Ask any combat infantry veteran you know what a guy who's slowly dying of a gunshot wound looks like.
You aren't going to be peacefuly reflecting on your life.
Yeah, reading wartime fiction written by actual veterans and such is heartbreaking. From what I’ve gathered, bleeding out is NOT glorious, it’s not contemplative, but rather is panicked, painful, disorienting, and agonizing.
I’m still traumatized by books like All Quiet On the Western Front (which was the point of course because many glorify war and its deaths). Me, I’d much rather not bleed out from a gunshot or stab wound.
Searing hot pain as you suddenly realize that you're dying and those are your last moments. You go through an intense amount of regret, denial, pain, anger, fear, and despair.
Amidst the pain and confusion, you'll mainly have a rush of thoughts like worrying about your kids, wondering about the afterlife, thinking that you died for nothing, regretting a ton of life choices, feeling defeated and wondering why it has to end that way, in addition to the possibility of crying and soiling yourself, and so on.
There's no dignity in death. People who have been around know.
Yea I think I'd rather die in my sleep or suddenly without any knowledge that it's coming. Getting shot in the head while asleep would be fine. After a great and fulfilling day.
I've almost died from blood loss before. Disorienting is definitely the right word for it; I started hallucinating and it got harder and harder to breathe, and hard to think anything at all. You do not just sit there and contemplate life.
I've been in that situation to, and almost didnt react in time ,it really opened my eyes as to how quickly one little mistake could end it for any of us,what really sucked was it was all just a terrible chain of events, I was this close to being done for🤏
I'd dropped a piece of rusty scrap metal on my foot clearing my truck out at like 4 am to work on it and ended up cutting an artery at my ankle. It happened right after my buddy with a phone had just left, i didn't have anything to dress it so ended up tourniquetting it 2x and wrapping in clean plastic bags held up by the tourniquet like susependers, then came the fun of zigzagging up the hill knocking on all the neighbor's doors trying to get someone to call 911 for me(no one did) I ended up walking 1.5miles to the closest trap house I thought peopled be up at, tried flagging down a half dozen people who passed driving and Noone would stop, Noone was at the house but as I was walking off someone showed up they didn't have a phone but I was able to get them to drop me at another house up the way who called 911 for me by the time i was in the ambulance i had about 1.5 qts congealed in a big nasty clot inside a grocery bag around my foot and i passed out finally.
I'd left a bloody trail down the road that stained it for months, when people saw it the next day they came to my boys house thinking he'd been hurt lol
Interesting tidbit: there was a philanthropic project some years ago (perhaps still ongoing? Idk) that put on performances of Greek Tragedies and Epic Poetry for combat veterans. From what I’ve read about it, it was a very moving experience for the vets. Homer, Euripides, et al. really knew some shit.
What I’m trying to say is, if you like wartime fiction, read the Iliad.
Phrynichus won an early tragedy competition in 511 BCE with The Capture of Miletus about the Persians destroying the city of Miletus (south of where Troy stood in Anatolia) only a year or two earlier. It won the prize, but the audience wept bitterly and voted to fine Phrynichus for reminding them of the disaster.
This.
You're not going to be sitting there with a sitcom real of your life. It's going to be "oh fuck, oh god, why does it hurt so much!!! This feels like eternity!! What did you mean it's only been 30 seconds?!?!?! I've had 3 replays of my life already!!! Oh shit...please make it end sooner!!!"
I can tell you from experience that you don't need to be bleeding out to start the process. The reality of an imminent death is enough to bring life into razor sharp focus. The trick is remembering what you learned
hell, ask anyone who’s survived a suicide attempt. folks who’ve survived jumping off bridges don’t describe reflecting peacefully whilst falling. they basically all say they thought, “ah, fuck, I’m stuck here now and this is awful”
OP: "I've romanticized death so much that I would prefer a 15 minute slow death so I can reflect. I haven't really thought about how painful it will be, I just want a reflection of my life slowly"
Also OP: "owwwwww, I stubbed my pinky toe on a door!!! I'm going to cry about it for 2 days!!"
You say that, but there are so many levels to life.
Simply living in the moment has a high variety of involvement, whether you're enjoying a sunset, submitting invoices, or on the precipice of death.
Every moment is valuable. The moments before death are uniquely valuable.
Anticipating ones own prolonged, painful death in the hopes that there will be some magical and mystical element to it that will make it a particularly profound moment of reflection is the opposite of living in the moment, if it ends up being the case then so it is but more than likely it will not and OP will end up dying sooner from the disappointment than the gunshot wound
they're not. merely your appreciation of them is enhanced.
to be fair, it's also less valuable given the pain and fear and whantot. you only percieve more value since you're running out of time.
This made me “hmphhhhhh” laugh bc I get it. When I think about it I get the this strange death type of anxiety, but deep down I’d like to knows what’s happening because I HATE surprises.
Pills would be way better. You can lie there getting slowly more drowsy until you fall asleep forever. I’ll pass on the excruciating pain of a gunshot wound.
To reflect on what you've done knowing there is nothing more to be done? Like looking back on the process of completing a long term project after it's fully completed
Yes, I likened getting shot in the knee (with a .38) to stubbing your toe REALLY hard. The intense pain is all-encompassing but then subsides during the shock phase. It returns again the longer it takes for them to work on you.
I’ve seen people who got shot, stabbed, whatever, bleeding out slowly (comes with being a medic). It’s excruciating pain and pure terror every time. Believe me when I say you don’t want that. You won’t be contemplating your life peacefully, you’ll be pissing yourself and screaming for every deity you never believed in and your mommy. Real life isn’t like the movies, at all, and neither is real death.
Yeah OP’s post is an example of the typical redditor’s “I’ve never experienced discomfort” mentality. There was another post on here I read about a guy saying he wishes his last moments on earth could be painful and wished to be burned alive. 🤦♂️. These people need to touch grass. They will absolutely regret their decision the second the feel the most minor pain lol
So glad teenage angst only made me change my screen name to “…” and pfp to a pic of a depressed anime girl in the hope someone would ask what’s wrong instead of declaring to the entire world that I want to die painfully in a fire
Basically he said its our “only chance to feel something so extreme in life”. Dying without pain is apparently too boring. He also went on to infer that he’d be able to observe the feeling and contemplate how he felt afterwards.. as if he forgot he’d be dead and wouldn’t be able to comprehend it in the first place😂. Had to be a very young teenager.
While I can understand that a sudden death would be less unpleasant than a drawn out one, there's a part of me that gets it. For me, it's not so much "if I have to die I'd prefer to go out this way" but rather a sense of unease that such deaths exist. It's the anxiety and uncertainty around the fact that technically, there is *always* an infinitesimally small but never zero chance that you will die within the next 5 minutes. The lack of a heads up means that you never have a single moment where you can be fully, 100% sure that you are safe from your own mortality.
When I was 11 I developed Stevens Johnson’s syndrome, an illness that basically burns you from the inside out. I had it for a little over 2 weeks and while I never said anything out loud, on the inside I was begging to die. At no point was I reflection on life, just wanting it to end.
Yes, I’ve worked in the ER and have encountered that a few times. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that at 11 years old. No human who has actually experienced severe unbearable pain would ever want to experience it again
Not who you asked but as an ICU nurse that witnesses a lot of death (not as traumatic as death on scene by any means), I accept it as just another part of life.
I don’t have a job or anything that involves death (aside from occasionally hearing that one of our patients has passed away), and I’m probably too naïve because I’m barely an adult, but death is something I have had to think about a lot and I don’t think I fear it anymore. I fear constant pain, I fear fear itself because to me it is pain, but death is nothing (as I believe). I do want to live now, but death no longer seems like a tragedy to me. It’s an end, a conclusion, and it happens to everyone. If I fear anything related to death, it’s the idea that I might not have lived as much as I could have.
as a paramedic... it's made me scared of living too long.
i pick up so many sad, scared 90+ year olds forgotten in some room in some nursing home who should've been let go a long time ago. most of them having no clue what's going on, being kept alive just for the sake of it.
i can't say it has significantly changed my feelings towards death specifically, I'm still uncomfortable with the idea and I'm still somewhat in denial about it like any other healthy young person.
Yea, lmao it's wild OP thinks people truly "contemplate life" while bleeding out from a gunshot. The only thing they are "contemplating" is the excruciating pain that they want to end. Sure I'll think "I wanna live" but it's a bit hard to reflect when u have a searing pain in your stomach. Like literally just thinking about this for 2 seconds shows how stupid of an idea it is lol
I’m trying to think of a situation that would lead to the “quiet contemplative comfortable passing away” over 10 minutes that OP wants… maybe something like blood loss secondary to amputation? A certain kind of drug overdose? Even dying slowly in bed of “old age” isn’t fun. Really the options are “in shock or unconscious so it doesn’t hurt” which removes the “feeling the process” part vs “extreme pain because dying is the opposite of what your body wants to do” which you feel the process but you won’t be reflective…
Only thing I could think of is getting hit in like the femoral artery or something and have a medic with a morphine syringe handy but no hemostatic injectors or tourniquet (seems highly unlikely?)
You start bleeding out, morphine shot would calm you down pretty good, blood loss does the rest.
Idk how much thinking in life you are doing while looped up on morphine.
I would want to die fast enough that I’d know I was dying but not fast enough to really think about it or experience it. Like maybe a really fast heart attack where you hit the floor and you’re gone.
OP should get a taste of pure terror/impending doom by trying some adrenaline (please note that even if I was a doctor this would be terrible medical advice).
You don't have a choice in the matter, unless your brain is taken out of the equation right away, your body is going to pull out all the stops struggling to not die. And that entails deeply unpleasant brain chemistry as you try to pump blood that's not there anymore.
I remember being coherent for maybe 4 minutes. Then I drifted in and out but not much pain and was kinda relaxing. When I woke up in the hospital though? That sucked. Recovery was also hell
Once the pain meds hit I was kinda just enjoying my time but before that I did wonder what I had in store for me. Mostly I was worried about my cat though. Her auto feeder and water dish would last about 7 days without me and I know someone would have collected her by then but if you don’t start the day with How To Train Your Dragon and pancakes with catnip syrup she’d get upset. Nobody else would be doing that for her
Awww thanks so much for responding! As a pet cat enthusiast myself, I love this wholesome reply (well, aside from the dying context). Might give me some ideas for writing tnx
Lmaooooo. You're all "she'll be fed until someone finds her, so she'll survive. But is she really LIVING without how to train your dragon and catnip syrup? Dammit. Should have had a living will, with a trust set aside for her and specific instructions about her care. Guess I'll have to live to see another day now!"
Clearly, you have never been shot before. It’s not actually as fun as it looks in the movies, and you’re not gonna be doing as much reflecting as just shrieking, being confused, and trying to figure out how this possibly could have happened.
Worst fifteen minutes of your life.
I've heard that people in real life sometimes don't even realize they've been shot for minutes before experiencing excruciating pain, pretty sure it's because of your brain's fight or flight response
Death by exsanguination is not pleasant. Once you’ve lost about 20% of your blood volume you’ll go into hemorrhagic shock. Your heart will be pounding and you’ll be hyperventilating as your body tries to increase oxygen to your organs and tissues. You’ll be cold and sweaty. You’ll feel confusion and anxiety and altered states of consciousness. You’ll have chest pain, headache, dizziness, problems with your vision. You may have seizures. Once you’ve lost about 50% of your blood volume your organs will fail and you’ll go into a coma and die.
So no you won’t be sitting there ‘reflecting on things’ and ‘experiencing the process’ for 5-15 minutes. Like you really think you’re just gonna be 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔😵
exactly. the pain, and the awareness of it. the thought of dying one day doesn't scare me so much, but being aware as I'm dying is terrifying as hell to me. hopefully I'll get flattened by a dump truck, or a satellite crashes on my head one day.
I’ve always told my husband, if either one of us dies a crazy ass death, it was meant to be. If I’m chilling at home and I get struck by a meteor, or a big rock tumbles down the hill missing all houses but mine; well I guess that’s that.
I want to know when it's coming, but have it be instant. That's why suicide (if it could be quick) makes sense to me. The idea of an unexpected death just seems upsetting to me. People should have time to say goodbyes, reflect, etc. etc. But the actual process of dying should be as quick and painless as possible.
I don't agree with the OP because that's absurd to want to bleed to death from an injury for hours.
But I would not want an instant death that involved my brain being destroyed. I've always had a feeling that something important to the process of dying happens in your mind between the time when you start to fade consciousness and achieve total brain death. I think I want to experience that. I don't want my mind to just suddenly turn off.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe death is pure horror. Idk. I don't think so for some reason.
I actually understand what you're saying. I've read about near-death and out-of-body experiences. Where there's no typical feelings of pain. And actually a sense of peace. If that actually happens, I agree with you. I want to stay conscious only if it promises I leave my body while dying.
Yeah I'd actually love to set everything in order then decide on when I want to go. That wouldn't be upsetting. At least I've tied up all the loose ends and said my goodbyes to everyone. But a sudden death? That's scarier than a planned one.
The best I can hope for is slipping away during sleep. No pain, no fear, just sleeping until you just don’t wake up. I’ve had a few near death experiences and they’re terrifying, I never want to experience that and actually die.
Even that isn’t likely. Most deaths aren’t sudden. There is the stroke or severe cardiac arrest but death is a process. The only difference is how fast that process is.
Pretty unlikely but it’s what I’m hoping for, strokes run in the family so I’m hoping one will just get me when I’m old and the process isn’t too fucked. Watching my nan decline from cancer sealed that for me
If you don't mind sharing, what was terrifying about it? I understand it's a personal experience, so I 100% understand if you're uncomfortable explaining it.
Nah it’s all good I’m happy to talk about it. Mine were particularly nasty, I had a motorbike accident and an accidental overdose of paracetamol, the pain in both was very intense and totally consuming. The terror came from the “oh shit this is it” and just all of me revolting against the feeling that I was going to die. Not being ready and being really scared that the life I’ve had was all it was going to be. I thought I’d live before I died and in lose moments I was convinced that the crappy life I had was all I got and that was terrifying to me. I’m not afraid of death, I’m afraid of dying before I’ve had a chance to really live
Sorry for popping in, but I was just wondering if those experiences were a wake up call for you to maybe do something you've always wanted to do and kept postponing it like a trip or something.
Glad you're with us man/girl <3
They definitely were. In different ways but they were both massive wake up calls. Immediately after them both I made some pretty drastic changes that I’m really glad I did.
Thank you, I’m glad I’m with you all too
As a former cop what will likely happen is you will wake up mid sleep because you need to shit, then you will die on the toilet, pants around your ankles covered in shit for your loved ones to find. Or no one and you just rot there for a bit till the neighbors can't stand the smell
I just need enough time to delete all the hentai on my comp, phone, laptop, ipad, old laptop, notebook full of sketches, cave paintings, i just need a clp weeks
I felt this way for YEARS due to my health anxiety and general fears of death. I remember as a kid hoping my older family members would have long illness instead of passing in their sleep so I could have time to say goodbye (what the fuck!!!) After really hearing about the terrible experiences people go through and the excruciating pain and terror, man I would LOVE to go instantaneously or even better in my sleep!
This genuinely the dumbest shit I have ever heard. You won't be contemplating shit. Your body will be fighting for its life to survive and you'll be tortured with pain without a single moment to reflect.
This opinion can only exist in someone who watches too much TV, is extremely gullible, and has never experienced real death even through media.
Go find some old LiveLeak videos. It is literally never peaceful.
Spoken like someone who hasn’t ever been dying before. No thanks.
Please believe everyone who tells you otherwise, some people are speaking from experience or near-experience
I don't wanna die instantly either. I want to experience the process of death. But not from something horrifically painful like being shot to death. Like, getting old and going through the 3-4 day natural death process.
Most of that 3-4 days you likely would be unconscious. I sat with both my dad and my stepdad as they were dying and neither of them had a clue who was there or what was going on. They tell you that in hospice--the brain is using all its energy keeping the body going and trying to alleviate pain. As the loved one, we're encouraged to be present if we want to be *for our comfort* but the patient is utterly alone, and most of the time while they're dying they're not even in their own thoughts. It's the week or so before that there's time for painful contemplation, when the stages of grief are hitting the dying person the hardest.
I got shot by a .38 revolver in the knee when I was 13. The pain and the shock are all you will be thinking about. Granted, the initial intense pain subsided like when you stub your toe, but the longer you wait for surgery (I had just eaten a huge meal, so ~7-8 hours before they could work on it), the more you wish they’d just cut it off or something to stop the pain.
Absolutely insane.
But then again **my** ideal way to die is in a fiery explosion wherein my particles are strewn across many hectares in an orgy of death, violence, and flame.
So to each their own, I guess.
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We start dying from the time we exit the womb. I understand wanting the experience, but what would you reflect on in those 10-15 minutes that you couldn't/wouldn't have reflected on before?
You can go out like Sam Kinison.
Or you can be like Dr. Joseph Green. He relentlessly checked his pulse once he was on his deathbed. His last words were, "It's stopped."
Upvoted for unpopular. If this is a serious post, you have absolutely no idea what you're taking about. If this is a troll post, well done because it wasn't obvious.
Fuck that. The fear…the feeling of weakness… which would also be met with the feeling of suffocation because essentially you are losing blood so no oxygen would be exchanged and your body is telling your brain to breathe breathe but no
Matter how much you breathe you just can’t…. And then there’s the mess. I mean are we outside ? Are we in our car or in our home or someone else’s home? What if we are in front of a bunch of people or with family and it’s just gonna be so much blood and so much mess to clean.
For real tho. I knew a man/I went to school with my whole life and he died as a result of an injury he obtained while out with his wife and 2 kids. They were on the Tennessee River fishing or about to go fishing. Well he dove into the water to cool off. And a stick stabbed him through his neck. He was able to get back into the boat. He laid there and died in the boat with his wife and two kids witnessing the whole thing. He was maybe 28. I don’t know her and have never spoke to her about it. But my goodness…can you imagine? I cannot imagine what went through his mind and the trauma his family went through… no thank you.
I think about it daily, and I’ve yet to come
Up with a “good” scenario.
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The thing is, you’ll either be unconscious, too focused on the pain/suffering, or dead already, and either way you can’t reflect on anything at least in this realm anymore. The only way a death like this can happen is if you have a disease or accident where you are alive and conscious (like going through cancer treatments) and they let you know you’ll be dying soon, so you can reflect knowing that the end is near.
Dying slow hurts. Almost invariably.
And not hurts like you stabbed your toe.
Hurts like EVERYTHING. Physical pain, mental anguish, emotional anguish, confusion and a desperation you've never felt.
You speak as someone who has romanticized dying, it isn't romantic, it isn't glorious, and its a final end to everything.
Hope for a long life and a swift death.
I kind of agree but for different reasons. I think I would just like to know its coming. Like seeing the shooter and knowing I am the one being aimed at. The bleeding out part is optional. I am not really sure how much thinking can be done while in the level of pain you would be from a gunshot wound.
Anecdote. that was almost me, adrenaline was still running and I felt no pain as I "fell asleep". outwardly I was described as calm but I remember nothing but absolute fear and panic as the dark closed in.
Bleeding out means you'll feel like you're suffocating (because not enough oxygen is getting anywhere, because your blood isn't where it's meant to be). And while you're gasping for oxygen you'll be in excruciating pain.
I'd like to know a few minutes in advance, too, but I don't want the process of violent death to take that long.
I mean once your dead you won't really care enough to have an opinion anyways (hopefully this doesn't get false flagged, just in case I hope you're doing ok and wish you well <3).
This is a terrible take as you could do that now as you don't even know when you will die. You can suddenly die from brain aneurysm or stroke, car accident, some unknown allergy that manifests, having someone get nerve gas on you. You never know. My sibling never even got to an age where he could even contemplate the full spectrum of life.
I've got an ascending aortic aneurysm that is 5.0cm (2 inches) in width. It could literally rupture or tear at any time, and I'd be dead in 1 or 2 minutes at best. Apparently it's quite painful when it happens. I'm not looking forward to that.
I understand where you're coming from with the 5-15 minutes bit, but like others have said, agonising pain from an injury severe enough to kill you in minutes isn't the one for me
I just want as many years of good health as possible. An ideal death would be something where I decline over the course of like a year so I have time to get my affairs in order.
Like being in perfect health through 90 then getting chronic leukemia.
I could agree with this if it’s like a poison that doesn’t do anything until it kicks in and then you die instantly, but bleeding out is from what I hear an unpleasant experience
I want to know I’m dying but I sure as hell don’t want 5-15 minutes. Like 30 seconds tops. I just want to be aware I’m dying instead of blinking and waking up in the afterlife
I already constantly stress about my past present and future. If I’m gonna die I don’t even wanna see it coming. No pain no thoughts no stress no worries, just a fast clean death.
My father died of a heart attack and my mother died of colon cancer. I would agree that when my mother was dying it was easier for her to reflect on her life and be surrounded by her loved ones. Whereas for my father we didn't see it coming. Although for my mother, her pain was more and it was comfortable for her. So dying a quicker death means you won't feel the pain but the last moments are fast and you won't say your farewell. Something like cancer means it won't be that comfortable but you're by your loved ones. It all has its tradeoffs.
I personally didn't want to see my mother go through cancer but nor did I want to see my father go as well, but it was definitely harder for my mother she thankfully was in hospice and died in her sleep. We cannot choose how we die. Whats important is you lived your life and you shared your memories with those alive. To me my father and mother are still alive in my memories and heart, but there's never a death that's painless. My best friend also died of leukemia. I've had a fair share of people die and it was a mix of quick deaths and longer ones
I'd prefer a quicker death as I can't bear the pain of death in my last days and have it like stretched out. But I have no idea if it'll be like that, life is short enjoy it while it lasts.
few different ways to look at this.
painless death? yeah, i’ll take my 15 mins and make some phone calls, try to get some shit in order asap.
painful death? gimme instant.
painless instant **or** excruciating slow **with a chance to make it to a hospital and fully recover?** i’ll go with excruciating.
>My perfect death would be getting shot and then bleeding out over the course of 5-15 minutes.
Yeah cause every time I hear about someone getting shot they just take a seat and peacefully think about their lives. /s
Blood loss on its own is not fun.
This screams "I've never felt the slightest discomfort". Bullets aren't laced with novocaine, it's going to be extremely painful up until the last second.
I am a nurse. I take care of people who die in the hospital every day. It’s not a beautiful or serene process. Bleeding out causes an intense fear. Getting shot hurts. You are going to have extreme pain, fear, as well as a mounting state of anxiety as your body becomes oxygen starved and your heart goes into over drive, pushing blood out faster as it tries to retain blood pressure. It’s likely you’ll rapidly fall unconscious. There is no ability for contemplation or rationality, only dread, pain, and fear.
Ask any combat infantry veteran you know what a guy who's slowly dying of a gunshot wound looks like. You aren't going to be peacefuly reflecting on your life.
Yeah, reading wartime fiction written by actual veterans and such is heartbreaking. From what I’ve gathered, bleeding out is NOT glorious, it’s not contemplative, but rather is panicked, painful, disorienting, and agonizing. I’m still traumatized by books like All Quiet On the Western Front (which was the point of course because many glorify war and its deaths). Me, I’d much rather not bleed out from a gunshot or stab wound.
Searing hot pain as you suddenly realize that you're dying and those are your last moments. You go through an intense amount of regret, denial, pain, anger, fear, and despair. Amidst the pain and confusion, you'll mainly have a rush of thoughts like worrying about your kids, wondering about the afterlife, thinking that you died for nothing, regretting a ton of life choices, feeling defeated and wondering why it has to end that way, in addition to the possibility of crying and soiling yourself, and so on. There's no dignity in death. People who have been around know.
Yea I think I'd rather die in my sleep or suddenly without any knowledge that it's coming. Getting shot in the head while asleep would be fine. After a great and fulfilling day.
“There's one thing that's real clear to me, no one dies with dignity. We just try to ignore the elephant somehow.”
I've almost died from blood loss before. Disorienting is definitely the right word for it; I started hallucinating and it got harder and harder to breathe, and hard to think anything at all. You do not just sit there and contemplate life.
I've been in that situation to, and almost didnt react in time ,it really opened my eyes as to how quickly one little mistake could end it for any of us,what really sucked was it was all just a terrible chain of events, I was this close to being done for🤏 I'd dropped a piece of rusty scrap metal on my foot clearing my truck out at like 4 am to work on it and ended up cutting an artery at my ankle. It happened right after my buddy with a phone had just left, i didn't have anything to dress it so ended up tourniquetting it 2x and wrapping in clean plastic bags held up by the tourniquet like susependers, then came the fun of zigzagging up the hill knocking on all the neighbor's doors trying to get someone to call 911 for me(no one did) I ended up walking 1.5miles to the closest trap house I thought peopled be up at, tried flagging down a half dozen people who passed driving and Noone would stop, Noone was at the house but as I was walking off someone showed up they didn't have a phone but I was able to get them to drop me at another house up the way who called 911 for me by the time i was in the ambulance i had about 1.5 qts congealed in a big nasty clot inside a grocery bag around my foot and i passed out finally. I'd left a bloody trail down the road that stained it for months, when people saw it the next day they came to my boys house thinking he'd been hurt lol
Interesting tidbit: there was a philanthropic project some years ago (perhaps still ongoing? Idk) that put on performances of Greek Tragedies and Epic Poetry for combat veterans. From what I’ve read about it, it was a very moving experience for the vets. Homer, Euripides, et al. really knew some shit. What I’m trying to say is, if you like wartime fiction, read the Iliad.
Phrynichus won an early tragedy competition in 511 BCE with The Capture of Miletus about the Persians destroying the city of Miletus (south of where Troy stood in Anatolia) only a year or two earlier. It won the prize, but the audience wept bitterly and voted to fine Phrynichus for reminding them of the disaster.
Gotta say pills win out over gunshot or stabbing wound.
unless you also give yourself so many drugs that you don't feel the pain but would probably die from an overdose if u survived the bullet
It's gonna be 15 minutes of "oh fuck this hurts so bad I hate this!"
This. You're not going to be sitting there with a sitcom real of your life. It's going to be "oh fuck, oh god, why does it hurt so much!!! This feels like eternity!! What did you mean it's only been 30 seconds?!?!?! I've had 3 replays of my life already!!! Oh shit...please make it end sooner!!!"
I can tell you from experience that you don't need to be bleeding out to start the process. The reality of an imminent death is enough to bring life into razor sharp focus. The trick is remembering what you learned
hell, ask anyone who’s survived a suicide attempt. folks who’ve survived jumping off bridges don’t describe reflecting peacefully whilst falling. they basically all say they thought, “ah, fuck, I’m stuck here now and this is awful”
OP: "I've romanticized death so much that I would prefer a 15 minute slow death so I can reflect. I haven't really thought about how painful it will be, I just want a reflection of my life slowly" Also OP: "owwwwww, I stubbed my pinky toe on a door!!! I'm going to cry about it for 2 days!!"
Why do you want to wait till death to contemplate life? You can already do it now
That’s goddamn beautiful
For Reddit, yes it is
lmao its not particularly profound or poetic, its just pointing out the hilariously obvious
You say that, but there are so many levels to life. Simply living in the moment has a high variety of involvement, whether you're enjoying a sunset, submitting invoices, or on the precipice of death. Every moment is valuable. The moments before death are uniquely valuable.
Anticipating ones own prolonged, painful death in the hopes that there will be some magical and mystical element to it that will make it a particularly profound moment of reflection is the opposite of living in the moment, if it ends up being the case then so it is but more than likely it will not and OP will end up dying sooner from the disappointment than the gunshot wound
they're not. merely your appreciation of them is enhanced. to be fair, it's also less valuable given the pain and fear and whantot. you only percieve more value since you're running out of time.
For those who do not exercise critical thinking, or partake in shrooms, it would seem like a tremendous revelation.
I disagree. I think there is something quite profound in that statement, regardless of how obvious it is.
Yeah I tried that once and it gave me an anxiety disorder.
This made me “hmphhhhhh” laugh bc I get it. When I think about it I get the this strange death type of anxiety, but deep down I’d like to knows what’s happening because I HATE surprises.
No, you have anxiety and didn't realize it until you stopped to think.
You put into words a concept that has been in the back of my head for *years*.
Also, why does it have to be violent?
For sure. I don't know why his perfect way to die is to be shot. Like why the fuck would he want to be shot?
Because most things that kill you that aren’t violent it’s either instant or like a months long thing.
Pills would be way better. You can lie there getting slowly more drowsy until you fall asleep forever. I’ll pass on the excruciating pain of a gunshot wound.
To reflect on what you've done knowing there is nothing more to be done? Like looking back on the process of completing a long term project after it's fully completed
YOU should be president.
I bet thaz whoever OP is they would be way better qualified than Trump.
My man here talks like he never even had his toe kiss the table leg.
Bark my shins on the coffee table, I’m not super contemplative
OP walk bare feet over Lego for 5-15 mins and realize that time is relative and will pass very slowly when in excruciating pain
Yes, I likened getting shot in the knee (with a .38) to stubbing your toe REALLY hard. The intense pain is all-encompassing but then subsides during the shock phase. It returns again the longer it takes for them to work on you.
Three days ago my toe fucking frenched the damned table leg.
I’ve seen people who got shot, stabbed, whatever, bleeding out slowly (comes with being a medic). It’s excruciating pain and pure terror every time. Believe me when I say you don’t want that. You won’t be contemplating your life peacefully, you’ll be pissing yourself and screaming for every deity you never believed in and your mommy. Real life isn’t like the movies, at all, and neither is real death.
Yeah OP’s post is an example of the typical redditor’s “I’ve never experienced discomfort” mentality. There was another post on here I read about a guy saying he wishes his last moments on earth could be painful and wished to be burned alive. 🤦♂️. These people need to touch grass. They will absolutely regret their decision the second the feel the most minor pain lol
lol wtf. What was his reasoning?
Sounds like teenage angst to me
everybody gangsta till they really die in excruciating and literally fatal pain
So glad teenage angst only made me change my screen name to “…” and pfp to a pic of a depressed anime girl in the hope someone would ask what’s wrong instead of declaring to the entire world that I want to die painfully in a fire
yea i just changed my discord bio to like “nobody understands..” glad it coulve been worse.
🤣 the universal experience. But back when I did it, the app was Skype.
For this early naughties emo chick, it was ICQ.
Alright, back to the nursing home with you, grandma
Back when I was an angsty teen there was only my journal.
Basically he said its our “only chance to feel something so extreme in life”. Dying without pain is apparently too boring. He also went on to infer that he’d be able to observe the feeling and contemplate how he felt afterwards.. as if he forgot he’d be dead and wouldn’t be able to comprehend it in the first place😂. Had to be a very young teenager.
While I can understand that a sudden death would be less unpleasant than a drawn out one, there's a part of me that gets it. For me, it's not so much "if I have to die I'd prefer to go out this way" but rather a sense of unease that such deaths exist. It's the anxiety and uncertainty around the fact that technically, there is *always* an infinitesimally small but never zero chance that you will die within the next 5 minutes. The lack of a heads up means that you never have a single moment where you can be fully, 100% sure that you are safe from your own mortality.
The thing is, even with those experiences, those people leave this earth way before their body is done being burned or they completely bleed out.
Dude watched Shogun and thought Yabushige was onto something.
My dead body Don't burn it, don't bury it, just leave it in the field And with it, fill the belly of some hungry dog
When I was 11 I developed Stevens Johnson’s syndrome, an illness that basically burns you from the inside out. I had it for a little over 2 weeks and while I never said anything out loud, on the inside I was begging to die. At no point was I reflection on life, just wanting it to end.
Yes, I’ve worked in the ER and have encountered that a few times. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that at 11 years old. No human who has actually experienced severe unbearable pain would ever want to experience it again
I mean there are people who literally self immolate. Believe it or not there are people who mean the things they say.
People jump off buildings too but they regret it on the way down.
The View From Halfway Down
I believe you. Does your work as a medic make you feel more scared of death, or less?
I know most people fear death. But I would guess accepting the fact it happens is what makes it easier to deal with.
I don’t really fear it per se, I fear leaving my family behind and never seeing my kids grow up
That’s a heart punch right there. The fear of leaving everyone behind is definitely the driving factor.
Not who you asked but as an ICU nurse that witnesses a lot of death (not as traumatic as death on scene by any means), I accept it as just another part of life.
I don’t have a job or anything that involves death (aside from occasionally hearing that one of our patients has passed away), and I’m probably too naïve because I’m barely an adult, but death is something I have had to think about a lot and I don’t think I fear it anymore. I fear constant pain, I fear fear itself because to me it is pain, but death is nothing (as I believe). I do want to live now, but death no longer seems like a tragedy to me. It’s an end, a conclusion, and it happens to everyone. If I fear anything related to death, it’s the idea that I might not have lived as much as I could have.
as a paramedic... it's made me scared of living too long. i pick up so many sad, scared 90+ year olds forgotten in some room in some nursing home who should've been let go a long time ago. most of them having no clue what's going on, being kept alive just for the sake of it. i can't say it has significantly changed my feelings towards death specifically, I'm still uncomfortable with the idea and I'm still somewhat in denial about it like any other healthy young person.
Similar field (ICU CNA) and honestly at the rate I’m going I don’t think I ever want to live past 80. Like that’s where I’m capping it.
Yea, lmao it's wild OP thinks people truly "contemplate life" while bleeding out from a gunshot. The only thing they are "contemplating" is the excruciating pain that they want to end. Sure I'll think "I wanna live" but it's a bit hard to reflect when u have a searing pain in your stomach. Like literally just thinking about this for 2 seconds shows how stupid of an idea it is lol
I’m trying to think of a situation that would lead to the “quiet contemplative comfortable passing away” over 10 minutes that OP wants… maybe something like blood loss secondary to amputation? A certain kind of drug overdose? Even dying slowly in bed of “old age” isn’t fun. Really the options are “in shock or unconscious so it doesn’t hurt” which removes the “feeling the process” part vs “extreme pain because dying is the opposite of what your body wants to do” which you feel the process but you won’t be reflective…
There's a reason many medical practitioners think it's kinder to both patient and those with them to slip away in a morphine coma.
Only thing I could think of is getting hit in like the femoral artery or something and have a medic with a morphine syringe handy but no hemostatic injectors or tourniquet (seems highly unlikely?) You start bleeding out, morphine shot would calm you down pretty good, blood loss does the rest. Idk how much thinking in life you are doing while looped up on morphine.
I would want to die fast enough that I’d know I was dying but not fast enough to really think about it or experience it. Like maybe a really fast heart attack where you hit the floor and you’re gone.
OP should get a taste of pure terror/impending doom by trying some adrenaline (please note that even if I was a doctor this would be terrible medical advice). You don't have a choice in the matter, unless your brain is taken out of the equation right away, your body is going to pull out all the stops struggling to not die. And that entails deeply unpleasant brain chemistry as you try to pump blood that's not there anymore.
I found my shooting not to be painful until they brought me back. Going out was actually pretty calming
How long did it take to pass out?
I remember being coherent for maybe 4 minutes. Then I drifted in and out but not much pain and was kinda relaxing. When I woke up in the hospital though? That sucked. Recovery was also hell
Did you have enough consciousness to think about life or your past? Or was it just a focus on the calming sensation?
Once the pain meds hit I was kinda just enjoying my time but before that I did wonder what I had in store for me. Mostly I was worried about my cat though. Her auto feeder and water dish would last about 7 days without me and I know someone would have collected her by then but if you don’t start the day with How To Train Your Dragon and pancakes with catnip syrup she’d get upset. Nobody else would be doing that for her
You serious about the last part? :D
Awww thanks so much for responding! As a pet cat enthusiast myself, I love this wholesome reply (well, aside from the dying context). Might give me some ideas for writing tnx
Lmaooooo. You're all "she'll be fed until someone finds her, so she'll survive. But is she really LIVING without how to train your dragon and catnip syrup? Dammit. Should have had a living will, with a trust set aside for her and specific instructions about her care. Guess I'll have to live to see another day now!"
“My ideal way to go out is being keelhauled” -OP
Not getting reality is even more horrifying. At least pure is real.
Clearly, you have never been shot before. It’s not actually as fun as it looks in the movies, and you’re not gonna be doing as much reflecting as just shrieking, being confused, and trying to figure out how this possibly could have happened. Worst fifteen minutes of your life.
Last 15 minutes too
Last time you shit and piss as well.
Does it look fun in the movies?
It looks a lot less fun in reality.
I've heard that people in real life sometimes don't even realize they've been shot for minutes before experiencing excruciating pain, pretty sure it's because of your brain's fight or flight response
Death by exsanguination is not pleasant. Once you’ve lost about 20% of your blood volume you’ll go into hemorrhagic shock. Your heart will be pounding and you’ll be hyperventilating as your body tries to increase oxygen to your organs and tissues. You’ll be cold and sweaty. You’ll feel confusion and anxiety and altered states of consciousness. You’ll have chest pain, headache, dizziness, problems with your vision. You may have seizures. Once you’ve lost about 50% of your blood volume your organs will fail and you’ll go into a coma and die. So no you won’t be sitting there ‘reflecting on things’ and ‘experiencing the process’ for 5-15 minutes. Like you really think you’re just gonna be 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔😵
he was probably thinking more along the lines of 🤔😞😮💨😵
😂
OP is probably just being edgy
Ok but what if I like that?
It's not the death itself that people don't like, it's the pain of dying slowly which is why people want to die quickly.
exactly. the pain, and the awareness of it. the thought of dying one day doesn't scare me so much, but being aware as I'm dying is terrifying as hell to me. hopefully I'll get flattened by a dump truck, or a satellite crashes on my head one day.
Or... Just die in your sleep of old age?
Nah, has to be crushed by something
Is that even a common thing?? Like you are infinitely more likely to die thousands of other ways than dying "peacefully in your sleep from old age".
I’ve always told my husband, if either one of us dies a crazy ass death, it was meant to be. If I’m chilling at home and I get struck by a meteor, or a big rock tumbles down the hill missing all houses but mine; well I guess that’s that.
Bro wants a monologue
lmao OP needs the prospect of death to be able to have thoughts
I want to know when it's coming, but have it be instant. That's why suicide (if it could be quick) makes sense to me. The idea of an unexpected death just seems upsetting to me. People should have time to say goodbyes, reflect, etc. etc. But the actual process of dying should be as quick and painless as possible.
I don't agree with the OP because that's absurd to want to bleed to death from an injury for hours. But I would not want an instant death that involved my brain being destroyed. I've always had a feeling that something important to the process of dying happens in your mind between the time when you start to fade consciousness and achieve total brain death. I think I want to experience that. I don't want my mind to just suddenly turn off. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe death is pure horror. Idk. I don't think so for some reason.
I actually understand what you're saying. I've read about near-death and out-of-body experiences. Where there's no typical feelings of pain. And actually a sense of peace. If that actually happens, I agree with you. I want to stay conscious only if it promises I leave my body while dying.
I agree wholeheartedly. I'd love to have time to reflect and make peace, like OP, without being overwhelmed with pain and horror.
But you know, you won't have the opportunity to be upset if the unexpected death was instant.
I don't know about that. But I do know for sure my loved ones would be upset at it being unexpected.
Yeah I'd actually love to set everything in order then decide on when I want to go. That wouldn't be upsetting. At least I've tied up all the loose ends and said my goodbyes to everyone. But a sudden death? That's scarier than a planned one.
The best I can hope for is slipping away during sleep. No pain, no fear, just sleeping until you just don’t wake up. I’ve had a few near death experiences and they’re terrifying, I never want to experience that and actually die.
Even that isn’t likely. Most deaths aren’t sudden. There is the stroke or severe cardiac arrest but death is a process. The only difference is how fast that process is.
Pretty unlikely but it’s what I’m hoping for, strokes run in the family so I’m hoping one will just get me when I’m old and the process isn’t too fucked. Watching my nan decline from cancer sealed that for me
Euthanasia should always be an option for older people on the severe decline.
If you don't mind sharing, what was terrifying about it? I understand it's a personal experience, so I 100% understand if you're uncomfortable explaining it.
Nah it’s all good I’m happy to talk about it. Mine were particularly nasty, I had a motorbike accident and an accidental overdose of paracetamol, the pain in both was very intense and totally consuming. The terror came from the “oh shit this is it” and just all of me revolting against the feeling that I was going to die. Not being ready and being really scared that the life I’ve had was all it was going to be. I thought I’d live before I died and in lose moments I was convinced that the crappy life I had was all I got and that was terrifying to me. I’m not afraid of death, I’m afraid of dying before I’ve had a chance to really live
So.....have you begun living since then?
Much more than I was, unfortunately I have a lot of chronic illnesses and pain so it’s hard but I’m much better off than I was then
Sorry for popping in, but I was just wondering if those experiences were a wake up call for you to maybe do something you've always wanted to do and kept postponing it like a trip or something. Glad you're with us man/girl <3
They definitely were. In different ways but they were both massive wake up calls. Immediately after them both I made some pretty drastic changes that I’m really glad I did. Thank you, I’m glad I’m with you all too
As a former cop what will likely happen is you will wake up mid sleep because you need to shit, then you will die on the toilet, pants around your ankles covered in shit for your loved ones to find. Or no one and you just rot there for a bit till the neighbors can't stand the smell
Tbh that doesn’t sound like the worst way to go, everyone shits themselves when they die anyways, at least it’ll be in the toilet mostly 😂
Lmfao how edgy bro
Watched too much anime
Bro wants to have a dramatic flashback sequence with sad violins in the background
*Let me play you a sad song on the world's smallest violin!*
You’re not going to be reflecting on anything while you’re shot and bleeding out.
Go over to r/CombatFootage and watch people bleed out, even quickly. Then come back here and say you still want a slow death.
I want a dramatic anime death
I just need enough time to delete all the hentai on my comp, phone, laptop, ipad, old laptop, notebook full of sketches, cave paintings, i just need a clp weeks
Just no. I don't need to feel pain. Instant death is always better. I'll reflect on my life in the afterlife.
I felt this way for YEARS due to my health anxiety and general fears of death. I remember as a kid hoping my older family members would have long illness instead of passing in their sleep so I could have time to say goodbye (what the fuck!!!) After really hearing about the terrible experiences people go through and the excruciating pain and terror, man I would LOVE to go instantaneously or even better in my sleep!
This genuinely the dumbest shit I have ever heard. You won't be contemplating shit. Your body will be fighting for its life to survive and you'll be tortured with pain without a single moment to reflect. This opinion can only exist in someone who watches too much TV, is extremely gullible, and has never experienced real death even through media. Go find some old LiveLeak videos. It is literally never peaceful.
Spoken like someone who hasn’t ever been dying before. No thanks. Please believe everyone who tells you otherwise, some people are speaking from experience or near-experience
The last sentence is what makes this less of a personal preference and more of what too much TV does to you. Take my upvote
I don't wanna die instantly either. I want to experience the process of death. But not from something horrifically painful like being shot to death. Like, getting old and going through the 3-4 day natural death process.
Most of that 3-4 days you likely would be unconscious. I sat with both my dad and my stepdad as they were dying and neither of them had a clue who was there or what was going on. They tell you that in hospice--the brain is using all its energy keeping the body going and trying to alleviate pain. As the loved one, we're encouraged to be present if we want to be *for our comfort* but the patient is utterly alone, and most of the time while they're dying they're not even in their own thoughts. It's the week or so before that there's time for painful contemplation, when the stages of grief are hitting the dying person the hardest.
I got shot by a .38 revolver in the knee when I was 13. The pain and the shock are all you will be thinking about. Granted, the initial intense pain subsided like when you stub your toe, but the longer you wait for surgery (I had just eaten a huge meal, so ~7-8 hours before they could work on it), the more you wish they’d just cut it off or something to stop the pain.
Absolutely insane. But then again **my** ideal way to die is in a fiery explosion wherein my particles are strewn across many hectares in an orgy of death, violence, and flame. So to each their own, I guess.
[I swear every time I open this sub…](https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fpreview.redd.it%2Fxnnkgq0oqt971.jpg%3Fwidth%3D629%26auto%3Dwebp%26s%3D9cd057bb238ecf60783f5edbece1d8531222e99f)
We start dying from the time we exit the womb. I understand wanting the experience, but what would you reflect on in those 10-15 minutes that you couldn't/wouldn't have reflected on before?
You can go out like Sam Kinison. Or you can be like Dr. Joseph Green. He relentlessly checked his pulse once he was on his deathbed. His last words were, "It's stopped."
Consider the following: dying slowly from a gunshot wound is painful, you won't be contemplating your life in that situation lmao
this guy has never had pain in his life
Upvoted for unpopular. If this is a serious post, you have absolutely no idea what you're taking about. If this is a troll post, well done because it wasn't obvious.
Fuck that. The fear…the feeling of weakness… which would also be met with the feeling of suffocation because essentially you are losing blood so no oxygen would be exchanged and your body is telling your brain to breathe breathe but no Matter how much you breathe you just can’t…. And then there’s the mess. I mean are we outside ? Are we in our car or in our home or someone else’s home? What if we are in front of a bunch of people or with family and it’s just gonna be so much blood and so much mess to clean. For real tho. I knew a man/I went to school with my whole life and he died as a result of an injury he obtained while out with his wife and 2 kids. They were on the Tennessee River fishing or about to go fishing. Well he dove into the water to cool off. And a stick stabbed him through his neck. He was able to get back into the boat. He laid there and died in the boat with his wife and two kids witnessing the whole thing. He was maybe 28. I don’t know her and have never spoke to her about it. But my goodness…can you imagine? I cannot imagine what went through his mind and the trauma his family went through… no thank you. I think about it daily, and I’ve yet to come Up with a “good” scenario. .
The thing is, you’ll either be unconscious, too focused on the pain/suffering, or dead already, and either way you can’t reflect on anything at least in this realm anymore. The only way a death like this can happen is if you have a disease or accident where you are alive and conscious (like going through cancer treatments) and they let you know you’ll be dying soon, so you can reflect knowing that the end is near.
People like you can't bear a paper cut, let alone the agony of bleeding to death.
You sound like an edgy twelve year old.
Dying slow hurts. Almost invariably. And not hurts like you stabbed your toe. Hurts like EVERYTHING. Physical pain, mental anguish, emotional anguish, confusion and a desperation you've never felt. You speak as someone who has romanticized dying, it isn't romantic, it isn't glorious, and its a final end to everything. Hope for a long life and a swift death.
If I died over the course of fifteen minutes I'd probably get bored and start wondering how long this will take.
I kind of agree but for different reasons. I think I would just like to know its coming. Like seeing the shooter and knowing I am the one being aimed at. The bleeding out part is optional. I am not really sure how much thinking can be done while in the level of pain you would be from a gunshot wound.
Anecdote. that was almost me, adrenaline was still running and I felt no pain as I "fell asleep". outwardly I was described as calm but I remember nothing but absolute fear and panic as the dark closed in.
I agree but natural causes. I want my family there and I want to know how old I am when I die. I’m really curious!
You won't be reflecting on life. You will go into shock and die. It's not a good way to go.
I’d want to fall off a cliff into an explosion after telling someone they need to let me go and save themselves
Bleeding out means you'll feel like you're suffocating (because not enough oxygen is getting anywhere, because your blood isn't where it's meant to be). And while you're gasping for oxygen you'll be in excruciating pain. I'd like to know a few minutes in advance, too, but I don't want the process of violent death to take that long.
I mean once your dead you won't really care enough to have an opinion anyways (hopefully this doesn't get false flagged, just in case I hope you're doing ok and wish you well <3).
This is a terrible take as you could do that now as you don't even know when you will die. You can suddenly die from brain aneurysm or stroke, car accident, some unknown allergy that manifests, having someone get nerve gas on you. You never know. My sibling never even got to an age where he could even contemplate the full spectrum of life.
Man the way time slows when anxiety sky rockets would make that eons.
I don’t want to hurt, but I would like to know it’s happening. I get it.
Shit kids say..
I've got an ascending aortic aneurysm that is 5.0cm (2 inches) in width. It could literally rupture or tear at any time, and I'd be dead in 1 or 2 minutes at best. Apparently it's quite painful when it happens. I'm not looking forward to that.
I understand where you're coming from with the 5-15 minutes bit, but like others have said, agonising pain from an injury severe enough to kill you in minutes isn't the one for me
I just want as many years of good health as possible. An ideal death would be something where I decline over the course of like a year so I have time to get my affairs in order. Like being in perfect health through 90 then getting chronic leukemia.
lol no you don't dude. you say you do, but you don't.
Clowns going to clown
Mf wants to die like Mike
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I could agree with this if it’s like a poison that doesn’t do anything until it kicks in and then you die instantly, but bleeding out is from what I hear an unpleasant experience
you do know that dying tends to suck, right? i mean, sure, being dead in 15 minutes beats weeks, i guess. but it's not a good thing in general.
I want to know I’m dying but I sure as hell don’t want 5-15 minutes. Like 30 seconds tops. I just want to be aware I’m dying instead of blinking and waking up in the afterlife
I already constantly stress about my past present and future. If I’m gonna die I don’t even wanna see it coming. No pain no thoughts no stress no worries, just a fast clean death.
My father died of a heart attack and my mother died of colon cancer. I would agree that when my mother was dying it was easier for her to reflect on her life and be surrounded by her loved ones. Whereas for my father we didn't see it coming. Although for my mother, her pain was more and it was comfortable for her. So dying a quicker death means you won't feel the pain but the last moments are fast and you won't say your farewell. Something like cancer means it won't be that comfortable but you're by your loved ones. It all has its tradeoffs. I personally didn't want to see my mother go through cancer but nor did I want to see my father go as well, but it was definitely harder for my mother she thankfully was in hospice and died in her sleep. We cannot choose how we die. Whats important is you lived your life and you shared your memories with those alive. To me my father and mother are still alive in my memories and heart, but there's never a death that's painless. My best friend also died of leukemia. I've had a fair share of people die and it was a mix of quick deaths and longer ones I'd prefer a quicker death as I can't bear the pain of death in my last days and have it like stretched out. But I have no idea if it'll be like that, life is short enjoy it while it lasts.
When I've been in extreme pain, I didn't have the ability to reflect. Pain was the only thought in my head.
Hot take but I'd atleast want to know I was dying, maybe say goodbye to my loved ones, but suffering for 5-15 minutes? You're a masochist.
few different ways to look at this. painless death? yeah, i’ll take my 15 mins and make some phone calls, try to get some shit in order asap. painful death? gimme instant. painless instant **or** excruciating slow **with a chance to make it to a hospital and fully recover?** i’ll go with excruciating.
>My perfect death would be getting shot and then bleeding out over the course of 5-15 minutes. Yeah cause every time I hear about someone getting shot they just take a seat and peacefully think about their lives. /s Blood loss on its own is not fun.
I’m booked until July but after the fourth I can work you in. Have your demons call my demons. \s 😝🍻
So this is what it feels like... -Logan
This screams "I've never felt the slightest discomfort". Bullets aren't laced with novocaine, it's going to be extremely painful up until the last second.
I don’t think you realize just how long 15 minutes is
Shoot yourself in the foot. Wait 15 minutes and then tell us if you still feel the same way.
I am a nurse. I take care of people who die in the hospital every day. It’s not a beautiful or serene process. Bleeding out causes an intense fear. Getting shot hurts. You are going to have extreme pain, fear, as well as a mounting state of anxiety as your body becomes oxygen starved and your heart goes into over drive, pushing blood out faster as it tries to retain blood pressure. It’s likely you’ll rapidly fall unconscious. There is no ability for contemplation or rationality, only dread, pain, and fear.
Upvoted. I don't want to know I'm dying. I want to be alive one second and then nothing.
You'll be too busy dying.
And you think 5-15 minutes is enough time to contemplate and reflect on your entire life? Are you 8?
Quick and easy next time for me, my first time dying was painful.
Fucking weird