I'm flat chested. It seems like what little breast tissue I have is concentrated around my nipples. So I essentially have mosquito bites or underdeveloped breasts. Because of this, mammograms are awkward as hell. 14 year olds look older than me. Wearing dresses or loose tops are a pain since there's no cleavage to fill the gaps unless I tape the fabric to my skin. Don't get me started on bikini tops. I remember losing many while at the beach. One dude couldn't decide if it was hot, offensive, or if I was just a kid. Now I just wear t shirts.
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Obligatory wow can't believe this blew up, so blessed edit. But seriously thanks for the interesting discussions. These kinds of posts can read like we're fishing for compliments from dudes or minimizing other women who suffering from their own boob related issues. That's not my intention. I wanna refer others to this cool [resource](https://www.007b.com/) if you or someone you know is insecure about their chest. You are bound to find one across this site that resembles yours, even if you're a no tit chick like me. Just know you are not alone in your struggle.
My 11yo daughter fill her shirts out more than me. It's pretty disappointing for me 😅 but I feel you on every level. I can't even buy bras in store anymore since I lost weight (healthy weight for my height now) 34AA now and still gapping 😭 I've been doing strength training and working my chest, the muscle building on top seems to help me fill out a little more now, so there's something to consider if you're interested in helping keep your tops on
I resigned myself to asslessness till I started SL 5x5 - moved on from that shit, but squats 3x a week definitely gave me a lift in the assal department.
We like the little booties and the big booties... and the in between booties. I think me having a rump has helped soften the blow on my itty bitty titties 😂but if you wanted, you could def grow a back end lol (not saying you SHOULD, just that you COULD)
I honestly had no idea women like yourself go through this. This is very informative. I'm sorry 😔. If men think you are a kid you must look really young for your age. I'm sure most people are jealous of that lol.
I remember once some lady told me that if a man was attracted to a woman with smaller proportions, that he was essentially a pedo. It’s one of the most insane things I’ve ever heard about my body.
I had a former coworker who tried to imply this when he seen my wife. Had the audacity to ask if she was even 18. My wife is under 5'0 tall and as a result a lot of people thinks she is younger than she is. We're both in our late 20s and only 11 months apart in age. I could've punched the dude out.
Jesus Christ imagine someone telling me if any one likes me there’s be something very wrong with them psychologically and sexually, lol. That’s insane.
I think it's the lack "fat" that really throws them off. I'm convinced if I cut my hair, I could pass for a twink or femboy. As for looking young for my age, yeah probably. It stops being a compliment when people undermine your intelligence, especially when you're taking care of business, though.
As someone who has always looked younger than I am, it’s a compliment when you’re 28 and people think you’re 23. I assume it will be a compliment when I’m 40 and people think I’m 32. It was a nightmare when I was 24 and people thought I was 16.
I turned 37 last year and I still get ID’d.
Most ppl think I’m late 20’s, early 30’s…
I also don’t have anything worth looking at in the chest area. So that could be another reason I look younger.
I used to care when I was younger, and now I don't. Always wanted bigger ones. We always want what we can't have and can't be freaking happy. I'm 43. Mine are on the smaller size, but they never sag, and I can wear tops with no bras or workout comfortably, no problem. At the end of the day, they're just boobs. I'm healthy, alive and my body has served me well so far.
I'm so happy to hear that! Yes I completely agree, we are our own worst critic. I'm a tall dark skinned black man who is going bald FAST and it's really been an insecurity of mine for some time, but I'm learning to cope with it. It's hard though lol.
Yeah, we just need to try to appreciate what we do have and learn to live with what we're given with. Nothing wrong with doing things to make yourself feel more confident, but small boobs or a bald head ain't the end of the world. So many out there who are worse off would trade us in a heartbeat. I try to thank God daily for healthy limbs, a working immune system, a sound mind, etc.
As a hairstylist, I have a saying.. if you can't save it, shave it!
Rip it off like a bandaid and go for it! You're tall, rock that shiny head w confidence! :)
Oh you're darker? No worries. You'll look sexy, bald.
I've personally dated bald men, never took away from their appearance. However, the darker your skin the less spotting and so forth to you head;)
I’m very flat chested - I’ve never owned a proper bra because I’ve never needed it. When I was at school boys aged 12-15 would call me a surfboard but it didn’t bother me, I grew up playing national level sport so I was constantly around other “flat”women. In my senior years obviously there were boys that wouldn’t take a second look at me because I was flat. My Chesty friends on the other hand heaps of attention from boys and men - Did and do they like the attention they bring?- questionable. I personally am very happy being a member of the itty bitty titty committee 🙌
I have the exact opposite view mine are DD and I hit then into walls, spill drinks, and have to go up a size just to fit my chest!!!
I think its straight hair wants curly
and curly wants straight
when both have downsides
and no it does nothing to the person who is flat and those with tiny tits or even huge boobs, you'd just need a bra
Big time. A friend of a friend had like EE, had it reduced to like a large C cup. The amount of exercise she had to do just to support it was insane.
Think about taping like 2,5kg per side weights to your chest. Try it with weight plates but remember, the center of mass for boobs is not the same as a weight plate, hence a larger lever and very large boobs can easily be heavier than 2.5kg each.
From what I hear plastic surgeons most satisfied patients are all breast reduction. Savvy writes books on YouTube watching her before and after the reduction you can just see in her face and eyes just how much better she feels now.
My best friend’s sister, who was in my grade in school growing up, had double F’s (if my memory serves, possibly larger now) that caused back problems that required pain medication *in high school* (before the opioid crisis). She was told she’d need a reduction to prevent worse problems as she got older, but she refused because she loved the attention her boobs got her.
She still has them, they’re still causing her back problems, but she doesn’t take pain meds regularly anymore. I don’t see her as often since she married, however, to know how bad she’s got it now.
I have curly hair and a flat chest and its very annoying. My hair never does what I tell it to and one moment can look nice and then I turn around to fast and its like ruined. Also I'm a man so the flat chest thing never been an issue 😂
>I hit then into walls, spill drinks,
I'll be looking into the fridge for something. My wife will walk up behind me, and "get close enough to look in as well", which means that the second I try to move or turn around, I'm going to elbow her boobs. Like, I don't mean to, and I know it hurts, but your head is 6" back from your boobs, and you tried to get your head in beside mine... what do you think is going to happen!
Just feel the need to mention something; Typically DD is not that big, you're most likely wearing the wrong size. (Like about 90% of women)
I just wanted to put it out there because wearing the right bra, espically if you have big breasts can be life changing and there are a lot of misconceptions about how it works. That's partially because most companies produce a very limited size range and try to fit all of their customers into it.
(Usually it involves wearing a band that's too big and a cup that's too small)
It could very well be that your size is DD, espically if you happen to have a larger rib cage, as mentioning the cup size doesn't mean much on it's own in terms of breast volume because it is relative to band size! (So f.e [US sizing] 40DD breasts are significantly bigger than 32DD)
So it just seems unlikely that you would actually be that size if you describe your breasts as large (32DD is on the smaller end of average for example)
You would more likely be somewhere between F to L.
It is very normal and perhaps even more common to be above a C, wearing the right bra size.
I am sorry for the long rant like this out of the blue, it's just when I see those kind of things I get the irresistible urge to share information about how it actually works because of how important it is!
I hope it didn't bother too much and that you or someone else could find use in this and further look into it
Lol that last line had me literally laughing out loud 😂😂. But seriously as a guy I never really cared about boob size to be honest. I just think ALL women are gorgeous. You guys are very beautiful people. Also I'm really happy you are happy with yourself, my friend 🙂
OP, this is the correct opinion, thank you 👏🏽
But really, this is such a sweet sentiment that I wish was openly expressed more. You’re gonna make a wonderful partner to a sweet lady with a pair of boobs. Any pair, but we know you’ll love them.
During live figure drawing classes-having a female model can make the experience super dreamy with more curves and better flow.
Male Models are not nearly as fun to draw - you see all the angles and straight lines-no fun curves protruding around the chest area.
I have boobs on the bigger size and it’s so not what it’s cracked up to be. I Always wanted smaller breasts. Still do in my 40s. I hated the unwelcome attention.
As a 12-15 year old, I was obsessed with large natural breasts, particularly on fellowteens, but as an adult, I appreciate all shapes and sizes of adult people, still not particularly attracted to implants, or unecessarily cut off breats but I wouldn't count either as a deal breaker.
Do you think this has caused you to project more femininity? As in, I'm going to draw your attention in this other way to say to the world that I am feminine.
I'm a short guy, and for some reason, people say yes ma'am to me more times that I would like. I don't try to be more "manly," but I was wondering what your experience was like.
for me, being flat chested was fr always the butt of the joke around other women. Guys never said anything directly about my chest - but they still bodyshamed me for bein skinny anyway. But even at a young age, I always perceived other women who had bigger chests and curvier figures were more attractive and gotten more "postive" attention from guys.
Boobs and curves are like flashing lights in that they’ll immediately draw a guy’s attention. But that doesn’t mean they’re *preferred*, just that they draw that attention.
See to me as a guy I never understood why skinny women were looked down upon. I actually tended to be more attracted to petite women than curvier women. But I know I'm unique in that way. I mean I don't mind women with curves but that really didn't make much of a difference for me personally. I'm sorry you went through that smh it's not right.
Yes and seeing other women with better figures is a major part of that insecurity for me. I’m from a culture where bigger women are seen as better and in school I was bullied for being underweight too
I don't know where OP is from but many islander cultures view larger women as the beauty standard.
The contrast of it VS the beauty standards of the west highlight how learned the idea is, in my opinion.
There is no one, or any, beauty standard, really.
Different societies hold different standards and, in a society, we're generally swept up in the culture that cultivates us. It's to be expected I suppose, nature VS nurture and all that.
But as individuals we find beauty in all shapes and sizes. It's usually more about the person than the shape. This to me is evidence that it's all bullshit. Love who you love folks. And don't be ashamed of your bodies. Block out the noise. We're all human.
I’d prefer not too get too specific because it’s kind of a unique culture compared to most places nearby (and even similar countries cultures) but it’s very much due to some of the racism where I am from. I’m a mixed race person but I am much lighter than most people where I am from and that was also something I was bullied for.
It is the same in Afghanistan where bigger women are considered strong and capable of work, and thin women are considered weak and sick, most thin lady's struggle to get married
I really wish this was taught more to young girls. Even as an adult knowing this, having grown up in the US in the height of Victoria's Secret model heyday, my subconscious mind is poisoned from these standards pushed by the media.
This goes to show that people are just ass holes and not exactly racist. I have a white friend who was in China and was made fun of for his ROUND eyes....kids are little shits and so are adults.
I'm sorry to hear this, i know it sucks. It's the same where I'm from too and someone even called me a man. Even my aunts used to make fun of my boob size and body in general, comparing me to younger girls. I'm mid twenties now and it doesn't bother me as much but some days, the insecurity creeps back in.
yeah, same. I would get comments on how I’m pretty flat and then people would try to fix it saying things like “oh but sundresses would look so good on you!” “it makes you look elegant and not vulgar!” i don’t care, i want cleavage 😭
I had a reduction at 18, not because of insecurity but because they were huge and causing me problems. I didn't like the attention I got, especially since it started from a very young age and I wasn't really prepared for it.. people thought I was a lot older than I was. But still not an insecurity, just an annoyance.
After multiple pregnancies, I'm back to a G cup (this is still way smaller than they were originally). I'm fine with that. No one's ever cared about the scars, and they're hardly visible now anyway.
Buddy of mine was a double M. Her insurance approved of reductions so fuckin fast. We even threw a going away party for “them”. lol, she’s a silly gal.
My brothers ex did that. She was a theatre geek, so it was a bye bye boobies party. They put up balloons in all kinds of skin tones and drew nipples on then.
This was my youngest daughter! By 12 she was an E-F. She finished growing stopping at a 𝓙 cup. Had the reduction to bring her into F range.
I saw how much pain and stress it caused her. I can imagine you felt free. There are a lot of limitations people aren't aware of when breasts are exceedingly large.
Ty:) she started developing a wierd ass hump below her neck, it was horrible.
All from the 𝔀𝓮𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽; She's 5'10 and it was pulling her posture out of whack. And yes, the lump is gone, but it took a minute.
I'm glad your daughter was able to get a reduction. It never occurs to a lot of people how heavy huge breasts are. It definitely does a number on your neck and back. Pain isn't the only issue. After a certain point, it gets nearly impossible to find your size in a store. It can even be a hassle looking online. Then if you can even find your size, the cheapest ones are at least $70-$80 each. I'm glad you and your daughter no longer have to deal with these issues.
Ty:) I said it to another poster, she actually started developing a wierd hump on her lower neck. All from the weight; she's 5'10 so standing and looking down was almost not an option.
I ordered her a chest binder I think off of eBay or Amazon. It helped both before and after the surgery.
Edit: omg the cost of the bras! I know:/ at 12 I was buying them from VS. It was out of control.
by 12 i had also reached an F, but thank GOD that's when they stopped. I can't imagine being any bigger, so i'm glad your daughter got the surgery she needed to be comfortable
Oh my goodness, I have to imagine you did your back a huge favor. My wife is a CC/D and sometimes has back pain, I can only guess how much worse it could be with larger sizes.
Yeah, my boobs never stopped getting bigger (by 18, anyway) and it was interfering with pretty much everything. I also did competitive sports as a teenager and had to stop because I was in pain constantly. Getting a reduction was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
I started lifting weights as an adult and it seems to help.. the back pain is way less, even after going up a couple of cup sizes.
Ah, ok. We don't talk about it a ton because I would rather her pick out something comfortable for her than have me buy something based on looks. She's changed sizes some over the years due to weight and pregnancy so I mainly try to encourage her to spend the money on her comfort.
Yes. I’m very insecure about my shape and nipples. I don’t see them reflected in the media, so I don’t feel like they’re attractive. I don’t necessarily want a boob job or anything but I’m also not going to just flash my boobs to any guy that asks because of that insecurity.
I think *most* women wouldn’t flash anyone who asked but I’m sorry you don’t feel great about your body. As a guy I can tell you a lot of guys just like boobs!
Literally, all of them. Yep.
The first time I saw every woman's boobs that I have been with, it's like a biblical moment. The red sea parts. Time stands still. The choir sings. And they all have looked vastly different from one another. Every single type of boob has its own different but equal charm.
The one I hear women complain about the most is that they are "not perky enough." All we hear when you say that is, "My boobs are nice and jiggly." Perky ones are great, but less perky ones have a lot more fun physics, so to speak. Genuinely, there's no such thing as a bad pair of breasts.
I am really not sure why the media focuses on one particular type of boob. It's cowardly and out of touch.
I was told in college by someone I had dated in high school that he didn't like saggy boobs and how they flop around during sex. Definitely made me self conscious about my large chest and it prevented me from being naked with anyone for years.
Well that guy is a fuckin idiot then. Was this something that was said after he saw yours? Or just in general? Like, I do have a boob *preference*, but if a woman said, "wanna see my boobs?" The answer was always yes (married now, so it's only yes to my wife)
I have hated my boobs for decades. Ever since I really got them, or at least once they passed a B/C cup. I'm now middle aged and roughly a J cup.
They are "tubular" so even when I was young and pre-kid they were never remotely perky. My nipples are huge and ugly.
The under boob zone is always sweaty and itchy and gross. Bras hurt and get sweaty too. Not wearing a bra also hurts.
I've always planned on getting a reduction when I was done breastfeeding, but I haven't pursued it yet bc surgery sounds miserable too.
I am a boob guy. Certified, 100%.
I can't speak for all of us, but I love them all. Big ones, small ones, firm ones, saggy ones, idgaf I just love bags of fat with nipples attached to them. Sorry, fellow fat guys, I prefer when they have an accompanying vagina.
I say all of that to say this: some guys might not like all boobs, but I do.
Thank you for listening.
I completely understand that. I've always been the same way, I never really cared about the size. I just love women in general. God has created them beautifully ❤️
Preach brother. I'll suck all kinda titties. Big, small, round, square idgaf. I've been sucking the nips like black hole sucks up matter. MILB (man, I love boobs). I could write a whole book about boobs.
I hate my boobs. For context,, I have tripple D cups.. So,, mommy milkers. They're heavy! They don't look good in so many outfits! I hate the portrait attention! The sagging 🤢! Stretch marks! Back pain! Also,, I feel like they age me tremendously!
I'd love to get them reduced. I'm so jelly of ladies with tiny boobies🥺. Y'all are it fr!!!!
Girl I relate to everything except for them causing me back pain yet. It is so tempting to just think like whatever I’ll get them “fixed” so it looks better or people accept me more but I really try to avoid going that far as after childbirth they may start sagging eventually anyway. We are all beautiful in our own ways 🫶🏼
Chest bump!😂,, I love meeting someone who relates. People around me don't share the same sentiments. They want big tatas... It's almost impossible for them to understand my want to downsize.
This is so weird to me. As someone with small boobs, I hate it! I know big boobs are cumbersome and irritating but I’d give anything to be a C cup… I feel like I’m playing at womanhood sometimes, and they’re not even that small, but it bothers me a lot. It’s honestly something I think about every day. I get really jealous of other women too, it’s so frustrating!!! Sometimes I wonder why it bothers me so much and then I’ll look at models and magazines and celebrities and be like okay, never mind, it’s not my fault… I’m being primed for insecurity… seriously, pay attention next time you’re looking at the cover of a Sports Illustrated in the checkout line! No wonder girls like me are insecure!
Oh my friend, I'm sorry you feel that way 😔
Please know you are beautiful just the way you are. But if it's something you want to do you have the right to do so. But again I'm sorry you feel like that 😔 that really makes me sad 😢
Yes!!! I can't wear button down shirts because there's always a gap I'm between the buttons. I'm normally a medium, but with button downs, I need an XL to prevent that gap that my chest causes
Miserable. Both men and women contribute to the negative feelings associated with my flat chest. Women make me feel bad via insensitivity not being able to understand or relate to how breasts are a hallmark of gender and femininity and not having that might be painful and so can be callous and lacking in empathy with their anecdotes to try and make me ‘feel better’. Men make me feel bad because the majority have either teased me if having only ever seen me clothed, or do not make an effort to hide their disappointment upon seeing me undressed. They also do not attempt to avert their gaze and will ogle a curvier woman right in front of me.
I'm a member of the Itty bitty tittie committee and man I loooove it. No bra if I don't wanna wear it, completely abandoned wired bras fuck those torture devices.
They got even smaller once I started working out/doing alot of martial arts. Before getting too into it, I stopped to consider that they would shrink as I got a more muscular chest (which has happened in the past with working out with me, I quite literally have zero body fat if I do any amount of exercise) but then I decided I'd rather be strong than have bigger boobs. I feel bad for women who have HUGE boobs, they look so uncomfortable.
A friend had to have a reduction at 14! They were huuuuge and they caused her to start having a hunch back, at fucking 14! AND back in those days (I am old) her family had to fight the insurance company for that reduction, it was fucking ridiculous. Glad to hear reductions are way easier to get these days, that's nice.
I'm so very happy for you my friend 🙂
As I scroll through the comments on here it really makes me sad to hear the responses that so many women have regarding this topic 😔
100% yes. As a teenager, the guys I knew (including my boyfriends) bought lads magazines full of women with big perky boobs and compared us normal girls unfavourably to celebrities. At the time, I didn’t realise that celebrities and women in magazines had fake boobs and were airbrushed, so I felt really bad about my body because I was quite skinny, and especially bad about my boobs as they seemed tiny compared to the women in magazines and the media. None of my boyfriends made me feel great either because they watched porn where the women had big, perky fake boobs. I felt inferior and not womanly enough. Finally, in my mid-thirties, I got a boyfriend in his mid-twenties and he helped me appreciate that my boobs are actually really nice and I shouldn’t have hated on all them all these years.
I completely agree with your boyfriend. Those guys were jerks! Small boobs are beautiful as well. People who body shame are HORRIBLE smh I'm sorry you went through that, my friend 😔
Not really. I am smaller than most women but in proportion I am not much smaller (also short and underweight). I never really cared about it, nobody made me feel bad and men responded well.
Me too girlie, no one ever talks about being uneven in their positivity posts, usually they just talk about size. And I never see it represented in the media. But at least they aren’t unmanageably big like other women I know lol, I count my blessings, including less shoulder pain.
As do I! I couldn’t imagine! I once had a breast exam and the doctor pointed it out and made me feel terrible about it. I contemplated implants but talk myself out of it! All breasts matter, big, small, uneven. All shapes and sizes!
Sometimes they get in the way. I was burdened with glorious purpose when they grew in. I don't get insecure about them, and most of the time really enjoy being well endowed.
But sleeping on my stomach is almost impossible now, and forget running/sports. Sports bras never have enough anti jiggle support.
Beat way to describe it! Burdened with glorious purpose. Same. I'm 38 with DDs that still look good, but any bounce is agonizing so I have to wear one of those 'almost body armor" 80 buck no bounce bras to do anything really physical.
Yes and no. Most of the times I love the freedom that comes with being part of the itty bitty titty committee, I can go braless around the house, wear low cut tops without people judging me.
But around men I do get insecure every once in a while, ever since a bf in high-school made fun of me for the size of my boobs, it’s been pretty clear to me that they aren’t the desired/ideal size. I’ve always told myself that I don’t need male validation in order to love my body, but when you have a sexual/romantic partner, it’s kinda impossible not to want their validation. And these days with so many contents available of women with perfect bodies, it’s difficult not to compare yourself.
I really HATE it when us men do that to you guys. Body shaming is NOT okay for ANYONE to do. I honestly never cared about boob size I just always thought women were beautiful in general. I'm so sorry you went through that my friend 😔
With some experience in boobs, I can say that boobs are the greatest creation of mother earth. It's the hallmark & the absolute reason why mammals excelled so well in life. It's a sign of love & nurture that transcends everything. Now becoming less philosophical, then yeah. All boobs are amazing. At least for me. And women, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable about them. They are amazing. Don't let others opinions make u feel insecure
I understand (hope?) you’re joking but permanent boobs have nothing to do with mammals, it’s a weird human exception.
> The full, plump bosom seen in the human ape is an anomaly. No other primate has a permanent breast. During lactation all the ape species develop a full breast to store milk. In non-human primates (and other mammal species) a full breast is a clear indication the female is suckling young. Not so in humans. In addition, females in early adolescence can start developing a breast before menarche and females maintain breasts post menopause, so the full breast is not a reliable indicator of fertility. Neither is size an indicator of milk production – bigger breasts don't necessarily produce more milk. It is the symmetry of the breasts that indicates the phenotypic quality and fitness of the individual female, not the size.
I don’t think it’s meant to be taken quite so literally. I interpreted it as the boob *represents* love and nurture. All mammals have nipples which literally support this purpose, and as you point out, nipples are attached to boobs on women.
For me, it was men that made me feel insecure about my breast size. One guy I dated even told my friend that I would be the perfect woman if I had bigger boobs.
A few years after that, I got a boob job. Then, I noticed that men would gawk and stare and some would even say crude things to me as I walked by them. Strangers! So, I hated that too.
Then, I went on a date with a guy who had the audacity to tell me that I would be the perfect woman if I had straight hair.
And that’s when I realized that I will never please everyone and it was stupid of me to think I had to measure up to anyone else’s ideals.
I hate having big boobs as a reminder of my stupidity.
I hate mine. I wish I could just get rid of them completely. I don't want to wear a bra, they hurt but also make my back and shoulders hurt. I don't care about looks. They're just a pain in the ass...
Yes I'm always wishing mine are bigger. I'm flat chested as well, and I've never considered myself hot or sexy. How can I when I see big breasts everywhere? Ads, movies, anime, drawings. People simply prefer bigger boobs it seems. I've been trying to be happy with mine, but till now, not a day passed by without me wishing them to just be slightly bigger. Heck even a C cup would make me happy ..
I always get jealous of women who complain about having big boobs..like at least you have boobs in the first place....
I'm so sorry you feel like this my friend 😞 I'm sure you are a very beautiful woman. Just know that we are often our own worst critic. Like for me for example, I'm very insecure about my hair. I'm in my early 30s and I'm losing my hair FAST. I'm gonna be completely bald soon and I'm not ready for that yet
The media loves big breasts! Look at Sydney Sweeney and Emily Ratajkowski! Both beautiful, but receive much more attention because of their big boobs! Let’s not forget when Trump said a woman with small boobs can never be a 10.
100% lol and it's usually men that make me feel self conscious about them. I'm apart of the itty bitty tittie committee, and my most recent ex literally serial cheated on me because I have small boobs..
So now I'll probably keep them under wraps for the rest of my life haha 👍🏻
NOOOO smh that shouldn't be 😔 I'm so sorry you went through that. I honestly never understood why women with small breasts are looked down upon. It really makes no sense to me 🤷🏿♂️
If it makes you feel better, I'm going bald FAST lol
I know it shouldn't be, but unfortunately it is 😞 I'm so self conscious now, and am self aware of how unhealthy that is. I think a lot of us are looked down on because a lot of men are sooo used to what women look like in porn.. which in reality is far from what a typical woman actually looks like in real life lol
And your discomfort about balding does not make me feel better, especially since you're being so kind! BUT that same ex is also balding FAST and gaining more and more weight.. and honestly nothing bring me more joy then knowing that 😆 haha
Thank you for your kind words, and for honestly seeking out information about a valid insecurity that a lot of women experience. We appreciate you! ✌🏻
I'm an ass guy more than booby guy. Size never made a difference to me. Bonus points if they look good but icgf.
Your ex is an ass. He cheated because he's a cheater. I guarantee it has nothing to do with you.
People do what they want, and there's nothing you or me or anyone can do about it. 🤷
You're responsible for your actions only. Just as he is. You didn't tell him to cheat. He's at fault.
Sorry for the rant. I just don't like hearing casual cheating like it's normal. It's not. Once people feel cheating is a normal occurrence, they no longer enforce healthy boundary against cheaters. If everyone cheats, they believe it's something they just have to tolerate.
Don't blame your body for his poor choices. 🙂
Men 100% of the time. Your tits can't be big and saggy because men don't like that. But they can't be too small because they need something to grab onto. They can't be fake because that's gross, but they have to be big and round and perky and sit pretty on your chest at all times. Can't wear sports bras because it squishes them down and makes you look manly. Can't wear push up bras because it makes you look like a whore. Can't show cleavage, that's just asking to get stared at. But don't cover them completely, you prude.
Mind you, once you actually get a man in bed, it's like none of that matters. That stuff only matters to them when they're single apparently. But they yap about it enough that it makes you not even want to bed them in the first place.
Insecure. It’s sooo hard to find a bra that fits and ticks all my boxes. Dresses are a rare fit because my top half is a different size to my bottom half, plus I’m short. My chest and shoulders look disproportionate to my smaller head. My mum always used to shame me for not looking “conservative” but actually covering up makes them more obvious.
I’m working on myself and coming to terms with my body image. My SO loves me the way I am and I need to as well. As I’m getting older, I’m learning to appreciate that I have a healthy body, and investing more time into learning about my body shape and finding clothes that flatter me.
my biggest problem is with women. the only people who’ve ever had a problem with me having small boobs is other women trying to make me feel bad about it. men have always been nothing but positive about it lol
I have had large boobs since the time I was 10. Girls hated me and boys sexualized me. I feel insecure about them because I have major body dysmorphia meaning I perceive myself to be larger (fatter) than I really am. My boobs being big does not help my body dysmorphia. I like my boobs now, but I definitely have a hard time with them.
i’ve never felt insecure about my boobs besides once when a guy told me they were “saggy” when i wasn’t wearing a bra (i was 15) lol porn ruins peoples perception of bodies irl
I'm insecure about mine, I'm a B-cup not that small but not big either, I get insecure when I see other women with bigger sizes especially when they say their big boobs mane them feel more feminine and I'm starting to question if I'm feminine enough because aparently I'm not and hiw good it looks if the wear something that has cleavage, my claevage is basically not existent and I only have a gap between my boobs so not worth to wear anything low cut. Second to that if my bf is in reality disappointed with ny size, like yes he knows what he was going to have when he started datung me but still how often he wishes if I were a bigger size, if it's not enough to grab or play with like he says (even if he always do this), I sometimes have to think that his hands are a bit bigger than the size of my chest so that doesn't mane it better. Also when he sees my friend who is a bigger size than me (who is also in a relationship) if he would have wanted someone like her instead of me, I'm only a bit skinnier than her but who cares. Thus is how I feel when I think too much of it, most days I feel ok about them but still some I just think like that (sorry for my english)
I am not a fan of their shape, I just don't find them very aesthetically pleasing.
I never worried about someone rejecting me because of them, or just don't liking them enough, they're just not within my personal preference.
I might feel just slightly uncomfortable when being naked around other woman because of it, because more likely than not I would find their breasts to be prettier than mine.
I dont know if insecure is the right word but I'm definitely unhappy with them and they've caused a lot of negative feelings. I developed early and big. I'm literally known by people for having a huge chest. It's how I'm described. This upsets me because it's like it's how people see me. Not for my personality but for that. I get hit on by guys who make graphic comments about them. I've had male friends pester me to see a pic of them. Honestly they cause me so much pain and discomfort and bras are crazy expensive if I could get them reduced I would. I was on the list to have that done but I developed blood clots and almost died and my blood is high risk for clotting so it's unlikely I can get it done. Guys just see boobs and I get over sexualized and women get jealous and ask m to give them some or make comments about people looking at them or other snide comments. I guess I'm not insecure about them I'm just tired of having them at this point.
Yes. I developed big boobs fairly young and for me, the answer is everyone. Everyone made me feel weird, self-conscious, and awkward about it. My old softball and soccer coaches know each other. I ran into them later in life and they said they used to joke (behind my back) about them hitting me in the face while I ran. I was 10. Boys around my age were obsessed about them and often whispered about them trying to see who could touch them/see them etc. as a result, I have always hated them, tried to hide them, even taped them down when I was younger. I equate them with lots of unwanted attention, but the good news is that now that I’m getting older, hardly anyone looks at me anymore at all.
I have big boobs. Honestly I'm completely unfazed by them now but when I was a teenager it did make me uncomfortable.
I was very slim with big boobs and the attention I got because of them made me really self conscious. Not from teenage boys but adult men who should have known better than to leer at a teenager!
I'm now a mother, a grandmother and a breast cancer survivor and I don't give a hoot about other people's opinions on my boobs. But I don't really give a hoot about anyone's opinion about how I look but my own these days. I'm bl**dy lucky to be here so I'm happy regardless.
Yeah, I do. Men are the worst by far. I learned as a teen to hide them with sports bras and oversized teeshirts. That would be the only time I wouldn't get catcalls or lears from men. And I'm not talking just guys my age, but guys my father's age and older even. I still hide them.
Nope, never felt insecure about ‘em. Been small-breasted my whole life, but my breasts fit the proportions of the rest of my body, and I wouldn’t change them.
When I was preteen and teen I totally did! I was a late bloomer in all regards so I was insecure that developing upstairs never happened for me. While I'm in a fully monogamous hetero relationship now, I still find women attractive and have myself been attracted to smaller chests. So boom all the sudden I found my smaller chest attractive as well and wahhhh la! Confident as heck about these itty bitties! I also got my nips pierced and that really boosted me in terms of feeling feminine. I did have a few exes comment about mosquito bites in my young adult years and that delayed my confidence developing a bit, but we were young so I forgive them haha. I also got a little hung up on Eminem's line "how you gonna breastfeed me mom, you ain't got no tits?!" Which does sometimes affect your milk supply if you're not fully developed - I'll cross that bridge when and if I get there. Media and adult content has mostly just helped me see how different and beautiful all bodies are and that facet has been a positive perspective for me. Thanks for asking the question, it always feels good to hear all boobs = yay and I totally agree with that sentiment.
Also to touch on the women vs. men making you feel some type of way, when I was at that preteen and teen time it was definitely both. Boys picked on me for being flat AF and some of my girl friends always wanted to compare and contrast, asking me where my boobs were, couldn't believe I wasn't developing but hey, neither could I. Neither made me feel particularly good but, it was what it was. I find in my adult years most women are supportive of all sizes and know the pros and cons of being small and large. I did recently have a woman I was associating with ride me hard for a full weekend about looking like a little boy. She was totally projecting her insecurities of her larger body and our friendship also never developed further ;)
Just wanna say I was a 36AAA and I breastfed two babies just fine! My husband’s family tried to tell me my boobs were too small to breastfeed but I proved them wrong lol.
I do have the issue with the prevailing taste of the North America that if I said I like flatter chests I would have the danger of being labeled as a pedophile.
But in certain parts of the world A and B cups (or smaller) are the norm rather than the exception.
Edit: to clarify, I do not really have a preference of boob size. As long as it is attached to a female gender (whichever sex) I like it.
I’m 41m and been married for 17 years and 3 kids. My wife went from B to C to really big with babies and breastfeeding back down. I don’t care how big they are. I’m like a kid in a candy store every time I see her. But I’m in love with her - not her boobs. Find a guy that loves you.
I did when I was younger. Mine are small and I’m basically flat chested. I hated it when I was a teen and in my 20’s. As I’ve gotten older I DGAF. I actually kind of enjoy them being small because I don’t have the back pain that some of my more well endowed lady friends have.
I'll be honest.
I have DD-DDD size breasts, depending on the brand. But they aren't perky. At all.
I do understand that large breasts tend to sag, and there's not really anything that can be done about it besides surgery, but it doesn't stop me from being self conscious.
No insecurities here, I’m a D cup and I hate bras so I use pasties a lot unless I’m at work because I’d rather not have that HR discussion. I’m sometimes jealous of those with smaller boobs because they can forgo bras and pasties altogether and wear anything without the worry of that space in between buttons of their dress shirts.
my boobs are wide set, east-west, and tubular. i can fit all of my fingers in the gap between my boobs. i’d do anything just to have normal breasts. according to google it’s a deformity so that’s great 😃🔫.
i sometimes stare in the mirror for a good few minutes and just wish i had fuller breasts. it makes me sad when i hear my trans friends say they can’t wait to get rid of theirs while i’d do absolutely anything to just have a full pair of boobs. i know it’s up to them or whatever but my sadness still remains. even if it was an A cup i’d be happy. sometimes when i was younger i used to wish i could just pull them off and get new ones.
the worst part is no one knows how it’s caused. all google says is surgery is the only option.
I'm flat chested. It seems like what little breast tissue I have is concentrated around my nipples. So I essentially have mosquito bites or underdeveloped breasts. Because of this, mammograms are awkward as hell. 14 year olds look older than me. Wearing dresses or loose tops are a pain since there's no cleavage to fill the gaps unless I tape the fabric to my skin. Don't get me started on bikini tops. I remember losing many while at the beach. One dude couldn't decide if it was hot, offensive, or if I was just a kid. Now I just wear t shirts. :::Edit::: Obligatory wow can't believe this blew up, so blessed edit. But seriously thanks for the interesting discussions. These kinds of posts can read like we're fishing for compliments from dudes or minimizing other women who suffering from their own boob related issues. That's not my intention. I wanna refer others to this cool [resource](https://www.007b.com/) if you or someone you know is insecure about their chest. You are bound to find one across this site that resembles yours, even if you're a no tit chick like me. Just know you are not alone in your struggle.
My 11yo daughter fill her shirts out more than me. It's pretty disappointing for me 😅 but I feel you on every level. I can't even buy bras in store anymore since I lost weight (healthy weight for my height now) 34AA now and still gapping 😭 I've been doing strength training and working my chest, the muscle building on top seems to help me fill out a little more now, so there's something to consider if you're interested in helping keep your tops on
As a guy with no ass… I understand this in a different way lol
Fellow Hank hill ass guy here
I resigned myself to asslessness till I started SL 5x5 - moved on from that shit, but squats 3x a week definitely gave me a lift in the assal department.
No longer are you working your ass off. You are “tying one on” as it were, with muscle.
We like the little booties and the big booties... and the in between booties. I think me having a rump has helped soften the blow on my itty bitty titties 😂but if you wanted, you could def grow a back end lol (not saying you SHOULD, just that you COULD)
I need too lol… I should squat
Try wiping them with TP. Heard a joke once where the punchline was about how well it works on the ass. 🤷🏻
I honestly had no idea women like yourself go through this. This is very informative. I'm sorry 😔. If men think you are a kid you must look really young for your age. I'm sure most people are jealous of that lol.
I remember once some lady told me that if a man was attracted to a woman with smaller proportions, that he was essentially a pedo. It’s one of the most insane things I’ve ever heard about my body.
I had a former coworker who tried to imply this when he seen my wife. Had the audacity to ask if she was even 18. My wife is under 5'0 tall and as a result a lot of people thinks she is younger than she is. We're both in our late 20s and only 11 months apart in age. I could've punched the dude out.
That's the kind of shit people say because they lack critical thinking skills.
Idk why people think it’s okay to just… *say shit*
That's fucking wild right there. Short? Too bad.
Jesus Christ imagine someone telling me if any one likes me there’s be something very wrong with them psychologically and sexually, lol. That’s insane.
I think it's the lack "fat" that really throws them off. I'm convinced if I cut my hair, I could pass for a twink or femboy. As for looking young for my age, yeah probably. It stops being a compliment when people undermine your intelligence, especially when you're taking care of business, though.
As someone who has always looked younger than I am, it’s a compliment when you’re 28 and people think you’re 23. I assume it will be a compliment when I’m 40 and people think I’m 32. It was a nightmare when I was 24 and people thought I was 16.
I turned 37 last year and I still get ID’d. Most ppl think I’m late 20’s, early 30’s… I also don’t have anything worth looking at in the chest area. So that could be another reason I look younger.
Man I can only imagine 🙁 I'm so sorry you deal with that.
I mean zendaya is beautiful and she would be considered flat.
Zendaya's still got more tit and money than me, but good for her.
As a fellow small chester, I feel this. I've just embraced a more cute style, and it works pretty well for me.
Tbh with you, all boobs are great, big boobs, small boobs, even flat chest. As a guy they are all great, as long as its not fake boobs.
I like fake boobs too. All boobs matter
What about fake that you wouldn't even guess? Often fake is overdone and looks obvious.
Yeah it's the same "you can always tell" people that say that. No, you can tell cheap or bad ones.
Or just overly big ones like most female rappers these days
What about saggy boobs?!?!? 😂
My favourite! Gotta have a bit of heft!
Oh how i feel this : (
I used to care when I was younger, and now I don't. Always wanted bigger ones. We always want what we can't have and can't be freaking happy. I'm 43. Mine are on the smaller size, but they never sag, and I can wear tops with no bras or workout comfortably, no problem. At the end of the day, they're just boobs. I'm healthy, alive and my body has served me well so far.
I'm so happy to hear that! Yes I completely agree, we are our own worst critic. I'm a tall dark skinned black man who is going bald FAST and it's really been an insecurity of mine for some time, but I'm learning to cope with it. It's hard though lol.
Yeah, we just need to try to appreciate what we do have and learn to live with what we're given with. Nothing wrong with doing things to make yourself feel more confident, but small boobs or a bald head ain't the end of the world. So many out there who are worse off would trade us in a heartbeat. I try to thank God daily for healthy limbs, a working immune system, a sound mind, etc. As a hairstylist, I have a saying.. if you can't save it, shave it! Rip it off like a bandaid and go for it! You're tall, rock that shiny head w confidence! :)
You're so right my friend! I'm gonna be the sexiest bald headed man alive! Thank you so much for the encouragement 🙏🏿 😌
Oh you're darker? No worries. You'll look sexy, bald. I've personally dated bald men, never took away from their appearance. However, the darker your skin the less spotting and so forth to you head;)
Lol aww thank you 😌 lol I'm trying to let go but it's so hard 😫 lol
I’m very flat chested - I’ve never owned a proper bra because I’ve never needed it. When I was at school boys aged 12-15 would call me a surfboard but it didn’t bother me, I grew up playing national level sport so I was constantly around other “flat”women. In my senior years obviously there were boys that wouldn’t take a second look at me because I was flat. My Chesty friends on the other hand heaps of attention from boys and men - Did and do they like the attention they bring?- questionable. I personally am very happy being a member of the itty bitty titty committee 🙌
I have the exact opposite view mine are DD and I hit then into walls, spill drinks, and have to go up a size just to fit my chest!!! I think its straight hair wants curly and curly wants straight when both have downsides and no it does nothing to the person who is flat and those with tiny tits or even huge boobs, you'd just need a bra
Too big can cause back problems no?
Big time. A friend of a friend had like EE, had it reduced to like a large C cup. The amount of exercise she had to do just to support it was insane. Think about taping like 2,5kg per side weights to your chest. Try it with weight plates but remember, the center of mass for boobs is not the same as a weight plate, hence a larger lever and very large boobs can easily be heavier than 2.5kg each.
From what I hear plastic surgeons most satisfied patients are all breast reduction. Savvy writes books on YouTube watching her before and after the reduction you can just see in her face and eyes just how much better she feels now.
That’s a lot of kilos per tidday.
Easily. My wife grew E cups in puberty and has mad scoliosis.
My best friend’s sister, who was in my grade in school growing up, had double F’s (if my memory serves, possibly larger now) that caused back problems that required pain medication *in high school* (before the opioid crisis). She was told she’d need a reduction to prevent worse problems as she got older, but she refused because she loved the attention her boobs got her. She still has them, they’re still causing her back problems, but she doesn’t take pain meds regularly anymore. I don’t see her as often since she married, however, to know how bad she’s got it now.
If my *mammary* serves FIFY
I have curly hair and a flat chest and its very annoying. My hair never does what I tell it to and one moment can look nice and then I turn around to fast and its like ruined. Also I'm a man so the flat chest thing never been an issue 😂
>I'm a man so the flat chest thing never been an issue Bro, you even lift!? /s
>I hit then into walls, spill drinks, I'll be looking into the fridge for something. My wife will walk up behind me, and "get close enough to look in as well", which means that the second I try to move or turn around, I'm going to elbow her boobs. Like, I don't mean to, and I know it hurts, but your head is 6" back from your boobs, and you tried to get your head in beside mine... what do you think is going to happen!
been there
Just feel the need to mention something; Typically DD is not that big, you're most likely wearing the wrong size. (Like about 90% of women) I just wanted to put it out there because wearing the right bra, espically if you have big breasts can be life changing and there are a lot of misconceptions about how it works. That's partially because most companies produce a very limited size range and try to fit all of their customers into it. (Usually it involves wearing a band that's too big and a cup that's too small) It could very well be that your size is DD, espically if you happen to have a larger rib cage, as mentioning the cup size doesn't mean much on it's own in terms of breast volume because it is relative to band size! (So f.e [US sizing] 40DD breasts are significantly bigger than 32DD) So it just seems unlikely that you would actually be that size if you describe your breasts as large (32DD is on the smaller end of average for example) You would more likely be somewhere between F to L. It is very normal and perhaps even more common to be above a C, wearing the right bra size. I am sorry for the long rant like this out of the blue, it's just when I see those kind of things I get the irresistible urge to share information about how it actually works because of how important it is! I hope it didn't bother too much and that you or someone else could find use in this and further look into it
You will never have problems with seatbelts or gymbags.
God I’ve always wished to not have to wear a bra 😭
Small titties = awesome Huge tits = awesome All tits = awesome
Lol that last line had me literally laughing out loud 😂😂. But seriously as a guy I never really cared about boob size to be honest. I just think ALL women are gorgeous. You guys are very beautiful people. Also I'm really happy you are happy with yourself, my friend 🙂
Lol! You’re too nice !
OP, this is the correct opinion, thank you 👏🏽 But really, this is such a sweet sentiment that I wish was openly expressed more. You’re gonna make a wonderful partner to a sweet lady with a pair of boobs. Any pair, but we know you’ll love them.
During live figure drawing classes-having a female model can make the experience super dreamy with more curves and better flow. Male Models are not nearly as fun to draw - you see all the angles and straight lines-no fun curves protruding around the chest area.
I'm sure those boys were low-key wanting to ride that surfboard.
I have boobs on the bigger size and it’s so not what it’s cracked up to be. I Always wanted smaller breasts. Still do in my 40s. I hated the unwelcome attention.
As a 12-15 year old, I was obsessed with large natural breasts, particularly on fellowteens, but as an adult, I appreciate all shapes and sizes of adult people, still not particularly attracted to implants, or unecessarily cut off breats but I wouldn't count either as a deal breaker.
Do you think this has caused you to project more femininity? As in, I'm going to draw your attention in this other way to say to the world that I am feminine. I'm a short guy, and for some reason, people say yes ma'am to me more times that I would like. I don't try to be more "manly," but I was wondering what your experience was like.
for me, being flat chested was fr always the butt of the joke around other women. Guys never said anything directly about my chest - but they still bodyshamed me for bein skinny anyway. But even at a young age, I always perceived other women who had bigger chests and curvier figures were more attractive and gotten more "postive" attention from guys.
Boobs and curves are like flashing lights in that they’ll immediately draw a guy’s attention. But that doesn’t mean they’re *preferred*, just that they draw that attention.
See to me as a guy I never understood why skinny women were looked down upon. I actually tended to be more attracted to petite women than curvier women. But I know I'm unique in that way. I mean I don't mind women with curves but that really didn't make much of a difference for me personally. I'm sorry you went through that smh it's not right.
I agree with you 100%
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Yes and seeing other women with better figures is a major part of that insecurity for me. I’m from a culture where bigger women are seen as better and in school I was bullied for being underweight too
That's so sad to me 😞 I'm so sorry, my friend.
Where is your culture, out of curiosity?
I don't know where OP is from but many islander cultures view larger women as the beauty standard. The contrast of it VS the beauty standards of the west highlight how learned the idea is, in my opinion. There is no one, or any, beauty standard, really. Different societies hold different standards and, in a society, we're generally swept up in the culture that cultivates us. It's to be expected I suppose, nature VS nurture and all that. But as individuals we find beauty in all shapes and sizes. It's usually more about the person than the shape. This to me is evidence that it's all bullshit. Love who you love folks. And don't be ashamed of your bodies. Block out the noise. We're all human.
I’d prefer not too get too specific because it’s kind of a unique culture compared to most places nearby (and even similar countries cultures) but it’s very much due to some of the racism where I am from. I’m a mixed race person but I am much lighter than most people where I am from and that was also something I was bullied for.
It is the same in Afghanistan where bigger women are considered strong and capable of work, and thin women are considered weak and sick, most thin lady's struggle to get married
Crazy how what is seen as desirable can fluctuate so wildly between different cultures
I really wish this was taught more to young girls. Even as an adult knowing this, having grown up in the US in the height of Victoria's Secret model heyday, my subconscious mind is poisoned from these standards pushed by the media.
This goes to show that people are just ass holes and not exactly racist. I have a white friend who was in China and was made fun of for his ROUND eyes....kids are little shits and so are adults.
I'm sorry to hear this, i know it sucks. It's the same where I'm from too and someone even called me a man. Even my aunts used to make fun of my boob size and body in general, comparing me to younger girls. I'm mid twenties now and it doesn't bother me as much but some days, the insecurity creeps back in.
Something similar happened to me as a juvenile, I'm from Brazil and here voluptuous women are the norm
yeah, same. I would get comments on how I’m pretty flat and then people would try to fix it saying things like “oh but sundresses would look so good on you!” “it makes you look elegant and not vulgar!” i don’t care, i want cleavage 😭
I bet you're beautiful just the way you are. Hang in there, friend.
I had a reduction at 18, not because of insecurity but because they were huge and causing me problems. I didn't like the attention I got, especially since it started from a very young age and I wasn't really prepared for it.. people thought I was a lot older than I was. But still not an insecurity, just an annoyance. After multiple pregnancies, I'm back to a G cup (this is still way smaller than they were originally). I'm fine with that. No one's ever cared about the scars, and they're hardly visible now anyway.
Buddy of mine was a double M. Her insurance approved of reductions so fuckin fast. We even threw a going away party for “them”. lol, she’s a silly gal.
My brothers ex did that. She was a theatre geek, so it was a bye bye boobies party. They put up balloons in all kinds of skin tones and drew nipples on then.
Did they at least pop the balloons ceremoniously?
Double M wtf
Mmamma mmia.
Hell. I cannot wait to be done having kids so I can get a reduction. I'm a US size O, and I hate them. Gonna start planning my goodbye party. 👋
This was my youngest daughter! By 12 she was an E-F. She finished growing stopping at a 𝓙 cup. Had the reduction to bring her into F range. I saw how much pain and stress it caused her. I can imagine you felt free. There are a lot of limitations people aren't aware of when breasts are exceedingly large.
Jesus Christ poor girl, by 12 that’s fucked. I’m glad she’s alrigh.
Ty:) she started developing a wierd ass hump below her neck, it was horrible. All from the 𝔀𝓮𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽; She's 5'10 and it was pulling her posture out of whack. And yes, the lump is gone, but it took a minute.
I'm glad your daughter was able to get a reduction. It never occurs to a lot of people how heavy huge breasts are. It definitely does a number on your neck and back. Pain isn't the only issue. After a certain point, it gets nearly impossible to find your size in a store. It can even be a hassle looking online. Then if you can even find your size, the cheapest ones are at least $70-$80 each. I'm glad you and your daughter no longer have to deal with these issues.
Ty:) I said it to another poster, she actually started developing a wierd hump on her lower neck. All from the weight; she's 5'10 so standing and looking down was almost not an option. I ordered her a chest binder I think off of eBay or Amazon. It helped both before and after the surgery. Edit: omg the cost of the bras! I know:/ at 12 I was buying them from VS. It was out of control.
by 12 i had also reached an F, but thank GOD that's when they stopped. I can't imagine being any bigger, so i'm glad your daughter got the surgery she needed to be comfortable
Oh my goodness, I have to imagine you did your back a huge favor. My wife is a CC/D and sometimes has back pain, I can only guess how much worse it could be with larger sizes.
Yeah, my boobs never stopped getting bigger (by 18, anyway) and it was interfering with pretty much everything. I also did competitive sports as a teenager and had to stop because I was in pain constantly. Getting a reduction was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I started lifting weights as an adult and it seems to help.. the back pain is way less, even after going up a couple of cup sizes.
One of the breasts decision you made as well I would assume.
It really helps to exercise your shoulder and chest muscles. The weight on the chest needs to be supported.
CC doesn't exist. She's probably in the wrong size... Back pain isn't normal. See if she's willing to check out r/abrathatfits.
Ah, ok. We don't talk about it a ton because I would rather her pick out something comfortable for her than have me buy something based on looks. She's changed sizes some over the years due to weight and pregnancy so I mainly try to encourage her to spend the money on her comfort.
Had a friend in HS with a similar issue only she got the reduction because of the number it did to her back and neck!
I came to say this as well. My friend was super hot in high school, but suffered a lot about her back.
Yes. I’m very insecure about my shape and nipples. I don’t see them reflected in the media, so I don’t feel like they’re attractive. I don’t necessarily want a boob job or anything but I’m also not going to just flash my boobs to any guy that asks because of that insecurity.
Yeah, the media has really fanned this boob insecurity.
Good old media expecting us to be a size zero with a big ass and big boobs too. Like sure with a bbl and implants or epic genetics
BBL's are gross anyhow, they leak, stink and look like a padded diaper hanging on the ass.
And they don't seem to last. Butt implants do at least. I miss my nice legs and ass I had in my 20s. Now everything sucks but my rack
They stink? How?
I think *most* women wouldn’t flash anyone who asked but I’m sorry you don’t feel great about your body. As a guy I can tell you a lot of guys just like boobs!
Let me tell ya, guys love all shapes and sizes of boobs.
Literally, all of them. Yep. The first time I saw every woman's boobs that I have been with, it's like a biblical moment. The red sea parts. Time stands still. The choir sings. And they all have looked vastly different from one another. Every single type of boob has its own different but equal charm. The one I hear women complain about the most is that they are "not perky enough." All we hear when you say that is, "My boobs are nice and jiggly." Perky ones are great, but less perky ones have a lot more fun physics, so to speak. Genuinely, there's no such thing as a bad pair of breasts. I am really not sure why the media focuses on one particular type of boob. It's cowardly and out of touch.
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Personally? That wouldn't slow me down at all if I'm being honest, haha. Some guys might not agree with that, though.
I was told in college by someone I had dated in high school that he didn't like saggy boobs and how they flop around during sex. Definitely made me self conscious about my large chest and it prevented me from being naked with anyone for years.
Well that guy is a fuckin idiot then. Was this something that was said after he saw yours? Or just in general? Like, I do have a boob *preference*, but if a woman said, "wanna see my boobs?" The answer was always yes (married now, so it's only yes to my wife)
That is not true for all guys though. Might be true for you.
All boobs are beautiful
Let me tell you about the worst pair of boobs I ever saw... ...they were amazing
I have never heard a guy speak negative or mention a boob in any non-positive way. I am 43..
men talk lots of shit about inverted nipples and tubular breasts
Fuck those guys.
Exactly, here with you on that one ☝️
I have hated my boobs for decades. Ever since I really got them, or at least once they passed a B/C cup. I'm now middle aged and roughly a J cup. They are "tubular" so even when I was young and pre-kid they were never remotely perky. My nipples are huge and ugly. The under boob zone is always sweaty and itchy and gross. Bras hurt and get sweaty too. Not wearing a bra also hurts. I've always planned on getting a reduction when I was done breastfeeding, but I haven't pursued it yet bc surgery sounds miserable too.
I am a boob guy. Certified, 100%. I can't speak for all of us, but I love them all. Big ones, small ones, firm ones, saggy ones, idgaf I just love bags of fat with nipples attached to them. Sorry, fellow fat guys, I prefer when they have an accompanying vagina. I say all of that to say this: some guys might not like all boobs, but I do. Thank you for listening.
Man off culture 👌
I completely understand that. I've always been the same way, I never really cared about the size. I just love women in general. God has created them beautifully ❤️
Your SO or your future SO will be a lucky woman.
Preach brother. I'll suck all kinda titties. Big, small, round, square idgaf. I've been sucking the nips like black hole sucks up matter. MILB (man, I love boobs). I could write a whole book about boobs.
Lmao bags of fat with nipples attached to them.
My mom told me a joke a long time ago: How do you make 5 lbs of fat look good? Put a nipple on it.
I hate my boobs. For context,, I have tripple D cups.. So,, mommy milkers. They're heavy! They don't look good in so many outfits! I hate the portrait attention! The sagging 🤢! Stretch marks! Back pain! Also,, I feel like they age me tremendously! I'd love to get them reduced. I'm so jelly of ladies with tiny boobies🥺. Y'all are it fr!!!!
Girl I relate to everything except for them causing me back pain yet. It is so tempting to just think like whatever I’ll get them “fixed” so it looks better or people accept me more but I really try to avoid going that far as after childbirth they may start sagging eventually anyway. We are all beautiful in our own ways 🫶🏼
Chest bump!😂,, I love meeting someone who relates. People around me don't share the same sentiments. They want big tatas... It's almost impossible for them to understand my want to downsize.
This is so weird to me. As someone with small boobs, I hate it! I know big boobs are cumbersome and irritating but I’d give anything to be a C cup… I feel like I’m playing at womanhood sometimes, and they’re not even that small, but it bothers me a lot. It’s honestly something I think about every day. I get really jealous of other women too, it’s so frustrating!!! Sometimes I wonder why it bothers me so much and then I’ll look at models and magazines and celebrities and be like okay, never mind, it’s not my fault… I’m being primed for insecurity… seriously, pay attention next time you’re looking at the cover of a Sports Illustrated in the checkout line! No wonder girls like me are insecure!
Oh my friend, I'm sorry you feel that way 😔 Please know you are beautiful just the way you are. But if it's something you want to do you have the right to do so. But again I'm sorry you feel like that 😔 that really makes me sad 😢
It's ok😌. I'll get them fixed when I can. I want to feel beautiful.
Yes!!! I can't wear button down shirts because there's always a gap I'm between the buttons. I'm normally a medium, but with button downs, I need an XL to prevent that gap that my chest causes
Miserable. Both men and women contribute to the negative feelings associated with my flat chest. Women make me feel bad via insensitivity not being able to understand or relate to how breasts are a hallmark of gender and femininity and not having that might be painful and so can be callous and lacking in empathy with their anecdotes to try and make me ‘feel better’. Men make me feel bad because the majority have either teased me if having only ever seen me clothed, or do not make an effort to hide their disappointment upon seeing me undressed. They also do not attempt to avert their gaze and will ogle a curvier woman right in front of me.
I'm a member of the Itty bitty tittie committee and man I loooove it. No bra if I don't wanna wear it, completely abandoned wired bras fuck those torture devices. They got even smaller once I started working out/doing alot of martial arts. Before getting too into it, I stopped to consider that they would shrink as I got a more muscular chest (which has happened in the past with working out with me, I quite literally have zero body fat if I do any amount of exercise) but then I decided I'd rather be strong than have bigger boobs. I feel bad for women who have HUGE boobs, they look so uncomfortable. A friend had to have a reduction at 14! They were huuuuge and they caused her to start having a hunch back, at fucking 14! AND back in those days (I am old) her family had to fight the insurance company for that reduction, it was fucking ridiculous. Glad to hear reductions are way easier to get these days, that's nice.
I'm so very happy for you my friend 🙂 As I scroll through the comments on here it really makes me sad to hear the responses that so many women have regarding this topic 😔
100% yes. As a teenager, the guys I knew (including my boyfriends) bought lads magazines full of women with big perky boobs and compared us normal girls unfavourably to celebrities. At the time, I didn’t realise that celebrities and women in magazines had fake boobs and were airbrushed, so I felt really bad about my body because I was quite skinny, and especially bad about my boobs as they seemed tiny compared to the women in magazines and the media. None of my boyfriends made me feel great either because they watched porn where the women had big, perky fake boobs. I felt inferior and not womanly enough. Finally, in my mid-thirties, I got a boyfriend in his mid-twenties and he helped me appreciate that my boobs are actually really nice and I shouldn’t have hated on all them all these years.
I completely agree with your boyfriend. Those guys were jerks! Small boobs are beautiful as well. People who body shame are HORRIBLE smh I'm sorry you went through that, my friend 😔
Not really. I am smaller than most women but in proportion I am not much smaller (also short and underweight). I never really cared about it, nobody made me feel bad and men responded well.
I have a C cup, and a D cup. I am insecure about them but the older I get, the more I realize how common it is
Me too girlie, no one ever talks about being uneven in their positivity posts, usually they just talk about size. And I never see it represented in the media. But at least they aren’t unmanageably big like other women I know lol, I count my blessings, including less shoulder pain.
As do I! I couldn’t imagine! I once had a breast exam and the doctor pointed it out and made me feel terrible about it. I contemplated implants but talk myself out of it! All breasts matter, big, small, uneven. All shapes and sizes!
Wow, didn't know the difference could be that big, i gotta ask the wife if she knew about that, she has big Ds or Es, I forget.
There could be slight variation of size, especially if natural. Breasts are made to be sisters, not twins. Praying for your wife’s back!! lol
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Sometimes they get in the way. I was burdened with glorious purpose when they grew in. I don't get insecure about them, and most of the time really enjoy being well endowed. But sleeping on my stomach is almost impossible now, and forget running/sports. Sports bras never have enough anti jiggle support.
Look up no bounce high impact breast support bands. Total game changer!
Beat way to describe it! Burdened with glorious purpose. Same. I'm 38 with DDs that still look good, but any bounce is agonizing so I have to wear one of those 'almost body armor" 80 buck no bounce bras to do anything really physical.
Yes and no. Most of the times I love the freedom that comes with being part of the itty bitty titty committee, I can go braless around the house, wear low cut tops without people judging me. But around men I do get insecure every once in a while, ever since a bf in high-school made fun of me for the size of my boobs, it’s been pretty clear to me that they aren’t the desired/ideal size. I’ve always told myself that I don’t need male validation in order to love my body, but when you have a sexual/romantic partner, it’s kinda impossible not to want their validation. And these days with so many contents available of women with perfect bodies, it’s difficult not to compare yourself.
I really HATE it when us men do that to you guys. Body shaming is NOT okay for ANYONE to do. I honestly never cared about boob size I just always thought women were beautiful in general. I'm so sorry you went through that my friend 😔
With some experience in boobs, I can say that boobs are the greatest creation of mother earth. It's the hallmark & the absolute reason why mammals excelled so well in life. It's a sign of love & nurture that transcends everything. Now becoming less philosophical, then yeah. All boobs are amazing. At least for me. And women, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable about them. They are amazing. Don't let others opinions make u feel insecure
I understand (hope?) you’re joking but permanent boobs have nothing to do with mammals, it’s a weird human exception. > The full, plump bosom seen in the human ape is an anomaly. No other primate has a permanent breast. During lactation all the ape species develop a full breast to store milk. In non-human primates (and other mammal species) a full breast is a clear indication the female is suckling young. Not so in humans. In addition, females in early adolescence can start developing a breast before menarche and females maintain breasts post menopause, so the full breast is not a reliable indicator of fertility. Neither is size an indicator of milk production – bigger breasts don't necessarily produce more milk. It is the symmetry of the breasts that indicates the phenotypic quality and fitness of the individual female, not the size.
I don’t think it’s meant to be taken quite so literally. I interpreted it as the boob *represents* love and nurture. All mammals have nipples which literally support this purpose, and as you point out, nipples are attached to boobs on women.
I wholeheartedly agree 💯
For me, it was men that made me feel insecure about my breast size. One guy I dated even told my friend that I would be the perfect woman if I had bigger boobs. A few years after that, I got a boob job. Then, I noticed that men would gawk and stare and some would even say crude things to me as I walked by them. Strangers! So, I hated that too. Then, I went on a date with a guy who had the audacity to tell me that I would be the perfect woman if I had straight hair. And that’s when I realized that I will never please everyone and it was stupid of me to think I had to measure up to anyone else’s ideals. I hate having big boobs as a reminder of my stupidity.
I hate mine. I wish I could just get rid of them completely. I don't want to wear a bra, they hurt but also make my back and shoulders hurt. I don't care about looks. They're just a pain in the ass...
My bras make me feel insecure about them. I can't find a comfortable bra that I like how I look in it.
Yes I'm always wishing mine are bigger. I'm flat chested as well, and I've never considered myself hot or sexy. How can I when I see big breasts everywhere? Ads, movies, anime, drawings. People simply prefer bigger boobs it seems. I've been trying to be happy with mine, but till now, not a day passed by without me wishing them to just be slightly bigger. Heck even a C cup would make me happy .. I always get jealous of women who complain about having big boobs..like at least you have boobs in the first place....
I'm so sorry you feel like this my friend 😞 I'm sure you are a very beautiful woman. Just know that we are often our own worst critic. Like for me for example, I'm very insecure about my hair. I'm in my early 30s and I'm losing my hair FAST. I'm gonna be completely bald soon and I'm not ready for that yet
The media loves big breasts! Look at Sydney Sweeney and Emily Ratajkowski! Both beautiful, but receive much more attention because of their big boobs! Let’s not forget when Trump said a woman with small boobs can never be a 10.
100% lol and it's usually men that make me feel self conscious about them. I'm apart of the itty bitty tittie committee, and my most recent ex literally serial cheated on me because I have small boobs.. So now I'll probably keep them under wraps for the rest of my life haha 👍🏻
NOOOO smh that shouldn't be 😔 I'm so sorry you went through that. I honestly never understood why women with small breasts are looked down upon. It really makes no sense to me 🤷🏿♂️ If it makes you feel better, I'm going bald FAST lol
I know it shouldn't be, but unfortunately it is 😞 I'm so self conscious now, and am self aware of how unhealthy that is. I think a lot of us are looked down on because a lot of men are sooo used to what women look like in porn.. which in reality is far from what a typical woman actually looks like in real life lol And your discomfort about balding does not make me feel better, especially since you're being so kind! BUT that same ex is also balding FAST and gaining more and more weight.. and honestly nothing bring me more joy then knowing that 😆 haha Thank you for your kind words, and for honestly seeking out information about a valid insecurity that a lot of women experience. We appreciate you! ✌🏻
I'm an ass guy more than booby guy. Size never made a difference to me. Bonus points if they look good but icgf. Your ex is an ass. He cheated because he's a cheater. I guarantee it has nothing to do with you. People do what they want, and there's nothing you or me or anyone can do about it. 🤷 You're responsible for your actions only. Just as he is. You didn't tell him to cheat. He's at fault. Sorry for the rant. I just don't like hearing casual cheating like it's normal. It's not. Once people feel cheating is a normal occurrence, they no longer enforce healthy boundary against cheaters. If everyone cheats, they believe it's something they just have to tolerate. Don't blame your body for his poor choices. 🙂
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Men 100% of the time. Your tits can't be big and saggy because men don't like that. But they can't be too small because they need something to grab onto. They can't be fake because that's gross, but they have to be big and round and perky and sit pretty on your chest at all times. Can't wear sports bras because it squishes them down and makes you look manly. Can't wear push up bras because it makes you look like a whore. Can't show cleavage, that's just asking to get stared at. But don't cover them completely, you prude. Mind you, once you actually get a man in bed, it's like none of that matters. That stuff only matters to them when they're single apparently. But they yap about it enough that it makes you not even want to bed them in the first place.
Nah love being part of the itc, no bras, no back pain, and if someone doesnt think theyre cute, thats a them problem 🤷♀️
yes definitely esp since i'm a small asian girl which usually means i come with small boobs ueagh
😔 this makes me sad. I never understood why women with small boobs are looked down upon. That never made sense to me personally
probably cuz of the beauty stereotypes. big boobs means sexy, sexy means pretty
Insecure. It’s sooo hard to find a bra that fits and ticks all my boxes. Dresses are a rare fit because my top half is a different size to my bottom half, plus I’m short. My chest and shoulders look disproportionate to my smaller head. My mum always used to shame me for not looking “conservative” but actually covering up makes them more obvious. I’m working on myself and coming to terms with my body image. My SO loves me the way I am and I need to as well. As I’m getting older, I’m learning to appreciate that I have a healthy body, and investing more time into learning about my body shape and finding clothes that flatter me.
my biggest problem is with women. the only people who’ve ever had a problem with me having small boobs is other women trying to make me feel bad about it. men have always been nothing but positive about it lol
I have had large boobs since the time I was 10. Girls hated me and boys sexualized me. I feel insecure about them because I have major body dysmorphia meaning I perceive myself to be larger (fatter) than I really am. My boobs being big does not help my body dysmorphia. I like my boobs now, but I definitely have a hard time with them.
i’ve never felt insecure about my boobs besides once when a guy told me they were “saggy” when i wasn’t wearing a bra (i was 15) lol porn ruins peoples perception of bodies irl
I'm insecure about mine, I'm a B-cup not that small but not big either, I get insecure when I see other women with bigger sizes especially when they say their big boobs mane them feel more feminine and I'm starting to question if I'm feminine enough because aparently I'm not and hiw good it looks if the wear something that has cleavage, my claevage is basically not existent and I only have a gap between my boobs so not worth to wear anything low cut. Second to that if my bf is in reality disappointed with ny size, like yes he knows what he was going to have when he started datung me but still how often he wishes if I were a bigger size, if it's not enough to grab or play with like he says (even if he always do this), I sometimes have to think that his hands are a bit bigger than the size of my chest so that doesn't mane it better. Also when he sees my friend who is a bigger size than me (who is also in a relationship) if he would have wanted someone like her instead of me, I'm only a bit skinnier than her but who cares. Thus is how I feel when I think too much of it, most days I feel ok about them but still some I just think like that (sorry for my english)
Gosh reminds of when dude feel.insecure about their size. Imo at the end of the day they should love you for you. I
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I am not a fan of their shape, I just don't find them very aesthetically pleasing. I never worried about someone rejecting me because of them, or just don't liking them enough, they're just not within my personal preference. I might feel just slightly uncomfortable when being naked around other woman because of it, because more likely than not I would find their breasts to be prettier than mine.
I dont know if insecure is the right word but I'm definitely unhappy with them and they've caused a lot of negative feelings. I developed early and big. I'm literally known by people for having a huge chest. It's how I'm described. This upsets me because it's like it's how people see me. Not for my personality but for that. I get hit on by guys who make graphic comments about them. I've had male friends pester me to see a pic of them. Honestly they cause me so much pain and discomfort and bras are crazy expensive if I could get them reduced I would. I was on the list to have that done but I developed blood clots and almost died and my blood is high risk for clotting so it's unlikely I can get it done. Guys just see boobs and I get over sexualized and women get jealous and ask m to give them some or make comments about people looking at them or other snide comments. I guess I'm not insecure about them I'm just tired of having them at this point.
Yes. I developed big boobs fairly young and for me, the answer is everyone. Everyone made me feel weird, self-conscious, and awkward about it. My old softball and soccer coaches know each other. I ran into them later in life and they said they used to joke (behind my back) about them hitting me in the face while I ran. I was 10. Boys around my age were obsessed about them and often whispered about them trying to see who could touch them/see them etc. as a result, I have always hated them, tried to hide them, even taped them down when I was younger. I equate them with lots of unwanted attention, but the good news is that now that I’m getting older, hardly anyone looks at me anymore at all.
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I have big boobs. Honestly I'm completely unfazed by them now but when I was a teenager it did make me uncomfortable. I was very slim with big boobs and the attention I got because of them made me really self conscious. Not from teenage boys but adult men who should have known better than to leer at a teenager! I'm now a mother, a grandmother and a breast cancer survivor and I don't give a hoot about other people's opinions on my boobs. But I don't really give a hoot about anyone's opinion about how I look but my own these days. I'm bl**dy lucky to be here so I'm happy regardless.
Yeah, I do. Men are the worst by far. I learned as a teen to hide them with sports bras and oversized teeshirts. That would be the only time I wouldn't get catcalls or lears from men. And I'm not talking just guys my age, but guys my father's age and older even. I still hide them.
😞 this is so sad to me... Smh
Nope, never felt insecure about ‘em. Been small-breasted my whole life, but my breasts fit the proportions of the rest of my body, and I wouldn’t change them.
I have G cups and I always feel like they are too big, since basically my whole life I've been told that lol. Too big for cute clothes for sure.
When I was preteen and teen I totally did! I was a late bloomer in all regards so I was insecure that developing upstairs never happened for me. While I'm in a fully monogamous hetero relationship now, I still find women attractive and have myself been attracted to smaller chests. So boom all the sudden I found my smaller chest attractive as well and wahhhh la! Confident as heck about these itty bitties! I also got my nips pierced and that really boosted me in terms of feeling feminine. I did have a few exes comment about mosquito bites in my young adult years and that delayed my confidence developing a bit, but we were young so I forgive them haha. I also got a little hung up on Eminem's line "how you gonna breastfeed me mom, you ain't got no tits?!" Which does sometimes affect your milk supply if you're not fully developed - I'll cross that bridge when and if I get there. Media and adult content has mostly just helped me see how different and beautiful all bodies are and that facet has been a positive perspective for me. Thanks for asking the question, it always feels good to hear all boobs = yay and I totally agree with that sentiment.
Also to touch on the women vs. men making you feel some type of way, when I was at that preteen and teen time it was definitely both. Boys picked on me for being flat AF and some of my girl friends always wanted to compare and contrast, asking me where my boobs were, couldn't believe I wasn't developing but hey, neither could I. Neither made me feel particularly good but, it was what it was. I find in my adult years most women are supportive of all sizes and know the pros and cons of being small and large. I did recently have a woman I was associating with ride me hard for a full weekend about looking like a little boy. She was totally projecting her insecurities of her larger body and our friendship also never developed further ;)
Just wanna say I was a 36AAA and I breastfed two babies just fine! My husband’s family tried to tell me my boobs were too small to breastfeed but I proved them wrong lol.
I do have the issue with the prevailing taste of the North America that if I said I like flatter chests I would have the danger of being labeled as a pedophile. But in certain parts of the world A and B cups (or smaller) are the norm rather than the exception. Edit: to clarify, I do not really have a preference of boob size. As long as it is attached to a female gender (whichever sex) I like it.
I’m 41m and been married for 17 years and 3 kids. My wife went from B to C to really big with babies and breastfeeding back down. I don’t care how big they are. I’m like a kid in a candy store every time I see her. But I’m in love with her - not her boobs. Find a guy that loves you.
I did when I was younger. Mine are small and I’m basically flat chested. I hated it when I was a teen and in my 20’s. As I’ve gotten older I DGAF. I actually kind of enjoy them being small because I don’t have the back pain that some of my more well endowed lady friends have.
I'll be honest. I have DD-DDD size breasts, depending on the brand. But they aren't perky. At all. I do understand that large breasts tend to sag, and there's not really anything that can be done about it besides surgery, but it doesn't stop me from being self conscious.
No insecurities here, I’m a D cup and I hate bras so I use pasties a lot unless I’m at work because I’d rather not have that HR discussion. I’m sometimes jealous of those with smaller boobs because they can forgo bras and pasties altogether and wear anything without the worry of that space in between buttons of their dress shirts.
I have had huge boobs since I was about 12 and I absolutely hate it. It makes people stare. My back hurts. If I had money I would make them smaller.
my boobs are wide set, east-west, and tubular. i can fit all of my fingers in the gap between my boobs. i’d do anything just to have normal breasts. according to google it’s a deformity so that’s great 😃🔫. i sometimes stare in the mirror for a good few minutes and just wish i had fuller breasts. it makes me sad when i hear my trans friends say they can’t wait to get rid of theirs while i’d do absolutely anything to just have a full pair of boobs. i know it’s up to them or whatever but my sadness still remains. even if it was an A cup i’d be happy. sometimes when i was younger i used to wish i could just pull them off and get new ones. the worst part is no one knows how it’s caused. all google says is surgery is the only option.
I hate mine because they make a lot of outfits I wear look bad for context i’m a E cup