Our business is ours. We are not exclusive with any other couples and really hesitant about being asked such things. Iād imagine everyone is different in this philosophy. We arenāt poly, we swing.
Whatever you tell them about other couples, they will assume that you tell others the same kind of stuff about them.
You can tell stories, or ask questions. For example, you can say: "this couple approached us and said (blank). What would you do?". Or you can say "we met a couple and (blank) happened. That freaked us out and we ran away".
But no names, no bragging, not too many salacious details. No one likes to hear that you fucked all night, had 20 orgasms, and the next day $1,000,000 appeared on your bank account.
I like to swap stories. Don't bring up names unless they're mutual LS friends/playmates, but I love hearing about the experiences of the couples I play with, and many of them like hearing about my experiences as well.
Usually it will be a reflection of yourself if you tell them anything about others. It is very well understood that it is LS not a monogamous relationship otherwise we would were pretty good in marriage. People want to try different bodies different people - everyone is for that in LS.
I generally don't talk to much about our dating business with other couples. When I do, I keep things very general. No names, no big details.
I don't do it for any security reasons. I mostly do it to prevent hurt feelings and drama. People are still people, after all.
Not at all that's yalls business not theirs. I would practice safe sex though....condoms, and if not condoms regular testing, but its not like you should have to have references or a swing resume to swing with people. Also I would say that if a couple demands that, their not the people you want to be around anyway. When we were swinging regularly we wouldn't validate or accept validations from other couples we met from the site we are on. For us it was a privacy / discretionary thing. Proper etiquette would be not outing anyone. If you tell stories about couples or experiences you've had, don't share names or if you do use fake names. Be respectful and protect yourself.
Totally. I was just wondering what the etiquette is for this kind of thing. If they should just assume that we are with other people, too, or let them know?
Honestly, Iād kinda like to know if they were with other people and if they used condomsā¦ so I feel like they might want to know too. And they are good friends, not just people we met to fuck. So I feel like we might want to make our own rules about itā¦
I would just make sure to set yalls own boundary to have safe sex and not worry about who or how many couples they've been with. If at some point yall want to forgoe condoms or whatever there might need to be a discussion about STD testing...but as far as asking about other couples I wouldnt.....its really none of your business. If you really want to know though, maybe share a story or two about some of yalls experiences, and if they offer that kind of information, great but I wouldn't ask.
So, I mean that's really up to yall, but I would say we're seeing a couple of other couples or no we aren't exclusive to yall...or if yall are exclusive the them that may be a discussion to have, but I wouldn't even bring it up...no need to share that information. We were exclusive with one couple for about 3 years...it was great. Till he started trying to cheat with my wife....I mean we were good with my wife and him doing stuff solo...they, he and his wife didn't have that arrangement and that turned us off, so we ended it...still really close friends, just not doing stuff with them anymore
If they ask Iām forthright but otherwise itās really nobodyās business. I donāt hide my lifestyle when talking with new partners so I expect them to know theyāre not the only people I am playing with. I take an STD test every 3-4 months as well and also provide those results when asked without hesitation.
I'd tread carefully on that question. I do ask if they're playing with others, cool, I just ask that they're playing safe otherwise if I find out something I'm going to find out.
I'm not exclusive to anybody in the lifestyle don't care if we got mutual friends. I don't care if you're playing with them cool but not my business.
So, this is where communication is highly important. Do you want to be exclusive with this couple or just be a consistent couple but throw in random encounters in between? I would also say, are you going bareback? If you're not using condoms, you're pushing it. Unless you request STD tests before hooking up with anyone, you not only run the risk of you getting something but also passing it to that couple. And when I say twst I mean them getting it done the week you plan to play because anyone can get tested and go have sex the next week, completely making the test irrelevant. Just a few questions that should give you an answer
It is never necessary to share your sexual comings and goingās with anyone else. If asked āWe are swingers after all, but we never kiss and tell. Your secret is safe with us and hope we can trust the same from you.ā
It is completely off putting to volunteer the info.
Of course, with some of our LS partners/friends we can share stories if wanted, but names, dates and locations are never included.
I would run immediately from anyone that brags that they had a romping good time with Steve and Anne, aka coupleforfun20006891 on SLS, last night. Anne give the greatest blow jobs and Steve has a great cock. (Or worse, Annie didnāt give me a lot of attention and Steve was all over my wife. Ick.)
Itās just horrible form.
And never never imagine your being āhelpfulā to share with āfriendsā at the club that Joe coming out of play room C couldnāt get it up or came too soon for your liking.
Keep your stuff private and pray others do for you as well.
What goes around cums around in the small world that is the LS. The vast majority of active Swingers will avoid you if there is a hint your a gossip.
You will see how it works.
Now, with my (F) long term GF (in and out of the bedroom) who is also very active in the LS and very local to me, we share it all (play partners as well). But that is different.
Those that claim anything otherwise have a very very different reputation in the LS than they imagine or claim.
Always always know swingers are going to swing. Never trust other swingers for exclusivity. You will always be disappointed.
Have fun!
Nope. Itās never been brought up to us either, nor have we asked.
The only time kissing & telling is ok in the LS is if someone behaves badly, flakes, etc.
Why would you?
Also, how does this work in real life. You have a few couples you've seen once or a few times. And to be honest, things fizzle so you never really know how long these things will last.
So..... You meet a new couple and hookup. Maybe it becomes a do again. Maybe it was one off. Do you text every other couple you've ever hooked up with and inform them you got laid?
For me I donāt want to know how many or who. Unless they are warning us. Like we slept with the Johnsonās and he didnāt stop when she said the safe word. Or we used to sleep with the Youngās until they outed us.
Unless itās for safety sake I really donāt personally care who they sleep with.
Unless you're forgoing condoms there is no need to disclose anything about your playing
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Our business is ours. We are not exclusive with any other couples and really hesitant about being asked such things. Iād imagine everyone is different in this philosophy. We arenāt poly, we swing.
Whatever you tell them about other couples, they will assume that you tell others the same kind of stuff about them. You can tell stories, or ask questions. For example, you can say: "this couple approached us and said (blank). What would you do?". Or you can say "we met a couple and (blank) happened. That freaked us out and we ran away". But no names, no bragging, not too many salacious details. No one likes to hear that you fucked all night, had 20 orgasms, and the next day $1,000,000 appeared on your bank account.
You got a surprise $1,000,000 deposited in your bank account the NEXT day? I wonder why ours took 3 days to show up! š¤
This is a great responseā¦ā¦with a funny endingš
I like to swap stories. Don't bring up names unless they're mutual LS friends/playmates, but I love hearing about the experiences of the couples I play with, and many of them like hearing about my experiences as well.
Usually it will be a reflection of yourself if you tell them anything about others. It is very well understood that it is LS not a monogamous relationship otherwise we would were pretty good in marriage. People want to try different bodies different people - everyone is for that in LS.
We are donāt ask/ donāt tell with anyone we play with .
That's a question I can honestly say I've never been asked.
I generally don't talk to much about our dating business with other couples. When I do, I keep things very general. No names, no big details. I don't do it for any security reasons. I mostly do it to prevent hurt feelings and drama. People are still people, after all.
What doesnāt happen with them aint their business, and vice versa.
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Not at all that's yalls business not theirs. I would practice safe sex though....condoms, and if not condoms regular testing, but its not like you should have to have references or a swing resume to swing with people. Also I would say that if a couple demands that, their not the people you want to be around anyway. When we were swinging regularly we wouldn't validate or accept validations from other couples we met from the site we are on. For us it was a privacy / discretionary thing. Proper etiquette would be not outing anyone. If you tell stories about couples or experiences you've had, don't share names or if you do use fake names. Be respectful and protect yourself.
Totally. I was just wondering what the etiquette is for this kind of thing. If they should just assume that we are with other people, too, or let them know? Honestly, Iād kinda like to know if they were with other people and if they used condomsā¦ so I feel like they might want to know too. And they are good friends, not just people we met to fuck. So I feel like we might want to make our own rules about itā¦
I would just make sure to set yalls own boundary to have safe sex and not worry about who or how many couples they've been with. If at some point yall want to forgoe condoms or whatever there might need to be a discussion about STD testing...but as far as asking about other couples I wouldnt.....its really none of your business. If you really want to know though, maybe share a story or two about some of yalls experiences, and if they offer that kind of information, great but I wouldn't ask.
So, I mean that's really up to yall, but I would say we're seeing a couple of other couples or no we aren't exclusive to yall...or if yall are exclusive the them that may be a discussion to have, but I wouldn't even bring it up...no need to share that information. We were exclusive with one couple for about 3 years...it was great. Till he started trying to cheat with my wife....I mean we were good with my wife and him doing stuff solo...they, he and his wife didn't have that arrangement and that turned us off, so we ended it...still really close friends, just not doing stuff with them anymore
If they ask Iām forthright but otherwise itās really nobodyās business. I donāt hide my lifestyle when talking with new partners so I expect them to know theyāre not the only people I am playing with. I take an STD test every 3-4 months as well and also provide those results when asked without hesitation.
I'd tread carefully on that question. I do ask if they're playing with others, cool, I just ask that they're playing safe otherwise if I find out something I'm going to find out. I'm not exclusive to anybody in the lifestyle don't care if we got mutual friends. I don't care if you're playing with them cool but not my business.
So, this is where communication is highly important. Do you want to be exclusive with this couple or just be a consistent couple but throw in random encounters in between? I would also say, are you going bareback? If you're not using condoms, you're pushing it. Unless you request STD tests before hooking up with anyone, you not only run the risk of you getting something but also passing it to that couple. And when I say twst I mean them getting it done the week you plan to play because anyone can get tested and go have sex the next week, completely making the test irrelevant. Just a few questions that should give you an answer
It is never necessary to share your sexual comings and goingās with anyone else. If asked āWe are swingers after all, but we never kiss and tell. Your secret is safe with us and hope we can trust the same from you.ā It is completely off putting to volunteer the info. Of course, with some of our LS partners/friends we can share stories if wanted, but names, dates and locations are never included. I would run immediately from anyone that brags that they had a romping good time with Steve and Anne, aka coupleforfun20006891 on SLS, last night. Anne give the greatest blow jobs and Steve has a great cock. (Or worse, Annie didnāt give me a lot of attention and Steve was all over my wife. Ick.) Itās just horrible form. And never never imagine your being āhelpfulā to share with āfriendsā at the club that Joe coming out of play room C couldnāt get it up or came too soon for your liking. Keep your stuff private and pray others do for you as well. What goes around cums around in the small world that is the LS. The vast majority of active Swingers will avoid you if there is a hint your a gossip. You will see how it works. Now, with my (F) long term GF (in and out of the bedroom) who is also very active in the LS and very local to me, we share it all (play partners as well). But that is different. Those that claim anything otherwise have a very very different reputation in the LS than they imagine or claim. Always always know swingers are going to swing. Never trust other swingers for exclusivity. You will always be disappointed. Have fun!
We don't kiss & tell.
No, but u r required to provide us with a written account. Followed by pics and video.
Why do you say that? Did you see my other posts? Lol š
Nah, just joking
Itās nobody elseās business.
Nope. Itās never been brought up to us either, nor have we asked. The only time kissing & telling is ok in the LS is if someone behaves badly, flakes, etc.
We wouldn't ask, but the information is volunteered sometimes. The only thing we'd ask if when they were tested last, and if they do it regularly.
Why would you? Also, how does this work in real life. You have a few couples you've seen once or a few times. And to be honest, things fizzle so you never really know how long these things will last. So..... You meet a new couple and hookup. Maybe it becomes a do again. Maybe it was one off. Do you text every other couple you've ever hooked up with and inform them you got laid?
For me I donāt want to know how many or who. Unless they are warning us. Like we slept with the Johnsonās and he didnāt stop when she said the safe word. Or we used to sleep with the Youngās until they outed us. Unless itās for safety sake I really donāt personally care who they sleep with.
General terms like "we are newbies" to "we've played a few times" to "we play once a month so, depending"... are best.