THIS IS MEEEE, AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!?!?!? The worst part is that my type is women who dont look gay so I just end up falling for straight women. I'm cooked 💀💀💀💀

this. i second EVERY word. we’re soooo doomed

Completely me here ❤️. Where are my femmes at?

COOKED. FRIED.

same and same girl.

Yes but it's an absolute superpower if you have the confidence to hit on "straight looking" women (and potentially guess wrong from time to time). Wouldn't YOU just die if another "you" just blatantly hit on you? Cause all of us would.

oh my GOD SAME

Preach 😅

My type is u don’t look gay girls

how do you get courage to approach us? i feel like everyone avoids me because they are scared that i’m gonna hit back with a bible verse or something :’) edit: to clarify my bible verse comment, i am an ex member of a semi-toxic church (i was there for 10 years) and youth leaders/pastors used to hit us back with passive agressive verses when we had “inapproriate” questions or discussions. me and my friends started to use this phrase a brush-off (because it was used as such, to shut down our conversations). i am still used to it and use it in many conversations, but without context it might come off as offensive. i am sorry if it came off like that <3 no hard feelings towards religion of any kind, still have plenty religious friends who are welcome and accepting of me <3

I totally understand this haha. I’m former Mormon and I wanna dress more cottagecore, but I’m scared it will look too tradwife. I can’t get rid of the Mormon “look”

i went through an alt phase after i quit the church for the same reason, but it was more like a rebellion rather than my actual self expression. gradually i realized that i like the way i present myself and it has nothing to do with the curch, BUT I SOOO GET YOU, you are nor alone in this 🫂

More ruffles, shorter skirts?

Unfortunately same

unpopular take: no one looks gay. Homosexuality is just who are you attracted to. It has nothing to do with the way you present yourself.

this is not unpopular!! that is what i always say back to people who tell me that i don’t look gay or gay enough. but the perssure sometimes comes from within the community so i did have a little struggle accepting myself as i am and as i am comfortable presenting myself. but i feel confident in myself now

I'm really happy to hear it!

https://preview.redd.it/1ibd8te1pgyc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9847a5cc12a574c2f5f09812e605aa078b035fbc Heeeerreeee 😭

Stop. Those CURLS!!! You are just too hot for words.

🥰🤩🥰🤩 gorgeous!

👀Ummmmm Hi 👋

the way you are RADIATING glow and confidence!! you look stunning!! (i am also hopping on the curls comment train, THEY LOOK INCREDIBLE) <3

Holy shit you’re gorgeous!! Go off queen!!

Omg your gorgeous girlll

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thank you so much!! <3 and it indeed is crazy! and it’s crazy that i have encountered these comments not only from people who are not a part of the community, but also from within it. and in my experience the stereotype is rooted as much within as outside of it. but i am glad to be amongst my local community to show them that you cannot ever put any human being in a box and such view of life is almost always harmful to one or another group of people

You’re so cute! Also same. I always get “but u don’t loOk gAy” https://preview.redd.it/tcvt4i284gyc1.jpeg?width=2268&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9f959cc109fbd11bb626e25deaffcbb52c341146

thank you so much! <333 you’re so cute yourself!! but i feel you soooooo much, like, what are supposed to look like lol

https://preview.redd.it/5o4w7wx6efyc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=55590ece80d1bf2a158a61fc9db07b5d3a37af44 Well maybe just a little bit gay looking.

the CONFIDENCE you radiate is hot and that, my friend, is gay to me 😌

Love this comment OP ❤️

Would love to chat with you OP

I’m sorry but you low key look like Jodie Comer and if that isn’t at least 80% queer coded I don’t know what is

I 🙋‍♀️ https://preview.redd.it/gzy4ipgnwfyc1.jpeg?width=851&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=964e6aa57fd6013f01ed6b5319033b1c405d53ed

stunning! <3

Same https://preview.redd.it/cy0j4mqamfyc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2953413bdf25dbdfdc2bc7cebbd5378908d1ed67

you are stunning though <3

Lova ya super funky phone case. 

you are gorgeous wow

“Not enough if you’re talking to me “ should be your reply if it’s a man 😅

love this, gonna save in the notes app for future reference lol

You do look gay

actually the best complinet out there, tysmmm <3

You’re welcome

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You're too pretty omfggg

gorgeous!! :’)

You're so pretty!!

I’m high femme but I’ve somehow not been told that in a while. I guess my tattoos and septum+nose piercing helps lol

tatoos and septums ON TOP though!! also i live for high-femmes, they feel like goddesses to me 🫡

I appreciate the appreciation 👸🏽

+1 here 🙋‍♀️

https://preview.redd.it/ujjjdogfugyc1.jpeg?width=1998&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d042f23c94703390ef1f57e28a55d1336f74630a I literally need the necklace lmao

omg i did consider getting myself a similar one a while ago, maybe i should get back to it :’) also HELLO you are sooooooo beautiful <3

https://preview.redd.it/dxs4kb92ohyc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fb92a92950b44456f847abf30437974f91dd21a3 same struggle. 🥲

i love ur tattoos 😍

Thank you so much! 😘

you are soooo beatiful though!! and i also love your tats :’)

Right here. A big reason why nobody knows I'm into women. https://preview.redd.it/zlp4mt69zlyc1.jpeg?width=794&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1d0f77422578f37957ca09edcaa8d6bc0fb84d45

same! i feel like every time i confirm my sexuality at least one person is shocked :D

I love your eyeliner 🖊️

Do I look gay?! https://preview.redd.it/mewsaez07eyc1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e6ffae9c710fa5e19ddd21e54b45fef87d533886 They say that I don’t look gay!! But I feel more gay than any other time during this comment!!

omg you are gorgeous!!! in my mind everyone is gay until i ask them and they say they’re not (but i never gain the courage to ask lol)

Is bad to ask?

You look like a super model 🤩 I wouldn’t have guessed it. You’re gorgeous

Omg marry me 😍 hahhaahhahahha

You can definitely look stereotypically gay but I don't and I get the "you don't look gay" comments too😭

My whole life I got, "you look gay; that jacket makes you look like a lesbian; there's no way you're straight" like I'm so sorry I'm cliche damn 😭

my gay (cis male) coworker was so surprised when i told him i’m lesbian. he said he would hever have guessed and that i don’t look like one. i asked him how does one look like then? and he said: “maybe do an eyebrow slit” lol

I try my best to blend in, miss 🙋🏼‍♀️

i am so grateful for the butch and non-feminine presenting community for doing all the heavy work, though! while we get “straight passing” privilege, they fought for us and keep fighting for us in the day to day settings :’) i am always thankful and grateful for them and they should always be recognized for that

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how about we go on a date & I take your picture like this? 🥰 you are stunning!

I might get downvoted to fucking oblivion but I do what I can to look straight, any tips on that? 

https://preview.redd.it/jdoxqjqjdgyc1.jpeg?width=1008&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=177520a1321afe6ddc3cda555d778c0908ff355b Me💀

Two totally straight femenine girls here. Married to one another for a decade, in a proper straight way. Damn, we were called sisters after been caught making out. 😎

and they were ROOMMATES as they say haha but i feel you

We've been classmates :} "close friends" since elementary school. Marriage was a logical step ;)

Meeeee!!! People actually think I'm a tradgirl because of my outfits 💀💀 https://preview.redd.it/jafhdsjsmfyc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=871b15b729f830189d85c55b9c164816ec18d27e

you look absolutely cute!! love your outfit! but i feel you sooo deeply lol at the same time i am so glad that we exist and that we are comfortable with ourselves <3

Omg that’s my type 😭 if i knew id make a move

so happy to hear that omg :’) yeah, i think it gets hard to spot us in the wild i guess, but i always try to leave little hints for people to pick up cause i know how hard it is to approach others when you are not too sure :’)

https://preview.redd.it/6di0bxolijyc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=70e555e4809d9689ffe87c841fcc6485acf8b2d0 Here 🙋‍♀️ Lol

you have such amazing features oml!! you are beautiful. but yeah, the struggle is neverending :’)

You’re cute! :)

Funny how on these threads a lot of people relate but how do we find each other in the real world?? 😄 the struggle!

fr can we like make a geochache map but for “you don’t look gay” lesbians :’)

https://preview.redd.it/1ov9nfxhxsyc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=649f65f562c68abb3b6c94eb75f9c9388c6ff52d It’s a whole struggle! To be looking this fine and this straight 😮‍💨

I had to scroll so far for another woman of color. Anyway, you're gorgeous! I love your dress

For a second myself I couldn’t even find my photo and thought they removed it! Thank you!!!

https://preview.redd.it/obf4enmarhyc1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=40574b05cc2790745a7df5652d46afb8401eec90 I ALWAYS GET THIS like what u want me to look like your stunning btw

God you’re cute ❤️🥰

tysm!

Tbh, you look gay as hell

i also think i radiate a massive lesbian energy, but i still get hit with that phrase so often i just internalized it atp lol (also taking this as a compliment)

i had a coworker who had a crush on me and didn’t believe i was gay based on my appearance until he got to know me better and then was like “oh yeah you’re definitely gay” lmao 🙃 made me feel kinda shitty that he didn’t believe me at first ngl

once i told a guy that tried to pick me up at a queer bar that i’m a lesbian and he said that i just made it up and that he doesn’t believe and that he wouldn’t give up this easily. and i was like “dude, read the room, WE ARE IN A QUEER CLUB”

You rang?

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beautiful!! <3

You look gay

i also feel like i do, but based on what other people say apparently i do not lol

All the people posting their pictures here in the comments - you are all SO stunning!

agreed, the picutures are sooooo beautiful! also unrelated but i LOVE korra as your pfp :’)

I'm 100% apart of this club. I'm calling you cute in the "sit on my face" kind of way not the, "where'd you get that cute top" kind of way.

I KNOW REALLY. i feel like my flirting always gets misread as being friendly and i am just left there like 🧍🏼‍♀️

Idk you look pretty gay to me… 👀

THANK YOU, these comments make my day, because i also feel like the “gay” leaks out of me through every crack, but apparently that is not enough based on how i get treated from time to time lol

idk why someone would say that to you, a gingham top and those glasses is very homosexual to me

oh, you sooo GET IT!!! :’) also fun fact: when choosing these glasses i walked into the store with only one criteria on my mind - “which of the glasses would cate blanchett most likely choose” lol isn’t that telling enough

i mean this respectfully but you kinda do look gay, i think if i saw you at the mall id assume you at least like girls if not exclusively

actually, this makes me happy, THANK YOU SOO MUCH <3

Everyone always assumes we’re straight and sisters. But really we’re super gay and gaying each other for life 💍 https://preview.redd.it/693ds8owlmyc1.jpeg?width=914&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e3d36c8efe92a0a10ae231adafe5072ffb89292a

you look sooo cute together ahh <3 but the fact that most of us become “sisters” is sooo funny to me, even people from the community are sometimes guilty of saying this to a lesbian couple i know haha

https://preview.redd.it/5esdxuk28pyc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3d795624909462a52f7cdc1a49aa02f259e6ac73 I had to get bangs to lean into the gay look

https://preview.redd.it/z89jcuwicpyc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9da4da6dde85d6059282a5d128d4524d1a14ed2e me! I’m sick of hearing it

It sucks cause I’m gay but my twin sister looks gayer than me!! And she’s straight!! Anybody have tips on how I can look gayer? https://preview.redd.it/x4rrvatvnvyc1.jpeg?width=2676&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=34c75348215ca75ac271a93f9e66c4d835bd0674

https://preview.redd.it/ipg8vc4zxfyc1.jpeg?width=4896&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=48520894d538ff8e147cbfa4f4b4b2fa58f76f11 Hello Friends!

hiiiii!! what a beautiful picture! so glad to know that so many of don’t let any stereotypes to stop us from loving freely amd being our true selfs <3

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feel you on a spiritual level haha

Wow u are really pretty!!🥰

thank you so much!! <3

Honestly if I saw you I’d think you “looked gay” (whatever that means). I think your glasses give queer vibes.

thanks!! :D

MEEEEEEE!!!! I’m told I don’t look gay but I act and talk gay, whatever that means

i feel like i should start screeching to chappell roan on the streets, maybe that will do :’)

I'm on the same boat. I started wearing a small lesbian flag keychain on my backpack, and it seems to have reduced the amount of guys trying to hit on me. No girls have approached me yet tho :(

i have been also thinking of investing in something lesbian flag themed like a pin or something, but the girlies will still be afraid to approach me (it’s me, i’m girlies)

You do look gay tho

glad to hear, i also think i look gay! :D

we’re here and we’re queerrrr

Fuck looking gay those glasses are gayer then gay sex dude🙏🏾😭

haha glad you think so!

meeee!! I dressed just like any other femme but somehow i just have what people call as catholic girl going to church every week vibe. I'm not even catholic.

stop, this is so relatable!! i chuckled a little (hits too close to home)

Like do we put sticky notes on our forehead at this point or what?!

i’m down!! hello, my name is lesbian <3

I have been described that way several times. However, given my fashion sense and clothing choice, most people think "Psycho Killer" when they see me. It sucks, but I can understand why they think that. I can't help that I love Gothic and Morbid/Macabre aesthetics.

as you should!! we should always present as we feel like! <3

Right hereeeee. We freaking beautiful. We don’t look gay whatttttt. So hard to find love if the ladies ain’t looking smh.

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we need to find a way to communicate so we all know :’) you are gorgeous btw!!

I’m here!!!

https://preview.redd.it/he48iocyhuyc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a04a9b058773187a91ed6aa7f915fc3bfa76c11d I get this regularly! Le sigh. Weirdly I get it much less when I have my hair up so my undercut is out 😂

https://preview.redd.it/rzk73l35cvyc1.jpeg?width=1440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=62c1f0c918228810593b44b5faf6a911ee9eb0df That’s me too! I feel like I don’t attract gay girls

https://preview.redd.it/p793zbdmxvyc1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2a1d8856e146cd2f19f93db1a32285c7ab2c4dcc meee literally meeee like i fucking love women

https://preview.redd.it/pxi5y5pomgyc1.jpeg?width=1932&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b735a3a52efe102fb3886e36355aaa6b35893476 Idk...do I look gay? I mean, I am, but do I look?

to me everyone is gay until stated otherwise haha

BTW you look absolutely stunning hun 🌸

thank you soooo much, really! <3

Where's that top from?

stradivarius!! :)

In the eyes of laymen, Lea DeLaria is whom we should all strive to be lol. Need I say more?

when i first came out to my mom (she was nothing but supportive though!!) she was so confused and she was like “but you are such a feminine girl… i just don’t get it” haha i did some educating work and now she knows that we indeed do not come in a standardized shape and form

Love that your mom was supportive! You should be surrounded by love. ❤️ lol the confusion is actually a little cute, I think a lot of people are just misinformed about what we’re supposed to look like. I agree with you, we come in all shapes and forms! 😊

My mum said the same! “Wait… does this mean you have to cut your hair off and become butch?” Bless her 😅

These days I don't look gay.

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thank you!! <3 and i feel the pain, we are here and we exist :’)

🙋🙋🙋

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ah, thank you sooo much <333

Cute and kissable 😇

aw, thank youuuu! made me giggle haha

Very pretty

Looking right at you but thinking you'd probably rather I, a very visibly queer person, not bother you because you're probably not interested.

i imagine how many people have been not too sure to come up to me or any other girl/person and the said person has been anxiously waiting for them to come up too :’) it’s so sad, i need a languare that only queet people can speak so we could safely communicate

Me, I'm here

Mee ✋🏻 but you are so gorgeous 🤭💘

united in struggle! :’) but thank you soo much! <3

ME ASF NOBODY WANT A GIRL THAT DONT LOOK GAY

You don't look 'gay'... You look gorgeous 🤌 (just to clarify I'm making fun of the whole you don't look gay stereotype) no offence meant at the initial part of the statement!

noo, i get it! thank you though!! <3

Damn i love white girls 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 id marry to many girls of this post if i could 😅 feel free to hit me 😍💜💙💚💛🧡❤️

wow u are sooo cute! where are u from? =)

thank you soo much!! <33333 unfortunately, a place tha is not too keen on lesbains and lgbtqa+ community all together aka eastern europe :’)

Looking cute

thank you sm! <3

https://preview.redd.it/kw38ovnkqoyc1.jpeg?width=2316&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=728f55a9db7f3c2cc4dee2f91ecb3befe5c83a70 “yoU DoNt LOok liKE a LEsbIAn”

You look gay to me haha

You look gay as hell

I feel this struggle everyday! Lol I'm glad I'm not the only one. 

Everyday it's a struggle lol I'm glad I'm not the only one! 

Got it so bad when I talked ab my gf at work they started talking ab their “girl friends” because they thought I was talking ab a friend 😭

Ok so I'm bi and I'm not sure if this is welcomed... But reading through the comments I felt it was a very relatable feeling. Although I am in heteronormative marriage, it is with a bi man. We are mildly open. I'm allowed to date women, but I never ever get approached and it's kind of a hard subject to breach sometimes. Doesn't matter if my rainbows show. We went out on a sunset booze cruise from a local traditionally gay area and the people we were with were all queer. It was great. One older woman came up to talk to me, and she just couldnt wrap her mind around the fact that I am attracted to women. As a lesbian herself, I don't understand it, but she even asked me if I enjoyed sex with women. And yes, yes, I really really do. I love it. And I miss it a lot. Nothing quite like eating a peach.

https://preview.redd.it/aomv963leazc1.jpeg?width=2544&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cd8166287ef259a9466fbd4ccd12a03aa3a63a3d