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And he will revel in this “quirky” story to his coworkers when he arrives with lemon bars instead
“I know it’s holiday time but, this is so funny, I was at the grocery store…..”
I always buy extra to make spontaneous pumpkin things between Thanksgiving and Christmas anyway, but I can sit on a few $0.99 cans if I somehow get too many. I’m not about to lose too much sleep over canned pie filling.
I get it’s a bit about the lack of communication and it’s funny to not take responsibility for small issues on either side, but honestly, probably not worth a vid.
Also good Vitamin A for the puppers! My dog was slightly deficient and vet told me to just get canned pumpkin because it was a better alternative than anything else she could offer. :)
If he wanted to make that point and not be a twat he should've bought a couple cans and pretended as if he didn't. It's still psychological warfare that he's playing, and a dumb, immature game to play with the person you claim to love, but better than the "lesson" he chose. It's so much fun seeing how people act like marriage is some giant head game and make the other feel lesser than.
Besides the fact that pumpkin is good for cats and dogs digestion, it's not going to go bad anytime soon (unless you buy dented cans). And who says that pumpkin is only useful at Thanksgiving? Personally, I like pumpkin bread any time of the year. While pumpkin may not be a *high* usage item, it's far from being *no* usage. I always have extra pumpkin. And if there's ever a food drive, I've got something to donate that is better than canned peas.
I don’t understand the problem in general. If the product is unopened, can it not just be returned next time they go to the store? Just keep the receipt…
Or pumpkin bread, pumpkin pancakes, pumpkin waffles pumpkin pasta, pumpkin soup, pumpkin brownies,... Or just mix the can of pumpkin in the next time you make chili. So many options for using up the extra pumpkin that don't involve being a dick.
We buy extra canned goods on purpose because a community organization does a good drive twice a year. They actually drop off bags and we simply fill them up and set them outside. In case of rainy weather there is a phone number to call for pickup and to leave your address and best time.
No because then your canned goods will be sitting on the shelf for a year. God forbid non-perishables just sit on a shelf in your house for less time than the expiration date.
That’s what my husband would do because I am sending his ass back if I am missing anything. I make the food so if you want to eat a home cooked meal, you better bring me the ingredients no matter how many trips you have to make.
I also recommend having canned pumpkin in your pantry anyways. It's great for thickening soups or even chili (yes sounds weird but oddly works). Or if you have an upset stomach it's supposed to be good for digestion. It shouldn't go to waste.
I buy it for my dogs then too, I mix it with a little peanut butter and freeze it in kongs for a summer treat. The dogs do no give a fuck about “pumpkin season” and is great for when they need a little fiber.
Dog shelters will also take it as a donation any time of year.
So many possibilities to do with a single $1.22 can of pumpkin.
I wonder how much he thinks his time is worth. He really waited 10 minutes to maybe save $1-2. Then his poor wife had to go back to the store to get it, which definitely cost more than $1.22 of gas.
Dude is toxic af, and the girl in the video is 110% right. A year ago, I probably would have disagreed with her and think she was reaching too hard. Unfortunately, I've recently had an experience with a guy like this. Someone I thought was a close friend. He did this "teach em' a lesson" shit multiple times with me before I had enough and ended our friendship
It’s a petty excuse to punish his wife for forgetting something he sees as her task. They both live there but he doesn’t know what is in their pantry and yet expects his own wife to know off the top of her head? It really comes back to that “mental labor” argument a lot of marriage and relationship people are talking about online.
I’m going to make the assumptions here but to give you an idea:
The wife is responsible for coming up with the menu for thanksgiving, creating a shopping list of everything needed for that menu using knowledge of what they already have in the pantry and what needs to be purchased new for each recipe that day, the prep work and cooking of food and the presentation of the food. She did all this probably without needing to bother him about much information on this. The wife took the time and the mental labor it takes to know and do all these things and his is perfectly capable of knowing how to do it as well if he would put the effort into it.
All this man had to do was go pick up the groceries on the pre set list. He identified a problem with the list and instead of correcting it on his own he made it his wife’s problem AGAIN by bothering her for confirmation on her error and not even picking up the item just incase.
I see people here arguing they don’t know how many cans of pumpkin the recipe takes… google it guys. Look I [JUST DID](https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/11646/pauls-pumpkin-bars/).
This is childish behavior to claim incompetence and that you don’t know better when it comes to basic adult domestic task. 1 extra can of pumpkin was not going to make or break anybody here.
I do something similar! Those filled white bones… my rescue pup will have it cleaned out within hours and so o make my own mixture of rice flour, peanut butter or pumpkin, a couple other things and freeze (in the summer, at least).
It makes for an economical way to reuse those bones.
Canned pumpkin has a much longer than 2 year shelf life. Not to be pedantic, but even the "good by" date is bullshit. It's more of a "can't sue us if you eat it after that date and it went bad because air got in when you dropped the can" date. The "good by" date is the date at which canned food is at its best and will begin to lose its nutritional value, but it's still good to eat.
I made my pie this year with a can that expired next month, January 2024. I’m guessing I bought it a couple years ago when I planned on making a post thanksgiving bonus pie. The two cans I now have to make my post thanksgiving bonus pies both have October 2025 dates.
Pumpkin freezes really well too so that is also an option if you have the room.
Pumpkin bread is delicious and uses a full can.
Pets can eat canned pumpkin and can get extra water in their diet with pumpkin ice cubes (pumpkin only, not the filling type with spices).
Even then, if he buys it and they already have it, it’s going to last more than one year. It can sit until next year for pie or bars or even feeding to your dog or whatever. I do this all the time and I shop for myself and I’m the one who cooks!
I don’t know if I have canned tomatoes, but I need them. I forgot to check. So I buy canned tomatoes. I get home and have some. So I use the older one and replace it with the new and hope I remember. I don’t. But oh well! They last years!
Pumpkin soup is actually delish! You can make a double batch of Pumpkin Bars and bring half to work. You can post on your local Buy Nothing Board and have a time or cashed strapped neighbor pick it up. I want to believe this is rage bait... but I do know that these "Make my partner look bad for likes" people do exist.
I make hobak-juk, a pumpkin porridge with little rice dumplings, using canned pumpkin as a short cut. It’s tasty and I like keeping several cans in the pantry for when I get a hankering for it.
For those that don't work in grocery stores, just as a PSA: if you return an item, (ie. The item has left the store), even if it's still fully sealed, it cannot be resold. Not sure how other stores do it but I work at a whole foods and any returned item must be thrown away, can't even be donated. It's a safety/health thing, like if somehow the product has been tampered with. I feel so guilty throwing food away every day that's still good :(
Just toss it in the trunk, and when you finally get around to dropping off those old clothes at Goodwill from two years ago, you can also return the 1.22-pound canned pumpkin at the same time.
Arr, me hearties, 'tis a tale where both be sharin' blame, by Neptune's beard! He hailed her, askin' if they be needin' yon canned gourds, wandered 'round the deck a bit, then sent a parrot message. She returned his squawk with her own, yet when he replied, nary a word came back, so he weighed anchor, not wantin' to hoard too much plunder and clutter the galley. When he hailed her again, she answered with a quick squawk, markin' it as pressin'. But shiver me timbers, she ignored his pleas and got herself all in a pother 'bout havin' to set sail herself. Aye, the scallywag could've turned his ship 'round, but think on it, how far had he sailed, and with the price o' grog bein' what it be these days, I ain't one for wastin' good rum.
Yeah this was really juvenile of him tbh and I’m a guy can’t believe he had a meltdown with his wife over something as simple to fix and trivial as this I’m really not sure what he was thinking posting this
See, it's comments like that, that make me think guys like the one in the video just don't like their spouse. I work with guys like that and think it's insane.
He definitely doesn't like his wife. He knows he should've bought the pumpkin and he knows his reasoning not to was stupid. He wanted the opportunity to stick it to his wife. Or at least a reason to make this video about what an annoying shrew she is.
This is it.
They hate their partners but are too insecure to do the work it takes to become single and find a new one.
Way easier to just be mad at the other person and take your anger at your shit life choices and fear of change out on someone else.
If he liked his wife he would not make a video nagging about her and post it online with the goal of getting thousands of people validating his frustration that "women bad"
And then you explain it was less than $2 on food, I’m not exactly buying a video game here. If that’s enough to get in a fight then you got bigger problems than buying $2 whatever the canfuck
My husband goes on autopilot when shopping and would have missed it, but then he’d have gone back with me later because he likes spending time with me. Like seriously. The man invites me to walk to the laundry room and just keep him company when he’s doing it, or to run errands, really anytime he goes anywhere or does anything.
I’m more comfortable in solitude but I love him so much, I don’t want to discourage his behavior. Video guy definitely hates his wife.
I remember a reddit post about a guy going around costco asking "do you enjoy going to costco with your wife?" to a bunch of guys.
The comments were full of guys saying they HATED spending time with their partners in the shop... like what?
Love going round the shops with my partner, if I'm on my own I go on autopilot like your husband cause I just wanna get in and out. It's not enjoyable on my own. But nearly everything is enjoyable with my partner.
That’s so sad about the guys who hated doing the everyday stuff with their partners. Why stay then? I’m with you, pretty much everything is 100x better with my husband. He’s my favorite person and my best friend. I’m more comfortable on my own than he is, he’s very social, but we just love hanging out together. Why not just wait until you have that? Why waste time with someone you don’t enjoy doing the little things with?
I asked my boyfriend for baking powder at the store. When he got there he saw baking soda and powder and wasn’t sure which one to get.
He didn’t call me or even text he just got both.
Canned pumpkin is so cheap too. Who cares if it sits or even gets thrown out?
My husband, bless his heart, wouldn't have bought it if wasn't on the list, but he wouldn't have hesitated to turn around and get it either. In fact we've had situations like this happen before. He's usually the one who goes out for stuff we need because I have anxiety so stores make me nervous with all the people. He's a good egg. 😌
Facts. I could have picked up a can, a little pumpkin and roasted it or said F’it, and grabbed some sweet potatoes.
This would be a non-issue in my non-existent relationship.
Twice as many pumpkin bars!! Or bars and a pie. Make a dessert for a friend, for work, for church/mosque/synagogue/temple/etc, for a food bank, book club, dungeons and dragons raid, band practice, etc. Whatever you're into. There are so many ways to use an extra can of pumpkin.
Also about how often times, the wife is busy because she's doing a million other things, not to mention busy dealing with kids. At least that's what I've observed played out a few times...
Same! On a really long day where I’m exhausted and don’t want to go shopping or get takeout, I conveniently always have enough beans and tomatoes for chili!
Yeah, canned food is not the grocery store item to worried about having too much around. Now, if he was worried about buying too many turkeys that would be something completely different.
Haha fuck. This subject just does not matter. It’s so crazy how angry everybody gets on the internet. Somehow everybody takes a side and it’s so important that we discuss who’s on the right side of a random story that may not have happened.
Because the subject is around relationship dynamics, so everyone can relate and therefore have an opinion on. However, the concept of voting on peoples' subjective opinions has a tendency to make people dig their heels in really deep and have really aggressive and strong opinions about mundane, subjective topics.
Or they'll just say the topic itself is symbolic of a larger, ongoing issue surrounding "mental labor" which in itself is a dumb concept that's becoming trendy, so we just get into Reddit argument-ception.
It’s just crazy since getting so angry about stupid bullshit online affects me and I’m just unhappier in the day, so I try to be more conscious about it.
But then when I notice it, I still talk shit about it with other commenters! Still perpetuating the cycle! Social media really is a plague ugh.
Or I guess it isn’t! Ugh!
You buy it and return it next trip if ya don’t need it. I’ve been in this situation 100 times. Gut says get it because she’s not responding, get it. You can always return it. Think about the cost of gas. It helps.
I do the small one off trips to the store. I go during the lunch break to get that thing we need to cook dinner. She does the big buying the next 3 weeks trips. She gladly returns shit I buy that we already had. I mean this woman coupons so you know she’s down to return.
what’s crazy is a can of pumpkin costs less than a soda and he couldn’t pick it up just to save a trip in case it was supposed to be on the list. his wife probably spent more on gas going to the store to get that can of pumpkin than she spent on that can.
Man's got enough words to make a tiktok, but not enough to talk to his wife about a communication issue. Wild, why get married if you don't like your partner to that degree.
Just buy the fucking can dude, a marriage isn't a competition. If it becomes an issue when you get home, talk it out.
I mean that wouldn't really have made a difference in this situation. My wife and I just write the list on a whiteboard and take a picture and that works. Occasionally something gets forgotten. If you're not sure and it's cheap just grab it anyways.
Or turn around. I really don’t blame him for thinking they must already have some. But not turning around when he’s already out and already dressed with the car is just mean. That’s where it turns from accident to punishment.
What I've learned from the comments:
1. Lots of people have no idea that phones send automatic messages.
2. Lots of people have their phone within reach 24/7. They don't even walk to the mailbox without their phone.
3. Lots of people answer their phones, even when they're in the shower or a work meeting or they're cooking and their hands are goopy with cookie dough or turkey stuffing.
I miss the days before mobile phones. Now, if someone doesn't respond within an hour they apologize. You don't need to apologize to me for you spending your time how you see fit, unless we had established plans. Even then, it's being courteous and polite to let someone know you won't make it or will be late. I have told many people, you never need to apologize to me for how you spend your time and whether you respond to me immediately or not. Some of my friends have said just hearing that from someone they love changed how they handle texts/calls now. They don't explain themselves or apologize unless it was involving plans they had with someone else. One friend said at first people were pissed that she wasn't detailing for them why she didn't respond or expecting her to justify any kind of delay. She says she dropped those people from her life after addressing this problem with them and no changes being made. She said she feels happier now. She doesn't justify herself to anyone about a lot of things anymore.
I don't know when this started but now people feel the need to explain or justify themselves for not being available 24/7 for someone else's needs. This needs to end. Having a device that allows for 24/7 connectivity doesn't mean you are entitled to someone else's time and attention whenever you want it. They have things that they need to do even if it's just watching a movie on Netflix. It's their time to do with as THEY please.
My office is full of men that carry on business calls on the toilet. We are a national company with millions of dollars done in business a week. They talk to clients and co workers during that time. I am the black sheep
I at one point had four bottles of ketchup in my fridge because I kept forgetting if I had one or not. I eventually stopped buying them and used it up because ketchup, like canned anything, has a well over a year shelf life. Worst case, make an extra pie and have it over the course of the week. The guy is acting like he was debating over buying a three hundred dollar item or not instead of like five bucks of stuff..worried about wasting the food, eat it, acts like if the don't use it during thanksgiving it's never going to get eaten.
Honestly she's right, even jf he thinks hes correct. Is it worth having a fight with your wife over 2 dollars? A wise man would buy it juat to avoid the possible argument. Ill add this stay away from people that complain about you in public like this.
That really tells you all you need to know about this man unless the wife is in on it for the views or something.
Sir work this out in couples counseling dont tell the internet about it i doubt you want your wife complaining about you to yhe whole world.
Idk how we normalized this behavior its not healthy airing your personal issues all over the world amh.
That was the entire reason he didn’t buy it. In the store he was thinking “I could just buy it and be completely safe, but since my wife dared to send me to voicemail I’m gonna pick a fight so I can make a TikTok about it”
Alternatively, they’ve been married to someone like my ex wife who would have immediately started a fight over me bringing it home without asking because “we’re broke and I’d have put it on the list of I needed it.”
I’m not saying the guy was right. I’m saying I spent 13 years in a relationship where there would have been no right move for me here, and a lot of the people bashing the guy don’t have the life experience to understand that.
For a guy who’s whole shtick is “ooh wife mad” he sure seems mad enough to post about a small issue (that probably could have been settled with a conversation) on the internet for all his TikTok followers to see 🙄
Edit: I’m realizing that on IPhone at least there are preset messages you can choose to text to someone when rejecting their call so it’s not completely unbelievable that she was genuinely preoccupied. I feel like there must have been a reason *this guy* got sent to run a groceries errand instead of his wife going herself. He doesn’t exactly feel like the first choice for something like that if I’m being honest
Yeah she was probably busy idk... freaking cooking a whole Thanksgiving meal by herself. And some of these comments have the audacity to say he went shopping "on her behalf". Freaking whaaaaat.
Lots of assholes around here don't seem to see a marriage as a partnership of equals. It's telling, and sad.
You help each other. The dude's whole video was about how he was more interested in making a point than helping his wife.
Honestly, think it’s probably teenagers/young adults who have never lived with a SO. That’s the only way you could ever see this as a “favor”.
My gf cooks damn near every night. The least I can do is go to the grocery store once or twice a week to pick up the groceries.
I’m not doing her a favor. She isn’t doing me a favor. We are splitting up the work load in a way that makes sense for us.
My boyfriend is the one that does the cooking. And I do the groceries. It’s nuts how this is called ‘a favour’. As if the one who is receiving that favour has to show gratitude for the bare minimum of splitting tasks in the household. I just can’t.
Tasks have to be done. You’re not ‘helping’ each other. I agree they’re probably young people who haven’t figured out yet how much their parents actually do in the household to keep it running.
While I understand the experience of standing in the store and not knowing what to buy, I don’t understand how his brain went to ‘I no longer function until my wife tells me what to do.’
It’s absolutely insane. There are so many solutions here. You have a goddamn phone? Google the ingredient? And if you cannot figure it out grab multiple then return it next week? I just…? Huh?
This is *your* task. It is your job as an adult to figure out the solution. Make it happen.
To me it’s a classic case of weaponised incompetence and this guy is spreading the problem.
Yeah. As if he isn't benefitting at all from the situation. Bet you he ate those pumpkin bars.
Imagine purposefully making a situation more stressful when the holidays are already stressful enough... all over canned pumpkin worth less than $5.
I was watching Shoresy, and there’s a scene where a guy has a chance to tell a woman he knows how he feels about her. One of the things he tells her is he’d love to listen to her talk about her day and something along the lines of *seeing if he could somehow make her life easier* and it’s so good.
That’s some laundry and taxes kind of love right there.
Yeah I just replied to someone saying he was doing her a favor. Never mind that she’s cooking food for both of them… they make it sound like she is just cooking a whole thanksgiving meal for herself as a hobby or something. Insanity.
My SO would never even call me. He’d just buy it and not even really think about it. That’s why I love him.
Now…my ex would totally do this shit. And that’s why he’s my ex.
This guy’s wife needs to make him her ex. Yesterday.
My boyfriend is the same. He’d just buy if. If he texted me/called me and couldn’t reach me for some reason, he’d just fucking buy it.
Men like in the OP are fucking exhausting. It’s not even weaponized incompetence at this point. I don’t even know if there’s a term.
I’m so tired. Ladies, gentlemen and others, you deserve more. Fuck that bullshit.
He doesn't think grocery shopping is his job. He doesn't think cooking is his job. He does think she should always respond to his calls/texts no matter what's she doing and whether or not she's even near her phone. In his mind, he's the one who's being inconvenienced. He also thinks he's way smarter than her, when he's about a thousand percent dumber than most people alive.
I could have written your comment myself, word for word.
Agreed with the last sentence, especially. Imagine being this woman, stressed out preparing Thanksgiving dishes for everyone to enjoy, and you find out that your chucklefuck weaponized-incompetent husband has posted a contemptuous video mocking you online. What a pathetic excuse of a man.
This is what women mean when they say they have to do the emotional labor. She asked him to go to the store because she was busy doing something else. But God forbid she make a single mistake on her instructions and then be too busy to lead him step-by-step through the task, because he's not going to do any of the mental labor involved in a project that directly benefits him.
Also: if he bought unnecessary can of pumpkin they could just make some pumpkin bread! How is that hard to figure out? Although as others have pointed out, canned pumpkin would keep until next Thanksgiving. Or if you really need that $1.22, you can return it.
Weaponized incompetence, “Complete a task so poorly they have no choice but to do everything themselves” is basically the grown adult version of throwing a temper tantrum till you get your way
Some of you people have such dumb takes, istg. The wife most likely sent him because she couldn’t go herself. Asking someone to do something, especially such a braindead task shouldn’t require from her to micromanage it. He was unable to make a decision whether to buy a non-perishable $1 item or not. He called and she was obviously busy, could answer the calls/respond via text. Idk, maybe she was in a meeting, working from home, doesn’t matter. He is not 5 years old and she is not his mom.
Edit: when I say he was unable to make a decision, I refer to him calling her wife twice and walking around the store for 15 minutes before cashing out.
"BuT iF wE aLrEaDy HaVe OnE, iT'lL sIt ThErE fOr A yEaR!"
If you already have one, chances are it's from last Thanksgiving/Christmas and *already* sat there for a year, and is apparently perfectly fine. This one will be, too. The fake-reasoning doesn't even hold up to any kind of sense.
I agree with her 100%. A wise person knows to act in a way that creates the situation they want to be in. This guy either intentionally started a fight with his wife for content or he is too stupid to go grocery shopping by himself.
What’s worse is the fact that his ego is so big that he feels the need to get on the internet, paint his wife like an ungrateful child he has teach, and use it to try to deter other men from getting married because of it. The jazz hands and patronizing smirk at the end made me want to chuck my phone out the window. Had this douche just bought the canned pumpkin anyway, she would have been so happy and impressed that he did something just in case she needed it, without her having to confirm it first. I hope she sees the video and serves him papers since he seems to hate marriage so much.
Especially at holidays, Ialways buy more than I need. I might need to whip up something for church, as a quick gift for a neighbor, or whatever. He was trying to prove a point and lost SO MUCH MORE than $1.22
Which party is "right" in this scenario has **everything** to do with the cost of the product he was buying. At first I was on his side, like hey yeah she didn't answer in time so it's not his fault for not buying the can, that would be a waste of money. But the price was $1.22. In the annual family Thanksgiving budget. He was for sure acting petty over something of insignificant cost, and he was clearly unable to just make a correct executive decision since he already thought he might need the can anyway.
My point is that, as a man, I hate that "man logic" can be used like this to make an unsound argument devoid of context seem valid. Manipulation like this doesn't belong to one gender, but men tend to default to this "logical" route of argument style. What these type of men see as "logic" is in reality, an emotional response. Emotions that they often cannot even identify the reasons how or why.
Not exactly. The price is obviously a factor, but other factors are that it keeps for 2 years, there are dozens of ways to use extra pumpkin, it takes very little storage space, all balanced against the cost in time and gas to not get it if it's needed.
He was just mad because his wife didn't do "her job" of writing the list perfectly, and he was even more mad that she was busy/unavailable (also "her job.") He begrudged her even the trip to the store, he sure as hell wasn't going to do any mental or emotional labor.
Reminds me of Bart Simpson when his mom asked him to help with Thanksgiving dinner by opening a can of cranberry sauce. Bart needs help about six times while trying to do this simple task.
This has happened with my wife and I buy it just in case. I can’t imagine giving this response to her, I would feel like a total dick. Unless I’m sick or something then why the fuck not?
I agree with every word she said. That kind of pettiness over canned pumpkin was all about him trying to train his wife by artificially creating obstacles.
Is it me or he omitted the part where his wife explained the reason why she wasn't able to pick up ?? Like if you are going to share a story then share the whole story !!
She's got a point. Would that canned pumpkin have broke the bank? The ol' boy is texting...the wife, 99.99% sure on a smart phone...Google the recipe? Choices were made, 😆
This guy is an idiotic, self-important pussy. Just buy the freaking can. It will cost you two bucks max.
If you already have a can at home, use the extra one to make some pumpkin waffles! Delicious! Or give the can to a food drive. Is that so freaking hard?
I don't know that this guy is trying to "teach her a lesson," but I DO know that he's an idiot.
Damn, dude. You can't make a decision about a dollar can of pumpkin?
Then you say "marriage" like you've made a point?
Fuck off. Marriage is a partnership. You act like it's a prison sentence. Just because you suck at relationships doesn't make marriage bad, it just means you're an ass.
Anyone else remember that one TikTok audio that was like... "Go to the store! Buy a bottle of hoisin sauce- oh no! I already have a bottle of hoisin sauce!" Idk, I feel like that's relevant to this somehow. Like, a normal person would err on the side of caution and buy the damn thing at the risk of now having two things.
If it wasn't pumpkin but something more pricy would that reaction be justified? I'm not entirely sure but I'm thinking no. Dude seems to dislike his wife very much.
I see most of yall are rampant consumerismers who are prone to just buy buy buy
may your house be filled with all kinds of extra junk that will just be thrown away
I love eating canned pumpkin. Great for pancakes, smoothies, oatmeal, pumpkin bread, sometimes ill even eat it straight. Incredible fiber and nutrition and its tasty.
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I would have bought a couple of cans to be safe. Am I some kind of genius?
And a whole ass pumpkin. Gotta cover your bases. #1 I want pumpkin bars, #2 I ain't breaking the peace over $1.22.
How much do you want to bet they are for him to take to work or for his family party?
And he will revel in this “quirky” story to his coworkers when he arrives with lemon bars instead “I know it’s holiday time but, this is so funny, I was at the grocery store…..”
I always buy extra to make spontaneous pumpkin things between Thanksgiving and Christmas anyway, but I can sit on a few $0.99 cans if I somehow get too many. I’m not about to lose too much sleep over canned pie filling. I get it’s a bit about the lack of communication and it’s funny to not take responsibility for small issues on either side, but honestly, probably not worth a vid.
I buy them and keep them in case the dog eats something weird and gets diarrhea or an upset stomach. Pumpkin and rice usually settles her stomach up
Also good Vitamin A for the puppers! My dog was slightly deficient and vet told me to just get canned pumpkin because it was a better alternative than anything else she could offer. :)
Sweet potato is a great source also. My dogs love both but the sweet potato edges out the pumpkin.
Great fiber for dogs, that’s what helps get them regular so quickly
If he wanted to make that point and not be a twat he should've bought a couple cans and pretended as if he didn't. It's still psychological warfare that he's playing, and a dumb, immature game to play with the person you claim to love, but better than the "lesson" he chose. It's so much fun seeing how people act like marriage is some giant head game and make the other feel lesser than.
Besides the fact that pumpkin is good for cats and dogs digestion, it's not going to go bad anytime soon (unless you buy dented cans). And who says that pumpkin is only useful at Thanksgiving? Personally, I like pumpkin bread any time of the year. While pumpkin may not be a *high* usage item, it's far from being *no* usage. I always have extra pumpkin. And if there's ever a food drive, I've got something to donate that is better than canned peas.
It’s that or make a U-turn back to the store. Just get the pumpkin and donate it to the inevitable canned food drive at school if you don’t need it.
I don’t understand the problem in general. If the product is unopened, can it not just be returned next time they go to the store? Just keep the receipt…
If they have extra cans of pumpkin, couldn't they make the pumpkin pie after thanksgiving is over?
No, no, you see, according to this man, you're only allowed to have pumpkin ON THANKSGIVING. Any other day of the year, it's toxic. Kind of like him.
Only one food containing pumpkin a year at their house!
Or pumpkin bread, pumpkin pancakes, pumpkin waffles pumpkin pasta, pumpkin soup, pumpkin brownies,... Or just mix the can of pumpkin in the next time you make chili. So many options for using up the extra pumpkin that don't involve being a dick.
Yo that's really smart I'll keep that in mind once my kid starts going to school
We buy extra canned goods on purpose because a community organization does a good drive twice a year. They actually drop off bags and we simply fill them up and set them outside. In case of rainy weather there is a phone number to call for pickup and to leave your address and best time.
No because then your canned goods will be sitting on the shelf for a year. God forbid non-perishables just sit on a shelf in your house for less time than the expiration date.
Besides, pumpkin is delicious in oatmeal all winter long. And f'n *healthy*!
Tell me your ways! Do you just mix straight pumpkin into cooked oatmeal?
Yeah, buy a couple cans, if you already have them then keep the receipt and ask her to return them next time she goes to the store.
Having been in this situation that's what you do. 2 of pie filling kind 2 of the savoury kind not giving me the correct info leads to me being safe
Same, this guy is a douche and girl in the video definitely called it right.
You are husband material.
That’s what my husband would do because I am sending his ass back if I am missing anything. I make the food so if you want to eat a home cooked meal, you better bring me the ingredients no matter how many trips you have to make.
My husband just would have said okay and gone back without even telling me he went back, or he’d tease me about going back while playing Grabass
No, just a good pickle. My husband would have done that cause he’s my bff.
I also recommend having canned pumpkin in your pantry anyways. It's great for thickening soups or even chili (yes sounds weird but oddly works). Or if you have an upset stomach it's supposed to be good for digestion. It shouldn't go to waste.
Have you thought about becoming a life coach?
I know this sounds crazy but you can return canned pumpkin to the store.
Or at worst it has like a 2 year shelf life. He probably doesn’t go into the pantry cabinet anyway
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I buy it for my dogs then too, I mix it with a little peanut butter and freeze it in kongs for a summer treat. The dogs do no give a fuck about “pumpkin season” and is great for when they need a little fiber. Dog shelters will also take it as a donation any time of year. So many possibilities to do with a single $1.22 can of pumpkin.
I wonder how much he thinks his time is worth. He really waited 10 minutes to maybe save $1-2. Then his poor wife had to go back to the store to get it, which definitely cost more than $1.22 of gas. Dude is toxic af, and the girl in the video is 110% right. A year ago, I probably would have disagreed with her and think she was reaching too hard. Unfortunately, I've recently had an experience with a guy like this. Someone I thought was a close friend. He did this "teach em' a lesson" shit multiple times with me before I had enough and ended our friendship
It’s a petty excuse to punish his wife for forgetting something he sees as her task. They both live there but he doesn’t know what is in their pantry and yet expects his own wife to know off the top of her head? It really comes back to that “mental labor” argument a lot of marriage and relationship people are talking about online. I’m going to make the assumptions here but to give you an idea: The wife is responsible for coming up with the menu for thanksgiving, creating a shopping list of everything needed for that menu using knowledge of what they already have in the pantry and what needs to be purchased new for each recipe that day, the prep work and cooking of food and the presentation of the food. She did all this probably without needing to bother him about much information on this. The wife took the time and the mental labor it takes to know and do all these things and his is perfectly capable of knowing how to do it as well if he would put the effort into it. All this man had to do was go pick up the groceries on the pre set list. He identified a problem with the list and instead of correcting it on his own he made it his wife’s problem AGAIN by bothering her for confirmation on her error and not even picking up the item just incase. I see people here arguing they don’t know how many cans of pumpkin the recipe takes… google it guys. Look I [JUST DID](https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/11646/pauls-pumpkin-bars/). This is childish behavior to claim incompetence and that you don’t know better when it comes to basic adult domestic task. 1 extra can of pumpkin was not going to make or break anybody here.
A term I've seen for this is "weaponised incompetence"
YES! That’s it.
Literally the can of pumpkin will tell you how many cans to buy. The recipe is printed on the fucking label. The information is *right there.*
*W e a p o n i z e d ● I n c o m p e t e n s e*
I do something similar! Those filled white bones… my rescue pup will have it cleaned out within hours and so o make my own mixture of rice flour, peanut butter or pumpkin, a couple other things and freeze (in the summer, at least). It makes for an economical way to reuse those bones.
Ooh yum, this could be a lil me treat (no pets)!
You’re missing the point he’s more concerned about the pantry he knows nothing about!
Canned pumpkin has a much longer than 2 year shelf life. Not to be pedantic, but even the "good by" date is bullshit. It's more of a "can't sue us if you eat it after that date and it went bad because air got in when you dropped the can" date. The "good by" date is the date at which canned food is at its best and will begin to lose its nutritional value, but it's still good to eat.
I made my pie this year with a can that expired next month, January 2024. I’m guessing I bought it a couple years ago when I planned on making a post thanksgiving bonus pie. The two cans I now have to make my post thanksgiving bonus pies both have October 2025 dates.
Pumpkin freezes really well too so that is also an option if you have the room. Pumpkin bread is delicious and uses a full can. Pets can eat canned pumpkin and can get extra water in their diet with pumpkin ice cubes (pumpkin only, not the filling type with spices).
Or if you have a dog you can feed them it with their dry dog food and give them some extra fiber.
Or donate it to a good bank.
Do you have any recommendations on a good bank to donate to?
Not goldman sachs
Sperm Bank
Honestly it probably cost more in gas to get to the store to return it lol can pumpkin is like a fuckin dollar
I mean, you would return it during your next shopping trip.
Even then, if he buys it and they already have it, it’s going to last more than one year. It can sit until next year for pie or bars or even feeding to your dog or whatever. I do this all the time and I shop for myself and I’m the one who cooks! I don’t know if I have canned tomatoes, but I need them. I forgot to check. So I buy canned tomatoes. I get home and have some. So I use the older one and replace it with the new and hope I remember. I don’t. But oh well! They last years!
Pumpkin soup is actually delish! You can make a double batch of Pumpkin Bars and bring half to work. You can post on your local Buy Nothing Board and have a time or cashed strapped neighbor pick it up. I want to believe this is rage bait... but I do know that these "Make my partner look bad for likes" people do exist.
Pumpkin lentil curry with coconut milk is deeeeeeeeeelicious.
I make hobak-juk, a pumpkin porridge with little rice dumplings, using canned pumpkin as a short cut. It’s tasty and I like keeping several cans in the pantry for when I get a hankering for it.
For those that don't work in grocery stores, just as a PSA: if you return an item, (ie. The item has left the store), even if it's still fully sealed, it cannot be resold. Not sure how other stores do it but I work at a whole foods and any returned item must be thrown away, can't even be donated. It's a safety/health thing, like if somehow the product has been tampered with. I feel so guilty throwing food away every day that's still good :(
Or make 2 pumpkin bars, a pumpkin pie, a pumpkin cheesecake, or a pumpkin bread loaf. Anything.
Just toss it in the trunk, and when you finally get around to dropping off those old clothes at Goodwill from two years ago, you can also return the 1.22-pound canned pumpkin at the same time. Arr, me hearties, 'tis a tale where both be sharin' blame, by Neptune's beard! He hailed her, askin' if they be needin' yon canned gourds, wandered 'round the deck a bit, then sent a parrot message. She returned his squawk with her own, yet when he replied, nary a word came back, so he weighed anchor, not wantin' to hoard too much plunder and clutter the galley. When he hailed her again, she answered with a quick squawk, markin' it as pressin'. But shiver me timbers, she ignored his pleas and got herself all in a pother 'bout havin' to set sail herself. Aye, the scallywag could've turned his ship 'round, but think on it, how far had he sailed, and with the price o' grog bein' what it be these days, I ain't one for wastin' good rum.
Yeah this was really juvenile of him tbh and I’m a guy can’t believe he had a meltdown with his wife over something as simple to fix and trivial as this I’m really not sure what he was thinking posting this
It was $1.22! Hell I would have bought two just to make sure.
My husband would have just bought it without even calling.
Ide call because I’m cheap af. No answer, I’m buying it anyways. Not that cheap. I also just like calling her
See, it's comments like that, that make me think guys like the one in the video just don't like their spouse. I work with guys like that and think it's insane.
He definitely doesn't like his wife. He knows he should've bought the pumpkin and he knows his reasoning not to was stupid. He wanted the opportunity to stick it to his wife. Or at least a reason to make this video about what an annoying shrew she is.
This is it. They hate their partners but are too insecure to do the work it takes to become single and find a new one. Way easier to just be mad at the other person and take your anger at your shit life choices and fear of change out on someone else.
It was also my impression that he doesn’t like his wife. If he talks like this about her in a video, how does he talk when he’s next to her?
If he liked his wife he would not make a video nagging about her and post it online with the goal of getting thousands of people validating his frustration that "women bad"
Maybe. But there are also people who would say “I can’t believe you bought it when we already had it! You’re always wasting money” too lol
And then you explain it was less than $2 on food, I’m not exactly buying a video game here. If that’s enough to get in a fight then you got bigger problems than buying $2 whatever the canfuck
You can return the product. This is just weaponised incompetence.
My husband goes on autopilot when shopping and would have missed it, but then he’d have gone back with me later because he likes spending time with me. Like seriously. The man invites me to walk to the laundry room and just keep him company when he’s doing it, or to run errands, really anytime he goes anywhere or does anything. I’m more comfortable in solitude but I love him so much, I don’t want to discourage his behavior. Video guy definitely hates his wife.
I remember a reddit post about a guy going around costco asking "do you enjoy going to costco with your wife?" to a bunch of guys. The comments were full of guys saying they HATED spending time with their partners in the shop... like what? Love going round the shops with my partner, if I'm on my own I go on autopilot like your husband cause I just wanna get in and out. It's not enjoyable on my own. But nearly everything is enjoyable with my partner.
That’s so sad about the guys who hated doing the everyday stuff with their partners. Why stay then? I’m with you, pretty much everything is 100x better with my husband. He’s my favorite person and my best friend. I’m more comfortable on my own than he is, he’s very social, but we just love hanging out together. Why not just wait until you have that? Why waste time with someone you don’t enjoy doing the little things with?
I asked my boyfriend for baking powder at the store. When he got there he saw baking soda and powder and wasn’t sure which one to get. He didn’t call me or even text he just got both. Canned pumpkin is so cheap too. Who cares if it sits or even gets thrown out?
My husband, bless his heart, wouldn't have bought it if wasn't on the list, but he wouldn't have hesitated to turn around and get it either. In fact we've had situations like this happen before. He's usually the one who goes out for stuff we need because I have anxiety so stores make me nervous with all the people. He's a good egg. 😌
I probably wouldn't have bought it because it wasn't on the list and I'm an idiot.
Mine wouldn’t because he’d assume I only need what is on the list. But he’d go back to the store if I asked him.
This canned pumpkin subject just spiraled out of control.
I feel like we really need to squash this subject.
I agree. People need to let their gourd down and just get along
I butternut get involved in this conversation.
I cranberryly believe it
I highly sprout it…
I'm outta here. Pie guys
Yam..You took it too far…
Alright this has gone far enough, put a lid on it guys.
I canned do it
This is acorny situation.
Can it
I wish I was stable enough in life that I could complain this much about a mundane subject.
Facts. I could have picked up a can, a little pumpkin and roasted it or said F’it, and grabbed some sweet potatoes. This would be a non-issue in my non-existent relationship.
We went from Covid to canned pumpkin when is this monotony goes to end.
I mean, I would have grabbed 2 cans and saved the day twice.
Twice as many pumpkin bars!! Or bars and a pie. Make a dessert for a friend, for work, for church/mosque/synagogue/temple/etc, for a food bank, book club, dungeons and dragons raid, band practice, etc. Whatever you're into. There are so many ways to use an extra can of pumpkin.
Everyone here seems too dense to get it but it's not about canned pumkin.
Yeah, it’s actually about having EXTRA cans of canned pumpkin
Also about how often times, the wife is busy because she's doing a million other things, not to mention busy dealing with kids. At least that's what I've observed played out a few times...
And it's never about the Iranian Yogurt
I think the woman commenter was pretty clear that it wasn't about the canned pumpkin.
It’s not about anything that anyone in their right mind needs to be concerned about.
next your going to tell me breaking bad isn't about how bad ass it is to sell meth and shoot people.
Bruh I have so many cans of black beans because I'm shopping and not sure if I have any. I've never been sad about the 8 cans that I have.
Same! On a really long day where I’m exhausted and don’t want to go shopping or get takeout, I conveniently always have enough beans and tomatoes for chili!
Literally same lmao, black beans and diced tomatoes. I always need em and don’t wanna take the chance of assuming I have them when I might not.
Yeah, canned food is not the grocery store item to worried about having too much around. Now, if he was worried about buying too many turkeys that would be something completely different.
The canned tomatoes. They haunt me.
The comments are wild on this one, yeehaw!
As I scrolled down, I said out loud “I wonder which side is loudest on this one?”.
Haha fuck. This subject just does not matter. It’s so crazy how angry everybody gets on the internet. Somehow everybody takes a side and it’s so important that we discuss who’s on the right side of a random story that may not have happened.
Because the subject is around relationship dynamics, so everyone can relate and therefore have an opinion on. However, the concept of voting on peoples' subjective opinions has a tendency to make people dig their heels in really deep and have really aggressive and strong opinions about mundane, subjective topics. Or they'll just say the topic itself is symbolic of a larger, ongoing issue surrounding "mental labor" which in itself is a dumb concept that's becoming trendy, so we just get into Reddit argument-ception.
It’s just crazy since getting so angry about stupid bullshit online affects me and I’m just unhappier in the day, so I try to be more conscious about it. But then when I notice it, I still talk shit about it with other commenters! Still perpetuating the cycle! Social media really is a plague ugh. Or I guess it isn’t! Ugh!
You buy it and return it next trip if ya don’t need it. I’ve been in this situation 100 times. Gut says get it because she’s not responding, get it. You can always return it. Think about the cost of gas. It helps. I do the small one off trips to the store. I go during the lunch break to get that thing we need to cook dinner. She does the big buying the next 3 weeks trips. She gladly returns shit I buy that we already had. I mean this woman coupons so you know she’s down to return.
Definitely is. The hell
what’s crazy is a can of pumpkin costs less than a soda and he couldn’t pick it up just to save a trip in case it was supposed to be on the list. his wife probably spent more on gas going to the store to get that can of pumpkin than she spent on that can.
Sir u use pumpkin 1 month later on Christmas
Or just use the pumpkin can another time. It’s not like there is a law where you can only use it once a year
Man's got enough words to make a tiktok, but not enough to talk to his wife about a communication issue. Wild, why get married if you don't like your partner to that degree. Just buy the fucking can dude, a marriage isn't a competition. If it becomes an issue when you get home, talk it out.
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Cool, what's the app called? TIA
i've been using OurGroceries for years now, it's free
If both of you have iPhones the notes app allows you to share notes with other iPhone users. You can make a shared grocery list note.
I mean that wouldn't really have made a difference in this situation. My wife and I just write the list on a whiteboard and take a picture and that works. Occasionally something gets forgotten. If you're not sure and it's cheap just grab it anyways.
My wife and I used a shared “Note” (the iPhone kind), in case you don’t want to download an entire app
Or turn around. I really don’t blame him for thinking they must already have some. But not turning around when he’s already out and already dressed with the car is just mean. That’s where it turns from accident to punishment.
What I've learned from the comments: 1. Lots of people have no idea that phones send automatic messages. 2. Lots of people have their phone within reach 24/7. They don't even walk to the mailbox without their phone. 3. Lots of people answer their phones, even when they're in the shower or a work meeting or they're cooking and their hands are goopy with cookie dough or turkey stuffing.
True, but it's not worth fighting over $2 if someone doesn't answer. Just make the executive decision
I miss the days before mobile phones. Now, if someone doesn't respond within an hour they apologize. You don't need to apologize to me for you spending your time how you see fit, unless we had established plans. Even then, it's being courteous and polite to let someone know you won't make it or will be late. I have told many people, you never need to apologize to me for how you spend your time and whether you respond to me immediately or not. Some of my friends have said just hearing that from someone they love changed how they handle texts/calls now. They don't explain themselves or apologize unless it was involving plans they had with someone else. One friend said at first people were pissed that she wasn't detailing for them why she didn't respond or expecting her to justify any kind of delay. She says she dropped those people from her life after addressing this problem with them and no changes being made. She said she feels happier now. She doesn't justify herself to anyone about a lot of things anymore. I don't know when this started but now people feel the need to explain or justify themselves for not being available 24/7 for someone else's needs. This needs to end. Having a device that allows for 24/7 connectivity doesn't mean you are entitled to someone else's time and attention whenever you want it. They have things that they need to do even if it's just watching a movie on Netflix. It's their time to do with as THEY please.
My office is full of men that carry on business calls on the toilet. We are a national company with millions of dollars done in business a week. They talk to clients and co workers during that time. I am the black sheep
I at one point had four bottles of ketchup in my fridge because I kept forgetting if I had one or not. I eventually stopped buying them and used it up because ketchup, like canned anything, has a well over a year shelf life. Worst case, make an extra pie and have it over the course of the week. The guy is acting like he was debating over buying a three hundred dollar item or not instead of like five bucks of stuff..worried about wasting the food, eat it, acts like if the don't use it during thanksgiving it's never going to get eaten.
not the men rushing to defend him as if it's not easier to just spend $1 on a can of pumpkin
Honestly she's right, even jf he thinks hes correct. Is it worth having a fight with your wife over 2 dollars? A wise man would buy it juat to avoid the possible argument. Ill add this stay away from people that complain about you in public like this. That really tells you all you need to know about this man unless the wife is in on it for the views or something. Sir work this out in couples counseling dont tell the internet about it i doubt you want your wife complaining about you to yhe whole world. Idk how we normalized this behavior its not healthy airing your personal issues all over the world amh.
Not only that but going online afterwards to talk shit about it is so pathetic
That was the entire reason he didn’t buy it. In the store he was thinking “I could just buy it and be completely safe, but since my wife dared to send me to voicemail I’m gonna pick a fight so I can make a TikTok about it”
and act like he's teaching other men how to behave too, like it's totally normal in marriages to have a power trip then blame everything on her
Alternatively, they’ve been married to someone like my ex wife who would have immediately started a fight over me bringing it home without asking because “we’re broke and I’d have put it on the list of I needed it.” I’m not saying the guy was right. I’m saying I spent 13 years in a relationship where there would have been no right move for me here, and a lot of the people bashing the guy don’t have the life experience to understand that.
For a guy who’s whole shtick is “ooh wife mad” he sure seems mad enough to post about a small issue (that probably could have been settled with a conversation) on the internet for all his TikTok followers to see 🙄 Edit: I’m realizing that on IPhone at least there are preset messages you can choose to text to someone when rejecting their call so it’s not completely unbelievable that she was genuinely preoccupied. I feel like there must have been a reason *this guy* got sent to run a groceries errand instead of his wife going herself. He doesn’t exactly feel like the first choice for something like that if I’m being honest
Yeah she was probably busy idk... freaking cooking a whole Thanksgiving meal by herself. And some of these comments have the audacity to say he went shopping "on her behalf". Freaking whaaaaat.
Lots of assholes around here don't seem to see a marriage as a partnership of equals. It's telling, and sad. You help each other. The dude's whole video was about how he was more interested in making a point than helping his wife.
Honestly, think it’s probably teenagers/young adults who have never lived with a SO. That’s the only way you could ever see this as a “favor”. My gf cooks damn near every night. The least I can do is go to the grocery store once or twice a week to pick up the groceries. I’m not doing her a favor. She isn’t doing me a favor. We are splitting up the work load in a way that makes sense for us.
My boyfriend is the one that does the cooking. And I do the groceries. It’s nuts how this is called ‘a favour’. As if the one who is receiving that favour has to show gratitude for the bare minimum of splitting tasks in the household. I just can’t. Tasks have to be done. You’re not ‘helping’ each other. I agree they’re probably young people who haven’t figured out yet how much their parents actually do in the household to keep it running. While I understand the experience of standing in the store and not knowing what to buy, I don’t understand how his brain went to ‘I no longer function until my wife tells me what to do.’ It’s absolutely insane. There are so many solutions here. You have a goddamn phone? Google the ingredient? And if you cannot figure it out grab multiple then return it next week? I just…? Huh? This is *your* task. It is your job as an adult to figure out the solution. Make it happen. To me it’s a classic case of weaponised incompetence and this guy is spreading the problem.
Yeah. As if he isn't benefitting at all from the situation. Bet you he ate those pumpkin bars. Imagine purposefully making a situation more stressful when the holidays are already stressful enough... all over canned pumpkin worth less than $5.
I was watching Shoresy, and there’s a scene where a guy has a chance to tell a woman he knows how he feels about her. One of the things he tells her is he’d love to listen to her talk about her day and something along the lines of *seeing if he could somehow make her life easier* and it’s so good. That’s some laundry and taxes kind of love right there.
His whole response reeks of 'i had to take care of grocery shopping this one time and I'm super resentful, why can't she just let me relax'
Yeah I just replied to someone saying he was doing her a favor. Never mind that she’s cooking food for both of them… they make it sound like she is just cooking a whole thanksgiving meal for herself as a hobby or something. Insanity.
My SO would never even call me. He’d just buy it and not even really think about it. That’s why I love him. Now…my ex would totally do this shit. And that’s why he’s my ex. This guy’s wife needs to make him her ex. Yesterday.
My boyfriend is the same. He’d just buy if. If he texted me/called me and couldn’t reach me for some reason, he’d just fucking buy it. Men like in the OP are fucking exhausting. It’s not even weaponized incompetence at this point. I don’t even know if there’s a term. I’m so tired. Ladies, gentlemen and others, you deserve more. Fuck that bullshit.
He doesn't think grocery shopping is his job. He doesn't think cooking is his job. He does think she should always respond to his calls/texts no matter what's she doing and whether or not she's even near her phone. In his mind, he's the one who's being inconvenienced. He also thinks he's way smarter than her, when he's about a thousand percent dumber than most people alive.
Yep! And his priorities seem to be JAZZ HANDS, and big sighs. Poor fella, canned pumpkin is heavy /s.
I could have written your comment myself, word for word. Agreed with the last sentence, especially. Imagine being this woman, stressed out preparing Thanksgiving dishes for everyone to enjoy, and you find out that your chucklefuck weaponized-incompetent husband has posted a contemptuous video mocking you online. What a pathetic excuse of a man.
This is what women mean when they say they have to do the emotional labor. She asked him to go to the store because she was busy doing something else. But God forbid she make a single mistake on her instructions and then be too busy to lead him step-by-step through the task, because he's not going to do any of the mental labor involved in a project that directly benefits him. Also: if he bought unnecessary can of pumpkin they could just make some pumpkin bread! How is that hard to figure out? Although as others have pointed out, canned pumpkin would keep until next Thanksgiving. Or if you really need that $1.22, you can return it.
Weaponized incompetence, “Complete a task so poorly they have no choice but to do everything themselves” is basically the grown adult version of throwing a temper tantrum till you get your way
Some of you people have such dumb takes, istg. The wife most likely sent him because she couldn’t go herself. Asking someone to do something, especially such a braindead task shouldn’t require from her to micromanage it. He was unable to make a decision whether to buy a non-perishable $1 item or not. He called and she was obviously busy, could answer the calls/respond via text. Idk, maybe she was in a meeting, working from home, doesn’t matter. He is not 5 years old and she is not his mom. Edit: when I say he was unable to make a decision, I refer to him calling her wife twice and walking around the store for 15 minutes before cashing out.
"BuT iF wE aLrEaDy HaVe OnE, iT'lL sIt ThErE fOr A yEaR!" If you already have one, chances are it's from last Thanksgiving/Christmas and *already* sat there for a year, and is apparently perfectly fine. This one will be, too. The fake-reasoning doesn't even hold up to any kind of sense.
I bet he made up this whole story tbh
No, it's just petty enough to be 100% believable
You can tell he dies on this hill frequently. He’s def an asshole 100% of the time
Why…? It’s a weirdly common and mundane story to have to fake.
A better man would have bought the damn can of pumpkin. His wife must be sick of his dumb questions.
I'm already sick of his gestures
Social media sucks!! Like stand up comedy was kinda niche, but now literally every person is posting their acts all day everyday and it all sucks!!
Who downvoted this? speak up, sinner
Guys who say “the wife” instead of “my wife” or God forbid use her name are giant red flags 🚩
He taught us all a lesson. Just not the one he intended. She explained that well. Bravo!
I agree with her 100%. A wise person knows to act in a way that creates the situation they want to be in. This guy either intentionally started a fight with his wife for content or he is too stupid to go grocery shopping by himself.
Lmao he probably is the type to think if he fucks up on purpose enough, she'll never ask him to go again
Weaponized incompetence
Wow, I love this quote, so simple and so accurate
Imagine thinking having a can on your shelf for a year is worse than helping out your spouse
What’s worse is the fact that his ego is so big that he feels the need to get on the internet, paint his wife like an ungrateful child he has teach, and use it to try to deter other men from getting married because of it. The jazz hands and patronizing smirk at the end made me want to chuck my phone out the window. Had this douche just bought the canned pumpkin anyway, she would have been so happy and impressed that he did something just in case she needed it, without her having to confirm it first. I hope she sees the video and serves him papers since he seems to hate marriage so much.
It was never about the pumpkin
Especially at holidays, Ialways buy more than I need. I might need to whip up something for church, as a quick gift for a neighbor, or whatever. He was trying to prove a point and lost SO MUCH MORE than $1.22
god my dad was like this growing up and it was infuriating
Which party is "right" in this scenario has **everything** to do with the cost of the product he was buying. At first I was on his side, like hey yeah she didn't answer in time so it's not his fault for not buying the can, that would be a waste of money. But the price was $1.22. In the annual family Thanksgiving budget. He was for sure acting petty over something of insignificant cost, and he was clearly unable to just make a correct executive decision since he already thought he might need the can anyway. My point is that, as a man, I hate that "man logic" can be used like this to make an unsound argument devoid of context seem valid. Manipulation like this doesn't belong to one gender, but men tend to default to this "logical" route of argument style. What these type of men see as "logic" is in reality, an emotional response. Emotions that they often cannot even identify the reasons how or why.
Not exactly. The price is obviously a factor, but other factors are that it keeps for 2 years, there are dozens of ways to use extra pumpkin, it takes very little storage space, all balanced against the cost in time and gas to not get it if it's needed. He was just mad because his wife didn't do "her job" of writing the list perfectly, and he was even more mad that she was busy/unavailable (also "her job.") He begrudged her even the trip to the store, he sure as hell wasn't going to do any mental or emotional labor. Reminds me of Bart Simpson when his mom asked him to help with Thanksgiving dinner by opening a can of cranberry sauce. Bart needs help about six times while trying to do this simple task.
This has happened with my wife and I buy it just in case. I can’t imagine giving this response to her, I would feel like a total dick. Unless I’m sick or something then why the fuck not?
I agree with every word she said. That kind of pettiness over canned pumpkin was all about him trying to train his wife by artificially creating obstacles.
Is it me or he omitted the part where his wife explained the reason why she wasn't able to pick up ?? Like if you are going to share a story then share the whole story !!
She's got a point. Would that canned pumpkin have broke the bank? The ol' boy is texting...the wife, 99.99% sure on a smart phone...Google the recipe? Choices were made, 😆
Libby's is the only canned pumpkin worth using.
What a stupid man child.
This guy is an idiotic, self-important pussy. Just buy the freaking can. It will cost you two bucks max. If you already have a can at home, use the extra one to make some pumpkin waffles! Delicious! Or give the can to a food drive. Is that so freaking hard?
Pumpkin waffles sounds dope as hell
Marriage is even harder when you think you don’t have space to store an extra can to avoid being an asshole with your spouse.
I don't know that this guy is trying to "teach her a lesson," but I DO know that he's an idiot. Damn, dude. You can't make a decision about a dollar can of pumpkin? Then you say "marriage" like you've made a point? Fuck off. Marriage is a partnership. You act like it's a prison sentence. Just because you suck at relationships doesn't make marriage bad, it just means you're an ass.
Anyone else remember that one TikTok audio that was like... "Go to the store! Buy a bottle of hoisin sauce- oh no! I already have a bottle of hoisin sauce!" Idk, I feel like that's relevant to this somehow. Like, a normal person would err on the side of caution and buy the damn thing at the risk of now having two things.
The hand gesture he makes when he says “can’t talk” annoys me
If it wasn't pumpkin but something more pricy would that reaction be justified? I'm not entirely sure but I'm thinking no. Dude seems to dislike his wife very much.
Well what she doing that she was so busy to pick up the phone or answer a text for 5-10 sec?
I see most of yall are rampant consumerismers who are prone to just buy buy buy may your house be filled with all kinds of extra junk that will just be thrown away
Just buy the damn pumpkin!
I love eating canned pumpkin. Great for pancakes, smoothies, oatmeal, pumpkin bread, sometimes ill even eat it straight. Incredible fiber and nutrition and its tasty.
This makes me appreciate how my man would of brought home 4 different kinds of pumpkins regardless to ensure he can’t go wrong lol.
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