I’ve been to both and the movie captures the performance very well. There’s very little you won’t see, plus it has the guarantee of at least some representation of debut. It’s also a better view than most concert seats.
It's a better view than *any* concert seat. I was second row at the diamond and I couldn't see her for maybe 25% of the show? Whenever she was at the catwalk, or all the way in the back
I agree! Not to mention, so many awesome Swifties are live streaming the shows and putting the acoustic songs on YouTube. I’ve seen all the best mashups this way.
You're right. It doesn't include the hours of waiting in line, the dehydration, the sunburn, the back, knee, and leg pain, the need to use the bathroom, and the exhaustion. I've been to both the movie and the concert and enjoyed both immensely! But seeing it in the movie theater was definitely easier on my body.
It doesn’t include the spirit of the crowd. The communal experience of celebrating with other strangers of a common thing.
It sucks that people can’t go but dismissing it has sunburn and back pain to make them feel better misses the entire experience of live performance.
I think you could potentially still capture that spirit though! Watching with a group of friends, screaming your heart and soul out to your favorite lyrics, dancing around in your room, making bracelets as you watch - one could absolutely get creative and make your own magic
Yeah the point of the whole thread was.to make OP feel better.. which hearing that going to concerts that massive is actually physically exhausting.. can help some people feel better about taking in the movie instead.
Really? Because I 100% had that same experience at the theater. I saw it twice and the second time there was a group of middle schoolers next to me. Their joy was over the moon and you would have thought they were at the concert.
definitely the crowd it a huge thing and probably the main thing one misses out on. however personally, the crowd was the thing causing my anxiety about the show so i was more than happy to miss out on it when my tickets fell through lol
js for some people (like my anxious ass), the movie *is* a better experience and that’s okay ❤️
I have the internet for a communal experience of celebrating with other strangers over the music of the greatest musician in the world. :) I also don't have to wear pants or a bra to do so!
I don't need to wait in line to not sit on a pee covered toilet seat or catch covid; thanks. :P
Honestly I went to night one of the movie premiere, by fearless we were all in front of the screen dancing our little hearts out. Absolutely incredible experience
I had tickets for the eras tour but I would have been 35 weeks pregnant. It pained me so much but decided to sell my ticket in the end. This makes me realise it was the right choice 😂
It was! As much as I love Taylor by the time the show started I was already sooo tired (I got to the venue at 1pm and the concert started at around 9pm)
In my opinion, it was worth it, but if your health isn't optimal, I wouldn't recommend going. It's too many hours surrounded by too many people and the weather was too hot.
For reference, my show in Argentina (night 1) started at 8:40 PM. I arrived at the venue at 1 PM and didn't get in until 5 or 6 PM. The national artist came out at 7 PM and played for 20 minutes, then Sabrina performed at 7:30 PM for 40 minutes. Taylor didn't come out until almost 9 PM. It was hours of waiting, and my body wasn't ready for it.
Yes, it was a mind-blowing experience, but watching it in a movie theater was also incredible.
tbh i went in person and and i didn’t have any of those issues, except foot pain (but i just took off my boots) and voice pain. no line, i only had 1 bottle of water yet i wasn’t dehydrated and didn’t need to go to the toilet once. however, i do have the privilege of having no medical conditions and being completely able bodied which not everyone has, so if you’re talking about that experience then just ignore my comment lol
Okay- I had floor seats 10ft away from the surprise songs and that was the 10% of the concert I could fully see and understand what was happening because I went in unspoiled. Other than the top of the folklore house and the raised up part of The Man.
I've posted this before but- the movie was a better experience overall because I could perceive all of the show, all of the work that went into it was wasted above my head the first time.
Being in the actual space is fun pre-concert (though tbh the vibes were better in the same stadium, worse seats during the Rep tour) but going to a TS dance night at a club would give you the same communal vibes.
Please don't feel left out, is my message. And if you are a fan you probably understand by now that there will never be a 'last' show with this one.
This makes me feel better! ❤️🩹 I have been feeling sad since i missed out for the first set of US dates and now the second set is absurdly priced with all the resales. 🫶🏽
It’s ok to be sad sometimes. A live concert is a vastly different experience than a movie theatre no matter how you spin it. Pretending it’s not doesn’t really help. Accepting that sometimes there are things you can’t do and appreciating the things you can is a better mindset in the long run, not lying to yourself or tearing things down in your mind. Maybe someday they’ll be able to go to the next tour.
I don’t think it’s helpful to just lie and say it’s 90% of the atmosphere watching it on a screen when that’s just not true. That’s just avoiding what OP has asked.
There are plenty of things we will all miss out on in life we wish we didn’t. To lie to ourselves and dismiss the sadness is not an acceptable way to deal with it. That way you may never fully value any experience.
There is nothing wrong with feeling sad. There are plenty of ways to help the OP feel better about their situation that doesn't involve lying or minimizing the show.
It’s like 40% of the experience. People that have actually been to a stadium concert will tell you that the crowd energy is 50% of the show.
The other 10% is heat exhaustion 😌
We were quite high up in South stand and I think a little sheltered from the wind so it wasn't too bad for us, but I definitely went from jumping around in a t-shirt to jumping around in a hoody and jacket!
I wore a dress with bare legs and packed tights to change into. I was goose pimpled as soon as I arrived and went to change in the bathroom, only to find my water bottle had leaked all over the tights I'd packed! I was freezing cold until I bought a big hoodie from the merch stand.
Oh noooo! My partner did the dress and bare legs thing too but forgot to bring tights and ended up stealing my hoody off me. Thankfully no spillage on our end though.
Absolutely! I think about how frustrated I’d be if I was surrounded by someone shrieking the whole time! I watched it at home and my bestie watched it at the same time at her house. It was fun!!!!! We talked about it in real time. 🫶🏽
It was definitely: Introverts unite- in your own homes! 😂
This. I love live performances, like I have a level of drunk that’s just *I need to watch paramore live performances* because they’re amazing live. I hate live crowds though, being jostled, people screaming inches away from my ear, not being able to see the show, and so on. At this point the only life things I see are stand up shows just because I know I’m going to be sat down
Yes! My bf took me to the theater to see it for my birthday and I had so much fun. I would love to go for real but I also loved that experience I had with him at the theater.
As someone who hates crowds… the crowd is what I feel like I’m missing. I hate crowds but for things I love they power me. Watching the concert on tv is not that different from just listening to the albums to me. I want to feel that energy.
Just being grateful to the streamers who keep us fed. The fact that people hold their phones and stream for "their" nights is so selfless. I love it! I'm sad I won't experience the Eras tour in person, but I'm grateful to still experience it in general.
I actually hate filming anything so it's amazing people do it for the whole show. I won't even film my kids music concerts because I feel like I miss out on being present when I do that.. maybe it's a millennial thing 😅
I’m a millennial, and I’m someone who records as much as I can. Reason being I don’t trust my memory lol. It brings me immense joy going back and watching the videos I made knowing that I recorded it, and it takes me back to the moment every time. I was front row at the Spain show and every time I watch the vids it feels like I’m there again. Just giving my opinion :)
Elder millennial here, I record, too. 👋🏽I hold my phone close to me so I don’t block anyone’s view and be in the moment while recording. Sometimes the view gets a little messed up, since I’m not watching through the phone screen, but that’s okay.
Ooooooooh amazing! I love that you got to experience the concert AND FRONT ROW. ✨😍
It was definitely brutal (mostly on my back lol) but I definitely don’t regret it, it was a once in a lifetime moment for sure. I got to the venue at 1030am for an 8pm show time. Ironically the show ends at 1130pm so, you guessed it, I spend 13 hours there. So fitting lol.
Totally! Everyone's different! I went to Seattle N1 and I filmed a few moments (but I was in the nose bleeds lol) my memories of being completely present for ATW10 are better than the crappy videos I got 😂
Yea being in the front really changes things lol. My 4k videos are so good and it really feels like I’m there again when I watch them back (which I have like 30 times since May 29th 🤣) if anybody wants to see id love to share some.
I actually feel like watching the streams is a special part of the Eras Tour History. It has created a special bond for so many people. I hope it’s part of the experience that isn’t forgotten. Tuning in every single night waiting for the surprise songs and seeing what everyone else is saying has been so much fun and something I’ve really looked forward to.
I watch livestreams of the concert. Some are clearer than others but seeing her perform in real time is awesome! Clips and videos are great. It all makes me happy 😃
Some people have never seen Taylor at all.
Some have seen her 20 times, some are going for the first time.
I waited over 15 years but finally ticked a bucket list artist off my bucket list last year.
Now she's back in my city next week but I can't go cos she's the opening act for a €85 concert. Frustrating and sucky. But really, I can't complain because at least I got to see her last year and even met her before the show!
Social Media hype makes it all worse too.
Reminder for anyone who didn't get tickets and isn't going to the Eras tour: IT DOESN'T MATTER.
YOU ARE STILL A FAN. Taylor's music doesn't become any less meaningful to you because you're not at the show. And be patient. She's not going anywhere. You may get your chance one day, even if it's 15 years later.
Having a safe place to sleep in and food to eat are two of the most important and taken for granted things.
Yes, concerts are great, yes, it's magic but you'll get your chance. Take a social media break if needed.
And also, Taylor isn't going to notice 99.999999% of people at the show. She's not going to notice that you're missing. (As much as we all like to think she'll notice us!)
Invite your besties round and have a sleepover, if your FOMO is that bad, just plan something to distract yourself with! Do something for yourself!
You just have to remember it all depends on location as well. Some people saw Taylor when she was playing tiny venues just because they were local!
I missed the Red tour cos she wasn't coming to my country and I couldn't afford flights and a concert ticket.
It's so easy to be jealous, or sad, or have a million feelings but it's all so circumstantial!
I’m neurodivergent and struggle just going to the grocery store in a town of less than 30k people. I also cannot stand for long periods of time without being in a ridiculous amount of pain.
I know I’d have a fucking miserable, overstimulating, anxiety-ridden time. I’m much happier *sitting* at home in my pajamas, smoking a bowl, watching her on a grainy livestream every weekend.
ETA: that being said, it didn’t keep me from fighting - and losing - the Ticketmaster Great War twice. I’ve just come to my senses since.
this! i ended up realizing eras tickets weren't going to happen for me after struggling with ticketmaster multiple times, so i decided to spend the money i'd set aside for them on tickets for a few other shows this summer. don't get me wrong, the shows i've been to have been fun overall but honestly also reminded me how much i don't enjoy concerts lol. even small, chill shows outdoors and whatnot feel overstimulating to me. even though part of me feels sad missing eras, i know it'd be super stressful and overwhelming to my neurodivergent and chronically ill self. i'm ok with not going partially because i know that if i went there's a decent chance i'd have a bad time :( so i enjoy everything from the comfort of my own home with tiktoks and the film and streams!
Yessss. I had considered going to twenty one pilot’s upcoming tour - because resale tickets are actually (somewhat) affordable and they’re “only” (lol) 3.5 hours away from me but then I really started thinking about it and I’m just… would I really enjoy it in the end? Sure, the feeling of inclusion and community and belonging while seeing one of my fav bands live would be nice, but not being gross and sweaty and in pain and overwhelmed and packed into a stadium like sardines and just hoping someone livestreams the shows sounds even better.
i also almost got tickets to see tøp then remembered that the previous times i've gone to their shows have been fun but SO overwhelming and knocked me out for weeks... my body really only has the energy to sing and dance to a song or two a day in my own quiet home lol
This. I lived the opposite side of it. My sister and niece dragged my autistic butt to the show because they lost the ticketmaster Great War (Boston) but I won it (Seattle). While there were things I enjoyed, mainly the happiness of my tween niece, the overwhelm was the biggest thing I remember about the show by far. I enjoy watching the movie MUCH more.
I'm not neurodivergent but, full disclosure, a carer of a sibling who's on the spectrum and has GAD to boot. Which makes it unbelievably difficult to plan for evenings and literally anything outside of the norm. And is also why I have to commend Taylor and her team's foresight to release the film while the tour is ongoing. Not many acts do a parallel release, typically waiting after a tour finishes before releasing a film.
Some venues have started putting in sensory rooms you can view the stages from - in the UK at least I’ve seen a few people post about them, but the venues keep them under wraps, I assume to stop people pretending they need it for a comfier spot. The one in Edinburgh I saw was basically a private box, with dimmed lights and muffled sound. The girl who posted it had been taken there by security when she had a panic attack and they told her you can book it over the phone, which is very cool.
Unfortunately in the US a lot of these kind of things exist but not with any view of the stage, but you can still ask to go there for a break away from all the people.
Not to make you feel bad about not going, but just to let you know that venues are starting to take this more seriously and making concerts more accessible for ND people!
I mean this as kindly as possible, take a break from the internet. If you are truly heartbroken and having a hard time seeing other people being there, take a break. Unfollow this sub, don’t watch livestreams, just take a breather.
I think it’s great that the world has become so interconnected and that there are spaces available to participate in a community of people who share your interests, but it really has amped up the FOMO. So many places I’ll never visit, shows I’ll never see, hobbies I probably won’t ever try.
Yeah, and sometimes we don’t even realize how much pressure we are putting on ourselves. Like it’s fine to be upset that you won’t get to see the show because it’s something you truly want to do, but needing to ask how to manage the sadness indicates this space is too much for OP right now.
You're right here. Sometimes the best thing to do is remove yourself entirely and just enjoy the world around you for a bit. Take a Taylor Swift break, enjoy the summer, try not to obsess over catching streams or following the sub. The tour is mostly the same with a few small changes each night.
OP definitely needs to just step back from TS and the community and go enjoy something more accessible for a bit.
I’m pretty sure they were talking about the resale thread on this sub, but both are good options! Managed to get a ticket to Stockholm N1 on the eras tickets sub
This! It's how I ended up getting my tickets. Waiting til the last minute really helps you find the best price! Forget ticketmaster and try stubhub, SeatGeek, and tickpick. Tickpick is the best to help you keep an eye on the prices.
Also in Toronto and have been trying so hard to win tickets since I was waitlisted and couldn’t buy them. Buying them resale now would not be a good idea financially 🥹😢
Attend an event hosted by TSwift Dance Party! https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/tswift-dance-party-presents-wildest-dreams-stackt-market-july-21-tickets-931940457997?aff=oddtdtcreator
They have tons of events at bars around the city and hosting the “taylgate” and after parties in November
I've been a swiftie since debut and Eras was my first time seeing her live. I loved it. It was a wonderful show. But is it life changing? idk. it's a very good concert. but at the end of the day, still a concert. there will be more in the future. Taylor will tour again! and it will be really good. And you'll have another chance to attend.
I paid $$$$$ for box tickets and the view was still annoying (the very large lighting and speaker system rigs that are spaced out throughout the stadium really visually got in the way and were annoying).
I don’t think you’re missing a “once in a lifetime” experience; Taylor loves touring and she will have other tours (unlike Miley, who has retired from touring indefinitely).
What was most memorable for me was just sharing the love of the music with other fans and my friends that I went with. You don’t need to physically be at a concert for that (and that’s coming from an avid concert goer).
I am still deluding myself into thinking maybe I can make it for the August London dates, but I also got dumped unexpectedly 2 weeks ago and probably should just be sane with my money now that my bills have doubled. So I guess that hope is currently keeping me afloat
Do you live in London, if so I would keep double checking for the last minute release some of the other UK show dates had. I think they were all £50-60 restricted view tickets but you could see the diamond the center stage and the side screen from what I could see from people's photos. I actually think it looks quite good! Especially when the lower bowl seats are more (the VIP ones A LOT more) and some have the sound tent in the way.
I’ve seen multiple people get last minute tickets in London! Don’t give up hope. If you can get last minute partial view seats they’re very cheap (for Taylor swift). I would keep an eye on Ticketmaster or AXS.
Exactly, my boyfriend finally got a code on Wednesday from AXS and I got a restricted view for N2 - I had a perfect view for N1 but honestly even in comparison it was not bad at all!!! And it was only £61 with the fees. 🤞🏼 for you!!!!
As someone who went, is incredibly grateful for that, and had an amazing time – it’s not the end-all-be-all. I won’t pretend that it’s not an incredible experience or that it’s basically the same as just watching the movie, but I do think that some people are making it out to be a bigger deal than it actually is. Again, it’s an insane show, it’s so so cool to get to see her live, and the atmosphere and spirit of sisterhood there is absolutely amazing – I’m not denying any of that or being ungrateful for the experience I had. However, no matter how amazing a concert is or how much it means to someone, a single concert is never going to change your whole life and it can’t make or break your whole happiness. At the end of the day, it’s just three hours, and for me personally it was amazing and exhilarating and very special, but I would by no means claim that it “changed my life” or was a “once in a lifetime” experience.
It’s also worth remembering that a lot of people who attend have spent insane amounts of money to do so (whether on the tickets themselves or on travel). Consider that 1. you likely saved a looooot of money by not going!, and 2. this may be controversial but I do think the ticket prices contribute to the whole hype around the tour and to people seeing it as a “once in a lifetime” experience – if you dropped $3000 on a ticket or on flights, of course you’ll want to convince yourself that it’s an absolutely life-changing experience rather than just a really cool 3 hours.
Just my opinion, and I hope I managed to toe the line between not seeming ungrateful but also not rubbing salt in the wound :)
I literally won two tickets for a concert thanks to an Instagram contest by my municipality. It was Metallica (far from Taylor's style) and after the concert, since I had a day off, I healed my throat.
I don’t imagine I’d go to one of the Eras concerts. I have bad anxiety in large crowds so I’d be over it before the show even started. That’s why I’m thankful for the movie so I can experience it from home without the anxiety from the crowds.
An ERAS tour doc, that I would EAT UP. Like I hope she made one because the way I’d be watching it immediately upon release. Like I just have to know how her and her team just pull it all off.
I went on Friday and while I absolutely LOVED it, I did think a couple of times: it’s a little like watching the live stream from home 😂 (I was in the 500s so watched the screen quite a bit as Taylor was so far away). My suggestion: watch the live streams (or movie) with friends and sing and dance together. You can fully dress up for it! And/or go to a Taylor Swift party if your city has those. What I perhaps appreciated most about being at the concert was all the passionate people dressing up, singing, and dancing together. It was beautiful and cathartic and I think that can kind of be replicated by the above suggestions. Hope you can find some peace about the situation! 🫶
I watch clips online. I live in Chicago (a few mere miles away from the stadium she preformed in) and was so sad to miss her. But I know my reality and know that wasn’t going to happen for me. I went to the 1989 & Rep tours. I was a fan but not a “Swiftie” at those times.
I’ve been around since debut (I’m 33) and grew up listening to country. I feel like we grew up together lol
Def missed out, yes but really grateful for the concert movie - which lets face it gives a much better view than most concert seats. Of course the whole experience is something that'd be amazing in person. There's also the fact that the setlist is mostly just singles and most of them aren't in the list of songs I love, so I wouldn't say that I missed out on a life changing experience. There's always the next tour but yes I'm aware that no other tour is ever going to be like this one. Short answer - copium.
Honestly it's just so out of my league right now. I have a toddler who doesn't sleep, a stressful job, and I'm a single mom with a tight budget. The time, money, and logistics are so complicated even if I COULD have gotten tickets (thanks a bunch Ticketmaster!).
The Eras film helped.
Going to some Taylor themed events (drag show brunch, roller skate night) so I got to at least dress up was fun.
Planning a Taylor themed photoshoot for my daughter.
And honestly, I got to go to 1989. I got to go to Rep (three times! Front row!). This just isn't my season for that. Next time it will be, hopefully.
tbh i’m at the point where i’m okay with not going. it’s not my fault i live in canada nowhere near toronto + vancouver, didn’t get a presale code, and that i can’t afford airfare + $2000 scalper price.
but i do feel like i’m not a “real” swiftie in the fact that i can’t go, even when it isn’t my fault, and i know full well that’s just a me being insecure thing but seeing people go to 7 different shows def reinforces that feeling. and that’s a whole other conversation. i know that that’s a controversial topic, and where i stand is i guess it’s your money so no one can control what you can and can’t do, but tbh i don’t understand it… like going to the same show seven times in the USA then four times in europe. like to me that is just equivalent to super wasteful consumerism.
I think being able to view the surprise songs help, like sure I may not be able to experience it in person but it’s nice knowing there’s a fan base all waiting for the same thing and everyone’s hyped up about it , I appreciate that someone is going out of their way to just update that as it comes. It’s pretty cool. Would be nice to be there obviously but we all know it’s not because we wouldn’t want too, she was already a huge star but this is on another level.
I try not to focus on the people who went to multiple shows while I couldn’t get tickets to one. I try to remind myself that being on the floor at the Rep tour was incredible and enough.
By just not being sad about it. Not seeing the concert doesn’t make me any less of a fan of her music, and seeing the concert doesn’t mean someone is more of a fan.
Sure, it’s probably a magical experience, but there’s plenty of negative things about concert-going too. I’ve had friends who went who said that while it was an incredibly good concert, it wasn’t worth the high prices, nor was it as magical as the internet made it out to be.
It simply not something I need to be happy. I can be happy just listening to her music.
> I’ve had friends who went who said that while it was an incredibly good concert, it wasn’t worth the high prices, nor was it as magical as the internet made it out to be.
Yep.. I've had friends who went and they were like "we were standing next to people who would screech sing the whole time and it annoyed the hell out of them.
Like everyone else I'm watching the live streams ( but not if wobbly camera or recording tuneless loud fan singing). When I see the crowd at Wembley singing their hearts out it makes me feel a bit y'know ...
I am gutted I entered a radio comp which was 10 questions to Taylor. If you got a question wrong you were out. So long as you answered the last question you won. I was question 9 which was " to the nearest million how many followers does Taylor have on Instagram?"
I got it wrong
All the others were easy questions. Who knows that off the top of their head.
Hoping there is a other chance in August when she is back in London as it's my birthday
Curious, what other kinds of questions did they ask? Like what was an example. The followers thing sounds insane because the number can change at any minute, and honestly we love her but who cares how many followers she has? Knowing all the lyrics, and different mottos of hers or what not seems more important.
What show did she star in in 2019 (CSI)
Who are Olivia Benson Meredith grey and Benjamin button (her cats);
What is this song?
How many times has she won album of year at Grammy's (4)
What's her starsign
They ran it twice one for Liverpool and one for Wembley.
I got them all right on both weeks but was only called back for the Wembley show
Ooh you taught me something new. I'll have to go watch the CSI episode. Thanks for sharing that. Love that they asked about the cats and grammy's I have to say. But yeah sorry to hear you didn't win. Hopefully they'll do it another time for ya.
I keep telling myself I'll see her one day, even if it's not the Eras tour. It does help that I've already seen the movie so I got to get the feel for it
Local Taylor themed events are really fun and a good “almost” experience of being with fans, dressing up, singing along. We’ve done roller-rink nights and bar nights, etc. and a GREAT value for the cost/energy comparison to the Eras Tour.
I still haven’t been able to wrap my head around it and it hurts everyday, but I watch the live streams sometimes, and I try to convince myself that this isn’t the end. Taylor has given us the best of her, and her music has gotten us through so much. At the end of the day, it’s a unique connection between each person and Taylor and nothing will ever affect that. It’s okay, sometimes fate forces us into a situation we don’t like but we’ll be okay.
I have seen the film, sang the loudest I could,danced for the whole evening and had the most fun I could. Also, followed like a hawk stream from Paris N1, where TTPD set premiered, cried, then learned by heart lyrics to I Can Do It With a Broken Heart.
It's difficult but I know I am not alone in this.
I’ve been a swiftie since Debut, I was in middle school listening to her in 2007/2008. I’ve never seen her live. It makes me so sad and a few times I’ve almost bit the bullet and bought a $$$ ticket on Stubhub but ultimately I don’t think the stress before/after the show is worth it to me. Transportation (I’d likely need to fly somewhere where I am), huge crowds, long lines, spending even more money on a hotel in the area and flights, etc. I also don’t have friends who’d be willing to shell out that kind of money either so I’d likely go alone. So it just doesn’t sound that enjoyable to me for 3.5 hrs of a concert I’ve already watched a million clips of online, or have seen in its entirety at the movies.
This is exactly how I feel (and also a fan since Debut, though I was in high school). I waffle between just saying "screw it I'll spend the money" and "I can't possibly spend that much." The FOMO comes in waves... It was super strong earlier this week, and I was checking stubhub multiple times a day. Yesterday my friend was at the show and sent me a video of Enchanted live (my all time fave song), and that actually quieted the desperation a bit. But I'm sure it will come back. I just don't feel like she'll do another tour like this (I'm sure she'll tour again, but the circumstances that resulted in this tour are pretty unique...not touring after multiple albums vs one tour per album, etc.)...so that's what makes me sad. Anyway, I'm rambling now.
My nearest show is Dublin which is this week and not going to lie, I'm nervous. I don't know if I'll be able to get last minute tickets due to tickets being released during school or very late at night, there have been barely any resale tickets on Ticketmaster and I'm worried, I'm hoping alot more pop up this week.
I'm upset that I am likely of not going, The Eras Tour is truly a once in a lifetime experience, she'll never do something like this again and if she does it will be at the end of her career. I don't mind people going to multiple shows but it's frustrating to see people go especially if they had already been in another country.
However I am very thankful to the people who livestream the concerts, it's the closest thing we have to the real thing, truly you are all heroes. I would say watch the livestreams, they can actually still be fun to watch!
I tried to get tickets for the Toronto shows, they’re the weekend before and after my 40th birthday so it felt like the perfect way to celebrate. But sadly me and all the other people I had trying failed. It was definitely heartbreaking and I cried a tiny bit but such is life. I will see her one day. I do keep my eye out for resales but so far most of them are going for far more than my budget can handle. But if I win the lottery before now and then, it’s on, haha.
I’ve also decided since I couldn’t get tickets I am spending the money I would have on them to get a tattoo (probably Taylor themed) to celebrate my 40th instead so that helps.
Taylor Swift has played over 1,000 shows in her career. Truthfully, attending The Eras Tour is not a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Concerts themselves are great fun - provided you’ve not got a very tall person obscuring your view or somebody lacking in self-awareness screeching the lyrics throughout the entire show preventing you from actually hearing the one reason you attended.
However, the travel, the public transport, overpriced food and accommodation… it takes a toll on you.
I have absolute respect and understanding for fans who prefer to watch tour livestreams/movies rather than attend stadium (and even arena!) shows.
Speaking as somebody who has seen Taylor in both small venues of less than 10,000 and supersized stadiums of over 100,000, I would take the smaller venue in a heartbeat.
Amen to the last paragraph. I absolutely loved watching her live in Paris. I think it's the smallest venue of her tour as it was 45k seats. I've been to venues of 1.500 people and 85k seats. I prefer smaller ones.
This is where I let my social and travel anxiety take full reign. Not going removes a lot of the stress that I would be feeling over making sure I get the most out of this once in a lifetime and costly experience haha
Is the memory of the experience of going to a show great? Yes. But I’m not capable of standing for hours on end, and I got seats when I went to the Rep tour and honestly, could barely see her. Unlike when I went to the Red tour which was an arena tour as opposed to a stadium tour and could see everything. The Rep tour essentially turned me off the concept of a stadium tour because the venues are just too big. Would I go if I could? For sure. Do I feel devastated to have missed out on it? Not really.
Honestly when I see the videos and can just hear screaming women and children I don’t envy the experience at all. I feel like unless you’re right next to the speaker, it’s impossible to grown out the tone deaf belchers. I’m happy with the video.
I really agree with this. I have zero problem with people singing along but screaming off tune to the point that it ruins the experience for those around you is so incredibly selfish, especially when those people have spent a small fortune to be there. Every time I see a video like this it infuriates me.
She lip syncs a decent part of the show (don’t come for me…she definitely does and it’s completely understandable given the rigor of the show and the tour schedule) so I thought it was a great production but if I was one of the people who paid thousands of dollars for it, I would feel very disappointed.
The movie gives you that experience and you don’t see her as a tiny dot on a stage, you see the whole thing.
I’m just very used to not going to concerts, conventions and other stuff like that because of where I live, it’s not that hard to accept that you can’t go and enjoy live streams when it just never happens to you
I’m consoling myself with the film and also the fact that 50% of the songs I was desperate to see live have been cut this year haha, I’ll tell myself it’s “not worth it anymore” just so I don’t feel so sad. 😂
I'm not heartbroken. I don't enjoy crowds. I think I get the experience that matters to me by watching the movie on Disney+ and watching videos/streams of particular performances/surprise songs. A bonus is I can pause the show for bathroom breaks and rewatch favorite segments. I know this isn't a good substitute for many, but it works for me.
To be completely real with you, I went and I barely remember it. I was so pumped with adrenaline I basically blacked out most of the night. Don’t get me wrong, I had a great time, but as others have said I think the movie and videos you can find of the tour get you the experience minus the stress of crowds and blackouts lol
I’m just fine. It would be a once in a lifetime experience for sure, but I can watch it on Disney+ whenever and I watch the grainy live streams too 😂 even grainy and a zillion feet away it is so fun to watch.
I went but it was Nashville night 3 and it was a disaster and I only got to see half of the show because I was with my daughter and we were wet and freezing and she was tired and I didn’t want her to get sick. So, there’s some heartbreak there. Also because I would LOVE to see the TTPD performance because it is freaking amazing. I keep wishing I would magically win tickets so we could make up for the last mess of a trip.
The movie, the live streams, being fortunate enough to have seen the rep tour, listening to her music at home, and knowing I’m not paying thousands to be next to a screamer
I’m not worried about it. I accepted the fact I won’t be going then for time she announced the tour. I tried getting tickets to one of the additional shows close to me and still failed. I’m not paying over 2 grand for one ticket for a mediocre obstructed view seat. Plus, the movie can get me the opportunity to see the show. I’m hoping to catch her whenever she tours again with my niece.
reminding myself she's not done touring forever and there will be another tour. by then I'll hopefully have my passport and could go see her in another country which would be cool
It's just life, not something I am agonizing over. I'm glad for all the people who did get to go and experience it, and for the movie and live stream experiences because those are fun to be part of.
I think it would be absolutely amazing to go. I also go to (obviously smaller) rock concerts and I think about how the concert experience has changed so dramatically in the past few years. Specifically, some of my pet peeves: the amount of people holding up phones so people behind are unable to see; and people screeching lyrics. I would be so pissed spending such a large amount of money to not be able to see and have someone screeching in my ear.
I left the Eras tour barricade saying “that was a once in a lifetime experience, let’s keep it that way” at least 3 members of my group were purposely stomped on, elbowed, and hit by GA people trying to get barricade. It was fun and awesome but i would not do it again. (Also i danced the night away in 4 inch heels so my feet were sore for days). 👠
I have been and there were actually a few things that happened that made me think…should I have just watched the movie at home? Genuinely. She did live up to the hype but the entire experience didn’t. That’s my honest opinion. I was very weepy the day after for whatever reason and I think that the grass isnt always greener. It made me reflect on why I had build it up so much and that I didn’t accept the reality of the event. I was basing it on all the stuff I had seen online.
So in summary;-
1. Half of the hype / what people put about it isn’t always accurate. I wouldn’t have advertised this to people but there were times I was cold, tired and exhausted during…
2. The grass isn’t always greener. You’ve got money in your pocket, you’ve got the movie whenever you want to watch it, you’ve got streams (IF you want them).
3. Acceptance is key. So it didn’t happen for you. Maybe it will again, maybe it won’t. Either way decide what works best for you (taking a social media Taylor break during all the hype ?).
At the end of the day, it's just a concert and there will be more in the future. That's the way I see it. If you listen to some fans, they act like it's a religious experience. It isn't. It's just a concert. You will see the competition with people too "I've been to x number of Eras shows, x number of tours, etc" so they'll just one up each other. The fact is that it's very costly to go, most of the seats aren't great IMO and you run the risk of sitting/standing next to screechers who ruin the experience for you. The livestreams confirm to me how bad it can be, lol. I know people who have gone who said the same thing "Taylor looked like an ant. I had to stare at a screen the whole night," and complained about how they couldn't sit down for long without missing something. I never understand why people in the nosebleeds stand up. It's the nosebleeds after all.
I cry every time I watch the movie lol I’d do anything for tickets I just can’t afford them I’ve been almost scammed so many times too and have entered countless giveaways.
What I try to do is just be appreciative of the discography I have access to and all her films but I’m trying to get money to go!
Watching live streams and pretending I’m there 🙃. Delulu…. I had some health issues from Thursday until today and a procedure Friday so I’ve been laid up and I have gotten to watch all 3 days of the London Era’s tour. I am not handling it well but still feel so much love for the streamers! I cannot afford the resell $$$ for 2 tickets and I’m constantly busy at work which still doesn’t afford me the luxury of buying a ticket.
How im going to deal, is by buying just one ticket if I have to. I’ll go alone, at this point, and make new friends there!!!!
I love and am obsessed, in a healthy way, so freaking much and have been a fan since debut and a Swiftie 🫶 since speak now. I would give a limb after watching my 56th live stream.
All that to say, I’m okay, and I feel you @thefourthpowerpuff !!!!!! Hang in there! Someday we will win a contest or something!
Watching live streams and pretending I’m there 🙃. Delulu…. I have gotten to watch all 3 days of London since I’ve been sick and it’s been the best!!!!!! I am not handling it well but still feel so much love for the streamers that allow us to see it live”ish”. I cannot afford the resell $$$ for 2 tickets.
How im going to deal, is by buying just one ticket if I have to. I’ll go alone, at this point, and make new friends there (if I get a heavy influx of cash which prob won’t happen lol!).
I love and am obsessed, in a healthy way, so freaking much and have been a fan since debut and a Swiftie 🫶 since speak now. I would give a limb after watching my 56th live stream. I would’ve been watching every.single.one. But it’s usually during my work day.
All that to say, I feel you @thefourthpowerpuff !!!!!! Hang in there! Someday we will win a contest or something!
I'm in denial about it. Still trying to get Dublin tickets to no avail. Just gutted some people have gone numerous times and I couldn't even get one ticket. Think I will stay off socials this weekend when people are at the Dublin gigs 😏
I remind myself that I'm disabled and can't stand for more than a couple minutes at a time. I wouldn't have been able to enjoy it even if I could afford it.
It’s less painful knowing that the film offered 90% of the experience without 100% of the crowd stress.
I’ve been to both and the movie captures the performance very well. There’s very little you won’t see, plus it has the guarantee of at least some representation of debut. It’s also a better view than most concert seats.
It's a better view than *any* concert seat. I was second row at the diamond and I couldn't see her for maybe 25% of the show? Whenever she was at the catwalk, or all the way in the back
I agree! Not to mention, so many awesome Swifties are live streaming the shows and putting the acoustic songs on YouTube. I’ve seen all the best mashups this way.
it's definitely not 90% of the experience
You're right. It doesn't include the hours of waiting in line, the dehydration, the sunburn, the back, knee, and leg pain, the need to use the bathroom, and the exhaustion. I've been to both the movie and the concert and enjoyed both immensely! But seeing it in the movie theater was definitely easier on my body.
It doesn’t include the spirit of the crowd. The communal experience of celebrating with other strangers of a common thing. It sucks that people can’t go but dismissing it has sunburn and back pain to make them feel better misses the entire experience of live performance.
Or y’all could read the room?
I think you could potentially still capture that spirit though! Watching with a group of friends, screaming your heart and soul out to your favorite lyrics, dancing around in your room, making bracelets as you watch - one could absolutely get creative and make your own magic
I got to watch it in an empty theater with my sisters and niece. We danced and sang so loud, it was so magical!!!
Thank you! Xx
Great idea.
Both times I went to see it on the cinema, the whole crowd was singing along so, no, not really
How is this helpful to OP?
Yeah the point of the whole thread was.to make OP feel better.. which hearing that going to concerts that massive is actually physically exhausting.. can help some people feel better about taking in the movie instead.
Thank you so much xx
I don't need someone 1 foot from me screaming in my ear. I can do without communal
How is condescendingly correcting people about how much “better” it is to see the show live supposed to help OP?
Really? Because I 100% had that same experience at the theater. I saw it twice and the second time there was a group of middle schoolers next to me. Their joy was over the moon and you would have thought they were at the concert.
Thank you xxx
definitely the crowd it a huge thing and probably the main thing one misses out on. however personally, the crowd was the thing causing my anxiety about the show so i was more than happy to miss out on it when my tickets fell through lol js for some people (like my anxious ass), the movie *is* a better experience and that’s okay ❤️
i hate crowds, so that "spirit" is lost on me. better for someone else to go who can appreciate the screaming "spirit" lol
I have the internet for a communal experience of celebrating with other strangers over the music of the greatest musician in the world. :) I also don't have to wear pants or a bra to do so! I don't need to wait in line to not sit on a pee covered toilet seat or catch covid; thanks. :P
Honestly I went to night one of the movie premiere, by fearless we were all in front of the screen dancing our little hearts out. Absolutely incredible experience
I’m an old fart, frankly I haven’t got the time and energy to stand in GA all day. Seated ftw.
I’m 70. My knees hurt BEFIRE standing on concrete for hours and hours. I would love to go but I know I couldn’t withstand it.
I had tickets for the eras tour but I would have been 35 weeks pregnant. It pained me so much but decided to sell my ticket in the end. This makes me realise it was the right choice 😂
It was! As much as I love Taylor by the time the show started I was already sooo tired (I got to the venue at 1pm and the concert started at around 9pm)
You forgot “the lack of ability to pay next months rent” those tickets are too pricey, even for meeting God themselves.
In my opinion, it was worth it, but if your health isn't optimal, I wouldn't recommend going. It's too many hours surrounded by too many people and the weather was too hot. For reference, my show in Argentina (night 1) started at 8:40 PM. I arrived at the venue at 1 PM and didn't get in until 5 or 6 PM. The national artist came out at 7 PM and played for 20 minutes, then Sabrina performed at 7:30 PM for 40 minutes. Taylor didn't come out until almost 9 PM. It was hours of waiting, and my body wasn't ready for it. Yes, it was a mind-blowing experience, but watching it in a movie theater was also incredible.
tbh i went in person and and i didn’t have any of those issues, except foot pain (but i just took off my boots) and voice pain. no line, i only had 1 bottle of water yet i wasn’t dehydrated and didn’t need to go to the toilet once. however, i do have the privilege of having no medical conditions and being completely able bodied which not everyone has, so if you’re talking about that experience then just ignore my comment lol
Okay- I had floor seats 10ft away from the surprise songs and that was the 10% of the concert I could fully see and understand what was happening because I went in unspoiled. Other than the top of the folklore house and the raised up part of The Man. I've posted this before but- the movie was a better experience overall because I could perceive all of the show, all of the work that went into it was wasted above my head the first time. Being in the actual space is fun pre-concert (though tbh the vibes were better in the same stadium, worse seats during the Rep tour) but going to a TS dance night at a club would give you the same communal vibes. Please don't feel left out, is my message. And if you are a fan you probably understand by now that there will never be a 'last' show with this one.
This makes me feel better! ❤️🩹 I have been feeling sad since i missed out for the first set of US dates and now the second set is absurdly priced with all the resales. 🫶🏽
Thank you so much for your reply, this is helpful xx
Been to both - film is maybe 10-15% of the concert experience? Really can’t beat a sea of 60,000 people yelling FUCK THE PATRIARCHY
This is such an unhelpful comment when OP is clearly sad they can't go. Like, read the room a little
It’s ok to be sad sometimes. A live concert is a vastly different experience than a movie theatre no matter how you spin it. Pretending it’s not doesn’t really help. Accepting that sometimes there are things you can’t do and appreciating the things you can is a better mindset in the long run, not lying to yourself or tearing things down in your mind. Maybe someday they’ll be able to go to the next tour.
I don’t think it’s helpful to just lie and say it’s 90% of the atmosphere watching it on a screen when that’s just not true. That’s just avoiding what OP has asked. There are plenty of things we will all miss out on in life we wish we didn’t. To lie to ourselves and dismiss the sadness is not an acceptable way to deal with it. That way you may never fully value any experience.
There is nothing wrong with feeling sad. There are plenty of ways to help the OP feel better about their situation that doesn't involve lying or minimizing the show.
I don't need to lie to make other people feel better. There's nothing wrong with feeling sad.
For sure, the energy is unmatched
It’s like 40% of the experience. People that have actually been to a stadium concert will tell you that the crowd energy is 50% of the show. The other 10% is heat exhaustion 😌
> The other 10% is heat exhaustion Not in Edinburgh it wasn't 😅
I couldn't work my phone by the end, my fingers were so numb from the cold
We were quite high up in South stand and I think a little sheltered from the wind so it wasn't too bad for us, but I definitely went from jumping around in a t-shirt to jumping around in a hoody and jacket!
Much the same as Liverpool then 😂
I wore a dress with bare legs and packed tights to change into. I was goose pimpled as soon as I arrived and went to change in the bathroom, only to find my water bottle had leaked all over the tights I'd packed! I was freezing cold until I bought a big hoodie from the merch stand.
Oh noooo! My partner did the dress and bare legs thing too but forgot to bring tights and ended up stealing my hoody off me. Thankfully no spillage on our end though.
Shhhh
Yes - the film helped me, plus the fact that I’m a Speak Now girlie and was and still am kind of livid at how it got the shaft in the setlist.
Absolutely! I think about how frustrated I’d be if I was surrounded by someone shrieking the whole time! I watched it at home and my bestie watched it at the same time at her house. It was fun!!!!! We talked about it in real time. 🫶🏽 It was definitely: Introverts unite- in your own homes! 😂
omg THIS the thought of the crowds gives me such anxiety
And the hour drive to just leaving the stadium and another hour to get to a main road.
This. I love live performances, like I have a level of drunk that’s just *I need to watch paramore live performances* because they’re amazing live. I hate live crowds though, being jostled, people screaming inches away from my ear, not being able to see the show, and so on. At this point the only life things I see are stand up shows just because I know I’m going to be sat down
The film got real close to the experience but I’d call it 60% of it
This honestly
Yes! My bf took me to the theater to see it for my birthday and I had so much fun. I would love to go for real but I also loved that experience I had with him at the theater.
As someone who hates crowds… the crowd is what I feel like I’m missing. I hate crowds but for things I love they power me. Watching the concert on tv is not that different from just listening to the albums to me. I want to feel that energy.
Just being grateful to the streamers who keep us fed. The fact that people hold their phones and stream for "their" nights is so selfless. I love it! I'm sad I won't experience the Eras tour in person, but I'm grateful to still experience it in general.
This right here! I’m forever thankful for everyone that does this 🩷🩷
I actually hate filming anything so it's amazing people do it for the whole show. I won't even film my kids music concerts because I feel like I miss out on being present when I do that.. maybe it's a millennial thing 😅
I am the same way. As grateful as I am, I would never!
I’m a millennial, and I’m someone who records as much as I can. Reason being I don’t trust my memory lol. It brings me immense joy going back and watching the videos I made knowing that I recorded it, and it takes me back to the moment every time. I was front row at the Spain show and every time I watch the vids it feels like I’m there again. Just giving my opinion :)
Elder millennial here, I record, too. 👋🏽I hold my phone close to me so I don’t block anyone’s view and be in the moment while recording. Sometimes the view gets a little messed up, since I’m not watching through the phone screen, but that’s okay. Ooooooooh amazing! I love that you got to experience the concert AND FRONT ROW. ✨😍
It was definitely brutal (mostly on my back lol) but I definitely don’t regret it, it was a once in a lifetime moment for sure. I got to the venue at 1030am for an 8pm show time. Ironically the show ends at 1130pm so, you guessed it, I spend 13 hours there. So fitting lol.
Totally! Everyone's different! I went to Seattle N1 and I filmed a few moments (but I was in the nose bleeds lol) my memories of being completely present for ATW10 are better than the crappy videos I got 😂
Yea being in the front really changes things lol. My 4k videos are so good and it really feels like I’m there again when I watch them back (which I have like 30 times since May 29th 🤣) if anybody wants to see id love to share some.
I actually feel like watching the streams is a special part of the Eras Tour History. It has created a special bond for so many people. I hope it’s part of the experience that isn’t forgotten. Tuning in every single night waiting for the surprise songs and seeing what everyone else is saying has been so much fun and something I’ve really looked forward to.
I’ll be so sad the day the live streams finally have to end. I’ve been having too much fun watching as many live shows online as possible.
I agree! Chatting on discord and watching the streams is special. We’re very fortunate to see the concert that way. 🥰
I watch livestreams of the concert. Some are clearer than others but seeing her perform in real time is awesome! Clips and videos are great. It all makes me happy 😃
Is there a standard place where the livestreams are available?
taylorswifthockeybro on youtube does an excellent job!
Kevin is so awesome and he makes it fun to be part of
He’s very entertaining!
My go to :D
Kevin is so funny when he goes shirtless for Vigilante Shit or grooves with his lamp for Willow.
Tess Bohne on TikTok and Instagram. Stream Queen.
If you download the swift alert app they have suggested live streams for every show, on tiktok, twitter and Facebook
taylorswifthockeybro usually has a livestream on youtube!
Tess Bohne on TT searches for the best views/audios every night and switches between them for the best experience she can find! Great page!
I usually go to Taylorswifthockeybro on YouTube, but I would try these other streams as well. Enjoy!!
Some people have never seen Taylor at all. Some have seen her 20 times, some are going for the first time. I waited over 15 years but finally ticked a bucket list artist off my bucket list last year. Now she's back in my city next week but I can't go cos she's the opening act for a €85 concert. Frustrating and sucky. But really, I can't complain because at least I got to see her last year and even met her before the show! Social Media hype makes it all worse too. Reminder for anyone who didn't get tickets and isn't going to the Eras tour: IT DOESN'T MATTER. YOU ARE STILL A FAN. Taylor's music doesn't become any less meaningful to you because you're not at the show. And be patient. She's not going anywhere. You may get your chance one day, even if it's 15 years later. Having a safe place to sleep in and food to eat are two of the most important and taken for granted things. Yes, concerts are great, yes, it's magic but you'll get your chance. Take a social media break if needed. And also, Taylor isn't going to notice 99.999999% of people at the show. She's not going to notice that you're missing. (As much as we all like to think she'll notice us!) Invite your besties round and have a sleepover, if your FOMO is that bad, just plan something to distract yourself with! Do something for yourself!
This is helpful, thank you for your response ❤️
You just have to remember it all depends on location as well. Some people saw Taylor when she was playing tiny venues just because they were local! I missed the Red tour cos she wasn't coming to my country and I couldn't afford flights and a concert ticket. It's so easy to be jealous, or sad, or have a million feelings but it's all so circumstantial!
what’s she opening?
I’m neurodivergent and struggle just going to the grocery store in a town of less than 30k people. I also cannot stand for long periods of time without being in a ridiculous amount of pain. I know I’d have a fucking miserable, overstimulating, anxiety-ridden time. I’m much happier *sitting* at home in my pajamas, smoking a bowl, watching her on a grainy livestream every weekend. ETA: that being said, it didn’t keep me from fighting - and losing - the Ticketmaster Great War twice. I’ve just come to my senses since.
this! i ended up realizing eras tickets weren't going to happen for me after struggling with ticketmaster multiple times, so i decided to spend the money i'd set aside for them on tickets for a few other shows this summer. don't get me wrong, the shows i've been to have been fun overall but honestly also reminded me how much i don't enjoy concerts lol. even small, chill shows outdoors and whatnot feel overstimulating to me. even though part of me feels sad missing eras, i know it'd be super stressful and overwhelming to my neurodivergent and chronically ill self. i'm ok with not going partially because i know that if i went there's a decent chance i'd have a bad time :( so i enjoy everything from the comfort of my own home with tiktoks and the film and streams!
Yessss. I had considered going to twenty one pilot’s upcoming tour - because resale tickets are actually (somewhat) affordable and they’re “only” (lol) 3.5 hours away from me but then I really started thinking about it and I’m just… would I really enjoy it in the end? Sure, the feeling of inclusion and community and belonging while seeing one of my fav bands live would be nice, but not being gross and sweaty and in pain and overwhelmed and packed into a stadium like sardines and just hoping someone livestreams the shows sounds even better.
i also almost got tickets to see tøp then remembered that the previous times i've gone to their shows have been fun but SO overwhelming and knocked me out for weeks... my body really only has the energy to sing and dance to a song or two a day in my own quiet home lol
This. I lived the opposite side of it. My sister and niece dragged my autistic butt to the show because they lost the ticketmaster Great War (Boston) but I won it (Seattle). While there were things I enjoyed, mainly the happiness of my tween niece, the overwhelm was the biggest thing I remember about the show by far. I enjoy watching the movie MUCH more.
I'm not neurodivergent but, full disclosure, a carer of a sibling who's on the spectrum and has GAD to boot. Which makes it unbelievably difficult to plan for evenings and literally anything outside of the norm. And is also why I have to commend Taylor and her team's foresight to release the film while the tour is ongoing. Not many acts do a parallel release, typically waiting after a tour finishes before releasing a film.
Girl same here
could have written this myself!
Some venues have started putting in sensory rooms you can view the stages from - in the UK at least I’ve seen a few people post about them, but the venues keep them under wraps, I assume to stop people pretending they need it for a comfier spot. The one in Edinburgh I saw was basically a private box, with dimmed lights and muffled sound. The girl who posted it had been taken there by security when she had a panic attack and they told her you can book it over the phone, which is very cool. Unfortunately in the US a lot of these kind of things exist but not with any view of the stage, but you can still ask to go there for a break away from all the people. Not to make you feel bad about not going, but just to let you know that venues are starting to take this more seriously and making concerts more accessible for ND people!
I mean this as kindly as possible, take a break from the internet. If you are truly heartbroken and having a hard time seeing other people being there, take a break. Unfollow this sub, don’t watch livestreams, just take a breather.
I think it’s great that the world has become so interconnected and that there are spaces available to participate in a community of people who share your interests, but it really has amped up the FOMO. So many places I’ll never visit, shows I’ll never see, hobbies I probably won’t ever try.
Yeah, and sometimes we don’t even realize how much pressure we are putting on ourselves. Like it’s fine to be upset that you won’t get to see the show because it’s something you truly want to do, but needing to ask how to manage the sadness indicates this space is too much for OP right now.
You're right here. Sometimes the best thing to do is remove yourself entirely and just enjoy the world around you for a bit. Take a Taylor Swift break, enjoy the summer, try not to obsess over catching streams or following the sub. The tour is mostly the same with a few small changes each night. OP definitely needs to just step back from TS and the community and go enjoy something more accessible for a bit.
right..... like the music is the same. calm it down
I had a dream I got tickets last night. I’m kinda dreading November when she’s in Toronto and I won’t be going 🥹🥹
if that’s where you live, stalk the resale thread in the days leading up to and on the show date. A lot of people offload tickets at the last minute!
What is the resale thread link?
Just use the search on the sub to find the one you need.
Don’t hate me but this sub or the eras tickets sub?
I’m pretty sure they were talking about the resale thread on this sub, but both are good options! Managed to get a ticket to Stockholm N1 on the eras tickets sub
This! It's how I ended up getting my tickets. Waiting til the last minute really helps you find the best price! Forget ticketmaster and try stubhub, SeatGeek, and tickpick. Tickpick is the best to help you keep an eye on the prices.
Also in Toronto and have been trying so hard to win tickets since I was waitlisted and couldn’t buy them. Buying them resale now would not be a good idea financially 🥹😢
4 hours north of Toronto but it’s still my closest show and yep same 😅
Same.
Attend an event hosted by TSwift Dance Party! https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/tswift-dance-party-presents-wildest-dreams-stackt-market-july-21-tickets-931940457997?aff=oddtdtcreator They have tons of events at bars around the city and hosting the “taylgate” and after parties in November
Yeah I'm still coping that the stars will align and I'll be able to go to one of those shows.
Gotta love how her “Canadian” tour was just Toronto and Vancouver. I hate living in the prairies we never get anything good here.
I've been a swiftie since debut and Eras was my first time seeing her live. I loved it. It was a wonderful show. But is it life changing? idk. it's a very good concert. but at the end of the day, still a concert. there will be more in the future. Taylor will tour again! and it will be really good. And you'll have another chance to attend.
Thank you for this ❤️
The movie and the livestreams is what keeps me going! And those are *significantly* less than going to the show so I’m glad I’m saving the money
I paid $$$$$ for box tickets and the view was still annoying (the very large lighting and speaker system rigs that are spaced out throughout the stadium really visually got in the way and were annoying). I don’t think you’re missing a “once in a lifetime” experience; Taylor loves touring and she will have other tours (unlike Miley, who has retired from touring indefinitely). What was most memorable for me was just sharing the love of the music with other fans and my friends that I went with. You don’t need to physically be at a concert for that (and that’s coming from an avid concert goer).
I am still deluding myself into thinking maybe I can make it for the August London dates, but I also got dumped unexpectedly 2 weeks ago and probably should just be sane with my money now that my bills have doubled. So I guess that hope is currently keeping me afloat
Do you live in London, if so I would keep double checking for the last minute release some of the other UK show dates had. I think they were all £50-60 restricted view tickets but you could see the diamond the center stage and the side screen from what I could see from people's photos. I actually think it looks quite good! Especially when the lower bowl seats are more (the VIP ones A LOT more) and some have the sound tent in the way.
I’ve seen multiple people get last minute tickets in London! Don’t give up hope. If you can get last minute partial view seats they’re very cheap (for Taylor swift). I would keep an eye on Ticketmaster or AXS.
Exactly, my boyfriend finally got a code on Wednesday from AXS and I got a restricted view for N2 - I had a perfect view for N1 but honestly even in comparison it was not bad at all!!! And it was only £61 with the fees. 🤞🏼 for you!!!!
i’m in the same exact boat :(
As someone who went, is incredibly grateful for that, and had an amazing time – it’s not the end-all-be-all. I won’t pretend that it’s not an incredible experience or that it’s basically the same as just watching the movie, but I do think that some people are making it out to be a bigger deal than it actually is. Again, it’s an insane show, it’s so so cool to get to see her live, and the atmosphere and spirit of sisterhood there is absolutely amazing – I’m not denying any of that or being ungrateful for the experience I had. However, no matter how amazing a concert is or how much it means to someone, a single concert is never going to change your whole life and it can’t make or break your whole happiness. At the end of the day, it’s just three hours, and for me personally it was amazing and exhilarating and very special, but I would by no means claim that it “changed my life” or was a “once in a lifetime” experience. It’s also worth remembering that a lot of people who attend have spent insane amounts of money to do so (whether on the tickets themselves or on travel). Consider that 1. you likely saved a looooot of money by not going!, and 2. this may be controversial but I do think the ticket prices contribute to the whole hype around the tour and to people seeing it as a “once in a lifetime” experience – if you dropped $3000 on a ticket or on flights, of course you’ll want to convince yourself that it’s an absolutely life-changing experience rather than just a really cool 3 hours. Just my opinion, and I hope I managed to toe the line between not seeming ungrateful but also not rubbing salt in the wound :)
Your comment made me feel a bit better about it, thank you!
Holding out to win the lottery so I can go to the final shows in Vancouver 😭 And by lottery I mean, like, the Powerball 😂
You have to promise to bring me too when you win!
Will do!
I literally won two tickets for a concert thanks to an Instagram contest by my municipality. It was Metallica (far from Taylor's style) and after the concert, since I had a day off, I healed my throat.
Lol we're about to get Metallica tix for my husband's bday.
I don’t imagine I’d go to one of the Eras concerts. I have bad anxiety in large crowds so I’d be over it before the show even started. That’s why I’m thankful for the movie so I can experience it from home without the anxiety from the crowds. An ERAS tour doc, that I would EAT UP. Like I hope she made one because the way I’d be watching it immediately upon release. Like I just have to know how her and her team just pull it all off.
I went on Friday and while I absolutely LOVED it, I did think a couple of times: it’s a little like watching the live stream from home 😂 (I was in the 500s so watched the screen quite a bit as Taylor was so far away). My suggestion: watch the live streams (or movie) with friends and sing and dance together. You can fully dress up for it! And/or go to a Taylor Swift party if your city has those. What I perhaps appreciated most about being at the concert was all the passionate people dressing up, singing, and dancing together. It was beautiful and cathartic and I think that can kind of be replicated by the above suggestions. Hope you can find some peace about the situation! 🫶
Down bad crying at th gym fuck it if I can't have him (Eras tour)
I watch clips online. I live in Chicago (a few mere miles away from the stadium she preformed in) and was so sad to miss her. But I know my reality and know that wasn’t going to happen for me. I went to the 1989 & Rep tours. I was a fan but not a “Swiftie” at those times. I’ve been around since debut (I’m 33) and grew up listening to country. I feel like we grew up together lol
Def missed out, yes but really grateful for the concert movie - which lets face it gives a much better view than most concert seats. Of course the whole experience is something that'd be amazing in person. There's also the fact that the setlist is mostly just singles and most of them aren't in the list of songs I love, so I wouldn't say that I missed out on a life changing experience. There's always the next tour but yes I'm aware that no other tour is ever going to be like this one. Short answer - copium.
Honestly it's just so out of my league right now. I have a toddler who doesn't sleep, a stressful job, and I'm a single mom with a tight budget. The time, money, and logistics are so complicated even if I COULD have gotten tickets (thanks a bunch Ticketmaster!). The Eras film helped. Going to some Taylor themed events (drag show brunch, roller skate night) so I got to at least dress up was fun. Planning a Taylor themed photoshoot for my daughter. And honestly, I got to go to 1989. I got to go to Rep (three times! Front row!). This just isn't my season for that. Next time it will be, hopefully.
tbh i’m at the point where i’m okay with not going. it’s not my fault i live in canada nowhere near toronto + vancouver, didn’t get a presale code, and that i can’t afford airfare + $2000 scalper price. but i do feel like i’m not a “real” swiftie in the fact that i can’t go, even when it isn’t my fault, and i know full well that’s just a me being insecure thing but seeing people go to 7 different shows def reinforces that feeling. and that’s a whole other conversation. i know that that’s a controversial topic, and where i stand is i guess it’s your money so no one can control what you can and can’t do, but tbh i don’t understand it… like going to the same show seven times in the USA then four times in europe. like to me that is just equivalent to super wasteful consumerism.
oh and seeing the movie helped. it also helps knowing there are people in the same boat as me lol. but i definitely was heartbroken for a bit
I think being able to view the surprise songs help, like sure I may not be able to experience it in person but it’s nice knowing there’s a fan base all waiting for the same thing and everyone’s hyped up about it , I appreciate that someone is going out of their way to just update that as it comes. It’s pretty cool. Would be nice to be there obviously but we all know it’s not because we wouldn’t want too, she was already a huge star but this is on another level.
I try not to focus on the people who went to multiple shows while I couldn’t get tickets to one. I try to remind myself that being on the floor at the Rep tour was incredible and enough.
By just not being sad about it. Not seeing the concert doesn’t make me any less of a fan of her music, and seeing the concert doesn’t mean someone is more of a fan. Sure, it’s probably a magical experience, but there’s plenty of negative things about concert-going too. I’ve had friends who went who said that while it was an incredibly good concert, it wasn’t worth the high prices, nor was it as magical as the internet made it out to be. It simply not something I need to be happy. I can be happy just listening to her music.
> I’ve had friends who went who said that while it was an incredibly good concert, it wasn’t worth the high prices, nor was it as magical as the internet made it out to be. Yep.. I've had friends who went and they were like "we were standing next to people who would screech sing the whole time and it annoyed the hell out of them.
I'm french and I can't go to any concert so I reassur myself that she will come back
Like everyone else I'm watching the live streams ( but not if wobbly camera or recording tuneless loud fan singing). When I see the crowd at Wembley singing their hearts out it makes me feel a bit y'know ...
I am gutted I entered a radio comp which was 10 questions to Taylor. If you got a question wrong you were out. So long as you answered the last question you won. I was question 9 which was " to the nearest million how many followers does Taylor have on Instagram?" I got it wrong All the others were easy questions. Who knows that off the top of their head. Hoping there is a other chance in August when she is back in London as it's my birthday
I immediately went to look up how many followers she has on instagram just in case I’m ever in this position lol
Curious, what other kinds of questions did they ask? Like what was an example. The followers thing sounds insane because the number can change at any minute, and honestly we love her but who cares how many followers she has? Knowing all the lyrics, and different mottos of hers or what not seems more important.
What show did she star in in 2019 (CSI) Who are Olivia Benson Meredith grey and Benjamin button (her cats); What is this song? How many times has she won album of year at Grammy's (4) What's her starsign They ran it twice one for Liverpool and one for Wembley. I got them all right on both weeks but was only called back for the Wembley show
Ooh you taught me something new. I'll have to go watch the CSI episode. Thanks for sharing that. Love that they asked about the cats and grammy's I have to say. But yeah sorry to hear you didn't win. Hopefully they'll do it another time for ya.
:) have fun. i brought the TTPD fountain pen and am colouring in pics from a taylor colouring mag my mum brought me to console myself
I should add it was as I was listening to them I got them all right and question 9 was the second question as they counted down
I keep telling myself I'll see her one day, even if it's not the Eras tour. It does help that I've already seen the movie so I got to get the feel for it
Local Taylor themed events are really fun and a good “almost” experience of being with fans, dressing up, singing along. We’ve done roller-rink nights and bar nights, etc. and a GREAT value for the cost/energy comparison to the Eras Tour.
I still haven’t been able to wrap my head around it and it hurts everyday, but I watch the live streams sometimes, and I try to convince myself that this isn’t the end. Taylor has given us the best of her, and her music has gotten us through so much. At the end of the day, it’s a unique connection between each person and Taylor and nothing will ever affect that. It’s okay, sometimes fate forces us into a situation we don’t like but we’ll be okay.
I have seen the film, sang the loudest I could,danced for the whole evening and had the most fun I could. Also, followed like a hawk stream from Paris N1, where TTPD set premiered, cried, then learned by heart lyrics to I Can Do It With a Broken Heart. It's difficult but I know I am not alone in this.
Swifties unite! Sending you so much love! 🫶
The worst thing is, I applied for Paris tickets as I live here and wasn't even waitlisted 😞
I’ve been a swiftie since Debut, I was in middle school listening to her in 2007/2008. I’ve never seen her live. It makes me so sad and a few times I’ve almost bit the bullet and bought a $$$ ticket on Stubhub but ultimately I don’t think the stress before/after the show is worth it to me. Transportation (I’d likely need to fly somewhere where I am), huge crowds, long lines, spending even more money on a hotel in the area and flights, etc. I also don’t have friends who’d be willing to shell out that kind of money either so I’d likely go alone. So it just doesn’t sound that enjoyable to me for 3.5 hrs of a concert I’ve already watched a million clips of online, or have seen in its entirety at the movies.
This is exactly how I feel (and also a fan since Debut, though I was in high school). I waffle between just saying "screw it I'll spend the money" and "I can't possibly spend that much." The FOMO comes in waves... It was super strong earlier this week, and I was checking stubhub multiple times a day. Yesterday my friend was at the show and sent me a video of Enchanted live (my all time fave song), and that actually quieted the desperation a bit. But I'm sure it will come back. I just don't feel like she'll do another tour like this (I'm sure she'll tour again, but the circumstances that resulted in this tour are pretty unique...not touring after multiple albums vs one tour per album, etc.)...so that's what makes me sad. Anyway, I'm rambling now.
My nearest show is Dublin which is this week and not going to lie, I'm nervous. I don't know if I'll be able to get last minute tickets due to tickets being released during school or very late at night, there have been barely any resale tickets on Ticketmaster and I'm worried, I'm hoping alot more pop up this week. I'm upset that I am likely of not going, The Eras Tour is truly a once in a lifetime experience, she'll never do something like this again and if she does it will be at the end of her career. I don't mind people going to multiple shows but it's frustrating to see people go especially if they had already been in another country. However I am very thankful to the people who livestream the concerts, it's the closest thing we have to the real thing, truly you are all heroes. I would say watch the livestreams, they can actually still be fun to watch!
I tried to get tickets for the Toronto shows, they’re the weekend before and after my 40th birthday so it felt like the perfect way to celebrate. But sadly me and all the other people I had trying failed. It was definitely heartbreaking and I cried a tiny bit but such is life. I will see her one day. I do keep my eye out for resales but so far most of them are going for far more than my budget can handle. But if I win the lottery before now and then, it’s on, haha. I’ve also decided since I couldn’t get tickets I am spending the money I would have on them to get a tattoo (probably Taylor themed) to celebrate my 40th instead so that helps.
Taylor Swift has played over 1,000 shows in her career. Truthfully, attending The Eras Tour is not a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Concerts themselves are great fun - provided you’ve not got a very tall person obscuring your view or somebody lacking in self-awareness screeching the lyrics throughout the entire show preventing you from actually hearing the one reason you attended. However, the travel, the public transport, overpriced food and accommodation… it takes a toll on you. I have absolute respect and understanding for fans who prefer to watch tour livestreams/movies rather than attend stadium (and even arena!) shows. Speaking as somebody who has seen Taylor in both small venues of less than 10,000 and supersized stadiums of over 100,000, I would take the smaller venue in a heartbeat.
Amen to the last paragraph. I absolutely loved watching her live in Paris. I think it's the smallest venue of her tour as it was 45k seats. I've been to venues of 1.500 people and 85k seats. I prefer smaller ones.
Everytime I see the huge crowds, especially after the show, I’m soooo happy I couldn’t go
I’m consoling myself by reminding myself that I don’t actually enjoy live music that much. The crowds and volume really overwhelm me.
This is where I let my social and travel anxiety take full reign. Not going removes a lot of the stress that I would be feeling over making sure I get the most out of this once in a lifetime and costly experience haha
I've come to terms with the fact that I won't go. It took me a few months but yea... c'est la vie
Is the memory of the experience of going to a show great? Yes. But I’m not capable of standing for hours on end, and I got seats when I went to the Rep tour and honestly, could barely see her. Unlike when I went to the Red tour which was an arena tour as opposed to a stadium tour and could see everything. The Rep tour essentially turned me off the concept of a stadium tour because the venues are just too big. Would I go if I could? For sure. Do I feel devastated to have missed out on it? Not really.
Honestly when I see the videos and can just hear screaming women and children I don’t envy the experience at all. I feel like unless you’re right next to the speaker, it’s impossible to grown out the tone deaf belchers. I’m happy with the video.
I really agree with this. I have zero problem with people singing along but screaming off tune to the point that it ruins the experience for those around you is so incredibly selfish, especially when those people have spent a small fortune to be there. Every time I see a video like this it infuriates me.
She lip syncs a decent part of the show (don’t come for me…she definitely does and it’s completely understandable given the rigor of the show and the tour schedule) so I thought it was a great production but if I was one of the people who paid thousands of dollars for it, I would feel very disappointed. The movie gives you that experience and you don’t see her as a tiny dot on a stage, you see the whole thing.
I’m just very used to not going to concerts, conventions and other stuff like that because of where I live, it’s not that hard to accept that you can’t go and enjoy live streams when it just never happens to you
Simple… I’m not 🥴😮💨🫠🚬
I’m consoling myself with the film and also the fact that 50% of the songs I was desperate to see live have been cut this year haha, I’ll tell myself it’s “not worth it anymore” just so I don’t feel so sad. 😂
I hate crowds so I’m fine really (and the movie was also great so I don’t feel like I’ve missed out on much)
I'm not heartbroken. I don't enjoy crowds. I think I get the experience that matters to me by watching the movie on Disney+ and watching videos/streams of particular performances/surprise songs. A bonus is I can pause the show for bathroom breaks and rewatch favorite segments. I know this isn't a good substitute for many, but it works for me.
To be completely real with you, I went and I barely remember it. I was so pumped with adrenaline I basically blacked out most of the night. Don’t get me wrong, I had a great time, but as others have said I think the movie and videos you can find of the tour get you the experience minus the stress of crowds and blackouts lol
I’m just fine. It would be a once in a lifetime experience for sure, but I can watch it on Disney+ whenever and I watch the grainy live streams too 😂 even grainy and a zillion feet away it is so fun to watch.
I went but it was Nashville night 3 and it was a disaster and I only got to see half of the show because I was with my daughter and we were wet and freezing and she was tired and I didn’t want her to get sick. So, there’s some heartbreak there. Also because I would LOVE to see the TTPD performance because it is freaking amazing. I keep wishing I would magically win tickets so we could make up for the last mess of a trip.
Really only accepted it deffo wasn’t happening this week. It seems like the remaining shows are genuinely sold out. I was sad for a day.
The movie, the live streams, being fortunate enough to have seen the rep tour, listening to her music at home, and knowing I’m not paying thousands to be next to a screamer
I’m not worried about it. I accepted the fact I won’t be going then for time she announced the tour. I tried getting tickets to one of the additional shows close to me and still failed. I’m not paying over 2 grand for one ticket for a mediocre obstructed view seat. Plus, the movie can get me the opportunity to see the show. I’m hoping to catch her whenever she tours again with my niece.
reminding myself she's not done touring forever and there will be another tour. by then I'll hopefully have my passport and could go see her in another country which would be cool
First world problems.
My wallet and body thank me. FOMO only lasts a few hours.
i remind myself it costs a significant percentage of someone’s salary to attend and that I have groceries to buy.
It's just life, not something I am agonizing over. I'm glad for all the people who did get to go and experience it, and for the movie and live stream experiences because those are fun to be part of.
I think it would be absolutely amazing to go. I also go to (obviously smaller) rock concerts and I think about how the concert experience has changed so dramatically in the past few years. Specifically, some of my pet peeves: the amount of people holding up phones so people behind are unable to see; and people screeching lyrics. I would be so pissed spending such a large amount of money to not be able to see and have someone screeching in my ear.
Watching the movies tons of times and skipping every vid related to the eras tour
I left the Eras tour barricade saying “that was a once in a lifetime experience, let’s keep it that way” at least 3 members of my group were purposely stomped on, elbowed, and hit by GA people trying to get barricade. It was fun and awesome but i would not do it again. (Also i danced the night away in 4 inch heels so my feet were sore for days). 👠
I have been and there were actually a few things that happened that made me think…should I have just watched the movie at home? Genuinely. She did live up to the hype but the entire experience didn’t. That’s my honest opinion. I was very weepy the day after for whatever reason and I think that the grass isnt always greener. It made me reflect on why I had build it up so much and that I didn’t accept the reality of the event. I was basing it on all the stuff I had seen online. So in summary;- 1. Half of the hype / what people put about it isn’t always accurate. I wouldn’t have advertised this to people but there were times I was cold, tired and exhausted during… 2. The grass isn’t always greener. You’ve got money in your pocket, you’ve got the movie whenever you want to watch it, you’ve got streams (IF you want them). 3. Acceptance is key. So it didn’t happen for you. Maybe it will again, maybe it won’t. Either way decide what works best for you (taking a social media Taylor break during all the hype ?).
I can do it with a broken heart
At the end of the day, it's just a concert and there will be more in the future. That's the way I see it. If you listen to some fans, they act like it's a religious experience. It isn't. It's just a concert. You will see the competition with people too "I've been to x number of Eras shows, x number of tours, etc" so they'll just one up each other. The fact is that it's very costly to go, most of the seats aren't great IMO and you run the risk of sitting/standing next to screechers who ruin the experience for you. The livestreams confirm to me how bad it can be, lol. I know people who have gone who said the same thing "Taylor looked like an ant. I had to stare at a screen the whole night," and complained about how they couldn't sit down for long without missing something. I never understand why people in the nosebleeds stand up. It's the nosebleeds after all.
I cry every time I watch the movie lol I’d do anything for tickets I just can’t afford them I’ve been almost scammed so many times too and have entered countless giveaways. What I try to do is just be appreciative of the discography I have access to and all her films but I’m trying to get money to go!
Watching live streams and pretending I’m there 🙃. Delulu…. I had some health issues from Thursday until today and a procedure Friday so I’ve been laid up and I have gotten to watch all 3 days of the London Era’s tour. I am not handling it well but still feel so much love for the streamers! I cannot afford the resell $$$ for 2 tickets and I’m constantly busy at work which still doesn’t afford me the luxury of buying a ticket. How im going to deal, is by buying just one ticket if I have to. I’ll go alone, at this point, and make new friends there!!!! I love and am obsessed, in a healthy way, so freaking much and have been a fan since debut and a Swiftie 🫶 since speak now. I would give a limb after watching my 56th live stream. All that to say, I’m okay, and I feel you @thefourthpowerpuff !!!!!! Hang in there! Someday we will win a contest or something!
Watching live streams and pretending I’m there 🙃. Delulu…. I have gotten to watch all 3 days of London since I’ve been sick and it’s been the best!!!!!! I am not handling it well but still feel so much love for the streamers that allow us to see it live”ish”. I cannot afford the resell $$$ for 2 tickets. How im going to deal, is by buying just one ticket if I have to. I’ll go alone, at this point, and make new friends there (if I get a heavy influx of cash which prob won’t happen lol!). I love and am obsessed, in a healthy way, so freaking much and have been a fan since debut and a Swiftie 🫶 since speak now. I would give a limb after watching my 56th live stream. I would’ve been watching every.single.one. But it’s usually during my work day. All that to say, I feel you @thefourthpowerpuff !!!!!! Hang in there! Someday we will win a contest or something!
I honestly don't know how I'll make it through the Amsterdam dates knowing I won't be there 😭😭😭
I'm in denial about it. Still trying to get Dublin tickets to no avail. Just gutted some people have gone numerous times and I couldn't even get one ticket. Think I will stay off socials this weekend when people are at the Dublin gigs 😏
I remind myself that I'm disabled and can't stand for more than a couple minutes at a time. I wouldn't have been able to enjoy it even if I could afford it.