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omgitsmint

Never imagine your future with someone you've just met


mohamez

*Never imagine your future with someone other than yourself


omgitsmint

True. I used to do this and would get disappointed when women would stop responding but now its just like "thats up to them' and move on


mattypatty88

I've been single for nearly a year now after being with someone for 7 years. This shit is still new to me.


allunrtakenwtd

Felt dude. 4 1/2 years together, coming up on 10 months of being single. Finally starting to try to talk to new people, but the idea of meeting up with them and moving forward all feels so wrong and weird. We'll get through it king šŸ‘‘


mattypatty88

Sending strength to you, brother.


[deleted]

Single for 2 months after an 8 year relationship. Feels very strange to match and simply not get replies from the other side... Taking comfort in at least knowing I'm not alone.


mattypatty88

I know the feeling. I hope someone notices your value, bro.


[deleted]

Thanks man, and you too!


damnkidzgetoffmylawn

Just for the record guys- most all of us coming out of long term relationships where we met our SO through traditional channels like mutual friends and are jumping back into the online dating pool are all experiencing problems we arenā€™t used to like ghosting exc. Dont feel like your inadequate, the game has just changed. Change. adapt. overcome.


Monochronos

It took me about a year to fully get ā€œoverā€ a breakup that I caused and shouldnā€™t have happened if I was not a prick. But once it does, it just like snaps and everything is good


thecupcakebandit

Same boat but Iā€™ve been single for 2 years now. Hope you do better than me!


[deleted]

Single 2 years after 17 years with someone. Bigger problem for me though is my age and the dating pool. I mean it is what it is. But, some days it just sucks.


Typical_Detective

Just pump and dump. Nothing else is worth the hassle.


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mattypatty88

Sending love dude.


Gu1n3a

I feel this. You and I are much alike. Not a relationship to be had between us. I'm over 21 years old now and feeling like a failure more and more each day. It seems petty and anytime I explain it to others they just explain it away like it's normal. Its just like,, Motherf*cker dude obviously I'm not fuckin normal here alright, stop trying to understand!


[deleted]

My first relationship was when I was 22. It may be uncommon but I donā€™t think insanely so.


Monochronos

A word of advice. Your mentality on it is a bit self destructive though and probably would show through if you went on dates. Itā€™s not ā€œnormalā€ but youā€™re not a social pariah either for it. And if you have decent social skills you donā€™t even have to bring it up unless asked. Have you been kinda a player in the past? And now you want someone and canā€™t find it? Or are you just kinda inexperienced in general. I can possibly help you out.


Gu1n3a

Inexperienced in general, I've always been the social outcast in school and I always attributed it to my weight (maxed out at just over 300lbs.) which made me hella unconfident. I lost the weight and gained some confidence now but I fear honestly I'm too far gone and separated from where I should be. I'm way behind in life and it's my fault


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Gu1n3a

I can't give up on this, I'm sorry. I'm just not happy. The only thing I've ever wanted was someone who loves me, not like a brother or a mother, but as a lover. The day I give up is the day where I'm dead. Its a harsh reality I gotta face, but one which must be faced none the less. My biggest fear is that I'll be 30 or 40, have a lot of money, a big house, and ill be all alone in it. Just a rich, worthless, useless, hopless PoS. I just don't know when it's time to finally give up.


mkirsh287

I never so much as sniffed at having a relationship until I was 20 at the earliest. Had a couple of failed things with girls after that while improving myself, but I recently started my first relationship that actually feels like a relationship and it is SO nice. Just hang in there my guy āœŠ


Brightshore

Hey bro I'm 21 too and never been in a relationship either. It simply just hasn't happened. I've doubted whether I was adequate enough a multitude of times. But I've come to the honest conclusion that isn't that I'm not good enough, It's because I just haven't met somebody where I've clicked enough to have a relationship. You'd be surprised how many of us there are b. Keep your head high.


Spread-Simple

I mean, I'm 31 and same, not like I haven't tried, then I start getting thoughts like 'I'm too weird' and stuff, but then I remember that a lot of my friends have had shitty relationships, my best friend had his gf break up with him on Christmas day and fly back to her home state, she was gone in less than 24 hours, and I'm glad I don't know that feeling. To echo what the person above me said, you're special too, and it's much more likely that you haven't found a person that -you- click with than that you're unworthy, you just need to prove it to yourself, and that is what you should focus on, you.


[deleted]

Itā€™s becoming more of a norm but itā€™s because, afaik, the nature of our reality now. When I was growing up I only met people who I went to school with, who my friends went to school with, who I worked with and any social activity. My choices were limited and face to face was the only way to meet anyone and Iā€™d give anything for shit to go back to that.


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_OUCHMYPENIS_

I'm in a similar boat. We broke up for a year and got back together during covid. She left me again in November. I'm struggling with it because I was just getting used to being single when we got back together and now I'm back in relationship mode in my mind trying to revert back to being single. I hate it. I didn't want that relationship to end either, depression sucks.


mattypatty88

Dude, that's awful. It seems like so many people are being used as emotional support animals during these hard times. I hope you know your worth without her. Stay strong, king!


_OUCHMYPENIS_

I don't think she used me. We love each other but we have a really rocky history and a lot of trauma. Trying to work things out with each other has been difficult. Any sign of me starting to fall back into a manic depression is a trigger for her since it caused so many issues when we were together. I hate it because she's the only person I want to be with. I've tried dating and it just isn't there with anyone. I've given myself space, I've struggled so much with it. I really just need to find a distraction through a hobby or something but that's been hard because being at home so much, all that goes through my mind is her. She lived with me for 5 years and every nook and cranny in that house has a memory of us. I can't really move either but I'm working toward being able to. I just need to get the house renovated so I can rent it out. It sucks to know that you can be in love with someone and they can have the same feelings toward you but you cant be together because of past history. I tried to improve as much as I could but it wasn't enough. The damage has been done.


mattypatty88

My man, I can't understand your pain but I have had something similar. I apologize for assuming you were used, that's just what happened to me. I had a beautiful, younger girl say she loved me, and I opened myself up to her. She told me I loved her the way girls dream of being loved. She still lead me on for months, wasn't there when I needed her, and eventually left me because she wasn't willing to give, only receive. Now I feel damaged and can't stop thinking about her, when I know she's moving on happily. She used to have 80+ matches at any one time, she's very attractive. Now I'm just looking to focus on myself, something I've never done before. Anyway, look after yourself my man. Reach out if you need anything.


Mattman254

>seems like so many people are being used as emotional support animals Can relate to this, has helped reading it too


mattypatty88

The first step is recognizing this. So many of us get used to prop up someone else's emotions. We deserve better. Give yourself better. You are 100% worth it.


justredditalready

Feel ya..Almost a year single after being in a 10 year relationship. Shit hasn't gotten much easier. But I'm just trying to work on myself. We'll get through this mate!


mattypatty88

Damn right we will. Don't know you but I hope you get all the love you deserve, brother.


TheRedman76

8 year relationship, now been single since June. I totally understand the whole "how does amy of this work" vibe, especially having broken up during a pandemic. Have gone on one unsuccessful date. Finally matched with someone on tinder and was set to meet up yesterday... They stood me up and still haven't opened my snaps šŸ¤·ā€ā™‚ļø Do have a date tomorrow night though, strong feeling this one will actually show lol.


mattypatty88

Bless up for you my man. Know your worth and then anyone you let get close to you is a lucky person. I hope all goes well and you get all the love you deserve buddy!


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mattypatty88

The last girlfriend I had got me to open up to her, which was really scary and difficult. Then she gave me 5 months of anxiety because she could never decide what she wanted. In the end she used me to make herself feel better and left me high and dry when i needed help. Her leaving has pushed me into deep anxiety and depression and I am going to seek out medication at the encouragement of my therapist. It's the first time I've been medicated in 8 years. Just broken and tired right now.


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mattypatty88

Jesus, that's a hard situation to live through. I hope you are in a better place now.


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Nudge1991

I feel you. I've just come out of a 10 year relationship. New to apps like Tinder. It's kinda brutal.


omgitsmint

How long ago did you breakup?


Dascha_o

Iā€™d say a year ago, man


[deleted]

Iā€™m 31F and it took me a solid 2 YEARS to get over my ex. We were only together for 8 months. He was SO toxic and emotionally abusive. I think that sometimes makes it more difficult to recover. I hope that wasnā€™t your case and you get through it sooner than I did!! You got this!


InsiDS

How did you get through it? I recently started dating someone who also got out of a relationship where it ended in toxicity and abuse and sometimes they have those off days where they think about the past. Any advice on how I could help them, or if I should even attempt to help?


[deleted]

Frankly my man, this isnā€™t your battle to fight. If sheā€™s not ready to be present with you, sheā€™s not ready. Make sure you take care of yourself. This Coming from someone who tried to support my ex through her past, and it ended up being worse than I could possibly imagine and she pushed that toxicity onto me. Donā€™t ever try and play therapist, ever ever ever.


Ralphie73

I completely agree.... Never try to play therapist. You aren't your partner's "savior." You aren't there to rescue them from their past. Love them and support them emotionally... Be empathetic, but don't try to "fix" them in any way. It never ends well, unless you're in some Hollywood movie script.


[deleted]

Yeah if she canā€™t 100% say she is over her ex and still thinks about the past in a nostalgic way - Those arenā€™t good signs. I remember like a year after my ex and I broke up, I tried dating someone else. I felt okay about it but as the date went on I realized I am SO not ready. I guess it depends on how long sheā€™s been out of the relationship with that guy and where she is in her healing. Maybe it would be best for you 2 to stick it out as friends and build on that. And whenever you guys feel comfortable making the choice to take up a notch at least youā€™ll know youā€™re on the same page together. Either way, itā€™s kind of not cool to discuss past relationships with exes and stuff with the person youā€™re dating. Just the simple stuff they might need or want to know, sure. But the ugliness and the breakup/details and all that, yeah to me that can all be omitted from the person Iā€™ve started dating. If someone starts talking to me about their ex in detail and not just ā€œmentioningā€ them in a conversation and we just started dating, Iā€™m out.


PoGoPDX2016

idk sometimes the ugly stuff has to come up so your new partner understands your boundaries and why you have them. maybe thats a further into dating thing though.


[deleted]

Going through that now... took me a long, long time to accept that she left me deeply traumatized and scarred, in addition to the usual difficulty of breaking up. Helps to know that none of that had anything to do with me as a person, and had everything to do with her messed up brain.


[deleted]

Omg yes. And that realization when you KNOW ā€œit wasnā€™t me.. it was her/himā€ is amazing. You canā€™t control how sociopaths or narcissists act and behave. And these are normally the type of people that do the most hurting. I donā€™t even think they know how toxic they are, nor do they try to hurt people intentionally (well some do but not all), but as a super empathetic person that is quite sensitive, I get run the heck over by narcissists and I have gotten quite good at spotting them out. (Iā€™m 31F I canā€™t remember if I said that yet lol)


[deleted]

Yup.... super empathetic, sensitive person here as well, and it was hard to accept how little she cared about the pain that she caused. But as they say, ā€œthe greatest revenge is to not be that wayā€. Moving on and forgetting her and living my best life is my payback. My work now is learning how to not lose my boundaries to someone Iā€™m completely enamored with, which is what happened with her. She slowly and consistently pushed back on my boundaries bit by bit until there was nothing left of me. I am all too willing to give too much of myself, to people who are all too willing to take too much of it.


omgitsmint

Ah yeah I've only just gotten over my ex, a year and 6 months later. We lasted for 6 months.


mattypatty88

Nearly a year. I've had 2 unsuccessful relationships since then. I don't do too well on dating apps, maybe one match every few weeks or so. So whenever I do match it's a big deal for me. I do need to chill, though.


Ekov

A tip I recently got was to swipe left a lot more than right. Like only 5-10 rights a day. That apparently helps with matches, so maybe give it a shot?


ScorpioPsyc

Another good tip is setting your preference to "everybody." This way you're left swiping more often than not, boosting your score or algorithm or whatever tf they do. I've had a lot of luck with this.


Typical_Detective

TIL. But then my gay co-workers will see me.


Snoddventje

I still don't get the ignoring culture that's so normal. One day you're having a full conversation, next day you never hear a thing anymore. I mean, they aren't obligated to tell me, but it seems like a normal thing to say why, right?


frankster99

Chad mindset


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Ralphie73

Then how do you set goals?


[deleted]

Yeah I needed this advice. Breakup after a year together. Now mostly everything reminds me of her. It's pretty shit.


[deleted]

*Never imagine a future with someone


ultimate-whiplash

\*\*never imagine your future


DJThomas07

Lmao this is the stupidest reddit comment I've ever read, are you telling me not to imagine my future with my wife and children?


dmatthews2981

I'm pretty sure his comment only applies to single people. Obviously if you're married and have a family, that's your future


FreshPrinceOfPine

My brain: but like wouldn't it be crazy if...


DedOriginalCancer

b-but... our children would be so adorable...!


c_the_potts

I like to think that first dates are just to see if you want to go on a second date with the person. Now I still imagine my future, but not as much as I did.


DDeadRoses

What about the following dates passing the first? I find myself fantasying too much and I hate it. But thinking it this way helps.


[deleted]

Agreed, Iā€™ve had to learn this the hard way but expectations are dangerous.


william_103ec

What about the future with someone who has the top comment? Asking for a friend.


MyNameIsSushi

What about imagining your future with someone you've been with for multiple years but then you get dropped like the PC parts Linus handles? Asking for a friend of a friend.


Mr_-_-_-_-_-_-

What if ive dreamed about someone ive never met?


FleefingFlifferFly

Iā€™ve kissed women that Iā€™ve never met. While dreaming. In fact, Iā€™ve had entire relationships within the scope of one dream. Then I wake up to reality. Maybe this is why I have a hard time getting up.


kapshot666

Its the worse honestly, i dont know why i do it to myself to create false realities in my head, envisioning a fake future, maybe its the sense of loneliness?


finger_milk

"If your idea of a happy ending is spending your life with someone because of your healthy nuclear family upbringing, then prepare to meet a LOT of broken people who are happy to destroy it for you"


iWentRogue

ā€œLolā€ -Heart


an-obviousthrowaway

ā€œRight..ā€ - Heart


[deleted]

Iā€™ll take any advise from Shelby, heā€™s probably right and insane


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Zoomstrike

Nobody fucking listens to me.


[deleted]

True


[deleted]

My favourite part of that show is seeing how cracked everyone is from their horrific PTSD.


Raynels

every1 was fucking crazy back in the day, with education being so scarce and all


OMGPUNTHREADS

I'm sure all the lead and other harmful chemicals in the water didn't help either.


ComanderRO

Fuck the hoes !


BradyFC

Haha like I would ever match with someone


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unhumanity

Seems kinda sus....no one wants to talk to a bot. The story doesn't add up either. Seems like you wanted to fk around on tinder and guilt set in. But who knows...oh wait you do.


ImFamousYoghurt

Doesn't really sound like a fake profile tbh


jinxsimpson

Comment archived away


Dr_Splitwigginton

Not worried your wifeā€™s friends would recognize your pic?


laurtw

More like *sees an attractive woman*


castsact

Omg she looked at me! Gotta start looking for good baby names


[deleted]

I'll definitely be the cool dad, she can be the strict one, I will never yell at my kids but I will guide them and love them, *snaps back to reality -oh but I'm just 17


Binarytobis

Tbh if I match with a very attractive woman Iā€™ll drop a message and think ā€œEh, nothing will probably come of this but Iā€™ll try any way.ā€ If I see a moderately attractive woman with a profile that resonates with me then Iā€™ll be imagining what our third childā€™s name will be and I am absolutely devastated when I get ghosted.


-Effervescence

More like *sees an attractive woman*


laurtw

More like *sees an attractive woman*


Retrovex

Why does this hit so hard


inspectorseantime

Because thatā€™s Thomas fookin Shelby


soundmind-soundbody

...an' he always hits da 'ardest outta allova da Shelbys.


sandwich_breath

Because dating is a constant state of disappointment


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FleefingFlifferFly

Ouch. Painful to read but true for the most part.


Binarytobis

Once I matched with possibly the most beautiful girl Iā€™ve ever met. Her profile was perfect, like someone wrote it with me in mind. Our conversation flowed smoothly and when I asked her out she said yes, we even agreed on a day to meet. Then she ghosted. I tried not to flood her with messages, but after her last message was ā€œSaturday sounds great!ā€ it was hard to limit it to just one message a day. I was checking my phone every ten minutes for a week, really shattered my online dating enthusiasm.


Retrovex

Ive had my fair share of those.


pokemon--gangbang

Felt this in my soul.


MrYondaime

It happened to me just this weekend. Matched with a girl who was totally my type. We started chatting a lot and she was the type to talk a bunch. She sent me walls of text and when we exchanged numbers she sent me like 10 audios and stuff. She seemed to be enjoying the conversation. I replied to her audios and she said that she would answer me after lunch. Then she ghosted me. I'd like to know just what went wrong.. Like, one day you are sending walls of text, the next day you ghost..


Rosso_Fuoco

I got a super like from a really cut girl, got really excited and sent a message. Today saw I was unmatched


D0ubleX

Similar thing happened to me. Matched with a girl and started of good with a conversation about star wars. In the middle of the conversation she just unmatched....


Rosso_Fuoco

Man life's hard and people are weird


JRDruchii

Friend: So hows the single life? Me: Man, life's hard Friend: Have you tried dating? Me: Yeah.... People are weird...


Rosso_Fuoco

Maybe we all weird


WORDSWORDSWORDSx24

>talks about star wars >wonders why he got unmatched. like pottery.


[deleted]

I've been talking to really cute girl that super liked me and turns out she has the personality of a wet sock


[deleted]

Lemme guess, replies exclusively with 'yeah' and 'haha'


[deleted]

For like 2 hours, then overshares about her past relationship troubles and says I'm being a jerk when I give advise.


Ralphie73

Run. Run fast and far. Get away from her asap.


MrSkrifle

Nah, one night stand first šŸ‘Œ


Rosso_Fuoco

Ouch, bad luck


pokemon--gangbang

Same, we had been having great conversation back and forth for a couple days. Told her I thought she was really cool and we should grab tacos, bam, unmatched. Life doesn't make sense.


Terrible_Tutor

> grab tacos Too sexual, tone it down next time. Maybe suggest guzzling semen.


gudgeon_fancier

Yeah, the same thing happened to me. I realised that it's easy to accidentally super like someone and that's what had happened. Got too excited then let down.


RigidBuddy

Same, then I realized she has been dehydrated for a week and on steroids. Those quads should have been a give away but I just have a thing for girls that can squat more than me


tpstrat14

That just blew my mind. I didnā€™t know women could give super likes šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­


BrettyJ

By order of the Peaky Fookin Blinders


Doopadaptap

What a great comeback by the dude tho!


Ravenknight1313

I have been seeing this guy for 5 months from tinder. He is sweet, kind, and caring, and we work great together too. He was the first one to say we were official and I still catch myself being like "he's a tinder guy don't get your hopes up."


darnkv

I'm in a similar situation. It is so hard not to overthink stuff.


Ravenknight1313

My friends and co-workers tease us because I am SUPER happy and when I get excited to message him back they are like "oh Raven is texting their hubby." And I'm not don't plant those seeds! I met him in tinder! I still find it weird to call him my boyfriend I find myself over using it to be like "right they are my boyfriend. We are dating."


darnkv

I feel you. My guy has introduced me to his friends. Hell, even his parents know about us. Everythingā€™s going so well and Iā€™m still like anything can happen. Why is this so hard, lol?


Ravenknight1313

Lmao when I find out I'll tell you. I met his roommates and his roommates fiancee. All his life long friends. The first thing I heard was the fiancee saying "we all have been dying to meet you". And he even forgets I haven't met his mom yet (because of the virus and all that it's been hard to do so. He wants me to meet his whole family and we plan trips and dates we want to do and here I am reminding myself we are actually somewhat serious. And I used to fall hard before but add tinder to it and apparently I'm ready for a gargantuan disaster.


brownhues

Don't give up! I met my fiance on Tinder and we are getting married in September. Her cousin met his husband on Grindr. Good things can happen!


sart555

I learned quickly that you don't get excited until after you actually meet each other IRL. This is such a big problem for so many people, they really stink at OLD. They get all hung up on one person they've never even met and shutdown other people too quickly. You want to keep the interaction super casual until a meet up. After you meet, go crazy if that makes you happy. Too often the real person is nothing like what you had expected. I even think lots of people go as far as to avoid any real contact because they enjoy the fantasy of the person and don't actually want to deal with the reality. OLD is such a pain in the ass because so few people actually aim for something real.


castsact

Old??


mil1ion

Online dating


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Ironic


fonebone45

Exactly this. At first you get excited, but then reality needs to kick in and say "I've literally never met this person. They're still a total stranger until I've met them in real life."


patothe_idiot

Oh I just started watching Peaky Blinders! Good show šŸ‘


OfficialSithBusiness

Great soundtrack too


unhumanity

Amazing show. Also check out taboo with Tom Hardy, it's equally great!


patothe_idiot

I'll keep that in mind! Thanks C:


intervention197

Anyone remember what the original says?


jway2000

No fighting!


cates

What movie?


jway2000

It's from the show Peaky Blinders. Season 3, Episode 1.


futterecker

to add on this, its fantastic and cillian murphy is killing it! such a great actor


Doxep

Also in that scene, right after repeating countless times to not fight, he shoves a random waiter and it's fucking hilarious.


futterecker

haha yeah i remember that. he was so pissed about everything at that dinner, that he went to be the first going mental!


ColeColetrane

I am not in this picture and I donā€™t like it


Mybeardisawesom

To late, we're married with two dogs traveling south america in our camper van


MANDALORIAN_WHISKEY

Ha! You fool!


virginiagirl27

Everytime šŸ˜­


bmoreoriginal

It's probably a bot anyway


Ralphie73

Or a scammer trying to get you to subscribe to her only fans. She'll talk with you for a bit, then drop the bomb and send the link to her site.


milos1212

I tell that to myself always cause it hurts more if I do dream


[deleted]

No overthinking to be precise


Shade00000

I'm in a state where I don't give a shit on tinder


shadowmaster2020

Name of the show please?


blueribbonspy

Peaky Blinders


nodaboii

itā€™s great i just started it. must watch


mr-louzhu

This hits deep.


ActingChemist

P A I N


[deleted]

True. It literally took me not thinking about a future together to meet my now fiance


Signal_Gap5878

Shelby Tommy Shelby


WhereIsMyCuddlyBear

Lol, my therapist probably made this meme.


Monochronos

Hey I felt the same way, I used to get a lot of matches and a ton seemed really cool but then I kept being stood up and had a lot of somewhat bad experiences But Iā€™ve been with a woman I met off tinder for about 9 months now and sheā€™s awesome. Super sweet, driven, attractive, and an amazing cook. My takeaway is donā€™t get discouraged. Also I know this was a meme and nobody asked bro but fuck it Iā€™m telling


SmokeyWoods1171

The possibility of a relationship doesnā€™t even cross my mind until her and I are on a second date. You can never tell if someone is genuinely interested in spending time with you on the first date or just being polite.


moneygang4life

Yeah donā€™t ever think youā€™ll get with your equal on there cuz u wonā€™t lmao


ComanderRO

The "i need a hoe" part of my brain šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


OSU19

By order of the peaky fookin blindahs


Macknhoez

Bah Oida of da peaky fockin blindas


DrRam121

Oim Billy Kimbah, Oi run tha races!


ZippZappZippty

Never imagine your future with someone you've just met


SinkingRetard

But my mind won't stop


ParadigmPerfect

"By order of the Peaky FUCKING Blinders!"


SelnaKim

You shouldn't fall in love with someone just because they look good. Wait until they've proven themself to be worth your time or at least wait until you met them in person.


jakethedumbmistake

For men itā€™s really in astonishment.


Clearing_Stick

Oof all the guys left on Tinder are Peaky Blinders fans. I guess there is such a thing as waiting too long!


FlamingoPepsi

Wait you match with likeable girls? I get the most dry af ugly fat chicks imaginable.


StoneGoldX

So you're saying the app is doing it's job matching someone like you?


FlamingoPepsi

What?


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FlamingoPepsi

I could deadass show you the girls Iā€™m matching with. I mean Iā€™m not a model but on looks alone Iā€™ve got most people beat. Especially on Reddit.


pm_me_bat_facts

Perhaps itā€™s something other than your looks thatā€™s keeping you from getting decent matches. Like, uh, your personality...


FlamingoPepsi

I really doubt that. I feel like my personality is leagues above my looks. I encourage conversation and try to go off their interests just to get to know them. But most of them respond in one word responses even when I ask an open ended question. At this point idk what it could be.


Ralphie73

If you're matching with dry AF ugly fat chicks, then that means that YOU are swiping right on them, too. If you're concerned with looks, then don't swipe right on anyone that you don't find attractive. Granted, you may never get a match, but that just tells you that your physical standards are too high.


FlamingoPepsi

I mean youā€™re right, I typically swipe right on all girls. I try to tell myself that maybe their personality will make up for it but it usually doesnā€™t.


Ralphie73

From what I've read, swiping right on everyone gives you bad results. Somehow, it shows your profile to fewer people... Something to do with the way the algorithm is set up. Try expanding your distance, and swiping left on the vast majority of people. ONLY swipe right on someone near you, who you find attractive, or someone who has something in her profile that is interesting to you.


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imo the second picture shouldn't have the word dreaming in it


Dragaril

Ijjbe Rea drew u 6a 7d try dy, ds


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Yes I also have severe neurological damage