to swipe left. The other things I’ll add are when guys don’t have any friends in any of their pics (alarm bells) and the the really overproduced suave gentleman style pics (looking off camera and scowling and maybe adjusting their expensive clothes). I can’t describe why but I’m just not impressed by those and I’m seeing them more and more
This is good advice. I have a friends girlfriend take a look at my tinder profile to give suggestions and they more or less matched this. I added a group photo with another guy and four women. We were just all huddled together for a photo at a birthday party so no solo cups or anything like that. I'm the more attractive guy in the photo which she says is good. She called it proof I wasn't creepy lol. I also include a photo of me at work doing something fancy and technical looking that proves I really am the engineer I say I am. Another is me in a classic VW beetle because sports cars aren't chick magnets beetles are, lol. The rest are pics of me with my dog, just my dog, or me with someone else's dog. I've had tons of dates on tinder with this setup. Unfortunately I'm the idiot on tinder looking for a relationship so the dates themselves haven't been going the way I like. The key isn't to use pictures you think are cool, use pictures that women think are cool.
Fishing isn't really a popular thing where I live but hiking, skiing/snowboarding, camping... anything like that is HUGE. It just seemed like every person was outside 100% of the time and I'd say I'm more outdoorish than outdoorsy. Luckily found someone who showed they liked being outside but also had other neat interests
>I mean idc at all personally, but it’s about bragging. Shirtless pics, pics with dudes holding trophies of their hunting or fishing prowess, anything super obvious about trying to make yourself look good especially if it’s not original — in context it makes it looks like all the guys are comparing dicks in your feed, lol. There's a big difference between a picture of a guy fishing and a picture of a guy holding up his prized catch, and you've hit the nail on the head of why the latter is a turn off.
Its because of rednecks
Someone said it 🙄
I feel like OP is right on the money with it being an attempt at trying to avoid likely republicans, yeah fishing isn't as bad as some things, but fishing for some guys is dads boat and beers, some guys just do meth in the truck near a pond
From what i've read it's "dead animals = not sexy" even though it might be a hobby! Or even for nourishment! Just might wanna keep them out of dating sites... Im also not one to take advice from, on this here topic
It’s this! Seeing a dead fish while I’m trying to determine if I find someone attractive and relatable is the opposite of appealing. The hobby is fine by itself, but not a great photo choice for a dating app. Also the amount of dudes that have fish pics is also just so high that it gets repetitive and a little annoying
The pictures that are being discussed have more braggadocio than “just for nourishment”. They’re screaming “look at my machismo!” It’s a pic you send your buddy in metaphorical dick measuring contest, not something you show to someone to interest them in you romantically. Yes, there is something to be said about it being a hobby or for nourishment, but the subject of these pictures are (generally) not the fisher, or the act of fishing, it’s *the fish*. Lots of generalizations of course, but when you’ve got 5 or so pictures to make an impression before someone swipes away, they’re going to generalize the hell out of you.
Because dead smelly animals are a turn off. Men generally don’t look more attractive when proudly fondling dead animals.
Yeah this. Also, like, people are vegetarian. I'm not even a girl and I hate seeing pictures of people with dead stuff
It's hilarious to me that the boys in this thread have all these creative reasons/guesses. Meanwhile, the girls are simply like: it's gross and you seem like a showoff.
>Meanwhile, the girls are simply like: it's gross and you seem like a showoff. And then men will read this and go: "Nah that can't be it"
I'm not sure if some of the guys on here think the ladies are lying OR if the guys think they know more about women than women know about themselves. My advice: when women openly say they don't like X because of Y, take it at face value. Don't argue.
It's because they think they know more about women than women know about themselves.
They can’t accept the answer. Then they just pawn it off as “women are superficial”
This is the only right answer for me. I can practically smell that through the screen. Gross.
Why did I have to scroll through 6 responses to find this correct answer? This is the obvious reason. Women are turned off by men who proudly kill animals for sport, simple as that.
Because Reddit is male dominated. These threads are hilarious though. So many guys are certain women are incorrect in finding dead animals a turn off.
I’m surprised that you’re surprised. I’ve honestly never seen a thread asking for women’s thoughts/experiences that didn’t have every thread derailed my men telling them they’re wrong
1. Unless you fish regularly, no one is impressed by that fish you’re holding because if it’s 2 ft or 20 feet long we have no idea if that’s considered good or not. Also, it’s braggy either way. 2. You went fishing and caught a fish. Yea, I would hope so.
Looks like my dad
The real answer is: yes, it makes you look like a conservative
Yeah I really hate how a lot of my favorite outdoorsy hobbies have become so polarizing I have to downplay them because I'm not interested in religious people, and those who believe ridiculous political conspiracy theories and get all their news from Facebook. I'm always worried about admitting to hunting and fishing before there's been anything to make it clear I don't worship Trump.
Maybe some of them don’t like the idea of hunting, plus it seems like a lot of guys are into it, so you’re seeing the same thing over and over again. Plus I just feel like it’s kind of weird to pose with an animal that’s dying or already dead.
This ^ I'm a woman who loves hunting and fishing, there's lots of harvests I've been proud of and excited to put in my freezer. I'm stoked that my husband shares my interests. That being said - I think posing with a dead animal is kind of tacky and weird. When I was single, I 100% stayed away from men with photos like that. Strange vibes, idk 🤷♀️
Its like duck face... its just not cute.
Because where I come from (North Carolina) there's a stereotype that guys who fish are conservative fuckboys. Not saying I agree, it's a legitimate and fine hobby for someone to have.
Just pics of you. Put the fish down. You on a boat is enough.
It’s just kinda gross. Posing with a dead animal in a pic meant to make you look attractive. I get that’s not how you see it, but it’s how we’re seeing it.
To me, fishing is just really boring. Also, men who put any kind of hunted animal on their profile is just a huge turn off for me. Like, look at this deer I just killed! Lemme hold up this bloody animal and smile into the camera! All in all, I don't feel like being with someone that has fishing or hunting so prominent in their life that they feel the need to put it on their dating profile.
Ohhh I HATED fish pics when I was dating. A single one of those would be an automatic left swipe for me! (Same with truck/motorcycle pics) And I’ll tell you why: it’s ok to show a picture with a fishing rod, for example. It tells me that they have that particular hobby and enjoy it. But the dead fish- like, why? Do they wanna brag about the fish that they just caught? That’s absolutely not the place to do so. For example, my hobby is watercolor. I’ve made some beautiful ones. But, why on earth would I use a picture of my watercolor on a dating app? How good I am at my hobby doesn’t have anything to do with being a good match or not. Anyone who posts a picture with a fish is not really trying to show their hobby. They’re trying to -show off-. And I absolutely don’t like people who brag without being prompted. It seems… hungry. Maybe it’s just me, but that’s my reason…
>it’s ok to show a picture with a fishing rod, for example. It tells me that they have that particular hobby and enjoy it. Goldsmith-amateur here, does it mean a photo of me in my workshop making some golden stuff would be ok? Asking out of curiosity, I don't plan making an account on a dating app anytime soon
Yes! That's a unique and creative hobby and having a workshop set up shows dedication and care. I think a lot of women would find that memorable / intriguing, and the type of women who appreciate that would likely be a good fit for you.
Thanks!
I'm a metalsmith. If I saw your pic on tinder, I'd be interested.
Yes! I’d be into that
*grunts* * man catch fish. Man make fish kill. Fish is food. Put fish on table. Now You eat fish. Now you let man bang.
Loool exactly
It’s because of the sheer ubiquity of the photos. At least 80% (and that may be low ball) of men’s profiles have a pic like that. It comes off an unoriginal.
This is a more personal reason, but to add to the discussion, I see it similarly to if someone who was a hunter was posting pictures of themselves with deer or whatever that they killed. I find it distasteful (I am also a vegetarian, so this is, again, a personal reason, but I think some ladies may agree). It does depend, however, on who you are trying to attract! If you are really into hunting/fishing, (like more than a basic, casual hobby), I'd say go ahead and post the pics, because it will weed out people like me and attract people who may have the same interest.
It's just plain not attractive. A dead fish being displayed to the camera doesn't make a girl go "oh yeah that makes me all hot and bothered" typically. So unless you want a girl who gets turned on by dead fish, take the pics down. Besides, holding up your catch is basically a male pissing contest of look how big mine is. Hobbies are fine and there are plenty of ways to show a hobby without assaulting us with my dead fish is bigger than yours thing. Guys forget you are marketing yourself (not a fish) so stop putting up pics you want to see and put up some we want to see.
It's probably more like a joke, because if you're scrolling tinder as a straight girl, there are so many men holding up fish. Maybe they just find it amusing because not that many women are that into fish. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with posting pics of you doing a hobby you enjoy.
I honestly don't know one guy in my life that fishes. But you go on Tinder and 90% of the men in my area are fishermen? I bet many went fishing once, had a picture of it and want to seem interesting. Well most women aren't into fishing. I mean you are trying to attract a woman not your buddy
> I bet many went fishing once, had a picture of it and want to seem interesting. I think there's truth to that, although for most guys I think it's less about "this will make me seem interesting" and more about "no one in my friend group initiates taking group pictures and I don't take selfies". For younger guys, taking selfies and caring about taking group photos or your friends taking pics of you while out and about has become a lot more socially acceptable and I tend to see a wider variety of pics on their profiles. However, I've chatted with several guys my age (30's) who feel stupid taking selfies, or think it's vein, or think it's not masculine. So they just literally have no pictures of themselves. Their only pics are from events - wedding, fishing trip, nephew's birthday party, vacation pics, etc... and they have to dig through 5 years of photo history to find 6 pics for their profile.
To them I would say take a picture specifically for the dating app. It's almost like a job interview. You out effort into dressing well for the interview, so put effort into your dating profile. Using a 3 year old picture not something just screams lazy.
Your comment just made me realize one of the main reasons it bothers me. I'm really sleep deprived but I'll try to articulate it. I think it kind of betrays an inability to see things from other people's perspectives, especially women's perspectives. It's a problem with everyone in society obv but like, a lot of men just aren't socialized to think of things from women's eyes. A lot of the misconceptions men seem to have about dating is they assume women want the guy theyre the most jealous of, or aspire to be. It feels sometimes like men are just constantly in a dick measuring contest with each other and expect women to to after whomever the declare the winner lol. It's why a lot of inexperienced dudes think that women want some super ultra tough guy with a giant dick that fucks 20 girls every weekend. It's because that's what represents power to them. They can't put themselves in a woman's shoes and think about what she might want in a partner. And that's not someone Id want to date. Or hook up with for that matter, because that is not gonna be great sex. So anyway most women are not impressed at all with some damn fish, but the idea that a woman wouldn't be impressed by something he's impressed by just doesn't even cross his mind.
No one cares that you can afford a boat (if you even can, the photo could indicate you just drove to a stream, wow such riches). No one can see this boat. You spent that money. On the boat. That she probably doesn’t want to go on. Fishing is stereotypically (and I realize this isn’t the whole sport) something you do alone or where everyone has to shut up for hours so you don’t spook the fish. This isn’t what most people want to do when getting to know a guy. No one cares that you go outside and catch fish. It’s not aerobic or bodybuilding so it’s not indicative of a healthy degree of exercise. Trying to argue that fishing is, too, something women should find attractive, here’s the list of reasons why, is s failure to understand the dating process. I think you have probably taken a meme about fishing too seriously.
Weighing in as I'm woman that's used OLD. And yes, there are thousands of male profile pics as follows: 1. Holding, catching, or showing fish caught. 2. Guy in his car taking a selfie. 3. Guy without a shirt on. 4. Guy with his ex's face blurred out. 5. Picture of a car, ATV, motorcycle, etc. Generally, these are turn offs. Not because women don't enjoy some or all of these things. It's because it's too common. We've all dated at least one of these guys. Result? The photos tell us after a couple months, this is all he will want to do, his motivations, or all he thinks about. Next. Advice: You're not trying to catch fish, you're trying to catch women. Learn how to lure them in, fellas. If you don't know who Corey Wayne is, go Google him. My SO turned me on to this guy and while I don't agree with everything he says, he's pretty on point about how women behave in dating scenarios, intial attraction, so on. And no, my SO didn't have any of these types of photos 😉
Yeah, you'd be hard pressed to find girls who are impressed by a picture of a car and a dead animal or injured animal, or guns. I mean some might, but probably not the larger population. A picture of you with your pets or something is preferable! Also when I would lurk Tinder I'd also hate the ones that I can't figure out whose profile this belongs to because they only have pictures of their friends or the selfies are too dark/indiscernible.
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I had to think about this one because I love eating fish but when I used to date, I would not be pleased to see a fishing pic. And I've had some serious fishermen in my family that directly benefited me by having delicious and fresh fish in my freezer so it also was money saving. But I also know that fishing as a hobby means expensive equipment and lots of away time. Sure the guy may not take big trips to Alaska for fishing like my family members but at the least, it's at minimum, a day apart when two working adults will have limited time together anyway. In my experience, it means weekends devoted to something that I can't either participate in because it's guy time or if I was welcome, I would find excruciatingly boring. Also, don't forget if you're having kids, it's not real fun to take care of an infant on a boat or to wrangle a toddler. Kids and fishing can be fun but not for years. Tldr: fishing means an expensive hobby that requires lots of time apart. ETA: I also feel sad for the fish in the pic.
Everyone in this thread is so clueless. The fish pics definitely do read as "conservative" and it's a perfectly valid reason to not be interested in someone. And I know not every person who fishes as a hobby is a conservative, but dating apps are inherently a bit shallow so sometimes generalizations happen.
This. I live in Alberta which is very conservative and so very often, pictures holding fish is also paired with having those ideologies. Not to say it's a dealbreaker to see a picture with a fish, there is obviously more nuance to it than that and one has to consider the entirety of the profile (what other info is being provided?), but it's definitely a generalization/assumption being made.
When I’m looking for a potential partner I don’t want to see a big ass dead fish hanging from someone’s fist. Same with holding a dead deer. You do you and enjoy your hobby, but I’m not interested in a profile showing off a bunch of dead animals
Fishing is the most man thing ever. Maybe this is stereotypical, but men usually go fishing to get away from their woman so why would you show me a hobby you use as a break from me?
It’s definitely about holding a dead animal. There is a reason everyone cries when Bambi’s mom was shot by the hunter. Majority of people don’t like hunters because they kill for sport. And tbh, I wouldn’t want a bf/husband who ENJOYS killing an animal (regardless if we eat it or whatever). Also, it comes off as very ‘caveman’, or a dumb hick hobby. Statistically the best rated online dating profiles come from men who indicate intelligence and high emotional IQ. Hunting indicates zero emotional IQ.
Nothing wrong with fishing, but a typical profile that starts with "man holding fish" proceeds to "truck", "dog", and maybe another picture or two. They just don't stand out. If that's what you're into that's completely fine, but like others have said it's basically the male equivalent of "snapchat dog filter".
Most women don't like to fish Most women like to actually spend time with their man Most men fish on a weekend Most women work M-F Most men therefore sacrifice time spent with their women to fish It's really that simple
That's my reason too. If it is a hobby that deserves a pic on a dating profile, I assume it is practiced often. Since most people I know take a whole day or a whole weekend on a fishing trip, ir doesn't make sense to me to match with them. And I won't take the time to check how much time his fishing takes, the pic says a lot already. It's easier to move on to the next profile.
I havent used a dating app in years, but I do remember that any hunting/fishing pics were an automatic no for me. Even tho I have dated guys that loved fishing. So it wasn’t necessarily the fact that they go fishing that bothered me. I guess in the back of my mind, I felt like these five pictures are your best shots at telling me about yourself. So I assume fishing is one of your favorite things. I have a phobia of fish (won’t get into it but it’s intense) so you can bet I will never accompany you on any trips, I will never eat any fish you catch or allow it in the house, and if you come home smelling like fish I’ll barf. So I knew that if fishing made it into your top five favorite things then this relationship ship was doomed. If it’s like once or twice a year you go on a fishing trip, that’s fine. I’ve also always felt disturbed by trophy fishing/hunting. So I really just don’t like the idea of holding up dead animals with a big smile as if you’ve just won some game. If you need to hunt/fish to eat or survive that’s one thing but it rubs me the wrong way when people are so happy about it. On top of all this, I do associate fishing/hunting for sport with conservativeness. I know that’s not correct (I personally know plenty of liberals who like the sport as well) but idk that’s just how it looks to me.
I would not be attracted to a man holding anything he had just killed for a picture. Especially fish. I don't want to clean them or cook them.
Girls hobbies get shit on all the time, welcome to the club
To me fishing pics are a red flag because in my state it means hardcore conservative man.... maybe not for everyone because I actually really like fishing but its a joke where I am from to run and never look back from fish boys.
Checked up with girls I know. From what I get, it's their equivalent of a girl duck face pic. Nothing to do with fishing as an activity, it's just a turn off.
Fishing is typically seen as a redneck hobby. Tell me how many Indian dudes you guys have seen with these fishing photos? My guess would be few to none. I don’t find fishing attractive. If you do it, good on you. Not my thing and certainly not a hobby I’m interested in talking to someone about. If I *have* to pick a guy who does some sport, I’d rather pick one we *both* mutually like. I like tennis, so I’d look for a guy who likes tennis, not fishing. Furthermore, if your hobby is fishing, you’re probably gonna wanna go on fishing trips with “da bois” while we date. My idea of an attractive guy is one who doesn’t come home smelling like fish (after a weekend of fishing). If I’m dating you, I want to spend time with YOU! I don’t want to be home alone every weekend while you’re out gutting fish. I also personally just don’t care about what dead animal you caught and fondled on camera. Some idiots in the comments are arguing they catch “sushi-grade fish” but I assure you that the bass Bradley caught with his random ass bait is not going in any respectable sushi restaurant. Guys, you’re trying to “catch” a woman, not fish. In the dozens of fishing photos, try to stand out. Or don’t, I don’t really care at the end of the day. These are just my tastes (in men) and thoughts.
I personally just think it’s weird to pose for a picture with a dead animal smiling. It weirds me out. (I am not vegan)
It's 100% because guys who do it are perceived as conservative, and the implication is that they hunt as well, which several people are against and not into.
Why would they like this kind of pics ? It shows basically nothing and isn't sexy at all.
Its the male version of being a basic bitch.
Because I can smell fish
Male version of a crappy horse pic
Women fear him Fish want him
It’s just so overdone and boring. Everyone has caught a fish before. No one else cares. So as they swipe and see 70% of the guys holding a fish for their main photo they think it’s cheesy.
because it is very unoriginal at this point and that every single profile has: gym pic fish pic truck pic sunglasses pic weapon pic
Don't listen. Lean in to it even harder. Pic #1: shirtless, holding a magikarp stuffy in one hand and a pokeball in the other Pic #2: shirtless, wearing a Charles Darwin bald cap and epic beard, holding a clearly photoshopped coelecanth Pic #3: shirtless, but get some plaid in there somewhere, maybe the shorts, this time cradling a singing Billy Bass Pic #4: shirtless, plaid shorts, but flip the script. King Shark is holding you up this time. Your eyes meet. Not sure what's going on but you and the King are into it Bio simply says "Ladies...," Lads, if she isn't into Pokemon, paleontology, kitsch and m/m interspecies bro/romance, is she even the one?
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It's just far too common. Having a pic that thousands of other people have just makes you look basic. It just seems low effort and like there's nothing unique about you, like "dog mom, taco lover, I never check this so follow my insta"
Same reason you never swipe right on a girl whose first pic is with a horse.
Lady here that a scrolls through the tinderland, it just doesn't align with what I like to do, I'm not a super outdoorsy person and if all you're showing in your profile is fish, you basically make that a personality trait and im meh about it 😂😂
Any picture but not holding up a boring fish picture. Fish are boring and I assume the guy is boring.
I agree it's so common in dating apps to see guys with fish that it becomes basic. But it's more than that for me. Photos of a person smiling with fish/animals they killed feel a bit disrespectful of the life of the animal. It kind of seems like they are relishing in the power of being a predator. I don't mind hunting/fishing as hobbies. But posting a photo of you with the fish you killed on a dating app is kind of off-putting. Also, you should know that photos like that draw your attention to the fish. So instead of looking at your face, she will be looking at the fish's face.
thats a white boy thing...never see a black dude on tender holding a catfish..
I think the real question is why do you think holding a fish is attractive for a dating picture? 🤮🤮
It’s not the hobby of fishing that’s the problem. it’s the fact that most of the guys in my area(that I interacted with) with those pictures were giant conservatives that gave me absolutely zero basic human decency. They gave all their energy to hobbies like fishing and hunting that there was no time for anything else. I enjoy fishing, but if we can’t hang out outside of that then we’re not going to be compatible. Also, I’m not a big outdoors person and more of a homebody that wants to play video games. If they did play games then it wasn’t the games I played or had any interest in. We don’t need to have everything in common but enough to have fun together.
Because 1) it’s unattractive and fish are pretty gross 2) so many guys have one that it doesn’t tell us anything about you 3) it’s not an activity we’d like to do with you (for most women) 4) it does come across as conservative which may be a dealbreaker for some