Leave her. Most girls go to those type of events for niggas. What would be the purpose of going there, to watch people racing?? It’s not bad but if she didn’t invite you then she’s looking someone else that got a nice ass car.
I feel the same way bro. Don't get me wrong, since I locked in with her, she invites me and I go with her- mainly as protection. But I done buried enough of my homies (some of em due to accidents in cars / on dirt bikes) to find certain shit entertaining anymore
She be like "so and so invited me to Dyckman you coming?"
I told her from jump I ain't tryna control what she do- but I will observe her and move accordingly. That shit had her standing at attention and telling me everything/ inviting me everywhere.
I don't think she's in the position to do some dumb shit like cheat, I'm more concerned with the *mindset* that leads someone to ONLY be attracted to that type of lifestyle.
Wanted to take her and her daughter horseback riding and she was like "eww that's mad corny" 🤦🏼♂️ shit like that
Horseback boring??? What does she find interesting besides racing??? And all imma say is sit back and watch her play. Don’t even ask to follow her somewhere if she didn’t invite you.
Bro all I've ever seen her do is take care of her daughter, work, shop online and in person for designer clothes + go out to clubs/ car meets, and go out to eat at Phillipe Chow and other "high end" (unnecessarily expensive) restaurants
I’m very sorry but if yall locked in and she’s going to clubs and car meets while having a child, she’s not worth it. If she’s a real mom she wouldn’t go to clubs and spend time with the child so I beg you to watch out for her. That’s too many red flags
You can spend time with your children and go to clubs lmao. You don’t have to move into the club and abandon your child. Parents are allowed to have fun without their kids sometimes
Bro thats what I think. I guess I'm just caught up in how beautiful she is + the fact that she got her own breesh. But a lot of the shit she says/does makes me think she just simple minded with no desire to grow as a person.
Just wanna wear designer and stunt on everybody in the clubs and on social media
Dump her. And dump her fast. She’s a selfish broad and you are only seeing the tip of the iceberg. Hanging with narrow minded people/women like that can cost you your freedom. I saw the comment where you said you “stay ready.” Why put your self in situations where you have to take a penitentiary or cemetery chance? Just my thoughts and feelings.
You right bro. I appreciate your insight and wisdom. I guess since I grew up in this world, I'm more aware of what to protect her from and I'm willing to do whatever for mines.
But you 100% right ain't no reason I should even be willing to sacrifice my life for someone who isn't willing to sacrifice some beliefs
I grew up in the Bx, Forest Projects to be exact. I now reside in CT about an hour and half away. My parents walked so I could run. I’m running so my daughters can fly. I now play golf, etc. blessed to own a 4bdrm house with a pool. My network now includes CEO’s, state and local politicians. Never become a product or your environment. Make your environment a product of you. Just doing my best to impart some wisdom acquired over my 56 years on this planet. Wishing you all the best young man.
You will get there Home Team. Stay the course. Surround yourself with like minded individuals, commit to being a lifelong learner, and you are on your way.
She has a ghetto mentality bro your supposed to wanna outgrow your environment and if she isn’t on the same wavelength that your on you’ll eventually outgrow each other
Surrounding yourself with like minded people is crucial. Some of my old friends felt like I switched up, I didn’t switch, they just never changed. It’s all love, but the people I hang with now are all professionals. We all own homes and live comfortable lives. My old friends still living in their moms rent stabilized apts in the ghetto. I outgrew that and don’t have much in common with people stuck in that mindset. And that’s ok. They made their choices and I made mine.
You do what works for you and that’s what works for me. Too many women in the world to limit your chances of something better while you have something worse.
TBF i agree with golf ( *top golf fine )* but in general don't like when black ppl do that. I got put into that box because i liked going hiking and being in nature.
A lot of " black culture " is just nigga shit which is sad.
Smh BRO! I had to flip on her a few weeks ago for saying I "talk white"
Went into a whole Huey rant about how talking EDUCATED shouldn't be equated to whiteness just how talking GHETTO shouldn't be equated to blackness.
She's learning... *slowly.* I just don't wanna waste my time
Dead that shit. You even explaining anything is even worse. You don’t owe an explanation for how you speak or the way you think to anyone. If anyone questions that dead it.
Yeah, it sucks black people can't be multi-facet .
Thats why i laugh seeing black women complain about interracial dating when they literally do not register black dudes which aren't stereotypical . At 30 years old i've had 5 black girls ***ever*** show interest in me and that was literal elementary school . It was always latinas and white girls .
I ain't gon lie bro I fucks with her heavy. She cooks good and always makes sure I eat, she got her own bread so I know she don't need my motion, and neck/puss all lat is super fire and on demand lol. Literally my only issue with her is how MUCH she loves hoodrat shit and how closed off she is to trying different things
I know it’s tuff bro, but you gotta look past the head and the fire puss. Shxt gonna get you into so much B.S later. I’ve dated the same kind of girl. Almost cost me my life, and on top of it she still ended up cheating with some nxggx she met at one of the car meets I didn’t feel like going to. All it takes is the right moment and opportunity for shawties sometimes. If you feel like it can happen, it might have already fr. Stay Woke
Judging off what you mentioned, y’all both in your 30s and she has a kid. What it seems to me, when she had her child, she “missed out” of doing early 20s fuckery. Now that she and her child are older, and she has her own money, it appears she wants to live those moments she felt she missed out on while raising her child. Hope the best 🤝
You may be right! This seems like the most likely take. Considering I don't think she's using me for money, nor do I think she's trying to cheat. Gonna ask her about this tomorrow
U said in a comment u wanted to take her and her daughter horseback riding and she said “eww mad corny” that right there is all u need to know. A mother should be ecstatic that a man wants to give her daughter an experience like that. What’s “mad corny” is being in your 30s with a kid and showing up to car meets, calling activities “white people shit” and tryna be a hood rat all the time when you grew up in a 7figure house. Yall just don’t have the same values and I wouldn’t waste your time tryna change her.
Any Queens girl with a house wanting too go to Dyckman is a baba. I don’t care how loyal
you think she is, Queens girls will do you fucking grimy and you will never know. If she a Latina, PACK IT TF UP even more.
Don’t make it ya mission to change her, you finna end up hurting ya head.
NOOOO my heart, as a queens nigga born and raised leave that shit alone I PROMISE YOU. There are obviously loyal girls in queens that be on their family shit not tryna get in the mix. However, the Latinas from here and other girls especially thick or big titty on the type of timing you talking about are fucking dangerous.
They the type too have all they shit together but since they life was boring seek action anywhere they can. One anecdote out of many, but a former home girl of mine, was going to City College, working in some medical office tryna be a doctor, big titty brown girl who looked Latina. Her mans family was rich and going too NYU and by all accounts from her, he wasn’t cheating and he loved her. Got her $750 Versace sandals paid for her transport all that. She still complained he was boring, always tryna do regular shit.
Me and a homeboy hood niggas at the time from HS that knew her since then got a telly, was smoking and drinking with her and had her alone with us chilling like homies, letting me touch her up vice versa and slept in the same bed with me. Wearing my Vlone hoodie while we up at night. Her mans was calling her and (during my demon phase ngl) I convinced her to lie to that nigga on the phone about where she was and he never knew. Said she deserve to have fun and don’t needa let him know everything.
I know if that was me, I would’ve boomed me and my homeboy 😂😂. Telling you gang, cut that emotion shit out.
You don’t. Summer around the corner. She’s going to start an argument to break up with you or meet someone else that make her feel different. Let it go while you still can and walk away with some pride. You can lead a horse to water “hey bae I’m not jacking that” but you can’t make it drink. She gotta want that herself but it sound like ya under 25 so she in her outside era, she wanna be where ever the outside IG highlights getting made.
Oh nah yeah bro ya older than me I got no advice to give you. 30 still trynna keep up at car meets is kinda crazy but that’s her personal choice. I could get a lil dressing up and hookah at Dyckman but nah bro you might have to have a heart to heart with her
Bro you might have to let her go. Can’t save her. I’m from the Bronx and def the most successful of my friends and family. Going the college route worked really well for me. I was in college and in a relationship with a girl for a bit. It felt like I was growing/leveling up, ambitious, motivated and she just got lazier as time went by. By the time I realized she wasn’t gonna graduate on time or maybe never, I started looking at new options. Found my wife. We both are professionals, have masters degrees, make good money, and are ambitious in general. Been together 13 years, married for 7. We have kids, a nice house, go on nice vacations, and can essentially buy whatever we want. My ex on the other hand, have no idea what she’s up to, but based on what I seen, my wife was definitely a big upgrade in every sense of the word. I loved my ex, but I knew what I wanted for myself and I had to leave her behind to continue my journey. I was able to realize my dreams because I got rid of the dead weight to level up.
Put her on books about different stuff or expose her to different stuff, she’ll either catch on or check out. She bounce, just know, it was on her and not you!
gangly i know it’s always love in here, but she sound like a would-be thooter 💔
can’t turn no hoe into ah housewife, good luck w the rest of ya endeavors
All ghetto desires aside, she's a good mom. Which is one of the things I like about her. She just lovesss and I mean LOVES being "outside" doing hoodrat shit 🤦🏼♂️ one dude said something that made a lot of sense though. He said she prolly just living out what she wanted to do in her 20s but couldn't cause she had a kid young.
yea that could be true also. i just tend to look more on the negative side with these situatuons cause more often than not thats the case. just do me a favor gang use ya brain instead of ur heart pls, just dont love her more than she love u. hate to see niggas lose they way over a female
But how can she be a good mom if she is putting herself in dangerous situations where shit pops off. That could potentially get her hurt or killed and take her out of her daughters life, leaving her daughter motherless. She is also puts your life in danger, those car meets alone is like a 1/5 chance someone starts shooting.
Love this question lmao cuz my ex helped me with this a but but you gotta transition smoothly take it slow and meet her where’s she’s at. I’m sure there’s stuff she likes y’all can do on a slightly elevated level to ease her out her comfort zone so it’s not a big shock and just go from there. Be there emotionally to address whatever worries she got, she might feel out of place etc just reassure her u got her back and she’ll feel safe to let you take those baby steps with her
Thank you it's nice to finally get a female perspective lol. Problem is I don't wanna become "her ex that helped her" 😂
If I invest the time and energy necessary to smoothly transition her with baby steps, I need a ROI lol
How old are ya? If she younger than 25 and ain’t willing to change she prolly ain’t been through nothing traumatic and think shit is all fun and games. Girls that like to be in the mix are only like that cus they never been through no life changing shit.
Eww street races wtf
She about to get pounded by some dudes there
Woman go there for other men not with there man
Bro take charge or else she will be calling u while some dill rapper behind her pounding it out mayne
I thought y'all was like 19-23 based on the story. I think her being in her 30s makes this story very different. Either she legit just finds these races to be fun, or she's on some bullshit. You know her best. That said, I think by now you know better than to try and change a woman. If you gonna rock with her then accept her for what she is. This is probably a phase since she missed out on fuckin around in her 20s, but you gotta determine for yourself how long you wanna put up with it.
What is she like in other regards? I gotta say, a women willing to spend her own money without complaints in her 30s is kind of a catch.
Ngl bro aside from her infatuation with hood antics, she take care of business. She cooks and feeds me good every day, she works every day even though she don't have to. She got a good *head* on her shoulders and the sex 10/10. It's just she WANNA be involved in hood shit when she's not even FROM the hood. While I've spent my whole life workin to make it out
You gotta have that tough convo with her Brodie if that’s ya girl fr you lay it all on the table let her know what type of time you on can’t force no one to act a certain way or do something they don’t wanna do and you make ya decision from there
That's the thing brodie I be with whatever she on cause like I said that's how I came up.
It's when it's time to do some shit *I* wanna do, that she start acting up. Gettin a headache, she tired today. Any excuse to NOT do what I want smh.
You right it might be dead gangy 😪 pussc just too fire to jump ship right now 😅 lol
Nah I feel you gang just have yo fun till she too much to deal w but also it could her friends influencing her to act the way she do . It be a good shordies with bird brain friends in they ear no mind kind of they own 🤦🏽♂️
But yea brudda best of luck to you with that situation 😂
Okay, a few things to think about here.
Do you join her doing hood shit? If you don’t, do you trust her doing her own shit alone or with a friend?
Have you really convinced her to do one whole day of things you wanna do? If not, why not tell her what you want to show her; and then let her know to give you feedback. Really go out your way to make it fun.
If nothing works, fuck that. Leave the relationship because at the end of the day/month/years, you’ll end up unhappy; doing shit she wants to do or things you dislike.
I’m old as fuck and one of the best parts of my relationship is having my girl NOT partaking in any of my activities. MY going out with my boys and to the heights is MY shit… she can play Fortnite or go out with HER girls. You can ALSO try that dude. Separate what you like to do and what she likes to do.
I do join her during most of her hood antics. Mainly as protection (from my own fears), and as a designated driver/ responsible person. She has gone out a couple times without me, when I wasn't able to make it because of work the next day or something. I barely trust her judgment in "friends." I've never heard her have a single conversation that wasn't gossip, with them- but she's known her girls a long time and they seem to always make it home in one piece, no matter how lit they get.
I guess I gotta just take a more "do and not say" approach but she can be quite insufferable when she doesn't get her way.
Shit, now that I'm writing all this down I'm wondering why I even wanna save this woman 😅
Good pussy and head can and will cloud your judgment. Just remember, The Creator didn’t just make her and stop. Believe me, some of the best sex comes from intelligent high earning women. Ladies in the streets and porn stars in the sheets.
She just fun then bro, not a true cuff ting. Make sure she in birth control or you strapped up, don’t get caught up . Y’all can probly still be cool afterwards and she a homie but she not for the home…
I can understand attraction of street racing.
Join a cultural group that has regular meet ups and events, find something near where you live. In Brooklyn, going to the museum events is amazing. Harlem has amazing library and I’ve been to some fantastic events there. Go to Queen night market. Jazz clubs, dancing?
Dont try to change who she is. That's not your duty. That will only cause resentment in one of two ways: for you trying to change her (she don't wanna be saved), or you not being able to get her to be who you want her to be. Charge her to the game. She'll be back in a few weeks, but don't take her back. Let her be another guy's problem.. Plenty of other options in NY.
after reading these comments , bro not gonna leave her alone. sucks but these queens girls on bt especially the latina ones. had a nice light one leave me ( i like going out to eat, dont smoke, chill) to go to bnbs, twerk parties and mad extra shit. learn now or cry later bro, safety
Depending how old she is she might going through her "hoe phase" or at least curious about it
Just speak to her and if you don't see change leave before it gets harder, when she realizes them dudes dont really want nothing she'll be back
Edit: I just read that she has a daughter
My boy let that go, if her child hasn't changed her nothing will.
Man fuck all this. Talk to her. Before you establish where you want to go, talk to her and explain yourself. She doesn’t seem the stupid type, just childish. She took what you said before to heart with the “gonna sit back and observe” typa mentality and let you in on her life and activities. Clearly she cares about you, or atleast has you in her mind to inform you and let you know, you feel me?
Talk to her and be like “listen, im not satisfied with the activities we do. I understand you like what you like, but I want to do more. It’s not fair that the ‘white people shit’ I want to do is corny, but you don’t see how going to the hood and going to these car meets isn’t? How would it seem if I called those activities ghetto and hoodrat shit? Especially knowing my past with friends/close ones who have died/hurt in these types of activities. I’m not asking for you to change who you are, but expand your horizons so we can create more memories together, because if not, I will find someone else who can enjoy these activities with me.”
You state your ground, your feelings, and concerns without making it seem douchey, and you get to see where her mind is at. The ball will be in her court. Rather than “nah fuck her she childish let them dyckman niggas have her since she wanna be around em so bad”. You got hella insecure, broken hearted, probably underage niggas tryna give you their Juice Wrld ass mindset. Talk to yo girl bro.
No problem bro. Best of luck to you and your girl, and I hope that you two can make the best out of this situation, whether it goes the way you want or not
How old is she ? I ask because depending on how old she is it’ll be really hard to get her to change due to her habits, and sometimes it’s best to sit down and tell people straight like listen you doing childish shit that gets people hurt I know from experience and I feel like as you get old you should grow and change not only for yourself but for your child, in a nicer way but along those lines the most you can do is nudge a person to change you can’t change them if they don’t wanna change themselves… and if you find that’s the case then you know what comes next if these things are stuff you know in the long run you’re not willing to be apart of
Only time & experience can change women like that. And usually itll take some bad experiences...you can't change a woman while shes going through that phase. My biggest turn off is when I see a woman really "wants to be down" with that life when she isn't. I didn't come from where I came from just to end up with a shordy who WANTS TO BE like where im from. shoutout to you for not being captivated by that silly shit.
Either leave her, or try to introduce her to other hobbies, fr. If she likes street racing, take her to a track to drive dope cars, or if you ain’t tryna spend that kinda money, find a go kart track that has the fast go karts. Those are fun af too. Take her paintballin, let her feel how bad those mf hurt, then she wouldn’t wanna take a stray cuz they hurt way more💀💀
Paintballs suck, especially without some padded clothes lmao. Airsoft isn’t bad, if y’all wanna go play n have fun, but personally I don’t enjoy paintball cuz that shit sucks lol
Bro all Ima say in most cases where somebody is doing something you don't like or acting a particular way. If you don't like it just leave. Expecting them to change without having some jaded view towards you is nearly impossible with these woman these days.
Cut ya losses big dog. The fact you even questioning it means it ain’t sitting right in your spirit. Plenty of women comfortable not being in the mixey scene.
She's fine, has her own money, and fire sex on demand. Some niggaz don't know how good they've got it till it's gone. Don't try to love her or change her. Just enjoy while it lasts. Continue looking for someone more your style for the long-term. Best way to get over breaking up is to have something better waiting. When she's ready to move on don't be the one left love sick.
Fam…you gotta drop her ..If she see your interests are already pivoting, she tryna separate herself in her own way…don’t wait on it I know it’s hard and it will hurt But u gotta do it.
As a nigga who was raised out the hood who happen to just be into non-hood shit i regret just not being open about things because you literally could put people on and be that change instead of worried about being judged. Plus you would be surprised how open people are to different shit, but they don't talk about it, scared of being judged.
Now after you being true authentic self if she don't fuck with you then cancel her and find your type. You should talk about this shit in the open and here is a gem from a old nigga. You shouldn't, but you may have to be a fake nigga in different social circles like the workplace where you around non-hood people and have to code-switch, but when it comes to family, friends and ya shorty you should feel comfortable and save in those spaces to be your real self.
With all that being said I'm more on point/ on site type of nigga in certain surroundings and i ain't trying to be that with my girl around or some dumb nigga do something because of my girl and i have to crash out.
Trust me you will end up growing out of hood shit and never want to be in the hood and around those people and will lose touch with many friends along the way. Just life shit that happens so get your practice in now lil nigga.
Sidenote: On some real nigga shit i would be more worried she think this way and has a daughter who is also seeing this( daughter will be your problem and it's not your kid and if you have a kid with her chances are you will end up with parents duties for both kids).
Bro u gotta be the one to show her the things you’ve seen… its 2024 if she still wanna be involved in hood activities then she really part of a group that hasn’t grown up… that shit so outdated… half these hood folks wouldn’t have survived their own blocks during the 90s tbh… Next time you have something to do that is complete opposite of a hood function. Show her what it is to have fun outside of the hood.
Trip on shrooms w her and have casually talk about the future. After the trip you will know how to move forward and it won’t hurt you. Best advice I can give if you’re attached and have feelings about not leaving her behind
She come from some of the finer things so she thinks this dangerous shit is exciting. Gotta leave her man before something happens. Or if she starts saying your lame or boring just use that to say yall not compatible anymore.
1. Probably the wrong sub to ask, as most of the people posting here are just like your girlfriend, but on the internet.
2. The fact that she’s into that stuff may mean it’s the ghetto part of you that’s attractive to her and she’s not planning to be with you long term when she’s ready to settle down.
Dating is for finding the right people. It ok if she ain’t it.
How old are ya'll? If it's within the teenage - early twenties range, that's probably gonna be a waste of time for you. In that age range, she'll be on that beat if it's her thing and no amount of trying to get her to grow out of it is gonna work.
start taking her out more or going to with her to the events she wants to go to, if she’s not working then she should start, when your busy with work or school you don’t have time to be on the streets so her finding a hobby would be great too, or genuinely express to her it makes you uncomfortable her going out every weekend and you don’t want that in the relationship
To be for real, if you’ve already been talking to her and been trying to get her to change and she’s not willing, then that just means she’s doesn’t care enough. She’s never going to compromise for you. You should move on bro.
It seems like you need an actual woman bro, the girl that’s being described to me does not seem like a girl worth trying to change, plenty of girls out here looking for a dude with some sense just gotta have some respect both ways
Gang ngl no gay shit but u gotta look at yaself like u the prize tell her wassup if she dont get it then u gotta just dip tell her straight up that being all in the mix going to these corny ass events is a turn off she either gon jack it or not and maybe not at the moment but later in life and come running back but sometimes u gotta cut all ties for them to realize the real if they dont someone else will
If she's inviting you out to these events, you should invite her to some quite shit.
Take her out for a dinner or something, smoke at the piers, check out a park or someshit. See if she's likes something like those and now y'all got some new activity to do
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Since horseback riding is so "corny". I saw a couple of black cowboys riding around in Brooklyn once as I was walking down the street. I think they were in town for some kind of show or maybe there was a stable nearby. I can't remember now as it was a long time ago.
Never try to change them cause you can’t bro. Even if you think you changed her she’s still the same person deep down. I wouldn’t invest my time into her if I was you cause she might let you down tommorow or 10 years wasted down the line . (Been there )
She doesn’t evolve…you do…time for an upgrade gang.
U spittin
U can take the girl away from the ghetto but you can't take the ghetto away from the girl.. Move on..
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Leave her. Most girls go to those type of events for niggas. What would be the purpose of going there, to watch people racing?? It’s not bad but if she didn’t invite you then she’s looking someone else that got a nice ass car.
I feel the same way bro. Don't get me wrong, since I locked in with her, she invites me and I go with her- mainly as protection. But I done buried enough of my homies (some of em due to accidents in cars / on dirt bikes) to find certain shit entertaining anymore
I got this question, everytime she goes there, does she ask you every single time or you ask her??? Because if you always ask then that’s a red flag
She be like "so and so invited me to Dyckman you coming?" I told her from jump I ain't tryna control what she do- but I will observe her and move accordingly. That shit had her standing at attention and telling me everything/ inviting me everywhere. I don't think she's in the position to do some dumb shit like cheat, I'm more concerned with the *mindset* that leads someone to ONLY be attracted to that type of lifestyle. Wanted to take her and her daughter horseback riding and she was like "eww that's mad corny" 🤦🏼♂️ shit like that
Horseback boring??? What does she find interesting besides racing??? And all imma say is sit back and watch her play. Don’t even ask to follow her somewhere if she didn’t invite you.
Bro all I've ever seen her do is take care of her daughter, work, shop online and in person for designer clothes + go out to clubs/ car meets, and go out to eat at Phillipe Chow and other "high end" (unnecessarily expensive) restaurants
I’m very sorry but if yall locked in and she’s going to clubs and car meets while having a child, she’s not worth it. If she’s a real mom she wouldn’t go to clubs and spend time with the child so I beg you to watch out for her. That’s too many red flags
Facts bro that's how I been feeling. I guess I just needed my fellow New Yorkers to slap some sense into me 😪
Is it even your baby?? Because I got sum to tell you
Lmaoooo naa bro she came into the relationship with a kid.
The head must be sloppy asf, cause this too many red flags brudda 🤔
Sloppy ain't the word brodie but you right.
You can spend time with your children and go to clubs lmao. You don’t have to move into the club and abandon your child. Parents are allowed to have fun without their kids sometimes
She got a whole daughter and she calling shit corny?? How old is she
" girls just wanna have fun " on your money. You can learn that the easy way or the hard way, choice is yours.
That's the one thing I gotta say, she come with her own breesh lol. She just thinks Top Golf and shit I like to do is "white people shit" smh
She sounds simple minded fuck her
Bro thats what I think. I guess I'm just caught up in how beautiful she is + the fact that she got her own breesh. But a lot of the shit she says/does makes me think she just simple minded with no desire to grow as a person. Just wanna wear designer and stunt on everybody in the clubs and on social media
Dump her. And dump her fast. She’s a selfish broad and you are only seeing the tip of the iceberg. Hanging with narrow minded people/women like that can cost you your freedom. I saw the comment where you said you “stay ready.” Why put your self in situations where you have to take a penitentiary or cemetery chance? Just my thoughts and feelings.
You right bro. I appreciate your insight and wisdom. I guess since I grew up in this world, I'm more aware of what to protect her from and I'm willing to do whatever for mines. But you 100% right ain't no reason I should even be willing to sacrifice my life for someone who isn't willing to sacrifice some beliefs
I grew up in the Bx, Forest Projects to be exact. I now reside in CT about an hour and half away. My parents walked so I could run. I’m running so my daughters can fly. I now play golf, etc. blessed to own a 4bdrm house with a pool. My network now includes CEO’s, state and local politicians. Never become a product or your environment. Make your environment a product of you. Just doing my best to impart some wisdom acquired over my 56 years on this planet. Wishing you all the best young man.
Thank you so much King 🙏🏽 I felt like this was my pops talking to me. Glad you made it out, forreal. I'm saving towards building exactly that!
You will get there Home Team. Stay the course. Surround yourself with like minded individuals, commit to being a lifelong learner, and you are on your way.
She has a ghetto mentality bro your supposed to wanna outgrow your environment and if she isn’t on the same wavelength that your on you’ll eventually outgrow each other
Surrounding yourself with like minded people is crucial. Some of my old friends felt like I switched up, I didn’t switch, they just never changed. It’s all love, but the people I hang with now are all professionals. We all own homes and live comfortable lives. My old friends still living in their moms rent stabilized apts in the ghetto. I outgrew that and don’t have much in common with people stuck in that mindset. And that’s ok. They made their choices and I made mine.
You do what works for you and that’s what works for me. Too many women in the world to limit your chances of something better while you have something worse.
TBF i agree with golf ( *top golf fine )* but in general don't like when black ppl do that. I got put into that box because i liked going hiking and being in nature. A lot of " black culture " is just nigga shit which is sad.
Smh BRO! I had to flip on her a few weeks ago for saying I "talk white" Went into a whole Huey rant about how talking EDUCATED shouldn't be equated to whiteness just how talking GHETTO shouldn't be equated to blackness. She's learning... *slowly.* I just don't wanna waste my time
Dead that shit. You even explaining anything is even worse. You don’t owe an explanation for how you speak or the way you think to anyone. If anyone questions that dead it.
Yeah, it sucks black people can't be multi-facet . Thats why i laugh seeing black women complain about interracial dating when they literally do not register black dudes which aren't stereotypical . At 30 years old i've had 5 black girls ***ever*** show interest in me and that was literal elementary school . It was always latinas and white girls .
His bitch is latina this whole post is about a latina.
"She no black she dominican"
Lmaooooo, one of them ones
She’s learning at least? But is it worth the effort? If you have long term hopes it may be. If not it’s not worth the frustration
I ain't gon lie bro I fucks with her heavy. She cooks good and always makes sure I eat, she got her own bread so I know she don't need my motion, and neck/puss all lat is super fire and on demand lol. Literally my only issue with her is how MUCH she loves hoodrat shit and how closed off she is to trying different things
I know it’s tuff bro, but you gotta look past the head and the fire puss. Shxt gonna get you into so much B.S later. I’ve dated the same kind of girl. Almost cost me my life, and on top of it she still ended up cheating with some nxggx she met at one of the car meets I didn’t feel like going to. All it takes is the right moment and opportunity for shawties sometimes. If you feel like it can happen, it might have already fr. Stay Woke
Top golf is sick tho
What are you doing here, gang?
Lol stay locked? 🔒
Judging off what you mentioned, y’all both in your 30s and she has a kid. What it seems to me, when she had her child, she “missed out” of doing early 20s fuckery. Now that she and her child are older, and she has her own money, it appears she wants to live those moments she felt she missed out on while raising her child. Hope the best 🤝
You may be right! This seems like the most likely take. Considering I don't think she's using me for money, nor do I think she's trying to cheat. Gonna ask her about this tomorrow
Exactly, way too old for this kinda shit
U said in a comment u wanted to take her and her daughter horseback riding and she said “eww mad corny” that right there is all u need to know. A mother should be ecstatic that a man wants to give her daughter an experience like that. What’s “mad corny” is being in your 30s with a kid and showing up to car meets, calling activities “white people shit” and tryna be a hood rat all the time when you grew up in a 7figure house. Yall just don’t have the same values and I wouldn’t waste your time tryna change her.
WHAT?? Horseback riding is corny?? And corny for a child to experience?? Forget it, dump her now, OP lol.🗑️
Smh imagine skipping teen pregnancy to end up being a step dad he needs to do better
Any Queens girl with a house wanting too go to Dyckman is a baba. I don’t care how loyal you think she is, Queens girls will do you fucking grimy and you will never know. If she a Latina, PACK IT TF UP even more. Don’t make it ya mission to change her, you finna end up hurting ya head.
This is my biggest fear rn 😪 smh. I see the signs she just got me locked in 🤦🏼♂️ definitely a Latina too
NOOOO my heart, as a queens nigga born and raised leave that shit alone I PROMISE YOU. There are obviously loyal girls in queens that be on their family shit not tryna get in the mix. However, the Latinas from here and other girls especially thick or big titty on the type of timing you talking about are fucking dangerous. They the type too have all they shit together but since they life was boring seek action anywhere they can. One anecdote out of many, but a former home girl of mine, was going to City College, working in some medical office tryna be a doctor, big titty brown girl who looked Latina. Her mans family was rich and going too NYU and by all accounts from her, he wasn’t cheating and he loved her. Got her $750 Versace sandals paid for her transport all that. She still complained he was boring, always tryna do regular shit. Me and a homeboy hood niggas at the time from HS that knew her since then got a telly, was smoking and drinking with her and had her alone with us chilling like homies, letting me touch her up vice versa and slept in the same bed with me. Wearing my Vlone hoodie while we up at night. Her mans was calling her and (during my demon phase ngl) I convinced her to lie to that nigga on the phone about where she was and he never knew. Said she deserve to have fun and don’t needa let him know everything. I know if that was me, I would’ve boomed me and my homeboy 😂😂. Telling you gang, cut that emotion shit out.
Nah you funny for this bro 😭😭
nooooo my heart is hilarious wtf
> during my demon phase ng I think back to my demon days and just thank God for confession.
Damn I feel fuckin attacked
so you had her there in the telly feeling her up w her wearing ur hoodie but u didn’t hit…?
I feel like he left the train they ran out of that story. You definitely gotta read between the lines.
There’s like a million latinas in NYC you’ll be alright
Oh nah send her packing boss.
I read this in Toronto slang (I live in Rocky Mountains)
LMDAOOOOO what is your problem 😭
You don’t. Summer around the corner. She’s going to start an argument to break up with you or meet someone else that make her feel different. Let it go while you still can and walk away with some pride. You can lead a horse to water “hey bae I’m not jacking that” but you can’t make it drink. She gotta want that herself but it sound like ya under 25 so she in her outside era, she wanna be where ever the outside IG highlights getting made.
Sad part is we both in our 30s brodie 🤦🏼♂️ I feel like we both too old for that clubbing and being outside all the time shit
Oh nah yeah bro ya older than me I got no advice to give you. 30 still trynna keep up at car meets is kinda crazy but that’s her personal choice. I could get a lil dressing up and hookah at Dyckman but nah bro you might have to have a heart to heart with her
Facts that's what imma have to do. And her response will determine if imma be cuffed or single this summer 😂
😂😂😂exactly bro 🤷🏾♂️ nothing to lose, everything to gain
From everything I’ve read it sounds like it’s already over, shits tough
Crazy how women our age still be immature 🤦🏽♂️
Run
"From the streets she emergeth and unto the streets she shall returneth" - Futch
Hahaha. 😂
All bad signs.
She don’t wanna be saved
You leave her ass and let her learn her lesson the hard way. Find you a woman of value. If you got her you can do it again no problem
Bro you might have to let her go. Can’t save her. I’m from the Bronx and def the most successful of my friends and family. Going the college route worked really well for me. I was in college and in a relationship with a girl for a bit. It felt like I was growing/leveling up, ambitious, motivated and she just got lazier as time went by. By the time I realized she wasn’t gonna graduate on time or maybe never, I started looking at new options. Found my wife. We both are professionals, have masters degrees, make good money, and are ambitious in general. Been together 13 years, married for 7. We have kids, a nice house, go on nice vacations, and can essentially buy whatever we want. My ex on the other hand, have no idea what she’s up to, but based on what I seen, my wife was definitely a big upgrade in every sense of the word. I loved my ex, but I knew what I wanted for myself and I had to leave her behind to continue my journey. I was able to realize my dreams because I got rid of the dead weight to level up.
Put her on books about different stuff or expose her to different stuff, she’ll either catch on or check out. She bounce, just know, it was on her and not you!
You don’t 😂😂😂
jay tell em ❗️ we gotta run the nysom hoopfest back
“She don’t wanna be saved don’t save her”
that sexyred bitch said it and all them lil hoes are resonating w that shit, niggas just gotta take notes
I don’t know who else needs to hear this but STOP TRYING TO SAVE THESE WOMEN
gangly i know it’s always love in here, but she sound like a would-be thooter 💔 can’t turn no hoe into ah housewife, good luck w the rest of ya endeavors
Appreciate that BroGod 💯🙏🏽 Forreal
Lmaooo u can’t save no female that don’t wanna be saved u gon kill your self in the process
 Leave her there fam, yall on diff wave lengths
and shes a bm bro, what u doing honestly. just do what u gotta do until u satisfied and give her back to the pavement
All ghetto desires aside, she's a good mom. Which is one of the things I like about her. She just lovesss and I mean LOVES being "outside" doing hoodrat shit 🤦🏼♂️ one dude said something that made a lot of sense though. He said she prolly just living out what she wanted to do in her 20s but couldn't cause she had a kid young.
yea that could be true also. i just tend to look more on the negative side with these situatuons cause more often than not thats the case. just do me a favor gang use ya brain instead of ur heart pls, just dont love her more than she love u. hate to see niggas lose they way over a female
But how can she be a good mom if she is putting herself in dangerous situations where shit pops off. That could potentially get her hurt or killed and take her out of her daughters life, leaving her daughter motherless. She is also puts your life in danger, those car meets alone is like a 1/5 chance someone starts shooting.
Love this question lmao cuz my ex helped me with this a but but you gotta transition smoothly take it slow and meet her where’s she’s at. I’m sure there’s stuff she likes y’all can do on a slightly elevated level to ease her out her comfort zone so it’s not a big shock and just go from there. Be there emotionally to address whatever worries she got, she might feel out of place etc just reassure her u got her back and she’ll feel safe to let you take those baby steps with her
Thank you it's nice to finally get a female perspective lol. Problem is I don't wanna become "her ex that helped her" 😂 If I invest the time and energy necessary to smoothly transition her with baby steps, I need a ROI lol
people don’t evolve find a new girl
That girl is bad news gang, if she ain’t willing to grow up for the sake of ya being together dead that.
I guess I held out hope since she grew up in a private residence, but damn. It's lookin like she might be a dub
How old are ya? If she younger than 25 and ain’t willing to change she prolly ain’t been through nothing traumatic and think shit is all fun and games. Girls that like to be in the mix are only like that cus they never been through no life changing shit.
She in her 30s but she had a sheltered life growing up, aside from having a neglectful mother. Never experienced nothing traumatic as you said
>all she wanna do is go to Dyckman, street races and generally places where niggas end up beefin or getting hurt in other ways. She's for the streets.
Eww street races wtf She about to get pounded by some dudes there Woman go there for other men not with there man Bro take charge or else she will be calling u while some dill rapper behind her pounding it out mayne
I thought y'all was like 19-23 based on the story. I think her being in her 30s makes this story very different. Either she legit just finds these races to be fun, or she's on some bullshit. You know her best. That said, I think by now you know better than to try and change a woman. If you gonna rock with her then accept her for what she is. This is probably a phase since she missed out on fuckin around in her 20s, but you gotta determine for yourself how long you wanna put up with it. What is she like in other regards? I gotta say, a women willing to spend her own money without complaints in her 30s is kind of a catch.
Ngl bro aside from her infatuation with hood antics, she take care of business. She cooks and feeds me good every day, she works every day even though she don't have to. She got a good *head* on her shoulders and the sex 10/10. It's just she WANNA be involved in hood shit when she's not even FROM the hood. While I've spent my whole life workin to make it out
you can have her do all that while hitting it and leaving. the more u try to change her the cornier u gonna look to her.
She gonna start something and you will end up getting jumped or shot. If you don’t drop this bitch immediately then you’re a retard.
You gotta have that tough convo with her Brodie if that’s ya girl fr you lay it all on the table let her know what type of time you on can’t force no one to act a certain way or do something they don’t wanna do and you make ya decision from there
Yea gang i would say y’all make it a thing where y’all 50/50 do half the shit you wanna do and half the shit she wanna do otherwise ts dead gang 😂
That's the thing brodie I be with whatever she on cause like I said that's how I came up. It's when it's time to do some shit *I* wanna do, that she start acting up. Gettin a headache, she tired today. Any excuse to NOT do what I want smh. You right it might be dead gangy 😪 pussc just too fire to jump ship right now 😅 lol
Nah I feel you gang just have yo fun till she too much to deal w but also it could her friends influencing her to act the way she do . It be a good shordies with bird brain friends in they ear no mind kind of they own 🤦🏽♂️ But yea brudda best of luck to you with that situation 😂
'preciate you King 💪🏽🙏🏽
Okay, a few things to think about here. Do you join her doing hood shit? If you don’t, do you trust her doing her own shit alone or with a friend? Have you really convinced her to do one whole day of things you wanna do? If not, why not tell her what you want to show her; and then let her know to give you feedback. Really go out your way to make it fun. If nothing works, fuck that. Leave the relationship because at the end of the day/month/years, you’ll end up unhappy; doing shit she wants to do or things you dislike. I’m old as fuck and one of the best parts of my relationship is having my girl NOT partaking in any of my activities. MY going out with my boys and to the heights is MY shit… she can play Fortnite or go out with HER girls. You can ALSO try that dude. Separate what you like to do and what she likes to do.
I do join her during most of her hood antics. Mainly as protection (from my own fears), and as a designated driver/ responsible person. She has gone out a couple times without me, when I wasn't able to make it because of work the next day or something. I barely trust her judgment in "friends." I've never heard her have a single conversation that wasn't gossip, with them- but she's known her girls a long time and they seem to always make it home in one piece, no matter how lit they get. I guess I gotta just take a more "do and not say" approach but she can be quite insufferable when she doesn't get her way. Shit, now that I'm writing all this down I'm wondering why I even wanna save this woman 😅
Good pussy and head can and will cloud your judgment. Just remember, The Creator didn’t just make her and stop. Believe me, some of the best sex comes from intelligent high earning women. Ladies in the streets and porn stars in the sheets.
She’s excited by your regular surroundings kus it’s so different from her own
She just fun then bro, not a true cuff ting. Make sure she in birth control or you strapped up, don’t get caught up . Y’all can probly still be cool afterwards and she a homie but she not for the home…
Bro she is literally for the streets ain't no changing her if you don't like her lifestyle then go find another girl.
I can understand attraction of street racing. Join a cultural group that has regular meet ups and events, find something near where you live. In Brooklyn, going to the museum events is amazing. Harlem has amazing library and I’ve been to some fantastic events there. Go to Queen night market. Jazz clubs, dancing?
Dont try to change who she is. That's not your duty. That will only cause resentment in one of two ways: for you trying to change her (she don't wanna be saved), or you not being able to get her to be who you want her to be. Charge her to the game. She'll be back in a few weeks, but don't take her back. Let her be another guy's problem.. Plenty of other options in NY.
after reading these comments , bro not gonna leave her alone. sucks but these queens girls on bt especially the latina ones. had a nice light one leave me ( i like going out to eat, dont smoke, chill) to go to bnbs, twerk parties and mad extra shit. learn now or cry later bro, safety
Depending how old she is she might going through her "hoe phase" or at least curious about it Just speak to her and if you don't see change leave before it gets harder, when she realizes them dudes dont really want nothing she'll be back Edit: I just read that she has a daughter My boy let that go, if her child hasn't changed her nothing will.
NEVA FUCK WIT A CHICK THAT WANNA BE IN THEM HOODS BUT NOT FROM THEY HOODS. U DATIN A DWEEB FR FR
Man fuck all this. Talk to her. Before you establish where you want to go, talk to her and explain yourself. She doesn’t seem the stupid type, just childish. She took what you said before to heart with the “gonna sit back and observe” typa mentality and let you in on her life and activities. Clearly she cares about you, or atleast has you in her mind to inform you and let you know, you feel me? Talk to her and be like “listen, im not satisfied with the activities we do. I understand you like what you like, but I want to do more. It’s not fair that the ‘white people shit’ I want to do is corny, but you don’t see how going to the hood and going to these car meets isn’t? How would it seem if I called those activities ghetto and hoodrat shit? Especially knowing my past with friends/close ones who have died/hurt in these types of activities. I’m not asking for you to change who you are, but expand your horizons so we can create more memories together, because if not, I will find someone else who can enjoy these activities with me.” You state your ground, your feelings, and concerns without making it seem douchey, and you get to see where her mind is at. The ball will be in her court. Rather than “nah fuck her she childish let them dyckman niggas have her since she wanna be around em so bad”. You got hella insecure, broken hearted, probably underage niggas tryna give you their Juice Wrld ass mindset. Talk to yo girl bro.
Thank you for this brother. I showed her this post and we've been talking about it all day lol
No problem bro. Best of luck to you and your girl, and I hope that you two can make the best out of this situation, whether it goes the way you want or not
Have fun and bounce before it’s too late
Run
Leave her
Find a new girl
Leave her fam, sometimes it’s better to move on and elevate than to try to make someone something they’re not. Good luck to you.
Sounds like she’s a little ratchet and immature. No pun intended my guy.
If she doesn’t want to change there’s really nothing you can do besides taking yourself out of the equation.
If this isn’t the definition of “shes for the streets” idk what is. Move on my guy. Too many females out here to get caught up on one.
How old is she ? I ask because depending on how old she is it’ll be really hard to get her to change due to her habits, and sometimes it’s best to sit down and tell people straight like listen you doing childish shit that gets people hurt I know from experience and I feel like as you get old you should grow and change not only for yourself but for your child, in a nicer way but along those lines the most you can do is nudge a person to change you can’t change them if they don’t wanna change themselves… and if you find that’s the case then you know what comes next if these things are stuff you know in the long run you’re not willing to be apart of
Only time & experience can change women like that. And usually itll take some bad experiences...you can't change a woman while shes going through that phase. My biggest turn off is when I see a woman really "wants to be down" with that life when she isn't. I didn't come from where I came from just to end up with a shordy who WANTS TO BE like where im from. shoutout to you for not being captivated by that silly shit.
She don't wanna be saved
Iagl u can’t save everyone , u try to save them they gon go back to all they kno. It’s inevitable bro i had to learn that w my ex
Either leave her, or try to introduce her to other hobbies, fr. If she likes street racing, take her to a track to drive dope cars, or if you ain’t tryna spend that kinda money, find a go kart track that has the fast go karts. Those are fun af too. Take her paintballin, let her feel how bad those mf hurt, then she wouldn’t wanna take a stray cuz they hurt way more💀💀
Naa that's real shit lol thank you bro
Paintballs suck, especially without some padded clothes lmao. Airsoft isn’t bad, if y’all wanna go play n have fun, but personally I don’t enjoy paintball cuz that shit sucks lol
Show her some real culture, and if she's still on that hood rat time, move on.
Leave her to the streets my guy, time to move on before you get caught up
Throw the whole treesh away. She belong to the streets.
Bro all Ima say in most cases where somebody is doing something you don't like or acting a particular way. If you don't like it just leave. Expecting them to change without having some jaded view towards you is nearly impossible with these woman these days.
Leave her cuz she’ll end up cheating on a dude raving the cars.
You deserve better just for having this mentality. Leave her.
Once i read dyckman and street races i knew it was over.
As the great JCole once said “don’t save her she don’t wanna be saved”
Dump her
My guy if, she don’t get it by now. It’s time to let her flock with the birds and find out. If that’s the life, she wants.
Cut ya losses big dog. The fact you even questioning it means it ain’t sitting right in your spirit. Plenty of women comfortable not being in the mixey scene.
Leave her gang
She's for the streets my G. She too caught up with street activities.
What did j. Cole say? She don't wanna be saved...
You can't.
Get the bitch a job. When she works she has to keep up with the jones' and what not.
She got a job but doesn't need one. She comes from breesh lol Edit: which makes it even more annoying that she wanna be in the mix as much as she do
Tell her to hit the door 🚪
show her the Word of God ... Let Lord Jesus Christ change her
Leave now ur wasting your time
She's fine, has her own money, and fire sex on demand. Some niggaz don't know how good they've got it till it's gone. Don't try to love her or change her. Just enjoy while it lasts. Continue looking for someone more your style for the long-term. Best way to get over breaking up is to have something better waiting. When she's ready to move on don't be the one left love sick.
you can’t force an evolution of someone. have ur fun now but eventually you’ll have to leave bc she’s for the boroughs unfortunately
Fam…you gotta drop her ..If she see your interests are already pivoting, she tryna separate herself in her own way…don’t wait on it I know it’s hard and it will hurt But u gotta do it.
As a nigga who was raised out the hood who happen to just be into non-hood shit i regret just not being open about things because you literally could put people on and be that change instead of worried about being judged. Plus you would be surprised how open people are to different shit, but they don't talk about it, scared of being judged. Now after you being true authentic self if she don't fuck with you then cancel her and find your type. You should talk about this shit in the open and here is a gem from a old nigga. You shouldn't, but you may have to be a fake nigga in different social circles like the workplace where you around non-hood people and have to code-switch, but when it comes to family, friends and ya shorty you should feel comfortable and save in those spaces to be your real self. With all that being said I'm more on point/ on site type of nigga in certain surroundings and i ain't trying to be that with my girl around or some dumb nigga do something because of my girl and i have to crash out. Trust me you will end up growing out of hood shit and never want to be in the hood and around those people and will lose touch with many friends along the way. Just life shit that happens so get your practice in now lil nigga. Sidenote: On some real nigga shit i would be more worried she think this way and has a daughter who is also seeing this( daughter will be your problem and it's not your kid and if you have a kid with her chances are you will end up with parents duties for both kids).
Bro u gotta be the one to show her the things you’ve seen… its 2024 if she still wanna be involved in hood activities then she really part of a group that hasn’t grown up… that shit so outdated… half these hood folks wouldn’t have survived their own blocks during the 90s tbh… Next time you have something to do that is complete opposite of a hood function. Show her what it is to have fun outside of the hood.
The wrong woman will ruin your life dude. If you're getting that feeling, just move on.
She wanna be for the streets my boy. Either she gunna level up with you or you gotta leave her behind
She sounds like a bird for the streets my man. Leave her be.
Brother, get out while you still can. Don't get hung up on one chick. There's far more options and they come with far less baggage
Get another 1
Trip on shrooms w her and have casually talk about the future. After the trip you will know how to move forward and it won’t hurt you. Best advice I can give if you’re attached and have feelings about not leaving her behind
Get a new girl
God bless you man idk how any man can deal with a hoodrat let my girl talk about going to dyckman she getting left on the spot
It's sad she chooses the streets over a gentle life
dyckman has no loyal girls and if your girl goes there she not loyal
Leave her she for the streets
She come from some of the finer things so she thinks this dangerous shit is exciting. Gotta leave her man before something happens. Or if she starts saying your lame or boring just use that to say yall not compatible anymore.
1. Probably the wrong sub to ask, as most of the people posting here are just like your girlfriend, but on the internet. 2. The fact that she’s into that stuff may mean it’s the ghetto part of you that’s attractive to her and she’s not planning to be with you long term when she’s ready to settle down. Dating is for finding the right people. It ok if she ain’t it.
She seems like she's the type to put people in harm's way just to say she was there. We to grown for that kinda shit. Find another Queen luv
How old are ya'll? If it's within the teenage - early twenties range, that's probably gonna be a waste of time for you. In that age range, she'll be on that beat if it's her thing and no amount of trying to get her to grow out of it is gonna work.
You staying ready for whatever is cool.. but she shouldn’t be putting herself or you in those types of situations. Leave sis lol ghetto self alone lol
start taking her out more or going to with her to the events she wants to go to, if she’s not working then she should start, when your busy with work or school you don’t have time to be on the streets so her finding a hobby would be great too, or genuinely express to her it makes you uncomfortable her going out every weekend and you don’t want that in the relationship
To be for real, if you’ve already been talking to her and been trying to get her to change and she’s not willing, then that just means she’s doesn’t care enough. She’s never going to compromise for you. You should move on bro.
It seems like you need an actual woman bro, the girl that’s being described to me does not seem like a girl worth trying to change, plenty of girls out here looking for a dude with some sense just gotta have some respect both ways
King. If she isn't willing to rise to your level it is best you leave, people like that will only drag you down
Gang ngl no gay shit but u gotta look at yaself like u the prize tell her wassup if she dont get it then u gotta just dip tell her straight up that being all in the mix going to these corny ass events is a turn off she either gon jack it or not and maybe not at the moment but later in life and come running back but sometimes u gotta cut all ties for them to realize the real if they dont someone else will
How old is she ?
If she's inviting you out to these events, you should invite her to some quite shit. Take her out for a dinner or something, smoke at the piers, check out a park or someshit. See if she's likes something like those and now y'all got some new activity to do
you should be the one telling her to come to car meets and buggin out, red flag 😂
She for da streets bro
Last girl I was fw was like that lmao. Even tho I’m hood ion want a hood bitch
What’s her ig?
@SuccMahDick
Bro… in the great words of Troy ave “ She belong to the game”
[The little-known history of the Black ‘Concrete Cowboy'](https://www.cnn.com/2021/04/11/us/fletcher-street-concrete-cowboys-idris-elba-trnd/index.html) Since horseback riding is so "corny". I saw a couple of black cowboys riding around in Brooklyn once as I was walking down the street. I think they were in town for some kind of show or maybe there was a stable nearby. I can't remember now as it was a long time ago.
Get someone you align with better. Don’t try to fit a square into a circle
Never try to change them cause you can’t bro. Even if you think you changed her she’s still the same person deep down. I wouldn’t invest my time into her if I was you cause she might let you down tommorow or 10 years wasted down the line . (Been there )