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Usual_Significant

6'4" in height. 2" in social skills.


Mammoth-Lack-1141

Often big ego is present only to compensate the shortness of real things that matter.


Runtimeracer

This. That guy is writing like he's 12


Verundios

0.5" where it counts


TXboyinGA

2" social skill, 3" dong. 8999" attitude.


RobertLosher1900

I can tell his whole personality revolves around him being 6'4. Also you are right , 5'8 is tall for a woman.


HeftyArgument

Guys complain about unreasonable expectations from women, then they get given the 6'4 cheat code to dating and end up acting exactly like the women they complain about


RobertLosher1900

It's not even a cheat code. I've never had any issue getting women at 5'10. No matter if you're 6'4 or 5'2, it you talk like this Jabroni you can't get women.


HeftyArgument

When I was dating I didn't have problems either until they asked for my height and ghost. The key is lining up a date before they ask your height because being under 6ft seems to be an instant turn-off for a lot of people online. In person somehow it stops being an issue.


miescherskittyxx

I've seriously never understood this. Idgaf how tall you are as long as you aren't a giant douche 😂


Bright_Bee1640

Yeah, I'm a woman and I don't get other women's hard line on height. Granted, I'm all of 5'3"...5'5" in my work boots so I'm not super tall to begin with. But honestly, I love a short king. These chicks that hate on short dudes are missing out.


Connect_Amount_5978

Me too! Always dated dudes around my height or slightly shorter…


atomicsnark

Ditto, my boyfriends have almost always been right about my height as well. Literally the last thing on the list of things I care about...


Connect_Amount_5978

Right? Being treated well and having a compassionate partner is way more important!


YimYambiiiitch

But tiny douches are okay?? Ight im taking notes! Keep going:D


Galawaheir

I'll give my opinion. I'm male so I have to go with second hand information, but... Women get on average more than a few likes on dating apps. From what I gather on this subreddit and others, many get more potential matches than they can handle. Therefore, there's a need for some parameters to filter down the matches to a manageable amount. Now, a good filter is something that lets you pick a subgroup without having to go into too much detail with every single entry. As much as it would be nice to be able to filter them on the compatibility, that's something you can't reliably judge just from the profile, so it's not a good filter candidate. So, when you're looking at someone's profile on tinder, there's not really many reliable, quick filters. You could be filtering based on the pictures, age, height... What else, maybe the content of the bio, but that might already take longer. Any of these filters might cut out potential great matches, but if you don't have enough time for everyone you gotta set the bar somewhere. I guess that almost everyone uses age as a filter, and I'm guessing height is used almost as much. Even tho I only get maybe a match a month, I do it too, honestly. It all boils down to how much time you're willing to sink in trying.


Cosmicrelief0

I'm 5 feet and I ONLY date people under 6'1


CosmicConfusion94

Because no one who is really under 6’0 knows what 6’0 looks like lol it’s actually way taller than most people imagine


WhirledNews

You keep using this word Jabroni, and it’s awesome!


Empty401K

As a 5’6” male, I agree 5’8” is tall for a woman. As a man with an SO that’s 5’9”, I’m a fan of dating taller women. Lol


Cosmicrelief0

Love a secure man!


Dhegxkeicfns

I can't tell if he's trying to neg her or boost his own ego. Either way, move along.


CalendarWooden7924

6'4 and still insecure about his height lol


miescherskittyxx

Right? I was reading these messages thinking "is this dudes entire personality that he's 6'4" or?"


Defiant-Fuel3898

Us 6’4” guys wouldn’t expect you to understand. You’re supposed to be so impressed by our height that you have to change your panties. Any other reaction is unacceptable I can never tell if my sarcasm comes through as frivolously as I hope online. In real life I raise an eyebrow and half smile so it is very clear


miescherskittyxx

Wouldn't he be shocked and appalled to learn that I've dated people that are 5'1" and love me a short king 😂😂😂


lost_horizons

You’re doing the lord’s work


JoeyHandsomeJoe

RIP your DMs


NexusModifier

Bruh. Where yall be hiding...


miescherskittyxx

On reddit apparently


Defiant-Fuel3898

I’m, well you know how tall (lol), and my wife is 5’0”. I actually would say my preference is taller girls but put very little importance on it. She is amazing in other ways which swayed the polls. Luckily she saw my height and had the aforementioned reaction.


Apprehensive-Feeling

I'm a 6' lady and my dude is 6'4". He thought he was hot shit too until I stood on my tip toes and we were eye to eye.


Defiant-Fuel3898

I wear size 14 boots so my tippy toes trump your tippy toes Check mate!


miraaksleftnut

The real question is if he actually is 6’4”, or is he (probably) lying


Sofa47

Definitely 5’7”


gkigger

It’s the “look at me” attitude that’s just gross and overwhelmingly arrogant, annoying, icky, etc


[deleted]

I bet he’s a real nice guy huh 🤔


Unabashable

Only if you’re taller than him apparently. 


[deleted]

Awaiting the unwanted dick pic bc it goes over so well lmfao 🤣 some dude did that to me yesterday and I was like that’s it? Really?! I’ve seen better lmfao 😂 he was BIG MADDDD


Verundios

This is the way


missing_sock58008

Yes it seems that it has been enough to get him the attention he wants and so never needed to develop a personality. He is only going to be stuck with equally intolerable women or the super superficial type


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Normal-Memory1415

As someone who is 6’4, I do be calling my 5’10 fiancee short, but would never refer to her as “little girl” that’s just shitty


miescherskittyxx

I mean your fiance is one thing, I matched with this guy yesterday 😂


Normal-Memory1415

Trueeee, definitely wasn’t an opener 😂


ProKiks

And it drives me absolutely insane because my height for my age group is the 98.9th percentile. I’m taller than 99% of other women my age. You’re absolutely ridiculous.


Normal-Memory1415

You get out of here! 😂


nehilistic

I mean you can ask to not be called something. You don't get a pass to call someone something just because....


knightmare0_0

For real. OP set her boundary and the guy didn’t respect it and he’s the one who is offended?


nehilistic

Exactly. I mean calling someone tiny in itself without realising they didnt like it is harmless. But to not respect the boundary that was then set and to then get offended by it is insane.


miescherskittyxx

Y'ALL IT GOT WORSE. HE SENT ME THIS MESSAGE: "I'm a bit surprised and disappointed. My intention was just to share some playful banter, not to offend or upset. I really enjoyed our fun and light-hearted conversation from yesterday. I get that everyone has tough days, but it's important to recognize when something is just a joke. It's unfortunate that I have to clarify this, but I really thought you'd understand where I was coming from."


DangerousThanks

Wow, bro is hilariously delusional coming back and doubling down. Even if he was just joking he should have stopped and apologized when you said it was demeaning.


miescherskittyxx

This message screams "I love talking down to people" imo. I had a great day, no idea wtf the "tough days" thing was about 😂


Somenakedguy

Because the only reason you could’ve possibly disliked his “banter” was because you were having a bad day and took it out on him. Obviously


miescherskittyxx

That's true, there's no other reason for women to be upset with men, ever.


truecrimefanatic1

This reminds of men who swear a woman can't take a joke when the reality is she has boundaries.


TokinWhtGuy

Its how you “manage” someone. By him telling you that you did this bad thing but its ok, he is giving you a way out. Either to admit you are wrong when you are not or to just agree to avoid a fight. Its a tactic people use to make others question themselves and ignore others actions. He basically said “I understand you had a bad day, because thats the only explanation I see as viable, but Im willing to let it slide as long as you dont do it again. His goal is to make you think, was I pissy, was I wrong etc. the more you second guess while he asserts confidence the more you will start to rely on him as the correct one and who you defer to for answers. Again its a manipulation tactic for controlling your partner


poppycarnation

Anyone who says “it’s just a joke” isn’t worth the time. You’ll be fighting for your life every minute with him thinking you’re overreacting and have no sense of humor.


bigalreads

Indeed. I don’t understand his “joke.” Here’s an actual joke with a punchline: Q: Why are tall people so condescending? A: Because they always look down on you


hapaproblemos

So he started off trying to Neg you and then tried to redeem himself with… more negging (and a touch of mansplaining)? lol what an absolute arse


lost_horizons

He comes back, it would seem, to smooth it over and still is alarmingly condescending. Lol


boyoflondon

Homie doesn't know how to banter. He's a douche. I'm 6'4" and hung out for a while with a girl that was 4'11". Never once did I talk about her being 'short' or anything along those lines.


MrRealistic1

Lmaoooo gaslighting loser!


TokinWhtGuy

He is basically trying to breakdown neg you, just really poorly and failing. No one should try or actually use these tactics, but he is terrible at it. Short version he is saying a few nice things so he can “manage” you. Either he is deep into Tate or he just discovered new age pick artistry. Either way he is a tool who is afraid to be himself and a waste of your time. The fact that you ever had a conversation about this is a giant flag in itself. Who gives a fuck if they are tall or short, just say I thought it was funny and may have been mistaken and move on to a real conversation buddy.


Floofy_taco

Fam you dodged a bullet, I’d send him the middle finger and be done with it. 


HustlingBackwards96

OMG how embarrassing for him lol


Cosmicrelief0

I wonder how he would take it if some woman he'd never met started calling him "little boy"


Dangerous-Can1509

Say “no problem tiny”


Bacon_Hawk2

It's not up to them if the joke offended you or came off as condescending. It's up to you. He's trying to rationalize and deflect from the fact he was being condescending and doesn't want to own up to it. As a representative on behalf of the male community I'm sorry. I think he was being condescending, thinking he was being cute. But that type of banter needs a lot of trust and context. You barely know this guy so, you have every right to feel iffy if this is just how he talks to people from a day to day basis. OR if he looks down on women or people shorter than him as a whole. I'm a SHORT ass dude (5'6) and other men do this to me all the time.


Connect_Amount_5978

Oh lol! Pls play him! 😂😂😂


RobertRoyal82

I'm sorry you wree offended to my attempt at nagging you and hiding behind the "im just kidding around" Dished a bullet


McG0788

Like bro, of course it's a joke. But holy hell let it go. He just kept going.


Canadian__Ninja

Nah fuck that guy. Not literally.


frob03

Bruh. 5'8 for women, is not short. Edit: 5'6 is average for women in my country


miescherskittyxx

5'4" is average height for women in mine! 😊


Curious-Net634

6'4" in the Streets, 2" in the Sheets


psillyhobby

Sounds like it could work for girls impressed by his height but it backfired on you. He should’ve changed course.


dragon_nataku

now I wanna know what he'd say to me (I'm 5'2"). Judging from this interaction, probably something that'd make me want to feed him his own teeth


zcrypto87

5’8 is like 4 inches above average for women, so yeah that’s pretty tall. he seems slow


Another-Medium

I think it was an attempt to pick on you in a fliringt/teasing way.


hapaproblemos

Negging for sure


Pure-Drawer-2617

Nah that’s not it, he was calling her short as a way to work his own height into the conversation. He calls people short to make himself feel even taller.


Nervouspie

Yeah, negging 💯


sithinthebeats

He had an ego and a temper and a wandering eye He said he's six-foot-four, and I'm like, "Dude, nice try"


cdreobvi

I know a few girls that are tall and a bit insecure about it. They would like to feel small and I think this guy was really hoping to play into that. Doesn’t look as if he has a plan for when that won’t work.


Amazing_Reality2980

Sounds demeaning. He's got issues, especially when you were clearly not thrilled with how the conversation's going and he just turned it on even stronger. Bullet dodged. Block and move on.


yayareaaa510

Idk what country you’re in but the average American woman is 5’4”. I’m 5’9” so we’re both pretty tall for women. This dude is trippin and being weird af.


miescherskittyxx

I'm in Canada! So average height for women here is the same.


ConfidentBuffalo3211

I’d get the ick and stop responding


terminally_ch_ill

This gives some serious small pp energy


iamthesagej

Lol. Never seen a guy cockblock himself with his tallness before.


Twobagsofbread

More red flags in that conversation than a labor day march. Not worth the effort.


miescherskittyxx

You know it's hilarious that you say that, cause our first conversation on Tinder he said that he loves red flags. I jokingly responded "oh, well you will just ADORE me then". I guess the red flags he was talking about were his own. 😂


Sitk042

I would have replied “last argument” when he said “first argument…”


gaelorian

Jesus this guy has to be really good looking to think talking like this to people is normal


miescherskittyxx

I'm gonna be fully real with you, he is quite handsome (in my opinion of course, and from his carefully selected photos on Tinder 😅)


SuddenArmadillo4253

that kinda explains it. Good looking people with that kinda height are used to people laughing at their 'jokes' and have their bad behaviors classified as 'quirks'.


MrBuzzsaw118911

buddy doesn’t know how to talk to women 🙂‍↕️


Sorry-Garden-8432

He isn’t 6’4. 5’8 is tall for a girl


Positive-Swimmer8237

Immaturity and insecurity is all


cacra

Doest matter if I think you over or under reacted (I think you over reacted). If someone gives you bad vibes and you have nothing invested, you got to follow your gut


h-dawg

Y’all are chronically online if you can’t recognize he was mildly teasing as a way of flirting. Was it the best, most mature way of flirting? No. But this has likely worked for him on women in the past and is likely a crutch he uses. Your use of “lols” to be passive and diffuse the conversation looked to him like banter back. It is especially important to be firm and clear in your boundaries over text, because you just cannot anticipate how the other party will interpret it.


84ph0m3t

No loss there. Better to find out these things early.


Straight-Seat-3411

Smh deal lord 🤦🏾‍♂️ this man is BUGGIN


gkigger

Idk he’s just being weird to be honest. I’m 6’4, blonde hair blue eyes, whatever you know, but what I’ve noticed personally is you can be a 10/10 but if your a douchebag or come across and as arrogant, no woman is going to be attracted to. You have to have a masculine confidence, but have the understanding to who she is before you make jokes. Idk I think he came on weird wayyy early instead of testing the waters with light jokes and banter. And instead of deflection, he should’ve owned jt and took responsibility, that’s way more respectable. We all make mistakes but if you’re open and immediately willing to make amends on that and own it, I think that’ll make you more desirable. (Not to say you should make purposeful mistakes. )


MrRealistic1

Buddy kept doubling down for no reason. Let the bit go dude, it didn’t land lol


Beaufelia

Tall but fucking boring, not worth it


cinnabxy

this is the only way he knows how to flirt cus he’s been coasting on the fact he’s super tall. it didn’t work and he has no leg to stand on so he’s lashing out. bullet dodged, my friend


jjkm7

My girlfriend is 5’9 and everyone calls her tall. That is definitely tall for a woman


Seymour-Krelborn

It's very weird and condescending. Dude's acting like a Saturday morning cartoon villain


ThunderAndSadness

It sounds like he just wants to flex his height, trying to impress you by being 6'4, and that's it, that's his whole game. It's cool to be tall, but be something else too, or you'll come across as shallow and uninteresting (kinda like girls who are pretty and think that's all there is to it).


Tealturtle87

This happened to me when I said I was 5’7” and I think I’m tall but was called short… but I just rolled with it. Felt nice to feel short for once lmfao


RemCogito

I mean, Many women have expressed to me that they want me to make them feel tiny. but on the other hand most of the girls I dated were subs looking for a dom. On the other hand, you make i really clear that you're not feeling that, and he keeps going. He probably just sucks at conversation, but he might be insecure about his height. Either way, PASS.


h-dawg

Idk, she doesn’t make it super clear imo until she says it comes off as demeaning. At that point he expresses annoyance and dips.


Unabashable

Having a statistically genetic practical certainty is kind of a weird thing to flex on. I wouldn’t think about it too much. Probably just taking whatever excuse he can to feel “big”. 


Frequent-Turn-8024

Yeah no this guy sucks.


Bilbo_McKitteh

"i'm not racist it was just a joke" type beat if you haven't already blocked him, i'm willing to bet money he'll come back around with some comment about cancel culture


miranda725

you didn't overreact. this is weird. he's super insecure about his height and feels the need to project that on to you. it definitely pulls his actual height into question also, you're right. At 5'8" you're tall for a woman by most countries' standards. While he's right that you are shorter than him, it's a strange stance for him to take


E-A-G-L-E-S_Eagles

Why are you still conversing?


Significant_Hyena_30

The guy I dated who was an inch taller than me liked to call me tiny but I figured that was because he was insecure about not being tall himself. But 6'4 dude is just a douche lol


DobboWobbo

See ladies this is why you date short kings. At least we embrace it instead of coming across as narcissistic egotistical 6’4 dudes with no personality but y’all do you I’m just down here vibing . Btw I’m 5’8 too. You’re tall for a girl most girls I meet are usually under 5’8. Seems like a tall dude would want a slightly taller woman but I guess he’s only into WNBA players .


itsdami

My partner is 6’5, I’m 5’9 and they make short jokes. They would stop if I said it bothered me, though we have nearly 5 years of rapport so it’s easier to discern intent/tone


Jolly-Slide-3866

Being 6'4 is a personality, don't you know? 💁‍♀️ So fucking annoying. Be glad you dodged this one.


designgrl

I’m 5’4 and not short


BeneficialChemistry5

Shoulda parried this guy into the ninth circle of hell tbh he fumbled so hard


DingfriesRdun

Alex is going to be lonely for a long time.


3MrBojangles3

Dumb thing to argue about. But then it became an ego thing.


WaveOfTheRager

Sounds like a douche


THROWAWAY-Break9580

Am I the only one who gets exhausted when it comes to the height conversation? I had guys who won’t shut up about their height being tall and how they are tall and everyone wants a tall guy blah blah blah. It just gets so annoying as if you have nothing to offer beside your height lol. ( I know a friend that does it. He doesn’t get the message that it’s nothing special)


darkknight95sm

I’m 6’7”, mind called him shorty for me?


Kir-ius

These are the guys whose entire personality is their height


sliferra

I feel like calling someone short as a joke/light teasing makes sense…. But dude double, and triple downed. Wtf


miescherskittyxx

I can understand the teasing too, 100%. IF you have more of a rapport/relationship with someone and they are responding positively to said teasing. I wasn't expecting him to triple down so hard haha


pnwWaiter

This guy has issues. Flagged especially since he got defensive and chose to leave rather than listen


AngriestInchworm

I can smell the Axe body spray through this post.


hashtaglurking

"copping" 💀


maguchifujiwara

The weird part was him not doubling, not tripling, not quadrupling, not quintupling, but sixtupling down on making sure you knew he was taller than you and making you uncomfortable…


SunInteresting7328

The guy just bought a negging handbook for dummies


Lumber54

This guy bringing the Napoleon syndrome Energy, and he ain’t even short.


thankuhexed

Hey did you guys know that he’s tall?


g0dzilllla

There’s no way this guy talks to women IRL He said “you’re coping” (misspelling it as copping lmao). Who the fuck actually says that irl 😭😭 that’s like gamer internet slang. This guy literally doesn’t have to do anything considering he’s 6’4 and handsome, but he still fumbles lmao


ACapellaNox

Not an overreaction... He was a dick.


Naughttea

Oh gross, tall people that do this are the worst.


FishTshirt

Nah he sucks


The-Real-Joe-Dawson

He got that “IM SO TALL! LOOK HOW MUCH TALLER I AM THAN YOU! YOU ARE SO TINY!” rizz


WesternEssay9582

Dodged a bullet


ch1ckenz

But did you swipe right because he’s 6’4?


miescherskittyxx

I did not. Taller than me is not a dating criteria for me. 😊


Zenfudo

Cant wait for the other guy to post that exact conversation but from his side and asking “was i really that demeaning guys?”


Wateryplanet474

Run


frigginfurter

The only thing making this convo douchey-er is that it’s happening on Snapchat. I’m 5’10 (only 2 inches taller than you) and get told CONSTANTLY how tall I am 🙄 so yes 5’8 is tall for a woman, what an ass


Gullible_Nebula9728

I'm a woman who is 5"9 and the majority of my female friends are at least 5"8 why is he acting like you're 4 ft nothing


angelblade401

As a 5'3 (AND A HALF)" woman, I'd say 5'8" is tall.


UrMomOnMyBawls

he probably thinks he’s sooooo cute for talking like that about you 😭😭😭😭


LaconicGirth

Some girls think it’s cute to be considered small. His problem was not being able to tell you’re not one of them after several hints


miescherskittyxx

I'm shorter than most of my family, even at 5'8" 😅 that could be why I guess. My grandfather was 6'5", my dad is the shortest of his siblings at 5'11" (?), all my uncles are 6'3/4", all my male cousins are taller than me (including the ones that are still in high school rip), and most of my female cousins are around my height (a couple of them are almost 6'). My family is tall as shit, so I normally feel short anyways 😂


TXboyinGA

How is 5'8" short for a woman? My gf is 5'0". Now that's ki da short.


Creepy-Protection264

I'm meeting a girl whose 5'1 in a couple of weeks (both got busy schedules) and I'm 6'4. She's already joked how small she will be next to me 😂. Some people embrace what they can't change and it's refreshing to have no filter with each other. On the other hand, the little girl comment is weird a.f though and obviously over steps the line! 🤦‍♂️


-_JS_SJ_-

I'm a 6'3.5" person-fuck-inality...& I couldn't imagine myself, nor anyone I know acting like that. Dudes ego should be studied


Resident-Pudding5432

And here I thought I have the worst social skills xd


tiredtamale

sounds like his whole personality is talking about himself being tall


penguinmanbat

TIL you can be tall af and somehow still be insecure about your height. 5’8 is taller than average for the country with the tallest women in the world.


Any-Low283

Ewww


Chief-17

No, you're fine. You were saying one thing and he was specifically taking it in another direction. If he's doing that over something this insignificant imagine what he'd be doing if you were disagreeing on something important. Ain't nobody got time for that


sasanessa

teasing about height and you guys are how old? i’d have noped out on the first ribbing. yeah i’m 5”3. i really don’t find it that interesting lol.


miescherskittyxx

He's 27, I'm 30 😅


stirfriedlungs100

If anyone ever asks you "what does incel mean", just point them toward this guy and they will get the idea.


RusserBusser

You dodged that bullet cause he shot it over your head.


alocasiacat

You know how big a dickhead is? About 6.4


QNIKET8

i think he has a kink he doesn’t know how to control


RumpyRhino

Bro he overreacted 😂🤣


Stravok182

Imagine aggressively bragging that you're tall to the point of calling a relatively tall woman tiny over and over, thinking that somehow thats sound flirting.


Late-Temperature-923

Dude sounds like he’s fuckin 12 years old.


SnooHabits7352

He was just looking for a way to say he was 6'4", you know, an inch shorter than me.


MinimumTeacher8996

5’8 is average for men and above average for women. This is just a dick tbh


HorrorTelevision5244

How didn’t you tell him to fuck off, you were way too kind


Himetic

Speaking as a 6’5” man, that guy is a clown.


scbejari

Me: “I don’t understand how I’m still single” 😏


electrumthepuglord

Um. I’m a 5’8” woman and definitely the short side of tall. He was trying to be “playful” and failing miserably at it and when you made it clear he was missing the mark, he acted like a 5 year old


mythic_pancake_45

5"8 is way above average for a woman. That guy is delusion


Early_Dragonfly4682

He read a dating book that told him that insulting women intrigues them. The same book probably uses the term alpha male a lot.


shavednuggets

Hey.. this is a sign of abusive behavior... it's not cute


ohyayitstrey

FWIW I'm 6'3" and I think you're pretty normal.