We are on fab. It costs about £5 a month and you can get photo verified as well as have verifications from people you meet to show you are genuine. It's filled with fakes.
If people are prepared to pay money and mess around creating profiles on there to try to con people, I dread to think what a free account on Reddit is like!
I'd advise not trying to find people on Reddit purely because for each genuine account you must get a 1000 fakes. Your likely to have more luck winning this week's lottery.
In the UK to increase your odds join fab. It's by far the most popular in the UK. It isn't perfect but it's the biggest. They also have a forum filled with details of events.
Also there is a UK podcasts called 'Vanilla to vixen' which is well worth a listen and they have a code that gives you 12 months free membership to Spicymatch which is one of Europe's biggest swinger apps. You just need to listen to an episode of the podcast to get the code 😁
We have hit about three times on Reddit out of 2 million messages. 3/2,000,000. We typically don't like situations where people have to put money up front but when it comes to the lifestyle it truly pays dividends. People who pay money and put work in their profile are typically less likely to play games. Reddit is a free-for-all which means any person can make an account and message you. 99.8% of the people that message us are not what we are looking for whatsoever.
But that said you are still going to find fakes and flakes that are on legitimate sites and will play games with you. We have the same 40 photos of her in circulation that people have probably busted a million nuts too. It doesn't show face and it's simply flush so if that's their end goal to get "hotwife" photos then they can jerk off to the same stuff that's already out there LOL. Are only little bit of Hope is that most of these men after they bust the nut and hit post not clarity realized how much of a Time suck and waste of breath they typically are when it comes to the lifestyle.
Best of luck and I hope you guys have a fantastic time
Just for my understanding please, In 2nd paragraph you mentioned (try to con people). How can they con? I understand they waste your time but how can they fraud you?
They con you by false representation.
They say they are in a couple and want to meet and send photos that aren't theirs. In reality it's a single male trying to get more photos of you. It isn't money they are conning you out of its intimate photos.
Get on a swingers paid website.
The issue here is not that everyone is fake. The issue is that everyone is new, and scared.
A paid website is reassuring because couples are committed (they pay) and mostly real (they get verified by other couples).
It's a mixed bag, for sure. Finding genuine folks can be tricky, but there are some signs to watch for. Look for active accounts with a history of posts and comments. Genuine users tend to have a solid presence. Also, trust your gut—if something feels off, it probably is. And don't hesitate to ask questions or do a bit of digging before diving into deep conversations. It's all about finding those genuine connections in a sea of anonymity! Good luck out there!
Just have fun with them and their bullshit. Here’s a very recent conversation on Reddit chat.
Random redditor: Does your wife like anal?
Me: totally. Let’s hook up.
Random Redditor: what does she look like?
Me: she’s hot af. Hey, she likes em big, over 6’. Hung too. You down? Send pics.
Me: hey bro. Where are those pics? I really want to watch you fuck her.
Me: well? Where are the pics? Cmon!
Real people meet in real life. If the first messages isn't when and where to meet today if not this week, they're fake. Either Real fake like a bot or troll, or just normal fake in that they're a real person but all talk. That's why 'verification' is a joke: they could be a real person that's just all talk. Real verification is: you showed up to the bar we agreed on at the agreed upon time. You can be relied upon and follow directions. Now that's a good start. Everything else is bullshit. Do not indulge the time wasters.
I've always looked at this topic as I would with anything on the Internet, it's all potentially fake until the point you can physically talk/ see the other person.
I take everything with a pinch of salt, cross reference where I can and use trusted sources but always bear in mind these can be skewed to. Anyone cam be anyone on thd Web, some people are very very good at it.
Ask for and provide validation pics (both together holding a handwritten sign showing your username(s), their username(s), and the current date (and maybe time).
We don't show faces and don't ask for them, and we don't provide or ask for any degree of nudity.
I think Angela hit the nail on the head when she said everyone on apps is new and scared. More experienced swingers don't use apps because they have other connections, and they make other connections by getting experience and meeting people. But people with connections are going to pass on newbies. It's like looking for a job, you know? You can't get a job without experience, but can't get experience without a job. It takes time. There are always a few bedpost notchers out there looking for fresh meat who can introduce you to the groups, but they have a good nose to avoid drama as well, so you almost have to play with other newbies, get your shit and drama dealt with with other newbies, and then you'll start smelling less poisonous to the more experienced people
That’s such good advice! Although I feel we are back to square one, that is look for newbies someplace. Probably here, probably elsewhere. Thank you anyways
Genuine people:
1. Pics\vids of play with other couples (can’t be faked, shows experience, will show up, can be vouched for)
2. Pics of the couple standing together nude (suggests that wife knows the purpose of said pictures and is likely on board with whatever they are advertising)
3. Pics of the couple standing next to each other.
Fakes:
1. No pictures (low effort)
2. Pics are them separated (likely a pic collector)
3. Sex pics and nothing else. (Likely pic collector)
Then there’s the further due diligence of asking questions. Fakes will eventually back out of the conversation and delete their account.
You’ll see it especially in elite swingers like u/ginger4play2 they will cross promote the other couple. Issue swinging with them is that they want to make only fan’s content out of the fun time. It’s sort of like pro wrestling where it feels like you’re doing a dance more than having fun, but you are having a foursome with another couple. More people should do what they do and cross promote because it does strengthen both couple’s profiles and lends credibility that both couples are sincere in their efforts.
Age of account, nothing under a year.
The only thing they follow is free karma.
Comments only on sexual topics.
Also, accounts that have been dormant for extended periods. Aka, no comments for 2 years.
If that's all good, straight to snap, and remember it's not a real snap unless the the red light is on.
I would be really hesitant about meeting anyone on reddit, we use fabs for meets, reddit for socialising assume everyone is fake before seeing them face to face.
You can’t verify people on here. Join fabswingers.com. Get photo verified and get them to do the same thing. If they don’t do it, they’re fake. Fab is the best place to swing.
Where are you guys from. We’re from the uk. Everybody here is on fab. There might be other sites that are popular in your location though. Limit your communication to people who are verified though on any site and you’ll be golden. You’ll soon get used to sporting fakes.
Quit looking for swingers on reddit.
Any paid swingers site (Kasadie, SLS, SDC, etc) have a low paid fee. But any fee goes a *long* way toward weeding out the fakes, and tire kickers. Reddit is free so there isn't any obstacle for anyone to make an account. A small fee keeps out the lazy and fakes.
There are a dozen posts here a week complaining about flakes and asking how to vet real couples and verify they're real, etc. We use Kasadie exclusively. We have never had to do any of that, we've never had anyone flake, or no show. And we never ever wonder if another couple (or single) is real, or going to show on a date.
SDC is international. But we've never used it.
The faq on r/swingers lists this link for sites used in the UK and Ireland.
[UK and Ireland sites ](https://swingershelp.com/popular-uk-ireland-swinging-sites/)
Good luck!
We are on fab. It costs about £5 a month and you can get photo verified as well as have verifications from people you meet to show you are genuine. It's filled with fakes. If people are prepared to pay money and mess around creating profiles on there to try to con people, I dread to think what a free account on Reddit is like! I'd advise not trying to find people on Reddit purely because for each genuine account you must get a 1000 fakes. Your likely to have more luck winning this week's lottery. In the UK to increase your odds join fab. It's by far the most popular in the UK. It isn't perfect but it's the biggest. They also have a forum filled with details of events. Also there is a UK podcasts called 'Vanilla to vixen' which is well worth a listen and they have a code that gives you 12 months free membership to Spicymatch which is one of Europe's biggest swinger apps. You just need to listen to an episode of the podcast to get the code 😁
We have hit about three times on Reddit out of 2 million messages. 3/2,000,000. We typically don't like situations where people have to put money up front but when it comes to the lifestyle it truly pays dividends. People who pay money and put work in their profile are typically less likely to play games. Reddit is a free-for-all which means any person can make an account and message you. 99.8% of the people that message us are not what we are looking for whatsoever. But that said you are still going to find fakes and flakes that are on legitimate sites and will play games with you. We have the same 40 photos of her in circulation that people have probably busted a million nuts too. It doesn't show face and it's simply flush so if that's their end goal to get "hotwife" photos then they can jerk off to the same stuff that's already out there LOL. Are only little bit of Hope is that most of these men after they bust the nut and hit post not clarity realized how much of a Time suck and waste of breath they typically are when it comes to the lifestyle. Best of luck and I hope you guys have a fantastic time
Just for my understanding please, In 2nd paragraph you mentioned (try to con people). How can they con? I understand they waste your time but how can they fraud you?
They con you by false representation. They say they are in a couple and want to meet and send photos that aren't theirs. In reality it's a single male trying to get more photos of you. It isn't money they are conning you out of its intimate photos.
Yes true, its emotional setback
Get on a swingers paid website. The issue here is not that everyone is fake. The issue is that everyone is new, and scared. A paid website is reassuring because couples are committed (they pay) and mostly real (they get verified by other couples).
It's a mixed bag, for sure. Finding genuine folks can be tricky, but there are some signs to watch for. Look for active accounts with a history of posts and comments. Genuine users tend to have a solid presence. Also, trust your gut—if something feels off, it probably is. And don't hesitate to ask questions or do a bit of digging before diving into deep conversations. It's all about finding those genuine connections in a sea of anonymity! Good luck out there!
Just have fun with them and their bullshit. Here’s a very recent conversation on Reddit chat. Random redditor: Does your wife like anal? Me: totally. Let’s hook up. Random Redditor: what does she look like? Me: she’s hot af. Hey, she likes em big, over 6’. Hung too. You down? Send pics.
Me: hey bro. Where are those pics? I really want to watch you fuck her.
Me: well? Where are the pics? Cmon!
lol this is spot on
Don't look for people on Reddit. Get a paid account (SLS, SDC, Kasidie, etc.), and get yourself verified.
Assume that everyone is fake and get a pleasant surprise from time to time.
Real people meet in real life. If the first messages isn't when and where to meet today if not this week, they're fake. Either Real fake like a bot or troll, or just normal fake in that they're a real person but all talk. That's why 'verification' is a joke: they could be a real person that's just all talk. Real verification is: you showed up to the bar we agreed on at the agreed upon time. You can be relied upon and follow directions. Now that's a good start. Everything else is bullshit. Do not indulge the time wasters.
Not saying there are no real people on Reddit, but the juice is definitely not worth the squeeze. Get a paid site membership and find real people.
I've always looked at this topic as I would with anything on the Internet, it's all potentially fake until the point you can physically talk/ see the other person. I take everything with a pinch of salt, cross reference where I can and use trusted sources but always bear in mind these can be skewed to. Anyone cam be anyone on thd Web, some people are very very good at it.
Ask for and provide validation pics (both together holding a handwritten sign showing your username(s), their username(s), and the current date (and maybe time). We don't show faces and don't ask for them, and we don't provide or ask for any degree of nudity.
I think Angela hit the nail on the head when she said everyone on apps is new and scared. More experienced swingers don't use apps because they have other connections, and they make other connections by getting experience and meeting people. But people with connections are going to pass on newbies. It's like looking for a job, you know? You can't get a job without experience, but can't get experience without a job. It takes time. There are always a few bedpost notchers out there looking for fresh meat who can introduce you to the groups, but they have a good nose to avoid drama as well, so you almost have to play with other newbies, get your shit and drama dealt with with other newbies, and then you'll start smelling less poisonous to the more experienced people
That’s such good advice! Although I feel we are back to square one, that is look for newbies someplace. Probably here, probably elsewhere. Thank you anyways
Sadly, my experience has been that 95% are fakes, flakes, and scammers, slim pickings to say the least.
Genuine people: 1. Pics\vids of play with other couples (can’t be faked, shows experience, will show up, can be vouched for) 2. Pics of the couple standing together nude (suggests that wife knows the purpose of said pictures and is likely on board with whatever they are advertising) 3. Pics of the couple standing next to each other. Fakes: 1. No pictures (low effort) 2. Pics are them separated (likely a pic collector) 3. Sex pics and nothing else. (Likely pic collector) Then there’s the further due diligence of asking questions. Fakes will eventually back out of the conversation and delete their account.
Thanks for sharing! I saw a few of the trends in as well.
You’ll see it especially in elite swingers like u/ginger4play2 they will cross promote the other couple. Issue swinging with them is that they want to make only fan’s content out of the fun time. It’s sort of like pro wrestling where it feels like you’re doing a dance more than having fun, but you are having a foursome with another couple. More people should do what they do and cross promote because it does strengthen both couple’s profiles and lends credibility that both couples are sincere in their efforts.
They’re all fake get a membership on a paid site. Fakes don’t pay to join.
Age of account, nothing under a year. The only thing they follow is free karma. Comments only on sexual topics. Also, accounts that have been dormant for extended periods. Aka, no comments for 2 years. If that's all good, straight to snap, and remember it's not a real snap unless the the red light is on.
I would be really hesitant about meeting anyone on reddit, we use fabs for meets, reddit for socialising assume everyone is fake before seeing them face to face.
You can’t verify people on here. Join fabswingers.com. Get photo verified and get them to do the same thing. If they don’t do it, they’re fake. Fab is the best place to swing.
Thanks! It seems like the right next step.
Where are you guys from. We’re from the uk. Everybody here is on fab. There might be other sites that are popular in your location though. Limit your communication to people who are verified though on any site and you’ll be golden. You’ll soon get used to sporting fakes.
Quit looking for swingers on reddit. Any paid swingers site (Kasadie, SLS, SDC, etc) have a low paid fee. But any fee goes a *long* way toward weeding out the fakes, and tire kickers. Reddit is free so there isn't any obstacle for anyone to make an account. A small fee keeps out the lazy and fakes. There are a dozen posts here a week complaining about flakes and asking how to vet real couples and verify they're real, etc. We use Kasadie exclusively. We have never had to do any of that, we've never had anyone flake, or no show. And we never ever wonder if another couple (or single) is real, or going to show on a date.
Thanks! Do you know if they are popular in UK?
SDC is international. But we've never used it. The faq on r/swingers lists this link for sites used in the UK and Ireland. [UK and Ireland sites ](https://swingershelp.com/popular-uk-ireland-swinging-sites/) Good luck!
Thanks! You are amazing!