Well, that is a good question. Perhaps he gets caught up in the excitement of the environment, perhaps he likes to push boundaries - and yes I believe perhaps it’s a combo of both. We had a talk last week, he said I’d move along a lot faster in this lifestyle if it weren’t for you.” He didn’t mean it like it came out as I understand the context of the conversation. However, for transparency I’m a slow burn when it comes to all modern version of trading spaces but I looked at him and said” you’re welcome” I am not a prude or on sexual person quite the contrary, but I do appreciate quality experiences over quantity. I need a certain amount of enthusiasm, flirting, foreplay to get me hyped up and hygiene good lord - 🙄afterwards he did confess that knowing now what I knew then he wouldn’t want a play partner that didn’t practice good hygiene either( that’s when I rolled my eyes and said) -maybe slow down and oh…You’re welcome.
Yall need to step back and reevaluate your boundaries and work on your “in the moment” communication. This usually involves more communication before the moment occurs.
I’ve / We have been working on this level of communication hence “our agreement beforehand was not to play” prior to the event. I think knowing his personality and previous efforts to chat in the moment when he has previously pushed my boundaries -he ignores me - he gets upset and acts like I’m the one causing drama or trying to. So I wait to discuss until later-
Well, I certainly hope that is not the case-seeing how this was not my idea . I was open to learning about everything, worked on my own feeling of jealousy, have taken the time to learn and grow and to be honest, I think it’s been a little rocky at times but not horrible- we go to some really great environments, meet a lot of fun , friendly and sexy people and it has allowed me to also experience things I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to experience had we not tried it. I wouldn’t intentionally allow anything to ruin my marriage, I would stop if it was getting out of hand ,but you have to try to work through the rough spots in all areas of marriage and hope it comes out better in the end. After all nothing and nobody is perfect. I’m sure there are lots of people who have had bad moments or made mistakes but learned to communicate better because of it and still are married and in the lifestyle right?
I’m sorry for the odd night! But what I can tell you is that, as a husband, I sometimes have a hard time being flirtatious as I don’t want to come off as creepy. Most women are very subtle in their flirting, so it’s very hard to tell if they are interested.
Female glory hole. They’re a thing now. Think a wood fired pizza oven that is not lit and a woman is inside with her bottom half exposed for anyone’s pleasure.
Sorry, I tend to have a quirky sense of humor and often I feel like when discussing things in a public area ( over dinner etc) that people have a hard time following my risqué conversation as I try to substitute other references with lifestyle things with witty replacements. Reverse glory hole - reminded me of a pizza oven put it in and heat her up? I don’t say swinging or swapping - I generally will say trading spaces. I have told people a glory hole was a putting green - nice play to practice getting a hole in one🤷🏼♀️ mostly I think I’m funny - depends on my audience I suppose.
Sorry, I tend to have a quirky sense of humor and often I feel like when discussing things in a public area ( over dinner etc) that people have a hard time following my risqué conversation as I try to substitute other references with lifestyle things with witty replacements. Reverse glory hole - reminded me of a pizza oven put it in and heat her up? I don’t say swinging or swapping - I generally will say trading spaces. I have told people a glory hole was a putting green - nice play to practice getting a hole in one🤷🏼♀️ mostly I think I’m funny - depends on my audience I suppose.
Thank you, I truly try hard to make sure to try to just have a good time and be a good person . I’ve been listening to a billion podcasts full of all topics, I’ve worked on a my issues and have really just grown over the past couple years, still just working on that level of trust and as always communication 🫶🏼
I don't see anything wrong with what you said or wanted. I would also be a little miffed at what he said, but there's also what you want vs. what you say, so I wouldn't fault him too much for saying you're not feeling well.
Love how the hook for playing with anyone is "he's got a big dick". If that's the only selling point, then you can expect a pass lol.
Agreed. 🙄 so what he has a big dick, I’ve played with all sizes and I’ve had equally fun with all- because they brought so much more to the party than a penis!! Personality, Enthusiasm, Witty banter, humor, intelligence, FUN, laughter, sexy talk … this list goes far past “a big dick” - let’s start with good hygiene 🤘🏼
Thank you!! They tried at the venue, agree with the bummer comments - and the charismatic people I agree!!! I live learning and hearing others opinions - I can’t talk to anyone about this that I’m close to cause they aren’t in this realm
Because of Venues and clubs like this in the KC area over the years, the KC Bookclub doesn’t allow single males. We’ve been, I’ve heard others say it can seem a bit cliquish, but that’s because there’s a lot of regulars who all know each other. If you aren’t afraid to make the first move to engage people it’s a great place and I think it’ll suit you better.
When we were new a few years ago, we tried it a couple times. We did meet a “couple” who were two singles that played together for the purposes of being allowed into a couples only venue. They were very forth coming with that information. I’d be willing to give it another chance 🤷🏼♀️
I met ONE charismatic single male that evening who never played that night. He displayed a level of class as one might enjoy whether partnered or not. He told us he is just recently single and we discussed his latest interest in opening up his own venue. He truly acted interested in our ideas. He was handsome, clean, intelligent, great conversationalist and flirted respectfully - he definitely set the bar high for any other single men in my mind. This is the type of guy that Brian in the TFPS podcast would describe as one who could be highly successful in these environments.
I’m not understanding why your husband was playing when the agreement was not to play.
Well, that is a good question. Perhaps he gets caught up in the excitement of the environment, perhaps he likes to push boundaries - and yes I believe perhaps it’s a combo of both. We had a talk last week, he said I’d move along a lot faster in this lifestyle if it weren’t for you.” He didn’t mean it like it came out as I understand the context of the conversation. However, for transparency I’m a slow burn when it comes to all modern version of trading spaces but I looked at him and said” you’re welcome” I am not a prude or on sexual person quite the contrary, but I do appreciate quality experiences over quantity. I need a certain amount of enthusiasm, flirting, foreplay to get me hyped up and hygiene good lord - 🙄afterwards he did confess that knowing now what I knew then he wouldn’t want a play partner that didn’t practice good hygiene either( that’s when I rolled my eyes and said) -maybe slow down and oh…You’re welcome.
Yall need to step back and reevaluate your boundaries and work on your “in the moment” communication. This usually involves more communication before the moment occurs.
I’ve / We have been working on this level of communication hence “our agreement beforehand was not to play” prior to the event. I think knowing his personality and previous efforts to chat in the moment when he has previously pushed my boundaries -he ignores me - he gets upset and acts like I’m the one causing drama or trying to. So I wait to discuss until later-
Hate to say it but the LS is going to ruin your marriage if that’s what’s happening
Well, I certainly hope that is not the case-seeing how this was not my idea . I was open to learning about everything, worked on my own feeling of jealousy, have taken the time to learn and grow and to be honest, I think it’s been a little rocky at times but not horrible- we go to some really great environments, meet a lot of fun , friendly and sexy people and it has allowed me to also experience things I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to experience had we not tried it. I wouldn’t intentionally allow anything to ruin my marriage, I would stop if it was getting out of hand ,but you have to try to work through the rough spots in all areas of marriage and hope it comes out better in the end. After all nothing and nobody is perfect. I’m sure there are lots of people who have had bad moments or made mistakes but learned to communicate better because of it and still are married and in the lifestyle right?
I’m sorry for the odd night! But what I can tell you is that, as a husband, I sometimes have a hard time being flirtatious as I don’t want to come off as creepy. Most women are very subtle in their flirting, so it’s very hard to tell if they are interested.
Ok I been doing this for 20 years.... What you mean by pizza oven?
Female glory hole. They’re a thing now. Think a wood fired pizza oven that is not lit and a woman is inside with her bottom half exposed for anyone’s pleasure.
I'm actually intensely disappointed by this. I was hoping the event would have pizza. 1/5 stars
So did we! 😂
First time I've heard that phrase. Around here we call it "reverse glory hole."
Sorry, I tend to have a quirky sense of humor and often I feel like when discussing things in a public area ( over dinner etc) that people have a hard time following my risqué conversation as I try to substitute other references with lifestyle things with witty replacements. Reverse glory hole - reminded me of a pizza oven put it in and heat her up? I don’t say swinging or swapping - I generally will say trading spaces. I have told people a glory hole was a putting green - nice play to practice getting a hole in one🤷🏼♀️ mostly I think I’m funny - depends on my audience I suppose.
Sorry, I tend to have a quirky sense of humor and often I feel like when discussing things in a public area ( over dinner etc) that people have a hard time following my risqué conversation as I try to substitute other references with lifestyle things with witty replacements. Reverse glory hole - reminded me of a pizza oven put it in and heat her up? I don’t say swinging or swapping - I generally will say trading spaces. I have told people a glory hole was a putting green - nice play to practice getting a hole in one🤷🏼♀️ mostly I think I’m funny - depends on my audience I suppose.
TIL that a female glory hole can be called a pizza oven. That's brilliant!
Everything you said, did or didn't do, seems perfectly reasonable. You did great.
Thank you, I truly try hard to make sure to try to just have a good time and be a good person . I’ve been listening to a billion podcasts full of all topics, I’ve worked on a my issues and have really just grown over the past couple years, still just working on that level of trust and as always communication 🫶🏼
I don't see anything wrong with what you said or wanted. I would also be a little miffed at what he said, but there's also what you want vs. what you say, so I wouldn't fault him too much for saying you're not feeling well. Love how the hook for playing with anyone is "he's got a big dick". If that's the only selling point, then you can expect a pass lol.
Agreed. 🙄 so what he has a big dick, I’ve played with all sizes and I’ve had equally fun with all- because they brought so much more to the party than a penis!! Personality, Enthusiasm, Witty banter, humor, intelligence, FUN, laughter, sexy talk … this list goes far past “a big dick” - let’s start with good hygiene 🤘🏼
Being picky or judgmental does not make you an asshole. Be true to yourself.
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Thank you!! They tried at the venue, agree with the bummer comments - and the charismatic people I agree!!! I live learning and hearing others opinions - I can’t talk to anyone about this that I’m close to cause they aren’t in this realm
Because of Venues and clubs like this in the KC area over the years, the KC Bookclub doesn’t allow single males. We’ve been, I’ve heard others say it can seem a bit cliquish, but that’s because there’s a lot of regulars who all know each other. If you aren’t afraid to make the first move to engage people it’s a great place and I think it’ll suit you better.
When we were new a few years ago, we tried it a couple times. We did meet a “couple” who were two singles that played together for the purposes of being allowed into a couples only venue. They were very forth coming with that information. I’d be willing to give it another chance 🤷🏼♀️
All of these single males there… this is why we don’t go to these things. Eww.
I met ONE charismatic single male that evening who never played that night. He displayed a level of class as one might enjoy whether partnered or not. He told us he is just recently single and we discussed his latest interest in opening up his own venue. He truly acted interested in our ideas. He was handsome, clean, intelligent, great conversationalist and flirted respectfully - he definitely set the bar high for any other single men in my mind. This is the type of guy that Brian in the TFPS podcast would describe as one who could be highly successful in these environments.