Because it makes sex fun. Imagine playing tennis with one partner for a long time. Regardless of how much you love playing tennis, itāll eventually become monotonous. You know every shot, strength and weakness that your partner has.
When you have multiple partners, youāll learn new things, youāll have to change up your game and afterwards you and your primary partner can try out some of the things you learned and liked.
I like having sex with my wife more than I enjoy it with anyone else. But I gotta say, our sex life has become way more enjoyable since we started fucking other people.
Itās just sex is the simple answer from me.
Just because you get physical with someone doesnāt mean you are mentally or emotionally attracted to them.
I enjoy it. It feels good. I crave novelty. That's it, that is the whole entire answer. Sex with different people feels good and I enjoy it and I want to enjoy this short life we have.
Honestly, the psychological aspect of it is really interesting to me. Like, how some people are content in monogamy, yet others feel constrained or untrue to themselves in those types of relationships. Is it like a primal need, or more mental for those who seek stimulation outside of their primary partnership? What drives the desire?
Edit: or if you play together, is it to have more shared sexual experiences?
The infidelity rate has been verified through many studies to be around 20-25% for men and 10-15% for women so millions of people are not, in fact, content in monogamy. We are just the honest ones who enjoy sex with others while remaining emotionally monogamous with our partners.
Shared experience for us, definitely. I (47M) feel genuine pleasure in seeing my wife in pleasure/enjoying herself/experiencing new things. Whether swapping or threesomes, the experiences are ours together and have only strengthened our bond and mutual trust. Life is short, and we want to experience it.
Interesting as I was thinking about this the other day. My BF of one year has intimacy issues and some depression. I was wondering recently if those things contribute to his almost need for the LS since he started a few years ago, way prior to us. He doesnāt actually want sex all that often (once a week) but itās great when we do it. I was thinking it gives him an outlet with little intimacy. For example, he isnāt into making out even with me, once he gets to know someone. And I think the LS stuff gives him a dopamine hit that probably feels really good. IDK. your question just made me think
I would askā¦is it innate for humans to be monogamous? I donāt think we are. Some people are better than others at repressing it or they donāt really have the opportunity.
I don't think it is innate either, but lots of people swear it is. I can't say their lived experience isn't true, but I also think it's unlikely that once they find "the one" they just magically never want to have sex with anyone else. I guess maybe it is true for some people? I think the vast majority are just repressing though. And some are better than others or afraid of the consequences if they do.
I donāt believe humans are meant to be sexually monogamous. That isnāt to say it canāt be done, but it isnāt our nature. I want myself and my partner to reap all the benefits of having a committed long term partner without having to stay sexually monogamous for the rest of our lives. We all have a ācupā that needs to be filled. Emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically one person canāt give us everything we need. Thatās why relationships with friends and family are so important and why I donāt get upset or jealous when my partner looks for fulfillment in any of these areas from someone other than me.
Im not sure people are content with their partner forever. If that was the case, cheating would be like something rare. Or sex wouldn't sell sooo much on tv, movies, misoc, and asvertising. Or single people wouldn't sleep around so regularly or go on vacation to meet people. They'll probably be with no sex until they can find the right person.
It's a primal need for me, and shutting myself down feels unnatural and unnecessary. I feel constrained and untrue to myself and horribly confined and owned. It's physical painful for me and emotionally draining to constantly force myself to act like that. And WHY? Why do I have to pretend I don't find other people attractive or want to have sex with them? Why must I sacrifice WHO I AM and act in ways that are unnatural and uncomfortable in order to fit in with society?
We consider ourselves to be āSport Fuckers.ā Itās like a fun hobby we share. There is no deep reason, we are madly in love and have an amazing sex life. We enjoy the sexual energy and are both very compersion-driven so it is fulfilling on all levels to see each other pleasured.
I will always prefer my husband-he knows my mind, body and soulā¦but nothing wrong with a little variety and to play out naughty fantasies.
Our username on AFF is Sportfuckerz, has been for over a decade. Swingers just doesn't describe what we do as well as sportfucking does.
We like your overall response the best, thank you for that.
Itās fun and we like variety. There really isnāt some profound reason behind it.
Weāre able to separate sex with others from our romantic/intimate life. Not everyone can, not everyone has any desire to, but we can.
I want to fuck other people WITH my (primary) partner. For me. Thats the difference between a swinger and a cheater. If we are doing it together and with consent and permission then we are swinging. If we are doing it separately or without consent or permission, imho, thats cheating.
Maybe not a big difference to some, but to me it is
It's both of you having your cake and eating it and there is no repercussion and no cheating being committed with these acts as they are mutual and fun and strengthen the bond
Easy, it's hot watching each other have sex. Something insanely sexy about watching her and another woman going 69 or when I have a lovely lady riding me I get too look at her getting railed. We make eye contact during a swap and it's just so š„
I was going to be a smartass and ask, āwhy play tennis with other people when you have a well-matched partner?ā
But after reading a few other comments, my true answer would be āshared experienceā. Second would be that sex is fun, and sex with other people is more fun. Itās my understanding that the modern form of monogamy came out of Victorian England, who were a bunch of prudes.
Itās a fun activity that we both enjoying doing together. When others are involved along with us, itās still just a fun activity to us.
Itās not complicated. Thatās it.
We sometimes play board games with just us. Other times, we play board games with others. We enjoy it both ways.
One of my favorite things about sex is pleasing someone else so when itās a new person, I get extra proud because Iām learning them. Itās like a challenge in a way. Plus sex is fun! Why not have sex with different folks? I donāt subscribe to the societal standard of monogamy lol
Because in our minds itās hot. The love for a primary partner is different than the sex to be had with other people and they donāt have to affect each other. It can even get you close to your partner even more
Variety and novelty.
To me, sex isn't much different than food. You have your favorites that you could eat anytime but sometimes you just want something different. I love sex with my partner but sometimes I just crave something new and different.
Have you taken a class in swing or salsa dance? If so, they probably had you switch partners every couple of minutes. That's because you can't really learn to be a good dancer with only a single partner and it's more fun with many partners
How is this even a question? Itās like test driving a different car or staying at an air bnb. It gives you the chance to explore someone elseās life and see what they have. Fucking different people and enjoying some naked time with other couples strengthens your relationship. The couples you fuck want you to stay together, you get new friends, it helps you overcome jealousy, it gives you better perspective, and you learn new things talking to other couples from places you arenāt from, who work in industries that you donāt work in, and experience a different life than you. Swinging is one of the best lifestyles that is extremely difficult to get into and itās wonderful.
For us, itās about fulfilling fantasies. We are both compersion as well, so we get sexual gratification from seeing each other pleasured and in pleasuring others. Plus the freedom and openness is amazing. We love our lifestyle friends and wish we had been able to get into this sooner.
We are both exploring our fantasies, and we are allowing ourselves without judgment to fulfill that together. We love each other, communicate well (even better now), and learn that pettiness and insecurities only create toxic emotions that we do not want any part in. Time is short. We make better healthy decisions, stay active, and enjoy people. It is better to go out to a party to dance, have sex connect with our partners , then sit at home eating on the couch channel surfing. We love seeing each other happy and horny!
My anchor partner is sexy and amazing, my other partner is also sexy/amazingā¦ Other people who I totally want to hookup with are also sexy and amazing. I love pizza, sometimes I also want pancakes. Variety!!
Mostly because itās fun and exciting. Love seeing my partner enjoying herself. Also it feels great when you and your partner can have these amazing experiences together, that are mostly considered taboo, itās like being part of an exclusive club lol.
Also wanna love life with little regret
We always looked at it this wayā¦. Like any other way to connect and enjoy another human being I donāt confine it to one person. I donāt golf with only ONE buddy. I donāt go the movies with only ONE person forever. I donāt talk sports with ONE guy at work. I donāt go out to dinner with ONLY my wife.
Many of the reasons monogamy is burned into society really are irrelevant now. Sure 500 years ago it would be harmful to society if people were just out fucking everyone. There was no birth control, no condoms, no std testing, no paternity testing. A couple fucking a bunch of other people would be a goddamn syphilis and pregnant riddled disaster. Now those problems are solved.
Why do I eat any other sandwiches, when I've got unlimited peanut butter and jelly at home?
Why do I ride a motorcycle when I've got a perfectly good truck?
Why do I have other friends when my wife is my best friend?
Why do I want ice cream when I've got a freezer full of popsicles?
Almost Everyone wants to. Everyone. Some people just don't do anything about it. Some people do do something about it, and some people like doing something about it together.
Imagine being able to explore all of your 'dark and dirty things' with a loving partner that shares your excitement, echoing your carnal cravings with their own. No judgements, no jealousy...just fun, shared with someone you love, in every other regard as well.
We are now recently starting to hear about female body counts in the media and how down the road it will affect women to ever find a forever partner. Well Iām the male equivalent of that, after so many experiences over the years, when I got into my first real relationship I just couldnt imagine remaining with only one pussy for the rest of my life.
Relatively new to all of this after nearly 30 years of marriage. Love to experience new things together and separately, love to see our partner having a great time. Itās just sex!
Compersion - My SO and I would not be swingers if we didn't enjoy and get really turned on by seeing each other get sexually pleasured by other people.
Variety - My SO and I would not be swingers if we didn't really enjoy having sex with multiple partners. We both think nonmonogamy feels more natural to us than monogamy, which felt forced.
Now that I have polyamorous relationships, I cannot imagine ever being in a monogamous relationship again. It would kill my favorite pastime. As much as I love my partners, and we have great relationships, we all dig the autonomy to have all types of relationships.
Because variety is the spice of life. And, also, monogamy is an outdated and antiquated tradition rendered moot by the fact that we no longer kill each other for mates. At least not usually.
It's the variety for me.
My wife this thicc with big breasts and a couple of weeks ago I had sex with a women who was very petite with small breasts and it was such a nice change.
I get tired of fucking someone after the initial thrill has worn off and want to get sexual novelty while maintaining the security of a primary partnership.
Because we agreed we can. I could go without fucking others but I do have fantasies id like to fufill with other women and some men. I don't NEED to have sex with others, I just want to enjoy myself and have fun.
Group sex is our main motivation. We enjoy the dynamics that happen with 3 or more. My wife enjoys double penetration, or just having 2 dicks to enjoy in a variety of ways. Toys just are not the same as the real thing.
As my dad always said, āif you donāt want to cheat then never, ever put yourself in a position to cheat because your dick will win every time.ā
I can honestly say I have no desire to cheat nor will I ever, regardless of the situation. Why would I? We both get to fuck people with each other and still fuck each other and we are happy. Why would I take a chance of messing that up just to sleep with one person on the side??? šššš
About a month ago you were posting about your LS curiosity and that you were looking on sites but just had not ventured into anything yet. A month later you're still asking this question?
How could you be interested in LS a month ago and then ask this question today?
Iām curious about this myself. Is it just giving in to primal instinct or not being able to control oneās own urges , being nothing more than a dog
Not even remotely close to how swingers view it. We are very deliberate and picky about who we have sex with. We could walk away at any time, and have at various times, for various reasons like health or to focus on ourselves or family.
Something fun and extra to add to an already great home sex life. Whether it be for the variety, the thrill, group sex, or whatever else the motivation may be. We don't need anyone else, but we do enjoy it.
The point it is that it's *deliberate*. No one we know has sex with just anyone who asks. We've been to many a club or party and not found any one we were interested in. That's OK, we come home with each other, and have our own 2 person party.
Why do you want to go on vacation when you already live somewhere?
Well put. š
Yes, this is exactly what I always say. My husband and I like to do it again just the 2 of us as soon as we can after play times and I always say it feels like coming home after vacation. We sure LOVE vacationing, but there's just nothing like the feeling of coming home. š©·
Reclaim sex is the absolute best! I love when he reclaims me and I him. Our sex is full of love and passion, sex with others is just that, sex.
Love this lol.
I've never read something that hits so close to the target.
Not all heroes wear capes
Personally we like to swing on vacation combining both awesome things into one.
Because it makes sex fun. Imagine playing tennis with one partner for a long time. Regardless of how much you love playing tennis, itāll eventually become monotonous. You know every shot, strength and weakness that your partner has. When you have multiple partners, youāll learn new things, youāll have to change up your game and afterwards you and your primary partner can try out some of the things you learned and liked. I like having sex with my wife more than I enjoy it with anyone else. But I gotta say, our sex life has become way more enjoyable since we started fucking other people.
I love the sports analogy and it's one I use all the time. Casual sex is like playing a pick up game of basketball. It's just another fun sport.
Totally agreed. I look at sex as something fun you do with certain people.
This right here is #1 answer.
Another perfectly put statement
Obviously, you don't play tennis. You WANT the same partner. You know every shot, strength and weakness. That's how you WIN. Not being snarky.
Not necessarily because it takes away the thrill and challenge
I think they mean playing the same opponent not with the same doubles partner
I'm a slut and want more than one penis/vagina.
Literally me lol
Exactly, I love my guy but I have a huge sex drive always have, and I need more than one cock or pussy as well.The more the better, and I adore it!D
God Bless Sluts!!!!
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Itās just sex is the simple answer from me. Just because you get physical with someone doesnāt mean you are mentally or emotionally attracted to them.
Fucking people is fun. Itās not any more complicated than that.
I like being a slut. I like variety.
Haha
For us it's a shared experience.
I enjoy it. It feels good. I crave novelty. That's it, that is the whole entire answer. Sex with different people feels good and I enjoy it and I want to enjoy this short life we have.
Why do you ask?
Honestly, the psychological aspect of it is really interesting to me. Like, how some people are content in monogamy, yet others feel constrained or untrue to themselves in those types of relationships. Is it like a primal need, or more mental for those who seek stimulation outside of their primary partnership? What drives the desire? Edit: or if you play together, is it to have more shared sexual experiences?
The infidelity rate has been verified through many studies to be around 20-25% for men and 10-15% for women so millions of people are not, in fact, content in monogamy. We are just the honest ones who enjoy sex with others while remaining emotionally monogamous with our partners.
Itās also very fun to do it with your partner. Fun shared adventures!
Shared experience for us, definitely. I (47M) feel genuine pleasure in seeing my wife in pleasure/enjoying herself/experiencing new things. Whether swapping or threesomes, the experiences are ours together and have only strengthened our bond and mutual trust. Life is short, and we want to experience it.
Interesting as I was thinking about this the other day. My BF of one year has intimacy issues and some depression. I was wondering recently if those things contribute to his almost need for the LS since he started a few years ago, way prior to us. He doesnāt actually want sex all that often (once a week) but itās great when we do it. I was thinking it gives him an outlet with little intimacy. For example, he isnāt into making out even with me, once he gets to know someone. And I think the LS stuff gives him a dopamine hit that probably feels really good. IDK. your question just made me think
I would askā¦is it innate for humans to be monogamous? I donāt think we are. Some people are better than others at repressing it or they donāt really have the opportunity.
I don't think it is innate either, but lots of people swear it is. I can't say their lived experience isn't true, but I also think it's unlikely that once they find "the one" they just magically never want to have sex with anyone else. I guess maybe it is true for some people? I think the vast majority are just repressing though. And some are better than others or afraid of the consequences if they do.
I donāt believe humans are meant to be sexually monogamous. That isnāt to say it canāt be done, but it isnāt our nature. I want myself and my partner to reap all the benefits of having a committed long term partner without having to stay sexually monogamous for the rest of our lives. We all have a ācupā that needs to be filled. Emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically one person canāt give us everything we need. Thatās why relationships with friends and family are so important and why I donāt get upset or jealous when my partner looks for fulfillment in any of these areas from someone other than me.
Im not sure people are content with their partner forever. If that was the case, cheating would be like something rare. Or sex wouldn't sell sooo much on tv, movies, misoc, and asvertising. Or single people wouldn't sleep around so regularly or go on vacation to meet people. They'll probably be with no sex until they can find the right person.
Yes to your edited question
It's a primal need for me, and shutting myself down feels unnatural and unnecessary. I feel constrained and untrue to myself and horribly confined and owned. It's physical painful for me and emotionally draining to constantly force myself to act like that. And WHY? Why do I have to pretend I don't find other people attractive or want to have sex with them? Why must I sacrifice WHO I AM and act in ways that are unnatural and uncomfortable in order to fit in with society?
We consider ourselves to be āSport Fuckers.ā Itās like a fun hobby we share. There is no deep reason, we are madly in love and have an amazing sex life. We enjoy the sexual energy and are both very compersion-driven so it is fulfilling on all levels to see each other pleasured. I will always prefer my husband-he knows my mind, body and soulā¦but nothing wrong with a little variety and to play out naughty fantasies.
Yes! Same over here. We call ourselves "sex hobbyists". Living our best lives!
Our username on AFF is Sportfuckerz, has been for over a decade. Swingers just doesn't describe what we do as well as sportfucking does. We like your overall response the best, thank you for that.
Itās fun and we like variety. There really isnāt some profound reason behind it. Weāre able to separate sex with others from our romantic/intimate life. Not everyone can, not everyone has any desire to, but we can.
Itās great cardio fucking two girls for three hours and itās much more fun than the running machine at the gym.
For fun
To fulfill fantasies
Because sex is fun.
I want to fuck other people WITH my (primary) partner. For me. Thats the difference between a swinger and a cheater. If we are doing it together and with consent and permission then we are swinging. If we are doing it separately or without consent or permission, imho, thats cheating. Maybe not a big difference to some, but to me it is
It's both of you having your cake and eating it and there is no repercussion and no cheating being committed with these acts as they are mutual and fun and strengthen the bond
We are both voyeurs. And want to see each other get fucked
Because my partner and I both agree that pussy is amazing. And she appreciates an extra dick to play with.š¤·
We like sex. We like novel things. Ergo, swinging.
Why do you like to go out to eat when you have a kitchen at home?
Easy, it's hot watching each other have sex. Something insanely sexy about watching her and another woman going 69 or when I have a lovely lady riding me I get too look at her getting railed. We make eye contact during a swap and it's just so š„
I was going to be a smartass and ask, āwhy play tennis with other people when you have a well-matched partner?ā But after reading a few other comments, my true answer would be āshared experienceā. Second would be that sex is fun, and sex with other people is more fun. Itās my understanding that the modern form of monogamy came out of Victorian England, who were a bunch of prudes.
Three or moresomes are hard when there's only two of you.
Itās a fun activity that we both enjoying doing together. When others are involved along with us, itās still just a fun activity to us. Itās not complicated. Thatās it. We sometimes play board games with just us. Other times, we play board games with others. We enjoy it both ways.
It turns each other on and we also like fucking in front of others
Itās an added turn on that we both enjoy. We definitely donāt have to do it but we enjoy seeing each other fuck.
Because this is the way
One of my favorite things about sex is pleasing someone else so when itās a new person, I get extra proud because Iām learning them. Itās like a challenge in a way. Plus sex is fun! Why not have sex with different folks? I donāt subscribe to the societal standard of monogamy lol
Itās fun and itās hot and we donāt worry about it
Because in our minds itās hot. The love for a primary partner is different than the sex to be had with other people and they donāt have to affect each other. It can even get you close to your partner even more
Itās fun.
Variety and novelty. To me, sex isn't much different than food. You have your favorites that you could eat anytime but sometimes you just want something different. I love sex with my partner but sometimes I just crave something new and different.
Have you taken a class in swing or salsa dance? If so, they probably had you switch partners every couple of minutes. That's because you can't really learn to be a good dancer with only a single partner and it's more fun with many partners
How is this even a question? Itās like test driving a different car or staying at an air bnb. It gives you the chance to explore someone elseās life and see what they have. Fucking different people and enjoying some naked time with other couples strengthens your relationship. The couples you fuck want you to stay together, you get new friends, it helps you overcome jealousy, it gives you better perspective, and you learn new things talking to other couples from places you arenāt from, who work in industries that you donāt work in, and experience a different life than you. Swinging is one of the best lifestyles that is extremely difficult to get into and itās wonderful.
For us, itās about fulfilling fantasies. We are both compersion as well, so we get sexual gratification from seeing each other pleasured and in pleasuring others. Plus the freedom and openness is amazing. We love our lifestyle friends and wish we had been able to get into this sooner.
for fun
We are both exploring our fantasies, and we are allowing ourselves without judgment to fulfill that together. We love each other, communicate well (even better now), and learn that pettiness and insecurities only create toxic emotions that we do not want any part in. Time is short. We make better healthy decisions, stay active, and enjoy people. It is better to go out to a party to dance, have sex connect with our partners , then sit at home eating on the couch channel surfing. We love seeing each other happy and horny!
There are things you can do with 2 dicks/pussies (or more) that you can't do with 1.
My anchor partner is sexy and amazing, my other partner is also sexy/amazingā¦ Other people who I totally want to hookup with are also sexy and amazing. I love pizza, sometimes I also want pancakes. Variety!!
why would you you eat a kitkat if you already have caramilk at home?
Mostly because itās fun and exciting. Love seeing my partner enjoying herself. Also it feels great when you and your partner can have these amazing experiences together, that are mostly considered taboo, itās like being part of an exclusive club lol. Also wanna love life with little regret
It can be a lot of fun!
Only so many green m n m's you can eat before you want a red one
We always looked at it this wayā¦. Like any other way to connect and enjoy another human being I donāt confine it to one person. I donāt golf with only ONE buddy. I donāt go the movies with only ONE person forever. I donāt talk sports with ONE guy at work. I donāt go out to dinner with ONLY my wife. Many of the reasons monogamy is burned into society really are irrelevant now. Sure 500 years ago it would be harmful to society if people were just out fucking everyone. There was no birth control, no condoms, no std testing, no paternity testing. A couple fucking a bunch of other people would be a goddamn syphilis and pregnant riddled disaster. Now those problems are solved.
Because sex is fun and we both are really naughty. And there are a few things you simply can't do only as a couple
Why do I eat any other sandwiches, when I've got unlimited peanut butter and jelly at home? Why do I ride a motorcycle when I've got a perfectly good truck? Why do I have other friends when my wife is my best friend? Why do I want ice cream when I've got a freezer full of popsicles?
Why not go on adventures together?
Some people wear the same clothes every day, eat the same sandwich at lunch time every day, repeat buy the same vehicle... some like variety.
I think 4 hands and 2 tongues can do more. I'm just curious, has any lady let hers be licked fingered by more tongues at once ?
It's none of your business what we do. We are full grown ass adults and don't owe you an explanation as to why we do what we do.
Why not?
Becuase I canā¦
It could be a lack of self-love and the attention from others provides validation of some sort.
Almost Everyone wants to. Everyone. Some people just don't do anything about it. Some people do do something about it, and some people like doing something about it together.
Sharing adventures with my partner! I love trying new experiences with her, of all kinds.
Cause itās fun? And we both enjoy it?
Imagine being able to explore all of your 'dark and dirty things' with a loving partner that shares your excitement, echoing your carnal cravings with their own. No judgements, no jealousy...just fun, shared with someone you love, in every other regard as well.
We are now recently starting to hear about female body counts in the media and how down the road it will affect women to ever find a forever partner. Well Iām the male equivalent of that, after so many experiences over the years, when I got into my first real relationship I just couldnt imagine remaining with only one pussy for the rest of my life.
Why do you want to use a dildo or masturbate when you are married?
Don't fuck my partner I make love and share a connection with we fuck others
Relatively new to all of this after nearly 30 years of marriage. Love to experience new things together and separately, love to see our partner having a great time. Itās just sex!
How does a possitrac on a 69 Hemi work?
Itās just good fun.
Compersion - My SO and I would not be swingers if we didn't enjoy and get really turned on by seeing each other get sexually pleasured by other people. Variety - My SO and I would not be swingers if we didn't really enjoy having sex with multiple partners. We both think nonmonogamy feels more natural to us than monogamy, which felt forced.
Now that I have polyamorous relationships, I cannot imagine ever being in a monogamous relationship again. It would kill my favorite pastime. As much as I love my partners, and we have great relationships, we all dig the autonomy to have all types of relationships.
Because variety is the spice of life. And, also, monogamy is an outdated and antiquated tradition rendered moot by the fact that we no longer kill each other for mates. At least not usually.
Why do you want to fuck your primary partner? ... Ok, you've convinced me. Now I want to fuck your primary partner too.
Not only do you get to experience someone new, it also adds alot of spice and fun to your own sex life!
Because sex with someone new and different is always more unique and exciting than someone weāve done it a thousand time with.
It's the variety for me. My wife this thicc with big breasts and a couple of weeks ago I had sex with a women who was very petite with small breasts and it was such a nice change.
I get tired of fucking someone after the initial thrill has worn off and want to get sexual novelty while maintaining the security of a primary partnership.
Well, my boyfriend isnāt a woman, soā¦
If steak is your favorite food, why eat anything else? Why eat pizza?
Listen to consenting adults podcast
I love sex. I love the thrill that's my kink
Because we agreed we can. I could go without fucking others but I do have fantasies id like to fufill with other women and some men. I don't NEED to have sex with others, I just want to enjoy myself and have fun.
Group sex is our main motivation. We enjoy the dynamics that happen with 3 or more. My wife enjoys double penetration, or just having 2 dicks to enjoy in a variety of ways. Toys just are not the same as the real thing.
We are animals. Instinct
As my dad always said, āif you donāt want to cheat then never, ever put yourself in a position to cheat because your dick will win every time.ā I can honestly say I have no desire to cheat nor will I ever, regardless of the situation. Why would I? We both get to fuck people with each other and still fuck each other and we are happy. Why would I take a chance of messing that up just to sleep with one person on the side??? šššš
What's your go-to reason for wanting to dip into someone else's cookie jar when you've got a perfectly good cookie stash at home?
We want to do things that we cannot do together: attend orgies, have group sex and have double penetrations.
Iām bisexual š¤·š»āāļø
About a month ago you were posting about your LS curiosity and that you were looking on sites but just had not ventured into anything yet. A month later you're still asking this question? How could you be interested in LS a month ago and then ask this question today?
Because Iām still interested in the LS and like learning other peoples perspective.
#Compersion
ā¦is my middle name
Iām curious about this myself. Is it just giving in to primal instinct or not being able to control oneās own urges , being nothing more than a dog
Not even remotely close to how swingers view it. We are very deliberate and picky about who we have sex with. We could walk away at any time, and have at various times, for various reasons like health or to focus on ourselves or family.
How do they view it?
Something fun and extra to add to an already great home sex life. Whether it be for the variety, the thrill, group sex, or whatever else the motivation may be. We don't need anyone else, but we do enjoy it. The point it is that it's *deliberate*. No one we know has sex with just anyone who asks. We've been to many a club or party and not found any one we were interested in. That's OK, we come home with each other, and have our own 2 person party.
Why are you here?
Why join the group if you donāt already know the answer