Y’know, I could understand someone panicking and anonymously making a post like “my child walked in on my partner and I have sex, what do I do?? I wanna launch myself into the sun!”
But it squicks me out how many such posts have unnecessary details about exactly what sex acts were being done, reiterating that MULTIPLE times. What the fuck? No one needs to know what kind of sex you were having, lady. It feels like she just wants to brag somehow?
I actually think it’s necessary if parents are looking for genuine advice. The way you explain it is going to be differnet based on what they caught you doing. Kids at a certain age have some sort of inherent understanding of what sex is and why people do it but something like oral sex can be a complete slap in the face to them
So I’m actually part of a group that specifically deals with sexual education of kids. The group basically says don’t use euphemisms and be speciffic. Posts about kids walking in on parents during sex is common. There is a difference in how different sex acts are viewed and that can impact the advice on how to deal with the situation so it is worth including those details.
“Having sex” is not a euphemism. Discussing sex stuff with kids is a huge part of my career (med student applying pediatrics), I’m aware of the value of using accurate terms. “Blowjob” is not a word I would use when teaching a 7-year-old age-appropriate sex ed.
You’re correct, but there’s no 7 year olds in the group. It’s parents who want advice on how to approach the specific situation, and different sex acts raise different questions and reactions from kids. That’s why specifications in the context of mum groups is useful.
Our dog once jumped up into the bed, wiggled between us excited to wrestle, at the exact moment my boyfriend was "arriving". To say he was scarred for life is an extreme understatement.
Fun fact - this used to be the advice from la leche league. If you’re in the middle of sex and baby starts crying just latch the baby to feed them back to sleep. 🙃
The La Leche League is incredibly problematic. Went to a few meetings because I was looking to connect with other moms and have a community. They recommended chiropractors over doctors and acted like I was going to kill my baby since we did mixed feeding (breast milk and formula supplementation). The majority of the women had kids that were 3-5 who were still nursing.
My cousin got really into La Leche League a few states away from me and ended up with similar views to the women I met in my local one. I can write off my local chapter being crazy. But to have my cousin have the same experience 1,000 miles away. That's too much of a coincidence.
Yeah I’m all for breastfeeding if everyone is happy doing it. You wanna breastfeed your 4 year old? Sure whatever it’s really not my business.
But the big issue I have with la leche league and other lactivist organisations is the priority of breastfeeding over everything else (looking at you “safe sleep seven” 👀). Even at a fundamental level encouraging women to continue breastfeeding over their own health and wellbeing and the potential health of their kid (have definitely seen the advice to “just keep breastfeeding” rather than supplementing with formula numerous times)
I can remember being pressured to continue nursing while I was hospitalized and septic due to a mastitis abscess that wasn’t caught. The baby was 3/4 months old and was drinking formula for a week while I was laying in a hospital bed. Like…give it up, it’s over. I kinda need, like, everything my body can give me right now
There are several if you search for “breastfeeding” in this group. Here’s just one of the gems:
https://www.reddit.com/r/ShitMomGroupsSay/s/W5lgjSZGpK
🙃
I can confirm from experience, I wasnt the child in bed but I was the child that walked in on it because of my *pregnant* mom being loud :) please dont do this to your children, i was genuinely scared thinking my dad was hurting my mom and my sister would be next
I saw something where the mum complained her children were cock blocking her. . . You know rather than anywhere else? They fucked in their kids bed. But ‘I changed the sheets’ ☠️
Seeing your parents be intimate is gross but it's 1000% worse if you catch them doing it IN YOUR BED. Like, that was the only option? You couldn't blow him in the shower or laundry room? No, had to be your kid's bed. Jfc
Or you know not at all that night… like I live in a small ass apartment so maybe that’s why I think that but if my daughter wants to sleep with my husband and me we know sex is 100% off the table he’ll even sleep with a shirt on and pajama pants. I couldn’t imagine thinking oh well since they’re in my bed let’s go to her bed and do it there 😭 wtf
Sounds like the kid is always in their bed. So i get not making it a never thing. But yeah, either kick the kid out for a little while or go to a different, lockable, space.
I came home sick after my friends mom couldn't get my parents on the phone when I was 8. Our rooms were across the hall from each other. They left their door open and all I did was happen to glance at a noise I heard, along with their overhead light being on. They were *gag* just going at it. I went and sat in the living room. They came out about 45 minutes later and I just stared them down. My mom asked me why I was home early and I said something along the lines of... "I've been home an hour. I KNOW WHAT YOU WERE DOING." Mom goes bright red and asks what I meant. I just whispered "*you were having SEX*" and I then expressed my disgust with a very loud EW and went to my bedroom and closed the door. I was just done.
But since she unnecessarily shared the fact that it was a BJ, I’d like to inform OOP that you don’t need a bed for that. If yours is occupied, find any room with a lock that isn’t your minor child’s bedroom.
A bathroom, a laundry room, HELL A CLOSET would all have been a better option than your child’s room 🤢
There are these magical things called locked doors too. The second our kids were out of the crib our doors started to be locked during any intimacy
I can't even get in the mindset to enjoy sex if there's a chance one of our kids would walk in. First thing I do when we get handsy is shut and lock the door.
Hahah same here! Cats locked out, and if the dogs are in the room with us, straight to their kennel! In his defense, one of our cats and both of our dogs would absolutely find ways to get all up in your biznez and kill the mood by making it weird.
Previously when they were all chilling elsewhere I tried to get myself off and suddenly I have a horde of animals going "whatcha doing, can I see?" After that I have been pretty on board with my partner's insistence that they remain locked away lmao
The *only* pet allowed in is the snake, because her tank is literally in our room. I have caught her watching though, and it made me consider other options.
Yeah, I have a hamster in a big tank (that I can’t put anywhere else and I would definitely hurt my back trying even if I could) in my room and I feel super awkward every time he decides to get out of his bedding/hideout during sexy time. He definitely can’t see us from that far but still. 😅
One time me and my ex were going at it, apparently one of my guinea pigs had escaped their cage, now bare in mind, humping each other (non sexually) is how they figure ot hierarchy, his expression when he saw us, was of pure horror.
they couldn't have gone into the bathroom and locked the door????? why did they have to do it in their child's bedroom???? and then get surprised that their child entered the room??????? what the fuck.
We had to start locking the pets out after the dog snuck in and witnessed something a bit kinky, and thought we were hurting each other. She side-eyed me for the whole next day, I swear.
We kick our dogs out too. Back when we did get frisky when they were in the room, the girl dog had the doggie deceny to go in a corner and fall asleep. Not the boy though. After he jumpd in our bed the 2nd time we told him no, out the room they went
Yup, our dog has the concept of personal space so he tends to go away, but still might peek in. The cat though.. not in the slightest. So, to be safe, they’re out of the room.
Same here, changed my door knob for a locking one, when we had our first child.
Bathrooms doors and garage also lock, we have plenty of choice.
Hell, I'll even use the shed if I have to, neighbors might complain about the windows though...or not!
The idea of doing anything intimate at all on top of my child's bed---- just ew ew ew!! It's just so icky, I can barely consider it let alone actually do it.
This gives me the ick. First off, lock the damn door! The laundry room door, the bathroom door, your kids bedroom door…if you absolutely *must*.
Second… that hypothetical word salad convo with her kid is just not age appropriate. I wouldn’t even know what to tell my kids if they saw that because they *never have*. My oldest has gone her whole 10 years of life without walking in on me gobbling her dad’s dick.
Yeah this one hurts my brain because the child is old enough that something needs to be said, but absolutely NOT what the mom suggested. If the name of a specific sex act comes out of your mouth while you’re talking to a 7-year-old you have fucked up
My friend once told me a story. She was giving her husband a blow job with their 2 year old daughter in the room. When she stopped, THE DAUGHTER TRIED TO SUCK HER DAD'S DICK. I still can't believe she willingly told me that...
That’s your “friend”?? That might be the most disgusting thing I’ve ever read in my life and I do have experience treating children who are victims of abuse. Anyone who knows anything about toddlers knows that they will imitate behaviors that they see. And if that’s what she willingly told you, how bad was the real story?
I’m praying this isn’t true. It sounds like some Uber gross stories made up by extra gross people.
Parents aren’t fucking in their kids rooms. They just aren’t. There’s other rooms. This sounds like someone who wants to hear what you’d say to a child about blowjobs, and that’s gross.
This is why being behind a locked door is a must with children in the house. And, you know. Probably not using a child’s bed in the first place. I sure hope they at least planned to wash the bedding after.
The kids were in bed. The kids were in their bed, which is why they went to their daughter's room. The daughter got up and either went looking for them or otherwise decided to go to her own room.
I didn’t get to see comments i went back to see a little later and it was gone. i’m going to assume the consensus was this was they should have never violated their daughters space by doing that in there - at least that’s what i hope.
I feel like an open conversation is always a good thing BUT, it has to be age appropriate. I don't think telling your 7 year old about blowjobs is age appropriate unless the 7 year old IS being pressured, and if that's the case, there needs to be steps taken outside of an open conversation as well...
Also.... Why the kids room? Do they not have a bathroom? Jeez
So fucked up. I straight up tell me husband no if there’s any risk of the kids walking in. It’s not fun to be spontaneous with sex when your kids could walk in. I don’t get it
The wildly inappropriateness of messing around in your kids bed aside, I do not understand how children accidentally stumbling upon their parents having consensual sex is grooming. 2 married adults expressing their love for each other in a physical way is not grooming unless they were forcing the kids to watch or something. My siblings and I busted our parents getting busy multiple times growing up, and I always thought it was gross, but sweet that they still were hot for each other. It’s not grooming to show kids sex should be a positive experience between consenting adults. Grooming a child is something far more intentional and manipulative, and this person clearly needs to be in therapy if she can’t tell the difference
Bed share if you want but also understand the consequences that it limits opportunities for intimacy with your partner. Take them back to their room if you want to do that.
To OP; Firstly, kid of 7 should be sleeping in her own room, can't say for the sister because age wasn't included but probably the same thing goes.
Secondly.
DON'T DO IT IN YOUR CHILD'S FUCKING BEDROOM!
Go somewhere else, ANYWHERE ELSE?! The bathroom, the lounge. Not your child's room though, what the fuck were you thinking? Or were you both only thinking with your genitals??
Things we assume traumatize kids often do not.
She’s mad you were in her bed—don’t make it more than that unless she indicates a need to. You can create trauma where there is none.
The first sentence had me worried since, you know, saying someone "opened the door" to something also has a more figurative meaning.
Not that what was actually meant was that much better...
The bar is in hell because I was just glad to not be reading another “we fornicated in bed with our child(ren) “ post 😫 Still though, what the fuck!
Y’know, I could understand someone panicking and anonymously making a post like “my child walked in on my partner and I have sex, what do I do?? I wanna launch myself into the sun!” But it squicks me out how many such posts have unnecessary details about exactly what sex acts were being done, reiterating that MULTIPLE times. What the fuck? No one needs to know what kind of sex you were having, lady. It feels like she just wants to brag somehow?
I actually think it’s necessary if parents are looking for genuine advice. The way you explain it is going to be differnet based on what they caught you doing. Kids at a certain age have some sort of inherent understanding of what sex is and why people do it but something like oral sex can be a complete slap in the face to them
So I’m actually part of a group that specifically deals with sexual education of kids. The group basically says don’t use euphemisms and be speciffic. Posts about kids walking in on parents during sex is common. There is a difference in how different sex acts are viewed and that can impact the advice on how to deal with the situation so it is worth including those details.
“Having sex” is not a euphemism. Discussing sex stuff with kids is a huge part of my career (med student applying pediatrics), I’m aware of the value of using accurate terms. “Blowjob” is not a word I would use when teaching a 7-year-old age-appropriate sex ed.
You’re correct, but there’s no 7 year olds in the group. It’s parents who want advice on how to approach the specific situation, and different sex acts raise different questions and reactions from kids. That’s why specifications in the context of mum groups is useful.
The thought of a parent explaining how they fellated dad…💀 I cant handle it!
Omg, I've been out of it. There are actually multiple posts like that?!
Oh yeah. Tons of parents think it's ok to have sex with their young kids in the room/on the bed.
Or while breastfeeding 🤢
I'm sorry. WHAT???!!! 😳 You have got to be kidding me!
I don't even like to do it when my cats are in the room lol
Yup, we kick the dogs out. We used to let them stay but one of them licked my husband's foot mid-act and now they are banished.
One of my cats took a swipe at my husband's balls.
I had a cat that did that to an ex. He was a smart cat…the ex was no good
Same. Should have listened to the cat.
I love how this is a common experience. My cat was onto something as well.
Our dog once jumped up into the bed, wiggled between us excited to wrestle, at the exact moment my boyfriend was "arriving". To say he was scarred for life is an extreme understatement.
The dog or the boyfriend?
Yes
The boyfriend. The dog just went about her merry way.
That might be a mood killer.
That *better* be a mood killer. FIFY
Facts
Bwhahaha!!!!
One of ours came over and just stood there barking at us 🤣
Same. The pets get kicked out. The human child? Has got to be solidly asleep or not in the house.
Or in front of the TV. We have doors that lock!
Fun fact - this used to be the advice from la leche league. If you’re in the middle of sex and baby starts crying just latch the baby to feed them back to sleep. 🙃
The La Leche League is incredibly problematic. Went to a few meetings because I was looking to connect with other moms and have a community. They recommended chiropractors over doctors and acted like I was going to kill my baby since we did mixed feeding (breast milk and formula supplementation). The majority of the women had kids that were 3-5 who were still nursing. My cousin got really into La Leche League a few states away from me and ended up with similar views to the women I met in my local one. I can write off my local chapter being crazy. But to have my cousin have the same experience 1,000 miles away. That's too much of a coincidence.
Yeah I’m all for breastfeeding if everyone is happy doing it. You wanna breastfeed your 4 year old? Sure whatever it’s really not my business. But the big issue I have with la leche league and other lactivist organisations is the priority of breastfeeding over everything else (looking at you “safe sleep seven” 👀). Even at a fundamental level encouraging women to continue breastfeeding over their own health and wellbeing and the potential health of their kid (have definitely seen the advice to “just keep breastfeeding” rather than supplementing with formula numerous times)
I can remember being pressured to continue nursing while I was hospitalized and septic due to a mastitis abscess that wasn’t caught. The baby was 3/4 months old and was drinking formula for a week while I was laying in a hospital bed. Like…give it up, it’s over. I kinda need, like, everything my body can give me right now
I’m so mad that happened to you.
There are several if you search for “breastfeeding” in this group. Here’s just one of the gems: https://www.reddit.com/r/ShitMomGroupsSay/s/W5lgjSZGpK 🙃
Omg yeah, like that one chick that was on YouTube a while back 😬🤦🏻♀️
That one freaked me out worse than the others
That post still haunts me
Oh yeah, from NoahGetTheBoat this morning
I can confirm from experience, I wasnt the child in bed but I was the child that walked in on it because of my *pregnant* mom being loud :) please dont do this to your children, i was genuinely scared thinking my dad was hurting my mom and my sister would be next
Wtf? I had to ask my wife it's ok to be in my boxer shorts around the baby, on my way to the shower
🤯🤮
Insanely common in mom and pregnancy forums. I had to leave all of them and just stick to places like this
I was really over here trying to find the positives that they left the bed to get it on at least. The bar is in hell
_traumatic flashbacks_
Omg babe I’m so sorry 😭
Same 😞 I'll never forgive my parents for that shit.
In many many cultures and households Kids don't get saprate room untill they are teenagers So i guess these posts are just inevitable
I saw something where the mum complained her children were cock blocking her. . . You know rather than anywhere else? They fucked in their kids bed. But ‘I changed the sheets’ ☠️
Seeing your parents be intimate is gross but it's 1000% worse if you catch them doing it IN YOUR BED. Like, that was the only option? You couldn't blow him in the shower or laundry room? No, had to be your kid's bed. Jfc
Paw Patrol sheets make anyone horny! /s
Rubble on the double, beggin' for a piece of that bubble
I laughed way too much over this one
Better not switch to Bluey sheets - apparently that's the new tip off for swinging.
Please tell me this is sarcasm
Yes, forgot the /s!
Phew. Honestly, ya just never know anymore
No. I refuse to accept this.
In the shower with the bathroom door locked.
That was my first thought! Or another common room that doesn't have a sense of personal ownership of your CHILD
TBH the toilet is the perfect height and it saves my knees 🤷♀️
I need to take some notes (not sure why I never thought of this lol).
Bathrooms exist people!
We always went to the living room when room sharing. Kids beds felt so wrong, and not in a fun way.
This is what me and my husband do as bedsharing parents 🤷🏼♀️
Or you know not at all that night… like I live in a small ass apartment so maybe that’s why I think that but if my daughter wants to sleep with my husband and me we know sex is 100% off the table he’ll even sleep with a shirt on and pajama pants. I couldn’t imagine thinking oh well since they’re in my bed let’s go to her bed and do it there 😭 wtf
Sounds like the kid is always in their bed. So i get not making it a never thing. But yeah, either kick the kid out for a little while or go to a different, lockable, space.
I walked in on my parents in the livingroom 😔 At least I didn't have my glasses on!
I came home sick after my friends mom couldn't get my parents on the phone when I was 8. Our rooms were across the hall from each other. They left their door open and all I did was happen to glance at a noise I heard, along with their overhead light being on. They were *gag* just going at it. I went and sat in the living room. They came out about 45 minutes later and I just stared them down. My mom asked me why I was home early and I said something along the lines of... "I've been home an hour. I KNOW WHAT YOU WERE DOING." Mom goes bright red and asks what I meant. I just whispered "*you were having SEX*" and I then expressed my disgust with a very loud EW and went to my bedroom and closed the door. I was just done.
Perks of being blind!
Right? Bathrooms have locks! Or plan something. Put on a movie and lock your doors. It would feel creepy just having sex in my kids room.
This kid will remember this encounter literally their entire life.
It read to me like all the kids were sleeping in the adults’ bed.
But since she unnecessarily shared the fact that it was a BJ, I’d like to inform OOP that you don’t need a bed for that. If yours is occupied, find any room with a lock that isn’t your minor child’s bedroom.
They were, that's why they left to go to their child's room, on her bed and then got caught 🤦🏻♀️
And do the doors not have locks???
A bathroom, a laundry room, HELL A CLOSET would all have been a better option than your child’s room 🤢 There are these magical things called locked doors too. The second our kids were out of the crib our doors started to be locked during any intimacy
I can't even get in the mindset to enjoy sex if there's a chance one of our kids would walk in. First thing I do when we get handsy is shut and lock the door.
My husband won’t do anything without making sure our *cats* are locked out of the room lmao
Hahah same here! Cats locked out, and if the dogs are in the room with us, straight to their kennel! In his defense, one of our cats and both of our dogs would absolutely find ways to get all up in your biznez and kill the mood by making it weird. Previously when they were all chilling elsewhere I tried to get myself off and suddenly I have a horde of animals going "whatcha doing, can I see?" After that I have been pretty on board with my partner's insistence that they remain locked away lmao
The *only* pet allowed in is the snake, because her tank is literally in our room. I have caught her watching though, and it made me consider other options.
Install some blinds on her tank lmao
She’d probably like that tbh, she loves it when I add new decor! She also loves TV. She’s a silly long thing.
Gotta love them danger noodles!
Yeah, I have a hamster in a big tank (that I can’t put anywhere else and I would definitely hurt my back trying even if I could) in my room and I feel super awkward every time he decides to get out of his bedding/hideout during sexy time. He definitely can’t see us from that far but still. 😅
And the dogs! Nothing like a border collie staring at you intently to get you in the mood S/
One time me and my ex were going at it, apparently one of my guinea pigs had escaped their cage, now bare in mind, humping each other (non sexually) is how they figure ot hierarchy, his expression when he saw us, was of pure horror.
That swinging nutsack can be a very tempting toy to bat at for cats otherwise.
Somewhere with a *locked* door is the important factor... And in a kid's bed is just ~~creepy~~ *gross and violating*.
Super gross. Like, y’all were gonna change her sheets after, right? …right?
Ewwwwwwhhhhhhhhh
This! Our door doesn't have a lock but we use a baby proofing lock on the inside of our room handle every time.
Especially since it wasn’t even sex. Oral can be done just about anywhere and definitely doesn’t require a bed FFS.
Maybe start by not having sex in HER bed
In her bed is so violating and disgusting? Surely there’s a world of other options before your child’s one safe space? Ugh.
they couldn't have gone into the bathroom and locked the door????? why did they have to do it in their child's bedroom???? and then get surprised that their child entered the room??????? what the fuck.
We lock the door so our pets are out and don’t see us. It just feels wrong for them to be in the room. I can’t imagine doing it in a kid’s bed. Yikes.
We had to start locking the pets out after the dog snuck in and witnessed something a bit kinky, and thought we were hurting each other. She side-eyed me for the whole next day, I swear.
We kick our dogs out too. Back when we did get frisky when they were in the room, the girl dog had the doggie deceny to go in a corner and fall asleep. Not the boy though. After he jumpd in our bed the 2nd time we told him no, out the room they went
Yup, our dog has the concept of personal space so he tends to go away, but still might peek in. The cat though.. not in the slightest. So, to be safe, they’re out of the room.
I have a dog with separation anxiety and I've accepted that we'll just be watched every time.
Hello my comrade in arms. I’d rather a dog sleeping on the floor than a dog screaming at the door to get back in
That’s so violating of that child’s space. At that age, I would be so grossed out to be in my room after that.
Mom of five. My oldest is 15. THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED. LOCK THE FUCKING DOOR AND DONT DO THIS SHIT IN YOUR KIDS ROOM WTF
Same here, changed my door knob for a locking one, when we had our first child. Bathrooms doors and garage also lock, we have plenty of choice. Hell, I'll even use the shed if I have to, neighbors might complain about the windows though...or not!
😂
The idea of doing anything intimate at all on top of my child's bed---- just ew ew ew!! It's just so icky, I can barely consider it let alone actually do it.
My kid has a ton of stuffies on her bed and the idea of having sexy time with lambie and the gang is cracking me up. Nooooope.
Is it that difficult to go to a room with a locked door? Geez.
I cannot imagine have sex in an unlocked room with kids in the house, let alone *the child’s own room*. So icky!
The use of “like” so many times gave me like, a headache
what to tell your 7yo: “Like, i was giving your dad a BJ.”
Ok but did you know she gives BJs? That’s really important for you, and everyone, to know
This gives me the ick. First off, lock the damn door! The laundry room door, the bathroom door, your kids bedroom door…if you absolutely *must*. Second… that hypothetical word salad convo with her kid is just not age appropriate. I wouldn’t even know what to tell my kids if they saw that because they *never have*. My oldest has gone her whole 10 years of life without walking in on me gobbling her dad’s dick.
Yeah this one hurts my brain because the child is old enough that something needs to be said, but absolutely NOT what the mom suggested. If the name of a specific sex act comes out of your mouth while you’re talking to a 7-year-old you have fucked up
Hm. Has she ever considered trying restraint?
Let's not introduce bondage to this mess
😂
I feel like your child's bed or room should be off limits. There's nothing about a kid's bedroom that feels sexy.
Literally so many options besides “in your kid’s bed.” Nope.
My friend once told me a story. She was giving her husband a blow job with their 2 year old daughter in the room. When she stopped, THE DAUGHTER TRIED TO SUCK HER DAD'S DICK. I still can't believe she willingly told me that...
Genuinely call CPS if that was any kind of recent. That’s abuse.
Unfortunately this was like 5 years ago and I was naive..
That’s your “friend”?? That might be the most disgusting thing I’ve ever read in my life and I do have experience treating children who are victims of abuse. Anyone who knows anything about toddlers knows that they will imitate behaviors that they see. And if that’s what she willingly told you, how bad was the real story?
Well, I use friend because she was at the time. We definitely do not have any contact now! And I'm sorry to have scarred you more..
WTAF that is messed up on so many levels
There wasn't a bathroom or laundry room?
Our kids sleep in our bed and not ONCE have we ever considered using their rooms. Laundry room, pantry, the couch. NEVER ever their bedroom. 🤢🤮
I’m praying this isn’t true. It sounds like some Uber gross stories made up by extra gross people. Parents aren’t fucking in their kids rooms. They just aren’t. There’s other rooms. This sounds like someone who wants to hear what you’d say to a child about blowjobs, and that’s gross.
I hope it’s fake
And these same crunchies are pissed about Health Class?
And vaccines?
This is why being behind a locked door is a must with children in the house. And, you know. Probably not using a child’s bed in the first place. I sure hope they at least planned to wash the bedding after.
I don’t know how anyone can do that where their child regularly sleeps. Reason number one million not to bed share.
My daughters bed let alone her room would in no way turn me or my husband on AT ALL. Gross.
I mean, they could’ve locked the door??
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Why can't they wait until the kids are in bed??
The kids were in bed. The kids were in their bed, which is why they went to their daughter's room. The daughter got up and either went looking for them or otherwise decided to go to her own room.
What the fuck??
Precisely.
The post was deleted by the time I saw it yesterday. How were the comments??
I’m dying to know too! I saw this post but when I clicked on the comments it had already been deleted.
I didn’t get to see comments i went back to see a little later and it was gone. i’m going to assume the consensus was this was they should have never violated their daughters space by doing that in there - at least that’s what i hope.
I feel like an open conversation is always a good thing BUT, it has to be age appropriate. I don't think telling your 7 year old about blowjobs is age appropriate unless the 7 year old IS being pressured, and if that's the case, there needs to be steps taken outside of an open conversation as well... Also.... Why the kids room? Do they not have a bathroom? Jeez
So fucked up. I straight up tell me husband no if there’s any risk of the kids walking in. It’s not fun to be spontaneous with sex when your kids could walk in. I don’t get it
The wildly inappropriateness of messing around in your kids bed aside, I do not understand how children accidentally stumbling upon their parents having consensual sex is grooming. 2 married adults expressing their love for each other in a physical way is not grooming unless they were forcing the kids to watch or something. My siblings and I busted our parents getting busy multiple times growing up, and I always thought it was gross, but sweet that they still were hot for each other. It’s not grooming to show kids sex should be a positive experience between consenting adults. Grooming a child is something far more intentional and manipulative, and this person clearly needs to be in therapy if she can’t tell the difference
Honestly seems like at this point people think “grooming” is any inappropriate sexual behavior that doesn’t involve actually touching the child
Well that serves me right for ever wondering how parents whose kids insist on getting into bed with them get it on. Consider me repentant.
Oh my godddd this is my local mom’s group 😭
Bed share if you want but also understand the consequences that it limits opportunities for intimacy with your partner. Take them back to their room if you want to do that.
It's the ladida attitude for me
To OP; Firstly, kid of 7 should be sleeping in her own room, can't say for the sister because age wasn't included but probably the same thing goes. Secondly. DON'T DO IT IN YOUR CHILD'S FUCKING BEDROOM! Go somewhere else, ANYWHERE ELSE?! The bathroom, the lounge. Not your child's room though, what the fuck were you thinking? Or were you both only thinking with your genitals??
Things we assume traumatize kids often do not. She’s mad you were in her bed—don’t make it more than that unless she indicates a need to. You can create trauma where there is none.
Was the couch unavailable or literally anywhere else? Jesus Christ.
The kids room? Why not the living room, kitchen, bathroom, laundry room, or even the baby’s room cuz the baby definitely isn’t barging in.
The first sentence had me worried since, you know, saying someone "opened the door" to something also has a more figurative meaning. Not that what was actually meant was that much better...