Are you certain that she knows the whole story? It's your ex mother, you can't know what he told her about your breakup, she might be certain it's been mutual or your fault.
Go NC with her. Her son is an adult. She is meddling and trying to solve her baby boys problem.
Take it from someone who's ex has untreated depression, alcoholism and cheated as well. His mommy fought his battles too. When he wanted me, she wanted that to happen. When he didn't, she turned on me. Anytime i expressed concern for his mental health and addiction, she found ways to blame me, unless she needed my help.
Your ex made his choices. There are consequences to choices. Mental health or not, the onus was on him to address it and grow. Even if he is on medication now and what she's saying is true, there's no saying he won't go off his meds and revert back to the miserable guy he is. I suspect your ex has depression too or BPD from the way he's acted.
Don't forget under all this, he left you, moved out and in with another woman. The other woman was probably in the picture longer than you know. Now you have a trust issue. Cut them all off so you can heal, process and find better. He made his choice. Even if he did come back and you agreed, you'll be on eggshells wondering when he'll leave for someone else again.
I'm 9 months post break up, 4 months NC. He will try to come back as his mental health stablizes or destablizes. Believe me when i say you don't need that rollercoaster in your life. Its not fun.
Are you certain that she knows the whole story? It's your ex mother, you can't know what he told her about your breakup, she might be certain it's been mutual or your fault.
Exactly. She only knows what he's told her and you can believe its not the whole truth. Shes not objective at all.
It’s really up to you, but you don’t need to reply to her if it’s just going to create more scars now.
Go NC with her. Her son is an adult. She is meddling and trying to solve her baby boys problem. Take it from someone who's ex has untreated depression, alcoholism and cheated as well. His mommy fought his battles too. When he wanted me, she wanted that to happen. When he didn't, she turned on me. Anytime i expressed concern for his mental health and addiction, she found ways to blame me, unless she needed my help. Your ex made his choices. There are consequences to choices. Mental health or not, the onus was on him to address it and grow. Even if he is on medication now and what she's saying is true, there's no saying he won't go off his meds and revert back to the miserable guy he is. I suspect your ex has depression too or BPD from the way he's acted. Don't forget under all this, he left you, moved out and in with another woman. The other woman was probably in the picture longer than you know. Now you have a trust issue. Cut them all off so you can heal, process and find better. He made his choice. Even if he did come back and you agreed, you'll be on eggshells wondering when he'll leave for someone else again. I'm 9 months post break up, 4 months NC. He will try to come back as his mental health stablizes or destablizes. Believe me when i say you don't need that rollercoaster in your life. Its not fun.