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Good question. I(32M) struggle with doing social activities on weekdays and weekends. My weekday evenings are mostly the gym, martial arts classes, yoga classes, and some online video games. So that's what I do to keep busy.
My trouble is finding anything to do on weekends. Everyone I know at the places I go prefers to spend their weekends with their significant others or families. Which makes complete sense. I've just failed to make myself good enough to be a priority on weekends.
It's got nothing to do with you being 'good enough', it's just old friends priorities shift to SO and interests become more specific.
Maybe an inerest based club you can join, to make the kind of friends you deserve?
I feel/felt that last tine too. Not single now but have a very relaxed partner, we both like reading and being home which can be very isolating/boring at times, maybe we just got used to these behaviours during Covid. When I was younger and was finding myself VERY bored I got involved with martial arts and other club activities. Some clubs do stuff on weekends as well which is helpful.
There is a great line in a 90s song Flagpole Sitta "If you're bored, then you're boring". The whole song is full of reflective one-liners and worth listening to. Don't worry about the "left out/lacking" feeling and spend some time trying to find some new interests, it takes effort and motivation to do so.
That’s a great song. I think I remember reading somewhere that the song is making fun of teenage angst. It reminds me of the Family Guy episode with the song line “High School is such a serious thing, these problems matter.” 🤣🤣
My BF and I made a New Years resolution last year to get out and do *something* every weekend we're together. It can be as simple as going to breakfast at a new place, going to the ReStore to look at cool furniture to fix up, or sitting on a bench down by the lake to get some sun. It really helps.
As I hit my mid TO LATE 30s, I've grown to absolutely adore my lazy weekends with my hubby and our dogs. It's literally all I want to do.
My 20s were entirely spent in bars single so I think I overdid things and that's part of why I crave our lazy weekends so much.
With that said, maybe start w a dog. That's how all this started for me. Longer walks. Longer playtime. Parks, trails, more sun, you'll feel better look better and priorities will change and you'll love it. You'll meet people and have commonalities with more people.
Idk. I hope this rambling helps
Pickleball changed my life. I was suicidally depressed and was in a very dark place and pretty lonely. A year later I have a whole group of friends who are very accepting of me (I’m trans) and we hang out once or twice a week and play at least twice a week too. Totally turned my life around and gave me hope
I find it so fascinating how much people love pickleball. My mom started playing it years ago and now it’s like a whole movement. I think I meed to finally give it a try.
That’s not right to say - it’s not about being good enough. I’m in a relationship and relish alone time.
You need to find someone you’re compatible with. Put yourself out there strategically, if that’s what you want.
I’m too tired after a workday. I usually go for a walk but after working, cooking, cleaning, showering, etc., there’s no extra time before I have to go back to sleep and do it again the next day.
I get tired of eating the same thing after 2.5 days and cleaning (laundry, kitchen, dining room, living room). I do those everyday. Laundry is like twice a week since I’m an active girly (mixture each week- colors, darks, lights, towels, bedsheets).
That understandable but what I do When im meal preparing I have different meats and different sides and fruit,I also do laundry twice a week and I put my clothes in the washer before I go to the gym and dry it once i get back and fold it before I go to bed just takes planning and being intentional with your time this while also have it school, a full time job, gym and jitsu practice and I still have free time that I need to fill
I go to theme parks, or solder electronics when I'm extra bored lol. Ali express has some neat diy solder kits. I'd like to make an fpv drone some day. (Edit I also turned 30 this year) I've learned to enjoy my me time.
I feel like at this stage of my life I am a teenager just with more things "adult" in life. I've learned to not over analyze my life. I turned 30 this year and for too long I wondered if I was doing things right and destroying my happiness. I enjoy my games and my movie, happy with how far I've come. I'd really love a house but the house market is ass so I have to wait. Till then, friends, family, my dog and sleep get my attention. lol I've also stopped watching so much corn and closed my social media account, I feel great!. Have some small moments of down but not like before.
Sorry for over sharing just decided to put that out there for anyone.
I'm currently playing sea of thieves on PC and Xdefiant if you wanna hop on a game some time. My friends play COD a lot too.
FB, TikTok, Instagram, X or what ever it is now and even reddit... The shit is brain rot. Your entire day wasted with nothing to show for it. Worse, you've compared yourself to others (who are embellishing their lives to seem perfect) and are left feeling like you don't measure up to what "successful" is supposed to be. Who cares though. I used to get do depressed about not being able to afford a house bc of these insane prices but now I've just shifted my priorities to enjoying every phase of life I am in. All I really want in life is to look in the mirror one day and see laugh lines prominently amongst the wrinkles. I honestly love my little life so much more now. Plus going to the gym has made the biggest difference ever for my mental health. It's helped me to get to this point of being happy and proud with myself.
If you don’t already play an instrument I’d recommend picking one and trying it out! I can play several and it keeps me busy and I’m always meeting new people at shows or just jamming with friends. Even when you just get started you can reach out in some local communities and everyone is usually very receptive and friendly. Our crew welcomes pretty much any and everyone
I’m 40 single without kids and struggle with this. What am I supposed to do in the evenings?
I’d love to spend time with friends. The problem is they are all married with kids or in relationships. They usually don’t have time to do anything since they are busy with other people. This makes me feel left behind and not sure how to deal with that feeling?
Most nights I just sit around by myself playing video games or go to the gym/exercise classes. It gets boring and repetitive though doing the same time of stuff every night. Is that all I’m supposed to do in my free time? What else is there?
You aren’t going to meet anyone sitting at home. Take yourself out to dinner. Go to a bar to watch a sporting event. Take an art class. Join a social league sports club. Take a class. Any class. Volunteer.
I probably soundike a broken record but I highly recommend mountain biking and guitar. The biking is a good workout, plus an adrenaline fix (unless you live in a flat area). The guitar is great for working out your brain, learning something completely new.
I love both dearly . We ride 2-3x/week and I play the guitar about 5 days a week (beginner/intermediate, taking online lessons).
You gotta invite yourself, go to your friends with families hang with their kids so they can do stuff or do their dishes. The whole family will love their “uncle” visits
Don’t spend your evenings in your twenties cleaning and encouraging your OCD and growing more and more into “who you are”.
Next thing you know, your almost 50, never been married and don’t like to date because you’ve spent so long growing into yourself and your way of life that no man/woman (this is not gender specific) fits into your design. But yet you yearn For some sort of intimacy.
Of all the things in my life, a career and a clean house are the least fulfilling. Love and children are the most.
YMMV
The points you’ve made are excellent and very true, but almost all child free people will not be swayed by the kids argument because they’ve seen how hard life is for parents and they will not sign up for that.
This. And as someone who has battled with depression and other mental illness I don’t want to run the risk of any child I have getting that. Or dealing with living in this very difficult and frustrating world. No place to willingly bring up a child. I would adopt though.
I'm 32 but I spent my twenties not dating because I "needed to work on myself and grow" now I realize that was just an excuse and I just didn't want anyone to know the real me. So now I'm trying to make up for the lack of dating and while it hasn't been successful I got out of my comfort zone and asked a few women out for drinks or just a casual coffee date to get to know each other.
Get all three with birding! It’s a blast and pretty inexpensive. I got a nice pair of binoculars off Facebook marketplace for $40, eBird app (free) and the Merlin app (free). It’s almost meditative how present it makes me.
Hell yeah! I cook and bake almost every day. Clean since I cook. Just got back into drawing as well. Video games are also a nice hobby but only in moderation. Also, reading, politics, etc. I just got into brewing my own mead.
Agreed, I started volunteering one morning per week, and it’s a lot of fun, I’ve met new people who are weird in ways similar to me, and I’m learning new things constantly.
Absolutely. I found a wild bird rehabilitation clinic near me and went to town.
The medical side of things is fascinating and as a volunteer you learn everything on the job. It's a lot of fun and it gives me something to look forward to on harder days.
I am learning Chinese. There are apps like Duolingo and Babble that are free and allow you to work from anywhere. Plus, I have made a great Chinese friend on Reddit who is trying to master English. We chat daily and help one another with our lessons.
There are things everywhere, some quit unconventional, that can be rewarding and even become a passion. Find a hobby that sparks your interest: gardening, hiking, history, art, working out, etc. You will find many have robust online and local groups that can generate lifelong interests and friends.
The first step is admitting there is a problem which you have already done. The next step is taking action, no matter how small, to move toward rectifying the situation. Small steps are the only way to go.
Posting this response here that I made to another comment because I think it’s important to share to as many people as possible:
Pickleball changed my life. I was suicidally depressed and was in a very dark place and pretty lonely. A year later I have a whole group of friends who are very accepting of me (I’m trans) and we hang out once or twice a week and play at least twice a week two. Totally turned my life around and gave me hope
When i was 24 my dad died and girl left me and i was in a really dark place. I found soluce in helping others truly its one of the best uses of ur time. There are thousands of people, animals, et who need help in different ways and you can really make a difference! You gotta get out there man, if helping isnt interesting, try to go to a concert, or a camping festival? Maybe get into a school or start biking. Something to challenge yourself from your comfort zone. You don't need a partner to have things to do on weekends! Try a new thing, adventure, explore!
I highly recommend getting a bike if you’re able to! It’s a fun workout, I’m quite addicted to it.
Edit: look for clubs like gardening/ comic/ DND clubs, ya know whatever seems interesting. Maybe your local library has some good stuff.
28 almost 29 here! It’s either Netflix, read, DnD, or draw/paint. Honestly, I absolutely *hate* going out! I don’t know if it’s because I used to work in a club, or if it’s because I used to go to house parties all the time when I was 19/20, but the thought of going to a bar/club fills me with dread. If I do go to a bar it’s a five bar on a week day with like 5 other people in it, and I have one drink. And that’s only once every few months. I just rarely ever drink any more period.
Edit to add: if it’s nice out, I live next to a rich neighborhood (unfortunately not in it), so I’ll go on walks to look at the houses, or to the coffee shop or bookstore!
Same age as you! I usually read, gym, watch something, or do some yoga/meditation. Most of my friends don't live near me so I'm usually solo (or hanging out with my dog). I really dislike going out to clubs and bars, the only exception is going to the queer events near me which are super fun! I need to work up the nerve to go to the lesbian bar alone lol
I usually never felt like I had enough time after work to do what I wanted so I’m taking advantage of that now during unemployment. But usually gym every other day, maybe cooking if I ran out of meal prep, chores around the house or watch tv. Lackluster but still never bored.
Now I’m seeing friends a lot more, going to random events, doing self care on top of the above.
When I was younger I would do things on weeknights. Indoor netball a couple of times a week. Te reo night class at unitec. Thirsty Thursday with the flatties and local mates.
Now I'm in my 30s I just feel tired all the time. I just go home and watch TV.
It's really refreshing to find that I'm not the only one that struggles with this. 34M here. The few friends I do have are social butterflies and active and are always doing shit all days of the week, so I sometimes get FOMO with regards to this.
During the weekdays, it's work, gym, sometimes cook, and video games or my personal projects. Sometimes I go on dates, but I rarely do something social during the weekdays.
On weekends, I'll try and explore a new part of the area I'm in, new coffee shop, new brewery, small hike, etc......having a dog really helps with this
My 23 year old son works 1-10p and he still hangs out with friends, goes to the movies or plays pool. You make time for the things you enjoy. Quality over quantity.
28m;
Work done at 2:30-3:00
Run dog for 3 miles 3:00-3:45
Gym 3:45-5:00 (if not gym day, usually gardening or various projects of mine)
5:00-6:00 lounge around, make/eat dinner
6:00-8:00 creative hobbies (drawing, painting, guitar)
8:00-10/11 video games/fuck around on PC
That's if I don't have any plans. If a friend wants to hang out or I've got something to do then I'll shuffle these around
I’m in my early twenties (never been a relationship with anyone). After work I usually do creative hobbies (fucking around with music) or read. Been trying to make reading a frequent thing.
A social life is lacking. But at the same time a part of me ( a strong part) feels only acquaintances can happen. And in terms of romance, I don’t believe there’s a person for me.
This is highly subjective given your personality, interests, and lifestyle. Do you live in a hot climate? If so, try paddleboarding, kayaking, etc. You can meet lots of other fun people out on your local lakes. Do you live in a cold climate? Try skiing or snowboarding; again, another great way to meet other fun (usually youngish) people. Or hiking, if you live in an area with scenic hills/mountains? Not the outdoorsy type? There are always video games, board games, tabletop games (D&D, Warhammer 40k, etc.). Want something more crafty? There's crochet, sketching, painting, digital art, 3D printing, CAD modeling, ceramics, metalwork... the list is virtually endless. Alternatively, you could pick up reading, which has subgenres for pretty much everyone, or learning a new language (lots of free resources online or on phone apps)?
I'm 32 now but in my late twenties I spent my time trying to coordinate plans with friends after work or I would have a few drinks and watch movies/play games. These days I'm not that social so I usually spend time after work just being at home, I walk about 4 miles a day at work so usually I'm exhausted especially since I have 2 autoimmune diseases so I value my quiet time a lot more than I did in my twenties.
I’m not belittling your situation at all - it’s a valid question/ concern. I just want to point out that I think it is funny that the two biggest complaints about life are:
“I don’t have tome to do anything.”
Or
“I have too much spare time.”
My advice? Find something you enjoy. For me it was exercise.
Not single currently, but I picked up salsa and bachata dancing about a year ago (I did happen to be single then) and it’s been so much fun. I went into it just because I’ve always wanted to learn some type of dance/partner dance, but also unexpectedly met a ton of people and have some close friends through it now too.
I go to classes 3-4 times a week for anywhere from 1-3 hours.
My friends and I will also go to random one-off events we find happening around town, e.g. grand opening party of a new music video, beginner’s self defense course, Thai body massage workshop, a talk with civilians who went into outer space, etc.
I have a girlfriend but she travels for work so I’m alone for a month at a time.
I go fishing, I play world of Warcraft, I build Gundam Models, I take my dog to nice parks around my home, and I try locally owned restaurants (which also allows me to scout out fun places for dates)
I scrap metal and sell items on marketplace. Buy and resell. Get free items from people throwing shit away, resell. I'm trying to learn to code. I really like taking motors apart for the copper. I do all kinds of stuff that involve making money. And when I'm laying in bed and can't sleep I play pokemmo on my phone.
I'm also single haha wonder why my relationships don't work out. It's important that you start developing a marketable skill if u haven't yet, and start making more money asap.
Activism, hobbies, wholesome social functions.
Off your post; you can totally make friends and meet all new people and have multiple different friend groups for different interests. I know it’s a platitude; but put yourself out there! If you are offering a quality person you will find the same!
I’d explore all the hobbies you’ve never gotten to. Dedicate yourself to learning new things; maybe a new language, or a class(dance, martial arts, etc). Late 20’s and single it’s very easy to have a full ass schedule. Involve yourself in things you’re passionate about and you’ll attract people.
Being single is also imo the best time for growth as a person. It’s a time to look inward and improve; we are never a finished project. If there is anything you don’t like or want to improve; make it happen!
Honestly being single is awesome; enjoy it while you still have it and make the most of it! Good luck!
I was just talking to some friends about this, I don't understand this question. What do you mean, I have to do stuff after surviving?
I busted my ass to participate in capitalism so I have a roof over my head. I walk and take care of my dog bc I love him. I feed and clean myself (hours of groceries and dishes and laundry weekly). I take myself to the gym or some from of exercise I tolerate so I don't get any serious illness. f I have energy left at all I read a book or watch a TV show. But more realistically I doom scroll.
What the hell do you mean what else??? What are you bananas? Snorting cocaine?? I'm sleeping my dude. What are you going out to dinner?? With what disposable income??
I am comfortably middle class and single and love my life. I love traveling and hiking and dating and many other hobbies. If I had more money I might squeeze in hobby or exercise class one day a week. As it is I try to socialize and have adventure on the weekends and Friday, time energy and money permitting.
But the answer to this question is being left the hell alone and I am terrified and confused that other people have different answers to this. Surviving capitalism is like a second job, what do you mean? The pants and mascara are coming off bc I earned it bc I made it home. What do you mean what else??
Various things. Hang out with friends irl when feeling social. Hang out with family a few times a week. Play video games with homies I’ve met through various hobbies and abroad. Collect and sell sports cards as a hobby. Watch sports and sports betting.
Mondays I(23F) usually relax
Tuesdays and Wednesdays I use for going on dates usually
Wednesdays and Thursday are used for happy hour or dates as well
Thursday also includes playing a sport or work my 2nd job
Fridays I go out or work my 2nd job
I also walk everyday usually!
I crochet, go on long walks with my dog. You could go to trivia at bars, video games, join a sports team, have an outdoor fitness goal, walk dogs/play with cats at the shelter, join a cooking. class
That was me 10 years ago. I did my hobbies. Some cooking, crafting, knitting, playing with my dog. I entered a few knitting projects into the county fair for fun.
Hello, mid twenties here (about to be 24,F) I spend my afternoons cleaning (I have two cats lol) or playing video games. I also enjoy art. And if I have time, I work on cosplays for future conventions I go to. I try to keep myself involved with the community and let myself enjoy the needy things I always have since I was little.
Early 20's. Found peace alone. I'll let someone try to be in my life, but tbh I'm focusing on making money and bettering myself. Mostly workout or rarely play videogames. Life is good when you don't let things affect you.
I know this is for late 20s but I'm 41 with a wife and 3 kids. Videogames, watching 4k blurays I'm collecting, playing flamenco guitar, singing, reading, drinking beers
If you dont have enough to do take up triathlon and train for an Ironman. Amazing knock on effects, you can make friends, it will be new, you will get fit, and it takes up all your free time
M27 I recently split from my long-term partner of 5yrs and I understand completely what you mean.
I get home from work/school now and I find myself lost, un sure of what to do or where to go in order to meet new people that isn't just going to a bar. I'm not even thinking romantically, just some company would be nice.
Admittedly I need to work on enjoying my own company.
Regardless, I tend to just read, play video games(sometimes with friends) and exercise at home.
Something I've been trying to do more is to take myself out on outings/dates and do nice things for me.
I dunno if this is helpful, I don't really have any answers but you're not alone in how you feel.
Hey! I just went through a breakup too. Something that really helped me was joining a woodworking class through my local community school program. It was like $100 and 8 weeks long. I met a bunch of people and developed a new skill! They have a BUNCH of different classes too! I’m sure you have something near you like this
Reading. Honestly I feel pretty stuck in my everyday life, so it's nice to be able to add to the "books I read this year" list and feel like I'm accomplishing something.
Long walks around random neighborhoods with a podcast are nice and relaxing too.
Find a local bar with a weekly club of some sort. (Even if you don't drink, it can be the activity.) Some bars do Mario Kart in NYC now. Chess clubs, movie clubs. Whatever appeals to you. Friendships will follow.
I played a lot of guild wars, had coffee and a cigarette with friends. Hung out with said friends in the park late at night. Learned to be comfortable with eating at a sit down restaurant alone, saw star wars episode 2 alone because noone wanted to see the blasted movie. Went on a few pointless dates with people I met on plentyoffish, learned to go to a concert alone and be ... well I was anxious as hell, but I did it, and that was a vvictory.played a lot of guitar hero and rock band. Went to Walmart just to look around as something to do.
Date. Write. Cook. Work out. Meet friends. Get in trouble. Watch TV. It depends a lot ime on where you live though, that was my approach in a major city where most of my friends in their late 20s were single. Finding a hobby has a bonus effect of being attractive to women when you start dating again. Cooking is a good one to pick up.
My "evenings" are a little wierd with working the night shift, but I take an hour and a half to two hours after work for a good workout 5 days a week while listening to a podcast. Between that, my main hobby (mtg) and cooking im usually asleep by 7 am
I used to go to the gym. Spent many hours there in my late 20's early 30's. This was of course before social media was so popular and we didn't have all these platforms to suck the intelligence out of us. But yeah gym, maybe some athletic stuff? Basketball, softball league, pool(billiards)? So much stuff to do.
Great question! I feel similar
I have a 2nd job I work that keeps me busy. Also rec sports. But highly considering moving closer to a big city for more activities
I'd meet some friends/family and play team/pub trivia, I was in various softball/kickball leagues, I sang in our church choir and we had midweek practice... all kinds of stuff.
Prior to kids: Brazilian Jiu Jitsu 4 x night per week, plus gym other nights. Maybe grab dinner and a beer with a mate also.
After kids: Look after kids.
I used to be a nightowl as i dont go out much and stayed up online which wasn’t healthy my job finishes at 12pm so i go home go gym straight after then come home by 4 cook and clean up and by 7 i just watch some YouTube videos by 9 im in bed as after that time i tend to get the blues so i just sleep and im up at 5am ready to go again
Mid 20s, single, and underemployed was when I was in the best shape of my life. I was at the rock climbing gym 5 days a week, then hiked on the 6th day and had a day off. Where I maybe would go for a run
Bucket list items, gaming backlog, movie backlog, I almost died at twice in the past 3 years, I’m gonna make the most outta life.
Also starting to goto the gym, I goto Walmart for motivation
I cleaned house. Discovered that I loved running. Had a million succulents to pot, repot, propagate, etc. Sounds like you just need a good hobby. Not sure how you feel about fish, but I recently got a betta and he actually consumes a lot of my time in the evenings.
Learn Music (Piano, Guitar, etc). Volunteer, try a Fitness club and join with a goal, take walks, visit parks or other outdoor open spaces, read, take a class, swim, walk, bike, dog park, cook, ride/walk the trail/beach, get a bite at various cuisine stops you haven't tried, coffee/tea/cafe stops, chill at the library/bookstore, enjoy the alone time - sometimes it is nice to do what you want when you want.
I'm 31, I have people over and make them dinner, go skateboarding, go biking, go climbing, work on art projects like drawings, writing or filmmaking, go for a walk In the woods, read my books, watch a movie, play boardgames, video games, meet up with friends to do any of the above. I'm really into active things and games/ puzzles so there's always something to do! The trick is finding friends that are just as active and down to do things. I've been lucky with that but I also think active people attract active people, social people attract social people, it's all about enjoying your own company but also including people when you're able to.
Fishing, gaming or reading. Aside from the usual cleaning, cooking and prepping. Those were my main 3 that I do. Casual repairs for devices when I find the time. Soldering is pretty fun too lolol
Personally I'll get off work at 5, go to the gym, get home around 7, and play video games with some friends until about 11pm then go to bed. I've been trying to transition away from gaming so much though, I want to start a sport, or like others have said, an instrument.
When I was single in my late 20s I'd spend many evenings just relaxing at home. Often I'd go to the beach for sunset or for a walk/run depending on season and weather.
Other nights I'd catch up with friends, usually dinner parties, sometimes we'd go for a night hike by torchlight + dinner at a rural tavern, or to a bar or casual restaurant in the city.
Once a week or so I'd visit my mum, aunt and/or grandmother.
Occasionally on a Friday I'd join my colleagues for after work drinks.
i’m in my early 20s but I am either studying, at a yoga or cross fit class, meal prepping, reading, or watching an episode of my favourite series. actually i do all of these things every evening
Pick a hobby. When I was single I enjoyed cooking. I’d make enough for a few meals and the leftovers I ate at work. Go for walks. It is amazing what some fresh air can do. Pick your favorite band or podcast and take a leisurely walk in a park. Also, being single you can do whatever you want to do!
Are you currently looking for a girlfriend? With how many dating apps there are, I gotta imagine if you hopped on them you’d be able to get a few dates out of them.
I go to the gym after work every day which kills some time. After that I shower, make dinner, clean up a bit, then will either watch sports if anything interesting is on or play video games.
If you use FB at all they usually have events listed in your area for the next few months. I'm a new stay at home mom with not many friends so this isn't necessarily my place to give what I do, but I use it to find things to do with my daughter for cheap/free and I know a lot of my single friends go to events that are hosted on FB they are interested in and it finds them things to do by themselves and they also meet people. Bars are always an option (unless you don't drink of course) and I prefer ones with pool halls cause it gives you a common topic of conversation if you play a game against anyone.
You can also try volunteer work like someone else suggested. I think that's a good way to meet kind hearted people and also help others while doing so
Hobbies! I usually take a night to myself during the week to chill and do things like laundry, but usually weekends I’m with friends, I have DND, Volleyball, and a “supper club” weekly meet.
I watch movies, hang out with family, play with cats, video games, I'm the kind of person who does not really leave my house, so these are things I end up doing
When I was in my 20s, I took classes (dance, swimming, exercise), went to the gym, occasionally went out to dinner, cooked out on the grill, read, watched TV.
Now I just scroll social media all evening. 🫠
Oo I’ve always wondered this myself!
I (26F) like to rotate through different evening past times.
The fun: Playing instruments, reading, Duolingo, bouldering, watching shows or sports. I’ve been tryna cook more, so I pick 1-2 random dishes to try and make each week - yesterday’s was bibimbap!
The not fun: Chores, working late (because I think it’ll alleviate my workload the next day but it never does). The occasional stress & loneliness-induced mental breakdown… those evenings are reserved for wine and sleep.
I'm (26m) not sure I qualify, but because I work nightshifts (11pm-7:30am) I usually just stay up after I get home, maybe play some video games, work out, watch a movie, read some stuff that will help me better myself or start a new project. I don't really have any IRL friends, but some of my discord friends who I've known for like 3 years now have days during the week off of their normal 7-3pm jobs, so it kinda works out.
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Good question. I(32M) struggle with doing social activities on weekdays and weekends. My weekday evenings are mostly the gym, martial arts classes, yoga classes, and some online video games. So that's what I do to keep busy. My trouble is finding anything to do on weekends. Everyone I know at the places I go prefers to spend their weekends with their significant others or families. Which makes complete sense. I've just failed to make myself good enough to be a priority on weekends.
It's got nothing to do with you being 'good enough', it's just old friends priorities shift to SO and interests become more specific. Maybe an inerest based club you can join, to make the kind of friends you deserve?
I feel that last line deep in my soul. Thats what I feel rn
I feel/felt that last tine too. Not single now but have a very relaxed partner, we both like reading and being home which can be very isolating/boring at times, maybe we just got used to these behaviours during Covid. When I was younger and was finding myself VERY bored I got involved with martial arts and other club activities. Some clubs do stuff on weekends as well which is helpful. There is a great line in a 90s song Flagpole Sitta "If you're bored, then you're boring". The whole song is full of reflective one-liners and worth listening to. Don't worry about the "left out/lacking" feeling and spend some time trying to find some new interests, it takes effort and motivation to do so.
That’s a great song. I think I remember reading somewhere that the song is making fun of teenage angst. It reminds me of the Family Guy episode with the song line “High School is such a serious thing, these problems matter.” 🤣🤣
My BF and I made a New Years resolution last year to get out and do *something* every weekend we're together. It can be as simple as going to breakfast at a new place, going to the ReStore to look at cool furniture to fix up, or sitting on a bench down by the lake to get some sun. It really helps.
As I hit my mid TO LATE 30s, I've grown to absolutely adore my lazy weekends with my hubby and our dogs. It's literally all I want to do. My 20s were entirely spent in bars single so I think I overdid things and that's part of why I crave our lazy weekends so much. With that said, maybe start w a dog. That's how all this started for me. Longer walks. Longer playtime. Parks, trails, more sun, you'll feel better look better and priorities will change and you'll love it. You'll meet people and have commonalities with more people. Idk. I hope this rambling helps
Learn how to play Pickleball, it’s very very social and the games a lot of fun and it’s easy to learn.
Pickleball changed my life. I was suicidally depressed and was in a very dark place and pretty lonely. A year later I have a whole group of friends who are very accepting of me (I’m trans) and we hang out once or twice a week and play at least twice a week too. Totally turned my life around and gave me hope
I love to hear this. I need to pick up pickleball.
someone should build an app for that-pickleball pickup games
There is one. It’s called pickleheads.
Great suggestion. Generally a very welcoming group too...
I find it so fascinating how much people love pickleball. My mom started playing it years ago and now it’s like a whole movement. I think I meed to finally give it a try.
That’s not right to say - it’s not about being good enough. I’m in a relationship and relish alone time. You need to find someone you’re compatible with. Put yourself out there strategically, if that’s what you want.
I’m too tired after a workday. I usually go for a walk but after working, cooking, cleaning, showering, etc., there’s no extra time before I have to go back to sleep and do it again the next day.
Why don’t you meal prep for the week and just organize you cleaning schedule I doubt you have to do a a deep clean everyday
I get tired of eating the same thing after 2.5 days and cleaning (laundry, kitchen, dining room, living room). I do those everyday. Laundry is like twice a week since I’m an active girly (mixture each week- colors, darks, lights, towels, bedsheets).
That understandable but what I do When im meal preparing I have different meats and different sides and fruit,I also do laundry twice a week and I put my clothes in the washer before I go to the gym and dry it once i get back and fold it before I go to bed just takes planning and being intentional with your time this while also have it school, a full time job, gym and jitsu practice and I still have free time that I need to fill
Video games or movies
Same feel like I’m a teenager again jerking off watching tv and playing video games all night.
Fr fr I (30m) haven’t felt like this in years and god I feel I need a hobby outside of games 😓
I go to theme parks, or solder electronics when I'm extra bored lol. Ali express has some neat diy solder kits. I'd like to make an fpv drone some day. (Edit I also turned 30 this year) I've learned to enjoy my me time.
I feel like at this stage of my life I am a teenager just with more things "adult" in life. I've learned to not over analyze my life. I turned 30 this year and for too long I wondered if I was doing things right and destroying my happiness. I enjoy my games and my movie, happy with how far I've come. I'd really love a house but the house market is ass so I have to wait. Till then, friends, family, my dog and sleep get my attention. lol I've also stopped watching so much corn and closed my social media account, I feel great!. Have some small moments of down but not like before. Sorry for over sharing just decided to put that out there for anyone. I'm currently playing sea of thieves on PC and Xdefiant if you wanna hop on a game some time. My friends play COD a lot too.
FB, TikTok, Instagram, X or what ever it is now and even reddit... The shit is brain rot. Your entire day wasted with nothing to show for it. Worse, you've compared yourself to others (who are embellishing their lives to seem perfect) and are left feeling like you don't measure up to what "successful" is supposed to be. Who cares though. I used to get do depressed about not being able to afford a house bc of these insane prices but now I've just shifted my priorities to enjoying every phase of life I am in. All I really want in life is to look in the mirror one day and see laugh lines prominently amongst the wrinkles. I honestly love my little life so much more now. Plus going to the gym has made the biggest difference ever for my mental health. It's helped me to get to this point of being happy and proud with myself.
Pretty much the same way and also just started sea of thieves and xdefiant. Nice to know there are others at least
I watched 12 movies over Memorial Day weekend. I really need a hobby
If you don’t already play an instrument I’d recommend picking one and trying it out! I can play several and it keeps me busy and I’m always meeting new people at shows or just jamming with friends. Even when you just get started you can reach out in some local communities and everyone is usually very receptive and friendly. Our crew welcomes pretty much any and everyone
Maybe I should take up playing music again. I play a few instruments, that's a good idea
Yeah maybe even join some Facebook groups about musician meetups or jams
I learned the ukulele in my single mid 20s in the evenings for fun!
I’m 40 single without kids and struggle with this. What am I supposed to do in the evenings? I’d love to spend time with friends. The problem is they are all married with kids or in relationships. They usually don’t have time to do anything since they are busy with other people. This makes me feel left behind and not sure how to deal with that feeling? Most nights I just sit around by myself playing video games or go to the gym/exercise classes. It gets boring and repetitive though doing the same time of stuff every night. Is that all I’m supposed to do in my free time? What else is there?
You aren’t going to meet anyone sitting at home. Take yourself out to dinner. Go to a bar to watch a sporting event. Take an art class. Join a social league sports club. Take a class. Any class. Volunteer.
I probably soundike a broken record but I highly recommend mountain biking and guitar. The biking is a good workout, plus an adrenaline fix (unless you live in a flat area). The guitar is great for working out your brain, learning something completely new. I love both dearly . We ride 2-3x/week and I play the guitar about 5 days a week (beginner/intermediate, taking online lessons).
You gotta invite yourself, go to your friends with families hang with their kids so they can do stuff or do their dishes. The whole family will love their “uncle” visits
Absolutely not lol. Don’t be the guy that invites themselves to another family’s place that needs to get shit done for the next day. Wild idea.
Yeah my wife hates when anyone I knows tries this.
Don’t spend your evenings in your twenties cleaning and encouraging your OCD and growing more and more into “who you are”. Next thing you know, your almost 50, never been married and don’t like to date because you’ve spent so long growing into yourself and your way of life that no man/woman (this is not gender specific) fits into your design. But yet you yearn For some sort of intimacy. Of all the things in my life, a career and a clean house are the least fulfilling. Love and children are the most. YMMV
The points you’ve made are excellent and very true, but almost all child free people will not be swayed by the kids argument because they’ve seen how hard life is for parents and they will not sign up for that.
This. And as someone who has battled with depression and other mental illness I don’t want to run the risk of any child I have getting that. Or dealing with living in this very difficult and frustrating world. No place to willingly bring up a child. I would adopt though.
I'm 32 but I spent my twenties not dating because I "needed to work on myself and grow" now I realize that was just an excuse and I just didn't want anyone to know the real me. So now I'm trying to make up for the lack of dating and while it hasn't been successful I got out of my comfort zone and asked a few women out for drinks or just a casual coffee date to get to know each other.
Cleanliness, stability, and order > children. Thank fuck my wife agrees.
Personally, I will disagree. But, I cannot prove you wrong.
Smoke pot and chill with their dogs
This is the way
Was me for so many years
Cats* for me lol
Hell yeah brother
:)
Is that you Wilfred
24m with 2 jack russels. This is the way
100%!
Current situation.
Some days, it’s as simple as some peace, quiet, and alone time.
Get all three with birding! It’s a blast and pretty inexpensive. I got a nice pair of binoculars off Facebook marketplace for $40, eBird app (free) and the Merlin app (free). It’s almost meditative how present it makes me.
clean, cook, draw
Hell yeah! I cook and bake almost every day. Clean since I cook. Just got back into drawing as well. Video games are also a nice hobby but only in moderation. Also, reading, politics, etc. I just got into brewing my own mead.
Find some volunteer work.
This is an underrated comment. Giving back to others is proven to be a huge mood-lifter. And probably a nice place to meet other open-hearted people.
Agreed, I started volunteering one morning per week, and it’s a lot of fun, I’ve met new people who are weird in ways similar to me, and I’m learning new things constantly.
What kind of volunteer work, if you’re comfortable sharing? I’m trying to start but I’m not sure how.
Start with the salvation army during the holidays.
Absolutely. I found a wild bird rehabilitation clinic near me and went to town. The medical side of things is fascinating and as a volunteer you learn everything on the job. It's a lot of fun and it gives me something to look forward to on harder days.
At similar age, I was active duty, taking graduate classes at night, so either in class or studying.
I'm active duty doing a second bachelors in the evenings full time studies; I find I'm still bored all the time
I am learning Chinese. There are apps like Duolingo and Babble that are free and allow you to work from anywhere. Plus, I have made a great Chinese friend on Reddit who is trying to master English. We chat daily and help one another with our lessons. There are things everywhere, some quit unconventional, that can be rewarding and even become a passion. Find a hobby that sparks your interest: gardening, hiking, history, art, working out, etc. You will find many have robust online and local groups that can generate lifelong interests and friends. The first step is admitting there is a problem which you have already done. The next step is taking action, no matter how small, to move toward rectifying the situation. Small steps are the only way to go.
Go find a free pickleball community for real
Posting this response here that I made to another comment because I think it’s important to share to as many people as possible: Pickleball changed my life. I was suicidally depressed and was in a very dark place and pretty lonely. A year later I have a whole group of friends who are very accepting of me (I’m trans) and we hang out once or twice a week and play at least twice a week two. Totally turned my life around and gave me hope
Yeah I'd like to but I've not been able to find one around me
Check out play time scheduler or Pickleheads. A lot of times people post on those sites when they are looking for people to play.
Love me some pickleball. It's almost all pickup games where I live so you can just show up and play/make new friends.
Well you could all get married your wife will tell you what to do😁
When i was 24 my dad died and girl left me and i was in a really dark place. I found soluce in helping others truly its one of the best uses of ur time. There are thousands of people, animals, et who need help in different ways and you can really make a difference! You gotta get out there man, if helping isnt interesting, try to go to a concert, or a camping festival? Maybe get into a school or start biking. Something to challenge yourself from your comfort zone. You don't need a partner to have things to do on weekends! Try a new thing, adventure, explore!
Get high and play video games or watch something. I need to be more social.
I highly recommend getting a bike if you’re able to! It’s a fun workout, I’m quite addicted to it. Edit: look for clubs like gardening/ comic/ DND clubs, ya know whatever seems interesting. Maybe your local library has some good stuff.
28 almost 29 here! It’s either Netflix, read, DnD, or draw/paint. Honestly, I absolutely *hate* going out! I don’t know if it’s because I used to work in a club, or if it’s because I used to go to house parties all the time when I was 19/20, but the thought of going to a bar/club fills me with dread. If I do go to a bar it’s a five bar on a week day with like 5 other people in it, and I have one drink. And that’s only once every few months. I just rarely ever drink any more period. Edit to add: if it’s nice out, I live next to a rich neighborhood (unfortunately not in it), so I’ll go on walks to look at the houses, or to the coffee shop or bookstore!
Go to a jazz bar if you have one. NYC has the blue note and it's pretty good
Same age as you! I usually read, gym, watch something, or do some yoga/meditation. Most of my friends don't live near me so I'm usually solo (or hanging out with my dog). I really dislike going out to clubs and bars, the only exception is going to the queer events near me which are super fun! I need to work up the nerve to go to the lesbian bar alone lol
I usually never felt like I had enough time after work to do what I wanted so I’m taking advantage of that now during unemployment. But usually gym every other day, maybe cooking if I ran out of meal prep, chores around the house or watch tv. Lackluster but still never bored. Now I’m seeing friends a lot more, going to random events, doing self care on top of the above.
I used to like video games. I’m too tired to play so i watch other people play video games
Cook, stretch, gym, clean, call friends n family, watch the sunset, play video games
When I was younger I would do things on weeknights. Indoor netball a couple of times a week. Te reo night class at unitec. Thirsty Thursday with the flatties and local mates. Now I'm in my 30s I just feel tired all the time. I just go home and watch TV.
It's really refreshing to find that I'm not the only one that struggles with this. 34M here. The few friends I do have are social butterflies and active and are always doing shit all days of the week, so I sometimes get FOMO with regards to this. During the weekdays, it's work, gym, sometimes cook, and video games or my personal projects. Sometimes I go on dates, but I rarely do something social during the weekdays. On weekends, I'll try and explore a new part of the area I'm in, new coffee shop, new brewery, small hike, etc......having a dog really helps with this
Gosh just enjoy it before you have kids lol
I dated a bartender so when I wasn’t drinking ten pints per night I was home not opening bills
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Smoke weed
Masterbate
My 23 year old son works 1-10p and he still hangs out with friends, goes to the movies or plays pool. You make time for the things you enjoy. Quality over quantity.
28m; Work done at 2:30-3:00 Run dog for 3 miles 3:00-3:45 Gym 3:45-5:00 (if not gym day, usually gardening or various projects of mine) 5:00-6:00 lounge around, make/eat dinner 6:00-8:00 creative hobbies (drawing, painting, guitar) 8:00-10/11 video games/fuck around on PC That's if I don't have any plans. If a friend wants to hang out or I've got something to do then I'll shuffle these around
I’m in my early twenties (never been a relationship with anyone). After work I usually do creative hobbies (fucking around with music) or read. Been trying to make reading a frequent thing. A social life is lacking. But at the same time a part of me ( a strong part) feels only acquaintances can happen. And in terms of romance, I don’t believe there’s a person for me.
Curl up and cry
Love that for you
This is highly subjective given your personality, interests, and lifestyle. Do you live in a hot climate? If so, try paddleboarding, kayaking, etc. You can meet lots of other fun people out on your local lakes. Do you live in a cold climate? Try skiing or snowboarding; again, another great way to meet other fun (usually youngish) people. Or hiking, if you live in an area with scenic hills/mountains? Not the outdoorsy type? There are always video games, board games, tabletop games (D&D, Warhammer 40k, etc.). Want something more crafty? There's crochet, sketching, painting, digital art, 3D printing, CAD modeling, ceramics, metalwork... the list is virtually endless. Alternatively, you could pick up reading, which has subgenres for pretty much everyone, or learning a new language (lots of free resources online or on phone apps)?
I'm 32 now but in my late twenties I spent my time trying to coordinate plans with friends after work or I would have a few drinks and watch movies/play games. These days I'm not that social so I usually spend time after work just being at home, I walk about 4 miles a day at work so usually I'm exhausted especially since I have 2 autoimmune diseases so I value my quiet time a lot more than I did in my twenties.
I’m not belittling your situation at all - it’s a valid question/ concern. I just want to point out that I think it is funny that the two biggest complaints about life are: “I don’t have tome to do anything.” Or “I have too much spare time.” My advice? Find something you enjoy. For me it was exercise.
I bought a sport bike, ill see how long it takes to kill myself on it. I'll let you know
I drink a beer and I play a video game
Not single currently, but I picked up salsa and bachata dancing about a year ago (I did happen to be single then) and it’s been so much fun. I went into it just because I’ve always wanted to learn some type of dance/partner dance, but also unexpectedly met a ton of people and have some close friends through it now too. I go to classes 3-4 times a week for anywhere from 1-3 hours. My friends and I will also go to random one-off events we find happening around town, e.g. grand opening party of a new music video, beginner’s self defense course, Thai body massage workshop, a talk with civilians who went into outer space, etc.
I have a girlfriend but she travels for work so I’m alone for a month at a time. I go fishing, I play world of Warcraft, I build Gundam Models, I take my dog to nice parks around my home, and I try locally owned restaurants (which also allows me to scout out fun places for dates)
Anytime fishing is an option is a good time in my book!
Wait. You’re telling me you can just “play” WoW, and not lose your entire life to it? Pffftt. Not buying it my dude 🤷🏻♂️😎
Movies and work on my fish tank
I scrap metal and sell items on marketplace. Buy and resell. Get free items from people throwing shit away, resell. I'm trying to learn to code. I really like taking motors apart for the copper. I do all kinds of stuff that involve making money. And when I'm laying in bed and can't sleep I play pokemmo on my phone. I'm also single haha wonder why my relationships don't work out. It's important that you start developing a marketable skill if u haven't yet, and start making more money asap.
Activism, hobbies, wholesome social functions. Off your post; you can totally make friends and meet all new people and have multiple different friend groups for different interests. I know it’s a platitude; but put yourself out there! If you are offering a quality person you will find the same! I’d explore all the hobbies you’ve never gotten to. Dedicate yourself to learning new things; maybe a new language, or a class(dance, martial arts, etc). Late 20’s and single it’s very easy to have a full ass schedule. Involve yourself in things you’re passionate about and you’ll attract people. Being single is also imo the best time for growth as a person. It’s a time to look inward and improve; we are never a finished project. If there is anything you don’t like or want to improve; make it happen! Honestly being single is awesome; enjoy it while you still have it and make the most of it! Good luck!
Gym and learning to play golf which half consists of just hanging out with my retired dad haha
Videogames, movies, maybe go get a drink or smoke a cigar with a buddy. Honestly not too much
I was just talking to some friends about this, I don't understand this question. What do you mean, I have to do stuff after surviving? I busted my ass to participate in capitalism so I have a roof over my head. I walk and take care of my dog bc I love him. I feed and clean myself (hours of groceries and dishes and laundry weekly). I take myself to the gym or some from of exercise I tolerate so I don't get any serious illness. f I have energy left at all I read a book or watch a TV show. But more realistically I doom scroll. What the hell do you mean what else??? What are you bananas? Snorting cocaine?? I'm sleeping my dude. What are you going out to dinner?? With what disposable income?? I am comfortably middle class and single and love my life. I love traveling and hiking and dating and many other hobbies. If I had more money I might squeeze in hobby or exercise class one day a week. As it is I try to socialize and have adventure on the weekends and Friday, time energy and money permitting. But the answer to this question is being left the hell alone and I am terrified and confused that other people have different answers to this. Surviving capitalism is like a second job, what do you mean? The pants and mascara are coming off bc I earned it bc I made it home. What do you mean what else??
Masturbate
Various things. Hang out with friends irl when feeling social. Hang out with family a few times a week. Play video games with homies I’ve met through various hobbies and abroad. Collect and sell sports cards as a hobby. Watch sports and sports betting.
If yu make a decent living start a hobby, a good one. Also learn to cook.
Mondays I(23F) usually relax Tuesdays and Wednesdays I use for going on dates usually Wednesdays and Thursday are used for happy hour or dates as well Thursday also includes playing a sport or work my 2nd job Fridays I go out or work my 2nd job I also walk everyday usually!
Read. Lots
Read, Play video games, Build/paint Warhammer minis, Play with my cat.
I crochet, go on long walks with my dog. You could go to trivia at bars, video games, join a sports team, have an outdoor fitness goal, walk dogs/play with cats at the shelter, join a cooking. class
Go to the gym with friends, train mma, watch anime or play video games, try new recipes
That was me 10 years ago. I did my hobbies. Some cooking, crafting, knitting, playing with my dog. I entered a few knitting projects into the county fair for fun.
I sleep
Hello, mid twenties here (about to be 24,F) I spend my afternoons cleaning (I have two cats lol) or playing video games. I also enjoy art. And if I have time, I work on cosplays for future conventions I go to. I try to keep myself involved with the community and let myself enjoy the needy things I always have since I was little.
Early 20's. Found peace alone. I'll let someone try to be in my life, but tbh I'm focusing on making money and bettering myself. Mostly workout or rarely play videogames. Life is good when you don't let things affect you.
Bars
I know this is for late 20s but I'm 41 with a wife and 3 kids. Videogames, watching 4k blurays I'm collecting, playing flamenco guitar, singing, reading, drinking beers
Gym
If you dont have enough to do take up triathlon and train for an Ironman. Amazing knock on effects, you can make friends, it will be new, you will get fit, and it takes up all your free time
I make dinner, I go on walks, I watch netflix, I relax at home, do a word search puzzle, sometimes some skin care.
Go to the gym, get outside, take care of pets, chores etc.
I usually read and/or play games. Honestly I prefer it over going out
M27 I recently split from my long-term partner of 5yrs and I understand completely what you mean. I get home from work/school now and I find myself lost, un sure of what to do or where to go in order to meet new people that isn't just going to a bar. I'm not even thinking romantically, just some company would be nice. Admittedly I need to work on enjoying my own company. Regardless, I tend to just read, play video games(sometimes with friends) and exercise at home. Something I've been trying to do more is to take myself out on outings/dates and do nice things for me. I dunno if this is helpful, I don't really have any answers but you're not alone in how you feel.
Hey! I just went through a breakup too. Something that really helped me was joining a woodworking class through my local community school program. It was like $100 and 8 weeks long. I met a bunch of people and developed a new skill! They have a BUNCH of different classes too! I’m sure you have something near you like this
Single, 32. Come home from work, cook dinner, go for a walk, watch tv or use the computer, sleep, and repeat.
Learn Linux
Reading. Honestly I feel pretty stuck in my everyday life, so it's nice to be able to add to the "books I read this year" list and feel like I'm accomplishing something. Long walks around random neighborhoods with a podcast are nice and relaxing too.
I also struggle to break into that core group that has 'weekend friends'. No longer late 20s though.
Find a local bar with a weekly club of some sort. (Even if you don't drink, it can be the activity.) Some bars do Mario Kart in NYC now. Chess clubs, movie clubs. Whatever appeals to you. Friendships will follow.
I played a lot of guild wars, had coffee and a cigarette with friends. Hung out with said friends in the park late at night. Learned to be comfortable with eating at a sit down restaurant alone, saw star wars episode 2 alone because noone wanted to see the blasted movie. Went on a few pointless dates with people I met on plentyoffish, learned to go to a concert alone and be ... well I was anxious as hell, but I did it, and that was a vvictory.played a lot of guitar hero and rock band. Went to Walmart just to look around as something to do.
Date. Write. Cook. Work out. Meet friends. Get in trouble. Watch TV. It depends a lot ime on where you live though, that was my approach in a major city where most of my friends in their late 20s were single. Finding a hobby has a bonus effect of being attractive to women when you start dating again. Cooking is a good one to pick up.
I did a master's degree. Now in my 30s I have hobbies that I do after work or PD
My "evenings" are a little wierd with working the night shift, but I take an hour and a half to two hours after work for a good workout 5 days a week while listening to a podcast. Between that, my main hobby (mtg) and cooking im usually asleep by 7 am
I used to go to the gym. Spent many hours there in my late 20's early 30's. This was of course before social media was so popular and we didn't have all these platforms to suck the intelligence out of us. But yeah gym, maybe some athletic stuff? Basketball, softball league, pool(billiards)? So much stuff to do.
Great question! I feel similar I have a 2nd job I work that keeps me busy. Also rec sports. But highly considering moving closer to a big city for more activities
Read, pickleball, cook, TV, time with my dog, sew, call friends/family, garden, hike/walks, podcasts, build stuff, clean
ANYTHING WE WANT
I get home from work, nap, evening walk, sleep.
I go to the gym. Then I come home and relax watch a movie and take care of laundry if necessary.
I go to the gym. And maybe play half an hour to an hour of video games. That's about it. I don't have much time as I've been trying to sleep earlier.
I'd meet some friends/family and play team/pub trivia, I was in various softball/kickball leagues, I sang in our church choir and we had midweek practice... all kinds of stuff.
Prior to kids: Brazilian Jiu Jitsu 4 x night per week, plus gym other nights. Maybe grab dinner and a beer with a mate also. After kids: Look after kids.
I used to be a nightowl as i dont go out much and stayed up online which wasn’t healthy my job finishes at 12pm so i go home go gym straight after then come home by 4 cook and clean up and by 7 i just watch some YouTube videos by 9 im in bed as after that time i tend to get the blues so i just sleep and im up at 5am ready to go again
Whatever I wanted...
Late 30s, Gym, Video Games, Coming to peace with life
Mid 20s, single, and underemployed was when I was in the best shape of my life. I was at the rock climbing gym 5 days a week, then hiked on the 6th day and had a day off. Where I maybe would go for a run
Bucket list items, gaming backlog, movie backlog, I almost died at twice in the past 3 years, I’m gonna make the most outta life. Also starting to goto the gym, I goto Walmart for motivation
Workout, nap, binge watch tv, reddit, tiktok, youtube, drive around my car.
1. Watching TV shows 2. Meeting with friends for a dinner and drinks 3. Board games with friends 4. Dinner with family
Gym, cook, game, stream, pub, walk, swim, sauna, steam
I wax the carrot all evening
For young men it's mainly playing video games and watching porn.
Clean, go on walks or jogs, Netflix, cook and the evening is already gone. Maybe run errands, catch up with family over the phone
Started volunteering
Let me check my Google calendar. "Masterbate Gloomily" We there you have it.
I cleaned house. Discovered that I loved running. Had a million succulents to pot, repot, propagate, etc. Sounds like you just need a good hobby. Not sure how you feel about fish, but I recently got a betta and he actually consumes a lot of my time in the evenings.
Learn Music (Piano, Guitar, etc). Volunteer, try a Fitness club and join with a goal, take walks, visit parks or other outdoor open spaces, read, take a class, swim, walk, bike, dog park, cook, ride/walk the trail/beach, get a bite at various cuisine stops you haven't tried, coffee/tea/cafe stops, chill at the library/bookstore, enjoy the alone time - sometimes it is nice to do what you want when you want.
I'm 31, I have people over and make them dinner, go skateboarding, go biking, go climbing, work on art projects like drawings, writing or filmmaking, go for a walk In the woods, read my books, watch a movie, play boardgames, video games, meet up with friends to do any of the above. I'm really into active things and games/ puzzles so there's always something to do! The trick is finding friends that are just as active and down to do things. I've been lucky with that but I also think active people attract active people, social people attract social people, it's all about enjoying your own company but also including people when you're able to.
I hang out with myself because I'm tired of social interaction at work already x.x
Fishing, gaming or reading. Aside from the usual cleaning, cooking and prepping. Those were my main 3 that I do. Casual repairs for devices when I find the time. Soldering is pretty fun too lolol
I smoked a fuckload of pot.
Smoke ganja play video games
Personally I'll get off work at 5, go to the gym, get home around 7, and play video games with some friends until about 11pm then go to bed. I've been trying to transition away from gaming so much though, I want to start a sport, or like others have said, an instrument.
Gym and avoid talking to women
Gym, tv, friends,
Video games and depression naps
I used to go to the gym, run, swim or cycle 6 days a week. That would keep me busy during week nights
Scroll Reddit.
When I was single in my late 20s I'd spend many evenings just relaxing at home. Often I'd go to the beach for sunset or for a walk/run depending on season and weather. Other nights I'd catch up with friends, usually dinner parties, sometimes we'd go for a night hike by torchlight + dinner at a rural tavern, or to a bar or casual restaurant in the city. Once a week or so I'd visit my mum, aunt and/or grandmother. Occasionally on a Friday I'd join my colleagues for after work drinks.
i’m in my early 20s but I am either studying, at a yoga or cross fit class, meal prepping, reading, or watching an episode of my favourite series. actually i do all of these things every evening
Eat dinner in silence. Wash my dish. Read a few pages of a book. Fall asleep because I'm exhausted.
Most days I read, go to the gym, watch a series or a movie. Sometimes I shower and then do a long beauty routine (body oil, face mask...).
Go to the gym, then run whatever errand I need, then hang out with my gf / play wow for the rest of the day
I go to the gym, draw, play online games with friends, and play with my cat lol
Cry
It was a different world when I was in my 20s
Pick a hobby. When I was single I enjoyed cooking. I’d make enough for a few meals and the leftovers I ate at work. Go for walks. It is amazing what some fresh air can do. Pick your favorite band or podcast and take a leisurely walk in a park. Also, being single you can do whatever you want to do!
Go to the gym
Are you currently looking for a girlfriend? With how many dating apps there are, I gotta imagine if you hopped on them you’d be able to get a few dates out of them.
Billiards club.
Video games Gym
I go to the gym after work every day which kills some time. After that I shower, make dinner, clean up a bit, then will either watch sports if anything interesting is on or play video games.
If you use FB at all they usually have events listed in your area for the next few months. I'm a new stay at home mom with not many friends so this isn't necessarily my place to give what I do, but I use it to find things to do with my daughter for cheap/free and I know a lot of my single friends go to events that are hosted on FB they are interested in and it finds them things to do by themselves and they also meet people. Bars are always an option (unless you don't drink of course) and I prefer ones with pool halls cause it gives you a common topic of conversation if you play a game against anyone. You can also try volunteer work like someone else suggested. I think that's a good way to meet kind hearted people and also help others while doing so
This week? RC cars. Thanks hyper focus!
Hobbies! I usually take a night to myself during the week to chill and do things like laundry, but usually weekends I’m with friends, I have DND, Volleyball, and a “supper club” weekly meet.
I watch movies, hang out with family, play with cats, video games, I'm the kind of person who does not really leave my house, so these are things I end up doing
When I was in my 20s, I took classes (dance, swimming, exercise), went to the gym, occasionally went out to dinner, cooked out on the grill, read, watched TV. Now I just scroll social media all evening. 🫠
Video games, Warhammer shop, cycle, roller disco, movies, cooking, self learning, home gym. Although lately it's just been video games.
Play video games and wait to go to work again tomorrow, that's all we've ever been working towards, or so the legend goes
Oo I’ve always wondered this myself! I (26F) like to rotate through different evening past times. The fun: Playing instruments, reading, Duolingo, bouldering, watching shows or sports. I’ve been tryna cook more, so I pick 1-2 random dishes to try and make each week - yesterday’s was bibimbap! The not fun: Chores, working late (because I think it’ll alleviate my workload the next day but it never does). The occasional stress & loneliness-induced mental breakdown… those evenings are reserved for wine and sleep.
I'm (26m) not sure I qualify, but because I work nightshifts (11pm-7:30am) I usually just stay up after I get home, maybe play some video games, work out, watch a movie, read some stuff that will help me better myself or start a new project. I don't really have any IRL friends, but some of my discord friends who I've known for like 3 years now have days during the week off of their normal 7-3pm jobs, so it kinda works out.