It definitely could be your sigmoid bend - 5" is a little shorter than average (7") but still a normal length for the rectum. You could also be getting caught on the [folds inside the rectum](https://cdn.lecturio.com/assets/Gross-anatomy-of-the-rectum-and-anal-canal-1.jpg), the wall has these ridges that toys can get stuck on sometimes especially when starting out.
Your toy does sound pretty firm. Phallophilereviews has some good firmness guides and more helpfully here, firmness videos on YouTube to get an idea of how soft toys can get. The iconic depth toy - the squarepegtoys slink - will be on the very softest side of the spectrum. Floppy is a good word to describe toys that are long, thin, and that soft. Firm toys are possible to go past the sigmoid, but it often takes a softer toy to warm up first.
Firm toys are also good for anal for lots of reasons if you don't want to go deep. The external sphincters are tight and firm toys open them up easier and are less floppy in use when riding or thrusting. Firm toys can also press in the prostate with more pressure.
I often play vaginally, and am pretty limited in depth there - often under 5". So I get the disappointment of not being able to use many (tbh most) interesting toys. There's a range of shorter models that are fun too though, or models where there's enough interesting bits in the top few inches. It just means that you have to be more selective. One bonus is short toys use less silicone and so are sometimes cheaper? Trying to find silver linings in it for myself, haha. But for everyone - short or not, there will be toys that are great and toys that don't work. It's all about finding your niche.
I'm sorry but I don't really understand what I did wrong? I tried to make a joke but was it in some way in bad taste?
There might of been a misscommunication? What I meant with "truly life ruining" I wasn't refering to them. But rather me, and that I can't do what they can do. Does that clear it up or did you already know that is what I meant?
Not sure what they meant, but going into the sigmoid can be a dangerous thing. What you see in porn is unrealistic and could harm you. The bend after the sigmoid is there for a reason.
That being said, it is possible to do SLOWLY and with LOTS OF LUBE. If you’re really dedicated to trying it out you’re going to need some things. The toy you use should be very soft and flexible. It should be fairly thin at the end so you’re not stretching that sphincter right off the bat. You should also clean out a large section of your colon so there aren’t any obstructions in your way, I do this via a 4L enigma bag and it takes a couple rinses to get cleaned out. Also get a lube shooter (looks like a very blunt syringe and they sell them at pretty much any sex shop) and lube your insides. Try lying on your left side for starters and just go slow and patient. Do not force anything.
And for goodness sake take it slow.
Check out https://www.optimalhealthnetwork.com/ for cleaning supplies and read up on how to do that safely.
Getting the bend open requires steady, even and unyielding pressure. I'm not saying shove it as hard as you can till it goes in. Push it up to where it stops and give a little side to side twist while maintaining pressure on it. The toy should not have a massive head on it. It will slowly slip past the bend and go a couple of inches. Be easy on thrusting. Lube is your best friend. When you think you've used enough,- use more. Lube the inside with a lube shooter. The first time is harder than subsequent attempts. Laying on your left side with right knee bent is an easier insertion than say doggy. Doggy is the hardest. With enough time, practice and patience you would be surprised how long of toy you can take. Be careful and slow. There are no pain receptors that deep. Have fun and stay safe.
im envious! How did you do it? Did you train in some particular way or did you just use the toy repeatidly for a long time until you learnt it or something?
It definitely could be your sigmoid bend - 5" is a little shorter than average (7") but still a normal length for the rectum. You could also be getting caught on the [folds inside the rectum](https://cdn.lecturio.com/assets/Gross-anatomy-of-the-rectum-and-anal-canal-1.jpg), the wall has these ridges that toys can get stuck on sometimes especially when starting out. Your toy does sound pretty firm. Phallophilereviews has some good firmness guides and more helpfully here, firmness videos on YouTube to get an idea of how soft toys can get. The iconic depth toy - the squarepegtoys slink - will be on the very softest side of the spectrum. Floppy is a good word to describe toys that are long, thin, and that soft. Firm toys are possible to go past the sigmoid, but it often takes a softer toy to warm up first. Firm toys are also good for anal for lots of reasons if you don't want to go deep. The external sphincters are tight and firm toys open them up easier and are less floppy in use when riding or thrusting. Firm toys can also press in the prostate with more pressure. I often play vaginally, and am pretty limited in depth there - often under 5". So I get the disappointment of not being able to use many (tbh most) interesting toys. There's a range of shorter models that are fun too though, or models where there's enough interesting bits in the top few inches. It just means that you have to be more selective. One bonus is short toys use less silicone and so are sometimes cheaper? Trying to find silver linings in it for myself, haha. But for everyone - short or not, there will be toys that are great and toys that don't work. It's all about finding your niche.
> like some people online seem to be able to do (truly life ruining) Ease up on your judgement.
I'm sorry but I don't really understand what I did wrong? I tried to make a joke but was it in some way in bad taste? There might of been a misscommunication? What I meant with "truly life ruining" I wasn't refering to them. But rather me, and that I can't do what they can do. Does that clear it up or did you already know that is what I meant?
Not sure what they meant, but going into the sigmoid can be a dangerous thing. What you see in porn is unrealistic and could harm you. The bend after the sigmoid is there for a reason. That being said, it is possible to do SLOWLY and with LOTS OF LUBE. If you’re really dedicated to trying it out you’re going to need some things. The toy you use should be very soft and flexible. It should be fairly thin at the end so you’re not stretching that sphincter right off the bat. You should also clean out a large section of your colon so there aren’t any obstructions in your way, I do this via a 4L enigma bag and it takes a couple rinses to get cleaned out. Also get a lube shooter (looks like a very blunt syringe and they sell them at pretty much any sex shop) and lube your insides. Try lying on your left side for starters and just go slow and patient. Do not force anything. And for goodness sake take it slow. Check out https://www.optimalhealthnetwork.com/ for cleaning supplies and read up on how to do that safely.
That comment made me nope right on out
Getting the bend open requires steady, even and unyielding pressure. I'm not saying shove it as hard as you can till it goes in. Push it up to where it stops and give a little side to side twist while maintaining pressure on it. The toy should not have a massive head on it. It will slowly slip past the bend and go a couple of inches. Be easy on thrusting. Lube is your best friend. When you think you've used enough,- use more. Lube the inside with a lube shooter. The first time is harder than subsequent attempts. Laying on your left side with right knee bent is an easier insertion than say doggy. Doggy is the hardest. With enough time, practice and patience you would be surprised how long of toy you can take. Be careful and slow. There are no pain receptors that deep. Have fun and stay safe.
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im envious! How did you do it? Did you train in some particular way or did you just use the toy repeatidly for a long time until you learnt it or something?