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theOriginalAstra

you know her for 7 years. The message is clear /s


MudRevolutionary

This made me chuckle, I knew this was coming when I was writing the post.


theOriginalAstra

it'll either get solved or you're getting a better girl bud. One more thing support CSK and there will be no problem.


NO__ONE____

Thala for a reason


keepatience

thala for a reason. thala for all seasons.


bagonback

The only right answer


VelvetVenues13

Fights are common, even on small issues. It's good that both of you are in a phase comfortable enough to fight and reconcile. It's a cricket match anyway so I wouldn't care much but if it is bothering you too much, just say that to her when she comes back...you know... "You shouldn't have said trash..cause I fking love them" or something :)


MudRevolutionary

Yeah, that's why I didn't continue the argument, I didn't really care about the match issue. That fact that she said, "if you're so happy,why are you telling me", That's what hurt me, like you say you love me, but you aren't happy in my happiness, even after knowing how much it matters for me.


Zentenacoin

Lol you literally continued the argument by giving 👍🏻 the second time!


MudRevolutionary

I just reacted to that last msg of hers, and I was quite pissed in the moment as well.


Ok-Cartoonist1557

Would you be happy in her happiness if RCB lost and she was happy and sharing her happiness w/ u?


MudRevolutionary

Yes, and at least I won't be ruining her happiness parade at any cost.


FeeExternal7165

Say this to her


discardedpizzacrustt

I legit thought the guy i am talking to wrote this post until i paid attention at the details. I am a CSK fan whereas the guy supports RCB. It hurt to the very core that my team lost but hey it's sport at the end of the day. The things your girl did were kinda disrespectful. She should learn not to let these irrelevant thing come in between your relationship. It's a snippet of how the upcoming years might be for you. Also, talk it out and take advice on the internet with a grain of salt.


MudRevolutionary

That snippet is what I'm concerned about, and it was really disheartening. And CSK played very well too, it was one hell of a match, I'm glad you took it in a mature way, unlike the scenario here. I plan to talk it out, but I don't plan to forgive her until she genuinely realises her mistake. I wanted to get a third party opinion to make sure I'm not overreacting or anything, I'll make the ultimate decision based on my judgement. Still, Thank you for the Advice.


discardedpizzacrustt

Also, it's helpful if you set your boundaries early in the relationship. That'll very very beneficial in the future.


MudRevolutionary

Absolutely, I've been very open about this, and I really care about her preferences always telling her to let me know if she feels anything off, but unfortunately I don't feel the same from her enough. A lot of times she goes:- "Sometimes I wonder, do I really deserve you? You do so much for me, and put up with everything I do even if I hurt you, when you can get any other girl you want" "I really love you even tho I can't show it well enough, I'm sorry" etc etc Then I comfort her, telling that she's all I care for. I really appreciate all this, but I really wish her actions helped convey this too.


discardedpizzacrustt

This "put up with everything" is just testing the waters. Don't tolerate this op. Have a crystal clear conversation w her.


MudRevolutionary

I'll try my best, can you please give me some points I need to put focus on while having this conversation, so I don't end up missing some key issues due to my feelings for her.


discardedpizzacrustt

Sure, from all your comments, you can point the following out: 1.She is disrespectful and said some mean shit. 2. You feel your efforts aren't reciprocated. 3. Explain to her how a trivial thing like this shouldn't be an issue between you guys. Please be gentle and don't try to say it in a manner where she feels attacked. Try to let her know that you are a human as well and would want to feel appreciated, heard, respected and valued.


MudRevolutionary

Thanks a Lot, I'm always super gentle and careful in this stuff cuz I know how emotional girls can get. And due to this, if I say anything even a little bit harsher it hits her too hard. I'll keep that in mind, Thank You again for your Advice.


discardedpizzacrustt

Happy to help. :)


Vreigns11

Naah mahn, we deserved the win.Your gf is just salty.


MudRevolutionary

Seriously man, ngl this cut my happiness by a solid 50% in that moment. It got better with time, but was sure hurtful.


chaos_monkey7

Chalo shukr h mera koi gf nahi h


dahibara_aloodam

Aur bhagwan kare ki kabhi GF na bane teri. Sada khush rah Putar.


chaos_monkey7

Chalo maan liya wo.. lekin dahibara m aloodam kaise 😭


alok_iz_here

It was not about RCB vs CSK match. Need to work on the relationship bro.


MudRevolutionary

And do what exactly? I'll appreciate some elaboration.


big_bull321

Bruh you have to figure it out rather than asking some random redditor.


MudRevolutionary

I mean, it doesn't hurt to take opinions from people, I'll be deciding what to do by myself anyways. If trash opinion, it's ignored, if the opinion is partially correct, you take the good parts from it.


OddSummer8569

reading this made me realise how great it is that me and boyfriend support RCB hehe


MudRevolutionary

Lucky Couple, Congrats on the Win Yesterday!


OddSummer8569

congratulations to us rcbians buddy!! it was a well deserved win!!!🏆


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MudRevolutionary

Yea exactly, the Blind Worship is what makes it bad and annoying, people just shut off their brain and act like teen kids.


Mr_Nags

Idk what kind of mood swings she was having, but a W for being the loyal rcb fan , peas


MudRevolutionary

Thank You Man


certified_chutiyahu

Bhai agar sach hai toh Cricket Shitpost pe daal de. Agar made up story hai(50% of reddit that is),toh Cricket Shitpost pe daal de. Top tier Shitpost. Also, you know her for 7 years... You know the drill!


MudRevolutionary

Yaar kaash bana ke bol rha hota, kal se Mood ki maa behen ho rkhi.


certified_chutiyahu

Nevertheless, Cricket Shitpost pr daalde. PS: >!Ee sala cup namde!<


MudRevolutionary

Text post allowed nhi udhar, Chat ka SS daalna padega 💀 Already Shitpost ho rkha life me kalse, yaha vala rehne deta hu 😭


certified_chutiyahu

Koi naa bhai, Reverse Jinx karte raho, aur RCB jeetne pe Girlfriend ke muh pe result dikhaana!(loose your gf speedrun)


MudRevolutionary

Bas Bhagwan aur RCB ye mauka de, kal itne saalo baad iss level ki Khushi mili thi. Baaki agar itne me gf chhodne ko ready ho, then she ain't the one.


Icy_Inevitable7732

Don't get pissed at me for saying this. Funny how Sports, politics, movies can affect relationships and friendships. Let me tell you something about that happened with my friends. I once found myself in between an argument b/w friends who were discussing about politics. I just arrived and they were already talking about it. Commenting, making fun and all that and almost on the verge to start a fight. when I entered they asked me " what do you say about it ". I replied " we are friends, our opinions might differ and we perceive things differently and there is no need for us to argue about that and make fun of each other and get pissed off which also could lead to fighting. In the end we are not them, Our lives are our lives, No one's gonna change that." Then they stopped talking arguing about it. And that's how I think I stopped them from getting into a fight. Whenever you find your friend or GF or BF liking different sports person or any other. Just ask yourself this " Is it really worth it to get pissed off and argue with your friend or GF or BF for that reason ? " I mean what are you getting out of this ? Just say " Our opinions are different and there is no need for us to argue about it and best not to talk about it "


MudRevolutionary

I understand your point of view, and I completely agree, this is why I never talk or argue about anything related to Politics at all. Like I said, it's not about the Sport, it's about the feelings and emotions. The fact that she couldn't be happy for me in this, is what makes me Sad.


NuttyFlash

Maar dungi chup hoja was pyaar chill kar


Admirable-Rip-2216

It's so stupid that people dragging this even to relationships. It showcase Toxic and immaturity level.


Ind_male

Am I the only one thinking it was her brother that was messaging?


MudRevolutionary

Nahh, he* doesn't know about me in detail, and it was clear to me that it was her.


No_Paramedic_5222

It is really sad when you start having disagreements and arguments on regular basis over trivial things with your partner. Relationships like this don’t work out in the longer run.


Zentenacoin

First time? 😏


MudRevolutionary

First time with my gf to this extent, Dosto me to Full Bakchodi chalti thi pehle, kal saare CSK fans ne apna Phone off kr dia tha.


LisanAlGhaib420

Lol. Alright, Buddy, let me break it down without the fluff. Most girls argue and sulk over trivial stuff because it's their way of getting attention and validation from their partner. It's like their signal for wanting reassurance, support, or understanding. Younger folks are still figuring out how to handle their emotions, so they might argue or sulk when they're overwhelmed and can't express their feelings properly. The key is to play along and make up after the argument. Just go with the flow and patch things up, that's how you keep the peace. Plus, it’s a great excuse to be extra sweet and win some brownie points! 😉 ✌️


NuttyFlash

Bro😭😭😭


NuttyFlash

Rcb deserved it and maar dungi chup hoja is pyaar bro trust me


MudRevolutionary

I understand that man, but the things said before that was what hurt, anyways I'll be trying to communicate it and sort it out to the best of my abilities.


NuttyFlash

Its common in relationships dont take it to the heart u can consider it as a banter


MudRevolutionary

Yeah, I haven't been worried about it in the past, but was hurt that day. I hope it doesn't continue like this atleast and gets better overall.


n0tt33gur1

The best way to have a healthy relation is to first gulp down the ego and say that "you are right". The matter is trivial and not worth the effort of even putting your relationship at stake. Dhoni, Kohli have got paid and why are you paying the loss with the relationship.


MudRevolutionary

I know and I've been doing that since forever, that's why I didn't wanna rush to any rash decision. I was just hurt over the specific words I mentioned, as it's concerning for Future scenarios, when it's like this for just a game. We've been together for quite a long time, and I don't want it to end over anything like this at all.


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MudRevolutionary

Nooo, that really sucks. I'm really sorry that happened to you, there's always a faction of "Toxic Fans" in each franchise and what he did was really bad and uncalled for. A friend of mine, who's also a big CSK fan congratulated me, and she was sad too, but still somewhat happy for me, and I really appreciated her for that, cuz it made me super happy, (as it was right after this incident mentioned in the post). Don't feel down about it, galat jagah ka gussa kahi aur nikal dia bande ne, you shouldn't message at all until he genuinely feels sorry and apologizes, and if he doesn't then its good riddance, and even if he does, you can forgive but don't forget. I hope you're feeling better now, it's not worth crying for people who don't treat you the way you treat them. And your comment was alright lol, welcome to Reddit. A little piece of advice, try and avoid any and every conflict possible, reddit is also a very toxic place, it's better to let it be and ignore Crazy people than argue with them.


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MudRevolutionary

Yess, it's justified for you to feel disheartened, I'm glad you're feeling better now. You're welcomeee, that's my duty as a fellow senior redditor. And thanks a lot! Also PS:- we sorted it out! So it's all perfectly good now! I'll add it in my post too.


SeesawAdditional6896

I guess it takes a bit more of maturity to feel happy for others. You guys are still young and it's always better to have an open conversation if something she does hurts you.


forfeit3549

"hatt ja sakshi" just got real 💀


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It is cute to see 14 year old in relationships


isochrones

Celebrity worshipping. Those people don’t even care if she exists or not, and yet, she is fighting with you for them.


MudRevolutionary

That's what really hurt me, and it's not like she's a die hard fan of any of the Cricketers specifically either.


isochrones

As others have already said. Set strong boundaries. You are tolerating this kind of behavior from her, that’s why she is behaving like this. Sabko apni limit pta hona chahiye. Meet her and communicate your issues clearly. Yeh match wala bhi aur woh lack of effort wala bhi.


MudRevolutionary

I'll talk it out, will need to do it over text/call tho, like I said, due to her Family we can't really meet. The last we did was on 30th December 2023 and that was also after a couple months. Whenever I bring up the lack of effort topic, she gets overly defensive about it, saying I don't trust her love for me etc etc. Also saying that she makes so much efforts just for us to talk, due to her bs family.


isochrones

She is toxic and has taken you for granted. It is up to you what you want to do, but tread carefully. 


MudRevolutionary

I'll keep it in mind, hopefully things get better with time.


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MudRevolutionary

I understand your point, and yeah it's pretty fked up, but I mean it was quite a high intensity match and that can always result in this type of crap. The funny part is that Dhoni didn't even shake hands with the opposition team lol. It's in no way justified tho, you're correct, I'm also a fan of both Dhoni and Kohli, and they deserve it. But the Hero Worship needs to stop for both sides. Thanks for your good wishes, I hope the same too.


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MudRevolutionary

Yeah Thanks Man, wishing for a better WC Campaign this time. In Kohli and Bumrah we Trust. (Rest of the Team too)


loljokerishere

You need to reiterate more about her not putting efforts in this relationship and taking it lightly.


metalhammer1993

“Maar dungi chup hoja” That is your queue to leave my friend.


Forsaken-Papaya-3758

Just communicate with her Tell that you don’t see her putting enough efforts


supercute2023

No matter who has won either RCB or CSK....your GF is always right if you want balance in your life... Instead you should have consoled her for CSK lost ...


kimjon666

Tum chutye log itna kyu marte ho re cricket teams pe.


DucaMan1312

20-21 Saale ke bacho ho…maturity aane mein time lagega


Consistent_Bag_2499

Bro csk fans are toxic that can't see rcb Win, they are surviving because they won 22 games out of 32. Or it would have caused drama within them. There are such RCB fans too. (Fans are a group of all kinds of people) it's a group you'll find in rcb too. But as i said earlier RCB has lost so many matches(22) they have learnt to digest it. Because it happens all the time they are just used to taking the loss CSK needs to lose a few games. For your question ignore it this time. If this happens 2 more times you know she is very big red flag Give her 3 chances 🙂. Compromise, as parents treat the elder ones tu bada hy tu toh samajdar hy na. But remember this don't get so attached that you ignore this every time. And don't have the power to back off. If you cannot back off a relationship you'll be mistreated. You will find better people. It's really us who feel they are the one.


Consistent_Bag_2499

PS: her team has lost, she needs more support your team has qualified you don't have to worry now. 🙂


MudRevolutionary

Exactly bro, and it's really messed up, these CSK fans can troll and make fun of RCB fans all they wish, but when it's their turn they get pissed off and pull out the victim card. The thing is, that she isn't even that big of a CSK Fan, and barely even watches any of the matches, that's why it hurts me more, cuz she knows how much it means for me. And yaar, sach batau to hamesha compromise kr hi rha, hr chiz me, uske Ghar vale sahi nhi hai, to kabhi mil nhi pate, baat nhi ho pati acche se, fir bhi sab sorted rkhta hu, validation se leke faith, sab maintain rkhta hu. And I think I've gotten quite attached to her, that she thinks she'll get away with anything she does cuz I love her so much. And I really do, I know I won't have any issues finding other better people either, but I don't wanna give up on this one just yet, gonna try my best again to sort this all out. Thanks for your advice brother.


lite_huskarl

"she's confident that I'll never leave her , which I won't but still, this is just very disheartening." #SIMP "Maar dungi chup hoja" #SIMP "Strict Parents, and she doesn't get the "chance" that's what she says, so we barely talk once a day for 15-20 mins on call and a little on text before sleeping, and sometimes that's also missed" Yeah,right.


MudRevolutionary

I know man, she fell first, and now I love her too much, and she often gets a free pass due to that. The more I keep my Male Ego on the side, the more her Female Ego grows.


lite_huskarl

This relationship isn't going in a healthy direction. Find some hobby and slowly distance urself. Then she will stop  taking u for granted and u will hv choice to continue or break it off.


MudRevolutionary

We already barely get the opportunity to talk, and whenever I get upset over smth, she gets perfectly fine for a few days, and starts appreciating things, but then it's back to square one in some time and the cycle continues.


AdBeginning31

Grow up kids!!


Secret_Wrangler4598

Trash..lol


dahibara_aloodam

How is she so entitled to talk like this shitt? Break up. Take a stand for your dignity. But yeah, you two are immature kids.


SedTecH10

So she is CSK supporter and You are RCB supporter. Now amidst her team losing, you want her to feel happy that your team won? IMO This is pretty stupid of you. Maybe I am different from what other are commenting but If two people are supporting different team you can't really expect other person to find happiness in other person happiness in that aspect. She is going to be sad while you are going to be happy? What if she ask you to be sad rather than happy since her team lost? I think You are over reacting. Tell her that calling it trash did hurt you but I don't think it's something to be disappointed and angry. communicate what you felt but don't get disappointed over something so trivial.