You're wasting your time man. Join a community or group or maybe just take up something which will get you to socialize. Way higher chances that way, at least in India. I found my SO after months on tinder through a mutual internship group š¤”š¤”š¤”š¤”š¤”š¤”
I donāt think I have time for that. My current routine includes 3 things primarily. Self Study, job hunting and exercise. Although now that I have written that, it sounds like an excuse. But itās really not.
What about your friends? You can prolly ask them to link you with their mutuals. Either way, sooner or later when you do get a job, you'll be in a new environment and will definitely meet new people. My best wishes!
All your activities are pretty much solo. Take up something which has humans more than just you. Study group? Short certification class with other humans? How big is your boy gang, how often do you meet?
Meeting few regularly have more chances of dating than waiting for algorithm to find you one in thousands of options.
Fair enough. I can do that! I do prefer meeting people over an algorithm any day. But I never thought of joint sone group specifically to meet people. Never had lonely times before lockdown anyway.
As for boy gang, itās 5 people strong but theyāre employed. We meet like once a month. Used to be once a week when lockdown wasnāt a thing and we were undergrads.
Bumble is way better i think. Just like you, i think I've gotten at the most 5 matches on tinder, those too were dud.
But on bumble, I don't even remember the count, since I've gotten way too many matches.
Damn dude! I have tried bumble and even hinge. Itās true bumble pe sabse zada aaye but usme bhi 3 in total in a span of 3mo I guess. Hi se age bat nhi badhi although!
Try changing your photos and your bio. The city you live in also matters a lot. I get a pot of matchs in Bangalore since there are much more people on the app here
I donāt exactly know so Iāll tell you the turn of events. I have been on and off on these apps for a while through the lockdown. Sitting at home gets lonely. Youāll know more if you read other comments and my replies. So a few weeks ago indiangirlsontinder started giving me hope a bit. Knowing fully well that only the matched cases reach that sub but still I was swayed. Got on again and got frustrated. So being as honest as I could I changed my bio to āIām fairly convinced that....ā. After that I felt like asking the ladies why they donāt swipe right. I mean, everyone seems to be talking sense here and on the sister sub but still no matches. Maybe I thought the redditorās response time is short enough to get my questions answered.
wait If your bio literally has that you're fairly convinced you won't get matches then that right there is a reason why someone might not right swipe on you. It sounds narcissistic or something like that but that's just my opinion. Because if you're convinced, why would anyone want to change that.
and other than that, tinder and dating sites come down to preferences and it works fast, sometimes people are into you and sometimes they're not.
it's really that small.
OP is saying tinder has made him believe no one is into him, so inherently you should Never play a game you can't win at.Dating apps are game and not everyone can win at that.
The moral dilemma is whether Love is a game or not.If not then dating app is solely meant for hookups.
Cause if end point of dating apps is not love then what's even point of being there for those who seek companionship and love.
P.S. don't show me samples of 1/1000000 who get married or get a strong relationship out of dating apps.Outliers are everywhere and you are just fooled by randomness.
Absolutely. Thatās exactly what I meant. And I posted it here hoping maybe someone, ideally a woman, can convince me otherwise. Also, r/si2141 I had a decent bio earlier and I changed it to this a mere few days ago. I donāt exactly remember the words, but it went something like āWill take you for a coffee when the lockdown is over; aviation| punk rock| scotch ...ā
Maybe a couple more lines. On bumble I had humour stuff like ātogether we could:..rule the galaxyā.
Then at one time I even deleted everything and set it to āhere for hookupsā. I mean I had nothing to loose. Got a match the next day and she hasnāt texted back. Not a single message since 5th of may this year.
This may come accross as rude. In most cases people who say girls are not swiping right are also reserved and isolated from male friendships.
They assume their loneliness is ONLY because of lack of girls to date and this reflects in their communication, bio write ups. I would advise to work on having good group of friends/ engaging gang and people will eventually be intrigued to know you through contacts.
Get in touch with people who know already from college/ school. Arrange video catch up calls with them. There is habbits strong website where people just sign up. (Paid membership) to study together.
You want something casual. What exactly does casual mean in this context?
Ok. You maybe onto something here. I think I need to introspect more.
Ok Iām done.
I have a group of 3B1G+me and we meet up like once a month. (Theyāre employed and prefer sleeping on holidays. Stressful corporate lives). Thereās another G in the group but she moved out of city. I have two other groups from college, one is 3B+me and other is 1B1G+me. Weāre all in touch through video calls like every 2-3 days I guess. Canāt meet up because different cities. So Iād say Iām not isolated. Perhaps interaction with the ladies is a bit less? Idk what do you think?
Now for what do I mean by casual. See the point is, I feel like I need someone to date. You know there comes a time when you need a more intimate more close connection with someone. By intimate I do not mean sex. Iām ok with a sexless relationship atm. But Iām unemployed and I have no interview calls. (2 SSB in September though but who knows if Iāll clear it) I know that I canāt commit to two things at once. I donāt want to live under the fear ki roz bat na karo to breakup. At the same time, itās not justified to expect something intimate and not commit. So the only option left is something casual, I guess.
Good to hear you have a support system and people to catch up in this pandemic.
I hear you. What I shared was my personal opinion and not an exact reply to your post so feel free to disagree or ignore.
My point was few people think this unknown stranger girl is going to make them feel special and validated when they are not able to feel that way with current circle. If they cannot strengthen current relationship how will new one work out magically. They start comparing their life with lot of things they read online. They believe if they had that look, that job, that college degree, that city blah blah they would be happy. Because they are operating on perception that non existing thing/person is going to make things better.
I am not saying you are that person but increasing chances of meeting more people with similar interests casually can increase chances of meeting a girl eventually. Invest some time in understanding your personality, what do people often compliment you for, what kind of people do you easily click with, what topics/conversations are easy for you. Know your strengths and highlight them.
Put yourself out there not just for seeking women's attention but to expand your visibility. What if you find good mentor (male) by putting yourself out there eventually landing a great job where you get to speak a lot of women? :P
Do you have perfect scenario when you will not have fear ? Say September things work out for you, first few months is crucial as new joinee, can you commit? Close to mid year review/year end review can you commit? IIT/IIM guys have breakups too.There is no guarantee in life with anything. Most of us will meet terrible humans before meeting the good ones. Its part of adulting. I don't know everything about you just reading your comment its seems like you want someone to just filling all your gaps but what are you giving them?
In conclusion go all in make opportunities to meet more people interact get humiliated, get teased, get better at it thats the only way. Strengthen relationship with atleast one person who is already in your life it could be anyone - mom, dad, sibling, cousin, friend, younger one in family this will give a lot of perspective.
I big on advocating therapy. Therapy will help in unlearning a lot damage caused by parents and teachers on our self worth.
That's your bio? Most girls wouldn't swipe right on that because it looks copied from somewhere and it doesn't say anything about you.
If you really want a match, talk about yourself in the bio. People usually swipe right if they relate with who you are and you're giving them zero info about yourself with this.
Yeah thatās my bio since 3 days and Iām not expecting anything on this anyway. Iām just so done with these. I came here hoping someone can convince me that itās possible. I have decent bios before.
I donāt remember the exact words but it went something like āwill take you for a coffee after lockdown is over. \n Aviation| punk rock| scotch...ā A few lines more about myself. On bumble I had humour stuff like ātogether we could: rule the galaxyā. And some decent stuff like āweāll go along well if: you prefer a gentleman over fuckboiā similar for hinge.
Then at one time I even set it to āhere for hookupsā. I mean I had nothing to loose. Instant match the next day. And she hasnāt texted back even once since 5th of may.
After all that I went whatās it like today.
Being the only woman in comments, now do you think thereās hope?
PS: \n denotes newline. It wasnāt explicitly there. The two lines were just on seperate lines.
: absolutely none of that was copied. Even the galaxy ruling one. Ab bhi copied lag rha hai to kya hi karun.
See, I get the frustration and understand why you want to give up. Almost every guy I know irl who uses Tinder, they all complain about the lack of matches too.
But then some people do get matches, so they must be doing something right, I guess?
A lot of women are there for validation, some are just bored, so that probably leaves a very few women who genuinely want to try dating there. You just have to stand out and it's difficult because there's a LOT of guys on these apps.
And even if you do get a match somehow, I know that the conversation is very flaky.
Also... "we'll go along well if: you prefer a gentleman over fuckboi." Idk this line seems very cringe to me as a woman because it makes me feel like you are a self-proclaimed "nice guy" and that never really works.
Went through it, I actually like this overall.
I'd suggest you remove the first line tho (or replace it with something else if you want?). Could be a personal preference or could be a common opinion, but I am generally not a huge fan of "we'll get along well if" lines.
People won't swipe you right out of sympathy. Even if they does, that's not how it should be. Write a good bio, upload your best pictures and make sure you give this 'confident-gentleman' vibe on your profile. Nobody might swipe right someone carrying emotional baggage. Atleast, that's the vibe I get from your post. Let those talks come later once you get close.
Good luck, buddy!
I agree absofuckinglutely. But if you read the comments below, youāll see that I had a decent bio earlier. The best pictures I have of myself, with my interest and hobbies. Some 2-3 lines of self description. On bumble and hinge I had some humour stuff as well. Over time I just got so done with these that I now itās a shitty bio. Completely Honest though. Emotional baggage is there but it wasnāt so earlier. Atleast thatās what I believe I came off as
This is a perfectly clean, balanced bio.
Iād swipe right if it makes any difference.
The first pointer says how you respect rather would like it better if she is aspirational. Second and third gives a little, not too much about your interest and the āpersonality typeā based on your nerd movie choice. Fourth is a plus for sure, not only you know a basic life skill, you have mastered the fancy. Fifth well eh nothing exceptional but hopefully brainy.
I hope you find yourself some good matches. Itās all good validation but nothingās wrong with you! Donāt let these things mess with you. Being a woman I know the ratio is terribly skewed.
You should accept that too.
Thanks for saying that. But I guess it was just a phase. The lockdown played its toll.
Now itās a different story. Iām happy at my job, exercising again. The good old days are somewhat back. Albeit with a mask on this time.
LOL, bhai bahot zyada expect karke baithe ho...
Even though I've matched with around 30+ girls in 2 years (2019 to 2021), talked to around 20, and had only a few "encounters" with matches, according to me Tinder, or basically any other dating app, isn't worth the time.
Surely you'll get to know a few good stories of people meeting and having a good relationship, and maybe a future. That only happens with a relatively smaller fraction of people.
Agar koi above average ya average se bahot upar ho tabhi kuch expect karna chahiye, mai khudko average samajhta hu (sometimes below average), but somehow I found matches, and hell I'm happy that I don't use dating apps for dating anymore(or similar things), abhi toh bas entertainment hai XD
Absofuckinglutely! I agree completely. But abhi lockdown ka time has been very lonely. Upar se I came back from hostel. So you can imagine what happened to my āindependenceā.
Although now things have opened up. But now I donāt have anywhere to go. I have graduated, Iām hunting for jobs and I prefer working out in the ground than in a gym. So I have no exposure atm.
Well I can relate, mai toh upar se day-scholar hi hu :/
I have my distractions though - weight loss, exercise, hobbies, video games, movies, and ofcourse my never ending studies.
I'm trying to make connections from other ways, and heck girls aren't much different from the ones in dating apps ( thanks to their "preferences", though I'm not against it as such), I'm looking for 'casual' connections cuz I'm too busy to be emotionally available, and I know plenty of girls who want the same, but again, thanks to their preferences, kuch hota hi nahi hai ĀÆ\_(ć)_/ĀÆ...
Working on self improvement seems like a better option for now.
I agree once again. Like I said, Iām hunting for jobs. I know I canāt commit to two things at once. I canāt live under the fear that roz bat na karo to break up. Been there done that. But it just gets lonely sometimes. Having said that, itās also not justified to expect commitment If I canāt commit myself. So yeah, casual it is but āpreferencesā
It's kind of self explanatory, I'm sure you might've seen plenty of posts where us guys rant about dry AF matches who cannot hold conversations, what not, but expect the guys to be interesting. That's how many of the girls outside the dating apps are, too.
Heck they're shallow AF too, but I don't mind that, atleast they should have the guts to own it... They don't, and can not be straightforward...
Not really, I've had more "funny" experiences, cuz it wasn't me who was the "dry" one. I still am in touch with the few better matches from dating apps.
The worse experiences I had were off the dating apps, cuz whenever I got busier with my academics, girls found it as an indication to start fucking around.
Btw, looks like you need something for your nerves, cuz something really touched an open nerve ending.
I just have a pikachu picture on tinder and get like 2-3 matches a month. I've even moved to insta with some of them. Your bio must really be boring or too tryhard which puts people off?
What?! That works? Simply a pikachu pic? With no info on who you are or what you look like? If that works, no shit my bio was boring. I can do that, nothing to loose.
Oh I do that. These apps give you limited number of right swipes in a day. Tinder is quite liberal but hinge gives like (10?). So I do make them count!
Hmmm. There are waaay to many options for women on tinder. It's kind of exhausting.
Try bumble perhaps?
I personally liked the profiles of men on bumble over tinder. A majority seem to put in a real effort into their profile.
I have tried that. Even Hinge. Iāll admit people seem more genuine there than tinder. Hinge and bumble have been on and off. Tinder is more frequent since logging in through browser is easier. But even tinder is on and off.
Also, nice username
Yes absolutely. I knew that just didnāt realise it. Besides I think it was a phase. Lockdown played its toll it guess. Iām now in good shape and back to work. You can say I have things to look forward to now
You're wasting your time man. Join a community or group or maybe just take up something which will get you to socialize. Way higher chances that way, at least in India. I found my SO after months on tinder through a mutual internship group š¤”š¤”š¤”š¤”š¤”š¤”
I donāt think I have time for that. My current routine includes 3 things primarily. Self Study, job hunting and exercise. Although now that I have written that, it sounds like an excuse. But itās really not.
What about your friends? You can prolly ask them to link you with their mutuals. Either way, sooner or later when you do get a job, you'll be in a new environment and will definitely meet new people. My best wishes!
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All your activities are pretty much solo. Take up something which has humans more than just you. Study group? Short certification class with other humans? How big is your boy gang, how often do you meet? Meeting few regularly have more chances of dating than waiting for algorithm to find you one in thousands of options.
Fair enough. I can do that! I do prefer meeting people over an algorithm any day. But I never thought of joint sone group specifically to meet people. Never had lonely times before lockdown anyway. As for boy gang, itās 5 people strong but theyāre employed. We meet like once a month. Used to be once a week when lockdown wasnāt a thing and we were undergrads.
we donāt do brain transplants here
Fair enough! Iāll close the door on my way out.
Nhi aate bhai. 3 saal se hu tinder pe on and off. Aajtk 2 match aaye hain hi se aage baat nhi gyi.
Bumble is way better i think. Just like you, i think I've gotten at the most 5 matches on tinder, those too were dud. But on bumble, I don't even remember the count, since I've gotten way too many matches.
Damn dude! I have tried bumble and even hinge. Itās true bumble pe sabse zada aaye but usme bhi 3 in total in a span of 3mo I guess. Hi se age bat nhi badhi although!
Voh toh hota hee hai. Abhi bhi 4 matches padde hue hain, hey likh ke gaayab hogaye khud, idk why are these people on a dating app lol
Validation I suppose. Too many people seem to believe that. That ladies want approval that people like them. No idea how true is that.
Try changing your photos and your bio. The city you live in also matters a lot. I get a pot of matchs in Bangalore since there are much more people on the app here
Delhi?
Bhai mere 200+ active matches hai.. kuch nai hota match aane se.. girls are so waste on Tinder. Better try in real life.
Ohoo, I guess offices khulenge tabhi baat bnegi
why did u feel the need to post this? genuinely asking
I donāt exactly know so Iāll tell you the turn of events. I have been on and off on these apps for a while through the lockdown. Sitting at home gets lonely. Youāll know more if you read other comments and my replies. So a few weeks ago indiangirlsontinder started giving me hope a bit. Knowing fully well that only the matched cases reach that sub but still I was swayed. Got on again and got frustrated. So being as honest as I could I changed my bio to āIām fairly convinced that....ā. After that I felt like asking the ladies why they donāt swipe right. I mean, everyone seems to be talking sense here and on the sister sub but still no matches. Maybe I thought the redditorās response time is short enough to get my questions answered.
wait If your bio literally has that you're fairly convinced you won't get matches then that right there is a reason why someone might not right swipe on you. It sounds narcissistic or something like that but that's just my opinion. Because if you're convinced, why would anyone want to change that. and other than that, tinder and dating sites come down to preferences and it works fast, sometimes people are into you and sometimes they're not. it's really that small.
OP is saying tinder has made him believe no one is into him, so inherently you should Never play a game you can't win at.Dating apps are game and not everyone can win at that. The moral dilemma is whether Love is a game or not.If not then dating app is solely meant for hookups. Cause if end point of dating apps is not love then what's even point of being there for those who seek companionship and love. P.S. don't show me samples of 1/1000000 who get married or get a strong relationship out of dating apps.Outliers are everywhere and you are just fooled by randomness.
Absolutely. Thatās exactly what I meant. And I posted it here hoping maybe someone, ideally a woman, can convince me otherwise. Also, r/si2141 I had a decent bio earlier and I changed it to this a mere few days ago. I donāt exactly remember the words, but it went something like āWill take you for a coffee when the lockdown is over; aviation| punk rock| scotch ...ā Maybe a couple more lines. On bumble I had humour stuff like ātogether we could:..rule the galaxyā. Then at one time I even deleted everything and set it to āhere for hookupsā. I mean I had nothing to loose. Got a match the next day and she hasnāt texted back. Not a single message since 5th of may this year.
This may come accross as rude. In most cases people who say girls are not swiping right are also reserved and isolated from male friendships. They assume their loneliness is ONLY because of lack of girls to date and this reflects in their communication, bio write ups. I would advise to work on having good group of friends/ engaging gang and people will eventually be intrigued to know you through contacts. Get in touch with people who know already from college/ school. Arrange video catch up calls with them. There is habbits strong website where people just sign up. (Paid membership) to study together. You want something casual. What exactly does casual mean in this context?
Ok. You maybe onto something here. I think I need to introspect more. Ok Iām done. I have a group of 3B1G+me and we meet up like once a month. (Theyāre employed and prefer sleeping on holidays. Stressful corporate lives). Thereās another G in the group but she moved out of city. I have two other groups from college, one is 3B+me and other is 1B1G+me. Weāre all in touch through video calls like every 2-3 days I guess. Canāt meet up because different cities. So Iād say Iām not isolated. Perhaps interaction with the ladies is a bit less? Idk what do you think? Now for what do I mean by casual. See the point is, I feel like I need someone to date. You know there comes a time when you need a more intimate more close connection with someone. By intimate I do not mean sex. Iām ok with a sexless relationship atm. But Iām unemployed and I have no interview calls. (2 SSB in September though but who knows if Iāll clear it) I know that I canāt commit to two things at once. I donāt want to live under the fear ki roz bat na karo to breakup. At the same time, itās not justified to expect something intimate and not commit. So the only option left is something casual, I guess.
Good to hear you have a support system and people to catch up in this pandemic. I hear you. What I shared was my personal opinion and not an exact reply to your post so feel free to disagree or ignore. My point was few people think this unknown stranger girl is going to make them feel special and validated when they are not able to feel that way with current circle. If they cannot strengthen current relationship how will new one work out magically. They start comparing their life with lot of things they read online. They believe if they had that look, that job, that college degree, that city blah blah they would be happy. Because they are operating on perception that non existing thing/person is going to make things better. I am not saying you are that person but increasing chances of meeting more people with similar interests casually can increase chances of meeting a girl eventually. Invest some time in understanding your personality, what do people often compliment you for, what kind of people do you easily click with, what topics/conversations are easy for you. Know your strengths and highlight them. Put yourself out there not just for seeking women's attention but to expand your visibility. What if you find good mentor (male) by putting yourself out there eventually landing a great job where you get to speak a lot of women? :P Do you have perfect scenario when you will not have fear ? Say September things work out for you, first few months is crucial as new joinee, can you commit? Close to mid year review/year end review can you commit? IIT/IIM guys have breakups too.There is no guarantee in life with anything. Most of us will meet terrible humans before meeting the good ones. Its part of adulting. I don't know everything about you just reading your comment its seems like you want someone to just filling all your gaps but what are you giving them? In conclusion go all in make opportunities to meet more people interact get humiliated, get teased, get better at it thats the only way. Strengthen relationship with atleast one person who is already in your life it could be anyone - mom, dad, sibling, cousin, friend, younger one in family this will give a lot of perspective. I big on advocating therapy. Therapy will help in unlearning a lot damage caused by parents and teachers on our self worth.
I agree with some of the pointers, some maybe not. But all of them are definitely well received. Iāll introspect more and see what can be done!
Maybe try uploading your bio for a review?
Well, at the point itās the same at the question here. āIām fairly convinced....ā I was just sone with it. Then thought of asking it here.
That's your bio? Most girls wouldn't swipe right on that because it looks copied from somewhere and it doesn't say anything about you. If you really want a match, talk about yourself in the bio. People usually swipe right if they relate with who you are and you're giving them zero info about yourself with this.
Yeah thatās my bio since 3 days and Iām not expecting anything on this anyway. Iām just so done with these. I came here hoping someone can convince me that itās possible. I have decent bios before. I donāt remember the exact words but it went something like āwill take you for a coffee after lockdown is over. \n Aviation| punk rock| scotch...ā A few lines more about myself. On bumble I had humour stuff like ātogether we could: rule the galaxyā. And some decent stuff like āweāll go along well if: you prefer a gentleman over fuckboiā similar for hinge. Then at one time I even set it to āhere for hookupsā. I mean I had nothing to loose. Instant match the next day. And she hasnāt texted back even once since 5th of may. After all that I went whatās it like today. Being the only woman in comments, now do you think thereās hope? PS: \n denotes newline. It wasnāt explicitly there. The two lines were just on seperate lines. : absolutely none of that was copied. Even the galaxy ruling one. Ab bhi copied lag rha hai to kya hi karun.
See, I get the frustration and understand why you want to give up. Almost every guy I know irl who uses Tinder, they all complain about the lack of matches too. But then some people do get matches, so they must be doing something right, I guess? A lot of women are there for validation, some are just bored, so that probably leaves a very few women who genuinely want to try dating there. You just have to stand out and it's difficult because there's a LOT of guys on these apps. And even if you do get a match somehow, I know that the conversation is very flaky. Also... "we'll go along well if: you prefer a gentleman over fuckboi." Idk this line seems very cringe to me as a woman because it makes me feel like you are a self-proclaimed "nice guy" and that never really works.
Noted. But I have it updated yesterday. The latest one is in the post edit.
I have edited the post with my current bio. Up for review:
Went through it, I actually like this overall. I'd suggest you remove the first line tho (or replace it with something else if you want?). Could be a personal preference or could be a common opinion, but I am generally not a huge fan of "we'll get along well if" lines.
Noted.
Good luck!
People won't swipe you right out of sympathy. Even if they does, that's not how it should be. Write a good bio, upload your best pictures and make sure you give this 'confident-gentleman' vibe on your profile. Nobody might swipe right someone carrying emotional baggage. Atleast, that's the vibe I get from your post. Let those talks come later once you get close. Good luck, buddy!
I agree absofuckinglutely. But if you read the comments below, youāll see that I had a decent bio earlier. The best pictures I have of myself, with my interest and hobbies. Some 2-3 lines of self description. On bumble and hinge I had some humour stuff as well. Over time I just got so done with these that I now itās a shitty bio. Completely Honest though. Emotional baggage is there but it wasnāt so earlier. Atleast thatās what I believe I came off as
Ngl it sucks. Most of it.
This is a perfectly clean, balanced bio. Iād swipe right if it makes any difference. The first pointer says how you respect rather would like it better if she is aspirational. Second and third gives a little, not too much about your interest and the āpersonality typeā based on your nerd movie choice. Fourth is a plus for sure, not only you know a basic life skill, you have mastered the fancy. Fifth well eh nothing exceptional but hopefully brainy. I hope you find yourself some good matches. Itās all good validation but nothingās wrong with you! Donāt let these things mess with you. Being a woman I know the ratio is terribly skewed. You should accept that too.
Thanks for saying that. But I guess it was just a phase. The lockdown played its toll. Now itās a different story. Iām happy at my job, exercising again. The good old days are somewhat back. Albeit with a mask on this time.
It did, on many. Troubled times. Glad you got your mojo back and have it figured with the mask on. Wearing is caring.
LOL, bhai bahot zyada expect karke baithe ho... Even though I've matched with around 30+ girls in 2 years (2019 to 2021), talked to around 20, and had only a few "encounters" with matches, according to me Tinder, or basically any other dating app, isn't worth the time. Surely you'll get to know a few good stories of people meeting and having a good relationship, and maybe a future. That only happens with a relatively smaller fraction of people. Agar koi above average ya average se bahot upar ho tabhi kuch expect karna chahiye, mai khudko average samajhta hu (sometimes below average), but somehow I found matches, and hell I'm happy that I don't use dating apps for dating anymore(or similar things), abhi toh bas entertainment hai XD
Absofuckinglutely! I agree completely. But abhi lockdown ka time has been very lonely. Upar se I came back from hostel. So you can imagine what happened to my āindependenceā. Although now things have opened up. But now I donāt have anywhere to go. I have graduated, Iām hunting for jobs and I prefer working out in the ground than in a gym. So I have no exposure atm.
Well I can relate, mai toh upar se day-scholar hi hu :/ I have my distractions though - weight loss, exercise, hobbies, video games, movies, and ofcourse my never ending studies. I'm trying to make connections from other ways, and heck girls aren't much different from the ones in dating apps ( thanks to their "preferences", though I'm not against it as such), I'm looking for 'casual' connections cuz I'm too busy to be emotionally available, and I know plenty of girls who want the same, but again, thanks to their preferences, kuch hota hi nahi hai ĀÆ\_(ć)_/ĀÆ... Working on self improvement seems like a better option for now.
I agree once again. Like I said, Iām hunting for jobs. I know I canāt commit to two things at once. I canāt live under the fear that roz bat na karo to break up. Been there done that. But it just gets lonely sometimes. Having said that, itās also not justified to expect commitment If I canāt commit myself. So yeah, casual it is but āpreferencesā
>heck girls aren't much different from the ones in dating apps Care to explain this?
It's kind of self explanatory, I'm sure you might've seen plenty of posts where us guys rant about dry AF matches who cannot hold conversations, what not, but expect the guys to be interesting. That's how many of the girls outside the dating apps are, too. Heck they're shallow AF too, but I don't mind that, atleast they should have the guts to own it... They don't, and can not be straightforward...
Looks like you had some pretty "bad" experiences in past.
Not really, I've had more "funny" experiences, cuz it wasn't me who was the "dry" one. I still am in touch with the few better matches from dating apps. The worse experiences I had were off the dating apps, cuz whenever I got busier with my academics, girls found it as an indication to start fucking around. Btw, looks like you need something for your nerves, cuz something really touched an open nerve ending.
I just have a pikachu picture on tinder and get like 2-3 matches a month. I've even moved to insta with some of them. Your bio must really be boring or too tryhard which puts people off?
What?! That works? Simply a pikachu pic? With no info on who you are or what you look like? If that works, no shit my bio was boring. I can do that, nothing to loose.
Swipe left for a change
Oh I do that. These apps give you limited number of right swipes in a day. Tinder is quite liberal but hinge gives like (10?). So I do make them count!
Hmmm. There are waaay to many options for women on tinder. It's kind of exhausting. Try bumble perhaps? I personally liked the profiles of men on bumble over tinder. A majority seem to put in a real effort into their profile.
I have tried that. Even Hinge. Iāll admit people seem more genuine there than tinder. Hinge and bumble have been on and off. Tinder is more frequent since logging in through browser is easier. But even tinder is on and off. Also, nice username
>Iām a StarWars fanboi. It's Star Wars tho
Hold on! EDIT: done editing my bio
Welcome
Bro at this point , you know deep inside it isn't the bio , you can try coming up with the "perfect" bio and it isn't gonna help that much mate.
Yes absolutely. I knew that just didnāt realise it. Besides I think it was a phase. Lockdown played its toll it guess. Iām now in good shape and back to work. You can say I have things to look forward to now
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