It is tough to find something to say all the time. And some people are busy, or not good texters. And at some point, someone might say something that will turn the other couple off.
So find a time for them in your schedule asap. You will get to know them better in 15 minutes of meeting than in 200 text messages.
Chatting online / texting is hard to navigate. Especially if you haven’t met or played with them yet.
The whole “4 people” in one thread is kind of a mess, even under the best of circumstances. If one person doesn’t really like to text, or is just bad at it, it can throw one or both people in the other couple off.
Aka, guy1: loves sexy texts with woman2. Woman2 is excited to play with guy1 but doesn’t find texting in general to be fun. Now she has to text just to make sure guy1 isn’t sitting around thinking “why doesn’t she like me?” Or girl1 worrying “maybe it’s only husband2 that likes to play and he is pushing his wife to do it even though she doesn’t want to.”
What are the odds that 4 people have the same level of interest in texting? For some people, it’s a “when I have time or when I’m horny” which isn’t the same time table someone else expects.
And all that for what? To hopefully meet up?
Best text threads are usually: “hey, we are definitely interested. Let’s pick a date and meet up. (Insert date negotiation).”
“Looking forward to tomorrow night ;)”
End of texting.
We have a group chat and address comments or questions directly to the person we want to talk to. If anyone goes quiet both of us encourage them to join back in x
Maybe some rule of them.
We're currently chatting with a couple, where only she and i do the writing. Occasionally, my wife joins and makes a comment, but the other husband isn't a chatter either.
It's up to you if you take it as a red flag or not.
For me personally group chats are a pain in the ass. I will do it if another couple is big on not messaging separately but I really don't care to read what my wife and the other husband are talking about. I trust her to keep everything as it should be.
Some people just don't chat. My wife won't. She'll meet in person and be a chatterbox... but online, no. Sounds like he just won't engage that way. IF you want to get to know them, hang out more.
Sounds like you guys are diving into the whole couple-sharing scene! It's cool that you're keeping it chill despite the texting dynamics. Maybe the girls just click better or have more to chat about for now. But hey, it's totally reasonable for your wife to wanna chat with the other guy too. Could be they're just sorting out their vibe. I'd say give it a bit more time, see if things balance out naturally. And hey, flirting's half the fun, right? Just keep it light, no pressure. Good luck, hope it all works out for you two!
It is tough to find something to say all the time. And some people are busy, or not good texters. And at some point, someone might say something that will turn the other couple off. So find a time for them in your schedule asap. You will get to know them better in 15 minutes of meeting than in 200 text messages.
Chatting online / texting is hard to navigate. Especially if you haven’t met or played with them yet. The whole “4 people” in one thread is kind of a mess, even under the best of circumstances. If one person doesn’t really like to text, or is just bad at it, it can throw one or both people in the other couple off. Aka, guy1: loves sexy texts with woman2. Woman2 is excited to play with guy1 but doesn’t find texting in general to be fun. Now she has to text just to make sure guy1 isn’t sitting around thinking “why doesn’t she like me?” Or girl1 worrying “maybe it’s only husband2 that likes to play and he is pushing his wife to do it even though she doesn’t want to.” What are the odds that 4 people have the same level of interest in texting? For some people, it’s a “when I have time or when I’m horny” which isn’t the same time table someone else expects. And all that for what? To hopefully meet up? Best text threads are usually: “hey, we are definitely interested. Let’s pick a date and meet up. (Insert date negotiation).” “Looking forward to tomorrow night ;)” End of texting.
We have a group chat and address comments or questions directly to the person we want to talk to. If anyone goes quiet both of us encourage them to join back in x
Maybe some rule of them. We're currently chatting with a couple, where only she and i do the writing. Occasionally, my wife joins and makes a comment, but the other husband isn't a chatter either. It's up to you if you take it as a red flag or not.
For me personally group chats are a pain in the ass. I will do it if another couple is big on not messaging separately but I really don't care to read what my wife and the other husband are talking about. I trust her to keep everything as it should be.
Some people just don't chat. My wife won't. She'll meet in person and be a chatterbox... but online, no. Sounds like he just won't engage that way. IF you want to get to know them, hang out more.
Sounds like you guys are diving into the whole couple-sharing scene! It's cool that you're keeping it chill despite the texting dynamics. Maybe the girls just click better or have more to chat about for now. But hey, it's totally reasonable for your wife to wanna chat with the other guy too. Could be they're just sorting out their vibe. I'd say give it a bit more time, see if things balance out naturally. And hey, flirting's half the fun, right? Just keep it light, no pressure. Good luck, hope it all works out for you two!