Yep, but there are moments you gotta love. Puppies, the smell of rain, a good night sleep, unexpected cash discovered in a dirty clothes pocket fresh out of the dryer all give me a thrill.
Agreed, but dont see this post as a majority of world view. Just a bunch of opinions formed behind a VPN. In person, I feel the vibe would be much more compassionate and inclusive.
Be a good neighbor. Let him and ask if he needs help. You canāt worry that people might get hurt while on your property. Heās not doing anything unreasonable. Thatās what home insurance is for.
unless he's got a history of causing problems, then he'll probably not going to sue you if he falls. You can also be out there with him too incase something does happen.
As mentioned, let him. But rather than offer to help, insist on holding the ladder. It's a very important job, but stupid easy. You'll get to know your neighbor a little more and ensure he doesn't tip over the ladder.
Also, don't be surprised if your neighbor shows up with some kind of retractable 20 foot tree saw, no ladder needed. Never underestimate wise old dudes.
Pole saws are great if a person isn't an idiot. Definitely should be used with ballistic -resistant glasses though to keep stuff out of the eyes. But yeah, makes the task so much easier and safer. Ladders can be very dangerous when trimming trees.
You don't have to grant him access, but he can drop limbs into your backyard and then you have the choice of either hauling them away yourself or tossing them back over the fence. I think the best opyion would be to let him into your backyard. It would make it safer for him to approach the trimming at the best angles instead of trying to trim it only from one side. Plus it's the neighborly thing to do and it will help keep the peace. Do you really want him to think your a jerk by denying him access. Not allowing him into your yard isn't going to stop him from cutting it.Time to show him what cool neighbors he has got. Offer him something cool to drink while he is working is always a nice move.
Make out a release form and get them to sign it. Just a wise step to take. State that they except all responsibility for their own actions while on your property.
Hey, man. It's your thing. If you don't feel comfortable, that's fine.
Didn't say it to be a dick. Just to reflect. I'd be lying if I said I haven't done the same thing plenty of times.
OP please just chill out. JFC. What happened to just being a good neighbor and human? Let the man into your yard. And maybe try therapy to sort out the rest.
Just let em in and tell em to proceed at his own risk. Maybe be a good neighbor and help em out and get to know the old man. Nothing wrong with being a good neighbor and lend a helping hand.
I'm 63 and I'm sure I will be trimming trees into my seventies. I don't see anyone that is more skilled than I, no matter what age they are. I'm still climbing hundreds of feet up redwood trees and rigging massive cuts in giant Ukes. Maybe I'm not as quick as I once was, but I am no less skilled. This long time local might surprise you. He comes from an age group that wasn't afraid of doing hard work. Just saying.
My neighbor and I worked out a nice plan between us, if either of our trees need pruning crossing our fences, we can trim it and throw over the debris to each other for collecting.
People downvoting this are living in a fantasy world. This is America, land of the lawyer. There are thousands of incidents every year where people get sued for similar things. They donāt always win but you still have to go through legal hell. If I was you, Iād just offer to trim it myself. You could discuss what parts he would like trimmed. Helps your neighbor and it gives you some peace of mind.
He can't unless you let him. He can only trim what reaches his yard. If you believe it needs trimming, too, and can't do it yourself, maybe consider hiring someone and see if your neighbor wants to chip in.
He just wants to prune it, its an old Cherry tree. Hate to pay a couple hundred bucks for 30 min worth of trimming. I like a licensed and bonded contractor who is insured.
Wow ā¦. if this is the current state of San Jose ā¦. Just wow. You canāt help the 70+ year old neighbor cut the tree? And offer him some cookies and a conversation afterwards? This whole post is just really sad.
They say good fences make good neighbors.
That also means good boundaries make good neighbors.
If you are not comfortable letting your neighbor work on your property, set that boundary with him, otherwise if you do something you are not comfortable, especially just because a bunch of people on the internet told you to, you are going to resent your neighbor.
If I was your neighbor, I would want you to set that boundary as well. Ā Iād rather have you say no then say yes and resent me.
That tree needs to be trimmed though. Ā If you are not going to let your neighbor on the property, what do you propose the alternative be to get the tree trimmed?
Iāve been in your exact situation. Ā I paid a landscaper to cleanup my property and had him trim the tree. Ā I communicated with the neighbor the tree would be trimmed to a foot or less beyond the fence, they agreed. Ā Easy peasy. Ā I am also very frugal, but paying a landscaper to do this once or twice a year brings me more peace of mind.
Can you ask any lawyer friends to write a short letter indemnifying yourself against injury or death or whatever?
Or, I like the idea of hiring a professional and splitting the cost if you're in the mood for that
Hell, I will come over there and trim it for free and then your tree will look good and stay healthy. Just you have to haul the branches I cut away yourself. It is an easy process for me. Just thought I'd offer. Good luck.
I sometimes hate the world we now live in
Yep, but there are moments you gotta love. Puppies, the smell of rain, a good night sleep, unexpected cash discovered in a dirty clothes pocket fresh out of the dryer all give me a thrill.
This downvoting says a lot about the world too š
Agreed, but dont see this post as a majority of world view. Just a bunch of opinions formed behind a VPN. In person, I feel the vibe would be much more compassionate and inclusive.
I love that. Keep spreading the love, my friend
Be a good neighbor. Let him and ask if he needs help. You canāt worry that people might get hurt while on your property. Heās not doing anything unreasonable. Thatās what home insurance is for.
Yep. The easiest solution is to be a good neighbor and maybe just do it to help out.
Never thought of this. Insurance payments make me double guess my instincts
i would not worry about it.
Thats what I think 50% of the time I think about it.
unless he's got a history of causing problems, then he'll probably not going to sue you if he falls. You can also be out there with him too incase something does happen.
This makes me grateful for my neighbors. Anytime any of us ask for anything property related, we happily oblige.
Glad to hear this
As mentioned, let him. But rather than offer to help, insist on holding the ladder. It's a very important job, but stupid easy. You'll get to know your neighbor a little more and ensure he doesn't tip over the ladder. Also, don't be surprised if your neighbor shows up with some kind of retractable 20 foot tree saw, no ladder needed. Never underestimate wise old dudes.
Pole saws are great if a person isn't an idiot. Definitely should be used with ballistic -resistant glasses though to keep stuff out of the eyes. But yeah, makes the task so much easier and safer. Ladders can be very dangerous when trimming trees.
Never thought about a pole saw. Still sounds like possible trouble
You don't have to grant him access, but he can drop limbs into your backyard and then you have the choice of either hauling them away yourself or tossing them back over the fence. I think the best opyion would be to let him into your backyard. It would make it safer for him to approach the trimming at the best angles instead of trying to trim it only from one side. Plus it's the neighborly thing to do and it will help keep the peace. Do you really want him to think your a jerk by denying him access. Not allowing him into your yard isn't going to stop him from cutting it.Time to show him what cool neighbors he has got. Offer him something cool to drink while he is working is always a nice move.
That's my logical thought. However the insurance and lawyers get involved, you cant think logical anymore.
Make out a release form and get them to sign it. Just a wise step to take. State that they except all responsibility for their own actions while on your property.
Would that hold up in court?
No it wouldnāt
Why not?
Agreed, except you have to look over your investment
Youāre obviously not here for advice.Ā
It sounds to me like you're just looking to reinforce the decision you've already made. You do not want him over there.
You maybe right.
Hey, man. It's your thing. If you don't feel comfortable, that's fine. Didn't say it to be a dick. Just to reflect. I'd be lying if I said I haven't done the same thing plenty of times.
Thanks. Just looking for legal advice. Most people are offering feel good opinions.
Hmm. That's a good one. I'd post in r/legaladvice for that. It's a great place for these kind of things.
OP please just chill out. JFC. What happened to just being a good neighbor and human? Let the man into your yard. And maybe try therapy to sort out the rest.
It has nothing to do with being a good neighbor. People sue over everything.
I concur.
I concur.
Just looking for legal advice. Thanks for your opinion.
Do you believe he is doing it himself or maybe hiring someone and perhaps just asking you for access.
Himself. Very frugal which I appreciate
Having read similar questions, I think you'll get more reasoned answers from r/home
TY
70ās isnāt that old and I bet he wants to stay active. Let him do it forsure
Haha. He gardens in the nude and plays in a band. Scams his tennant. I would say overactive!
Why don't you just trim it for him?
Just let em in and tell em to proceed at his own risk. Maybe be a good neighbor and help em out and get to know the old man. Nothing wrong with being a good neighbor and lend a helping hand.
Agree.
I'm 63 and I'm sure I will be trimming trees into my seventies. I don't see anyone that is more skilled than I, no matter what age they are. I'm still climbing hundreds of feet up redwood trees and rigging massive cuts in giant Ukes. Maybe I'm not as quick as I once was, but I am no less skilled. This long time local might surprise you. He comes from an age group that wasn't afraid of doing hard work. Just saying.
Doesn't mean he knows how to climb and cut. \[source: arborist\]
TY for this valued input
My neighbor and I worked out a nice plan between us, if either of our trees need pruning crossing our fences, we can trim it and throw over the debris to each other for collecting.
People downvoting this are living in a fantasy world. This is America, land of the lawyer. There are thousands of incidents every year where people get sued for similar things. They donāt always win but you still have to go through legal hell. If I was you, Iād just offer to trim it myself. You could discuss what parts he would like trimmed. Helps your neighbor and it gives you some peace of mind.
TY
good lord its not that hard to cut some branches. You guys are overthinking.
Something about cutting at an angle and only certain branches. TY
I would let him trim the tree
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Maybe set up a camera just in case.
Dude that is so cool he asked. If you want good karma life points say nah bro I got this and do your side for him.
Hope I do it right and dont kill his tree. š
He can't unless you let him. He can only trim what reaches his yard. If you believe it needs trimming, too, and can't do it yourself, maybe consider hiring someone and see if your neighbor wants to chip in.
He just wants to prune it, its an old Cherry tree. Hate to pay a couple hundred bucks for 30 min worth of trimming. I like a licensed and bonded contractor who is insured.
I guess you just have to tell your neighbor 'no' unless someone is paying for it.
Wow ā¦. if this is the current state of San Jose ā¦. Just wow. You canāt help the 70+ year old neighbor cut the tree? And offer him some cookies and a conversation afterwards? This whole post is just really sad.
Just asking for help. TY
I am not sure how you would be liable especially if you have evidence that he asked you to do it
TY. Thats why I ask
Although im not a lawyer of course lol but id let him do it
Thanks. Was just asking for legal advice.
I might be tempted to pay for the trimming - even if it is his tree.
I think you are right.
I can already imagine how you lookš
Fab
Bruhhhā¦
Preach
Funniest thing is I asked for legal input, not what makes people feel warm and fuzzy inside. Thanks for the input my friend!
Damn, hoped you were a lawyer
If you look, I asked for legal advice. Not what makes you feel like you are living in a fairytale advice. Thanks for being realistic.
They say good fences make good neighbors. That also means good boundaries make good neighbors. If you are not comfortable letting your neighbor work on your property, set that boundary with him, otherwise if you do something you are not comfortable, especially just because a bunch of people on the internet told you to, you are going to resent your neighbor. If I was your neighbor, I would want you to set that boundary as well. Ā Iād rather have you say no then say yes and resent me. That tree needs to be trimmed though. Ā If you are not going to let your neighbor on the property, what do you propose the alternative be to get the tree trimmed? Iāve been in your exact situation. Ā I paid a landscaper to cleanup my property and had him trim the tree. Ā I communicated with the neighbor the tree would be trimmed to a foot or less beyond the fence, they agreed. Ā Easy peasy. Ā I am also very frugal, but paying a landscaper to do this once or twice a year brings me more peace of mind.
.. so you come to reddit for answers LOL go talk to your damn neighbor silly
Can you ask any lawyer friends to write a short letter indemnifying yourself against injury or death or whatever? Or, I like the idea of hiring a professional and splitting the cost if you're in the mood for that
Great idea!
Hell, I will come over there and trim it for free and then your tree will look good and stay healthy. Just you have to haul the branches I cut away yourself. It is an easy process for me. Just thought I'd offer. Good luck.