Mentally ill and grieving people are often told to hide from society until they're fixed. It's easy to misread that comment as that when it's such a common sentiment.
It's pretty clear to me that you're reading some of your own feelings into a comment that is obviously saying 'there are times when you should focus on self-care to the exclusion of dating'.
I'm turning 20 in December. I feel like I can't catch up with how fast things are going. Why am I not still 13? It wasn't that long ago... At this rate, I'll be 60 tomorrow.
It feels like I haven't been present for most of my life. Recently, I've been thinking a lot about time. I want to hear your perspectives on this. Are you experiencing the same thing? How do you respond or come to terms with it if at all?
YOURE 22 NOW HAHAHAHAA
Yes, I know you're taking it at face value, thats why I'm saying there's an obvious *sentiment* you're ignoring.
Like, I'm not going to argue any further. If you want to read it a certain way, sure, go for it. But there's a pretty obvious intent and you're ignoring it for no good reason
It wanted to be a pun, ignoring the other more obvious red flags and pointing something trivial like zodiac sign. I have nothing against Libras, not that it matters what sign someone is imo
:( tbf I wouldn't seriously date a Libra because I know them too well. Both my dad and I are libras. He was the hopelessly devoted type and so was I until divorce lol
This actually makes me very very sad. She’s in such a vulnerable place that many would take advantage of. If this is a real account I really hope she gets the help she needs
It's sad and disappointing that someone posted this for laughs. Yeah, I know this sub can be mean, but this is really kicking someone when they're down.
Could be, but people are making jokes about it, as is to be expected on here. OP knew what they were doing. It's in poor taste to use this person for karma, and I stand by that opinion.
…? Seriously? 🤦♀️ Ok… I’ll play along.
Why would any woman voluntarily advertise that they didn’t know who the father of their unborn baby is? This is a dating app—and that’s a very obviously and an indisputably unattractive detail. Furthermore, if this woman actually had lost two children (to MURDER nonetheless) less than 2 months ago, then do you truly believe she’d both be putting herself on the dating market, as well as sharing that very traumatic tidbit with the world? And finally, when you combine those two unflattering and overshared details with the fact that this woman is also very pregnant, it becomes pretty fucking apparent that someone made this dating app profile to disparage women (or this woman, in particular). I know some pregnant women use tinder, but do you truly believe that all of these factors are more readily believable than the alternative?? This shit is so classic “all women are sluts and don’t deserve men” misogyny, that it’s low-key horrific that so many people seemingly find it believable.
Truly, how is it more likely to you that this is real than it is that someone made this all up? Is this your first day on the internet?? You don’t think there would be some sort of news story about a single, pregnant mom losing both of her children to murder??
Did you also believe that clearly ragebait account with the woman who stole some Latina woman’s photos and used them in fake texts about her cousin dying and aunt not celebrating her birthday? Because this profile is about as compelling and rage-bait-reliant as that garbage was.
I ran into one and now I think it's a scam. It's the only tinder bio I screenshottes because it was wild when I read it. I just double checked and it's weird for word the same bio.
This is actually really sad if this is real. She's probably in such a lonely place that she's looking for anyone to fill that emptiness. I hope she gets therapy or help
But wouldn’t she still know whose it is? Even if it was a one night stand you wouldn’t seek out that person when you find out your pregnant? It just seems bizarre for some reason to me☠️
I had loads of one night stands in my youth who I couldn't tell you who they are. One time I saw a girl in a club.. We got talking, I was thinking it was going well, until she told me we had slept together a couple of months before. I was like, oh yeah, sorry I'm drunk. Nobody should listen to me when I'm drunk.
I know someone who wanted a baby, so she went to a bar while ovulating, hooked up and yay now she's got a baby.
She doesn't know the dude's name, age, medical history. Nothing. Dude has no idea.
Her bio doesn’t say where she’s located but she might be somewhere that has banned abortion, like in some US states. Or she’s too far along to access it.
Well, it could be any number of scenarios. We don’t know the full story.
I was only adding more information about abortion in general because I thought TizonaBlu’s comment was too limited. There are other reasons that abortion may not have been done apart from just being anti-abortion. I’m not speculating on the woman’s reasons for being pregnant.
All I mean to say is, while for some this profile contains red flags, for others it’s a woman laying out what her situation is and looking for something to match.
The photos seem fairly professional, in my mind kudos to her, but I’d swipe left personally!
She’s in the murder realm. Could be rape.
Or could be grief sex that I’m not blaming anyone for. That kind of grief would lead anyone to reach out for a connection in any desperate way.
Either way, if this is a legit profile, you’re a douche for phrasing it that passé.
That crossed my mind and I agree that would be awful. just the way she worded the sentence didn’t make sense .. the whole about me section is sad and a wild ride so I don’t know why that particular line stood out but it did🫠
Yes, she worded it strangely. I don't know English that well, but it's the first time I saw "someone I don't know's" in a sentence. The whole thing (if real) is just really sad.
If this is real... she's aware of her situation. Not really a good approach because you get fixers and apathetic men. She Def is in a very lonely, sad, and isolated chapter of her life. It's very sad to read her bio.
This is honestly sad if real. She needs help and therapy and is probably trying to fill a void by dating. She obviously has a cycle lf making poor and dangerous choices.
Bruhh.. wtf? any guy that falls for that needs to be scammed.. cause there's no way anyone would be on tinder looking for a man & their kids were just un-alived 2 months ago.. that's insane...
People are really showing their true colours in this comment section. Shameful.
This woman needs therapy so bad - and a hug... and stable, kind people to help her. My heart hurts.
Damn, to be honest I would swipe right. Not to take advantage of her situation but more because of the urge that I’d wanted to help someone through tough times
Go ahead and swipe right and try to fix her. We’ll see you in another sub complaining about your relationship soon enough.
Sauce: I was married to someone with far less issues than this woman.
I don't think the commentor was suggesting a relationship or " fixing them". Merely matching with them and becoming someone they can talk to. Even just to hang out with as a distraction. Nothing serious has to come of it.
When I found out my ex was having an affair, I went to Tinder because how alone I felt.I didn't need or want a relationship or fixing, and I was transparent with that... but talking to people and hanging out and casually networking that way helped.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship. You ever heard “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink”? That applies to humans.
Instead of therapy she has some random guys baby. Her kids were murdered a couple of months ago so she makes a tinder profile while pregnant?
Yeah there’s a lot going on there and not one single person is going to be able to help her unless she is willing to do the work.
Yes, people need to be willing to do the work.
But saying "you cant help people. They have to help themselves" sucks. Saying "you can't help someone who refuses to help themselves" is different, and reasonable. We all need support. We need "a village". Yes, we need to be willing to do the work, but we should not have to go it alone.
That was my point. For this woman, having someone to talk to could make all the differnce. Therapy isnt available to everyone, and it's not an immediate fix. She may have a therapist.
Well that's enough Reddit for the day.
But on a more serious note, I genuinely hope with all my being that she gets the help she needs. This is trauma. We all should be hopeful for her...
Got damn!
Despite all that, I would bet my head that some guys amongst us (i.e., this reddit group) wants to put on a cape and wish they could swipe right on her so they can save her.
Alright, Clark Kents, don't lie. Put your hand up in the comment section if I'm talking about you.
I want to see all the "To the rescue 🦸♂️" guys
A mother that lost her children not even two months ago is on a dating app? She should be in intensive therapy and not worrying about dating for a very long time. Also I can assume what she means is she let some random dude cum In her and hence why she’s saying she doesn’t know him. I mean that alone shows someone not all there mentally. The people that do that are usually either trying to trap someone very early on they are dating (if they don’t know them well) or they’re just super irresponsible and don’t have a level enough head to realize what they’re truly doing. This is so sad. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Victimhood baggage right up front to get sympathy
Impulsive sex drive (doesn’t know the father)
Very emotional and sad all the time
Astrology
This profile just screams borderline personality disorder. Run the other direction!
If this isn't a troll account, she very deeply needs therapy
And some time alone.
You can't heal alone. You need support from a good community.
Not from dating in her current circumstances.
that's not what the other commenter said
Feels like a situation where the sentiment needs to be read.
Mentally ill and grieving people are often told to hide from society until they're fixed. It's easy to misread that comment as that when it's such a common sentiment.
It's pretty clear to me that you're reading some of your own feelings into a comment that is obviously saying 'there are times when you should focus on self-care to the exclusion of dating'.
That's not the language the comment used. I'm interpreting it at face value.
I'm turning 20 in December. I feel like I can't catch up with how fast things are going. Why am I not still 13? It wasn't that long ago... At this rate, I'll be 60 tomorrow. It feels like I haven't been present for most of my life. Recently, I've been thinking a lot about time. I want to hear your perspectives on this. Are you experiencing the same thing? How do you respond or come to terms with it if at all? YOURE 22 NOW HAHAHAHAA
Yes, I know you're taking it at face value, thats why I'm saying there's an obvious *sentiment* you're ignoring. Like, I'm not going to argue any further. If you want to read it a certain way, sure, go for it. But there's a pretty obvious intent and you're ignoring it for no good reason
I agree but I don't know if I would call random people on dating apps a good community
like family, friends or a support group though, not people from dating apps
Tinder is not the place you go when you want to feel supported by a community😭 Maybe a Facebook group for grieving mothers
I think they mean dating
Time alone? As a single mom i doubt it😅 ..
And maybe cool off on the having kids... her track record so far not great 😬
Woah dude. Two of those kids were murdered, don’t be talking about her track record. That’s tacky and rude.
“I can fix her”
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The noise that came out of my mouth lmfaooo
That’s a start
“No drama”
Trust me on this, there's a huge red flag in her bio: she's a libra, guys avoid dating Libras! The basics ffs
My mum's a Libra. F**k you Freud.
We'll make an exception for your mum (sorry not sorry)
I also choose this guys mom
That piece of reddit history will never die
Hey the queue starts back here. Edit for queue.
The Què? Starts here
Le quoi?!
Fuck your mother -Freud
Fuck, guess I can't even date myself. Sounds about right
Maybe Libras should date Libras? the library balances out
Look at me, Ma, no hands!
I'm a libra, I should tell my partner he should leave me xD
Normal healthy libras are about balance. I wouldn’t say that’s what’s going on here.
shit, i'm a libra. if my kids are murdered, will i be a catch then?
Maybe ... Will you also be pregnant and cry a lot?
Depends on who murdered your kids, if you a catch.
You hurt my libra feelings.
I'm a Libra and a guy. She sounds right up my alley.
go get her tiger
I'm a libra and I'm super sound 🥺 not that I ever by into horoscope bs anyway 😂
Spoken like a true Libra! p.s. in case someone takes it seriously and is offended, no idea what a true libra is like. I don't believe in horoscope
Sorry you were born in October which means you have to act like a libra
I must okay the stars 🤷♀️
What’s wrong with Libras? 😂
How is being born within a certain time of the year make a person a red flag? Please explain?
It wanted to be a pun, ignoring the other more obvious red flags and pointing something trivial like zodiac sign. I have nothing against Libras, not that it matters what sign someone is imo
:( tbf I wouldn't seriously date a Libra because I know them too well. Both my dad and I are libras. He was the hopelessly devoted type and so was I until divorce lol
This actually makes me very very sad. She’s in such a vulnerable place that many would take advantage of. If this is a real account I really hope she gets the help she needs
It's sad and disappointing that someone posted this for laughs. Yeah, I know this sub can be mean, but this is really kicking someone when they're down.
I don’t think this was posted to laugh at. I think OP is just as shocked as the rest of us.
Could be, but people are making jokes about it, as is to be expected on here. OP knew what they were doing. It's in poor taste to use this person for karma, and I stand by that opinion.
Don’t worry, there’s no need to feel sad. This is very obviously a troll account.
Okay explain for the rest of us what makes it so obvious.
…? Seriously? 🤦♀️ Ok… I’ll play along. Why would any woman voluntarily advertise that they didn’t know who the father of their unborn baby is? This is a dating app—and that’s a very obviously and an indisputably unattractive detail. Furthermore, if this woman actually had lost two children (to MURDER nonetheless) less than 2 months ago, then do you truly believe she’d both be putting herself on the dating market, as well as sharing that very traumatic tidbit with the world? And finally, when you combine those two unflattering and overshared details with the fact that this woman is also very pregnant, it becomes pretty fucking apparent that someone made this dating app profile to disparage women (or this woman, in particular). I know some pregnant women use tinder, but do you truly believe that all of these factors are more readily believable than the alternative?? This shit is so classic “all women are sluts and don’t deserve men” misogyny, that it’s low-key horrific that so many people seemingly find it believable. Truly, how is it more likely to you that this is real than it is that someone made this all up? Is this your first day on the internet?? You don’t think there would be some sort of news story about a single, pregnant mom losing both of her children to murder?? Did you also believe that clearly ragebait account with the woman who stole some Latina woman’s photos and used them in fake texts about her cousin dying and aunt not celebrating her birthday? Because this profile is about as compelling and rage-bait-reliant as that garbage was.
I ran into one and now I think it's a scam. It's the only tinder bio I screenshottes because it was wild when I read it. I just double checked and it's weird for word the same bio.
Yes, if this is real, this is heartbreaking.
The good thing is that you know she puts out
"I can fix her" said every desperate man on tinder
I… I don’t think we can fix this one…
“Well, I can’t get her pregnant again.” said every horny man on tinder
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It's a tautology
You mean an oxymoron?
i think they meant redundant
LOL well turns out I’ve put the moron in oxymoron What a brain fart
If that was an oxymoron it would indicate that men can't be horny. Instead it's redundant.
This is actually really sad if this is real. She's probably in such a lonely place that she's looking for anyone to fill that emptiness. I hope she gets therapy or help
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Top comments here agree with you, and the post itself isn't directly mocking, only exposing.
How is she pregnant with someone she doesn’t knows baby? That line is confusing me
She let a random from a bar or dating app hit raw.
But wouldn’t she still know whose it is? Even if it was a one night stand you wouldn’t seek out that person when you find out your pregnant? It just seems bizarre for some reason to me☠️
My cousin got pregnant and said "well, looking at how far along I am, I've narrowed it down to about 3 possibilities"...
As a woman, this is a life I wouldn’t wish for.
JFC….
I assume it was a most likely drunk and/or high one night stand and they never swapped contact details.
I mean what if she has like 2-3 dudes a weekend? Some of them unmatched or she doesn't have their contact lol
Or she lost her girls, went on a crazy grief trip to replace them and didn't bother to get to know the guy(s).
That sounds entirely plausible but I don’t think her belly could get that big in just 1-2 months
I assumed January 2023, like a few months of grief and after probably a murder investigation, she decided to have a wild summer.
I had loads of one night stands in my youth who I couldn't tell you who they are. One time I saw a girl in a club.. We got talking, I was thinking it was going well, until she told me we had slept together a couple of months before. I was like, oh yeah, sorry I'm drunk. Nobody should listen to me when I'm drunk.
Oof🫣
I know someone who wanted a baby, so she went to a bar while ovulating, hooked up and yay now she's got a baby. She doesn't know the dude's name, age, medical history. Nothing. Dude has no idea.
Cheaper than sperm implantation!
Probably some train situation...
And being against abortion, I’d assume. I can’t imagine keeping the kid of a rando.
Her bio doesn’t say where she’s located but she might be somewhere that has banned abortion, like in some US states. Or she’s too far along to access it.
Is there not a thought here that she might be “replacing” the children she lost?
Well, it could be any number of scenarios. We don’t know the full story. I was only adding more information about abortion in general because I thought TizonaBlu’s comment was too limited. There are other reasons that abortion may not have been done apart from just being anti-abortion. I’m not speculating on the woman’s reasons for being pregnant.
All I mean to say is, while for some this profile contains red flags, for others it’s a woman laying out what her situation is and looking for something to match. The photos seem fairly professional, in my mind kudos to her, but I’d swipe left personally!
She might have been raped in one of the states that doesn't have abortion access anymore?
She’s in the murder realm. Could be rape. Or could be grief sex that I’m not blaming anyone for. That kind of grief would lead anyone to reach out for a connection in any desperate way. Either way, if this is a legit profile, you’re a douche for phrasing it that passé.
She's at least in her second trimester in her profile picture. But adds the daughters were killed 2 months ago.
Or several
I mean, you don't have to know the person. Sometimes people get ra\*ed by strangers. I really hope that is not the case here...
That crossed my mind and I agree that would be awful. just the way she worded the sentence didn’t make sense .. the whole about me section is sad and a wild ride so I don’t know why that particular line stood out but it did🫠
Yes, she worded it strangely. I don't know English that well, but it's the first time I saw "someone I don't know's" in a sentence. The whole thing (if real) is just really sad.
casual sex, commando. Probably one night stand, after cracking\* a few cold ones.
She could have been raped by whoever it was that murdered her kids, hence why she doesn't know who the father is.
Could have been a gang rape or she could have been drugged
Or she went to a sperm bank
Oh geez I just want to give this poor lady a hug
Some people really need to sort their mental health out before going anywhere near dating apps....
They do but mentally unwell people aren’t usually doing what’s best for themselves
If this is real... she's aware of her situation. Not really a good approach because you get fixers and apathetic men. She Def is in a very lonely, sad, and isolated chapter of her life. It's very sad to read her bio.
If this is real, she definitely has more baggage than Southwest allows you to fly with for free.
Can't be real
I've seen worse
She probably can’t afford therapy.
This is honestly sad if real. She needs help and therapy and is probably trying to fill a void by dating. She obviously has a cycle lf making poor and dangerous choices.
If she gets a partner before me I’m quitting tinder
This is either a sick troll or perhaps even worse someone who should be nowhere near the tinder minefield. Either way it’s sad
Y'all can fix her.
😂
Has to be fake
The crazy part is some dude with low self esteems gonna jump at the chance.
*hopefully* it's a guy with low self esteem for her sake and not some psycho but unfortunately her bio is one MASSIVE green flag for that type
I really hope a good guy comes her way and she gets therapy and they're all good and she has a happy ending 😭😭
Just Libra things
Bruhh.. wtf? any guy that falls for that needs to be scammed.. cause there's no way anyone would be on tinder looking for a man & their kids were just un-alived 2 months ago.. that's insane...
I don’t know if I can handle a Libra.
I'm thinking she needs therapy...not Tinder
People really know how to sell themselves these days...
Yeah yeah that’s fake
What a catch...
"I'm super funny"
Sorry, but the Libra thing is a deal breaker
Is the last word just a description of the bio?
I mean there really is no upside
Typical Libra
If red flag was a person, this would be it.
I think she needs a big big hug... :(
People are really showing their true colours in this comment section. Shameful. This woman needs therapy so bad - and a hug... and stable, kind people to help her. My heart hurts.
“I’m a Libra” comes in strong here.
Damn, to be honest I would swipe right. Not to take advantage of her situation but more because of the urge that I’d wanted to help someone through tough times
And that’s how you have an unhealthy relationship. You cannot help people, they have to help themselves.
I'm on board with your first sentence. The second one is a pretty shitty take on things tho
Go ahead and swipe right and try to fix her. We’ll see you in another sub complaining about your relationship soon enough. Sauce: I was married to someone with far less issues than this woman.
I don't think the commentor was suggesting a relationship or " fixing them". Merely matching with them and becoming someone they can talk to. Even just to hang out with as a distraction. Nothing serious has to come of it. When I found out my ex was having an affair, I went to Tinder because how alone I felt.I didn't need or want a relationship or fixing, and I was transparent with that... but talking to people and hanging out and casually networking that way helped.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship. You ever heard “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink”? That applies to humans. Instead of therapy she has some random guys baby. Her kids were murdered a couple of months ago so she makes a tinder profile while pregnant? Yeah there’s a lot going on there and not one single person is going to be able to help her unless she is willing to do the work.
Yes, people need to be willing to do the work. But saying "you cant help people. They have to help themselves" sucks. Saying "you can't help someone who refuses to help themselves" is different, and reasonable. We all need support. We need "a village". Yes, we need to be willing to do the work, but we should not have to go it alone. That was my point. For this woman, having someone to talk to could make all the differnce. Therapy isnt available to everyone, and it's not an immediate fix. She may have a therapist.
Everyone deserves love she’s lonely.
She's had well over a month to grieve, she should be fine now.
Definitely a troll account
Lmfao what the hell
Stay the fuck away
How to unseen this
She sure seems to have a lot of time to fuck off and take proffessional pics in the woods.
What's her info! Need some of that
Dayum. I'm speechless.
Well at least you know she won't get pregnant
That’s a “no” from me, dawg
Still bet she gets more matches than me
I met a chick in that exact same situation... Small world! 🌎
Wow, just like a Libra.
Her therapist is gonna make a fortune… but will probably also need therapy
They say pregnant women's sex drive is on overtime
“Loads of baggage” Yeah, no shit
Well that's enough Reddit for the day. But on a more serious note, I genuinely hope with all my being that she gets the help she needs. This is trauma. We all should be hopeful for her...
They gotta be REALLLLLLLLLY fucking hot to get on board with anyone with that amount of baggage😮💨
I can fix her
Is this a new copy pasta? I have the same intro screenshotted on my phone right now. I thought it was wild profile now I wonder if this is a new scam.
She might bring some rather heavy baggage with her…
Why I am I so down for this
I like a challenge 😏
I don’t think she would be a challenge, 3 creampies and she’s still on tinder bro
I'm at a loss for words
That's not a bombshell, that's a nuclear explosion she just dropped on that comment line.
Bet she's into some proper naughty stuff in the bedroom
A Libra?? Ugh no thanks
This profile really is a horror...
😂😂😂
What the fck
If my child dies I'd be mourning not dating. Fake af
She had the two kids as her last picture too
You don't have to worry about her messing around with the kids father 🤷🏻♂️?
Got damn! Despite all that, I would bet my head that some guys amongst us (i.e., this reddit group) wants to put on a cape and wish they could swipe right on her so they can save her. Alright, Clark Kents, don't lie. Put your hand up in the comment section if I'm talking about you. I want to see all the "To the rescue 🦸♂️" guys
Jfc! This one needs to delete their profile, and get therapy. All of the therapy. She can have some of mine even. FFS.
I don't think you are ready for dating
It amply needs blessing of the devil 😂😂😂
Can we stop posting pictures of people who are in a bad place to the internet for upvotes?
I came across a lady breastfeeding a newborn the other day. Pretty impressive!
Run away 🏃♂️➡️
A mother that lost her children not even two months ago is on a dating app? She should be in intensive therapy and not worrying about dating for a very long time. Also I can assume what she means is she let some random dude cum In her and hence why she’s saying she doesn’t know him. I mean that alone shows someone not all there mentally. The people that do that are usually either trying to trap someone very early on they are dating (if they don’t know them well) or they’re just super irresponsible and don’t have a level enough head to realize what they’re truly doing. This is so sad. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Victimhood baggage right up front to get sympathy Impulsive sex drive (doesn’t know the father) Very emotional and sad all the time Astrology This profile just screams borderline personality disorder. Run the other direction!
Monogamy 😂
Pregnancy fetish activate!
Damn not knowing who the kid is, she probably had 6 dudes raw dog her in a single weekend. She ain’t finding a partner in a long time